How to keep going when you don't feel like it. Just one more try. One last push before your miracle manifests.
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Sometimes the last door you knock on is the one that was meant to open all along. One more try. It's just one more try. The energy that will change your life when you show up and you feel like giving up and you feel like nothing is working. Sometimes it just takes one more try. I saw a viral video on TikTok of Barbara Corcoran and she...

said this and it inspired today's episode. I love her. I think she's a powerhouse. I think she's super inspirational. She seems like such a sweet person. I would love to have her on the podcast eventually. She said that sometimes it's this concept of just trying once more when nothing seems to be working and you've done everything you can and you've exhausted all of your power and your resources in a business decision or you're

When it comes to dating, you feel like you've been dating every single creature in the world other than the person that you're supposed to end up with. And you're like, what is happening? Where's my person? Sometimes it just takes that one more business move or that one more conversation, that one more business meeting or that one more date in order to really open that door that is meant for you. Just one more try. Imagine you've been knocking on doors.

20 different doors, 30 different doors, okay? You're sending all these emails. You're pushing for your manifestations. You're doing everything you can. You're giving your blood, sweat, and tears to your work. You're giving your heart out to all of the wrong people. You're praying all these prayers. You're doing the absolute most to try to get to the end goal of what you want out of life. And nothing is working. And you feel like you're going in circles and spinning around and around,

And nothing is going according to plan. None of the doors open. And then you start to internalize it because you're like, okay, I'm doing something wrong. Nothing is working for me. Obviously, my energy is being blocked. Maybe the dream wasn't mine to begin with. Maybe it's just not working because maybe it's just not a part of my path. Maybe it's really not destined for me. But the thing is, sometimes...

God is here to test you to make sure that you are fully prepared for it. And not only that, but so that you are refining yourself for the right door. So when it finally opens, you are fully energetically ready to receive whatever you're asking for. Recently, I've been going through some crazy stuff. It's been a crazy wild couple of weeks. I just got to be real with you guys. I've gone through a lot recently.

recently where I wanted to give up on myself and I wanted to give up on the podcast because there's just been a lot of stressors, to say the least, that have affected my mental health. The reason why I felt like I wanted to give up in a way was because I've been working behind the scenes on my brand and in my career for years.

a very long time. It's been three years and I know that maybe to some people that's not that long, but to me, I feel like I've put a lot of my heart and soul into doing the best I possibly can to show up every single day. And I just feel like sometimes the work I do and the energy I'm putting towards it goes unnoticed by the people in my industry.

And that's okay because I've learned to accept that not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone is going to see your value. Not everyone is going to believe in your brand the way you do. I understand that the most important thing is always that I believe in myself and I'm going to keep going. I am such a big believer in persistence and being confident in who you are and sticking to your plan and sticking to your values. But at the same time,

It's just a little challenging when you feel like nothing's clicking and nothing's sticking. What better way to handle the stress and, you know, get back up on my feet than to record an episode about it? Today's episode is really covering this concept of one more try, one more push, one more shove towards your destiny. Sometimes you just have to try one more time in order to get

So imagine you're knocking on all these doors, okay? You've exhausted all of your resources. You've knocked on 30 or 40 doors. You've done everything you possibly could to try to get to the top of the world.

try to make something happen in your life and nothing is opening. What if those rejections were just refining who you are for that last door that's going to open and it's going to be the right door? That last door, the one you almost didn't knock on because you were too exhausted and you almost gave up on yourself. What if those rejections were just refining who you are for that last door that's going to open and it's going to be the right door?

What if that door was only able to open after going through all of these trials and knocking on all the other doors? You had to go through all these tests. You had to go through all of these situations in order to get to the final door. And that final door is going to be the one you almost don't knock on because you're

you're about to give up. You just have to try one more time. The funny thing that Barbara Corcoran was saying in this video that I saw on TikTok about trying one more time is that God has a sense of humor.

God has a sense of humor sometimes. And he's like, I'm going to exhaust all of your resources. I'm going to push your back so far up against the wall. I'm going to make you sweat a little bit for this. And just when you're about to give up and throw in the towel, I'm going to give you what you want. It's always when you're literally on the verge of giving up and you're like,

I've had a fucking enough. And that's the thing. That's what true surrender mode is. That's what surrendering really means. He wants you to surrender what it is that you want, and then he'll give it to you. It's so frustrating too, because when you want something so badly, you have all this energy towards it. And you're like, let me do this. Let me do that. Let me try sending this email. Let me go on this one date. You do the most and nothing happens.

