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The following podcast is a Dear Media production. Hello, hello, everyone. It is I, Bretman Rock. It is I, Justice Fester. And today we are finally doing the Bretman Rock and Justice Fester episode. I feel like we have been edging them for this episode for so long now, ever since we did the Halloween episode last year. Mm hmm. Period. Period.

Cue the intro. Bratman to Earth, Earth to Bratman. Girl, you already know who it is.

And we are back. As you guys can see, I have my dandy, dandy iPad today because I'm going to be reading some of the questions that you guys have sent us. I posted on my stories today. But before we get to that, I feel like we should do a little catch up. They haven't seen you in a while. The last time was when we did the Who Knows Me the Best video. Do you have anything to say about that video? No, it was a lot of fun. I like being on the pod with Princess and Kat.

We talked about going to the Philippines, but we have not went to the Philippines yet, right? Yeah. How was the Philippines for you? Philippines was amazing. What was your favorite thing about the Philippines? Bahol. That's how you say it. Bahol. Bahol. Bahol, girl. Bahol. Bahol. Bahol.

We went and saw the Tarshirs. The resort we stayed at, it was very much like giving like White Lotus. Shout out to Amarita. Shout out to Amarita. Was there any key takeaways from that trip for you? Just that I love Philippines. Everyone's very welcoming. Ready to go back with me soon. I can't wait.

Speaking of going back, I am filming this the day before my flight back home to the Philippines. Better than Billie Jean's. Guess that is why I get more head than a guillotine. I'm going back to Manila. If you guys don't know what I'm going for the Philippines for, I feel like I can finally say it because by the time this episode goes out, it'll probably be out already. But I am the first cover of Allure Philippines ever.

ever and not just me it is with Ms. Heart Evangelista and we shot it right the last time that we were back home in the Philippines I think it was the day that you landed is when I shot it because you were supposed to be on set that day yeah the El Nido part right yeah like we had just landed back from El Nido for

in Manila and then that's what we shot and I'm sure you guys already know that a bad bitch shot for BLK as well so I have that collab with BLK and a fabulous cover for Allure Philippines with Heart Evangelista so that's what I'm in the Philippines for but do you want to tell them about Coachella?

We've also gone to Coachella. We were home for like a week and then we went to Coachella. How was your Coachella experience ever with guests? And I'm sure you guys are so tired of hearing about Coachella, but he hasn't talked about it yet.

Coachella was very bougie. I was not expecting it. We flew privately, obviously with guests. We got there, we got picked up in like these pretty cool, like colorful shuttles. They were like limos on the inside. We got our own like house with a pool and hot tub and stuff. It was really fun. What was your favorite set that we saw at Coachella? Either Lady Gaga or Charlie XCX.

No, you were like Gaga'd out. I never thought you were a monster. Yeah, I'm going to have to say Lady Gaga, actually, because her show was just very artsy. I loved it. Like the whole opera theme. You liked when she was like dead. You were like, oh my God, babe, this is so artsy. I'm like, yeah, it's Gaga, girl. She's a true artist. Was there any bad things about Coachella? Negative things? Besides hot? Except for...

Me coughing up dirt for the next week after getting back. I know. But I mean, that's just Coachella. Is it time...

To address the elephant in the room. What's the elephant in the room? Would you like to tell them why you're wearing a hat? Because as you guys know, Mr. Justice was a silver head for Coachella. You don't gotta call me out like that, but... But we have to call... They're probably wondering, where is your silver hair? I bleached my hair for Coachella. It wasn't silver, it was blonde. Okay, girl. Yeah, and then I...

I didn't know how my work would react to it getting back. So like that night, I just got home and I took a pair of trimmers and just buzzed it. Giving Britney Spears 2007. Yeah. Or maybe five. I think it was 2005. Do you want to show them your hair? It's actually grown like very fast for it only being a week. So yeah.

He buzzed his head, you guys, because he didn't want to get in trouble from work. It's giving a very military buzz cut. But then I went to work on a Tuesday and everyone was like, where'd your hair go? Why'd you cut it off? I know. Why did you cut it off? Because you guys, I told him to just FaceTime me and we can just color it together on FaceTime. Yes, I fell asleep, but I was like...

Girl, just get a dark brown Revlon, like a cheap one. You don't really have long hair anyway, so it doesn't matter if it's box dye, but...

