222: Can You Clock It? Ft. Justin Sylvester
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with code 2HOTTAKES. Always use as directed. You forgot to press record! Who's the freaking mess today? Me. Bitch, check everything in here. Check everything in here. Where'd you go this weekend? I went to Nashville for work and I came back with two brain cells. You got lit. Not really. I was actually like on my best behavior. And then Saturday I had a friend's birthday and that probably, that's what did me in. How old are you?

I almost said 29. I'm 31. Drinking at 31 is different. I can't do it anymore. I had four drinks and I'm still hungover. Drinking in your 30s and I'm 38, it only gets worse. I'm just going to let you know. I like have been so bad. I've like had to get IVs lately. No, I'm telling you. You're going to be negotiating with yourself. Like when I meet people who are in their 40s who are like, oh, I don't drink anymore. Yeah.

My body doesn't agree with it. And I'm from South Louisiana. We drink for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Yeah. So now when I meet people, I'm like, oh, I'm now that girl. I'm like negotiating with myself that I won't drink in my 40s because your body is like, oh, get that out of me. Or it sits on your brain for like more than you want it to. It's just not worth it anymore. And by the way, one glass of wine and I'm like, this is good. I was about to say the same thing. We're good. Two glasses of wine, honey. And I'm at the ER.

I'm hitting my deductible. Oh, my gosh. Okay, well, I'll tell you guys right now. The beginning of this was absolutely magical. Absolutely magical. You missed so much. But essentially, we've got Justin Sylvester joining us today. The most banterful. Like, I've never had someone come in and just like, yes, you're just hitting it. And Justin came highly recommended from Rachel Lindsay, who I just, we love. We've already hit this, too. She's my first phone call of the day.

I'm so jealous. I know. Every morning. Oh my God. Literally. She's like my first phone call. I literally, you are so cool too. You have like a group chat with your psychic. Oh yeah. How do I get in on this? I'm like, is she good? Oh my God. I have two. Who have you connected with? I have one that's like really scary. Like scary good. Scary good. Like she will not sugarcoat shit and she is like to the point. And

And I do what I call drive-by readings where they're like 15 minutes, 20 minutes. Okay. Because I can't do a full hour because Gina Torres, Tarot Your Life, shout out to Gina, is phenomenal. And she is exceptionally priced.

I love this woman. Yeah. But I talk to her all the time. And I put people on text threads with her. And then I have another one that's like deep and full and like you only do it once every nine months. Because it's just so much. It's so much to take in. But I record them and I listen to them throughout the year. So you take it all in. Like because it's hard to grasp everything in one like sit down call reading. Yeah. You like need more time to process. That's smart. You need more time to process. Yeah. But yeah, I'm like my psychic is that bitch is at my wedding. She might be a bridesmaid. Oh.

Oh, my God. Yeah. Okay. I need a good psychic. I've got a girl, Martina, who reads tarot for us. But, like, I feel like I just need – I need someone – You need someone deep. That can go real deep with me. No, it's crazy. I'm like, what is all this? I've got a good lady. What is life? Okay.

By the way, get married first. Okay. Go through your wedding first. Just go through your wedding first. Just in case they're like, what are you doing? Just in case. You never know. You never know. No, he's an angel. He is like, oh my God. Just, he's really special. You got 30 days.

Money back guarantee. You can return that motherfucker in 30 days. That's the annulment rules. Yes. You're good. I love it. Jocelyn, is there anything else my people should know about you? I mean, you started on Real Housewives working for like Kyle Richards. Kyle Richards for five years. Five? Five years. Holy smokes. Seasons one through five. I took a break at season four. That one was crazy. But yeah, five years. But we've been friends for almost 16. Wow.

Wow. It was my first job in LA when I moved back the second time. Wow. Yeah, it was crazy. It was wild. And then you're like on E? Yeah. So I went and I did Real Housewives for five seasons. You barely will see me on the show because I was hiding from the camera the whole time. Ugh. And it was-

It was just fun to like watch it all happen from behind the scenes. Because that was like kind of when it was like really starting and blowing up. It was the craziest time because everybody was waiting for Beverly Hills. And before people were like, you know, there wasn't like reality TV bloggers. There wasn't like Instagrams that were devoted just to housewives. So everyone like Beverly Hills was a secret for the longest time. It was a really good kept secret.

So when people realized that Beverly Hills was coming, they freaked out. So there was all this pandemonium around it. And we had been filming for three months before anyone found out. And it just was amazing. But I knew that I wanted to be in front of the camera and I knew I wanted to be a host.

So I just kind of sort of did little things here and there to try to figure it out. And I got my big break at E almost nine and a half years ago. So amazing. So it's been really wild. So amazing. You've been on the Today Show quite a bit, which by far, like my favorite co-host, the chemistry you have with Jenna is just like unreal. Oh, you put two Southern girls together. Yeah.

We're going to tear it up. It's so good. It's Texas and Louisiana, and we're boots on the ground, and we're just having the best time. And, you know, for me, going into a show, I did Daily Pop for five years at E. I sat across from Morgan Stewart, Kat Sadler, Carissa Cullinan, Loni Love.

And my favorite times were bringing the best out of them. You know, like we just had a good time, but I wanted, that's all I ever wanted was to bring the best out of them because I know how funny they are and how on point they were. And for me, I think Jenna brings out the best in me and I bring out the best in her and you can't ask for anything.

anything different it's so good it's actually making me want to watch the today show i'm like wait am i i feel like i'm missing out like when i see the clips i'm like okay i'm having fomo no no this is so good i need to watch the today show no and she's like she's on a stride like the fourth hour right now is totally different from what it was before yeah i think she's really on to something and people should tune in it's great

I love it. It's great. You're great, though. Everybody, you're in for a treat today. We started this off. I'm the messy one. But it is very clear out of everything I've watched of Justin's that, like, he can clock a mess. Two seconds. I can clock a mess. I can clock a mess in my street. I can clock a mess while in rim for six hours. That's how good I am. But it's because I was a mess. I'm a reformed mess. Okay.

Reformed. Reformed. I'm working on that. We'll chat soon, but I know you're going to be good with these ones today. Let's talk. Okay, let's dive in. ♪♪♪

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Speaking of your Today co-host, you guys went to Beyonce together, didn't you? We did. Life-changing. Crazy. I was bawling the whole show. I'm like, this is just beautiful. It's like the messaging. I'm like, it's loud and clear. It's just powerful. It was crazy. It's so good. Are you a Beyonce girly? I have always been a light fan, but I'm not a part of the beehive. But after this show, I'm like,

bow down. It's crazy, right? Yeah. I have no words. You look at this woman and you're like, you've been doing this for 30 years and you're at the top of your game. I know. How is that even possible? This is the best I think she's been. The best she's ever been. And shout out to the Napo babies because I gotta tell y'all,

Y'all are really doing some good shit right now. Like Patrick Schwarzenegger is really killing it on White Lotus. But the way Blue Ivy is coming through...

She is the cutest and the girl can dance. She can dance. And what I love about it is that girl goes to rehearsals without her mother. Oh, my God. Like when the dancers are all meeting up, she is with them. She is in the pact. She's putting in the time. And I would be afraid to go to my school and have to go behind her after. What did you do this summer?

Because you know she's going to tell everybody she went on tour with her mother. There's no way. There's no way. There's no way. I'd go home sick. I'd go home sick. I'd be out. I'd be like, I'm done. Girl down. No. We were kind of off to the side so I could see her as she was like tromping down and then like went in the hole in like the stage or something to go change or do whatever. I'm like, she is just so confident. I'm like, it's so sassy. It's amazing. You saw it here. I did. And I'm like, I got to find a way to see it again. You had to see it again. It's just so good. Because she's a perfectionist.

So when you see it early in the show, it's a whole different show by the time it ends. I'm going to go to Allegiant Field in Las Vegas. Okay, that's the one I'm thinking of. Yeah, I'm going to go like one of the last ones. Yeah, I'm going to go on the last run because baby girl is going to be on it. Okay, she's gonna be high as a kite. And she's going to be hungry. So you have to see her when she's hungry. At the end, she's like starving. All she wants is a steak.

But no, you have to see her again. She's awesome. It's so good. So this first story I have for you is a Beyonce story. Oh, tell me. So this is coming from AITAH. It is 21 days old. Titled, Am I the asshole for missing my niece's first birthday party to see Beyonce? Yes. Okay. I'm going to give you more details, okay?

I got the tickets before my sister chose the date. Even if I'm there for a couple of hours, I'd be cutting it close, battling the traffic on a regular day, let alone on a day where Beyonce is performing. It's not worth it to drive two plus hours out there and barely see my niece because both sides of the family are there and friends. And let's be real. She's one.

She's not even going to remember. She'll still get all the gifts from me. When she's old enough to understand, I'll happily explain to her. We have a bond already. I know she would be mad if I risked missing any part of the Cowboy Carter experience for her first birthday. Is this coming from Olivia Coppola's sister? You know they have that drama going on right now about that baby shower. I...

Oh my God, no. I saw her post something where she was like, thank God my niece looks like my brother. Culpo jeans strong. Like some crazy stuff. It's wild. What's AGT? ATT? Am I the asshole? I think you are. Yeah. I think you are because first and foremost, Beyonce was multi-nights. So you could have sold your tickets and got tickets for a different night. Or you could have invited your sister and made her move that party. Yeah.

And been the hero. But I think, again, it's not about the baby. I think it's more about your sister. You know, she raised this kid for a year. She carried it for nine months. This is her moment to show it off and to have a celebration. She's out of the woods finally. And by the way, she just wants her family to be there. Yeah. Now, I would have been the asshole too and just went to Beyonce. But I'm gay. You know, we get passes. The gay people get passes. I was

I was going to say you are so empathetic because hell no. I'm going to the concert. This one-year-old, I'll throw, I will literally, I'll go to the dollar store. I'll get decorations. I'll throw another party just for me and this baby. Like two, you get two little one. I'm not missing that. Do you have sisters? I do. You just sign up for different things. Imagine if you would have an impromptu bridal shower and your sister didn't show up.