So then eventually when you've exhausted all your resources and you've done everything you could possibly do, you're like, all right, I'm fucking done. I'm just done. I've had enough. That's when it clicks. That's when it happens. That's when it manifests. That's when what you want rushes into your life suddenly. There was another video I saw on TikTok and I really want to credit the person, but there was a woman that was talking about this concept of selfless.

suddenly okay the universe works suddenly god works suddenly nothing will be happening for weeks for months maybe for years and then suddenly the miracle arrives because you went into full surrender mode and you basically gave up on it you didn't fully give up on it but you almost gave up on it you

You went into surrender mode and then suddenly it happens when you almost least expect it because God wants to show you how miraculous he really is and how he can show up for you when you feel like throwing in the towel and you've exhausted all of your resources and you literally feel like there's no point in even trying anymore. He's like, oh, no, wait, I got you. Just kidding. Here I am. Surprise. When I watched this video, I was like, I really needed this right now. To be completely honest,

Doing the podcast for a few years now, having this huge dream for it, having all these goals for it, and then feeling like I'm spinning in circles sometimes with the business has caused me to want to give up sometimes. Really. And I...

I appreciate the amount of messages I get about how the podcast keeps them going. And, you know, there's so many of you that message me and you say the podcast changed my life. Never stop. Never stop. I appreciate that so, so much because that's really what keeps me going. Every time I wake up and I get your messages, it puts a smile on my face and it keeps me grounded. It keeps me going when I don't want to.

keep going. But from a career perspective, I just feel like sometimes I'm burned out. And there's been several situations with the business where I feel like I've been devalued, not appreciated, not seen for what I'm worth. And it can be frustrating, to be completely honest. Like,

Like, you know, behind the scenes, you guys don't see what goes on in the industry, the people I work with, the people I meet with. It can be really difficult to explain to people if you're not a part of it behind the scenes. You just see the podcast and what goes out into the world. But the behind the scenes part is totally different. And it's caused me to burn out a little bit. It's caused me to not be fully passionate about it the way that I used to be. So there's a piece of me that's like,

Do I just throw in the towel? Do I just stop? And I'm not going to stop. But I do know that there needs to be some changes made. And I just am praying. If I can document this on the episode, I'm praying. I'm praying for a miracle that will open up a new door for me, that will re-inspire me and reignite me to keep going. Sometimes things like that, once again, happen immediately.

Suddenly. And everything I record, everything I speak about, you know, is a reflection of my internal state, what I'm going through. And if you need to hear this message right now, comment on Spotify if you're enjoying it or send me a DM at Date Yourself Instead or on my personal Instagram at Liss.

And let me know if you're currently going through the season where you also feel like you're waiting on a miracle or a major breakthrough. We can go through this together. Maybe we'll all experience the biggest breakthrough together collectively. That would be so beautiful. I think sometimes God wants to see that you're keeping your promises and your word to yourself, that you're not going to give up until it's yours.

And it can be really hard when your physical external reality and the physical appearance of what's manifesting isn't going according to plan. And you're like,

I've been trying really, really fucking hard and nothing's working. So I don't know what to do. Sometimes what you need to do is exhaust all your resources and surrender. That's it. And I think I'm at this point in my love life for sure. Like I don't date. I don't try. I just exist. And I'm like, okay, this is it. You know, this is it. I have to work on myself and I have to focus on my passions and relationships.

my future and I can't focus on trying to find someone. I just have to trust. I have to fully trust in the higher plan and know that it's just going to happen when it's supposed to happen. Because we could sit here and think that trying to manifest something is the right answer and trying to push for it is the right answer. But

Sometimes it's just about letting go and being in full surrender mode. Sometimes trying one more time carries a totally different frequency than all the other times you've tried. Okay, the final try is the most important try. And it'll be your last chance.

try. You could communicate to the universe, to God, say, this is my last shot. This is my last try. I'm giving myself one more try. I'm giving myself one more year to make it in my music career. I'm giving myself one more date to see if this person could be the right person for me. I'm giving myself one more chance.

