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#739 - Dr Robert Glover - The Lifetime Problem With Being A “Nice Guy”

2024/2/1
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Robert Glover: 本书探讨了"好好先生"综合征的成因、特征以及克服方法。作者认为,"好好先生"试图成为他人期望的样子,隐藏真实的自我,这导致他们不真实、不值得信任、沮丧、怨恨和被动攻击。他们讨好他人、寻求外部认可,未能充分发挥潜力,并抱有一种根深蒂固的"我是个好人"的信念。克服方法包括:寻求支持(例如教练、治疗师或男性群体),诚实地面对自己,优先考虑自己的需求,建立界限,并与男性建立联系。 Chris Willx: 访谈探讨了"好好先生"综合征的根源,以及男性如何理解女性的吸引力机制。访谈中指出,男性试图取悦女性是许多"好好先生"行为的核心原因,这源于他们与女性的早期互动经验。此外,隐性契约、羞耻感和焦虑是"好好先生"综合征的核心基础,他们通过各种行为来管理这些情绪。女性通常需要情绪张力来体验吸引力,而男性通常不喜欢情绪张力。克服"好好先生"综合征需要男性摆脱自身的束缚,诚实地表达自我,并优先考虑自己的需求。

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Dr Robert Glover is a therapist, coach and an author.

Being nice is something many of us aspire to become. After all, who doesn't want to be nice? Well Nice Guy Syndrome has been ruining the lives of many men for decades, so perhaps we should aspire to be something else.

Expect to learn what is actually wrong with being a nice guy, why men become so afraid of putting their needs first, how to stop people pleasing, why nice guys end up resentful and bitter, whether nice guys attract or repel women and much more...

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