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How do I start? Hi guys. Is guys weird to say? That didn't sound like me, did it? Okay, I'm supposed to look at this camera. My name is Alex Earl and welcome to the Hot Mess Podcast. I cannot even believe I'm saying this. I consider myself a normal girl. I'm from New Jersey. I got a bunch of followers my senior year at the University of Miami and I

Don't get me wrong. I am not mad about it, but my life truly did change overnight I'm, just gonna be honest with you guys. I am so nervous right now. I'm sweating Um, but it's okay because i'm in the comfort of my own room I did not feel like I needed to go to like a big studio for this I was like i'm just gonna sit in my bed and talk with you guys Um

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This episode is brought to you by Tinder. We all have a dream of how we'll meet that special someone, right? We think it's going to be this big romantic moment. I'm going to be walking down the side of the road. He's going to see me, think I'm the most beautiful girl he's ever seen, turn right back around, come sweep me off my feet. But that's never a

quite how it happens. I mean, I met my boyfriend at the bar, at a party, you know? I mean, I feel like that's how it happens when you go out. Some of you are still waiting for a meet cute moment to happen, but in reality, you might be more likely to find your meet cute on Tinder. A new relationship starts every three seconds on the app.

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You order food and you talk about what happened last night.

So that's what this is kind of gonna feel like. I'm new to this whole podcast thing. I'm figuring it out still, but you guys are gonna get to know me on a completely different level. I feel like being on social media, there's a lot of people talking about my life or what happens, and I figured I would just get on here and tell you guys myself. So let's start with the biggest question. Do I have a boyfriend? It all started when I met this NFL player. ♪♪

Let me just take you back to the beginning, where it all started. Of course, it starts with a Miami party. It's a regular school day. I got invited to go to this Gatsby-themed party. I had a flight the next morning at 7, which means I need to get to the airport at 5 a.m., so I really had no interest in going out. My friend calls me, and I'm very easily convinced when it's like, oh, we're going out, and it's going to be fun. I'm like, okay, I'm getting ready. So, I'm going to go to the airport,

Very last minute we get ready. It's like 9 p.m. And parties in Miami happen so late. So like you can start getting ready at 9 or 10 p.m Which is the thing I love about Miami like you don't have to be ready at 5 p.m To go out to the bar. It's like you can fully take your nap have a dinner go to bed wake up And then you can still get up and go out so

It's a Gatsby themed party. I'm like, what do I wear? I have this sparkly dress and I had this headpiece from Amazon in my like costume box. So if I feel like if you go to college, you know, the frats have these themed parties. You have like a college costume box, basically a collection of all these different things I've accumulated over the years from Amazon for going to themed parties. And I have this little sparkly headpiece. I throw it on my head.

I do my hair really quick and I'm like, we're going out. So I have my dress on, I'm running out of my house. My roommates are like, where are you going? And we had to South beach. Wait, wait, South beach is, we had to South beach. South beach is this way.

We pull up to one of the biggest hotels in South Beach. It's red velvet. It has like a very old school vibe to it. And this is not a frat party that we're going to. This is a huge party. There's celebrities there. We get to the door and they ask for your name. They have to cross it off the list and they confiscate your phones.

I've been to parties before where they put stickers over your phone when there's gonna be like famous people in there. But these bouncers fully took our phone so I was like, "Oh my god, there is about to be some cool people in here and we are not one of them." When we walk through the doors into this party,

I immediately stop, I grab my friend's hand, we look around, there are like 15 famous people standing right there. I know I said I wasn't gonna drink tonight, but what do we do? We beeline it to the bar because if there's any chance of me mingling with any of these people tonight, I need some liquid courage. As we're standing around the bar, this guy comes up to me and he's like, "Oh, you should really go talk to my friend over there." And he points to this guy. I'm like, "Yeah, okay, whatever."

I'm not focused on that right now. I'm having drinks with my friends. We're having champagne. We're having tequila shots. We're having vodka sodas.

That was not a great concoction for me because I then had too much liquid courage. So my friend goes to the bathroom. I'm awkwardly standing there alone. There's only so much small talk I can make with the bartender. So I start looking around and I see this guy. It's the guy that my friend told me I should go meet before he wants to meet me. I go right up to him. I shove my hand in his face and I say, you. He looks at me like I have six heads and he's like, what? I go, you wanted to meet me.