Even though I'm exhausted, I'm tired, I feel depleted. It's just one more try. By the time you get to your one more try, you're not moving from force and desperation. You're so clear because you know, okay, this is my last shot. And it gives you this little energy boost and energy surge. And you feel a little more confident knowing that, okay, I'm doing it one more time. I'm giving myself the grace. I'm giving myself this one last shot. And if it doesn't work out, then I'm done. You're going into the one last try with determination.

detachment, full detachment mode saying, I'm willing to walk away from this if it doesn't work out, but at least I'm going to try one more time. That one last effort and one last push. That shift alone is going to change everything because the universe in general does not respond to begging desperate energy where you're pushing so hard for something. It really doesn't. It responds to conviction and it responds knowing that you're in full detachment mode.

mode. Your last try usually will get something moving and get something going because you're in a totally different energetic state and you're ready to walk away from whatever it is you're trying to manifest and let go of. You're ready to walk away if it's not going to work out because you've tried a hundred times.

You've gone on 30 bad dates. You've been through enough toxic situations. You've tried to get that person to notice you. You applied to 10 different jobs and nothing was sticking. You did the work. You tried. So when you come from a place of, I don't give a fuck anymore. I'm just going to, you know, do this one last time and give myself one last chance. Usually something's going to happen and come from that.

because you're in full surrender mode now. The second thing is you have to look at every failed attempt as conditioning. Okay. Everything you go through, it's preparation. It's building you. I like to think about the example of me going through multiple heartbreaks in order to meet my person. I am so grateful, even though in the moment things were obviously really difficult when I was going through my heartbreaks. I'm so grateful I went through those things because it made me so different as a

woman, I'm so different as a person than I was five years ago. Completely different identity. Okay. I'm more grounded. I know who I am. I'm more sure of myself. I was so lost five years ago. Now it's not to say that I'm perfect now, but I feel like now I'm in a totally different headspace where if I met the right person, I would be ready for it. Whereas five years ago, I was maybe trying to convince myself I was ready for things, but I really was still figuring shit out.

And every single heartbreak I went through, every single guy that ghosted me, every single guy that walked away from me and told me they were looking for something else, every single person that didn't see my worth or my value in relationships, in business, in life in general, okay, was conditioning who I am today. Each failed attempt at love, each failed attempt at things in my career, things in my finances, right?

business ideas, business meetings that fell through, contracts that fell through, everything. None of that was a failure. It was preparation.

It was training me and my nervous system to hold more space for what was to come because I know my life is getting bigger and bigger and bigger every single year. There's more happening every single year. There's new abundance and new experiences and new people and new blessings coming into my life every single year. And what all those things do is it trains you. All those, quote, failures. I don't even like to call them failures. But all those skills.

sticky situations that you felt lost, defeated, heartbroken, they are training you for your future because your future is going to be so abundant and big and you're going to have to hold more space for that. You need to be in training and some of that training requires going through hard, difficult,

situations. A lot of people will look at my love life and say, oh, you have had so many failed relationships. You know, when you hear your family members say that to you, they're like, oh, you know, you've wasted so much time. You have so much heartbreak and you've failed in so many relationship situations that

I'm like, I don't look at anything like that at all. I look at it as training, training for what's to come. Because when I meet the right person, it's going to be so divine and so God sent and so amazing that everything

none of that shit's going to even matter. I'm not even going to remember any of the old relationships I went through. I'm not even going to remember the pain I went through because it's going to be so fucking good. Look at me now as far as like what I've built and the advice I'm able to give through the wisdom, through the experiences. I'm able to hold more space for a big community of people who also are going through heartbreak, right? I wouldn't be able to do what I'm doing and talk about the things I talk about if I hadn't gone through all of that.

