Drama at the Jersey Shore
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I like don't think I can talk right now.

My head is still pounding from last night. I know. Or the whole weekend. I've been so out of it all day. It's been really bad. Like, I, we were just playing Uno with my family and the kids, and I couldn't, I was like, red, blue, like, my mind wasn't working. No, when? This weekend took it out of me. We were at lunch, I was, dad was, like, saying something to me, and I was just staring. I was like, I was like, what? Like, everything he said, I was like, what? Yeah.

no even when we went out last night so for context we're coming off um a three-day bender right now i actually was on a four-day bender okay i went out on thursday too i did not and hence that's why we're sitting in bed right now because we i can't do anything else today welcome back to another episode of hot mess with alex earl i'm

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We're gonna be talking about all things Jersey today. The Jersey Shore for Memorial Day weekend. Jersey! And Jersey's like not as trashy as sometimes I think people think it is online because of the Jersey Shore. It definitely like- It gives us a bad rep. There's definitely parts- But it is trashy as well. Super trashy. But like it's so nice too. Like when you're driving with your windows down on a nice day by the beach like it's just-

Aw. No, it's beautiful. So I wanted to come to Jersey this weekend for Memorial Day weekend because, first of all, I feel like not that many other places celebrate Memorial Day weekend, unless I'm wrong. But, like, I mean, I know it's celebrated, but, like, I feel like it's not as big of a party as it is in the Northeast. Like, the Northeast, like, this is, like, our Fourth of July. Yeah, I mean, I guess. Like, I've always grown up. Yeah.

No, but... Words come out of head. Brain work, please. No, but I feel like just growing up here, I was always like, yeah, like Memorial Day weekend is always so fun. You always do something. It's like the start of summer. Yeah. And summer is much more of a bigger deal here than like, say, in Florida because it's like, it's finally warm. People are ready to go out. The Jersey Shore bars are open. There's not a strip of bars. No. But there's like select bars that people go to that are so much fun and they're so ratchet. And the thing is like...

we cannot get in underage no i've never been to any of these bars that's why it's still like kind of my first time going to some of these bars too because until i was 21 like you can't go out the jersey shore bars it's like ratchet fun sweaty there's like different vibes at each bar like parker house i feel like that's where you get more of the like spring like seagirt crew like you

some of the more like fancy people i feel like and then there's like djs which is like jersey shore like that's what you get i'm pretty sure in the jersey shore shore that's like they've been there and probably to djs what was that club they would go to karma i wish karma was still i know that would be really fun to do also to give context we live on the jersey shore and the jersey shore we live on the jersey shore okay all right maybe i'll stop this episode but we're

We live on the beach. It was like 10 minutes from the beach growing up. We would ride our bikes. It's like where we live is a beach town for people. And I feel like that's cool. I was driving around with Braxton. He was like, that's really cool that you just live in a beach town, a summertime vibe. Because he was like, that's so different from where I grew up in Raleigh. And it is just so cute. Little beachy houses everywhere. I feel like we never thought of it as anything different.

cool because we were so used to it but like people are like oh like you don't have to drive like two hours to the beach like even my friends that live in North Jersey they're like you just live on the beach and I'm like well yeah but like I live in a normal house too it's not like we live in a beach house. It's like very like bike town like

Holy shit. Do you remember? Do you remember like the little sixth grade like bike gangs? No, I was just about to say when I was in like middle school, I had the legs of Megan Thee Stallion because I was biking everywhere. Like my calves were massive because I would bike to every single girls house, boys house parties. And like we were driving around this weekend and there was one like 7-Eleven that I know that it's like where you would like go hang out because you can't do anything else.

And I saw all these kids there on their bikes at 7-Eleven. I was like, I miss that. I want to go back. Yeah. Like you would know it was going down if you saw like a bunch of bikes piled on someone's like front lawn. Yes. They're having a great time in there. That would be our lawn sometimes. I had a party one time with like 10,000 people and I got in a lot of trouble. Everyone takes their bikes. No, I want to bike to parties again. I know.

You bike to a boy's house to sneak in. I want to bike down the highway in my evening. Let's go biking to Eleven. Okay.

Let's bike home from the clubs. I feel like we could bike to space. Wait, that would be really fun. We had a really fun Memorial Day weekend, but I don't know what happened because the first night we went out, we went out with mom. My mom kind of just saw me and my friends going out and was like, oh, I'm also coming with you guys. And I love that about mom. To start off our weekend of the bender, we went out Friday night and honestly, I got

Got a little bit crazy that night, but we like took ourselves home because I wanted to go home and get pizza. We never made it to the second bar. And I thought that was pretty responsible of me. Yeah, but we did get there at like seven. So we had a long night, but we went to bed pretty early. And then wait. So we had like a wild like the past like two nights, I would say. I came back from going out last night and I don't know what happened to me. But...

No, no. Wait, because I'm actually... I need you to see if you can, like, figure this out because me and Braxton still can't figure it out. I was laying in bed last night in my pajamas and my pajama pants were kind of, like, short, like, boy underwear-ish looking. And Braxton's like, what's all that sand on you? And I was like, sand, whatever. There's sand all over my, like, crotch area. What? Which makes no sense because I showered before I went out and...

Full body shower, shaved, everything. And then we went out to dinner, which didn't have sand. We went out to Red Rock, which didn't have sand. And then we went out to DJ's, which also didn't have sand. So how did I end up with sand all on my crotch?

