Agree to Disagree | "The Most Disappointed Man" (S2E7) with special guest Debra Jo Rupp
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On today's episode of That Was Us, we will be discussing season two, episode seven, The Most Disappointed Man. Randall adjusts to the foster system. Kate and Toby take the next step in their relationship. Kevin visits Sophie in New York. And Jack and Rebecca finalize Randall's adoption.

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Hello, friends. Hello. Welcome to That Was Us, the five-star hotel of podcasts. I love that. The three Michelin star restaurant of podcasts. As high as it gets? Yeah, for Michelin star restaurants. This is the Mercedes-Benz of podcasts. We're doing all right for ourselves. This is the Mandy Moore of podcasts. Oh, wow.

- The Sterling K. Brown of podcasts. - Chris Sullivan of podcasts. - Christopher Sullivan. - I'm more like, my favorite murder. - Good. How are you guys doing today? - Well, how are you? - I'm doing well as well.

It was a joy to dip into this episode. It's funny because you remember the show, but on a macro level. But then when you get granular again, you're like, oh, that happened. Right. Oh, that happened in this episode. Right. That sort of thing. Deborah Jo Rupp. Oh, Delroy Lindo. Popping up as our social worker in the present day. But let's talk about the past. Okay. Yeah. This episode was like a surprise to me how emotional it was. Because I do remember...

The filming of it. Yeah. As I was watching it, I was like, oh, this episode. It was challenging with children. Children are always challenging. And I think the trick of this show is obviously if you're an audience member and you're watching, oftentimes when we have flashback scenes to the children being quite little, like toddler age and maybe even younger than that. Yeah.

They're different kids all the time. Right. And so sometimes children are children. They're toddlers. That's right. They're not supposed to be on-camera talent that listen to direction, obviously. They have huge demands. They demand naps. Huge demands. They demand juice boxes. How were these young babies? How many did you have to work with as well? There were, I think it was the same three for maybe two days of work that was split up in

taking the pictures, which was sort of something that happens in the beginning of the episode. We're taking like family pictures and then the actual courthouse scenes like in front of the judge. It was the same children. And they were wonderful and so adorable, but they're also kids and they're cranky because their naps are being pushed in weird directions and stuff. So I just remember it being...

Maybe one of the more challenging shoots with kids that are, you know, one or one and a half or something. Didn't require a lot of acting. It didn't require a lot of acting in terms of like juggling the children. So yes, I remember that. And I remember obviously working with the incredible Delroy Lindo. Milo and I had some scenes with him and he was...

Very intimidating, which was perfect. Yes. I'm not sure if he was in character the entire time or if this is just his presence in life. He's a large and powerful man. Yes. He's a large and powerful man. So, okay.

Well, you guys are cleaning the house at the beginning of the episode in preparation for your social worker to come. Our social worker, Paula, is coming over. And Jack and Rebecca want to make the best impression, obviously. They are just, they want to mind their P's and Q's and do everything right and keep it tight. And this is their child. So whatever they have to do to sort of get over the finish line. Yeah. And we have a montage because we have the

first time that she comes and then she has a couple other subsequent surprise visits, I believe, right? That were not announced. Because you have one announced with like, this kid is trying to take my nipple off and you're like, oh, snap. Yeah. You're here. Paula's here. Hey, Paula's here. Yeah.

Right, but she has nothing but good things to say about you guys. It's a formality. Everything's gonna go according to plan. - Yeah, so she sets us up to go to the courthouse thinking like, the judge is gonna rubber stamp this, sign some papers and we're done. - Man, before you get to the judges, 'cause you do say, I think we need to take new family pictures because they always have the pictures of the families up. And this is my own personal anecdote to add to this.

- Is that why this ended up in the show? - No, I don't know if it is or not. - Okay. - But I will just, I would love to speak to shooting a show and being an individual of a particular shade of soul. - Yes. - Amongst folks that have a different shade. - Yeah. - Yeah.

And the lighting that goes into it, there'd be times in which the two of us would have a scene and my single, I feel like the light is like blasting me out. Like this, I look at Mandy's light and I was like, that seems so nice and soft. And then you see her camera and you're like moody and kind of the show, yeah.

But it's a thing, just trying to find the balance of it. And I thought it was a really kind of lovely thing that they discussed in the family pictures. Like the guy's like, oh, I'm just trying to find the right sort of balance. And Jack's like, just take it and we'll figure it out. And you see later on, Mandy will cut from one shot to take Randall from this one and fit him into that one. Like, we'll figure it out. Yeah. Right? Okay. This is one of the many things about the black experience that...

I, even in watching the show, never even thought to think. It's just something I would never, it never occurred to me, whether it was the skin care, the hair care, this lighting issue. Oh, yeah. And our show introduces those subjects so thoroughly throughout the story. I would say kudos to our writer of this particular episode, Keri Yegum, Nigerian writer.

Nigerian-American, Nigerian lives in America, and pays particular attention to those sorts of things, right? So we go to the court.

We get to the judge and you see Delroy kind of look over at the family and just sort of like has a moment of contemplation. And he says like, "I'd like to talk to your social worker about something, but I'll have you guys come back." - Yeah. - And you guys are like, "What do you mean? Talk to her about what?" Like we thought this was just a- - Yeah, she's not here and she told us like everything was- - Yeah. - Yeah. - And he's like, "Like I said, I just like to talk to your social worker. So I'll see you in a few weeks." And you're like, "Okay."

So we go to, you guys are all in the hallway. I think he's grabbing some vending machine stuff or what have you. And I think Jack, is it Jack or you? It's like, I just want to ask him, like, what is it that he wants to talk to the social worker about? And he's like, you know, it's not appropriate for us to talk about this right now, but if you want to talk, let's go to Chambers, right? Go to Chambers. And I tell you, like, I felt it.