So everything is happening to prepare you for something bigger, everything, even if it sucks in the moment. By the time the final push comes where you're like, this is my last shot, this is my last attempt at making it, and then I'm throwing in the towel if it doesn't work out. By the time that final try comes,

you have fully embodied the version of you who can sustain the miracle. And that's why it arrives. You've embodied the version of you that can hold that amount of energy and space. Finally, you can handle it. You can handle the miracle. Whereas five years ago, I wouldn't be able to meet my husband and get married five years ago. I wouldn't have been able to meet the love of my life and get engaged and

you know, do the whole marriage thing five years ago because I couldn't hold that. I wasn't ready to hold that. I wasn't building the career that I'm building now. I wouldn't have a podcast if that had happened five years ago. I wouldn't have the relationships and friendships I have now that I met through my travels if I had done that five years ago. My life would have looked so different, so, so different if I had

All of those things that I thought I wanted happened five years ago. Whereas now I think I've gone through enough. I've prepared. I've had so many different experiences, relationships, dynamics, learning lessons with people over the last five years that now I could hold the frequency of being ready for the blessing, for the miracle. The next thing is your faith only gets stronger and keeps multiplying when you keep showing up for yourself, even when you feel like giving up.

up. God's testing how strong your faith is. Bottom line, there's a situation that I had with a specific person that I wanted things to work out a certain way and they didn't and it fell through and I feel like

Things just didn't go according to plan the way that I wanted them to. That's all I'll say about that. But bottom line is something happened. I didn't get what I wanted. And I started asking people for their opinions and their insight and their advice. I was like, I don't know what's going on, but I just feel like things may work out. And I'm trying to, you know, I want to hold on to this person because blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And all these people in my life were saying,

that's stupid, that's crazy, you deserve better, you need to move on, you need to move on, you need to detach, you need to let go. And although they're probably right, I just had this feeling, this strong sense of faith that everything is still gonna work out regardless because I think God planted that situation in my heart. And when God plants something in your heart, there's nothing anyone can say to take it out, nothing. So you could have a million people around you telling you, give up, move on, this is stupid, this is never gonna work, your dream is too big,

Your goals are unrealistic. You're never going to end up with that person. You could have a million different people telling you all these things. But if God puts something in your heart and you know it's destined for you, there's nothing anyone could say that'll take it out. Nothing.

I never had that experience until this one situation where I was like, I just feel like I know what I know. I know the agreement I have between me and God. And it's just a huge test of my faith because nothing, and I mean nothing in my reality would say that this situation was right for me. I know I'm being kind of vague right now, but I want to be intentionally because it's very private situation. But it's interesting because if I told anyone what happened,

If I asked anyone for advice, if I said it out loud, if I went to a psychic or a tower car reader, they all said the same thing. Like, no, no, no, no, no. But once again, when God puts something in your heart and you're so fucking sure of it and you have unwavering faith in it, it's bound to happen regardless because your faith is so strong and he's going to test your faith through other people doubting you.

He's going to test your faith through the external telling you it's a no. But when you know it's a yes, there's nothing that's going to change your mind. It's a different feeling than just convincing yourself into something. Like sometimes we convince ourselves delusionally and we're like, oh, no, you know, this is going to work. This person loves us, whatever. And it's clear that you're blinded.

Okay. And you kind of know, you kind of know that you're delusional and you kind of know you have to convince yourself. There is a different feeling when you know something is destined for you. It's almost like,

a sense of nothing can shake that from your heart and your core. It's a more soul level feeling. It's not a convincing myself feeling, even though I know I'm being betrayed and hurt and this isn't the right situation. It's a feeling where it's like, even if you tried to detach, even if you walk to the ends of the earth and exhausted all of your resources, you know, that dream, that goal

that relationship, that person, that situation, it's still embedded deep into your soul. That type of faith where you're like, doesn't even matter what anyone else says. It doesn't even matter what I want. It's a part of God's plan. It's not even...

in my control type of thing. So yeah, every time things aren't clicking right in the moment, every time things aren't working out when the results aren't instant, you're still building your spirituality and your faith. So it is a positive thing because you're getting stronger even though sometimes it feels like you're not.

And even though it feels like you want to give up some time on what you want, you're still building your faith and you're getting stronger by the day. The next thing is your reality responds to how well you master your emotions. So trying one last time when you're basically in surrender mode and you're neutral to it and you're not anxious and you're not pushing and you're not forcing. That's how you collapse time. And that's how you actually get what you want. That's how you access it.

That's how you get to the goal is when you're so neutral about it.

