Raising Little Hearts w/ Ella & MaKenzie
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How do I consistently be who I was when I was at the top of my game instead of allowing the game to adjust to where we are today? Ciao. Travis Kelsey was yelling at the coach, man. It's like a really genuine, unconditional loving relationship. I think everybody should have that. They sound about the same, Ella. No. They do. They sound about the same. No, brother. No.

Welcome back to another episode of the Woman Evolved podcast. We are seven episodes in to our relationship with the Black Effect Network, and I am enjoying the feedback that we are getting from so many of you. It seems like this new format is truly resonating. And for that,

I say thank you. Thank you, God. Thank you, God. And thank you to Charlamagne and the incredible team that has made sure that we have this opportunity. It truly means the world to me.

On the high key, I really feel like I'm coming down with a little bit of something. So y'all be in prayer for the kid. Hey, has anyone else noticed that these new colds are not like regular colds? Like there is a special bacteria lingering on these colds and I needed...

to get up off of me and leave me alone. I was just ill during, I'm so classy, ill. I was just ill during the Christmas holiday. And usually the antibodies, they be doing more than this, but it's seeming like they're not trying to do the right thing.

Um, and other updates, let me see power moves, the book tour. I just announced that last week. I will be going on the road with the book that comes out April 30th. My book is called power moves, ignite your confidence and become a force. We are going to be in five cities. Technically we're going to be in six, but it's a surprise pop-up city. So I'm not going to say which one that it is, but we're going to be in, and this is in no particular order. So y'all don't

Y'all don't hold me to this, but we're going to be in Sugar Land, Texas, which is very close to Houston. We are going to be in the DMV area. That's DC, Maryland, Virginia area. We are going to be in Chicago. We are coming to Brooklyn, New York. I will be there on April 30th when my book actually drops and we are going to be in Chi-Town, baby. So if you are in any of those areas or you feel like taking a little summer trip in the spring, I highly encourage you to come out.

I don't know if you have ever been to a book tour stop from any other authors, but I'm really excited about this because God's given me an idea that's definitely going to stretch me. It's going to be new, but I have to be obedient to what God's telling me to do with this tour.

For this tour, we're going to cycle through three different stages of the way that power moves. It's going to be interactive. We're going to have special guests. And then we're going to close it out with connection in the presence of God, because we know that we cannot expect to have power unless we are connected to the all-powerful. So I'm excited about that.

Listen, next week, I am going to respond to so many of your questions. We have been getting many of them and it's getting too hard to keep up. But for now, we're just going to do one this week. But I am telling you, if you have questions, send them to me. I'm not overwhelmed. Podcast at womanevolved.com. But I do want to take the time to just kind of cycle through a few of them. So I will do that next week. And I will try to not make my answers long-winded because I just get to talk and

I think because I'm introverted, when I start speaking out loud, the words just come out like vomit. So y'all speed through them. Don't worry about me. Let's get into this week's question. You are going to really, really enjoy this one. Mostly because it's probably one of the questions that I get asked the most and which people want to know, child, how do you do it?

Hi, Pastor Sarah. My name is Latasha Duffy. My question to you is, how do you balance being an entrepreneur and a mom and also trying to keep Christ first? Sometimes being an entrepreneur, it can be very stressful and I deal with a lot of anxiety. And so I'm just wondering, how do you balance and handle it all?

I find it difficult to answer the question about how do you balance it all, keeping Christ in the front of everything that you do while also dealing with anxiety and stress and just life moving at warp speed. The reality is some days I don't know that I am balancing it all very well. And then there are other days where I realized that because I'm at a place of peace, that there is no balancing act involved. But sometimes

I'm going to share with you a few things that have been helpful for me. And it is honestly why I wrote the book Power Moves. When you talk about balancing it all, there are some days where I am posting the podcast and answering questions. And we have a full production crew, lights, camera, hair and makeup. And then there are other days like today where I need to get a podcast turned around. I've had a long day momming it up.