You just didn't want to dye it back to black? Well, after you fell asleep, I was like, you know what? It'd probably just be faster if I buzz it off, opposed to dyeing it. You have to dye it for like 40 minutes or an hour or something like that. And then if the color sticks, you have to redo it. That's true. I feel like... What do you mean, if the color sticks? It's going to stick, especially if it's dark. Well, it was already like 11 o'clock at night, and then I had work the next morning. So I was like, I'm

I'm just gonna buzz it. That's fair. Before we answer all of your questions, I feel like the burning question that we always get asked is how did we meet? And we actually met twice. So I'll let you guys, I'll let Justice tell the story of how we first met and then I'll tell the story of how we second met. And that's when we started dating.

We first met in Scarlet six years ago, which is a gay club here. Probably the best and the only gay club in Hawaii, honestly. Well, there's... Yeah.

They just opened up another one. Oh, they did? Yeah, I don't know if that's good or not. I haven't been to a club since I literally turned legal. Or like at least back in Scarlet. I turned 21 and I stopped going. Yeah, it's been at least like six months a year for me. Because I just go for like celebrations of like birthdays or something. But anyways, we met at Scarlet's. Miss K was actually the first person that came up and talked to me. I guess they didn't know. Oh, well like...

Brett and Miss K and then he had a couple of friends like Justice I have a friend Justice as well yeah they didn't know they thought I was cute they didn't know whether I was gay or not Miss K came up to me at the bar and she asked me if I was gay

And I was like, yeah, I am. I mean, we're at a gay bar. You're like, no, but you were with like two girls and a boy. And you guys literally look like just two straight couples. Yeah, I was with like a group of friends. And it was like one of the girls' birthdays in the group. Anyways, I told Miss K I was gay. Miss K like waved Brett over basically. And then we just started talking. And then I think he got a drink and we like shared it.

I don't know why we just never got like two drinks. It was like an AMF or something like that. It was. And we just started, we just, we shared it. We were, got deep in conversation, I guess. And then after Scarlet closed, we went to like Zippy's at like 2 a.m. I was kind of, well, we got super drunk and then I was kind of like embarrassed because I was with like a group of like 10 people and I was close with like maybe like 2

two of them. The rest of them, I didn't know. I think I got super quiet when we all went out to Zippy's and I got kind of awkward because it was just like a big group. And we were all like drunk and like the lights were on and I think we were all just like, girl. Yeah. We were just trying to get our zip pack and go. That part was a blur for me, honestly. But yeah, we ended up nothing happening. We didn't even exchange numbers. Didn't get any pictures together that night. Then I...

Remember messaging him. I think it was the next morning after that had happened. And when I woke up or whatever, I messaged him and asked him on a date and he never replied. Nope.

And the reason why we, well, you saw it differently than I did, but everything is basically true from all the way down to Zippy's, especially on your point of view and my point of view, that all happened. But what had happened when we were at Zippy's and why we initially never got each other's number is because one of my girlfriends came up to me and was like,

Brett, I think he's talking to like one of my friends. And I was just like, not that girl. I'm not that girl to be in anybody's roster, girl. So I cut it. I really was just like, okay, he don't... I kind of just like lost interest, honestly, because I was just like, well, I didn't know he was talking to someone else. So I'm not going to be like putting myself in there. So I think that's why it resulted to us not...

getting each other's number. But six years later, six years go by and Kat, it makes me watch this show. I forgot what it was, but it's like when they're all living in their bunkers. Let me Google it. Oh, by the way, I was not talking to anyone at that time. I would have not talked to...

To Bretman or... Well, would you like to tell them who the guy was? Tell them who? The guy that was talking to you. Oh, yeah. The guy that made that up or whatever. He was like a pathological liar. He was known... He's known for like lying to people about just random things. Stupid things that shouldn't be lied about. Yeah. So the guy that he was supposedly talking to, I also knew this guy. I wouldn't say he was a friend. He was more of like a...

friend of a friend. And I've met him and he lied about so many things as well to me. So that's how I knew that when he told me that he was lying about it, I was like, oh, I didn't doubt it because this guy's the type that would lie about his parents dying, where he lives. He said he lives in Fiji. I'm like, you know, you don't.

He talks about like just so many, he hypes him. Like, you know, those people that just lie about everything for fun and don't get me wrong. I do be lying for fun too, but like there's just people out there that just be lying out of their ass. And he was one of them. So basically he was interested in me, but I was not interested in him. And I kind of like denied him so I could, so maybe his way of trying to get back at me was like trying to ruin something between like me and bread. I don't know.