Alex. Alex. I mean, it ended up working out in my favor, but why was I doing that? I don't know. I didn't know who he was. I didn't know that he was an NFL player, and I was not trying to be cool of any sorts. I literally was just like, I'm bored. You wanted to meet me. I'm going to talk to you. We end up talking, and I found out that he also went to the University of Miami, so we have an immediate connection there. It

If you if you're a cane you just you get it, you know a lot of school spirit It was very easy to talk to him We got along very well and before you know it like an hour and a half went by and we don't have our phone So i'm not even keeping track of the time And I really I still don't really know who this guy is too much But i'm like we gotta go I have to be in the airport in two hours. I grab my friend. We do the classic irish exit We're not saying goodbye to anyone and we're getting out of there

The next day, I somehow make it on my flight. I'm in Wyoming. My friends are asking me how the party was. I was telling them I met this guy. He was really cool, but I probably won't ever see him again. I don't even know where he is. I barely know his name and whatever it was, what it was. And flash forward, I get a text from a random number. It says, so you're just going to leave without saying bye to me.

And I knew exactly who this was from. Also, mind you, I did not give him my number. So he had to put in a little work to get in my number. So that caught my attention. And I was like, you know what? Let's see where this goes. Maybe I will see this guy again. Flash forward. I'm back in Miami. I'm walking around campus and I get a text from this guy that says, be ready at 530. We're going on a date.

being the studious girl that I am, I know that I had class from 4.30 to 5.45. So I tell him that I couldn't be ready. I had class. Like, is that okay? I still don't, I don't know what we're doing, where we're going, but I'm like, I'll be there. He's like, yeah, that's fine. I'll pick you up from class. Mind you, he also went to U Miami. So he knows the campus and people on campus probably know him. I'm

Freaking out i'm running around my college house. I'm like i'm going on a day All my roommates are like helping me get ready Literally to go to class and then to go on this date, but I don't know where we're going what we're doing So I was like I want to wear something nice, but that can also be kind of casual So I put on this bodysuit a pair of jeans and I was wearing sneakers to class But in my backpack, I brought a purse and I brought a pair of heels, so

I show up to class and my friend looks at me when I sit down next to him and he's like, where the fuck are you going? Because I usually show up to class in my PJs, my hair in a bun, looking like a rat. And listen, it's Miami. So people show up to campus in all types of different outfits. You have girls in bikinis, you have girls in pajamas and you have girls in bodycon dresses.

I told him I was going on a date after class and this was probably the longest class of my entire life. I was so anxious and excited and I didn't know what we were doing. So I'm like going through my head, like where could we be going? And like, it's too early for like a dinner kind of, I don't know. Like I just, I had no idea where we were going.

After class, I sprint across the parking lot. I see him sitting literally in like the furthest corner of the red lot. That's what our campus parking lot is called. And I get in the car at this point. I put my heels on. I have my purse on. We're in the car for like 15 minutes. We're going in the opposite direction of South Beach, Brickell, all the like fun Miami places. We're literally driving into like the woods. I look at him and I'm like, are you kidnapping me? Where are we going?

He turns to me and says, the airport. What? I'm like, what do you mean the airport? I can't leave. Like,

I have class in the morning. I don't know where we're going. I don't know what that means. And now I'm like nervous. I'm like, who is this guy? Do I even know him? And we pull into the airport and this isn't the regular Miami airport. This is like a small little private airport. And there is a helicopter sitting there with a guy outside. And he was like, we're going on a helicopter ride around Miami for sunset.

I feel like I am in 50 shades of gray. This is like the coolest thing I've ever seen. I am used to dates with frat guys where I go out and they forget their cards and I'm the one paying for dinner. Like I've never seen something like this in my life. And now I'm like wondering, like, did I dress wrong for this? I'm in heels. Like we're going on a helicopter ride. I don't know what's going on. And we get in, the pilot asks us if we want the doors closed or if we want the doors off for the ride.

I'm trying to seem cool and adventurous. I was like, yeah, I'm the cool, chill girl. Like, whatever. Let's get crazy. I was like, no, we don't need the doors. Oh, my God. We needed the doors. Within one minute into this helicopter ride, I had whiplash from my hair. My extensions are in this guy's mouth.

He's eating my hair. We're up in the sky and it was beautiful But I can barely see because my hair is like this it's tangled in my lip gloss I have knots in my hair that I know i'm gonna have to put conditioner in we literally had to go to CVS after this date and stop and I had to get like a brush because I was like I don't I don't even know I can't even look you in the eyes right now with my hair like this So psa ladies if you're going on a helicopter date either put the doors up or you need to wear your hair in the slick back

tightest bun of your entire life. While I'm on this date, I get a text from my dad because sometimes my dad tracks me, I don't know, but he literally sees me flying over the woods and he's like, where are you? I text him back a picture of the beautiful view of Miami. I tell him I'm on a date, dad. Don't worry. I went to class. It

It's just another day in Miami. Overall, it was a really cool day. We had a lot of fun. It was romantic. And at this point, I kind of knew there was going to be a second date. Looking back, was he taking me on this helicopter date to hide us so that no one could take pictures of us out?

