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#838 - Dr Paul Eastwick - What Do People Really Want In A Partner?

2024/9/14
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Chris Willx:本期节目探讨了人们实际想要伴侣的特征与他们声称想要的特征之间的差异,以及大数据能否改善约会软件的匹配效果。研究发现,人们对伴侣的实际偏好与他们公开表达的偏好之间存在差异,例如,人们实际更看重性吸引力、忠诚度和体贴等特质,而这些特质在公开表达的偏好中排名较低。此外,研究还发现,男女在伴侣偏好方面存在一些差异,但这些差异主要体现在公开表达的偏好上,而非实际偏好上。 Paul Eastwick:研究表明,人们能够识别哪些特质是理想伴侣的理想特质,但对于自己独特偏好的洞察力则参差不齐。研究区分了人们声称想要的伴侣特质(stated preferences)和实际被吸引的特质(revealed preferences)。stated preference 指的是人们对理想伴侣特质的直接评价,revealed preference 指的是伴侣特质与个人评价之间的关联性。研究通过分析10000人的调查数据,比较了他们对伴侣特质的陈述偏好和实际偏好,发现人们对某些特质(如“好的性伴侣”、“闻起来很好”)的实际偏好远高于陈述偏好,而对另一些特质(如“情绪稳定”、“有耐心”)的实际偏好则低于陈述偏好。在对吸引力相关特质的评价中,男女的差异主要体现在陈述偏好上,而非实际偏好上。在对经济相关特质的评价中,男女的差异也主要体现在陈述偏好上,而非实际偏好上。研究还探讨了理想伴侣偏好匹配(Ideal Partner Preference-Matching),即人们对伴侣特质的陈述偏好与其实际选择之间的匹配程度,发现理想伴侣偏好匹配对人们对伴侣的积极评价有一定影响,但影响程度有限。当人们关注单一特质时,理想伴侣偏好匹配的影响较小。研究结果表明,人们对伴侣的实际偏好可能受到自身偏见、社会刻板印象等因素的影响。

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This chapter explores the differences between stated and revealed romantic preferences. Stated preferences are what people say they want in a partner, while revealed preferences reflect what attributes actually predict liking in potential partners. The discussion delves into how these preferences are measured and the importance of distinguishing between them.
  • Stated preferences are often measured through surveys and rating scales.
  • Revealed preferences are determined by analyzing how specific attributes predict liking in potential partners.
  • Understanding the difference between these two types of preferences is crucial for accurate relationship research.

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Dr Paul Eastwick is a psychologist, professor, and a researcher.

What do people actually want in a partner compared to what they say they want? Paul is the lead author on largest study of its kind which was just released breaking down exactly this question.

Expect to learn the #1 trait people actually look for in a partner, how well people know what they want, what Ideal Partner Preference-Matching is, the biases that affect mate evaluation, the sex differences in stated vs. revealed preferences, whether big data could improve dating app matching and much more…

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