I have no idea because we separated after DJ's, but... No, like, it makes no sense. I just went home and ordered Wawa. DJ's is across from the beach. But we didn't go to the beach at all. Are you sure? No, I'm 110% positive. And Braxton's like, Alex, where did this, like...

crotch full of sand come from and I was like I you were with me the whole entire night like I have no idea what happened and even Todd said he went to the bathroom this morning and like I guess it was in my pants because when I went to go pee there was sand or Todd said when he went to go pee there was sand all by the toilet which

Which means, like, mom was like, maybe your purse, like, you, like, picked up your purse, had sand on it. But where would my purse have sand on it from? It makes no sense. And I think it was a glitch in the simulation. Wait, that's really weird. No, I'm... That's, like, kind of unsettling. No, I'm still, like, really unsure how that happened. Are you sure you didn't, like, black out for five minutes and, like, go run in the sand? I'm positive. I actually was being responsible and got in the Uber first and was waiting for everyone to get in the Uber. So I was sitting in the Uber alone. Unless the Uber had sand...

But, like, I don't understand how that would get under my dress. Hmm.

Yeah, so that happened. That's really weird. That's just an unsolved mystery. No, we're never going to solve that one. People are probably going to be like, well, she definitely doesn't remember and did something stupid. No, actually, I remember everything. And we went to DJ's last night. So we weren't supposed to go out last night because it was Sunday night. We were like, third night, we don't really need to do this. We went to dinner with my family, a few Aperol Spritz later. Then we ended up at the bar. And then we're at this one bar that was like chill, live music. And we were like, let's go to DJ's.

and dj's is like fist pumping dirty sweaty packed sardines such like ratchet vibes but it's so give you a stamp to get in that said ratchet i didn't get a stamp no we didn't get stamps but that's the stamps that they had that night was they said ratchet on yeah so like they embrace it they're they're self-aware they are like jersey shore like oh my god like when i walked in just like the

the guys that i saw like right when i walked in i was just like oh my god it's just first of all such a fun bar i really liked the vibes in there they were it was more my speed like we went out somewhere before where it was like live music it was nice but like when i'm going out like i don't want to sit by a band i feel i'm not 50 yeah i feel like the first one raging in a sweaty dark room we didn't really want to go out but then we did

but then we had a few tequila sodas and a huge what you know what we had which is why i have a massive headache oh the grails grails so how do we explain like what a grail is to everyone listening it's like a grenadine drink it's it's actually i know because i started making them last night this bartender over here she was bartending at dj's so wait so grail basically the whole

point of the grail is it's kind of like this reddish color I actually never knew what was in it it's not as bad as I thought it was before I started making them but the point of this drink is they give you like three big straws in it and you have to chug it it's not like a sipping drink and because there's three huge straws it makes it like so easy to chug and that's the whole point at DJ's is you get the grails and then you black out I'm also weirdly win every time I get a grail and it's

I chug it in like three seconds. It's like really impressive. Yeah.

Okay, cool girl. No, yeah, I can drink. But no, those are like disgusting because I always chug them and then I'm like, I'm going to throw up. Well, it's like sugary and then you know that you're going to be really dead the next day. Yeah, that's a hangover and a cup. That's actually the first time that I went to DJs. Ashton had to pick me up. I went with my boss, which actually... So my boss in high school, she was like really cool and she would take me out all the time. So actually...

Maybe I just turned 21 there or maybe I snuck in. I think you snuck in. Yeah. I actually don't think I was 21 when I went. But anyway, I was 21 for legal reasons. And I went to this bar with them and...

I ended up doing all these grails and I didn't know that the grails hit you like a rock. Like you don't feel anything from them and all of a sudden it's like one grail, two grail, you're on the floor. And I was actually on the floor. I was on the boardwalk rolling around on the boardwalk across the street and there's like police all outside. No, like outside of DJs, like you can't fuck around. Like there's cops everywhere. Like you can't like

try to like doing somersaults on the boardwalk yeah and my boss had to call ashton to pick me up and ashton was like i don't want to get hurt i was at my friend's house and like she jenna texted me and she was like hey like alex needs a ride home from djs i was like no like tell her to get an uber like whatever she's like no like you don't understand like she needs to be taken home damn it alex

always do this stuff i actually don't always do that no you i actually never need to be taken home don't you think i'm responsible like i'm never the friend that like has had to like go to the hospital or like yeah but you do like you know you i have fun crawling upside down in the car and no you never need to be i have fun but i never need help okay let's just change the subject

So anyways, last night we're at the bar. We're having all these grails. One thing leads to another. And the people at DJ's like, I don't know, like we're just besties or something because I the first or the last time I guess I went there, the bartender was offering me shots like I was laying on the bar. She was pouring shots in my eyeballs. And hey, Penelope.

She was pouring shots in my eyes. And then last night they were like, okay, Alex, do you want to go make some drinks? And I was like, what? And they put me under the bar. So I crawled down under the bar. I still have my purse on. I'm standing there. Don't know what to expect. He hands me a cup with ice and he's like, hit this button, hit this button, and then pour the vodka in. And I was like, oh my God, I'm making a grail right now. Wow.

I'm making a grill right now. Stop. It was really cool. You didn't get to make a grill. Oh.

Well, I was dancing on an elevated surface. But I just kind of like disappeared from our friends out of nowhere. And I was behind the bar. And this was like go time because I've never bartended before in my life. But I really I was good at it. You were whipping them out. I'm obviously at home right now with Ashton and my little siblings are sitting across the room just staring at us watching this podcast right now. And they're actually so adorable. I think they're scared of us a little bit. Hey, hey.

Are you guys having fun? Brother, don't knock over the cameras.