Maybe, but honestly, it ended up working out for the best because I was kind of still going through a breakup at the time, even though we really broke up like two months ago. But you know how breakups go. You have talks, you're getting closure. We're still tying up loose ends. And my ex did not want to let go of the relationship. It was kind of one of those things where he wanted to get back together and was telling me that, you

you know, he was gonna change and that we should try and make things work. And I really didn't want to make things work. But you don't want to just kind of, I don't know, you care about the person. So you're trying to like let them down easy. And you guys know, you caught me out with my ex having one of our closure talk dates, whatever. And it turns out NFL man was in a similar situation. He had just ended a relationship. He was tying up loose ends. And

We kind of were in the same boat and it was nice to kind of go through that together. I feel like we're in the same place. Like neither of us were really looking for a serious committed relationship. Like we were just hanging out and having fun. I'm sure a lot of you guys listening can relate when you get out of a relationship. The last thing you want is someone who is looking for a relationship. Like I just wanted someone to hang out with have fun, but I wasn't looking for anything serious and neither was he so I was like great. This is like kind of a perfect situation here and

he also was playing for a team in New York at the time. So I knew by May, like when I'm graduating, like this guy's gone. Like that was good for me. I was like, I don't need someone to be sticking around. Like I wasn't, I really, really was not looking for something super committed and like long-term. Because of that, I felt super comfortable being myself because I wasn't trying to impress him. I wasn't trying to be someone that I wasn't. And I think that made us get super close, super fast.

And lo and behold, he gets transferred to...

traded. He gets traded to the Dolphins. And if you don't know much about sports like me, that is Miami's football team. So it looks like he's sticking around. And when I say sticking around, we're hanging out. Let's talk about this confusion that has been going on. So I'm very, very close with my family and I like to go out with my family. So naturally, if you're hanging out with me, you're hanging out with them. My family visits Miami a lot.

We're going out. We're going to the strip clubs. For me, my family feels like an extension of my best friends. So it's never this big sort of ordeal where a guy like meets my family and it's a super scary thing. So of course now there's photos of us out to dinner with my family at the club with my family and everyone's like, they're dating, they're getting married. Maybe the one time that I can see how things got a little confusing and this is still a learning process for me, but I went to the Espy's

red carpet with this guy and we got photographed together and basically everyone was like this is Alex Earl hard launching her relationship I was in LA for work that week

He ended up going last minute to the SB's and he invited me to go with him and I'm a great day I'm a great time like of course I'll come I'll get a nice dress like I can do my hair and makeup like that is like my favorite thing to do I didn't realize how big of a statement I was actually making with that because I wake up the next morning and I see articles everywhere of Alex Earl hard launches boyfriend on the red carpet. I'm like, oh shit. I

And honestly, this is like an issue I have, but that made me want to run in the other direction. After seeing those headlines is when I basically was like, I want to just take a step back for a minute. Like, I'm about to leave to go to the Hamptons for a month with my friends. We got a huge girl's house together. Like, we're going to go out. We're going to get crazy. We're going to have a hot girl summer.

Or so I thought. And I just, this was not the time that I wanted to start this relationship. But it's also weird. Like, what am I going to come out and like make a weird statement and be like, hey guys, I'm actually not dating this guy officially, but we are hanging out a lot, but we're not dating. Like, it's just so cringy and weird to me. So I just, I don't know. I have never said anything. I'm...

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news pages and social media clips label what a relationship was for me. It stressed me out one because that just wasn't the reality of things and two I don't want to be tied down right now and it's not even tied down in the sense of going out and dating a million guys. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about tied down in a sense of when you have a boyfriend you have to answer that. You have to talk to them.

No, but in all seriousness, a relationship is time and it's commitment. And I just graduated college. I'm having fun with my friends. I'm bopping around, traveling all over the place. I'm still figuring out this next chapter of my life. I just moved into my first apartment post-grad. And another thing people say is, oh, they're not dating. He must be stringing her along.

She must be so upset. Like, why does it always have to be the stereotype that the guy is getting to decide whether there is a relationship or not? What if I don't want to be in a relationship? Society can sometimes make it seem like,

Girls are the ones who are distraught and need the guys and need to be in a relationship, but that's just not the case. I'm back in Miami. I'm just settling into my apartment. I have my good group of girlfriends here and I'm still hanging out with NFL guy,

But there's no pressure on it as of now. We're going to see where it goes. I'm having fun. But you may or may not see me at some Dolphins games. Enough about guys. Let's talk about the people that really matter, my girlfriends. I want you guys to meet them. Let's go. Yay!

Okay, welcome. Guys, these are my best friends from college. We're all scared. Somehow they stuck with me for all four years. And weirdly enough, we all met like the first night of college and we have stayed friends ever since. We are witnessing everyone back at their first week of college right now. And we're having a little bit of post-grad depression. So I figured, why not? Just a little. Yeah.