And I am looking like the way God brought me into the world with that. But this wig and the micro blades. Anyway, stay focused. Here's the point. Sometimes balancing it all is not how do I do everything at the same level that I have always done them, but rather how can I show up in this moment with the truth of how much capacity I have and allow my circumstances to progress.

prioritize what's most important. I love doing this podcast. I love hearing your questions. It is not so important that I have the hair, the makeup and the production crew in order to turn this around when it's nice to have it. It's nice, but I don't need it. And I think a lot of times we are thinking about how do I consistently be who I was when I was at the top of my game instead of allowing the game to adjust to where we are today.

And so prioritization is one of the things that has really helped me to balance the things that are assigned to my responsibility.

In addition to that, I will say that I certainly struggle with anxiety when it comes to getting things done. I often worry that I am in over my head. I don't have what it takes, but I have also recognized that my anxiety is the greatest when I am thinking about all of the things that I have to do at one time instead of realizing that none of them require me to do them right now.

When I ask myself the question of all of the things that you have to do, what can you do right now? What is most pressing? What matters right now? What will matter tomorrow? What will matter six months down the road? Because sometimes I am stressing about things that are happening literally six, seven months, eight months down the road. And so reminding myself to be present in the moment, to enjoy what I have. If I'm driving the kids and I have a book due,

All I can do is drive the car. If I am writing a book but the kids need a bath, I can close the laptop down or ask for help in making sure that the kids get their bedtime routine.

So that I can do what is in front of me. I recognize it's a luxury to have the ability to ask my partner for help. As a single mother, I would have to be a little bit more intentional. I would have to ask around thinking in advance of people who may be able to support me with the children so that I can accomplish my work.

I was fortunate in that when I lived in Dallas, I was able to ask some of my family members to chip in to help me get whatever I needed to get done. I will say that keeping Christ in the front of it all as an entrepreneur and a business owner is not something that I intentionally seek out doing. And let me tell you why. Because I consider work what I do.

and my relationship with Christ, who I am. And a lot of times when we're still in the beginning stages of walking out our faith, we want to make sure that we're honoring the love that we have for God, our desire to be obedient and to really live a life that looks like Jesus. And it does take work to make sure that we are making sure our actions align with the values that are important to us.

I just want you to know that it will not always be a struggle to do that. And you will have to give yourself permission to come to a place where you say, I believe that this is not something that I am striving for, that when I really accepted Jesus in my heart and as my savior, that he's dwelling inside of me. And because Jesus dwells inside of me, my priority is to make space

for the Spirit of God to settle me into where I am right now, to challenge me in the decisions that I make and to be obedient when I feel those urgings. The reality is that for many of us, when the Holy Spirit wants us to go in a certain direction or stop certain actions, it's pretty clear

It's not necessarily something that we have to seek out. We feel it immediately that I'm doing something that lacks my new integrity, that I'm doing something that I feel convicted about in the moment. And if we can be obedient and responsive to those moments, we have less to worry about when it comes to making sure that we keep Christ in everything. If we honor Christ in the areas where Christ is challenging us,

We have to know that that same God, that same spirit of God that is leading us to a path of righteousness knows how to get our attention. The question is, will we respond or will we become desensitized? Because we don't necessarily want to respond in the way that we need to in the moment. So I say all of that to say that.

Keeping Christ in the center of everything that we do has everything to do with who we are and how we center Christ in our being and trusting that that will overflow into everything that we do. You know, and just on, I guess, the most Eve advice level ever when it comes to balancing it all. Don't be afraid to let some balls drop.

Don't be afraid to say I used to have capacity. I don't have it anymore. Don't be afraid to say I may need to slow down. I'm getting a little burnt out. I need a break. I need to pull back from things that are not essential. I need to ask for additional support so that I can continue to do things that are essential. Oh, OK, I'm going to say this and then I'm going to zip it. But I was speaking at a women's lunch today to business owners and entrepreneurs in Dallas.