Because she had to go to Beyonce. How would you feel? I get it. Would you really? You go, girl. Yeah.

I'm like not bridezilla at all. Like the one thing I've done is like on my wedding website, I literally put in writing, don't wear white. Stop. Yeah, because I'm like there's – I know someone's going to do it still. You still have to tell people that in 2025? Yeah. By the way, it would be me. I would show up in a white suit. Custom. Well, gay weddings have different rules too. Like my friend Chris went to a wedding and he wore like a white – they had like white themes. Oh, gays don't give up. You know what? The gays –

As high maintenance as we are about these things, we really don't care. Like, we don't care if you come to the birthday party. We don't care if you show up to the wedding in white. We just care about the gifts. Okay? We are very materialistic. We love our shit. So if I say I want a blue La Crusette that's $475, please run me the La Crusette in your white gown. Okay. They have them on sale right now at HomeGoods and T.J. Maxx. Are they really on sale? Uh-huh. But don't buy your own stuff.

Well, yeah. This is what a wedding's for. But then you just have to like buy it and then tell someone be like, hey, I want this for my birthday. Like you just, mommy. That's what I do with my mom. She's like, what can I get you? And I'm like, I want a vacuum cleaner. And she's like, I'm not getting that. I'm like, well, that's all I want. Where did you guys register?

We did our website on Zola. Nice. And we're just doing like buy us our first meal on our honeymoon. It's like kind of a cash fund, but like it makes people feel like they're giving you stuff. And then like on our thank yous, we'll be like, thank you for our first dinner. We went to here and had this and make them feel like, yeah. I just feel like we were like already in our home and like we have enough stuff. So it's more about like the experiences. Like if someone wants to buy us dance lessons, they can buy us dance lessons.

Yeah. Let me give you a little hint too. Okay. For your next wedding. Okay. If you go to Gary's or like any like fancy store, like in Beverly Hills that sells like China and all these other things, you can go ahead and tell them that you're going to register for all these things. People can buy it. Yeah. And then you can get a credit to said store. So if you ever want a Rolex or a watch or something really fancy, you can put all that money towards something that you really want. What?

What? Yeah, it's crazy. A lot of times when you get invites. Okay, that's a hack. Yeah, a lot of times when you get invites from like, and the registry is for these fancy ass stores. Yeah. These people don't want a $38 spoon or a $275 cake cutter. Is that what, this is what's happening? Yeah, that's all they want is a $275 to put towards a watch. And they got some good shit at Gary's. Okay, I've never been.

You're just telling me about all the bougie things today. Yeah. All the bougie things. Yeah, yeah. So you think you're the asshole on this one? I think you're the asshole on this one. You and your sister's going to make you pay for it for at least a quarter. You're probably not going to hear the end of it. Oh, no, no. You're probably not going to get invited to the second birthday. But let's be real. You're having kids, right? That's the plan. The first birthdays are not really for the kids. Yeah. They're more for, like, the mom to flex against the other moms. Yeah.

No, I'm dead serious. The mom flex is like a real thing. Oh my God. I'm so excited. Oh, the mom flex is real because they all try to outdo one another. It's like super sweet 16, but for moms. Oh my gosh. I'm telling you. This is going to be so fun. It's going to be so fun. Okay. Congratulations.

So overall vote on this one. Not the asshole. Damn. Yeah. Top comment. Not the asshole. Are they having her party on her actual birthday? If no, definitely more of a reason that you are not the asshole. Ooh.

Who's your audience? Well, this is Reddit. That's crazy. So I don't know. We might have to put this. We can put one of the stories today to the people and let them vote. Okay, let's see which one. We'll see which one by the end. But next comment down. That party is for the parents, not the kid. And if someone cares their aunt didn't go to their one-year-old birthday party, they have other issues to deal with. Oof. It's more about the sisters.

It's the thing. Yeah. If it was your cousin, if it was like brother, sister would be a totally different thing. But two girls, it's like a whole different ballgame. Yeah. You know what I mean? I know. Me and my little sister have an eight year age gap. Me and my older brother have an eight year age gap. And then my.

Yeah.

But yeah, I'm like, I miss everything as it is. So like, hey, what's one more birthday for Beyonce concert? Yeah. I saw a meme the other day that was like, you remember that aunt who was rich and just traveled and drank all over the world? Congratulations, you have become her. And I'm like, oh my God, I'm that girl. That's you. I'm that girl. Yeah. What were you talking about? Saint Tropez? Yes. Yeah, that's you. That's me all the way. God, I'm so happy I don't have to have kids. I like, I'm terrified of childbirth.

I actually don't think it's going to be that terrible. It's not horrible. I've been with two of my friends when they've had kids and they block it out.

It's like they have blacked out. They don't remember anything. It's wild. I saw this girl's TikTok story and she gave it to you straight and she had some crazy birth experience. Did she shit on herself? No, that's like I'm happy to shit on myself if I can avoid whatever she went through. Like, oh, my God, the vacuum, the clamps, the forceps, the the cervix balloon. I learned about this one, the Phillips balloon or some shit.

Hell no. Listen, more power to the ladies who have home birth. But when I see a bathtub in a room at your house in Topanga Canyon, I'm like, girl, get out of there. Run. I know. Go to the hospital. You never know what could happen. I want to be in the hospital, but I definitely want to just soak in a tub. Do you really? Yeah. Because, like, water helps. Uh-uh. Not tear. Whoa. I know. There's dolphin-assisted births. Like, I thought about that. Yeah.

No joke. Dolphins. Sonar. Don't do it. No. Do not do it now, girl. Don't do it. Get your ass to the hospital. Get in them forceps. Do it. Just do. Get that baby out. Oh, man. Okay. Moving on to this next one here. We're going to get into a little wedding mess before we move on to other things. This one is coming from Am I the Asshole? It is one day old. Very fresh. Very fresh.

It is titled, Am I the Asshole for Secretly Selling Alcohol at My Dry Wedding to Cover Costs? Prohibition wedding? Yeah.

Prohibition wedding. Keep on going. So I, 27 female, recently got married. My husband, 29 male, and I planned a pretty big wedding, about 300 guests. It was beautiful. Honestly, a dream. There's just one thing. Our families are super conservative and very religious. So we told everyone it would be a dry wedding, aka no alcohol.

That decision kept the peace with our parents and extended family. As we all know, weddings are expensive, and we were footing most of the bill ourselves. I saw an opportunity and took it. I hired a licensed bartender friend of mine to set up a VIP bar hidden at the venue.

It was a large event hall with a garden and private side rooms. I gave a heads up to about 75 of our younger friends and more chill cousins. The alcoholics. And basically had them pay for drinks. Think wedding speakeasy. You said prohibition. I'm loving it.

The drinks were priced reasonably, like $5 a beer, $8 for cocktails. Shut up. And people were happy to pay it because one, open bar weddings are rare in our circle. And two, they thought it was kind of fun. Long story short, between the money from drinks and tips, we made about $2,000. Shut up. Which helped cover part of the catering bill.

The issue is, word got out. No. A few of my aunts overheard someone talking about the secret bar, and now my mom is livid. She says I lied to everyone, disrespected the family, and made a mockery of our values. My mother-in-law also called me manipulative and selfish.

Damn. But honestly, most of our guests didn't even know what happened. And the ones who did loved it. We didn't force anyone to drink. We just gave the option discreetly. My husband is kind of in the middle. He gets why I did it, but wishes I had told him beforehand. Wait, hold on. We're going to call him Jenny and John. Jenny didn't tell John that she was slinging liquor outside like she was on Boardwalk Empire.

I didn't because I knew he'd get stressed and say no out of guilt. They must be Mormon. So am I the asshole for secretly selling alcohol at my wedding to offset the cost? All right, I'm calling this woman Jenny. First of all, Jenny, this is your wedding. You do what you want to do, okay? I can't tell you who to sock it to, but if you want to sell some liquor in the back at a reasonable price, one, I'm not mad at it.

Two, I like that you kept it reasonably priced. Five bucks for a beer. Eight bucks for a cocktail. Not terrible. Not bad. It also is an experience for people to feel like, oh my God, this is a secret. I'm part of something. I kind of love that whole vibe. Maybe I might do something similar to my wedding, but with maybe like, you know, maybe some pot, you know, a little THC or like, you know, a little mushroom bar or something in the back. However,

If you can't afford 300 people at your wedding, you shouldn't have 300 people at your wedding. Yeah. Maybe knock it down to 250 or 225. 300 is crazy. 300 is crazy. But having 300 when you can't afford 300 is my big like, like just knock it down a bit. I know. Also, you got to tell John.

That, I think, is kind of goofy. It's like, you didn't tell your partner. Yeah, you gotta tell John. That is... That's bad. That's bad. I'm like, if you want to have a...

I actually do like it. Do I think the cash and making people pay aspect is a little tacky? Yeah. I mean, you only got $2,000, which is a lot of money. Yeah. But like when you're having a 300-person wedding, two grand isn't – it's a drop in the hat. It's a drop in the hat. It's a drop in the hat. You should have upped the prices. Yeah.

You should have the prices. Honestly, I hate the fact that it was $8 and not just $10. I'm like, why isn't it? Just make it even. Just make it even. Make it even. Have you ever been to a dry wedding? No. Okay. I respect people who want to have dry weddings. Yeah. You know, like if you want to do that, I respect it. I get the conservative. I get the Catholic, Mormon, whatever it is. I totally understand it. And as my friend, I'm going to show up.

I would have appreciated that speakeasy because at dry weddings, you have to try to sneak alcohol in. You have to go to the next reception over to try to get a beer from the, you know, the Markowitz Bar Mitzvah. So having that speakeasy, I think as a guest...

I really would have appreciated it. I think it's a cool experience. And I think it's a good hustle, especially if you made it like, oh, follow this and follow this. Like Alice in Wonderland kind of down the rabbit hole. So I think Jenny was, you know, that was kind of smart.