I figured, why not reminisce on those core awkward memories of the first week of freshman year and the fun memories. You're the only one that I talked to before coming to school. I had never even seen you guys before. And then I remember being at the Biltmore pool and you were like, do you know this Hannah Knight? I think I'm getting drinks with her later. And I was like, no, oh my gosh, you look so cool. And I was so scared. And I met you guys for the first time at the pregame.

the first night that we went out. - Making friends with people freshman year can be super awkward and you have to like, it's like dating. You have to like reach out. - Speed dating. - So we're gonna read you some of our DMs that we've sent each other that we look back and like laugh at now, but oh God. - This is March 3rd, 2019. - This is gonna be so Kristen. - Hey girl, you're so gorgeous and obsessed with your pics. I saw that you're going to Miami and I'm trying to meet people going so I wanted to say hey. I got deferred for some reason.

For some reason, no idea why. I got sprayed for some reason, frown. But I'm praying I get in, because if I do, then I'm deaf going. It's by far my favorite. Like, you did not ask. It's by far my favorite, and it would be literally insane to live there. I definitely want to find some friends to enjoy it with. Smile. I'd love to get to know ya, so feel free to add me on Snap or anything. Really normal. Why? Why wouldn't my friends...

When I said, hi, don't worry, my friend got deferred too. Oh, as if I'm so fucking scholarly. Yeah.

Me, the only reason I got in is because I applied ED. Don't worry, my friend got deferred too. For some reason, all the overqualified people did, but you will def get in still. Look at me being... Wow, you're so supportive. I thought the overqualified people didn't get in. Here's my Snapchat. I'd love to be friends. Hey, yeah, I was honestly so confused that I came in fully expecting to get in because I was well past. She's giving me her whole life story. Because I was well past all the requirements.

Kristen would like to have a word with the University of Miami. She was well qualified to be here. I was well past all the requirements. I will never forget. I...

Was Snapchatting Hannah? You were the only person I talked to before coming here. Well, yeah, Anna and I went to high school together for a little background on that. I would Snapchat Hannah and I was like, oh, I already have a roommate. And Hannah was like late to the game, of course. And she's like, wait, just ditch her. Like, just like, why can't you ditch her and just live like live with me? And I was like, I don't think I can like morally do that. Like we've been signed up. We like bought our dorm furniture together. And she's like, it's fine. Okay.

Okay, to be fair, I was half joking, half. We had like a vibe going on. Yeah, we like immediately clicked. So we had this like weird Snapchat relationship. And... We literally dated. We literally dated. And then I'm in Bed Bath & Beyond with my mom. And I see this girl and her mom and it's Hannah. And I'm shaking. I'm like, mom, that's that girl I've been telling you about. Like, we're going to be really good friends, but I don't want this to be weird. And she's like, go say hi. I'm like...

okay i'm like hi we're like buying our dorm sheets and i'm like hey and i'm like squeezing my mom's hand i'm like mom this is like this is like a cool girl like i this is like someone i need to be friends with and it was like the scariest thing ever and like we're in bed bath and beyond with our moms and like red and shaking and literally it's just weird to think back on like

how nervous you are to first meet someone and then everything just turns out fine. I have a very vivid memory of sitting in Brooke and Anna's dorm one morning and I was trying to get involved on campus and I was like, do you guys know if there are any like clubs at this school? And Anna was like, no, you obviously have to leave campus to go clubbing. Oh, wait. And I was like...

I fully thought she was asking if there's any going out clubs on the UM campus. I totally forgot. So freshman year in the dorms, they hang flyers all around campus for different clubs and activities. There was one specific activity that caught Hannah's eye that we spent a full on two weeks. Oh, more than that, like a month. Preparing for this event. This was the biggest deal ever at the time. Hannah? Hannah?

So I'm walking in and I see this poster and it's like, um, to try out for our mascot, Sebastian, the Ibis. Go Canes. Go Canes. Go Seve. Um,

And I turned to Brooke and I'm like, that would be just so funny. Like that would just be like a little bit if I just tried out for Sebastian. Like obviously I'm not going to get it. Normal. Just a fun little after school activity. It was for the bit. And so then it became more than a bit, I think. Then it got really serious. Then I got competitive about it and we made a whole dance together.

choreographed like a full full tryout dance yeah because Brooke used to cheerlead so she did my whole dance for me she did my whole audio for me I have so many videos of Hannah doing her dance what is it I just wanna rolly rolly rolly with a I remember the entire dance she performed this for us like

The week leading up, like three times a day, the week leading up to this tryout. I went to the audition, Brooke took me, and I wanted her to come into the audition to get a video of me trying out for the bit. Like, yeah, so...