And the theme of it was about acceleration. And I did some studying for it. Even though I was only speaking for 15 minutes, I was nervous. I wanted to be prepared. And what I learned about acceleration is most of the time when we use it, we talk about a car increasing in speed. We think about things that are gaining momentum. But in physics, acceleration is any change in velocity, not just an increase in velocity, but even coming to a stop is a change in velocity,

that is still considered acceleration. And so as a business owner, especially as a woman, if you are a woman of color, then you may fall into the perception of being behind. There's

All types of statistics that support the notion that women of color are more behind when it comes to business and entrepreneurship and pay scales. And we have the evidence of that in our experiences. And yet the reality is that acceleration sometimes means slowing down so that we can take care of the bodies that perform activities.

our talents, our business, our gifts so that we can take care of the soul in which all that we do flows from because who wants to gain the world and lose their soul? And so I will say lastly, that when it comes to balancing it all, my husband has a book called Balance, definitely need to read it. But when it comes to balancing it all,

Make sure that you are defining acceleration properly, recognizing that it can be speeding up and slowing down at any given moment and asking yourself, what is the best way for me to accelerate today? Is it in me speeding up or is it in me slowing down? Evolve.

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Hi, I'm Katie Lowes. And I'm Guillermo Diaz. And now we're back with another season of our podcast, Unpacking the Toolbox, where Guillermo and I will be rewatching the show. To officially unpack season three of Scandal. Unpredictable. You don't see it coming. It's a wild, wild ride. The twists and turns in season three. Mesmerizing. But also,

Also, we get to hang out with all of our old scandal friends like Bellamy Young, Scott Foley, Tony Goldwyn, Debbie Allen, Kerry Washington. So many people. Even more shocking assassinations from Papa and Mama Pope. And yes, Katie and I's famous teeth pulling scene that kicks off a romance.

And it was Peak TV. This is new scandal content for your eyes, for your ears, for your hearts, for your minds. Well, suit up, gladiators. Grab your big old glass of wine and prepare yourselves for even more behind the scenes. Listen to Unpacking the Toolbox on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Meet the real woman behind the tabloid headlines in a personal podcast that delves into the life of the notorious Tori Spelling as she takes us through the ups and downs of her sometimes glamorous, sometimes chaotic life and marriage. I don't think he knew how big it would be, how big the life I was given and live is.

I think he was like, oh, yeah, things come and go. But with me, it never came and went. Is she Donna Martin or a down-and-out divorcee? Is she living in Beverly Hills or a trailer park? In a town where the lines are blurred, Tori is finally going to clear the air in the podcast Misspelling. When a woman has nothing to lose, she has everything to gain. I just filed for divorce. Whoa, I said the words. Yeah.

That I've said like in my head for like 16 years. Wild. Listen to Misspelling on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Cheaters and Backstabbers. I'm Shadi Diaz. And I'm Kate Robards. And we are New York City stand-up comedians and best friends. And we love a good cheating and backstabbing story. Oops.

So this is a series where our guests reveal their most shocking cheating stories. Join us as we learn how to avoid getting our hearts broken or our backs slashed. Listen to Cheaters and Backstabbers on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.

I'm Angie Martinez. Check out my podcast where I talk to some of the biggest athletes, musicians, actors in the world. We go beyond the headlines and the soundbites to have real conversations about real life, death, love, and everything in between. This life right here, just finding myself, just relaxation, just not feeling stressed, just not feeling pressed. This is what I'm most proud of. I'm proud of Mary because I've been through hell and some horrible things.

That feeling that I had of inadequacy is gone. You're going to die being you. So you got to constantly work on who you are to make sure that the stars align correctly.

Life ain't easy and it's getting harder and harder. So if you have a story to tell, if you've come through some trials, you need to share it because you're going to inspire someone. You're going to give somebody the motivation to not give up, to not quit. Listen to Angie Martinez IRL on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I could honestly go on and on about the ways that we are able to balance our family and our relationship with God together.

It's really important to me primarily because I think that I culturally received a, I'm trying to say this the right way. I believe that culturally there is a notion that we need to keep Christ in the center of everything.

maybe what we do for others, but when we're at home, that's kind of the place where we can kind of relax or we don't have to work as hard to make sure that we're keeping Christ in the forefront of all that we do. Maybe that's just a PK thing. Maybe it's just a me thing that whatever it is, you guys can judge me, write me, tell me about it later. It is honestly...