You know what I mean? I'm just shocked she didn't tell her husband. You know what? Sometimes you gotta just keep some shit from John. It's like, oh my gosh. It's like, it's giving like 50s housewife where they'd get like the Stouffer's lasagna out of the freezer and like put it in their casserole dish then. And it's like, you had a good time. You enjoyed your meal. What's the difference? I used to have a neighbor who was married for 25 years. Wow.

maybe together for 25 years, married for 20. And she, I would see her, we had to share the gate and she would come through my gate and come have a cigarette on my patio, like in the middle of the day. Like I just saw her on my Nest camera.

And I was like, what the hell is going on? Like she would just like during COVID, she would like just come sneak over and come sneak a cigarette and then she would go back. So every like week I would like put an ashtray out or put some matches or like I would like put a glass of like a beer or like a glass of wine. Like, you know, for her to be like, yeah, bitch, I see you. And I went to talk to her and she was like, oh, I have had a cigarette, one cigarette a day for the last 20 years. And my husband has no idea.

Oh, she wears a glove. She does a whole nine yards. She has like a dental pack in the back of that gate. Like she is. Oh, my God. So I understand not telling your husband certain things.

But that's a big one. I would. And see, I would clock that. I smell cigarette. I'm like a little bloodhound dog. Like I smell that shit so fast. Would you clock it? Yeah. I smell everything, unfortunately. By the way, you probably keep things from your man. No. You're pretty. We're yeah, we're very just transparent. We don't have anything. He knows all your purchases.

Yeah. He knows your Amazon addiction. Yeah. Well, I put my Amex card on his Apple Pay in case like my phone dies, you know?

And I need my card still for shopping. And so he now gets notifications every time I go shopping. And he'll clock in and be like, what did you just get at Abercrombie? I'm like, a whole new wardrobe. Delete that card. Delete that card. Don't yell at me. Delete that card. I know. I got to pull it off there. Women have to have a little bit of anonymity. You have to have a tiny bit of anonymity.

of anonymity when it comes to finances. I think you need your own account. Like, you should not. I fully...

To each their own, but if you only have a joint account with your partner, you're a fool. You are a fool. You are a fool. Don't do that. I just saw a study actually. Happy, healthy couples actually have four bank accounts. Yes. You see that? Yes, I saw it. Yeah. It's pretty amazing. Yeah. Joint account for like all of your home expenses, rent, whatever. Joint savings. His, hers, or theirs and theirs, whatever combo. Like,

That's how it should be. That's how it should be. Four counts. Also, like, you know, it's crazy that people automatically and this is a hot take. I think women, straight people do this where they think like, oh, we're getting married. We got to be enjoyed accounts. We got to be in this. We got to be like one sole person.

I love being gay because I know that when I get married or have a partner, I can make up my own rules. Part of the gay experience is that we're all just figuring it out and we've been figuring it out since the 80s and 90s. Yeah. So we don't go back to the 1800s. You know what I mean? Like we just started this whole gay marriage thing in the early 2000s. I mean, 2015, people everywhere. There's just like a lot of...

leeway for us to be ourselves and i'm seeing a lot of younger people starting to you know really take their individuality into a marriage which i like because you have to be individual absolutely i know my um brother and sister-in-law like they only have joint accounts i'm like what you guys are crazy you know nicola pelts and and brooklyn beckham only have joint accounts

I feel like when you're that rich, though. It gets even scarier. I wonder what their prenup is like. I don't think they have one. Actually, you know what they do? Because she's a billionaire. Yeah. I'm like, there's no way her dad would not. Like, it's probably more favorable for her, which. 100%. Which is how prenups should be. No, I'm just kidding.

Now we're really getting into it. Okay. Where do you think the people went on this one? Asshole, not the asshole. I think not the asshole. I think half are going to be asshole because she didn't tell her husband. Yeah. But not the asshole for being creative. It's your wedding. Okay. So overall vote.

No. Asshole. Stop. So top comment with 23,000 upvotes. Stop. You're the asshole. Dude, I was so on board with you. This was a great idea until you neglected to inform your spouse. I know.

If you both had agreed, then frankly, I'd say your conservative family values don't matter. But your spouse's does. Let this be a lesson in marriage for the future. Always consult your partner. The rest of the world can be against you, but you both should always have the other's back. By lying to them, you weren't being a good life partner. All right.

I mean, we're on the same page. We like the creativity, but we hated that she didn't tell John. Yeah. Next comment down. Yeah. Quote, I didn't tell you because I knew you'd say no. It's a bad way to start a marriage. No. I know. I do agree with that. And I also think like if he would have said no, like,

I think it would have like maybe spoke to bigger issues where it's like he's more so aligning with his family versus you guys and what you really want. Yeah. And that could be something to like watch out for in the future. Yeah, but that's a big one. That's like a big one. I still love the secret garden, though.

I'm for it. I'm kind of here for it. I think this is really cool to have, like, I'm, like, thinking about how I can do this for mine, where it's, like, there's a special little activation speakeasy somewhere where it's, like, if you know, you know. Only shots. Like an ice house. Like a little spot where it's, like, you know, 20 degrees in there and you can go and get ice shots or whatever.

That'll be fun. Oh my gosh. There's this bar in Chicago. It's Federales and they have ice shots. So you take your shot out of ice, which makes every shot actually doable. And then you take your shot glass and they have this bell and you try to throw it at the bell and hit it. No. Have you been to Chihuahua Bay? No. What's this one? In Mexico, they have the same thing. Ooh. But you have to get in a bucket. And if you get in the bucket, you get another shot.

I'm curious if there's any comments from OP on this one yet. Just to be like, okay, I hear you guys. No, she ain't coming. No comments. Ginny is not commenting. No comments. I mean, seems like it's a very real account. Like some people kind of always question Reddit stories like, oh, are you sure that one's real? I mean, this account, this person has been on Reddit since 2019. Damn.

Commenting on posts, giving advice regularly. So I would assume this is a very real account, a part of the Six Year Club verified email. I just got on Reddit. This is real. I just got on Reddit. It's a scary place. How are you liking it? Scary? It's rabbit hole-y. Yeah. You can go down some real big rabbit holes. And you know what?

When I'm trying to fight that Ambien at night, Reddit is not a good place for me to be, bitch. I'm like fist fighting. You're setting yourself up. I'm like fist fighting an Ambien trying to stay up and I'm on Reddit trying to figure out like who killed JFK. Like it's like so crazy. The conspiracy subs are dangerous. Yeah, but they're kind of good. Oh my God. Who do you think killed JFK? Oh, I have my theories. Thanks to GBT817. Oh my God. Can you believe?

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Okay, we're going to get to both of these, but which one do you want first? Clowns or a baby shower? Let's do baby shower because clowns scare me. Oh, no. I hate clowns. You're going to love this story then. This is coming from our very own Two Hot Takes subreddit, 17 days old, titled, My husband's family threw a baby shower for his ex and invited me to be the bigger person. Read this story because...

This is crazy. I, 28 female, am currently seven months pregnant with my first baby. My husband, 31 male, and I have been married for almost two years. And everything's been mostly great until this happened.

My husband's ex, let's call her Jess, is pregnant too. They dated for four years and broke up two years before we met. Now she's expecting a baby with someone else. I don't know her personally, but I've heard enough through his family to know that she still talks to his mom and sisters occasionally. Fine, whatever. Last weekend, my mother-in-law invited us over for a family brunch.

I waddled my puffy pregnant self over there expecting waffles. Instead, it was a surprise baby shower for Jess. Stop. Yes, you read that right. The decorations were pink and gold, her name was on a banner, and she showed up 15 minutes after we did.

The worst part, mother-in-law looked me dead in the eyes and said, quote, I hope you don't mind, sweetheart. We didn't want to exclude you, your family now, and it's important to show grace. Show grace? I sat through exactly 12 minutes of small talk, hormones boiling, before quietly excusing myself and driving home. My husband stayed behind because he was too stunned to leave.

He tried to defend them, saying, They were just being kind. Jess doesn't have a lot of support. I'm sorry, but what kind of Twilight Zone logic is that? They could have had a private thing. Why invite me to my husband's ex's baby shower while I'm still trying to feel comfortable in my own changing body? Now his mom's texting me saying, I hope you'll apologize to Jess for making her uncomfortable by leaving early.

Hot take? I'm not apologizing. And I'm definitely not going to another brunch unless I bring a therapist and a flask. Am I the asshole? No. And don't apologize. Hell no. First and foremost, damn, this is a bougie problem.

This sounds like a bougie white lady problem. Like that mama's name is like Barbara. Like she is literally like running the show. Barbara and Jess were really close. And this is more of a control thing than a let's be nice thing. Yeah. Okay. Like just to let you know, like your mother-in-law was putting her dick on the table just to let you know who runs this show here. Yeah. Okay. First of all, she should have let you know.

That's the first and foremost. No one likes surprises like this. This is terrible. It's really, really bad because also, like, our writer is seven months pregnant with their first baby, right? Yeah. If I rolled up and I started seeing balloons and baby decor, I'd be like, oh, my God, they threw a baby shower for me. Boom. It's not for her. It's for the husband's ex. Yeah.

They haven't had a baby shower for her. I don't even care if I was seven months off a cruise ship, okay, looking the best I've ever looked. I don't give a shit. If I walk into my mother-in-law's house and she's throwing a baby shower for my husband's ex...

And didn't tell me or prepare me before. She probably rolled up there in sweats and everything. Like, not even like, you know what I mean? If I'm going to run into my husband's ex, I want to look hot as fuck. I know. She said she waddled. She waddled my puffy pregnant self over there expecting waffles. Oh, and that's the thing. I'm hungry. I'm hangry. And then you spring this on me. And I probably left without a plate. I'm actually impressed she stayed 15 minutes because I wouldn't have stayed 15 seconds.

The real asshole here is the fact that your husband didn't waddle over with you back to the house. That. That. That's what he should have did. The fact he stayed, which is almost like it's sending a message to the family that like, I'm okay with this. I support this.

Fuck my wife. Oh, 100%. What? But by the way, the mom has been pulling this type of inception bullshit since the dawn of time. Yeah. I can go ahead and tell you that her sisters have dealt with this since they were kids. Like, this woman is a control freak.