But we always thank him because I really don't think those people should have dated. Yeah, no. We were two whole different people back then. We were not as mature as we are now. We obviously had like life experiences that we needed to go through for us to be able to have like the relationship we have now. So, honestly, I'm kind of grateful for that. Honestly. Yeah.

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So, going back to what I was saying, we met six years later, and this was last year in May, which honestly, I did the math, and when this episode goes out, it'll be probably around our one year on our first date. We ate. But anyways...

Going back. So Kat made me watch this show called Fallout and the ending of it was so intense that I had to pause the show. Girl, I have not told this story in so long that I literally forgot about everything. But basically I go on TikTok and I see, I'm scrolling on TikTok and I see a picture of him and a dog. And it was him in like a golden Labrador, I think.

Right? Yes. Yeah, it's a golden lab. Oh, golden retriever. Yes, it's a golden retriever. And he's taking a picture and he's just smiling in the picture. There was nothing really going on in the picture. It was one of those trends that was like, here are my red flags or green flags or whatever. And then the next slide was him on a boat still smiling. And right away, I was like,

Who is this man? Like, and it was bothering me. You know when it bothers you because like you can't remember who someone is. Like, you know, you know them from somewhere, but you can't remember where it was. I'm literally staring at these pictures for like 10 minutes now. And then I finally decided to go on his page on TikTok. He's so cute. He's so cute. And I literally was like,

Not only was I already bothered that I couldn't remember who he was. I was also bothered because I'm like, he's so cutesy. So I need to talk to him, obviously. But he is private on Instagram at the time. And because his Instagram is connected to his TikTok, I click on his Instagram. It's private. And I'm like, girl, do I risk it all for this man? I literally do not slide in anyone's DM ever. And I was just like,

It can't hurt to just be like, hey, what's up? But also I needed to know who he was. So I literally was going to DM him. Do I know you from somewhere? That is literally what I was going to DM him.

But as I pressed DM message, there was a six-year-old message waiting for me. And I'm not going to read you what it says because that's in between us. But it was just like him apologizing, being like, oh my God, I'm so sorry about last night. I would like to take you out on a proper date. That was basically the synopsis of it. And I reply and I'm like, is that date still on the table? What is...

I'm not doing anything. I remember waking up at like 6 a.m. or 7 a.m. for work and I saw the DM and I replied the same exact day that he messaged me. And we went on a date the same day too. Yeah, you were like, oh, I'm free on weekdays. Oh no, weekdays from this time to this time. And I'm also free weekends. And I'm like, are you free tonight? Like, what the fuck? So we went on a date that very night.

That very, very, very night. Should we tell them where we went on a date? Well, we went to Roy's in town. Roy's Waikiki. Which was your choice. Honestly, it's such a great restaurant. We have one on my side of the island too. And the whole time I was driving there, I'm like, why the hell did I tell him I would drive to him? But I remember being so nervous that day. I literally was picking out over like...

four different black tank tops that look the same but going back to the date I remember just like seeing you and I was like there was already like a sense of familiarity there that like we were just so comfortable ever since like our first date honestly would you say that I would say I was very what

I feel like when I had saw you, it's like I, I mean, a lot had changed in between that time, but also at the same time, nothing, like it was very. Familiar. Familiar. Yeah, I really feel like we left off, we really picked up from where we left off, even though where we left off was literally at Zippy's, drunk as fuck. What was your first impression of me, like?

I thought that you were even more beautiful the first time I met you. And I was kind of intimidated because obviously you're like Bretman Rock and stuff. And I didn't think that I was, I like, I was also overthinking what I was going to wear to the date and stuff. And I probably spent like a good like 30, 40 minutes trying to figure out what I was going to wear.

Just overthinking it. Oh my gosh. Same. I probably acted like cool. Like, oh my God, this? I just got to sit in the back of my closet, girl. Like, it was not that much. But yeah, that was...

Like really, we just went on a date. It felt like everything was cute. And we went on another date like two days later. I took you to a... Are you talking about the farmer's? Yeah, the farmer's market. I took you to the farmer's market. It was like a food market thing. It rained on us. And then we ended up like driving to my childhood beach that I used to go to all the time. And we just sat on the beach and talked. And we talked. And then... I think you told me about like...

A lot of trauma. We did a lot of trauma dumping for sure. And then I had to leave for Miami, I remember. No, no, no, no. We went on another date before Miami. We went to the beach. I remember because we were going to date. On our first date that we planned was supposed to be at the beach on May 4th. But I literally was like, girl, let's go on a date today. And that was May 1st.