I will tell you that I actually decided to attempt gentle parenting and then realized that even in doing gentle parenting, that I wasn't necessarily combining my faith in the gentle parenting. Though I have a prayer life, I study, I read the Bible, me and the kids, we listen to worship music in the car in the morning, we pray in the morning. I was inspired, honestly, by reading a book by Kim Cash Tate.

They're novels and they are amazing. I started with the Promises of God series, but I noticed that in the novel, a friend would be having a random conversation and they would be like, we should pray about this. And then they would start praying. And I would think, when I go throughout the day and something comes up that I should pray about, I take a little note and I'm like, all right, I'll pray about that. I'm gonna add that to my notes. But I have been actively trying to not just

So

So I decided that for this week's episode, we would dig a little bit deeper into parenting, especially coming off the heels of last week's rescue. If you heard last week's episode, then you know one of my girls was out here trying to be rescued from gentle parenting. And let me tell you, I absolutely positively understand why we are trying to be rescued from gentle parenting.

Now, if you're somewhere like, what in the world is gentle parenting? I have heard people talking about it, but please make it make sense. Gentle parenting is a parenting approach that encourages a partnership between you and your child to make choices based on an internal willingness instead of external pressures. First of all, I want you to know that my Shondo shivered at this. My Shondo shivered reading that definition. I don't like that definition. I saw it on Guideposts.

Montessori, I need another one. That's not working. Okay. Very well. Family says gentle parenting is an evidence-based approach to raising happy, confident children. This parenting style is composed of four main elements, empathy, respect, understanding, and boundaries, and focuses on fostering the qualities you want in your child by being compassionate and enforcing consistent boundaries. I like that one a little bit better.

The reason why I am trying, now y'all don't turn it off. Do not turn it off, okay? I started gentle parenting myself before I started gentle parenting my children. Let me say more. So my husband and I have almost been married for 10 years and I noticed pretty early on within our marriage that I would get defensive when he said I did something wrong.

I was prideful when he did something wrong because I think it proved that he wasn't any better than me. And I was...

unable to separate who I am from what I did. So if I made a mistake and I maybe paid a bill late or dinner was late, like things that were maybe not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, I am ready to throw me out with the bathwater. I am the baby in the bathwater, throw me away. Okay. That is part of how I have experienced myself and experience. Basically, I think a

structure that heavily emphasized performing well over interrogating how we got off track. What can we do without shame involved, right? You know, I have not been raised in every black household, but I

I have talked to many of the blacks and many of the blacks, I don't know, I have not talked to as many of the whites, but many of the blacks have told me that this is part of their experience too. Although when I spoke to Brene Brown at conference, she kind of made me believe that some of the white folks was going through this too. Brown folks, what y'all doing over there? Yellow, what you got going? Tell me how many of us have experienced this same level of anxiety

performance-based connection. And so when I realized that if I did not relearn that who you are is not what you do, you can apologize without it being a reflection of your worth and your value. You can speak up for your needs without having to get them fulfilled in unhealthy ways. When I learned that I can be a person who

who embodies the fullness of my wants and my desires and to be corrected and steered into a direction of growth. When I learned that that was possible,

I basically started gentle parenting the responses that I would get. So I would get in trouble when I was growing up. Maybe I would shut down, do what I was going to do anyway, or I would feel like I'm a terrible person. But there are moments throughout my adult years in which I do something wrong and I tell myself, you're just human. You're not perfect. You're going to make mistakes. I am speaking to myself in the way that I need to get out of that trauma response moment.

And so I started gentle parenting as a response to my own trauma and then realized that I was doing the same thing with my children. And listen, parenting is an experiment. I could be jacking this all up, okay? Don't take no advice from me unless you're willing to be in experiment lane because we're just seeing what we can do out here, right? But I...

I wanted to invite my children to, you know, tell you a little bit about gentle parenting. So I asked them first to define, I asked the younger ones cause you know, Malachi is 21. He,

I'm trying to gentle parent him now, but I was 14 when I had him. You talking about raggedy parenting, tough parenting. She did the best she could parenting. I love him parenting, fun parenting, raggedy parenting, like all mixed up in there together. That was his experience. And we're working through introducing healthy patterns in our relationship dynamic now. But I asked the children who I'm still practicing on how they define gentle parenting. And so I want you to hear their definitions.