Yeah, Barbara goes by Babs, trying to maybe secretly get this daughter-in-law she wishes she had back with hubby, keeping her close to the family.

welcoming her jess probably also wore david yerman too and liked barbara and she and barbara had a close relationship and this new wife was probably a little bit spicier and maybe a little bit more opinionated than jess was barbara does not approve barbara does not fully approve and barbara wanted you to know that at the most vulnerable time in your life by the way fuck barbara

When you put it like that, she wanted you to know that at the most vulnerable time of your life. My mother-in-law and I would have fought tooth and nail, okay? Yeah. I'd be swinging today. No, I...

I would have not let this fly. And do not apologize. Not the asshole. Like, I think you honestly have a bigger issue with your husband. And I think this is going to come up again and again with birthday parties, with other life events where, oh, you know, Jess needs to come. She's family. Show some grace. It's like, ma'am, you're going to get cut out if you continue with this behavior. And if the husband doesn't put his foot down and say that and set a boundary, then

you are going to have a really tough go and might have to make some big decisions down the line. By the way, you are so right.

But I think a lot of people, I want like a lightly crispy relationship with my mother-in-law. Just like a slightly crispy one. Just like a little. What is a slightly crispy? This is deep fried. Okay. That's deep fried. You're going to have to let that cool off for like an hour or two before you put it in your mouth. Yeah. Okay. I just want something that's a little bit like you get a pancake and it's just a little bit crispy on the outside. Like, you know, like.

She wants to host Christmas, but I want to host Christmas and it's kind of a standoff, that kind of thing. Maybe she makes like a appropriate comment like, oh, that's a low top today. Like just something like a little light because everyone loves a tiny bit of drama. That shit is deep.

Yeah. Like, I don't want... Have you been reading up on this Victoria Beckham, Nicola Peltz situation? Yeah, I just heard about the private concert. And the wedding. Did you see the whole first dance thing at the wedding? No, with the singer. With Mark Anthony? Yes. Yes. I hope. That's true. That's insane behavior. That is...

Extra crispy. So for those that don't know, give them the lowdown. Okay. So there has been this big rift between the Beckhams and their kid and his new wife. So David and Victoria versus Brooklyn and his wife, Nicola Peltz. Okay. Now there has been some controversy around this whole thing because apparently

Apparently, word has gotten out that at their wedding, Marc Anthony got on the mic and said, I want to call up the most beautiful girl in the room and say, Brooklyn, come here and dance with your mom. One would assume that would be about the bride. The most beautiful girl in the room. The bride. This is about the bride and groom. Yes.

The one thing that I am missing is the time stamp on this whole thing. Yeah. Like, I need to know where in the wedding did it come. Was this first dance? Was it first dance? Was it midway through? I'm a huge team first dance. Was it towards the end? If it was first dance, I'm duking it out. Oh. We're fighting like two fucking cats in a bag, okay? We're going at it in this Valentino dress. Did you say bag? Bag. Two cats in a bag, okay? We're going at it. Oh. So if this is true...

I kind of sort of feel like we're fighting. Yeah. But you know what? Again, it's about the dominance. It's about control, you know, but we don't know. Yeah. We don't know. But New York Post is like going crazy over it.

And now they're talking through sources. So something must be going on. There's a rift, for sure. There's definitely a rift. I mean, I feel like it started when... The wedding dress trauma. Yeah, where people were like, your mother-in-law is a designer and you're not having her make your dress or a dress even. But now the whole thing came out that she said...

That Victoria, she was down. She was like, you know what? I'm going to wear Victoria Beckham at my wedding. Did she say no? And then Victoria Beckham said, oh, we won't have time. The Atelier can't make it because they're getting ready for Paris Fashion Week or whatever it was. Baby girl, you make it happen. Baby girl, I don't care if you have to go buy a Monique Lillier and put your name on it. You make it happen. You make it happen. For your daughter-in-law. You make it happen. Think about the publicity for your brand even. That's what I'm saying. And the sentimental value. I think it's kind of sort of a...

But if I was a mother-in-law and I felt like my daughter-in-law didn't respect me, I think I'd be playing Hunger Games too. Yeah. It's a lot of mind games. It is. I think early on, especially, and they've only been together. They've been married for almost two years. No mention of like how long...

But I think early on in relationships, like you do have to establish boundaries with your family and you kind of learn, OK, like this new person's coming in. Where does everyone fall now? Yeah. Loyalties are shifting a little bit and that there's some things to work through there, but you have to work through them. You can't keep burying them under the rug and then stay at the baby shower. Oh, no, no, 100 percent.

I also feel like the Beckhams were always a big fish in a small pond. Like they were always that couple. Like, okay, like anybody who my son is dating feels so lucky to be a part of the Beckhams. I could see that. You know, like we never talked about Christmas because it was no competition. You were going to go to the Beckhams. Or if I have a boat July 1st through the 22nd, you're coming when I tell you because we're the Beckhams. The Pelts is...

Got more money than the backups. A different level. And with money comes control. So if we're duking it out to which family is going to host what and where things are going to be, where Christmas is going to be like, again, it's more of a control thing than anything. And I just don't think that they were used to it. Not that, you know, they did it maliciously. I just think it's two alphas.

Nicola's mama and Victoria's mama probably battling it out behind the scenes. I know. Don't you just, I just want to like, this is the people you want the reality show from like these. And we're getting it. I want to hear everything. We're getting the Victoria Beckham. We're getting a Victoria Beckham Netflix reality show. You think they'll show it? No. They sweep that shit under the rug, you guys. I know. That's all they do. But we're going to get in the New York Post. Oh. Because rich people fight in the Post.

I love tea. I just like love the scoop. I like high tea. I don't want to go on Instagram and hear about your baby daddy cheating on you. I don't want to go on Instagram and read like, you know, a deep quote about like moving on and see you with a new haircut. Like, fuck that. Like, I want to hear what happened. I want to hear the facts and I want to hear them from a reliable source like Us Weekly.

OK, I want to hear him from that. That's it for Justin. OK, that's what I want to hear. Oh, my gosh. Top comment on this one. Wow. They could have warned you or spoken to you and your husband before the event. Have they thrown a shower for you for their own grandkid niece or nephew or even brought it up?

Also, your husband defending them and demeaning your feelings needs to be addressed. Boom. Since you are having a child together, he needs to learn to put you and your child's needs first. You could be in for a long 18 plus years if this isn't addressed now and put your foot down on this. Honey, she probably also knew who she was marrying. You can look at a man on that first interaction with his mother and you can tell that

his allegiance is going to be. You can also look at the dad. Defer to the dad. If the mom tells you every single thing and is running the whole show and the dad is like, happy wife, happy life, and he's been doing that for 53 years, God damn it, your son's been doing the same thing. So defer to the dad. If the dad has no say and he's been castrated by the mom and all three kids over the years, damn.

Yeah. Damn, Justin. By the way, if I'm dating somebody and I meet their parents, I always defer to what they're like in their relationship. Yeah, I know. And we've had stories on this in the past where people like have literally broken up after meeting the in-laws because they're like, the dynamic is too fucked up and I don't want any part in it. No. And that's like something you do have to consider when dating. Like your in-laws, for a lot of people at least, are like...

They become a part of your life. They're your new family. So if you don't like them, is that person worth staying with for crappy in-laws? You got to ask yourself sometimes. My in-laws live in Amsterdam. Ooh. Amen. Ooh. That's a plane train and an automobile. That's a hike. They are not coming to my house. No, that's a hike. Barbara is not, you know, popping up at my house in the middle of the day to ask my son to go for a walk with her. It's not happening. Mm-mm.

No, this next comment does make a really good point. Surprise parties are not a surprise for guests. Just one person gets a surprise. I hate a surprise party. I want one, but I want to control it. Yeah. Yeah. Unless John Legend is there and y'all don't want to tell me you're Usher. Like, it's pretty good. We're good. Yeah. No, I hate a surprise party.

I know I'm hard to buy gifts for because like, please stick to the list. I'm a particular one. I'm a particular one. I love it. Oh, this energy. With that cash bar in the bag. Well, it will be free, but I'm not opposed to a speakeasy. You have to have one now. I like need one now. You have to have one. What's your theme for your wedding? A bougie cowboy. Okay.

Oh, it's like bougie cowboys, how it's turned out to be like the invitation was like cocktail attire required cowboy boots encouraged. And so we are like atrium style tent lights, chandeliers, big olive tree in the center circle bar around it.

Maybe some saddle bar stools, but like working on that, that might have to be a DOI of mine. I love that. Yeah. So it should be really, really good. I wanted a Ferris wheel at one point, but then I found out how much they were. So that got cut. That got cut. But we're going to have... Carousel is also cute too, by the way. Yeah. I thought so. A carousel is like a lot cheaper. Oh, instead of a Ferris wheel? Yeah. And by the way... That would be cute. It'd fit the vibe. The theme is...

cowboy. I know. So you can find an old rustic one. Oh, even for a photo op, it doesn't even have to move. No, it doesn't even have to move. Okay, I'll get on Facebook Marketplace after this. Yeah, go look at that Ferris wheel. Okay. Yeah, we're having a beer donkey. Oh. So that'll be good. I don't know what that is. It's like a little donkey that delivers beer to you. Come on, white lady. Or champagne, because I don't like beer, so champagne.

Come on, white lady. I love that. Nothing a white lady loves more than an animal. A beard donkey. Y'all love to incorporate animals. Love an animal. By the way, I didn't know that until I moved to L.A. Oh, my God. And the petting zoo llama craze in the early. Isn't it crazy? Like 15, 16. It's like, damn, the llamas were working harder than anybody. They are. The goats doing yoga now. Come on.

I mean, people are now having puppy adoption events at their weddings, getting puppies homes. That's kind of cute. But by the way, can you imagine waking up the next morning and figuring out that you adopted a goddamn puppy? And by the way, hold on. Wouldn't it be even worse? It's giving bridesmaids. Yeah, literally. It's giving bridesmaids. How many of those did you take? I'd be pissed. Oh my God. I want a puppy so bad. What's that clown story? Oh, you ready for it?