And sometimes the issue is that we're trying too hard. We're doing the most to get what we want when in reality, all we need to do is sit back and surrender and say, okay, one last try. Just give it to God. It's one last try. Let's see what happens. And you take all of the pressure off of it. And when we take the pressure off of something, that's usually when it rushes into our life. That can really unlock everything. The final try isn't frantic energy. It's certainty. So that shifts your reality faster.

Certainty is the strategy when you're so fucking certain. And you're like, you know what? I got nothing to lose at this point. I've tried everything. I might as well just give it one last shot. That's the energy you need. The next thing is something I kind of already covered, but I'm going to say it again because it's so important. God wants to show you how good

good he is and how miraculous he is and how he could turn things around that don't make any logical sense to anyone else, including you. It's happened to me several times where things happen where it's impossible that it's a coincidence to me. Or it's like, it's so suddenly and instant and magical in the moment where you're like, that's only something a higher power could have done. Like, that is crazy. Honestly, I have a perfect example of this. Yesterday, I had someone

some issues. As I said, with this apartment situation, I spent a ton of money. I lost a lot of money and was having some financial things happening. And I wrote down in my notes, which is a part of my masterclass, Dare to Detach and the Mind, Body, Soul Reset. Both of these masterclasses are designed to help you uplevel, manifest, and create the life of your dreams and

hack your reality essentially, which is why I created them in the first place. In Dare to Detach, I have this method called the Miracle Notes Method, okay? I use it all the time. I use it pretty much every day when I'm trying to manifest or I really want something to happen quickly.

Quickly, I go in my notes on my phone and I write it down and I say, it's happening. It's done. It's already done. It's already taken care of. This is my way of connecting with God and a higher power. It's like I'm talking to him and I'm journaling to him. So yesterday I took out my phone and I said, I am...

manifesting 15k because I needed it for a specific reason. And I had lost a certain amount of money and that would cover my expenses and what I paid for and the shit show I endured over the last month with money. I'm manifesting 15k today. It's done now. I don't know how, where it's coming from. That's what's happening. And I let it go. I went for a walk after that. I

I cleared my head, took myself to lunch, got a coffee, walked around London, minded my own fucking business, didn't really speak to anyone, but kind of prayed on it and then let it go, released it. I wasn't obsessing over it. I wasn't in stress mode, but I was like, it just needs to be done. And I know how this works. Universe, God, I know how you work. I know how you operate. You always find a way. I swear to you, that night I get a brand deal for exactly 15K the same day, the same night. I was in bed. I was

I was half asleep scrolling on my phone. I almost forgot that I even wrote that in my notes as usual, because that's what you have to do. You really have to detach once you set the intention. And I get an email, 15K, brand deal, done. I started laughing because I'm like, wow, I just love...

the way the universe works. I love the way God works. God wants to surprise you with his powers. He always wants to make sure that you're covered and you're well off and you get what you want when you surrender it and when you trust. When you trust in him, that's when the miracle happens. And he delivered same day. It was kind of like a little bit of an emergency for me because I was

going through a lot and there was a lot this month that happened with money things. It was a really huge blessing that that happened. But I'm sharing this story with you to inspire you because it's

Anything can shift at any time based on the power of your mind and your faith and your trust in God and his plan. And if you want to learn more about this method and you want to detach more and you want to surrender more and learn more about how I did this, you can access my masterclass. And the MindBodySoulReset, both of these masterclasses are designed to help you detach, manifest at high speed and detach.

really step into your power and into your energy and get everything you want out of life. You could use the code GOLDENAURA for an additional discount. The masterclasses, once again, are no longer going to be accessible or available starting in June. So I highly, highly recommend you grab them while you still can. Once again, use the code GOLDENAURA at checkout.

for the last days of the masterclass sale. I cannot wait to see you guys there. The next thing is your last try, your one last try at whatever it is you're trying for is going to trigger a timeline jump. You're jumping timelines. Okay. You're not the same person you were when you tried those a hundred other times. You're just not. This last try is teleporting you to a new fucking dimension where you're a different person that doesn't give a fuck. Okay.