So it's like being more understanding to your kids and just trying to think how they think and stepping into their shoes. Gentle parenting is when...

A parent actually takes a step back from the authoritarian persona per se and puts themselves in the child's shoes and attempts to build a connection with the child based on their experiences instead of judging them and punishing them for it. They take a step back and they're like, I can understand you're going through a lot of feelings right now and just take a softer approach. Now that doesn't work with all kids, but yeah.

Okay. So you have heard their definitions of gentle parenting and Kenzie's taking a psychology class. So y'all just bear with me because it's one thing to want to be a gentle parent. It's another thing to have somebody actually with like a clipboard trying to tell you whether or not you're, you're, you know, living up to those principles. Um,

Um, so I will tell you that my goal in being a gentle parent is to display for them a loving example of someone who can handle every part of who they are. I was convinced that there were limits on what God could handle with me. And as a result, it hurt me. I hurt myself and it created distance in my relationship with God. Um,

Our homes are the first encounters that we have with love, whether that is a love that is healthy and pure, complicated or completely toxic, without intentional work.

it would be difficult for us to not, in some ways, misalign God when our parental experience of love has left some things to be desired for. So I assume that much like, you know, I experienced at home that if you did something, like you're going to get grounded, you're going to get shut down. You know, I used to feel unloved when I was on punishment. You know, I know that wasn't necessarily the goal, but I used to feel like, oh,

they don't love me anymore. And so when I did something that I felt like violated my relationship with God, I assumed that it would be difficult for him to still love me. And so it made it easier for me to stray when I did not live in that consciousness of love. And so I do see...

my desire to gentle parent and not be a pushover and not, not be ran over, you know? Um, but I see that as a part of me doing the best that I can to filter the love that God has for them through my imperfect human hands. And let me tell you, I don't always get it right. Ella, Ella, Ella, let Ella tell you, hold on Ella. So do you think I'm more of a gentle parent or a tough parent? Well, gentle parent. Really? You think I'm a gentle parent?

Because you always try to understand me. You're like, I can see how you feel this way or this way. And you're always trying to step into my shoes. Even when it doesn't work, I can tell that you're trying to understand me. How can you tell when it's not working? Because you're like... Ella, what I be breathing out? You're like...

I can see. I can see how you feel this way. Because you always just take a deep breath. And then you just try to restart yourself and think how you feel in the heart. And like how I could feel. Thank you, Ellen. That means I'm trying. I'm trying to be a gentle parent, but sometimes I lose my patience. Well, I know that. But you...

There's a scale. Sometimes you're an 8. Sometimes you're a 2. It's around that range. Like, is 8 a really great parent and 2 is like an amazing parent? It's a scale of 2. Okay. 1 to 10. And sometimes you're a 2. And sometimes you're a 8. Okay, never a 10. But never a 1 either. Never a 10, but never a 1.

How do I get to be a 10? Can you tell me how I get to be a 10? If you get to be a 10, it's like you're literally like... If you start going like, Ella, clean your room or I will do something to you. Okay, and what's a 2? A 2 is like... Clean your room now! They sound about the same, Ella. No. They do. They sound about the same. No, brother. No.

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With this amazing deal, you can trade in your eligible smartphone any year, any condition for a new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6. It's so good. In fact, it will have you shouting from the rooftop. So get yourself down to the street level and learn how to snag the new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6 on AT&T and maybe grab a ladder on the way home. AT&T, connecting changes everything.

Requires trade-in of Galaxy S, Note, or Z Series smartphone. Limited time offer. 256GB for $0. Additional fees, terms, and restrictions apply. See att.com slash Samsung or visit an AT&T store for details.

