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#961 - Mark Manson - 19 Raw Lessons To Not Mess Up Your Life

2025/6/30
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Mark Manson: 我认为人们需要减少心理治疗的需求,如果他们能容忍更少的混蛋。我经常收到人们的邮件,他们的问题归根结底是生活中有人是个混蛋。然而,他们却试图改变、操纵或控制这些混蛋的行为,这注定是徒劳的。人们需要培养决定生活中什么是可接受的,什么是不可以接受的技能。很多人之所以会陷入困境,是因为他们对人际关系抱有稀缺心态,他们认为如果停止与一半的朋友交往,就再也不会有朋友了。但事实是,当有人退出你的生活时,通常会有人出现来填补那个角色。此外,很多人没有勇气为自己挺身而出,或者对周围的人产生了某种依赖性的情感依恋,以至于无法想象没有他们的生活。总之,大部分生活问题实际上都非常简单和基本,但简单的事情,却承载着太多的情感依恋和神经质,这使得人们难以看清问题的本质。

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Mark Manson discusses the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and how tolerating negative behavior can lead to needing therapy. He emphasizes the abundance of people in the world and encourages developing the skill set of deciding what is acceptable and unacceptable in one's life.
  • People often try to change negative behavior in others instead of distancing themselves.
  • A scarcity mindset around relationships can prevent people from setting boundaries.
  • Setting boundaries requires courage and a healthy sense of self-worth.

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Mark Manson is a writer, entrepreneur, and a New York Times best-selling author.

Mark is one of my favorite thinkers. His blog, books, and X account are packed with timeless lessons I come back to again and again. Today, we get to go through some of his best lessons on life, love, and everything that makes us human.

Expect to learn how to actually stand up for yourself, what the real process of personal growth looks like, what it takes to actually cultivate confidence, why it’s impossible for someone who destroys your mental health to be the love of your life, why feeling like you have no idea what you’re doing is the price of entry to achieving your dreams, why you should learn to trust people more, and much more...

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Timestamps:

(00:00) People Would Need Less Therapy If They Set Better Boundaries

(11:29) The More You Cultivate Yourself, The More You Have To Give

(18:13) Personal Growth Is Learning To Lie To Ourselves Less

(30:05) Confidence & Fear Both Require Something That Hasn't Happened Yet

(40:07) It's Better To Be Loved For Who You Are Than Who You Pretend To Be

(51:01) It's Hard To Love Someone Who Breaks Your Mental Health

(58:46) Having No Idea Of What You're Doing Is The Price Of Receiving Your Dream

(1:13:24) Emotion Is The Most Important Productivity System

(1:27:33) The Happiest People Don't Question Their Choices

(1:39:41) Trust People. Distrusting Everyone Is A Lot Worse

(1:46:52) He Who Has The Smallest Ego Wins

(2:00:49) People Adopt Values For What They Get Validated For

(2:10:56) Find Out More About Mark

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