I felt, I was like, and I kind of knew, I mean, I read the script, but as an audience member, I was like, he gonna say something about white people raising a black baby. You know what I'm saying? And he says it, and it's this interesting thing. And I have it happen within my house all the time.

where I'm talking to Andrew in particular, because he's 13. Amari's still a baby. Because even Delroy says in the show, he's like, I didn't know what it was to be black until I was eight or nine. One of those two ages, right? Which was the first time in which somebody called me a nigger.

Right? And I know I heard this on set, too, that there would be times in which he would say it, and then sometimes he would say N-word or whatnot. Yes, yes. But for your coverage, he, like, said it, so you were like... Yeah. Boom. Right? For sure. And it is one of those things. These conversations about race happen much earlier, I think, in households of color than they do in predominantly white households because...

When you are the minority navigating your way through world, you have to know how the majority sees you. Women don't have an acute understanding what it's like to live in a man's world.

Black people have an acute understanding of what it's like to live in a white world. LGBTQ people have a very acute understanding of what it's like to live in a straight world, right? But the opposite doesn't necessarily hold true, right? So he's saying like, how are you going to deal with raising this black boy when you don't have a frame of experience? My father has heard it so many times. He knew.

what to give me in this particular moment. - And you don't know what to give him. - Right. And so I'm curious, like acting through it, like,

'Cause there's visceral things that will happen as an actor. Like what I'm imagining is like, I'll figure it out. You know what I'm saying? He's my child, I'll figure it out. So I'm just curious for you. - That is exactly where I came from. - Yeah. - And the defense of, that they sort of give him, like with all due respect, like he was dropped in a fire station. He was abandoned by his father. Like we love him. He's our child. He's all we've ever known. We're all he's ever known.

As a human, I do understand where he's coming from as well. So it's like, again, the balance as an actor of trying to sort of like draw that boundary and draw that line and going like, I can't let that infuse my performance or infuse my way of thinking. It is a great scene. It is a great story when nobody is wrong.

-Yeah, it's true. -Yeah. Everyone's intentions are pure and you understand both sides of the coin, you know? But I just-- I remember as the actor-- Yes, as the character having to like so firmly hold on to this belief of like, "This is our child and we will do whatever it takes to get these papers signed and for him to like officially be a part of our family. So nothing is going to stop me. Not this judge.

And I respect him and I respect his way of thinking, but I do believe that he's not correct in this instance. So what happens? There's some moment, I believe, that causes him to have a second thought that ultimately leads to his recusal.

- My letter to him. - It's the letter. - Yeah. - You sent the letter. - I sent the letter. - With the picture in the letter? - With the picture, yeah. - Yeah, okay, 'cause that was a beautiful moment and just saying like, listen, and you said basically what you just said there, all due respect, understand what you're saying. This is our son. We are Pearsons, we don't stop. So we'll just keep showing up. - We're gonna keep showing up. - You give me this kid. - And if I can brag on our show a little bit, a lesser show would have done that in person.

A lesser show would have had the mother showing up in the judge's chambers to tell him a thing or two. Right. A lesser show would have had the judge have a change of heart and be up on the stand.

- And say like-- - And say, "You were right, I was wrong." - Yeah, you're right. - But the way it was handled as I was watching him, like this is, first of all, the only way this works is this letter. And the only way it works when both people are right is that he does not judge one way or the other. - Concede, he just steps aside. - He says, "I recuse myself." - There you go. - 'Cause I'm not, he said, "I'm not gonna change--" - My mind. - He did, he said exactly that. - "What I think."

but he knows that she's not wrong, and he's not wrong. Right. So he shouldn't be the one to decide this. And it was like, that is some deft television. And SKB, you were saying that you ran into Delroy, like, months later. Yeah. And he talked about how people... He said, like, he gets recognized for this show as much as anything else in his career, if not more so. That's wild! And he had...

Two, three scenes? Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Two and a half. But the show was in the zeitgeist. He's like, "Man, I couldn't tell you how many times people come up and stop me for 'This Is Us.'"

- Wow. - Yeah. - And I wonder what the interaction is like, not just I saw you, but like, I agreed with you or I, you did the right, like I wonder what the conversation, or I wonder what his actual opinion of the opinion was. - So do I. - It's interesting. - So do I. - Yeah. - So, but okay, so he does recuse himself and there's a little funny moment there where you guys, like, what does recuse mean? Is that a good thing or? - Yeah.

They're like, we're not those people that use the cues on a regular basis. Jack and Rebecca are a little more simple. Their vocabulary is a little more pared down. So yeah. I love that. But I love that they then are, they go to this, they're in front of this new judge and she very kindly signs the papers. Her name, by the way, is Connie Marie Brazelton. Yes.

She is a dear friend of my mother-in-law's. Ryan and I lived in a property that she owned when we first got married. No way. Right? And she was one of the judges. I've also now lived long enough as a Black actor that I know a lot of the Black actors that play judges, both of them.

in this episode of Russia. - Wow. I love that. Oh, her warmth is just immediately like, oh, this is... - You know who she was? She was on ER. Like, you know how they had like a handful of nurses that were always there? - She was one of those nurses. - She was one of those nurses along with like Abraham Ben Ruby and stuff at the beginning. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Did that at the beginning. So yeah, that's how that happened.

Stay in the same timeline because we sort of also opened this episode on young William, right? In front of another judge and this guy was great. Oh my goodness. Yes, we're gonna get to it. His name is Sam Anderson. Sam Anderson. What is he from?

Another populated character from our TV past. I know he is so dang recognizable. I know. I was like, obviously he's gotten older, but... Yes. If you guys look up on IMDb, tell us where he's from because I recognize him immediately. His face, his eye, he has such kind eyes. Yeah. He has a kind face. I want to say...

So keep going because he, so William sort of, he's about to be sentenced to prison for however long. But he's talking to William about, you know, how disappointed he is to have to do this because he doesn't have any prior record or whatnot. And so, and William says something to the effect of, "You're disappointed. Like, you could never be more disappointed than me. I'm the most disappointed man in the world."

and says like, what would you have me do, judge? Right? People are out there selling. Would you not have me use? If you've been through what I've been through, you would do the same thing that I have done. - I lost my mother. Like a year ago, I had my mom, I had my girl. We had just, we had a son coming and now they're all gone. - And we have, we as an audience have an understanding of this.