But we got a little off track there. And honestly, I just think going out at home is so weird because the first person I saw this weekend was a girl that I went to middle school with. I have not seen her since fifth grade. And I was just like, you're now six foot tall. Like, it's so weird. Like, I don't know. It's kind of scary vibes seeing everyone from your hometown. And it's just like, I'm also not the same person I was in high school. So like what these people think of me is they're probably like, brother. And

We have to stop saying that. You know, we have to stop. For some reason, I feel like, like, just where we grew up, like, between, like, here and, like, all the way down, like, through Manisquan Point Pleasant, everyone just knows each other. Like, even, like, my Manisquan friends knew, like, my Red Bank, like, RBC friends. Like, everyone just kind of knows each other, like, has mutuals. So, like, when I went out on Thursday, I literally was seeing people that I was friends with in, like, eighth grade. And I was like, oh, my God. Like, hey. And it's, like, really fun catching up with people who are, like,

It's fun to see the people that you like, but when you see the ops, the people that you don't want to see, it's actually horrendous. Like, we were at the bar last night and I saw this one guy who I will never forget scarred me. And I don't know where men get the audacity sometimes, but this was one of those guys where it's like he told everyone that we had hooked up, basically. And I was like a freshman at the time. He was a senior. And we didn't at all. First of all, I'm like, okay,

what are you bragging about being a pedophile second of all it's like why do guys do that and i feel like wait and then no one believed me because they're always like yeah well yeah obviously you know like i think that is the craziest thing that a guy can do is just straight up lie about like getting with a girl why did someone do that about me too freshman year it was like a boy like my age though like i literally didn't even know him and like everyone was like oh it was like

Ew. No. But, like, what boy just, like, randomly is like, yeah, I'm just going to start telling everyone I got with this girl. Yeah. Like,

They need to stop. That's crazy to me. Like, dear men, I know you're not listening to this podcast because it's all girls, but sincerely, we hate you for doing that. And you need to stop. Speaking of hating men, I've recently feel like I've developed a fear of men. Really? Oh, wait. Ashton has actually. Ashton's not interested in anyone at all. I'm actually terrified. That's like a really, you're going through a really good phase right now. Ashton's just focused on herself. Yeah, but like, it's kind of bad. Like, I like...

hate like I'm like scared of them like anytime someone talks to me well because they all suck well like I think Braxton yeah except for Braxton but he's a girl he's one of the girlies he's one of the girls another thing that I did this week on more of the wholesome side of things was I went back to Surfside which is our family has an ice cream shop in New Jersey and

So backstory on that, they opened it. So it's my dad and his two brothers opened this ice cream shop when I was in sixth grade, I believe, because I was 12 years old when I first started working there, which means I was in fourth grade in fourth grade. And because it was a family owned business, there was no laws on like how old you had to be to start working. The idea behind Surfside was that was going to give us

an idea of how to like run a business and i was like well we're 12 years old i'm not sure why we need to do that right now but it actually like we learned so much looking back on it and at the time it was actually horrendous i don't think they gave us any like

low down on how to do anything before opening night no they kind of just like threw us in there and they're like okay like you start this day like go and it wasn't like there was pre-made ice cream like we had to make all the ice cream ourselves every morning and then there was a cash register that was just it was just cash no card none of us knew how to like work i couldn't even like count to like 20 at that age i was a 10 year old like taking cash like from like these like adults and like family

and we would be, like, so busy on nights in the summer. No, I don't think you understand, like, how much... It was a mess at first. Like, this...

I'm pretty sure we just lost so much money too because anytime I saw like guys from my school in middle school I would just give them all free ice cream I was like oh you want all eight tubs of the ice cream take it home with you I remember one night it was me and Eloise working and we were we're the same age we were both like literally 11 working this ice cream shop completely by ourselves at night and like two of our guy friends came and they were like we want milkshakes and we're like okay if you go in the back and wash all the dishes for us I don't

we'll make you milkshakes but like i just can't imagine like in the moment obviously we didn't feel that young but like i can't imagine being like an actual adult and coming up to the side shop and seeing a 10 year old kid like taking their money like handing this kid my which i would always count the money wrong and like give people the wrong change we would do the register at the end of the night and i always remember it was such a letdown because it was always like hundred dollars off and i was like how did we mess up that bad but we were literally in like

What are you in sixth grade? I was like probably just starting to learn like division. Like I didn't know anything. But I got to go back to Surfside this weekend because they wanted to make like an Alex Earl flavor for the summer. And I always say that they should have cotton candy because that's my favorite ice cream flavor because I'm literally a five-year-old. And so I went in and made this like pink

cotton candy flavor i put some rainbow sprinkles in it it was so good they did like at first they did the milk with like two ounces of the cotton candy syrup and i literally was like this is not enough at all and i did four yeah i could tell you did four it was a lot no but it's really good i just thomas tried it and he was like this is delicious yeah this is like crack for kids

It was so fun like going back and starting to make the ice cream again because it just took me back to like all those days of like my milk getting on. Oh my God. Did you ever like drop one? No. It was like.