And we went on three dates before I had to leave for Miami. The beach date was really fun. We did the rock painting and that's when I posted that video on

For the first time on TikTok. It was like, okay, I don't really feel like launching or soft launching or hard launching anything. I was just like, let me just drop this video. Did we post it on your... Yeah, on mine. On my TikTok. That was honestly probably the cutest date experience I've ever had. We painted rocks and drank wine and listened to Frank Ocean. And was it just Frank or was it Lana too? No, it was all Frank. It was just all Frank. And then...

a couple of days after that is when I realized we're both really big Frank Ocean fans for sure that was it right and then we went to bed and then I had to go leave for Miami a couple days after that and then I got back home and that's when you asked me to be your boyfriend

I got him a blue bouquet of flowers and it said it had inside of it, will you be my boyfriend? Period. And obviously I was going to say yes because you also picked up my dog Lily and picked me up with her. And I was like, oh my God, this is so cute. And obviously you and Kat were talking and stuff like that. That's how he got Lily. He didn't just come to my house and got Lily. Yeah.

Also, how many weeks after did you, did we start talking and then until you asked me out? I feel like it was like two weeks. It was in between like three to four weeks now. It was almost a month. I thought it was a month, but it didn't go. No, our first date was the first, right? Okay. You asked me out on the 22nd. That's like three weeks. I said three to four weeks. Oh, okay. Period. No, I'm just doing the math. Like, bitch, I don't know why you're trying to extend it to four weeks. It was three weeks.

Whatever. It doesn't matter. Period. Okay. Should we answer some of these questions? So that's how we met. And that's how we started dating as well. Okay. What are your signs? Like my astrology? Yeah. I am a Cancer Sun, Libra Rising, and a Leo Moon. Period. And y'all don't need to know my shit, but I'm a Leo, Scorpio.

and Aquarius. I'm all the fixed signs. That's sun, moon, and rising.

What irritates each other the most? Like if you needed to irritate me, what would you do? And what would I do if I irritated you? Because I know what I would do to irritate you. Oh, I know what you would do to irritate me also. I don't know. I've never thought about trying to irritate you. You really don't irritate me. I try to not irritate you as much as I possibly can. You really just be saying things sometimes that I'm just like, girl. Sometimes I'm really like, girl. But that's low-key kind of funny.

Yeah, no, he just be saying things like, I'm like, sis, what? And he, I don't know. And I joke about him like just being a straight man sometimes, but he really be doing and saying the straightest shit. Sometimes I'm just like, oh my God, you're so fucking irritating. Like, for example, and guests, please do not take this seriously. But we were talking about guest genes, right?

And he, and it was me, Miss K, and Brian. We were talking about guests. And he goes, what is guest jeans known for? And I'm like, girl, I swear if you asked that, like in the middle of like the guest dinner, I would be so irritated. But I literally go, it's in the title, girl. And he was like, guess? Jeans, bitch. I didn't know it was guest jeans at first. I just knew, guess. Okay, that's valid. But girl, I literally was like,

Oh my gosh. Something I could easily do probably irritate him is, I don't know, like put Belk in something?

Girl, that would actually... No, he do be liking to eat. And sometimes I think you do it on purpose. Or not even you. Just like everybody in my life in general would just eat something with dairy in front of me knowing I can't eat it. Or you'll get something at restaurants knowing I can't eat it. You, however, I feel like if I wanted to annoy you, I would just chew really loud. Yep. Yep. That's true.

That's an ache for me. I would just chew really loud or like tap something really loud. I hate like ASMR stuff. He's not really like. When people like chew with their mouths open, like they like smack. I don't know. It's like it's like taking chalk and like just like scribbling on. He's not the best fan of ASMR. Let's just say that.

Yeah, like chewing loud around you is like annoying to you. I don't really fucking care because I'm like, girl, I'm a loud chewer. Who said I love you first? Him.

Yeah, I feel like, yeah, I literally said I love you the day he asked me to be his boyfriend. I'm like, God love you. That's my man. But you kissed me first. Why are you so quiet, Justice? They want to know why are you so quiet? I guess I'm just very conscious. I don't know. I just think about other people and I don't like being like annoying or coming off the wrong way. So I just kind of like, I'm more of like an observer.