Yeah, and then they told her that she couldn't come in, so I'm like... Wait, they took my phone, put it in a locked locker, literally made me sit in the locker room just staring at the wall, and I was like, okay, good luck in there. It's secret who the school mascot is. They don't know until graduation. They don't tell you. So I walk out in full suit. I have this massive bird head on, and I'm like, what am I doing? What am I doing here?

But then they asked me to do like the football run out. So I had to sprint with like an American flag in my hand. I had to do my my rolly dance. Yeah, the cane spell out. And I practiced that so many times, so many times. I left there and I'm like, well, that was like a funny joke, whatever. Never going to get it.

We get a call two weeks later. We were sitting in Alex's room. Yeah, I'm in Alex's bed. And I get a call and I'm like, who is this number? Like, what's going on? I pick up and they're like, Hannah, are you with anyone right now? Obviously, I'm like, no. We're doing this exact same thing right now. It's on speaker. And he goes, I just wanted to let you know, you are Sebastian. And he's like, do you accept? And I was like, looking around, they're all like,

yes yes except except except yeah and then after all of everyone was chanting like you're sebastian the ibis now we had a party so imagine freshman year of college one of these girls you just meet in the first few weeks becomes your school mascot okay she's walking around campus and like we know when she's going to be on campus we know where she's going to be you remember you had like

to go cheer at like the pool the swim meet and you brought me in and like I got to go into like the Sebastian suite or whatever where they're like taking off their heads of the mascot and like I got to meet the other Sebastians and they were like you're not going to tell anyone right and you were like no I was like no but now I'm going to tell it on this podcast

random but for some reason even though like posing with you on campus and running into hannah sebastian was hilarious for some reason my favorite like whole thing of the situation was the fact that after you would wear it you would have to wash it in the middle of the night because it was a secret and because we're in these freshman dorms that had like communal um yeah so

They wouldn't let me wash it unless it was 2 a.m. So I would set an alarm, I would trudge downstairs holding this giant duck suit or Ibis suit, sorry, and wash it at 2 in the morning. And that was when it was quick for me. How did it feel to be in that suit? Sweaty. Gross. Disgusting. Especially in Miami, like that has to be hot. Yeah, when we had to walk outside and do anything outside, it was just vile. And so that's why three weeks later it was...

It was raps. Do you guys remember, like, the first night that we went out, like, that first pregame, we didn't even know where to, like, put the destination in the Uber, so we just, like, hopped in people's Ubers. I have, like, videos of me, like, just, like, sitting on, like, people we're friends with now's lap, but we had no idea then. We literally just dove in their Uber, and we're like, okay, we're just going where you guys are going. Everyone was so clueless in, like, figuring it out together. I think Hannah has a good story about putting the wrong destination in an Uber. So...

This is our favorite college story ever. So it is the first day of college. I am a freshman. I have no idea what I'm doing. And after a night out, I decided to put school into my Uber destination. And I thought I was set. I thought I was going home to the dorms.

And lo and behold, I jump out of my Uber and I'm like, great. I see a swimming pool. We have a swimming pool on campus. I see big buildings. I'm like, made it home. Great. Now I'm walking around for five to ten minutes and I cannot see the freshman dorms. I'm really struggling. So I call Anna, who was my friend in high school and like one of the only numbers I had at this point. And...

I was like, Anna, I'm walking past the pool. I know the freshman dorms are supposed to be right there. Like, I cannot find them. And she goes, it's like late. So she's like...

Hannah, just you're right there. Like, just keep across the bridge and you'll find it. I'm like, OK, like there's no bridge, but I'm sure I'm so sorry. No, she hung up. She hung up. I try to go to call her back and my phone dies. So I am now stranded here. But based on what she said, I should be right by the dorms. I have done 20 laps at this point around this school.

I'm hopping fences. I had little cheetah booties on and the heel of those cheetah booties, I hope is still impaled on that fence. So I'm now hobbling at this point. I am close to tears, but I'm like, hold it together. Like it has to be somewhere. It has to be somewhere. Two hours later, I've given up hope. I'm a lost soul at this point.

I am just accepting my fate. So I find a nice little spot under the bleachers. It had a little mattress. It was like a football pad, whatever. What are they called? You slept under the bleachers? Yeah. Yeah. Well, not slept. I started to curl up at this point. And cry? I was full sobbing. This was my cry spot. And I was like, I'll just wait until students wake up in the morning and I'll cry.

I will be in my little denim skirt and my botched booties, and I will ask them how to get to the freshman dorms. So I see this light, and I'm like, God? But no, it is a maintenance truck, and it says University of Miami on the side. So I run up to him, mascara is all over my face. I'm like, can you please tell me how to get to the freshman dorms? And he's like, this is a middle school campus. Oh.

what are you doing here? At that point, I'm in hysterics and I'm like, you need to help me get back, whatever. Do we know what middle school you were at? No.