How many gallons? Is it, like, two or something? No, like, these bags of milk, I don't think you understand, are, like, they're, like, a limp sack of just milk. And it's, like, there's no structure to them. And there's just, like, a little cap where you have to open it and, like, dump it. It's just, like, a plastic bag. And, like, if you lift it the wrong way, it will just explode everywhere. And it...

that stuff like gets into the floor like especially as a little yeah but like as a little kid like we were like expected to like carry these big things and like dump them in and I would always like try to dump it and I'd spill all over the back of the machine and then the machine would like short fuse we had like a mold problem one time because there was like it was like seeping down into the floor to the basement yeah oh

But we were... They have new floors now. Crazy. We were just little girls. I know. And so it's basically like a family tradition in our family to work there. And I kind of created family drama because I was the first...

always alex i was the first to quit as soon as i was a i think after my freshman year of high school because it was great but i never got priority in like making the schedule because we were like on the younger end yeah like the cousins so that was also so much drama like between us and our cousins yeah so like the older cousins got to like make the schedule so then obviously i got all the saturday night shifts and i could never go to the like

Manisquan Fireworks and I was so distraught. I loved it but at the same time when I was a freshman in high school I think I had at like somehow I had like 6,000 followers on Instagram at the time so I was like the town influencer. The town baddie influencer. And I went to or Hazel Boutique which is a clothing shop in New Jersey and like that that's where you get your clothes. Like that was all

all the cool going out clothes it still is i feel like people that live here i remember specifically there would be like midnight sales when i was in middle school and like gracie's older sister would take us to go and you go to the store at midnight till 1am and it's like half off of everything like this store was just like the going out place and it was just like a cool vibe to like everyone like wanted to like be

i don't know hazel was cool hazel they had the hazel bracelets the gold bracelets like like even like the stickers like having a hazel sticker was like really cool yeah so they dms me asking me to come in and take pictures in their clothes and i was like holy fucking shit like you would have think like i i was like i have to take pictures for hazel you have to take pictures of me and i was like i'm

Yes, and I went into the store for the first day. She gave me a huge bag of clothes for free just for taking pictures out front. And like my jaw was on the floor. I was like, this is probably like...

four or five hundred dollars worth of clothes right now she gave me to go on vacation to Turks and Caicos I was on top of the world and I was like wait maybe I should just ask her if she has any summer jobs here so I messaged them and Jenna was like yeah like come work with us and the second that she said that I was like Surfside's so far gone to me and but it was like tea because I was like oh I don't want to work at the family shop anymore and like it was like not taken very well I feel

Like, everyone kind of frowned upon me for it. But I was like, I'm going to Hazel Boutique and I'm getting free clothes. Fuck you guys. Keep scooping ice cream. I'm going to get the cute crop tops for going out. Yeah, and I unfortunately stayed at Surfside way too long. Weren't you working there, like, last summer? No, it was two summers ago. I just...

I didn't really try to find another job. That's the thing is Ashton's always like this summer I'm not working at Surfside. And then I wouldn't do anything to like find another job. So I was like, all right, I guess I'm working at Surfside again. But speaking of Hazel, I sat down with Jenna this week while we were home because I was like, we have so many funny, crazy stories of me at Hazel. And we sat down and we podcasted for a little bit and we just shared some funny stories. So I'm going to play that for you guys now. And you guys are going to love Jenna. She's the best.

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Hey Jenna. Hi Al.

Welcome home. When I quit working at Surfside and you guys invited me to come take photos out front in the store. I remember after I took photos in the clothes, I was going to Turks and Caicos with my family and you were like, take a bag of clothes. And I actually almost dropped that to the floor. Like I came home with my bag of clothes. I brought it to Turks and Caicos and I was taking pictures. Did you come into the store to get the bag? Yes, you came in and you were like, hi, I'm Alex. I'm here for my photos.

Like, maybe she doesn't want to do this. I was really shy. Yeah, you were very shy. Do you remember when you first finally hired me? Because I was like, can I have a job for this summer? Would that be okay? Because I really wanted to quit. I think your parents dropped you off. Yeah. Maybe. They dropped me off at my first day of work. Yeah. And I didn't speak the first, like, three months of working. You stood in the front for the first...

Three hours, I want to say. And we were like, come behind the counter. Like, relax. It's all good. I think I was talking to you guys. Like, let's get this girl going a little bit. Let's get her to take pictures. But, like, it was scary. Because you guys were... I was...

six, fifteen, sixteen at the time. And you guys were all, like, late twenties. And, like, you were just cool. And Hazel's, like, the coolest store ever. And I just, like, couldn't believe I was working there. So, like, I couldn't say hi to anyone or do anything. Well...

that changed. And then I remember the first task Jenna had for me. She was like, oh, well, why don't you like help me? Because there was girls like shoplifting and they would take the tags off the clothes and like stick them in the holes in the dressing room. Yeah. And she was like, we're going to put these like gems over the holes so that girls can't like take off the tags. Whoever thought that was a good idea. Honestly, like,

random holes in the wall with just gems. They're still there. And I just got these like long ass acrylics on and she was like, can you glue these gems? And this was my first task on the first day of work and I was like, oh my god. I was like, I can't do it because I couldn't pick up the gems with my long nails and I was sweating. I remember it crouched down on the floor and you were like, yeah, so just like this and you stick it on and I like cut it

Pick them up off the floor. And they're still there. I think I was a good worker. You definitely were. I was a good worker. Yeah, you just, like, ate soup in 90 degrees. Yeah. I just remember, like...

so this was the beginning of high school I guess for me and this was also like the onset of when I started to have anxiety and like panic attacks. Well I mean working with 10 girls you're bound to have anxiety. Yeah I remember half the days I would have a panic attack and lay on the floor under the fans but you always let me cool off. I would ask if you wanted to go home and you always said no so I was like okay I'll you got like three hours left are you okay down there? I

I would be sprawled out on the floor of the store and I was like, I'm fine. And it's also because I have like 10 coffees a day, which like definitely didn't help. Definitely not. It was the Brooks. And it was 900 degrees in there. Yeah. For sure. Yeah. When I started working, I was really shy, but then I feel like I warmed up. I think it literally took you like. It was like a very fun vibe. It took you maybe a week. Yeah. And then you were like, okay, I'm good.