I think the really interesting thing is that we as an audience have an understanding of what William went through and who he will become. And we also have this understanding of like how he can be perceived by someone who does not know his story. - Sure. - You know what I mean? - Yes. - Which is an interesting thing to be able to hold both of those things simultaneous because it's like, oh, I may be guilty of just

seeing the surface of something so often and assuming I know someone's story. - Filling in the blank. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Yeah. So he, and I'm trying to remember what led to him coming to it, but he talked about how he had sentenced a young boy to 10 years and I had to sentence somebody else to 15 years. And when I do it, I already know what the end of their story is going to be. - Yeah. - Which is a sort of interesting statement about

Does rehabilitation occur with incarceration or does it just mean that I've now sent this individual down a path that is very hard to escape?

Do you know what I'm saying? Yeah. I mean, I think we get to this point, the judge, you know, over the course of William's arc here, before he actually sentences him, he asked to speak to William privately. And you're like, where is this going? What's happening here? Yeah. And he starts to tell William, like, you know, I hate that I had to sentence a young man earlier today to like 15 years and another man yesterday to five years. And basically, like...

Yes, I have it written down here. Which is a comment on the legal system's mandatory minimums. Sure. That judges are placed... Well, because, yeah, he says, I'm a judge and I don't make the rules. Right, and if this is your third offense doing something, then I have to give you blank. And it's a big problem. Yeah, he alludes to the fact that he knows the ending...

even when they haven't even been written yet. That they write terrible stories and I can't change the endings and how horribly disappointed he is in this. And that's when he reveals that he's gonna take a chance on William. And instead of sending him down this one path, this one story that he already knows the ending to, he's gonna get him help. And he's taking a chance on him. And he asks him...

If he ever finds himself in a situation where he potentially is going to be writing the ending that he as the judge expects, he wants him to picture his face. His ugly mug. His ugly mug. It's too old, too fat. I was like, you're not being kind to yourself, sir. I was like, you have a very kind face. It's got to be a rough life for a judge. Yeah.

Having just Googled his IMDb, by the way, quick side note, the answer to your question is he's been on at least one episode of every television show you've ever seen. So he's- He's got 80 something- But he was on 40 episodes of Perfect Strangers. Okay. Okay. Okay, he must, yes. It's like something ingrained in me from childhood. Yeah. Yeah, TGIF. Okay.

So then I love that we have these sort of, we have this flashback or flash forward, I guess, to older. Flashback. This Is Us does this. A flash forward back? A flash forward back or back forward? A flash back forward. Okay.

to older William getting his cancer diagnosis. Yes. And... Wait. Okay, sorry, sorry, sorry. I'm jumping ahead. Because the first one is young William out in the streets. He sees people using...

He thinks of the guy's face, he sees his face, he turns away and goes another. A different direction. A different direction. Then we flash forward to older William getting his cancer diagnosis and sort of struggling with the idea of what is it that I have to live for, right? And you see him see his face again, but then the next thing you know, you see him pulling out some drugs and needles to use, right? And he's pulling it out to use and he's about to shoot up.

And then he gets a knock on the door and he goes to, he cleans up the needles, puts them away. He goes down to the door and he sees Randall laying into him from our pilot episode of the show. - The geniusness of the show. I was like, come on. - Brilliant. - So moments before he was going to shoot up,

And then his son arrives at his door and changes the course of his life. That shit was pretty good. It was an exceptional moment. It was depth. Beautiful montage. I wept. This is all juxtaposed with... Wait, can I finish this part? Oh, yeah, yeah. Because there's one more scene with both judges. That's right. Yes! Together. You do anything good today?

Yeah. I don't know. You? I don't know. Yeah. Yeah. Delroy and this judge that was in charge of William's life. That was great. It was, again, yes. It's very. Chef's kiss. It was perfect. Yep. Time will tell. Okay. Time will tell. We'll be right back with more That Was Us.

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So that takes care of that timeline. What are we gonna do next? Let's do Randall. Let's do Randall. A mirror. Another man dealing with an adoptive situation. The foster system and the legal system and ugh. He has to take Deja to go visit her mother. Court ordered visit. Court ordered visit in jail.

And he's having a judgment about it. Like, you know, how dare this woman drive her daughter around with an unregistered gun? Like, that's the most irresponsible thing. And Beth's like, well, you know, you don't know. I was like, no, I don't know if I have any patience for this at all. Like, I'm going to do this because I'm supposed to do it, but I don't really want to be there. You know her story without really knowing. Come on.

That's a dang, come on now. Ye without sin cast the first stone. Like we're all, the way that we so snap judge folks as human beings. 'Cause it's easy to be able to put somebody in a box and then you just sort of like don't have to deal with them anymore. - Sure. - Right? And the show is always challenging us like, hey, just be careful of these boxes that you throw people into arbitrarily, right?

Black, white, whatever. Anybody is capable of doing it. - Yeah, whatever the situation may be. - Right? So we go to prison and whatnot. I gotta say, I remember working with Lyric on this, the young Deja, and she's a very serious minded young lady. - Yeah. - So I'm always trying to do things to try to get her to be like laugh. Most of my scenes with Lyric are like, can I get her to smile? - I love it.

Um, so we go to prison and we're, it's a real defunct prison and it's always sort of an interesting thing when you do the, have you guys done the real defunct prison thing with jiggers? And it's like.

"Oh, I don't wanna be here." - Yeah. - Energetically it's just heavy. - Energetically it's like, "No, I don't like these places. This don't feel good." So we go, Randall has this moment where he shields her eyes because he doesn't want her to see handcuffs. And she's like, "I haven't seen handcuffs before." And he's like, "I've seen handcuffs too." And she's like, "On TV or real life?" I'm like, "Come on, man, like real life." And he's like, "It's TV." - On TV. - Right? We go in there,

Deborah Jo Rupp, our social worker, is telling us, good news, you don't have to be between a partition. Today you actually get a chance to hug your mom, right? She's so excited, so looking forward to seeing her mom.