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Yes. If it's at your house, you can do whatever you want. It's your property. Your girlfriend doesn't have to come there if she don't want. But if it's a mutual space, we gonna fight.

Me, 26 male, and my girlfriend, 24 female, have been dating for two years. Since we started dating, she's known that I love clowns. I have several porcelain clowns displayed around my house on walls, hung from the ceiling, on little swings, and on shelves. I adore these weird little creatures.

Well, last week I bought two Venetian masks from a thrift store and they're in great condition. I got them for a decent price too. She hates them. She said they're creepy and give her bad vibes, whatever that means. I told her that I would take down the mask when she's staying the night, but I'm not getting rid of them. She told me that was fine.

Yesterday, she got up and told me that we needed to talk. She told me that she's sick of seeing my weird decorations and clown toys everywhere, that they're ugly and creep her out. I asked her where this was all coming from, because she has never mentioned my clowns before. And she said, bringing those ugly fucking masks into our home was her last straw. And my obsession with clowns was charming before, but now it's just...

disturbing. I told her that I would take down the mass when she was over, but one, this isn't our home. It's my apartment. And two, she's known about the clowns for years and to try to stop me from decorating my place how I please is controlling. She told me, quote, either get rid of some of them or we're done.

This one's hard. First of all, I'm not sleeping with a man with clown figurines. Right.

I wouldn't even gotten past. You wouldn't have gotten, yeah. I may have done it the first time just to see what it was like. But I was definitely not coming back for another hit. Like, it ain't happening, honey. Like, I'm not getting turned on in front of Bobo the Clown, okay? It's like seeing a man with porcelain dolls. I would have a hard time with it. I would have a hard time with it. One, okay, but like a full house. Like, my dad had a friend that his mom's house had.

clowns everywhere. And if it was dark in there, like I would be running down the hallway, like running. I'm like, oh, they're going to get me. I feel it. I feel this. But the fact that she went two years. Yeah. And is not finally fed up. Like, oh, you should be fed up in two months. Yeah. Like, I don't know if you could tell somebody how to decorate their space. I feel like you can encourage a man to grow out of something. Yeah.

But sometimes you just gotta, you gotta go with what you, what you gotta go with. I know. Well, and it's like, this is his passion. Like he loves a clown. Like I'm sure there's someone out there that would also love a clown. Like it could just be a mismatch. And I don't think the asshole for setting a boundary. One thing I have learned over the course of this show is people don't love a suck it up. Like that's just not conducive to like a good relationship. And like,

I feel like you're kind of at this tipping point between the two of you. She's saying get rid of some clowns or we're done. Okay, that's a pretty big ultimatum. You're at suck it up. Like it is just giving mismatch. It's maybe over. Yeah. Because you're right. You should never have to tell somebody what their, you know, passion should be.

I will say like she met you like this. It's not like you pick this up. Exactly. And she wasn't down with it. Like if you meet a man and he got three eyes, that man's going to have three eyes in three years. Like he got three eyes. Like it is what it is. Yeah. It'd be like someone like knowing you love clothes. You're, I don't know, maybe a shoe guy. And you're like, okay, well, you keep getting shoes. Like no more shoes. No more shoes or we're done. Yeah. You're out. Yeah.

It's like you can't tell people about their passions. But if you were living together, I could see it getting to a point where it's like, OK, like we don't have room for more clowns. Like when is enough clowns? Yeah, enough clowns. That's something you negotiate when you take your relationship to the next level. Yeah. Like, hey, I love your passion for hunting, but can your ducks...

stay in your room in your, you know what I mean? Like you do a Charlotte York where like, you're like, okay, I like this man, but your ducks have to be in your office. It is what it is. Yeah. No, my, my brother's got a few deer heads and they are behind a door leading down to their basement. It's like, it is not in their home. And I'm curious where it's going to go in their new house. I'm going to actually have to ask them about this. By the way, deer heads are like now a new thing. Really? Yeah. It's weird.

They creep me out. I'm waiting for like, like my family in Minnesota, they're, they are big hunters. Like they, they eat everything they get. Like they're very like not trophy hunters in that sense. But like,

I'm always like scared that all of a sudden like it's going to like start talking to me or come off the wall. Like every time I stare, like my uncle's got like a caribou and I just like, I'm like, all of a sudden I'm going to just see it lips going. I can never take a gummy while I'm over there. I was about to say, don't take a mushroom while you're over there. No. You're going to freak out. God. Bitch. Can you imagine that trip? All of a sudden the deers are talking to you. Honey. Honey.

I would commit myself at 51 50 myself 52 50 actually just add an extra one in there just that 52 50 damn the clowns are hard I know leave that man but you're not by the way you're not the asshole she met you this way point blank period and you're not ready to give him up no I'm like I don't know I have a problem collecting furniture like I wouldn't stop

Just because of an ultimatum. By the way, this place has a lot of furniture in it. Yeah. Oddly enough, we have way more furniture than we need in here. I know. There's a lot. And you should see my garage. It's stockpiled. I just bought like a dresser the other day. I don't know what I'm going to do with it. I keep buying tables and chairs. I already got a table and a chair. We'll figure it out. I have a problem collecting certain furniture. Are you a hoarder? Uh.

Some days I feel like it, but I would say not diagnosable. Oh, wait till you have kids. I think it'll change. I hope. I don't know.

I'm like really people are not gonna like buying my kids gifts I'm literally gonna be like no junk no junk no junk no you're gonna be the one who keeps Legos around like I had a friend who had his Legos when he was like a kid and he still had them when he was like 15 okay so those are probably worth a lot of money now no cause they were missing half the parts he chewed half of them up like the dog got into him like oh they're not like put together no his mom just like kept everything like she kept every single thing and I'm like bro you gotta like

Your mom's got a problem. My grandma's like that. Like she's got Lincoln logs from like my mom. From Lincoln. By the way, a Lincoln log from actual Lincoln. Actual Lincoln logs. Yeah. No, no joke. They probably were from like 18 or whatever. That's crazy.

Top comment on this one, not the asshole. As someone who isn't into clowns but loves Venetian masks, I can understand being creeped out by some of them. However, her turning this on your entire interest for clowns that you've had your whole relationship makes her the asshole.

Also, if she's giving you ultimatums over how you decorate your own space based on your own interests, she's not the one. There will be someone who will appreciate your collection, if not add to it themselves. Go off, sis.

I need to look at one of these Venetian masks. Have you seen them? Do you know what they are? Yeah. You're cultured. Of course you would. You know when you like see like people in Italy and they're walking around with a gold mask that looks one looks happy, one looks sad. Yeah. They're like gold, painted gold. Yeah. Sometimes they're painted white. They're just like. Here's one that's really cool.

It's like almost got like a full. Yeah. Yeah. I'm from Louisiana. Yeah. Mardi Gras balls are like, this is what we wear. Okay. Yeah. Now that I'm seeing it, I'm like, yes, I've seen these. I actually think my dad went to Mardi Gras one year and like brought me back a little one on a stick or something. Oh, for sure. Okay. Yeah. These are pretty. This isn't, this wouldn't get me like a clown. No, honey, but he's got them hanging from the ceiling. Okay. The ones on swings hanging, that would freak me out because what if there was like,

And it was using those. And like all of a sudden it's dead. Like the air is dead. And all of a sudden you just see. You watch Annabelle, don't you? No, I can't watch that. Not having it. I watched the first Conjuring. And after that I was out. I saw The Nun. I can't do scary movies anymore. No.

No, I can't do scary movies or two Chardonnays. Like those things are like out of my life. Chardonnays too buttery anyways. It's too much. I used to drink Red Bull and vodka. Like we used to drink pineapple and Malibu. Oh my God. No, do you remember? Did you ever do like a Jagerbomb? Yes. That was wicked. Girl, we used to drink Long Island iced teas. I don't know how I'm still alive. I remember in college, I would like literally do nights where I'd get six vodka Red Bulls. Where'd you go to school? Minnesota.

University of Minnesota, Golden Gophers. So you had like a real college experience. Yeah. And those drinks, I don't know. Well, the bar did shut down eventually, actually. They were $2. $2 vodka Red Bulls. No, we killed it. But it was like gasoline. It's not. It can't be good for you. It was Taka. We were drinking Taka.

Oh my God. Did you ever have Burnettes? Yes. Like the blueberry flavors. Shut up. Raspberries. Shut up. And then if you were real poor that week, you'd get this vodka called Kharkov. No. Jet fuel. I grew up on like Jack and Cokes.

Like Malibu was like kind of big when I was growing up. I'm 37. Malibu was kind of big when I was growing up. So we all had like Malibu sevens. Yeah. And then there was like this big rush to like cranberry vodkas were like a big deal in the club. I don't know why because we always spilled them on each other. But it was crazy. It was like wild back then. I know. So crazy that my liver still talks to me. I've been doing...

Glutathione. Oh, nice. In your drips. That helps. Yeah, I get those in my IVs from time to time. I get my levels tested every three months. Damn, you're on it. Yeah, I get my levels tested every three months. And the fact that one of them is a liver test, the fact that my liver can't accept anything these days. I went to LSU. Oh, yeah. So it was nonstop. It was nonstop.

That's wild. A girl had it. She had a time. And this was before camera phones. Oh, honestly, take me back. Take me back to when you had to bring that cannon into the club. Little Nikon. Little Nikon. Little Nikon. And then you would post every photo from that night. A whole Facebook album. Every night we'd get a Facebook album. Who were we? I don't know her. I don't know her. I don't know her. But I want to know him. He was so good. Bring me back.

We do get an update on this one. Oh, let's hear it. We get an update. We find out what happens after. They're still hooking up. I wanted to clear up some things that I saw in the comments. I had a small collection started by my grandparents when I was a baby. That's where I got my first swing jester. The collection has grown in the last two years to expand to common decor and not just dolls. For the update.