Yeah. They're all normal here. I learned the lay of the land. Should we tell the free people story? We could start with that, if you want to. It's a scary story. I think this was my first, like, invite... It was your first showroom. Yeah. Yeah, you were, like... How old were you? Maybe 17? 17. So...

You would go to the showrooms. I would go to showrooms to shop. Maybe, like, explain what these showrooms are for, like... So, usually, we all would go to pick out, like, a spring or a summer line, fall, whatever. And for some reason, none of the other girls could go. But you were ready to go. Those last pickings was me. No, that's not nice. You were ready, though. You were ready. I was ready. I was so excited. I came with Kevin. For some reason, it was the three of us. We picked you up from your mom's house, right? Yeah.

And you looked really cute that day. I do remember. I don't remember what I was wearing. You don't remember because you...

Took tummy time. Did I take that with you? Or was that my own doing? You took it in the morning. You were like, okay. Okay, so... Maybe you were on a kick. You were taking it. But I don't know why you chose that day to start. I don't know either. But basically, I get invited to go to the showroom with Jenna. This is like my first big workout. I get to go to free people. I get to see all the clothes that haven't come out yet. So this was like a really big deal for me. I don't know...

I had, maybe I was constipated, but I took a tummy time tea, which basically is a tea that just like gets everything moving. But you didn't tell me that you did that. Yeah. And I don't know why I did this the day that we're going to this showroom in New York City.

We're literally driving up and the whole way it's again me Alex and Kevin so the conversation is like whatever so I'm like looking in the back and Alex is just like in the back are you okay are we almost there whatever I'm like we're not in the city yet whatever.

So we finally get there and you jet to the bathroom. I was like, I really have to go to the bathroom. I don't know. We've been in the car for so long. I just thought you were nervous. Which is normal. Hour and a half car ride. And I was nervous. Nervous. And I was nervous. But you came back and I was like, are you okay? Are you okay? And you were like, yeah, I'm fine. I'm fine. So a couple minutes go by or whatever. And I look over and you are like a blowfish holding in her toots.

I'm like, what is going on here? I remember at first, we, for some reason, we were at the car dealership, like, parking the car there. Oh, yeah. And that's where I first got out to go to the bathroom. And then I was like, oh, wow, like, time and time again. And then, like, two minutes after I go to the bathroom, it, like, hit me. And I just remember, like, being purple, sweating. And I was, like, looking at Jenna. I was like...

And you're like, are you okay? No, you weren't. I wasn't okay. Not a good day. I missed the whole day of the showroom because basically I was in the bathroom every two minutes and I think I was in there for like an hour straight at one point. And I just remember being like, what are the free people going to think of me? I didn't see any of the clothes. No, you didn't. All I saw was the toilet paper. We'll tell everyone you did. What else can we talk about at the store? Hmm.

The soup? Yeah, notorious soup eater in the 90 degrees. I feel like I always had food around me at work because I was just anxious in case like I was having a panic attack and I felt like I was going to pass out. I would just always needed to have food on me because I was scared of like passing out. I guess one time I brought soup into work or I ordered it there or something. It wasn't one time. You ate soup all the time. It was like, oh, it's 90 degrees and sunny. Alex is getting chilly. Yeah.

But don't you remember the one time I left it under there accidentally? Yeah. Because under the counters, there was just, like, a lot of different stuff going on under there. Well, I hate, I literally hate stuff on the counter. Yeah, so. So naturally, you guys would leave all of your food under the counter. Yeah, under, like, where the register was. And this was, like, two weeks. Yeah, this was, like, a two-week soup boiling in. It was chili. It was chili? I think it was chili. Really? It was chili. It was chili. Yeah. Yeah.

And we were like, what is that smell? We go for a quick search under the counter. Lo and behold, Alex's chili. Well, that's disgusting to me. I'm so sorry. You probably ate it. I also feel like you guys have seen me have like 40 million different boyfriends. That's okay. Yeah. That's my favorite thing is when I come home and come here and I just like update them on everything going on in my life. It's always... Do you actually remember the first night you met Braxton? Yeah.

I had texted you and said there's this boy going to your event. You're the reason that I met Braxton. Wait.

I completely forgot about this. So, before I met Braxton, I guess one of Braxton's friends texted Jenna and was like, oh my gosh, like, they're going to this party, they should meet or whatever, and sent a photo of Braxton. So, before I go to this party, which was, like, the Gatsby party where I met Braxton, Jenna texted me a photo. Of course, it's, like, a shirtless photo of Braxton on the beach, and they were like, oh, like...

Alex and Braxton should meet at this party. Yeah, I said, he's going. Maybe go up to him. Yeah, and that I did. Because he wants to meet you. And that I did because I completely forgot about it. And, like, at the time she texted me and I was like, oh, I don't know. Like, I wasn't really thinking anything of it. You were like, is this guy going to the party you're at? I was like, I have no idea who that is. And that's why when I met Braxton and he said his name because, like, that name just obviously stood out to me because, like, whose name is Braxton. And...

He was like, oh, hi, I'm Braxton. Nice to meet you. And that's when I was like, you wanted to meet me. And he was like, what are you talking about? I was like, I have a text that you wanted to meet me. And it was from Jenna. I completely forgot. You orchestrated this whole relationship, actually. Thanks. I'll marry you guys. Okay. I'll stand up there. Officiate the wedding. Yeah, there you go. What time is it? 308. Oh!