We go inside, we're waiting, I'm talking about her hair. Again, just trying to be silly, get her to laugh or whatnot, enjoy herself. Debra Jo comes up and she says, you know, something happened. She doesn't want to see Deja. Yeah, she opted out of the visit. I was like, I didn't know she could opt out. She said, yeah, you know, it's court order, but she has the option of not, you know, coming.

And I sort of like say something, I was like, man, who's looking out for this kid, man? Like, this is some bull. Like we, she went through all of this stuff to be here, to see her. I'm like, and it's sort of like indicting her as well as like, you guys, somebody has to be caring for the child. And she's like, look, bruh, you coming after me? And this is, this is shout out to all social workers. Unquestionably. They're saints. The things that they see. Yeah. It's nuts.

It is incredible because there's a very high turnover in social work. It's a matter of like two, three years sometimes. - Understandably. - Understandably. - I can't imagine how emotionally, physically, soul taxing it is. - And she basically reads him like, look, before you tell me if I'm looking out for somebody or whatnot, I learned sign language for people who have like eardrums layout so I can tell them things like I know how to say. - We haven't found parents for you yet. - You know what I'm saying?

And then Randall sort of like says, my bad. Yep. I apologize. I put you and the whole system in a box and I don't fully understand. Goes back, tells Deja something happened. There was a confusion. Folks, yeah, he makes up a story, confusion. She said, well, can I get my purse? I brought some money. I've been saving my allowance so my mom can get all the stuff that she wants in here. So he's like, okay.

So they leave and you see a delightful flip of R&B where Beth is, you know, at the top like, "This is ridiculous that this woman put her through this." I love it when they flip. I love it when I was like, "Wait, I thought I was gonna be the man." Happens once in a while on the show. And she's like, "No, it's me right now." Yeah, even in the course of the episode. Yeah. It's, yeah, completely flipped. Yeah, yeah.

Rachel and I have done that before where it's like, I can tell it would not be healthy for her to get upset at a person. Like she's trying to focus on like the solution. And I'm like, do you mind if I, for a second? And I'm like, this is, and I go on a little rant.

to just kind of let the steam that someone's feeling out. - Sure, sure. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - It happens for Ryan and I. - Very thoughtful. - Every once in a while too. It's like, Ryan's like, "I don't like it when you get mad, Sterling." He's like, "You stay calm." - Yeah. - Ooh, I wanna see Sterling mad. - 'Cause I don't get mad often.

And my kids will say the same thing. Yeah. Like dad doesn't get upset often. He's like, when dad does. Oh, I bet. That's the point. Yes. That's the prison part of your personality. People are like, I don't want to be here. No. I definitely don't like this. I want to see you angry. Just like...

-On the sidelines and not at me. -And you need it so that people could tell the difference between this situation and that situation. -You do. Absolutely. -Yeah. - -So then we get home, we have that scene with R&B, and then Randall goes back to visit Shawna himself. -Yes. -And we see that Shawna actually got jumped. Faces sort of black and blue, beat up, says, "I didn't want my daughter to see me like this."

And they sort of have this conversation about who's best for Deja, what not. Randall says something like, well, I'm on this side of the glass.

And again, she's like, you think you know my story. Like, you know, I was trying to get myself right. And then comes Lonzo. I'm carrying his gun for him. Sort of try to keep him, you know, something from happening to him. And I just got caught at the wrong time with somebody else's stuff. Right. And the interesting thing about is that Randall then has a moment of realization after recognizing that he was very judgmental and assumed that he knew who this woman was. People did that to my dad.

he's like i thought about william he's talking to beth at the end of the episode that monologue and he has this monologue where he's saying like you know what i think about my dad and where he was in life before i showed up etc and just the idea that like people would have seen him a particular way and and he didn't get a chance to be a part of my life possibly because of perception or what have you and we could be guilty of doing the same thing

And she asked to talk to Deja. I gave her our number, told her to call collect. She's going to call tonight. And Beth's like,

All right. And you see Deja on the phone at the end of the episode, smiling, giggling, talking to her mom. Okay. That's where that one ends and it'll build into stuff as we move forward. But again, two people who are not wrong. Yeah. Right. Absolutely. You know what I mean? Yeah. You understand both perspectives. Yeah. You do. Yeah.

You do indeed. And that's the balancing act of everything. It is. Of being human. Is to hear and understand both perspectives. You know what, Chris? Like to that point, like even just where we are in the world right now, it is so, and I will, I do not exclude myself from this. When I hear people espouse things that are contrary to how I see the world,

the tendency and desire to vilify an individual is very strong. Instantaneous. Instantaneous. I'm with you, I'm with you. And to try to hold the space to recognize that my perspective is a perspective and not the perspective is something that you have to constantly remind yourself of. I heard on one of my other favorite podcasts, someone say, "If I were you, I'd be you." Sure.

It's just like, there's a thousand things that have happened to this person to lead them to this perspective. And it doesn't necessarily mean like, you know what I mean? They are wrong or evil. We've all landed. And even in that conversation at the jail, she says, you've landed where you are because of a lot of things that have happened in your life. Right. And as have I. Yeah. Yeah. So, okay. That's that.

Kev or Kate, what do you want to do? Let's do Kev. Dive, dive, go. So he's stalling. He calls Sophie and is stalling on going to visit this, to go to New York to visit her, I guess to move to New York. He is getting sweatier. He is getting grayer. His bags under his eyes are getting bigger. Darker, yes. He...

He just knows that things are, yeah, things are spiraling in the wrong direction for him. He's calling Sophie, telling her he's not actually going to be able to make the trip. And he just lies. Lies. And effortlessly. Easy. And I was like, oh, Kev, that's not true. Like, why are you... As the addiction takes over, it becomes... More drinks, more pills, et cetera. Then he decides...