Hi, I'm Katie Lowe's. And I'm Guillermo Diaz. And now we're back with another season of our podcast, Unpacking the Toolbox, where Guillermo and I will be rewatching the show. To officially unpack season three of Scandal. Unpredictable. You don't see it coming. It's a wild, wild ride. The twists and turns in season three. Mesmerizing. But also,

Also, we get to hang out with all of our old scandal friends like Bellamy Young, Scott Foley, Tony Goldwyn, Debbie Allen, Kerry Washington. So many people. Even more shocking assassinations from Papa and Mama Pope. And yes, Katie and I's famous teeth pulling scene that kicks off a romance.

And it was Peak TV. This is new scandal content for your eyes, for your ears, for your hearts, for your minds. Well, suit up, gladiators. Grab your big old glass of wine and prepare yourselves for even more behind the scenes. Listen to Unpacking the Toolbox on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Meet the real woman behind the tabloid headlines in a personal podcast that delves into the life of the notorious Tori Spelling, as she takes us through the ups and downs of her sometimes glamorous, sometimes chaotic life and marriage. I don't think he knew how big it would be, how big the life I was given and live is.

I think he was like, oh, yeah, things come and go. But with me, it never came and went. Is she Donna Martin or a down-and-out divorcee? Is she living in Beverly Hills or a trailer park? In a town where the lines are blurred, Tori is finally going to clear the air in the podcast Misspelling. When a woman has nothing to lose, she has everything to gain. I just filed for divorce. Whoa, I said the words. Yeah.

that I've said like in my head for like 16 years. Wild. Listen to Misspelling on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Welcome to Cheaters and Backstabbers. I'm Shadi Diaz. And I'm Kate Robards. And we are New York City stand-up comedians and best friends. And we love a good cheating and backstabbing story. So this is a series where our guests reveal their most shocking cheating stories. Join us as we learn how to avoid getting our hearts broken or our backs slashed. Listen to Cheaters and Backstabbers on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.

I'm Angie Martinez. Check out my podcast where I talk to some of the biggest athletes, musicians, actors in the world. We go beyond the headlines and the soundbites to have real conversations about real life, death, love, and everything in between. This life right here, just finding myself, just relaxation, just not feeling stressed, just not feeling pressed. This is what I'm most proud of. I'm proud of Mary because I've been through hell and some horrible things.

That feeling that I had of inadequacy is gone. You're going to die being you. So you got to constantly work on who you are to make sure that the stars align correctly.

Life ain't easy and it's getting harder and harder. So if you have a story to tell, if you've come through some trials, you need to share it because you're going to inspire someone. You're going to give somebody the motivation to not give up, to not quit. Listen to Angie Martinez IRL on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

So when I was growing up, my mother would give me a stare and I knew what that stare meant. I guess for me, it's a deep sigh. When I give a deep sigh, Ella knows that I am trying to hang on to God's unchanging hand and to gentle parenting, but it's getting, it's getting a little rough and it's getting a little tough out here. Um,

But, you know, I'm doing the best that I can because I truly do believe that there is an opportunity in us being gentle with ourselves, gentle with our children that neutralizes the pressure for us to perform well in parenting and allows us to be human. And from that place of being human and parenting, we also have an opportunity to grow emotionally.

to teach our children how to do the same. And to go back to the mind your business question, it gives us an opportunity to balance it all because I'm not trying to balance perfection. I am balancing with humanity, with grace, with empathy, and with transparency about what I am capable of doing. This is part of the reason why

I felt it appropriate to include the kids in this conversation about balancing it all because they are the ones who bear the scars of when I don't balance things well. Like y'all might get mad at me, but like you're going to not listen to the podcast. You may stop watching me on YouTube. You may unfollow me. You may not come to conference. You may not buy a book, you know, but my children, if I jack this up, if I

I don't balance this thing well. I shape their lives in a way that I want to answer to God for.

And so, you know how I was telling you about that book that I was reading and just realizing that they would just incorporate prayer at any given moment and how it inspired me. I was like, I want to be that kind of person. And then my daughter Mackenzie was going through something and I was like, I'm going to be that person. And I think she was having a tough day and she was telling me how she was feeling. And I was like, OK, Mackenzie, let's pray about it. So I didn't know if she had noticed that shift in me.

That I was being more intentional about taking the time to really, you know, pray with her about what was on her heart in the moment and not just be the gentle parent that listens, but be the gentle parent that lays her at the feet of Jesus. And so I asked her whether or not she noticed it.