I have to go. You have another one. I have a meeting. At your dad's. Yeah, I'm going to be really late. Oh my god. Like, I have to go right now. Okay. This is over. Goodbye. Bye.

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So excited. And I only like to do this segment, I think, with Ashton because... Because I'm cool and I know what's in and what's out. And unfortunately, I think I made a mistake in my one hot mess episode where I was like, Ashton's so cool and everything she just does is cool and she doesn't have to try or whatever. Now everyone's just like, holy shit, Ashton is so cool, which she is. But it's like... Now you're just jealous because people realize it. Like, wait, no, I'm cool. Wait, I...

to me guys back to me i shouldn't have given her that spotlight but ashton just hit 500k on tiktok yeah today so thanks everyone effing go ashton thanks alex no you're cool i'm pretty sure most people like you and don't like me so there you go you have it you're cool and that's the last we're saying it so we're gonna do it now

Okay. I have some things that I've noted, and I feel like these are kind of summer-based ins and outs, but I just feel like these are, you know, we're just going to give our opinions. You don't have to listen. But this one I feel like is a big topic that I keep seeing. Do you think Sambas are in or out?

Okay, well, I know what you think because you keep saying it, but I still love my Zambas. Wait. I wear them all the time. Maybe you... No. What? I said I think they're overdone. Like, I think everyone... They're just, like, a good throw-on sneaker for me. No, they... I love them. I don't think they're out. I just think they're overdone.

But my Reeboks, my new sneakers, I think those are really cool. Going off of this, after going out on the Jersey Shore this weekend, I hate wearing sneakers out in general. No, we must stop. We must stop. I don't care if your feet hurt, if your toes are getting stepped on. You're not wearing sneakers anymore.

I'm sorry. It's way more comfortable, I will say, to wear sneakers to the bar. But I just, I feel gross. Like, I don't feel... And, like, I'm a hypocrite because I did wear sneakers on Saturday because mom was like... I wore sneakers all weekend. No, I don't care. I will wear heels to anything. I will go jogging in heels. I always said this. I think I came out of the womb in heels because mom was always wearing heels. I loved heels. And then I wore sneakers out this weekend and, like...

It ruins it. I just feel flat. Like, there's something about heels that makes your body look better. It really, like, gives you, I think, a BBL. Well, yes, they make your, like, legs and, I don't know, you, like, lose, like, 30 pounds. Even, yes.

even when i was just on a photo shoot um that's coming out soon that you guys will see it's a secret but anyway um they put heels on me and my feet weren't in the photos but they were just like it just changes like like my legs look better yeah so girls we need to get over the fact that heels hurt because they make us look hotter but also there's like other options like flats that aren't

sneakers that you can wear out that'll like i just feel like if especially if you're wearing jeans you can't like wear sneakers like you look like you're going to like i don't know like but i feel like in college what about college at frat parties and darties like you kind of have to wear sneakers i know but like yeah like part like especially darties i have i have a i have a thing yeah which i think is more acceptable big platform sneakers

Okay. I think those for going out are better because it still gives you some height and some lift and some shift. I love boots. Okay, big boots. Boots. Big boots. Even like if I have like, I don't know, like Doc Martin platform ones. Like if I have like...

oh you're one to talk i knew that was coming okay anyways next take this is mine i really want to do thin eyebrows like i really want to thin out my eyebrows so bad i just saw this girl on tiktok too again today and she has all these thin eyebrows and she looks so pretty but you have really nice thick eyebrows and you're never gonna get them back if you thin them and i know you and i know you're gonna hate it the second you do it

It doesn't have to be super thin. You just become obsessed with things that you want to do? No. I do like them on some people. I think they look really great on some people. I think other people... Okay, but can I say that then I think like the big, huge, fluffy, soap laminated brows are out?

a hundred percent i have never been into the soapy brows and like i just like some people just have overgrown eyebrows and just gel them straight up to their face and they're like all spiky kind of looks like caterpillars it it does not look good it looks messy in my opinion but i do it or i've done it i don't know i just it's never been my thing okay this is a big one for me to say

and you're going to be like, what? But I think being tan in the face is out. I don't believe you. Well, let me explain. No, I know what you mean. No. Okay. First of all, obviously, wrinkles, skin cancer, we don't want any of that. So I've been, like, wearing a hat when I've been tanning, but recently I got really, really tan, and I was doing my makeup, and I just felt like my makeup was looking, like, not good when my face was, like,

like too tan. I'm not talking about like a little sun glow on the top of your forehead. That's good. But I feel like when your whole face is the same color as your body, it just, it looks good without makeup, but with makeup, it looks wrong. And it looks like dirty. Like that's the thing is like, I feel like I would love to just put like bronzer all over my face. I'm like, make it all as tan as possible. Now I kind of like the more like

like contoured look and i don't think it's worth getting all these wrinkles from when i'm older to have a face i definitely agree from like to skin care like standpoint like i don't know that like i'm not saying i like my face ghost pale no everyone looks better with a little tan but i'm saying in the sense of like really tanning my face no i know because you're well

I guess like you're someone who like really gets really really tan I do I do too layout and I get really tan even this past week everyone was like do you have a spray tan I was like I laid out like maybe twice the past week I feel like we have a good capacity to get tan yeah I'm gonna be like a hat over face tanner this summer which I've never done before well I don't usually like scorch my skin off yeah so this is progress for me okay personally good for you okay next

There's like Birkenstocks versus flip-flops, like sandals. Like what are we wearing on our feet? Because I'm someone, and I think it's just because I have...

big ugly bunions on my feet like i hate so much and i've actually been looking into bunion surgery but it seems like a big issue and it's like very likely that the bunion comes back which i don't understand really it can grow back well it doesn't grow it's just the way your foot like forms like it's not you know it's really funny a girl a girl came up to me i forget where but she was just like hey like i love you like i love your sister she's like i have bunions and acne too like i just really don't get along

Listen, my bunions make me very insecure. I never want to have my feet out anywhere because I'm like, my feet look like these little trolls coming out of... They're all contorted and my toes are going out east and this one's out west. I said this. I don't know what sandals to wear because I hate them all. And my feet also because my bunions, if I put them in a little sandal, like a little slidey sandal that's small, it doesn't fit in because my toes don't go straight. They go to the side. So it like...