He's going to go see her. He goes to see Kotobi. Kotobi sort of announced the- Oh, is that when they announced the pregnancy? Yeah. Yeah. 'Cause he was over there, I guess, looking for counsel or- Yes. Correct. Yeah, exactly. Trying to get something from his sister. And then they have the thing with the me and the me. And you see- Baby, baby. Baby, baby. Baby, baby. Sorry. Baby, baby. That's later. That's later.

And you see in Kev's face just sort of this recognition of happiness for them and I'm not in that place. You know what I'm saying? It takes everything for him to remove himself from his self-centered, addictive, self-seeking thought process to show joy for them being pregnant. Yeah.

But is that also, you think, what potentially pushes him to go to the jewelry store and make sort of a big gesture? Maybe thinks about his father and thinks about what his dad would have done. Sure. And, I mean, he says as much in the jewelry store. Like, ugh, whenever my dad messed up with my mom, he always went and got her a big

piece of jewelry or something. And he decides he's going to go see Sophie. He's going to try to make things right. And he's going to bring three rings with him. Like, geez louise. This isn't Ringling Brothers, bro. Like, make a decision. Well, this is the kind of first take on the grand gesture as a positive thing. Yeah. Like, you really look back and go, was it? Yeah. Is that how you...

So when you screw up, you just go buy jewelry? -Like, it's an old-- - That's interesting. -It's an old line of thinking. - Antiquated, yeah. Antiquated way of thinking that's like, "This solves things." Even when it comes to, like, Toby and his grand gestures. It's like, "All right, pump the brakes a little bit." How about a sincere gesture? I'm not saying there's not sincerity in this, but better sincere than grand. Sure, I agree with that. So, okay, he gets all three, and then we see him, he's back.

On the East Coast. Yes, visiting soap. At the hospital, talking to his other favorite nurse, what have you. And he goes to the bathroom. He's got pills in the bathroom. And that's when he sort of goes through this imagining of what

parenthood well yeah he's asleep or he's asleep in the waiting room like he goes he travels all the way and doesn't even tell her he's coming right which is also like okay thank you for the grand gesture how about a little how about a little heads up yeah how about a little consideration so yeah he does he sort of falls asleep in the waiting room waiting for her because she's gone to another hospital for another shift or something like that with a transport yes and um

uh and in the course of this he sees himself as a father and sees him and sophie back together and it's just it's not a good look it's not what he he he would have dreamt of i think when you're having a like drug induced illusions of like what the future is gonna have like painkillers not all different drugs but painkillers in particular might not elicit

the joyous future that you might have had in other circumstances. That's right. So he does that. Yeah, I mean, he goes to, she doesn't come back to work. She ends up at home. Yeah. And he goes to her house and we find him at her door again. And she's confused. Like, I didn't know you, I heard you were here, but then when I went back to the hospital, you were gone. Right. And he's like, yeah. And he goes on this rant about,

And I don't remember everything. And an entire audience is going, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Don't do it. No, God, no. But he says, I don't know how to be a husband to you. I don't know how to be a father to our kids. And then later he says, I'm saying when I dream of our future together, Sophie, it's a nightmare.

It's a nightmare. There's no coming back from that. He repeats nightmare twice. Yeah. He also says that he's trying to be his dad or to be Toby and he's playing a part. Right. Like it's not him. It's not the real him. Right. None of that is. This is the real him. Yeah. And Alexandra Breckenridge gives the most hurt comment.

I think in any episode of the series. And sound. And sound. It was like such a visceral, like wounded. Yeah, yeah.

- Yeah. A lesser show would have given her something to say. - No, a lesser show. Yeah. - She just shuts the door. - She just like makes this guttural sort of moan. - Yeah. - And like shuts the door. - Yeah. It was heartbreaking. Like in that moment I was Sophie and I was like, I can't believe this dude is saying nightmare. Like there's certain words.

Can't unring that bell. You know what I'm saying? If I said to Ryan Michelle Bathay, I just had a dream of what our life was like together. And it's a nightmare, Ryan. A nightmare. She'd be like, well, Negro. There's the door. Get the, goodbye. I suggest you go back to sleep and try again. That's what she would say. Hey, why don't you take a nap and take another shot at it? Yeah. Yeah.

So that's where we leave. That's the end of Kevin and Sophie for the foreseeable future. Yeah. Now with Katobi. Yeah, you know, Toby can just see Kate kind of excusing

making excuses for moving things along. Yeah. Right? She's worried. But also, the excuses come on Toby's side too because of his relationship with his mom. Right. And now they're having a baby out of wedlock. Yep. And he has a mini panic attack about calling his mom. Yes, he does. He puts him on the spot and says, well, here you go. And you're like, oh, am I doing this? Are we doing this? We're leaving the message? Yeah. Kate, I don't know what to do. That was so fun. Ah!

Chris, thank God Toby brings the levity. Chris is great! Yeah, you bring the levity to this show. It's so necessary. It's so needed. And again, I feel like it's the thing people forget about the show. It's like, it's so fucking funny. Yes, agreed. And so Kate is saying, you know...

Or whose idea is it? It's Kate's. Well, let's get married. She proposes going to the courthouse. Let's just go. I don't need a wedding. Right. Even though she might need a wedding. And she convinces both of them and herself really like this is why having a big wedding would not be the move. It's too stressful. And she makes every excuse under the book and you're like, okay. Except we as the audience knows we're

I think she actually, like, she is so close with her brothers. Like, it is strange that this is the path she's, you know, proposing to take. Yeah, they end up at the courthouse and it's a very similar feeling to ending up at the jail. I don't want to be here. Yeah. This isn't the way I pictured it. This is interesting. Arlene Brown, mother to Sterling K. Brown, married twice.

each time at the courthouse. - Wow. - She said, she's like, "You know what? I'd rather spend the money on a house than spend it on these things." - Yes, Arlene. - Very practical sort of person, but also a bit of a stick in the mud. Because when you say like, "Mom, we're gonna get married and we're gonna do these things." She's like, "Oh, I just got married at the courthouse." And we're like, "Thanks, Mom, but what about this one?" - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

That was you. This is me. There you go. There you go. But because the guy says like, and whoosh, you're married. And like, oh, whoosh. That's the sound of getting married or whatnot. And you hear Kate go through like, you don't have to worry about father-daughter dances. And I don't have to worry about my dad taking me down. Like all the things that she's like glad about. Yeah, yeah.