She's very just much that. So on the Halloween episode, I remember seeing a comment being like, I can tell he's not really into Bretman because he's not really talking much. I can tell. Or he's so quiet. I can tell. Just because I don't talk much on a podcast to like the world doesn't mean I don't talk a lot to him. I probably talk most to him, more to him than I do to like anybody else. That's just how I am. I'm very like selective.

If I get comfortable with the person, then I can open up and I will talk more. But when it comes to strangers, I'm just...

I'm very weary, I guess. Yeah, you guys have to understand. He just is getting used to this. This is his third podcast episode ever. If anything, you're doing better than you did on our first one, honestly. Because I remember we would do like even practice podcasts just because you were so nervous about it. Yeah. Yeah.

I thought of one thing I could do to irritate him. It's probably something I'm doing right now. I tend to like, I have really bad posture sometimes. And I like duck and make myself smaller than I actually am. He's like this. So right now I'm kind of having bad posture and not sitting up straight. Girl, you can do that. Okay. Yes, his bad posture really do be fucking annoying me. Because I'm like, girl, why are you walking around like a gorilla? Like...

Because he's like this. I just have big shoulders. I can't help that. Yeah, they're huge. They're so huge. Are you guys living together or still want personal space and time?

I have my own place. I live in a two bedroom, two bath all by myself. He lives in town. I live in the mountains. We literally quite literally live on the opposite sides of the island. It could not be even more opposite. It's like over an hour. It's like an hour and a half, an hour. Yeah, but he does stay over every weekend. And sometimes if he gets off early or if he has days off, like let's just say he spends days off with me.

Yeah, we spent a lot of days off together. But recently you've been having a lot of more personal time because your family's in town. Yeah. How has that been? Your grandma's been in town. It's been good. It's been nice. It's always nice. My grandma hasn't been out. Well, my grandma has been out here for the past week for just the first time she came in like two years. Very nice. She's so sweet. I love it. They also came over for Easter. I hope.

Your grandma had fun, even though I know her ears were ringing by the end of the night because how loud my family is. She loves seeing you with your cousins and all your nieces. Really? Yeah, she was talking to me about it. No, she... She loves how family-oriented you are. Girl, you know how I be. I'm just glad you guys could make it, honestly. And I could show her my house. Period. Oh, also...

I feel like I'm a little traumatized, not just from my past relationship, but just growing up in a household with 25 people really did numbers on me that I truly was like, at eight years old, I was praying on my knees, like, Lord, please let me live by myself. When I turn 20, I'm going to live by myself. I've always prayed to live by myself. So I...

I think it'll be a minute until we even like consider living together, honestly. And that's just because I love my space. And if there's anything about me and I love you, obviously, but I love to miss justice. I feel like it's always you need to miss your partner. Like, I don't know. I agree. We've already talked about it. We we don't plan on moving in with each other until after marriage.

Yeah. Not... Yeah, and we're not in a rush. Like, we have a... We're not in a rush. We have our whole life ahead. And we've made promises to ourselves that, like, our careers and ourselves will always come first. And if I... If, you know, if my relationship affects my career, like, I'm definitely gonna be like, girl, we need to talk about this. But... And I want to be respectful of...

Obviously, I live in a condo, like a two bed, two bath. He lives in a big house with lots of land and animals and stuff. All of this is his. I want to be respectful to that. Yeah, and honestly, we're just really not in a rush. He loves his space. I love my space. I love when we come together. I love when...

He's over. And it works for us. So, period. What attracted you to me and vice versa? How funny you are, obviously. I love how you're, like, authentic. You're probably one of the... Well, you're definitely the most authentic person I've ever met. Those are probably the two things that caught... And you're beautiful. You're...

You're very androgynous. Period. My favorite thing about Papa is probably how he's so grounding. And I think, obviously, just like your energy and your aura is very like calm. I'm not that. I'm nothing of the sort. And it's just like...

It's just so funny to me that like someone that is so calm and like just not, you do be having energy sometimes, but I don't want to say not energetic. I feel like when I do have energy, I annoy him. Because you want to do the most. But someone who's just like so calm, who's like,

With me who's very not. And I'm just like wow. Opposites really do attract. But honestly that's what attracts me to you the most. Other than like physical attraction obviously. Because like yeah. But I think it would be probably your calmness. That I'm most drawn to. Just especially like at Coachella too. For example like it was a lot for me. And I'm sure it was a lot for you too. But I think just because you're so calm. And like you're not freaking out. It causes me not to freak out.