Like, it's just like my sandals go like...

like off my feet if that makes sense it's like crooked on my foot i do know like i have a lot of friends at school that wear birkenstocks like literally every day and they look good with their vibe but it's just not my vibe personally i feel like it's specific it's not for me it's not for me also i've never been a birkenstock girl but i also don't i like like when people wear them and i think they look cool i'm just like not that's not for me but i can't wear thong flip-flops either so because of my bunions

They've... Oh. Sorry. They're too showing. But even, like, the slides that are just, like, the toe strap, like, the thin ones that they try to make, like, pretty, like, those don't stay on my feet. Yeah, they don't stay on mine either because of my bunions. So I don't, like, what's my summer shoe? Ashton, help me. I don't know. I've been struggling with this, too.

You know what's definitely out? Well, this has been out for years, but this just made me think of it when I thought of sandals are like the gladiator sandals that I would wear the gladiator straps up to my heel, up to my knees. Those were so fun. We should bring those back. I actually got kicked out of my eighth grade graduation practice because I wore the gladiator sandals. And apparently I looked like not nice enough or something. So they kicked me out, which I feel like is so wrong to do.

Like what? Cause my gladiator sandals, they said, cause I wasn't wearing heels. And I'm like, I actually didn't wear heels because well, my school hated me so much for some reason. Like they, this was like the teachers that like love to pick on me. Well, they were, it was like a private Catholic school and half of them were nuns. Yeah. So I was obviously super strict. I mean,

So they hated Alex, obviously. Look at me now. I was in the vibe. I had like my blue justice bra under my uniform. The white button up t-shirt. She would wear this like push up turquoise blue bra under it. So you could see it through her shirt on purpose. And I remember this like specifically. I was in like fourth grade. You were in sixth grade. And you had to like give something to my teacher. So you came into my classroom and all the boys looked at me and they were like, is your sister wearing a bra? And I was like, no.

Alex, this is so embarrassing. Listen, I didn't care. I went to Justice and I was like, give me the biggest blue push-up bra that you have. And it had little lace hearts on it. And I was like, I'm going to wear this. I actually don't know why I wore that to school under my uniform. But like anything, it's because it was the only... She just like wanted it to be known that she was wearing a bra. No, I didn't. Because I liked the push-up bra because it gave me like...

a little bump yeah on and i didn't want to look like so like flat or whatever because i would just if one thing about me i've been obsessed with boobs forever clearly i i was just like boobs boobs boobs boobs boobs and i always was just obsessed with the fact of boobs and mine just weren't growing in so i brought this big blue bra from justice and i actually there was times too that in middle school that i stuffed it

with like socks to take like a selfie and we're just gonna move on past this fact and I don't think it's sad I think I was like really cute and I just wanted some boobs she just wanted to be a woman

But yeah, the school hated me, kicked me out for my gladiator sandals. They also kicked me out one time because I tried to cover my acne. They also kicked me out for... We weren't allowed to wear makeup or jewelry. I also got in trouble one time for like something I posted on my Snapchat story of someone like putting up the middle finger at recess. Oh, yeah. I was a little rebellious. Did you get like suspended for that? Yeah, no, I did. I got suspended actually. But listen, I was... It was like your first day of eighth grade. I was...

rebellious in that phase but like i actually wasn't that bad no you were like a good kid but like you just like wanted to like middle school was the phase where i was like pushing the limits maybe like i don't know i think it was a little lost in the sauce and like i was very like attention seeking and i don't know that was my middle school phase so it's a long time ago it's fine you don't seek attention anymore at all ashton

I also knew that was coming. Sorry. That's not true. It's just so easy to make fun of you. I don't know. No, no, but I would seek like... Try and seek like male validation. Oh, no. Yeah, I know. So that's what I'm saying. You're not like that anymore. Thank you. That's all I have listed for the ins and outs, but should we do some What Would Alex Do's together? Yeah. Do you want to answer some or no? Do you want me to do it alone? Wait, do I have to like do it like...

what do I think you would do or what would I do? I think give your advice. What would Ashton do? Hi, Alex and Ashton. I'm a junior in college and I'm figuring out my living situation for next year. I just found out that my two best friends found an apartment together already without telling me and I feel super hurt and left out. I haven't talked to them about it yet. How should I handle this? Well, first of all, they suck.