Does it help you when sometimes like instead of telling you to go pray that I pray with you? And I've been trying this new thing where like I pray with you about the things that I would usually pray to God about you. So like if I'm worried about your friendship circle or I'm worried about you like being focused, like instead of me just being like, man, I'm going to take that into my own prayer closet. I've been trying to pray with you. Have you noticed that? I have noticed that. I remember we were I was bawling my eyes out.

When was that? Like the 17th of January. Not that I remember the specific date. Whatever day you made me go to school after I was, after we landed late. Um, which was so rude. But anyways, um, so rude. What was rude about that again? No, because I will be, um,

coughing my lungs out you'll be alright go to school you will be alright that's gentle parenting they sleep in late and their parents let them let them stay home can't imagine it you need to get up you'll be fine me too it's strong resilience okay but you were crying your eyes out the day I made you go to school and what happened

I prayed with you. Right. You prayed with me and I listened to my worship music after I do like, I want you to try listening to your worship music tonight. I was like, okay. And I listened to William or no, no, no. I'm going to listen to talking to Jesus. You know, that's my song. I was like,

I was like, oh my gosh, it's been so long since I've like, actually, it's not even like, you know, you make us pray every morning. But when I was praying, it didn't feel like a chore. It didn't feel like something I had to do. It actually felt like, oh, I'm talking to a friend. I'm talking to somebody close to me. I'm talking to God how I would talk to you about a bad day.

You know, so I think instead of looking at a relationship with God as a chore, just look at it as venting to somebody that you love. Because, you know, sometimes it's like, oh, I got to pray. I forgot. You got to be like, hey, big pookie, how was your day? Oh, wait, you saw my day. But anyways, I'm going to tell you about it anyways. Like you didn't see the whole thing happen. I'm going to still tell you, you know, instead of looking at it.

It's like a, it's more than a friendship. It's like a really genuine, never ending or unconditional loving relationship. You know, I think everybody should have that. I have to be honest.

Taking the time to reflect with my children about parenting is not just something I've done on the podcast. I've asked them before. And if you want to know how you're doing, if you're trying to get a progress report from these little crumb snatchers, may I suggest that you ask them these two questions. What is it about parenting

mommy or daddy that you will do with your children? What will you repeat with your children? And what is it about mommy or daddy that you will change with your children? And this has been a very interesting way of me hearing people

from their perspective, how I'm showing up and how it affects them. I didn't record that this time, but it's been nice sharing with you the ways that I am parenting my children and how I am learning, how I'm growing and how I am attempting to balance it all.

I can only imagine that when you are on the outside looking in, hearing someone else's children speak about them, that you are able to tell a lot about them based off of how the kids speak. And, you know, they're funny and they're honest and sweet.

They know that I'm not perfect and they seem to be okay with that. I don't know. It's an experiment. I'll let you know for sure. Couldn't have this conversation without thinking about the closest, you know, my dad calls it soft parenting. And he told me, can't be gentle. This world ain't going to be gentle and this world going to be tough on you. And he was not lying. And I am grateful for some tough parenting that made me resilient in the face of adversity.

I have to say, though, that my mother was a pillow in the midst of the tough parenting. I don't think that she had all of the information that I have now, but I think for the context of the times in which she was raising us, that she was really close to a gentle parent.

And so I couldn't close this episode out without asking her to chime in about parenting. Her youngest child will be 30 this year, and it would be easy to assume that she is finished, but I assure you that she's just now really beginning to raise me.

Is that not ignorant? She is just now. I'm just now willing to listen. I'm just now willing to say, I don't know what I'm doing. I don't have it all figured out. Mommy, please help me. And so homegirl has a newborn. And so I asked her to share a little bit about her newborn experience and to say a prayer for us. In the throes of motherhood.

