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#947 - Scott Barry Kaufman - How To Not Let Your Past Define You

2025/5/29
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Scott Barry Kaufman: 我认为我们不应该成为过去的囚徒，沉溺于过去无法改变既定事实。重要的是帮助人们实际地前进。如果只从创伤的角度看待一个人，可能会忽略他其他的潜能和未来。我希望人们明白，我带着关怀而来，而不是诊断，并且信任他们拥有更高的潜力。 Chris Willx: 我在心理治疗中体验到，它就像探索自己房子的新房间，但会留下很多未完成的事情，并且可能会让人更容易成为受害者。我有时会觉得我的过去在未来操纵我，但我意识到，我没有坏掉，这不是个人的诅咒，这是作为一个敏感的人的内在组成部分。

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This chapter explores the challenges of overcoming past traumas and the limitations of certain therapeutic approaches. It emphasizes the importance of focusing on the future and not being defined by past experiences. The discussion touches on the role of psychotherapy and coaching in this process.
  • The importance of letting go of the hope for a better past.
  • Criticisms of trauma-informed therapy that focuses solely on the past.
  • The benefits of future-oriented coaching.

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Scott Barry Kaufman is a Psychologist at Columbia University, a writer and podcaster.

Why is victim culture so common in the West? Everyone’s been hurt, so it’s easy to claim victimhood, so why has it become a core identity and how do we honour pain without being defined by it?

Expect to learn where a victimhood mentality comes from, what predicts whether someone is likely to fall into the victimhood trap or mindset and if modern culture is contributing or incentivising victimhood, the most harmful myths around identity and trauma, how you cultivate psychological flexibility in moments of deep emotional pain, the big difference between authenticity and self-esteem, and much more…

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