We've tried finding it like multiple times, like trying it on Google Maps. We have no it's like a glitch in the system. Yeah, maybe. So Hannah, one of the first nights of college, fully slept at a middle school under the bleachers. And then the next morning. So this is my first impression of Hannah. Like she knew Anna from high school, but I did not know Hannah at all. And she is body slamming on our dorm at seven in the morning.

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The pool parties, it is just a bikini and sneakers. Like, no sarong. And you get into an Uber like that. Like, the Uber drivers are just, like, used to it, I guess. Like, you were just basically naked walking around everywhere. So, like, the apartment buildings near us, the dorms, like, it's just used to... That one Chipotle after pool day. Oh, Chipotle Shake Shack.

The Chipotle on South Dixie Highway has naked girls coming in after every pool party. Every Saturday. Every tailgate. On Saturdays, it's always either a tailgate or a pool party, but also on Saturdays at UM, there's tours. So like six,

16, 17-year-olds are with their moms and dads, like, looking around the gorgeous campus, and then they're just seeing us, like, double-cheeked up, running out with, like, water bottles and Gatorade. It's like... Okay, but if I was, like, those 16- and 17-year-old girls, I'd be like, I want...

I want to go there. I want to go to there. I think my high school friends probably hated me because of how much I talked about Miami. Like, I could not shut up about how much I loved the school, loved my friends, like, loved everything we were doing. And, like, I literally just loved all four years so much. I remember some of my high school friends, like, talking about feeling homesick that first semester. I not once thought about my family. I did not miss home.

anything at home. Like, this was my new home and it was, oh my god, it was amazing. Did we peak? Life gone downhill? We should go around now and give a piece of advice or something that we've taken from freshman year and want to say to them now. Like, anyone that's going into freshman year now, just know that, like,

you're gonna find the right people and it might take time but like we just got very lucky the first week there were so many like points where i can think of where like it was like there was a little bit of awkwardness or like funniness like where we would just like we were all a

I think one of the reasons why we're all so close is because we're really good at laughing at each other and laughing at ourselves. And we were doing that from like the second we got there. It's very scary and it's very hard to put yourself out there, but you like have to make yourself like I was literally scared of my own shadow. Chris and

I was like very, very shy freshman year. I was like painfully shy. I did not know a soul at Miami. I had no roommate. And like all of like our friends were like buddied up with the roommates. Like regardless, you guys like stuck by me. You waited for me to get out of my shell. Our little butterfly. You did get out of your shell. My advice would be to make sure that you put the right location into your Ubers.

And also just like don't, this sounds so cliche, but like don't be afraid to be yourself. I remember there were even moments where like something like trying out for Sebastian, I was like, are people going to think I'm like weird like and not think this is like funny the way that I think it's funny? Yeah, we did. Thank you.

weird. Yeah. But also like looking back now, like I was doing exactly what I wanted to be doing. Like I was being like myself. My advice for freshmen would be to trust the process because a lot of what we're saying right now is first semester. And we did have the best time and I met really good girls. But something happened where I was this close to transferring and

And we're going to get into that next episode, but trust the process.

My friends left, we had a fun little girls night, we had sushi on the floor of my living room. We don't have any furniture yet so we literally just sat in a circle and ate dinner together. That was so fun, I'm so happy you guys got to meet them but now it's time to un-get ready with me. If you follow me on TikTok you probably see me doing these get ready with me videos but basically I'm doing my makeup while I'm telling you where I'm going and what I'm doing. But I never really get to sit with you guys and tell you about what happened

after I get ready. So that's what this segment is gonna be about. You guys have gotten ready with me, but now it's time to get real with me. In the fall of last year, one of my like big get ready with me's was that I was going to this celebrity's birthday party. Get ready with me to go out on a Monday night. My friend called me. She was like, "It's blah blah blah's birthday. We're going out." I tried to be so like nonchalant and cool on TikTok.

But basically this was the first time I ever had like paparazzi take a photo of me the first time I ever was recognized and It was Drake's birthday party. All the articles that came out after Drake's birthday party had this photo of me I'm wearing this orange outfit and I was like, yeah I was there like that was like my first time being in any type of news or anything I thought it was like the coolest thing ever and I made a whole get ready with me all the comments were like Wow, she was at Drake's birthday party. That's so cool well

I have to let you guys in on a little secret. Not everything you see online is real. I never got into Drake's birthday party. So let's start from the beginning of the night. We got invited to this birthday party through some other guy that we know and I'm getting ready. I'm freaking out.

Because this is Drake's birthday party, like I know cool people are gonna be there so I don't know what I'm wearing. I literally have a photo of me trying to find an outfit to wear and I have my clothes spread out on the bed, spread out on the floor. I'm like sprawled out. I'm trying to find the hottest outfit. I'm like this has to be the best I've ever looked in my entire life. So we get ready, we go in the Uber. It's me and my one friend and we show up to this party.