I kind of feel like, yeah, they're not giving the best friends in the world. But also, just because someone doesn't want to live with you may not mean that they don't want to be your best friend. There's some people that don't mix living. But I also got, like, if they went behind her back and did that, that's, like, really stinky in my opinion. Stinky. It's stinky. It's really stinky in my opinion. But I... Well, she should definitely talk to them and be like, hey, I know...

you got a place without me i just want to know why you didn't tell me or why you didn't yeah like include me in this i mean actions speak a lot louder than words it's like they didn't tell you yeah you know what i mean not to make you feel bad about yourself there's nothing wrong with you i'm saying there's something wrong with the way that they're treating you as a friend and i feel like don't don't let that like get past you here but i mean but maybe it wasn't malicious and

sometimes there are miscommunications like I always say when I'm giving advice to these things I'm like it really depends like I only know what you're saying from two sentences like I'm sure there's so much more obviously background to this so I feel like judge it by your own perspective if they're being bad friends to you like as well as this

maybe they aren't good friends and like aren't your true friends. Yeah. If they literally are your best friends ride or dies and they are living together without you. Like I had friends that this happened to and they literally didn't live with the other one anymore. And it was like a very big, awkward situation because the other one was like messy and like disgusting all the time. And that's fine. She's the best. And they're still best friends to this day. But they literally had to be like, we're kicking you out and not living with you anymore. I feel like it's

hard to find someone you live well with but then again if they just didn't even discuss it with you

That's weird. But you should definitely talk to them. I think talk to them, for sure. And just see what they say and then decide if they... And love you. And then write back in and let us know how it's going. Hey, Alex. I'm about to start a... Oh. Hey, Alex and Ashton. I'm about to start a summer internship in New York City this June, and we just had a Zoom orientation to meet the other interns. One guy on the call was extremely hot, just my type, and upon Instagram stalking, he appears to be single. Should I go for it when we get to New York, or is it a bad idea to try and have a summer intern romance? Do it. Do it. Wait. My...

Oh my gosh. Isabel's giving a double thumbs up. Go for it. Literally my little at school, she met a guy on her Zoom class because she was like, we were like making eyes at each other on Zoom. And then he like followed her. But class is different than working with someone because they say like whatever. But it's just an internship. This isn't like you're. No, I don't think it has to be that deep.

I also think that that's a great thing to bond over. Like, I've had a lot of my friends working now who are... Which is so fun because all my friends are in the city and, like, they're...

doing their big girl jobs and they like have guys in their offices or guys they see on lunch breaks and stuff and I go I was just in New York City talking to my friends like I love so much hearing about all the like stuff going on because obviously I'm not out there doing that so I'm like tell me everything and I feel like work's like a great place to meet people yeah and even

If it doesn't work out romantically, like at least it's like someone you can kind of know, I guess. Wait, but that is the other thing I guess that just made me think of is that if something goes wrong and you have to see him every day for the whole summer. Well, I mean, just take the risk. It'll be a good story either way.

Do it for the plot. Hi, Big Al. Obviously, when you're in a relationship with someone, you know that they've hooked up with and dated other people in the past. We all have a history. But anytime my boyfriend mentions something about his ex, it actually makes me so angry. How did you and Braxton talk about your past relationships without feeling jealous or insecure? Okay. Question, because I'm wondering, is he saying stuff about his ex, like, out of the blue and...

I think that's weird. If a guy's, like, gonna just bring something up or talks about other girls, I hate when guys do that. And some guys try to do that to, like, brag or be like, yo, when I took this girl there or when I did this with this other girl. Oh, yeah, I don't like that. And it's like, drop it, Jimmy. Like, is he saying, like, his ex is, like...

Like, oh, like, yeah, she was horrible. She did this. Or, like, just, like, talking about... I think, though, in her situation, she's leaning more towards just, like, how do you talk about it without feeling jealous or insecure? I mean, it's never going to feel good. Yeah, I don't know. I'm not preferring to hear about his ex or whatever. I feel like that's, like, just kind of, like, a personal...

mountain you gotta climb yeah like you just have to like accept the fact like you've talked to other guys in the past or you've seen other guys or had a crush on other guys and like you're not still feeling any type of way towards them like it's just life and you have to like realize that like people have had a past it's uncomfortable you kind of just have to accept it though like you can't just like sit there and constantly like freak out about someone's ex because you'll drive yourself crazy there was a point where me and Braxton had to have a lot of conversations about him and his ex because there was

issues online or whatever so of course I had like questions and we're talking over things and I don't know I mean I guess it just like they're with you now like they're choosing you now so you can't like look back like they're an ex for a reason but it's also like I just think there's a context if he's bringing it up to you in a way where it's like you're having a conversation but I always think it's kind of weird and rude when people bring up like an ex unless you're asking like why is he bringing it up

It's true. I feel like it should be avoided, but sometimes, you know, it is... It can be, like, that person was a big part of your life. But when you're learning about each other, yeah. I feel like there's just a thing of mutual respect, where it's, like, you don't need to bring something up unless it's, like, important or unless they ask. Yeah, like, one thing my ex would say to me, which it would be, like, really hard to hear, but I was like, he's right. Like, he's like, I can't force you to trust me. Like, you kind of just have to. Like, he's like, if you don't trust me, then, like, this isn't gonna work. But, like...

Which I know you hate him, so you hate that. But like, it's true. Yeah, I don't know. That went in one ear and out the other. Anytime Alex hears my ex, she's like enraged. Well, anything he said was manipulative. It wasn't. Anyhow. And let's end the episode there. On that note.

I will see you guys next week. I have the biggest surprise ever for you guys next week. You're all going to roll around the floor and cry and me too. And I'm actually so excited. It's, it's, it's unreal. I have an unreal surprise for you guys next week. And I documented so much of this for the behind the scenes. And I'm so excited to finally share it with you guys. So don't forget to subscribe. So you get the notification that the new episodes out, um,

in case you miss a post or anything or you forget it's a Thursday. But I love you guys. I will see you next Thursday. Thanks, Ashton, for sitting down with me. Thanks for having me. Love you. Love you. Bye.

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