- Are you really glad about that? - Methinks the lady. - Protests too much. - Yeah. - Indeed, sir. And so you sort of pick up on it and there's this delightful scene. I wish we had him here right now. - The urn, I know. - I have him in my car probably right now.

- You travel around with dead Jack. - You're watching something. Are you watching "Judy"? - Sir, what's that in your backseat? That's the ashes of television character Jack Pearson from the hit television show "This Is Us." - "This Is Us." And you're having the conversation. - Get out of the car, sir.

I don't really think this is what she wants. You know what I'm saying? She says that it is, but I know in my heart of hearts that it's not the way to go and just needed somebody to talk through. It was really adorable. I love when you guys, and I think maybe I have a couple, but are able to take these scenes when you don't have anybody else to talk to.

and make it feel like a conversation. - Yeah, like a two-way conversation. - Again, our writers do such a good job. The scene with the urn, there was the, have we already talked? We haven't done Kevin's episode yet. - No, that's next. - Coming up. - There's all these monologues where people are just all by themselves. Even you with the robotic babies. - With the babies. - We all have them over the course of the show. - But the writers made it real easy. - Yes, but alas, Sirach,

Come on now. That's right. On a lesser show. On a lesser show. That's right. Would not have been able to pass that off. No, I can't help but agree. I mean, because on paper, if you read...

character talks to Earn on the table. You're like, ooh, how's this gonna go? Not me. I was at home going, finally. I got all these other actors out of the goddamn way. And I can shine! Two kings of romantic gestures just having a conversation with each other. And then, so then you come later

With your grand gesture. With Toby's grand gesture, which required five hoodies. I think the writers were just messing with me. They're like, you know, I know the suit's a little uncomfortable for him. He's always warm anyway. What kind of gesture? Maybe we'll put him in like five or six hoodies. So funny. It's such a beautiful thing because you keep unzipping them. And you can see Chrissy about to have a reaction. You're like...

I know you know what this is when you see Will. Yeah. Right? But there's seven more words in this sentence. Bear with me. And you decide together that like, look, I think that

You say that you don't want this, but I think you walking down the aisle with your two incredibly handsome brothers and being able to celebrate it amongst friends and family is something that would be good. So you propose. Because she says before, like, everything we've done has been backwards. Like, I'm the one who proposed to you when I didn't think that you could hear me, et cetera. And so, like, you actually take this moment to say, like, no, no. Will you marry me? Yeah.

Let's do this the right way. And it's really, really quite lovely. It is. So that was it. That was this episode. And we're also very excited. This episode sets up what we do for the first time and that we repeat a few times in subsequent seasons. We repeat it one more time. Just one more time? Just one more time. Which is a big three series of episodes. A big three series. Kevin episode, a Kate episode, a Randall episode.

And I feel like we are on the precipice of a lot of transition for everyone, right? Yes. Kate and Toby are potentially going to be getting married. They're having a baby. Kevin's relationship is...

on fire, crashed and burned. And Randall and Deja and her being a part of the Pearsons family now is, yeah, there's just, there's a lot bubbling up there as well. So it's- And it is, I think it's a very fruitful and sort of like exciting moment for us as a show because every once in a while you think you know what the show is. And Dan does a great job of like

The format is essentially what it is, but within that we'll every once in a while do something that's just a little bit different. Right. Right? Just so like every time you think you know exactly how it's gonna go, we change it up. And as an actor in it was always exciting to know that we could play with form. Same. And that our audience trusted us enough.

They've had, as you have always said so eloquently, they trusted us. They felt safe enough with us to go on the journey of like an entire episode that is just about one character. Sure. And maybe not even in this particular instance where there's a Kevin episode and a designated Kate episode and Randall, but sometimes it was a character that you- They'd never seen before. Yeah. That you didn't really know much about and they still were willing to go on that journey with us. Yeah.

But I agree when we would get these scripts that felt like it deviated from the formula or from what we were sort of expecting next. Right. Yeah. I was always so excited. Like, I can't wait to do this. I can't wait to watch this. Yeah, man. Yeah. So more to come. Yeah. We are going to stick to our formula and, uh, send you, uh, some commercial. Some ads. Some ads. Offerings. And then after that, we're going to talk to. Debra Jo Rupp.

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Ladies and gentlemen, we are back with more That Was Us, and we have a special guest with you today, our dear friend of the show, Miss Deborah Jo Rose! Hello! Hi! So we were just talking about, we were shooting in season two, and the Emmys had happened, and I was blessed to have won the Emmy for season one. And the next day I had to be at the

prison to shoot our scene together at the prison and dan hit me up the night before and he goes listen you don't have to do this but if you're interested i think the crew would really love to see the emmy yeah yeah right so if you could bring it to work so bring it to work so i brought the emmy to work the next day and everybody was taking pictures with it and like running around with it and deborah jones said that she was just trying to get close to take a picture

But Debra, the tricky part is he brought it every day. Subsequently. That was the kind of like, we get it. The flex. We get it. And then as he won more and more, he kind of ran out of hands to carry them. And he brought a person to carry them for him and follow him around. I would have been the person. I would have totally been the person. I didn't actually get to touch it. I was excited. He just pointed to it. You're like, can I hold it? And he was like, no.

It is so good to see your face. Oh, you too. Mandy and I were just talking about seeing you do a play by one of our writers, Becca Brunstetter. The play was called Cake. A beautiful, beautiful play. And you were exceptional. Absolutely. So wonderful. Thank you so much. But it was the writing. It truly... Becca is...