She saw the post. She read the comments and called me today. She wasn't too happy about being called an asshole, but later apologized for being controlling. It turns out she wanted to see if I'd get rid of my collection if it means keeping her, like it was some relationship test. Note, she really did hate the Venetian mass and didn't like that they were hanging above my bed.

I told her if it came between her needing me to get rid of them or sell them for expenses, then I would of course do that. But I'm not just going to get rid of my collection because someone says so. She asked if we could move on from this and I told her no. Good for you, Dylan. I don't like that she tried to test my love by asking me to get rid of my collection. She left. We are officially broken up now. I'm a Scorpio. What's your sign? Pisces. Bitch.

If a motherfucker tries to test me in a relationship, I made a 33 on the ACT, hungover bitch. I'm good at tests. Let's go. Because I'm gonna double test you back. I'm gonna turn it around on you. And I'm gonna throw you into the writing portion of the SAT without you even knowing it. Okay? I love a good relationship test. And I'm probably gonna leave you after. What is a relationship test that like...

I'm curious what you've pulled or what you would recommend trying because I feel like they could easily creep into a line of toxicity. No, no. I don't think you should try to test anyone in a relationship. Okay, okay, okay. But I think if your partner tries to test you. Oh, Uno reverse. You should play stupid and Uno reverse that motherfucker. Okay.

OK, because people do try it and I don't know why. I think it's like a learned behavior, but people do try to test you. I never stay in relationships where people try to do that. It's not my jam. It's not my thing. No. And I think it just sets up your life to be tested the whole time. I think so, too. I think a lot of people like I think the phone test is like really common. And like I just you're not reading my phone.

I just feel like if you get to a point where you have to, it speaks to a bigger issue. Like there's not a lot of trust in the relationship. Oh, it's like when people get a third. Okay. It's like when you, if you have a third, there's probably something else going on in your relationship that you should probably talk about. I say get the third, but also start talking about the reason why you have to get the third. Because if you want to survive post the third. Yeah. Yeah.

You should probably be in like some kind of communicata about what's happening. I know. I feel like the subreddit dead bedrooms would really fascinate you. What's dead bedrooms? It's couples that like their bedroom is dead and then they talk about like opening the relationship or like what do they do? And I just saw the craziest post about a polycule and the post was titled,

And I'm going to get to it, I think, on Patreon. But it's titled something like, I left our honeymoon because my husband kept ignoring my girlfriend and me with his boyfriend. Stop. And I was like, my husband was ignoring my girlfriend to hang out with his boyfriend. And then I was like, okay, okay. Clock it. Yeah, they're in a polycule. They're in a polycule. Yeah, it wasn't going well on the honeymoon, I guess. They're doing it.

They are doing it. They're doing it. And by the way, don't bring those boyfriends on your honeymoon, honey. You're going to get no attention. I'm like... Don't bring the boyfriends. I was like, okay. You guys are... Your polycule is different. The gays have no fucks. The gays, listen to me, okay? Let me go right here for this. I'm ready. I'm locked in. The gays, if you are letting a man come with you on your honeymoon, we're like vampires. Once you invite us in...

It's your fault. Okay. We're, we're in there. Okay. We won't come unless you invite us. But once you say, come on in, we're going to take advantage. That gay man was like, no, Mark over here. You're my boyfriend. You are my boyfriend. Not her husband. What is this? No, no, no, no, no, no. Don't do it, girl. Oh,

Oh my gosh. So OP does go on to say, on the bright side, I can fill my house with more clown dolls. I even found a music box one online that I might get. Thank you everyone for helping me figure out that I wasn't in the wrong. And to those saying I'm a serial killer for owning clowns, I've read quite a few comments from people collecting dead things. So I think I'm in the clear on that. Point taken. Yeah. I know someone that collects teeth.

If it's your husband, ma'am, we need to talk off camera. No, no. I was like, if it's your man, we should probably talk off camera. No, no. He, he. What's he collect? He actually like doesn't really collect anything. He's really into space, really into space. Oh, good. So that's kind of his thing. But like, I feel like I'm the one that like buys him space stuff. Nice. He doesn't even really get it for himself. Oh, shit. Yeah. Yeah.

Pins. He collects pins. Who's that booty call that used to collect teeth? No, it's a girl I went to grad school with. She loves teeth. Serial killer. Is she a dentist? No, an occupational therapist. Jesus. She had like a big jar. She'd pull up pictures. She had some like crazy. My God. Did she marry a dentist? No, I don't think so. I offered to give her my wisdom teeth, but. She didn't want them. No. Damn.

Damn, your teeth weren't good enough. Never got around to it. Your fucking teeth weren't good enough. They had to like blow my teeth up to get them out. Stop. Yeah, like they were impacted. Same. And they like have to chunk it up. Do you know that I'm such a sick bitch that I got two of the impacted ones out first? Okay. Because you lose all kinds of weight.

And then I got them out second right before the Oscars. Second was another body weight because you can't, you know, you can't use solids for a minute. You're so lucky you didn't get dry sockets. I didn't. I was good. I was really good. I ended up in the ER after my wisdom teeth. It was not a vibe. You're probably trying to smoke a cigarette after. No, I didn't even have a straw. I was eating stuff with a spoon. I was doing everything right. They gave me pain pills.

And I was allergic to the kind they gave me. So I was just throwing up, throwing up, throwing up. And then like puke. Oh my God. Girl, ugh. Cut. Cut the shit. Terrible.

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So am I the asshole for throwing away food after my boyfriend's mom put her stool sample on top of it? Bitch. Or. Cut story. Throw away your mother-in-law too. Throw away the food and the mother-in-law. Or I'm having an issue with my husband who keeps messing up our bathroom and keeps insisting it's not a big deal. How do I get him to understand it's gross? Oh, I can tell you that.

I can tell you that real quick. Divorce. No, no. You withhold sex. That's the game I play. So is that the story you're picking? Yeah. Let's go. Okay. This is coming from Relationship Advice. It is five days old. Again, titled, I, female 36, am having issues with my husband, male 36, who keeps messing up our bathroom and keeps insisting it's not a big deal.

Had to make a new account, as I'm not convinced family hasn't discovered my mane. My husband apparently stands while he wipes, which leads to what I'm now calling, quote, butt crumbs.

Not literal shit. It's dirty toilet paper pieces. Not that it makes it much better on anything and everything on the bathroom floor. It's not like a lot, but it's still so gross. I wish I never realized what that mysterious dirt was coming from.

He insists that it's normal to wipe standing, that he can't wipe sitting down. He's big, but he's not that big, and it's not a big deal. He just forgets to check and clean up sometimes. But I don't know. I don't even like the idea of him wiping over our floors or any clothes on them.

I'm the one that usually picks up the dirty laundry, even if nothing was visibly left behind. I feel like it's fair to have him clean the floors and deal with any clothes on the floor every day if he continues this, or just until he's out of the habit of wiping standing up. But he thinks I'm being ridiculous. That it's not a big deal that he just forgets to clean up sometimes. What do I do? What's this lady's name? I like to give them names. Jennifer...

Can you hear me? This is what you're going to do. You're going to drive your ass to Costco. You're going to find this little Toto bidet that comes with a water and air blow dryer. You're going to install that bitch in your toilet. Okay. You're not even going to tell your man. You're just going to install the shit out of it. Okay. And hook it up to the hot water. Fuck it. Get your plumber there. Hook it up to the hot water. Plug it in. Heat that goddamn seat. Okay. Okay.

And when that man asks you, what does this do? You sit him down and you give him the tutorial of a lifetime. Okay. First of all, you're going to save money on toilet paper. You're going to save your marriage. And you're also going to save your bed sheets because he bringing them crumbs into the bed too. So go get that goddamn Toto. Yes. He's bringing it to bed. Go get that goddamn Toto.

Go get the Toto. And from Costco, too. I mean. No, Costco's got a good one right now. They're on sale, too. I love Costco. You'll save so much money and so much fret. Yeah. I mean, I think that is definitely what you got to do. I think your initial suggestion of like, hey, no intimacy. Because honestly, how would you want to be intimate with someone who's got butt crumbles?

crumbles. Ladies. If these chunks are big enough on your floor where you're noticing them thinking it's dirt, what are we doing? What are we doing? What are we doing? By the way, the fact that your man can't even wipe it up at 36, like,

Get you a man who can wipe it up. There's adaptive tools. Okay. There is this tool. It is quite literally called the butt buddy, the bottom buddy toilet wiper. Like there are tools like we used to have to use these for people when I was doing OT if they couldn't reach. Look, a total right now on Amazon right now.

You can get a total for like $59.99. You can get like a little bidet for $59.99. You don't even have to get the expensive one. No, you can get a handheld shatafa if you need something. Exactly. He will like it. If the water's warm, I'm telling you, he will like it. Do it, girl. You will save yourself so much time and energy. And think about the trees. You're helping trees. Save that paper. Oof. Not the bug crubs. I mean, it's not even the fact. Okay. Standing to wipe.

Cool. Okay. That's a man thing though. Yes. If you're going to do it, you're going to do it. Whatever. But the fact that you're not at least being considerate enough to look after you discover this problem, like, let me make sure my shit's not on the ground. Okay. We're good today. The fact you're leaving your dirty clothes for your wife to come pick up with butt crumbles on top of it, like grated Parmesan. What are we fucking doing? Oh, put that man on the schedule.

Let him shit before he goes in the shower. Like, oh, something. I can't. I introduced Rachel to what waffle stomping was when we first met. And I think, yeah, that is like I'd prefer him to waffle stomp. What's waffle stomping? You shit in the shower and push it down the drain with your heel. You introduce this to who? Rachel Lindsay.

And this is a thing? And she was still friends with me after. Do you waffle stomp? No. Do you know somebody who waffle stomps? So actually, one of the girls at Spotify came up to me after we talked about this and she was like, I know someone that does it. Mm-hmm. Yep. There's people out there that stomp waffle stomp. You drain will smell. Mm-hmm. Yeah. It's not supposed, you're not supposed to do that.