You're just like, I'm done. I'm surrendering this. I'm giving it to God. So this time I'm coming from savage detachment mode. I'm going to let this go and I'm going to trust and I'm going to let this flow. What's meant to be will truly be. I'm trusting in God's plan and I'm trusting in my faith. And if those two things, I still am not getting what I want. I'm still not seeing the results. Then I'll move on to something else. Then I'll try something different. But let me give it one last shot. God, show me what you got. Okay.

OK, your last try will trigger that timeline jump. One more email that you got to send. One more meeting that you got to attend. One more event that you have to go to. One more date that you have to go on. OK, that one last action done from certainty and also detachment mode, knowing that what's meant for you is meant for you and it's your last shot.

It can literally create a new timeline for you and set the tone for a new life. Suddenly your soulmate enters. Suddenly that brand deal, literally just happened to me, comes into your inbox. Suddenly that work opportunity comes into your email. Suddenly this podcast episode, viral. Skyrockets the podcast, triples the audience, okay? 3X, 5X, 7X, 10X. Things will just quantum shift based on circumstances.

surrendering and trusting in God and saying, you know what? Last shot. I'm giving it all I got. And then it's done. Things can happen overnight. Shifts can happen overnight. Changes can happen like that in an instant and the snap of a finger. And the only reason it happened is because you gave it one last try and you didn't stop and you didn't give up at the last second. You gave it everything you had. And then the miracle happened. And then the door opened. And then the opportunity came to you because of that one last try. Another thing. It's always

It's always the hardest and the darkest and the scariest and the rock bottom moment before the blessing, before the divine moment. It's happened to me a million fucking times. When I'm about to give up, something miraculous will happen and shift.

Especially when it comes to love, especially when it comes to money, especially when it comes to career. Every time I'm about to throw in the towel and say, fuck this, I am done. Something miraculous happens that changes everything and shifts everything and changes my perspective, gives me another surge of energy, gives me another push to keep going.

When I said I wasn't going to keep going. Even this episode today, recording it, because last week I was literally like, I don't know how I'm going to keep recording the podcast. I'm just feeling burnt out and I'm feeling kind of like my brain is going into a little bit of a depression, to be completely honest. I don't know how I'm going to keep going to the studio right now. I'm not mentally feeling so great. Even recording this episode right now is reactivating me.

is reactivating me into alignment, is making me realize how important my messaging is, is making me realize the end goal, is making me more energized to keep going, to keep moving.

sometimes it just takes one last try. Sometimes it just takes one last push. One last moment where you're like, I want to give up, but let me do this one more time. The final thing I'll say is, okay, the one more try makes your testimony absolutely fucking iconic and legendary. Every great story, every iconic comeback has a moment where it almost ended and it almost failed and it didn't work out. But that person tried one more time. The biggest, most successful people in the world, they had...

Probably some of the lowest moments ever before the biggest breakthroughs. That's the moment that will inspire other people. Your testimony. That's the story people are going to resonate with. And that's the story that's going to keep people motivated. You're going to keep people motivated by your ability to not give up. You're going to keep people inspired by your ability to keep going when things were fucking hard and things were stagnant and not moving and you thought,

You're about to give up and you kept going and then it worked out. Your testimony will be everything to other people. Divine persistence. Become the warrior. Become legendary. Divine persistence. Okay. Getting to the end goal. Even when you want to give up just one more try. One more try. Your timeline will bend to meet you because you chose to show up that one more time. Okay. So

Believe in the miracle. Believe that it's happening for you. Believe that things are aligning for you. Even if you feel like giving up today, I want you to remember that sometimes it just needs one more try, one more push. And with that being said, that concludes today's episode of Date Yourself Instead. Thank you as always for listening to the podcast. I love you. I appreciate you so much. I read all the comments on Spotify, all your DMs, all your messages. They mean the world to me. They keep me going. They keep me inspired. And your messages today actually push

pushed me to go back into the studio and give it one last try. So I really, really, really appreciate all the love and support as usual, all the shares, all the comments, all your support means everything to me. If you haven't checked out my masterclasses, Dare to Detach and the Mind Body Soul Reset, those masterclasses are no longer going to be accessible this summer. So I highly recommend you tap the link in the show notes or on my Instagram at Date Yourself Instead. Download those masterclasses now while you still can. Use the code GOLDENAURA at checkout. Thank you as always. I love you and stay tuned for next Monday.