One of my all-time favorite writers. I mean, she might be my all-time favorite writer. She writes the way people talk. And she's so bright. Agreed, agreed. And the question that we were asking ourselves is, was Becca the person that brought you into the show? Is that like how you got introduced to our world? No, it was Dan. So like the group of you came to see Becca's work. And

Dan came up and said, I'm going to find something for you on This Is Us. He did. And then this is what it was. This is what it was. I was, no one, no one usually will hire me for drama. I usually do comedy. I'm fine. I'll do anything. But it was so nice to have that opportunity. It was just, and to have it come from a play because theater is,

Yeah. You know, I love a live audience. So, uh, it was just really nice. And then I got to work with the Emmy award winner. You brought the drama in the, in the current episode that we were talking about and for anybody, for anybody watching, they, uh, they are well aware of your dramatic abilities. Absolutely. We're just talking about the scene in the prison where.

Um, we find out that Shauna can't, was not going to come see Deja, that she's opting out of that whole thing. And then Randall sort of indicts you as like, is anybody looking out for this kid? And you give me a look like, excuse me, sir?

You think I don't understand what's going on here? Do you know what I have to deal with on a daily basis? And the most heartbreaking example. Yeah. You want to talk a little bit about how you read me for points and sort of destroyed me in my own show? Is that cool? Yeah. I just remember I had never been in a prison or a jail. I've just never been in there. And there was...

There was like a door and it was closed, but you could hear commotion behind it. Yeah. Do you remember that? I do. And there were inmates on the other side of that door. Yeah. And I just remember looking up and seeing things that I've seen in movies. Sure. You know, but I was actually standing in the space and it just really, really hit me. That scene was...

so easy to do because of where it was and because of Hugh Sterling, but it was really quite something. Well, I mean, that just speaks to your ability because there's so much like history and familiarity with what you sort of brought to this character and this particular scene and just like that this is your life, this is your job, just day in and day out, like

you visiting jails and bringing, you know, reuniting children with their parents and visiting and it just like, it's wild. - I wish I had worked with you, Mandy. - Me too, me too. - Mandy's pretty awesome. - Me too. - Mandy's awesome, Chris is awesome. - Yeah, and me. - And you're awesome. - And me, Debra? - And you, Chris, and you.

- Oh my goodness. - I was saying to Chris at the beginning of the podcast too, that being in that space, like I was immediately felt with like, I don't like this being here. Like this is not a place that is pleasant to be. Like the vibe is such that like, oh, I feel like I wanna get out of here as soon as possible. And sort of even shielding her from it. Like Sterling shielding Lyric and Randall shielding Deja. Like it's a weird- - Mirroring each other.

spot to be in. Yeah. I remember that really clearly. Talk to us. Okay, so you don't often get a chance to do drama. Obviously, you did something that took place in the 60s or the 80s. Some show. I can't remember what it was. Yeah, somewhere 60s between the 80s. Something. Some show like that or whatnot. Do you have an equal enjoyment in both environments? Does it matter to you in terms of which you enjoy the most? I know you can do it all. Do you enjoy one more than the other? Well, I think that

the more instant gratification is the comedy. Okay. Because it's kind of instant. Yeah. You know if you're succeeding or failing. Sure. Like, right there. Drama, you don't so much know. Plus, drama...

You have to really follow the through line. Like you have to really read the script. Because you shoot it out of order. So you really have to kind of know where you are all the time. Sitcom, you know, sitcom is like doing a little one-act play every week and it's easy and it's fun. And either one is fine for me as long as I understand the

the character. Okay. And, and I understand the through line. Um, it's, it's, it's very hard for me to play characters that are close to who I am. Okay. I, I, I recede. I, I fall back the further away, like neurotic people, crazy people, even though I can be that.

I'm a little more down to earth than that, but those people are so fun for me because they're a character to me. I can just be them when they're close to me. Like this was a little bit, I feel like this is how Deborah Jo would have said all of this. Okay. It's harder for me. So I don't know if you remember Sterling, but the first time I did it,

You know, Becca came out and talked to me. The writer came out and talked to me and I was working a little too hard. And then Becca said, just you, just you. And that's what I did the second time. I'm going to cry. That's what I did the second time. And I remember Sterling, you went,

That was amazing. I have to get out of here. Yeah. I remember. It was really nice. Yeah, well, also a testimony to being able to take a note. Like, you're just like, okay. I got it. I understand that. It all went away and it penetrated. And to provide Sterling with an opportunity to react in a way that earns him an Emmy. That's all I really want.

I need good work for me. - For me. - I totally get that though. - For my performance. - I get that. - Yeah.

- How many episodes of the show did you do? - I would say three or four. - Three or four. - Yeah, yeah. - I was about to say. - Yeah. - We had a great first scene when you first bring Deja to the house. - Yeah. - As you leave and I was like, "So that's it?" And you're like, "Yeah, that's it." I was like, "I don't know if I'm prepared." And you're like, "No, you are." And I'm like, "Well, you know, I've been looking up some stuff." And you're like, "Hey man, you're gonna be fine. Just take it one day at a time." - And it was this time of year. - Yeah. - 'Cause I remember pumpkins and I remember the leaves. - Sure.

Yeah. Did you do any sort of research into the world of social workers? Did you... I did, actually. I had... There was a girlfriend that I had in high school, Gail D'Agostino, who was a social worker. And I...

I don't know if I saw her at a reunions, 'cause sometimes I go to my class reunions. And anyway, I contacted her on Facebook

And I had a long talk with her. Okay. And she's the one that said, no, you see so much of it. You do not get emotionally involved in it. Yeah. It is your job. Right. And you do your job well. Right. And so she calmed me down. You know, she, because honest to God, I just wanted to flail.

- Right, right, right. But it seems like if she was a long-term social worker too, it seems like you can't do it without getting to that place. If you are too emotional, like I think you just sort of-- - You burn out. - You burn out. - It sounds like being a New Yorker. Like you live a life.

And you see a lot. - Yeah. - And you start to like, listen, if I'm gonna get from the Upper West Side down to the village, I'm gonna have to put up a little bit of a shield. I cannot fight every battle along the way. - Yes, that's true. - I wanna say this is completely non-sequitur. Your hair looks amazing. You look-- - Oh, you're so nice.