So I love that. Yeah, I would say that. Would you guys want kids in the future? Yes, but he wants separate kids, I think. Tell them why. Tell them why, girl. Well, he obviously, his sister has enough kids for him and her. That is not why, girl. You know the reason why.

So Justice was like, I want girls. I want three girls. And I was like, oh, that's so cute. Like, what are you going to name them? Three girls? When did I say three girls? You said you wanted girls. No, I did not. Okay, well, maybe I said that. So basically we were talking about kids and he was like, I want kids. And I was like, what are you going to name them? That's what it was. I don't think you said a number, actually. You just said what you wanted to name them. And I was like, girl, those are your kids.

Because he wanted to name them Clementine, Mandarin, Oranges. He wanted to name them after grapefruits because he loves the color orange. None of this was serious. None of this was serious. He was so dead ass. I want a kid with a unique name.

And he wants a Clementine and a tangerine. I'm like, girl, I know you love orange. Clementine is actually kind of cute. Clementine is a cute name, but it is not being named Clementine, girl. No. So that's why I joke around with him being like, girl, you can have your own kids at that point because I'm not carrying no fucking kids. Talk about, hey, this is Mandarin. Girl, Mandarin what?

So yeah, no, but yes, of course we want kids. Do I want them right now? Honestly, no. Because my sister has so many fucking kids. Like, I'm sure you have seen my Easter post with all those kids. My cousins multiply. My sisters multiply. My family multiplies, period. And I already have... I feel like I have such an obsessive personality that I feel like if I had one kid, I'm gonna keep wanting kids. Just like how my family is. So...

In my head, I have at least 10 years. I don't have like a biological time clock like women do, so I can have a kid whenever. Yeah, thankfully. But I feel like if we were a hetero couple, we would have one by now. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Girl, very much for sure. I feel like we would make such cute kids. We would make cute babies. What is your favorite pastimes or what are your favorite things to do with me? I like when we meditate together.

I like working out on my own, so I wouldn't say working out together. We've never worked out together. We've worked out around each other, for sure, but not together. I like when we, like...

Like some, well, rarely. I'll like help Brett like garden at his house. You like helping around. Yeah, I like helping out. When I let him. Because he knows that more. I rather do shit by myself. Yeah. Because another thing that annoys me with Justice, girl, I love that he's calm, but he a little too calm sometimes. When I'm like, can you, when I, when he helps me,

And he takes his time. Oh my God. Yeah, it's not my time. It's Brevin's time. I'm just here. No, you take your time, girl. I saw one TikTok one time where it was like, God couldn't reach me, so he sent me the slowest moving man on earth. And that has to be justice.

I could not have relate to TikTok more. I was like, girl. And it was his man like checking out like at the store. And that's literally just this moving or getting ready anywhere. And I remembered Coachella. He got mad, not mad at me, but he thought I was serious when I said, why do you just irritate me? And it's just because like... But at that time, I was purposely trying to irritate him.

By the way, he'd be eating slow with his ass out. I was like eating like a little kid. I was like leaning over because I think I dropped a piece of food and it almost got on. Like I was wearing like white or something and it almost got on me. So then I was literally like hunched over eating and staring at Brandon Voss eating. And I'm like, why do you just irritate me? Also, I also learned this very early on to not watch Justice Get Ready because it just

And I know a lot of girly pops can relate to this, but watching your man get ready for anything is so fucking irritating because I'm just like, why do you move so slow? Why do you do things out of order? Like, ugh. Sorry. I don't see the rush, personally. What was even the question that we...

Oh, our favorite pastimes. But my favorite pastimes with Justice, I don't even know why I started talking about Coachella again. But my favorite pastime with Justice would probably have to be when we don't do anything.

I agree. I like rainy days. I love a rainy day. Or just like when you were both off and we both have an off day, like you guys would think that we're like out, like running errands and like doing things. But like my favorite pastime with Justice is literally when we're in the attic and we just have like YouTube playing and we're just talking and we're

watching the day like throwing away a day like it's probably my favorite thing to do with justice which is when when we first started dating we used to like play a lot of like card games and stuff with like deep like philosophical questions those are also really fun too yeah and we would just literally spend all day talking about just life so i like that yeah i just love talking to you doing nothing

I love long drives. You know, y'all get the vibes. Justice, have you ever dated any girls? Yes. I've dated probably like five plus girls. That's crazy. Well, I dated a girl, so I'm not that. But the most recent girl that I've dated, she actually just had another baby or another kid. She has two kids now. She named it her favorite boyfriend ever, which is Justice. Imagine.