Oh my God, I picked up books, I read magazine articles, I watched the news, I watched cartoons, I watched drama, I watched comedy. And at the end of the day, in the throes of motherhood, I only wanted to watch each child and according to that child's personality,

develop a space in my heart that would reckon with anything that I found most perplexing. I couldn't ask my mother. I couldn't ask my grandmother. I couldn't ask an auntie. I couldn't ask a neighbor. I had to look inside my heart and look inside the heart of that child and understand what it was that they needed, not from me,

but in order to survive the vicissitudes of life. And the reason you couldn't even ask anybody, because each child's journey was going to be different, unlike mine, unlike their dad's. And so whenever they hit a wall, I knew that it was part of their story. And the only thing I could do, in some cases, seek medical advice, in some cases,

Just be still and watch. But most importantly, that child told me and is still telling me exactly who they are, what they need, and what life affords them. It's very difficult to watch them figure it out because I don't want them to bump their head or fall out of the crib or tumble down the stairs.

And that was physically. But now sometimes right now it's an emotional set of stairs or it's a physical or a mental or even a spiritual set of stairs that they either have to decide whether they're going to go up the stairs or if they're going to go down the stairs. And so motherhood never ends.

It never ends. From the cradle to the grave, whatever I've instilled in them will remain. And they'll decide how to eat the bones or eat the meat that mom provided and throw away the bones when it comes their time to do exactly what I'm trying to do. Raise fantastic people. So I pray right now in the name of Jesus.

whether you're the mother of a newborn or if you've lost a child, somewhere in between, you've had to decide to share your body, share your life, share your words of comfort and advice. And I pray, oh God, in the name of Jesus, at the end of the day, at days in when everybody's still and your heart is still beating,

that a calmness and an assurance would come over you to let you know that you've done the best that you could and that God will assist you if you ask him for the wisdom to continue to be the mother, whether it's a spiritual mother or a biological mother, an adoptive mother, a foster mother. You'll have to ask to give you the wisdom and the foreknowledge

And then at the end of the day, the peace in knowing that your hand has touched a generation whose hand will touch another generation. And that you as a great mom have raised people that will be great human beings filled with God's love, his character. And that it will have to be developed, that it won't come ready made.

but that God will move them because he has a specific plan for their lives. In Jesus' name, rest in hope. Mamas, we stand together. In Jesus' name.

And with that, episode seven of the Woman Evolved podcast brought to you by the Black Effect Network is coming to an end. I have to tell you, I don't think Rescue Eve is working, although the last one definitely gave us lots of content for this episode. I don't think the girls get it, you know, and if the girls who get it, get it, and the girls who don't, don't, then this girl has to decide to abandon ship.

Um, you know, it's been a whirlwind of, I'm trying to think if there's even been anything in the news cycle where I'm like, child, Travis Kelsey was yelling at the coach man. Um, Taylor Swift took that Grammy from, but y'all, you know what I mean? Who wants to talk about that? That Beyonce's got a country album. Um,

What else is there? Is there anything else happening in the news that is Rescue Eve worthy? And is it even worthy of Rescue Eve? Or do we need to just mind our business and drink our water? Y'all send me an email. Let me know if Rescue Eve is working. I will keep trying if you will dive into this pool with me. But if not, let's say sayonara and kiss this thing goodbye. All right. Listen, I love you. I hope you have an amazing week. Thank you so much for listening. God, thank you for everything.

Every woman learning to be gentle with herself, whether she is a mother or just a girl in a hard world, trying to find what it means to be soft and sensitive, yet powerful and authentic.

God, I pray that you would show her that it's okay to let her walls down, even if she's got to put them back up to go into certain rooms. God, I pray that you teach her the beauty of having walls that are easy to dismount and slow to put back up, which means she'll have to be pensive when guarded.

quick to remove them when necessary. God, we don't want to go through this world hard-hearted, cold-hearted, waiting for someone to betray us. And yet the reality is that many of us have had to survive. We want to live though. We want to thrive. We want to grow. We want to evolve. So God, I pray.

that as this podcast comes to an end, that my girls feel a little less alone, a lot more known and evidence that they've grown. Thank you, Jesus, for connection, for sisterhood. Thank you for power that moves in our lives and changes us for the better. In Jesus name. Amen. Y'all pre-order my book. Come see me on tour. I cannot wait to kick it with you. I will talk to you next week.

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