I'm not a plumber. I'll say that right now. I'm not a plumber. But it just doesn't seem right. Unless you're like just in an outhouse in the middle of the outback, I don't want to hear it. By the way, if I don't feel comfortable, I will go on a 10-day vacation and not poop if I don't feel comfortable. Like I live in a house with seven people.

And we're in Mykonos for seven days. This is a real story. I just know that I will not be comfortable. I will check into a hotel for one night to get it done. Yeah. I will smoke a Capri 120. I don't even smoke. I would just smoke a Capri 120 real quick and get it going.

In the privacy of my own room. I'm like very weird about it. No, I was early on dating, you know, my fiance and we went to Copenhagen together. And I was so backed up. Like I would send him down to the lobby. I mean, I would do everything. There was one day I had six espresso shots to try to get things going. And I just couldn't because I didn't feel safe yet. The gym.

Of a hotel, the gym. You always go to the gym bathroom. Some lobby bathrooms are real, real nice. Some lobby bathrooms are really nice. If you can find one that locks, that has a door that goes all the way. Floor to ceiling. I like to go ahead of time to said place and scope out. Yeah. Sometimes a conference room that no one uses, like the office media business room, like no one's using a business room anymore, but it has a bathroom in it. So smart. Yeah. And you blow it up. You just blow it up.

Without them knowing. Dude. I always go to the gym though. That's good. Yeah, no. That's one thing I miss about Minnesota is like the gas stations there actually had really decent bathrooms. The fact that you're using the bathroom at a gas station, Britney fucking Spears. Like, who are you? Do you wear shoes when you go in there? Of course. Jesus. Who doesn't? I didn't poop in public until I was literally 21.

My fiance just pooped on the airplane for the first time like a month ago. He's a serial killer. Leave, bitch. Anybody shitting 30,000 feet in the air knowing that there's 200 people watching them do it? No. You don't poop on planes? No. No. What? It's a long flight. I don't give a shit. I could be going to space. I'm not shitting next to Gayle King. I'm not doing it. I can't do it. I just like my body is not equipped for it. Like I would rather...

Hold it 10, 15 hours.

My body will not let me do it. Oh, see, I have tummy issues. When we start rumbling, we're going. But I'm not a girl that when I get the knock on the door, like I'm the type that if I get the knock on the door and I don't do, you have a shit window. Yeah. You got a poop window. Which is what, 90 seconds? Mine's like probably five minutes. Okay. If I can't find that, you know, situation in five minutes, it will automatically go back up. I don't know why. I don't know why I'm built this way.

It's really weird. Oh my gosh. But I have problems. Like if I don't do it in that five minutes. Yeah, you don't know what groundhogging is. I just, yeah, I've never met a groundhogger. I'm not that person.

But if I miss it the next day, it's the same thing. It rolls over. Like I just have five minutes. It's really weird. You're getting like so impacted. No, I'm getting so impacted. I weigh 204 pounds right now. You got to get milk of magnesium. Yes. Whatever that cocktail is that they give you. Have you ever seen an x-ray of someone who can't go to the bathroom for a couple days? Yeah. That is wild. It's terrifying. It's wild. I was that girl in Beacon Oats. Oh, no.

Out of all places, too. Of all places. Okay. Well, luckily for you guys, we're moving on from the poop talk. Thank you. Okay.

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This is coming from AITAH, five hours old. Titled, am I the asshole for evicting my uncle from the house my grandma left me? I know this is going to sound crazy, but just hear me out. My grandma passed last month and I've been handling her estate. She left me her house valued at about $400,000. But here's the twist no one knew about until now.

My uncle has been living in the basement of the house for three years. Not visiting, but living. Grandma never told any of us where he was. He lost his job during COVID, got divorced, the entire sham. Apparently, grandma let him stay living in the house and nobody in the family knew. And she didn't want him to feel embarrassed telling anyone.

Now, my uncle thinks that because he was taking care of grandma, which honestly none of us knew about, he is entitled to inherit the house instead of me. He is saying she only left it to me because she didn't have any time to take her name off the will before she passed. But she had three years to take it off if she wanted. And the will is dated for 2023. So it's not even an old will. Hmm.

Now he is refusing to move and is saying that he is legally entitled to fight for the house in court. My parents think I should just let him keep it because according to them, he is family. But I'm just 28. And frankly, this house would change my entire life. I would be a homeowner instead of throwing money away on rent. Am I the asshole if I get him evicted? No. And here's the jam. Family is tricky.

No matter what happens, death in families always bring out the worst in people. I know, especially money. Money, it's horrible. What I would tell you to do is give your uncle some time.

Give him some time. Say, hey, you can stay in here for another four or five months. Let you get on your feet. Do some work on the house. Maybe let him oversee it. And then offer him a lump sum that you are comfortable with and say, hey, I will give you $15,000 over the next six months for you to evacuate the place.

20 grand, something. Because lawyers' fees are a lot. Yeah. And if your uncle doesn't have a pot to piss in, ain't got a job, ain't got nowhere to go, $15,000 is very enticing. Now, he might hold it over your head for the rest of his life, like you stole my goddamn house, but...

It'll be worth it. So I say Victor, uncle, give him a little cash deposit for him to get on his feet and call it a day. I don't even think you need to give him the cash. I mean, if you want to be real nice, you say, hey, you got six months, six months rent free,

figure it out who are these parents saying oh just give him the house this is a four hundred thousand dollar house and you're saying just give him the house give him the cash in what fucking world people they want to keep the peace they know how he is by the way i just i don't know families and money i hate that keep the peace you're gonna keep the peace over a four hundred thousand dollar loss not me

Hell no. 10 Gs max. 15 if you have to. Just give him some cash. Oh my God. Yeah, you're being really generous with the cash buyout. But if you get $400,000, let's think about it. If you gave him 10% of the house. At this point, let's say that they have... What's 10%? 40? 40. Okay. That was really good. I'm bad at math. No. 10% is $40,000. Yeah. Even if you had to give him 40 Gs.

I know. I feel like it... I'm curious what OP's financial situation is. Because, like, coming up with $40K, like...

Well, the great part about it is if somebody gives you a house for $400,000. Oh, you could refinance. You can refinance and you can take out a mortgage on $40,000. You can also take out a mortgage on $60,000, put $20,000 into your house, upgrading it, making it pretty. A HELOC. Making it ready for yourself. Yes. Or, and then give him the $40,000 that's left over.

Yeah, I'm going to be honest, Justin. I'm not that nice. Damn, you're cutthroat. I'm not that nice. I'm going to say you get six months rent-free because rent in our city is XYZ. And I don't want to put you on the street. I don't want to evict you. But like...

Here's the thing. Like, grandma obviously wanted me to have the house. This will was 2023. You lost your job and got divorced in COVID. Like, you've been living with granny for three years now. This will was made around that time where she knew you were in the spot with her and still chose to leave this to me.

I'm going to respect grandma's decision. Damn. So I'm happy to give you a little grace, a couple months. But after that, you know, I don't want a roommate. I got you. Yeah. Also, yeah, you don't want your uncle living with you. I mean, if you want to be really nice, you could say a year. But like, I don't think you have to. No, because then a year becomes 18 months. Yeah. And 18 months becomes two years. If you're going to just sell the house, though, and...

I don't get the vibe from OP, but I would say if you're going to sell the house and take all the money, then I'd say give the uncle a little bit of a bone. Yeah. Also, people just money talks. Yeah. Sometimes you just got to slide it. But I get you. Six months is a lot.

It's a long time, but it also goes by fast. I've been stuck with bad roommates for six months, and it can go by fast. When you have a life. Yeah. Also, you've never been stuck with a 65-year-old uncle who's just like...

blowing up your toilet and like fucking walking around your house with with anger issues about you having the house well i lived with my dad up until like a year ago and he's he's a difficult roommate damn you lived with your dad i love him so much but yeah i just moved out of because he lives here in la so when i got into grad school i was like oh my god free rent yay he lived here already yeah so i moved in with him and like oh my gosh he loves a 6 37 a.m wake up call by slamming

Kitchen cabinets. No. Yeah, we're not bougie enough for those soft clothes hinges. How long has he lived here? He is from LA, moved to Minnesota for like 20 years, met my mom, and then moved back out when I was like in eighth grade. Stop. So he's been out here a while.

Wow. So you had free rent for grad school. It was really nice. Damn. Really nice. You killed it. And then the podcast did a little something and then I ended up being the one paying the HOA fees and everything. Damn. Then he got free rent. Oh, shit. Yeah. By the way, that's a good little strategy for him. I know.

No, no. Let me raise a little show pony. Let me raise a show pony and then get a little kickback. By the way, why not? I know. Donna Kelsey better be getting money from those two boys. Oh, my gosh. If they aren't buying her multiple mansions. Come on, lady. Multiple. Fed your asses for 20 years. I ain't got to work another day in my life. Where do you think the people went on this one? Asshole, you're the asshole. No, no.

People are cutthroat on Reddit. No asshole. Top comment. Not the asshole. Honor the will. Serve the eviction notice. Time to change. Family is family when they're being good to you, not taking advantage of you. And Opie goes, thank you. Time to serve those papers. Opie don't give a fuck. Opie said. Opie's a Leo. Get out of my house. She's a Leo.

I wonder. I wish people had to post what they are on their Reddit account. Yes. Because that could explain so much of the conflict resolution they're trying to pursue. That really could. Like maybe Reddit should add that on the bottom where you pick your symbol. Trophy case. Yeah. So if you look at someone's account, they have a trophy case. So this is a new user. It should say Leo. Yeah. Scorpio. I'm into that. Pisces. I'm really into that.

I gotta get more into Reddit. I think you'll like it. It's a good time. I need to get an account that I like actually use. It's a good time. Okay. Last one for you. What is it? I'm so sad. I know. We've had so much fun. This is great. We need to make you regular. Right? Because we're going to be like, bring him back. Bring his ass back. Don't ever let me hear the end of it if you don't. So this is coming from AITAH11DaysOld titled, Am I the asshole for insisting my son be the flower boy?

I'm getting married in July. Wedding planning is in full swing. My wife-to-be and I are on the same page about almost everything, except for this one thing. My son wants to be the flower boy, and I want him to be too.