It's the only thing I have left. - No, no, no, no, no. - My hair. - The whole face, like I remember, like I have a little bit of a crush. And as I see these beautiful lips on the camera, I'm like, yeah, that's a good look. No, I'm just saying it. - She is taking it back. - I remember. I said it to her on set too. She knows I got a thing for her. - Do you want Mandy and I to leave? You guys can take over this.

Take some time later. It's all good. Talk to us a little bit about what you've been up to since. Has there been more theater? Has there been more shows? Right now we can see you on Agatha all along, right?

Yes. Yes. Congratulations. Thank you so much. I just have had, I've just been incredibly fortunate. My career is, I've never worked more and I'm an old person. I'm just so fortunate and I work with really good people and I love

I don't know how it happens, but I have done theater. Yeah. I've done a lot of theater. I got to be an executive producer at my age for that 90s show. Yes. Congratulations. Thank you. And then Jack Schaefer with Agatha. I did WandaVision first. And people...

I just luck out. I work one thing and then they bring me along to another thing. I think you kind of create your own luck, man. You bring the pain and people want it. You bring the power. You create your own rup. There you go. Thank you. Excuse me, sir. I shall have my time with Debra as well. Thank you. Geez, I'm going to get out of here.

And where do we find you right now? Where in the world are you? I am in the Berkshires right now. This is my home. I am in the process of...

Getting rid of the rental house in LA. Yeah, okay. I have an apartment in New York City that that 70s show bought. Yes, nice. I'm selling that. I'm out. I'm just done. Good. I want one house and it's going to be in Western Massachusetts in the mountains. Yes. My best friend lives in Great Barrington. Oh, there you go. I love it up there. There you go. So beautiful. And I yesterday drove back and forth from Ohio and I picked up a puppy. Yes. Now I have a little puppy. Oh.

So life is really, really good. That's fantastic. Oh, thank you so much for making time for us.

Oh, no, I was so excited. I was so excited when I was asked to do this. Thank you for thinking of me. Well, your work is exceptional. We're so glad to be able to celebrate you and celebrate it. And so grateful you are a part of our show and a part of the podcast now. Oh, my God, what a beautiful, beautiful show you created. It's a beautiful show. Bless you. Thanks for being part of it. Thank you, guys. Enjoy that puppy. Bye. Have a good day. Bye.

And we're back. And it is time for our fan segment, ladies and gentlemen. This one's going to be fun. Yes, it is. We get so many emails from you guys. And we want you, our fans, to know that we really do read them. We appreciate them. We love them. That's right. So instead of just reading one letter today, we have aggregated a collection of many letters.

aggregated uh a word you didn't think you were gonna hear today but now you've heard it so can i hear it let's go to the let's go to the community display this is some this is some quote this is a bunch of quotes a lot of quotes listen it taught me to love my perfectly imperfect self yeah help me find meaning in my journey yeah gave me a second chance at what just it doesn't say but gave me a

Gave me a second chance. Helped me process unresolved trauma. That's beautiful. Gave my life direction. Gave me the ability to explore my feelings, confront my past, and find hope for my future. I love all of that. Reminded me I'm not alone. Normalized that life is messy. Changed my perspective on life.

Isn't that, that's all I want from art is to be reminded that I'm not alone. Literally, period. Sure. Yeah. That's it. It means a lot. That's all, from a photograph, from a painting, from a TV show, from a song. Yeah. That's all I want. Yeah. You're not alone. It's true. It's true. Help me see clearly. Goodness gracious. Provided the closure I needed, but I could never find. Wow. Didn't shy away from the tough conversations. That's right. We had the tough conversations. It's a good one.

so you could have the tough conversations. I remember, I think I've told you this before, Aryan Moed, actor, he and his wife and their two daughters used to watch the show and used to, whatever the show was talking about, take the opportunity to

To delve in. To jump in and talk about whatever the show was talking about. It was like an easy way into those conversations. Well, because it's also a reminder that just because it's tough doesn't mean it shouldn't happen. That's right. Yeah. Or that it has to be tough. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Unburdened my heart, brought meaning to my life.

I loved, it healed me. Yeah. Did we say normalized that life is messy? Yeah. We did, but it bears repeating. Go back to it. Go back to it. Normalized that life is messy. Yeah. People often wanted to say that the Pearsons were the perfect family. And I was like, what do you mean? Are we watching the same show? What do you mean by perfect? Cause you're not wrong. Right. They are, you know, subjectively a perfect family.

But there's messy things going on. There's tough things going on. But what does perfect fit mean? Exactly, Mandy Moore. It reminds me of when people say they just want to be normal.

And it's like, what is normal? Like, show me what normal is. And then I'll tell you, like, if you can beat it or not. Because there is no such thing. Yeah. In the same way that there is no such thing as perfect. It's just like our perception from the outside of what we think perfect is. That's right. Absolutely. I want to be more like Jack Pearson. Well, what part?

- Yeah. - The alcoholic? - Right. - Or the loving father? - The one who told Sandy Moore to go ever so-- - The secret keeper? - Yeah, and when you take all of it, it turns out you probably are pretty close. - Yeah, come on now. - You have your flaws, you also have your really great qualities. - Sure. - I think the thing that the show

tried to show is that even in the midst of it, and even when you fell down, people kept trying. You know what I'm saying? Like there was no giving up. Like even though like I've made a mistake, I've fallen flat on my face, let me see if I can pick myself up and figure it out anew. - It's just people turning towards each other instead of away from each other over and over again. - That's it, period. - That's it.

And so thank you for all these little lovely excerpts that we took and probably totally out of context. And aggregated. And aggregated, making an amalgam of what this is. I hope you enjoyed your daily aggregation.

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Sing us a Mandy Moore cover of another, sing us Umbrella. Oh, a cover of a cover. It's just like Inception. We want to hear from you. That's it. Maybe we'll call you back. Thank you very much for tuning in. Tell a friend. We'll see you next time on That Was Us. Peace.

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