We're like best friends now. I like went to her wedding. I've been, oh, well, she's like FaceTime me after having both of her kids that she has now. Yeah. This is a fun one. If Bretman was a flavor, what would he taste like? Skittles. Skittles is crazy. I mean, taste the rainbow, girl. I feel like you would taste like steak, probably like a surf and turf.

I fuck with that. That sounds tasty. Well, that's not really a flavor though. Let me think. Let me think. I don't know. You really have like a fresh man scent. I love the way you smell. I wouldn't really call it a flavor though. I feel like a must. Ew.

Don't smell first of all don't even get it twisted. I like the way you smell period and that doesn't mean you smell bad girl Brett likes he always smells like very poorly like flowers and stuff. Yeah, so

Like lavender. I feel like I would smell like lavender. My flavor would be lavender. I feel like yours would be like... I feel like, you know that, you know the Scooby-Doo snack gummy bears? You're the blue one. You're like the light blue one that I always go for. I feel like every time I open the Scooby-Doo snacks, I always go for that blue one. You guys know what I'm talking about because it's the best flavor in there.

It's that one. That's how that I feel like that would be your flavor. What part of your lives have changed the most since meeting? I guess I get I get more recognized now. Obviously, when I'm like me and Brett go out together, it's it's not like an average person going out anymore. Like we always have to arrive early because we got to take time for like pictures and stuff.

What was the weirdest or funny recognized story that you remember? About myself or about you? Yeah, like, no, like since we started dating, like when was like the weirdest time somebody recognized you? Where you were like, oh my God, you know me. Well, my grandma just got here. She's been here for a week. The first day she was here, I went to like Island Brew over in like Hawaii Kai. And there were two girls that came up to me with my grandma here. And they were like, hi, are you Justice? And I was like, oh yeah.

Oh, yeah, I'm just as high. And they were like, oh, yeah, we know you on mine. Like, can you tell Brevin we said hi? And they asked me for a picture and stuff. I don't know. I'm just not used to that. It just caught me off guard. And my grandma looks at me. She's like, oh, my goodness, my grandson's a celebrity. Period. Period.

I feel like for me, obviously, like, having a boyfriend itself changes your life. Because I'm, like, less lonely now. I have a plus one. And, like, I guess, like, not to sound so deep, but, like, I am less lonely now. Like, I just have someone, like, to laugh with. Someone to send memes with. Like, someone that is, like... You're not always available because, obviously, there's work. And we have to respect that. But, like, when you are...

able to like you're always there for me obviously and like I don't know not much really changed besides the fact that like I really just have a companion someone that is my boyfriend okay we're gonna answer a couple more questions but I feel like it's only fair if justice picks them

Did you guys do the meet the parents thingy? Meet the parents thingy. Yeah. Or just, I guess, like, the meeting the parents. Have you met the parents? Oh, I've met... I met Brett's mom, but he hasn't met mine yet. Only FaceTime. Yeah, he's met my grandma now. I met everyone else in his family. The second date.

Literally. Oh, no, that was like the second week. Sorry. He was over and I was hungry. I don't cook, obviously. And my brother was like, oh, we're we have a lot of food because we're catering down the road. If you want to come pick up food, like come. And he was over and I'm like, what?

Just as I'm really hungry and I really want Filipino food at the time I really was genuinely like wanting Filipino food I wasn't like forcing my family into him I was like just as he can you come drop me off at my brother's house to pick up the food You don't gotta come down, but you ended up like wanting to come down that day, but you were like all coffeed out I remember that day cuz you were like I had like three cups of coffee and

No food. No, we did. You did get food. We had Island Vintage. We went to Island Vintage before we went to my brother's. And two of the cups of coffee were two shots of espresso. So he had like about six shots of espresso before meeting my brother. And then by the time we were headed home, he was like, did I say anything stupid? He's meeting my mom and my stepdad and my brother next month. We're going to a wedding back in Illinois. So, yeah.

How do you guys keep your relationship healthy? We talk a lot. Yeah, we honestly just take time to ourselves. We take a lot of time to ourselves. We talk a lot. But damn it. That Coachella dirt is still in your system. We just talk a lot, but also spend time without each other a lot.

Not a lot. I mean, like, a healthy amount where, like, we still miss each other. Even after a year, I can still say I miss you. Even just after a day of not seeing you. Like, sometimes you'd be headed to work and I'm like, damn, I already miss him. Like, you know? So I think it's really healthy that we still find time to, like, miss each other. But also talk to each other every day. Like, you know?