We're standing outside. It's at a restaurant in Miami. They had rented it out. And of course, there's like a ton of bodyguards and there's a ton of girls waiting outside. I see people like pulling up in their cars. The paparazzi is taking pictures of them and they're just like walking right in. I'm like, OK, we're just going to follow suit. We're going to do the same thing. This was the most

embarrassing experience of my life because we go up to the door and the guy who was supposed to get us in literally just did not care and was ignoring us. He was in the party so we're trying to tell this bouncer like, "Hey, we're supposed to be here. We're on some type of list." He's like, "I don't care." This bouncer would not even acknowledge our existence. He was not... I'm like, "Suh-huh."

he's looking the other way as if I'm not there and I mean mind you this is like not like oh we didn't get in and we left we sat there for like three hours outside this party because I was like we have to get in like we'll find a way to get in like sometimes this happens like during the beginning of the night when everyone's showing up like it's stressful but like we'll get in but basically we're seeing girls from

my school just like walk in with these promoters or whatever and they're getting right in and I'm standing there like my feet are killing me. I was in these heels. Oh my god, I remember I was like I think my feet are bleeding right now because we had been standing outside this party for so long and maybe like 30 minutes after standing there this paparazzi comes up to me and he's like, oh, are you Alex from TikTok? And this is like

beginning of October last year. No one's ever said that to me before. I had a few hundred thousand followers on TikTok and I've never been like recognized like that so I was like yeah I guess and he's like oh okay like I'm just gonna take some photos of you. I'm awkwardly like walking in these photos. I'm sweating. It's so awkward. Still to this day I don't understand it. I'm like where are you supposed to walk? Where are you supposed to look? Like it's just it's so awkward for me.

But basically he takes these photos and somehow these are the ones that end up on like, if you look up Drake's birthday party 2022 in Miami, like you're going to see the photos of me in this orange outfit. After this guy takes photos of me, I'm like, okay, well we for sure have to get in now. Like, because maybe these people will be like, oh wow, like these are some cool people. Like we have to let them in. So me and my orange suit limping up to the door because my feet hurt so bad. I go up to the bouncer. I'm like, hi, like,

"Maybe now you know me, like I'm supposed to be in there." He's like literally looks at me and just looks right away and I'm like, "Oh my god." So we were so determined to try and get into this party because we're seeing people we know from our school getting in there and we had already told everyone that we're going to Drake's birthday party. So we stood outside for like, it was like a total of three hours.

I think the party was literally over and I remember being so confused when I saw these news headlines coming out and I was like the one photographed there and the only reason I was probably on those photos is because I was outside of the party for the entirety of it so he was able to get shots of me. But basically after three hours of waiting outside we awkwardly like went around the corner like we were just we didn't know what to do

And we were like, it's time to go home. The party's over. People are leaving the party now and we're still trying to get in.

So we call our Uber home and I'm looking at the get ready with me that I posted on the way to the party. And everyone's like, oh my God, she's... Because I didn't say Drake's birthday party in the video, but I kind of figured people would probably figure it out and put it together. So everyone's like, oh my God, wow, she's at Drake's birthday party. This is so cool. This is so cool. And I'm reading these comments and I'm like, oh my God, do I tell them? I didn't even get in.

And then these articles come out and then I'm I wanted to post the picture that this paparazzi took so I literally never said anything and I just was like, yeah, okay Like yeah, I was at Drake's birthday party. It was so cool. So fun. Like I had the best time ever

I know sometimes everything on social media looks super glamorous and that's why I decided to get on here, talk to you guys, tell you the behind the scenes because I have so many more stories. I also want to hear from you guys about what Get Ready With Me's you guys have seen in the past and stories you want to hear from those nights because I have a ton. We have one more thing to go over before this episode ends.

If you watched the last episode of Call Her Daddy, you know what I'm talking about. But if you don't, basically, we have to go save my nudes. So I lived in a college house my senior year. We lived six girls and we had this smart fridge. This fridge is probably like the only nice gadget that we had in the house. So we thought it'd be funny if we did photos of the week. So like

These photos were basically what you would upload to maybe your private private story. No one was supposed to see these photos besides the six of us. We uploaded our nudes on there, us funny being drunk, we have story times on there. I don't even know what we have on there, but from what we can remember, it's not good.

And we left, we graduated, we quickly packed to go to Europe and we did not delete the photos on the fridge. So now this group of frat guys has moved into the house and these guys are like, what are these photos on the fridge? Code.

Code red. We are like calling each other. We're like, oh my god all of our photos These guys have access to and this is like a frat house in college Like you know that these guys are going to be throwing parties like you know It's going to be a very social house people are going over there and i'm like we need to go save the nudes so

Alex is in Miami. I asked her for help because I'm like, if there's anyone that has the confidence to walk in that house and get those photos, I'm like, it's her. So I'm bringing her with me. We're going to Casa Amor, my college house, and we are going to delete the photos on the fridge.