My fiance says that a flower girl is traditional and that it would be weird to have a flower boy. She says her family will be uncomfortable. She says that he should be the ring bearer. He doesn't want to be the ring bearer. He wants to carry the basket of flower petals. He thinks it looks fun. My line of reasoning is that anything that gets him excited about the wedding and having a stepmom is a huge plus.

My fiance says we shouldn't teach my son that everything is about him. I absolutely agree. However, it is weird for kids when a parent gets remarried. He hasn't engaged much with the idea, and this is the first thing relating to the wedding that he showed excitement about. My fiance wants to know what he would wear, and I said the three of us can decide and find something cute.

She says she doesn't want that extra task on her plate. I said, then he and I can do it. And she said she would be stressed about not knowing what he'll be wearing then. Girl, he'll wear a suit. We have been going back and forth about this for a while, and she is starting to get frustrated. Yesterday, she said she didn't want to talk about it anymore. I said we have to resolve it because the wedding is in seven weeks. She said as far as she is concerned, it's resolved.

I said, in that case, it's resolved for me too. And he's doing it. She asked me why I'm being such an asshole about this. I don't think I'm being an asshole, but maybe I am. I haven't been pushy about anything else with the wedding. Whenever I wanted something that she didn't, I either compromised or I let it go. This is the one thing that really matters to me. And I think it's ultimately good for the both of us because it will make my son more fond of her.

Am I really being the asshole? First of all, you are not. Okay. You're being a good dad. A really good dad. And you're fighting for your son's rights to want to be a flower boy. And your wife is fighting this? Like this is the hill she's going to die on? Yeah.

Maybe this is not the right person for you to marry. I'm so glad you said it. Baby, this is a sign that your son's needs are never going to be met in this marriage. Maybe this is a sign that this woman is going to put herself first and part of being a step parent is

is putting your stepson or daughter's needs before yours and being patient and making compromises to be a better parent. So I'm going to say you are not the asshole. In fact, you are quite the opposite. You are a hero fighting for your son. And I love that you went 10 toes down with this woman on this, you know, situation. And don't back down. No. Let her ass know. Do not back down. No.

Who cares about like tradition? Like I want my grandma to be a flower woman. Like she's going to walk down the aisle with my niece and they're both going to like do their thing. If my little nephew wants to be a flower boy instead of a ring bearer, he will get a basket of fucking petals. Like I think it's concerning that she's like, my family will feel uncomfortable. Then we have a major problem. We have a big problem. I think you said everything so well. Absolute hero. I think it's really sad.

Where he says, like, I haven't been pushy about anything about the wedding. Whenever I wanted something that she didn't, I either compromised or I let it go. This is also his wedding. By the way, I wouldn't even be having a wedding. I would have ate the $30,000, $40,000 that I put down on deposits and been like, we need to run. This is bad. And by the way, you know what? I'm going to call her Lisa. Lisa, you know what's not traditional? A second wedding.

Okay. Y'all are both getting married for the second time at this point. So you don't need to chill. Like your man's been married already. Okay. Like we, tradition went out the window. Yeah. Yeah. This is crazy. I know.

Top comment is people wanting more info. Info. Does your fiance get along with your son? I mean, what does he say about their relationship? Next comment down. Also, how long has OP and fiance been together? How is their relationship? Is this the only thing she seems to be adamant about or is there a pattern here? What did he say? So I'm looking at OP's comments. We do get a couple. Shut up. Okay. Oh, the little boy. So we find out how old he is, okay? He's five. He's only four. Yeah.

He's four. Lady. No, you can't marry that lady. I don't even care how old. He could be a 13-year-old boy. Like, four? He just wants to feel included and that looks fun. Like, kids don't understand societal norms and tradition and all of these weird gender expectations. And by the way, he's not asking to wear... By the way, if he wanted to wear a dress, yes, let him wear a dress. Who fucking cares? He's not even asking to wear a dress. He just wants to throw flowers on the ground. He just wants to throw flowers. Like, what is going on here?

Ugh. He mostly sees her as a boring grown-up. I haven't found anything for them to bond over yet. Go to the zoo. Go. She's probably not trying. Exactly. When I talk to him about her, he doesn't usually have much to say. He'll say she's pretty or she's boring. That's his favorite word lately, so don't read into it too much. Or she's tall. He thinks everyone is tall. She's actually quite short. I haven't gotten much substance from him, which is normal for his age. Yeah. Yeah.

She thinks her half-sister should be a flower girl. Her half-sister is 11. I haven't gotten the impression from her that she particularly wants to do this. I think she's somewhat embarrassed by the idea because she sees it as something for little kids, like my son, just saying. I don't think he should do both, personally, because he might get confused or overwhelmed. He is only 4.

She said it's standard for girls to do it, and her family would be confused and embarrassed to see her new stepson performing a girl's role. Get out of here. Don't marry this lady. Oh, my God. She is worried that he would pick a dress. Well, here's the other jam. When he asked you to be a part of that conversation, you said, I have too much on my plate already. And then when he said he'll just figure it out, you said, oh, no, I don't want to give up control.

So what do you want? She's making me want to pull out my hair. She's actually making me want to pull out my hair. She's making me want to put a cash bar at her wedding that she doesn't know about. Okay, that's what she's making me want to do. People are going to need some alcohol to deal with her. Damn. Bridezilla. She's that girl. It's giving Bridezilla. He's marrying that. Mm-hmm.

Yeah, OP does go on to share little boy's mother is involved. He has extended family. My ex hates my fiance, but that's typical, I think. No. She manages to keep it civil, but I know she and her sister have a group chat where they talk shit about my fiance. Put me on that group chat.

My dad thinks my wife needs to try harder to bond with my son, but she is trying to strike a delicate balance. If she pushes too hard, that can push him away. I don't think he appreciates how difficult it is to enter a child's life in these circumstances. Also, kids and dogs can sense people's energies. Oh, kids can clock it. So if your four-year-old is running from your fiancé...

One of two things is happening. Either she has bad juju or she smells like shit. But from your story, she just has bad juju. It's giving bad juju. And you should totally look at your kid and take a page out of that book and reevaluate what's going on. Yeah, especially after finding out this last detail. We dated for a year and we got engaged in January.

I think that is, here's a hot take. If you have kids and you're blending families, I don't think a year is enough. I'm going to say that right now. I think you need at least two, if not three years, if you're blending families, like to really weed it out. A year, you can put on a big show and act for a year. Oh, I love your little kid. As soon as you got them locked in military camp.

By the way, you've watched too many Lindsay Lohan movies. You were on ABC Family for way too long. Okay, that's some parent trap shit. However, I think when you're blending families, a year is a point where you should start living together. A year is a part where you start blending the families. You should start living together to figure out if this marriage will even work. Completely agree. And then at two years, if you want to talk about it, then you can. Yeah.

But you're missing a step here, sir. I think you might have proposed too soon. I think so. He went to Jared way too fast. I know. He definitely went to Jared way too fast. Every kiss begins with K. Who knows? Oof. Who knows? Okay. I mean, dear.

Keep that receipt. I know. I think, yeah. He did propose on New Year's Eve, though, so it might be considered a gift. Oh, she keeps the ring, too? Yeah, if you propose on a holiday, it can be considered a gift. I bet you she knew, too. There's ways to do it, y'all. Damn. Yeah, I think OP is getting a little lost in the sauce. Hopefully figures it out. We don't have an official update yet. I want to hear from the ex-wife.

I know. If the ex-wife is on this thread and watching this podcast, you go ahead and leave a few comments. Yes. Let's go. Oh, she's out there. I know. You and your sister, because I know she's shady, too. Yeah. You guys get in those comments. I know. Well, and there are reasons for not liking her. She's stuck up. There's a few other comments, but just, you know, age. OP's 28. Yeah. Fiance's 26, so she's young. Yeah.

But yeah, no update. Last we have is OP saying, I'm going to put my foot down. It's my wedding too. This won't work if we both aren't willing to compromise. Damn, OP is young. 28.

To be married twice? Four-year-old kiddo. Oh, he probably wasn't married. He just was... Kiddo. Kiddo. Kiddo. I want to know what OP looks like. I'm curious. Me too. I want a family photo. The ex-wife. Come on. Throw it in there. If this is you, pop in. Pop in. Does this sound familiar?

Justin. This has been fun. Thank you so much. This was so good. I loved it. This is so chill. This is a setup, though. You clocked everything today. Y'all had me up in here just comfortable as fuck, hungry, just saying whatever came to my mind. We'll have to do it with some wine next time. Don't tell me that. I literally...

I always have, I usually always have bottles, but it's the middle of the day. Like with my daytime guests, I always feel. Okay. Next time. Maybe we do a trio, me, you and Rachel. Yeah, let's do it. That'd be really fun. That'd be really fun. Okay. I'm seeing her next week. I'm going to talk to her about it. That'd be really fun. I'll talk to her about it. If it doesn't happen, then you just know Rachel's a hater. Yeah.

Oh my God. Thank you for having me. Where can people find you? You have a new podcast out, Yestergaze. Yes, it's the bomb. It's wherever you get podcasts at. You can watch the video. I like to listen to it in my car. We get a little shady. It should be called the Yester Shadies. But Blakely Thornton is my...

podcast host and he kills it. He's so funny, irreverent, and most importantly, he is not media trained. So it is just... Oh, you know it's juicy then. It goes off the rails. It's disordered. It's messy. A lot of disarray there. We call it chaotic. We're a little chaotic because we have like a... There's supposed to be...

a formula to this thing, but we go so far off the rails that sometimes it's just pure chaos. I love that. Yeah. Honestly, it sounds like a great time. Literally. No, you have to listen to it. It's so much fun. I'm going to be tuned in. Episode three is dropping on Tuesday. Ooh.

It's a fresh one. By the time this episode comes out, though, guys, there might be five or six episodes. Come through. The link for Justin's show will be in the description along with all of his other socials and things like that. So be sure to follow. Thank you again for coming on. Thank you for coming. Until next time, guys.