And we set our boundaries really early on in our relationship. And I think that's why we don't like, not to like knock on wood maybe, but like we don't really be fighting like that. No. We get irritated if anything. And it's just like, and when we do get irritated, it's more like, okay, I'll see you in 10 minutes. Or like, I'll see you tomorrow. Yeah. Or I'll just get irritated to myself and then, you know,

I'll miss you. But yeah, I think it's because we just have really, I went in the relationship, like already like setting boundaries, like before we were even like together, together. And he obviously has his own boundaries, but also just like respecting each other's boundary. I think because I feel like if we did argue, it was like probably like me having to, I feeling like I had to explain my boundaries to you because you didn't understand them and vice versa. Yeah.

But I think that's what we did. Like, we really just set boundaries really early on and we respect them. We spend time apart. We spend, we talk every day. I think that's something that really helped in our relationship is we set boundaries like super early. We were like, but, and because we're two different people, obviously. So it was very new to us working with each other, I guess, because we had differences, but yeah.

I think our differences after we set boundaries started like complimenting each other a little bit. For sure. I think also this was never really a boundary for me, but it's just something that you just got, which is like what I do for a living. Like he, I never felt like I had to explain Bretman Rock to him or just like, like,

I don't know, you're just not insecure like that. To a point where I have to be like, hey, I'm going to a concert today. Don't be jealous. People are going to recognize me. Not recognize me, but people are going to talk to me and stuff like that. And you don't really care. Because I think you know that I'm not a thot. Yeah, I trust you. I trust you too. Obviously, I feel like also...

With the trust thing, like we have eyes everywhere. Like, I don't even know if you know this, but like Miss K's friend worked at the boat that you and your grandma was on the other day and texted the both of us. I mean, so it's not just with you, but like with me too, where like everything I do can be or will be posted online. So it's like, it's not like I can like go out and like meet guys and not have that like posted.

Or something. I don't know. We don't really... We're not really insecure like that. Because we know we got each other, girl. Maybe two more questions. Girl, what are you laughing at? People are stupid. Somebody said, how big is it? Well, how big is it? There's a lot of good questions in here. Fuck. Who is the most romantic out of the two? Me. That's crazy. Me. Okay, girl. I'll let you take that. What? What?

I feel like we're both equally romantic. Okay. But you'd be doing more romantic shit for sure. So that's what I'm saying. Like, you could take that. How do you feel about all my animals and my dogs and all my chickens? I love all your dogs. I love all your animals. Is your favorite dog that I have? I don't want to pick favorites. They're not going to watch this. They're all my kids. My stepkids.

Your stepkids. Who was your first dog that you were like period you ate that I feel like it was LA Yeah, it was definitely LA I think it's just cuz I have like I'm like a softie for LA because she's the oldest and she's just so sweet and She never like really does anything wrong. She And she's also my favorite type of dog Pitbull. I've always had a thing for Pitbulls

Last question is, what have we both learned from our relationship dating each other? That patience is key. Why was I going to say that?

You're crazy. Well, at least for me, you need a lot of patient with me. But I think for me, I learned that he is so patient with me that I have to be patient with him as well because sometimes I'm not. Let's do product of the day. My product of the day is the Dr. Althea Vitamin C Boosting Serum. I used this for the first time last year when it was viral on TikTok. And recently they just had sent this to me online.

Again, I don't even know how they got my Aja Suri Aja Suri, but I was like, oh my God, I forgot how much I love that. And I tried it again. They also have a green one, which I just finished. And now I'm, the green one is just like the more sensitive skin one. And this one is like vitamin C and it's good for every skin type. And I just love it. It's vitamin C. I feel like you've also been in your vitamin C era. You should try this. They sent me a product. They did? Yeah.

Period. They're really good. Do you have any product of the week? I don't have it on me right now, but Spark. It's like a Advocare. It's like kind of like vitamins, caffeine for the day. My grandma like is a huge advocate for Spark. So she brought like a bunch of Spark on her trip and I've been using it since.

You love it? Yeah. Yeah. Period. You both love coffee. I remember we went to the farmer's market and by the time you guys both finished your first coffee, you guys were already thinking about the second one. And I'm like, damn, bitch. Yeah. We have that in common. Caffeine addiction. Yeah. Where can they find you, Papa? Instagram. Justice is King.

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