I also have not been back to this part of Miami yet. Like that's Coral Gables. That's where campus is. That was my whole past four years of my life. So I am going to be super emotional when we go over there. Like I have not stepped foot there.

By campus. I'm not seeing our house. We literally graduated and left. I'm i'm so nervous like I i'm freaking out I can't imagine walking back into that house and it's gonna be boyified like it's gonna it's just gonna be so frat and oh my god The other girls live in new york besides me and kristin. So like we owe it to them We have to be good friends. We have to get these photos deleted and

and we have to do it now because school is starting. They're gonna start having people over, so let's go.

Layout for me like what is the blueprint? What is the layout of our home so we know we're walking into let's go. Okay So here's the front door. This is like a little room you make a quick left This is the living room you walk past don't go in the master walk past here into this is the kitchen This is the fridge that we need to infiltrate. This is the fridge. You can basically go to a big long circle Yeah, so we have a long way to go to get to the fucking pizza aka the fridge aka the noobs

Well, finish your pizza and let's go. We're coming for you, boys. Coming up here at this street is like the main entrance to the campus. You'll see the big University of Miami sign. These girls are probably going to school. I love you. We're nearing like three or four minutes, guys. Oh, no!

They're never gonna get me to leave. Wait, this is new. I'm actually like gonna start like freaking out. Like this road even. Oh my gosh, we're getting on! Guys, I have butterflies in my stomach. Can we even pull in? Should we actually just drive by? I think you just fucking pull in. Like just go for it. Oh my god, stop. This is so funny.

There's grass! We didn't have grass like this! When did they get grass? Well we got charged a thousand dollars for fucking up the grass. Oh. So what the fuck do we do? Wait, okay, quick. They're probably like, "Who the fuck is here?" Okay, so, so, so... I see the front door, we just have to infiltrate. We're just gonna say, "Hi." Where's the tequila? Tequila?

Holy f**k. Alex, Alex, put it in your pocket. I'm literally shaking. What is that? Oh my god, it's fratified. It's fratified. No, I'm not ready. I'm gonna throw up. Here we go. What is this? Hi! I just wanted to give you guys a housewarming gift. We used to live here. Come in. Oh, thank you! Hi, guys! Hi! Hi!

Wait, you guys. It looks so different. I love what you've done with the place. It's so beautiful. Do you mind if we look at Alex's room? Yeah. Did you know that she lived here before? I've never heard. You've heard? Yeah.

Wow! This is honestly a lot nicer than my room was. So that's where your makeup station was? Get ready with me station was. This is where the magic happened. And then my bed was here and my closet was like on this wall and this wall and in there. I'm going to go put this in here for you guys. Thanks for letting us just look around. The smart fridge is great. Oh yeah! I forgot about the fridge! Oh my god!

Oh my god, that's such a cool... Wow, this is so nice. Kristen. Kristen. Kristen. Do you want to... No, no, no. I'm just going to stand here and make sure no one touches my girls as they get the job done. Just going to go distract you guys. Do your thing, okay? It's going to pour shots for the boys. Oh.

They're done. They're gone. They're gone. Thank you guys so much for letting us come. We really appreciate it. Have a great time in college.

all the pictures are gone we did it we deleted everything they were kind of worse when they thought so i'm happy that we did this i'm not gonna lie i didn't really actually anticipate to see nipple we saw nipple yeah way to go bad on there don't worry guys i got you all of our news are gone and that's a wrap that's a wrap thank god we deleted those photos off the fridge because i am looking through my snapchat right now and look at who's having a pool party

And this is a silly week pool party. So this means that every girl in the entire school is going to be there. Bikinis and sneakers. So silly week is basically when it's the first week of classes. And the only thing you do is basically go in, they give you the syllabus and then you get to leave. So like you don't actually have to be paying attention yet or you don't have to like be okay for classes. So you can be hungover. So that's why everyone parties this week. Look at the setup they have in our backyard.

It's completely frat pool party-ified. There's going to be hundreds of girls in this house today. If we did not delete those photos, they would be everywhere. So that's why it was so important that we went and got those photos. So I hope you guys enjoyed this first episode.

I'm still trying to figure this out. But at the end of every episode, I want to do a segment called What Would Alex Do? So I'm going to have a link for you guys to write in questions and I can give you advice, even though maybe advice is the wrong word. I don't know if I give the best advice, but I'm just going to tell you what Alex would do. So write in your questions. Hope you guys liked it. I'll see you guys next Thursday. Look at my bed. I have spillage everywhere.

We're not doing great. Bye. Oh, that was cool.