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God is not in the business of reviving your comfort zone. God doesn't want you to stay comfortable. He wants you to rise. He wants you to elevate. He wants you to upgrade, okay? He is in the business of killing what delays your destiny. He is going to burn away and strip away your old self, your old timeline, your old patterns, your old toxic cycles, and your karmic debt in order for you to elevate and get to the next level of

of your life. You're in the midst of an activation. Hello, everyone. Welcome to Date Yourself Instead. If you're listening to this right now, I am recording from London. I've had a day. This is the perfect moment to record an episode. Today, I was activated. I was activated and upgraded and elevated, and I'm bringing this energy into the studio so you can gain the effects from it, so you can feel the impact of it and activate your

your own timeline. I want you to leave this episode feeling like you jumped into a new portal, into a new window where you've accessed a new version of you. You are upgrading, you are elevating into a brand new timeline of abundance, of wealth, of prosperity, of getting everything you've ever wanted out of your life because you deserve it. You deserve the best

If you're listening to this right now, if you're an avid listener of the podcast of Date Yourself Instead, first things first, I want you to go to Instagram, follow Date Yourself Instead if you haven't already, and hit the DM button. Send me a message. I would love to hear from you. If you haven't already messaged me before, I highly recommend We Connect because even if you send the message and I don't get to it right away, you are creating an energetic, poignant,

portal between us and I want to send you as much love, healing, and energy as I possibly can. I can't reply right away all the time. I do get a lot of messages, but I'm there. I'm active on my Instagram. I'm always reading the messages you guys are sending me and I appreciate you and I see everything. Now let me repeat what I just said.

God is not in the business of reviving your comfort zone. He's not in the business of making you stay small. He wants you to rise and get bigger and better every single day. He is looking at you and praising your evolution. He wants you to rise and become the greatest version of you. You're not meant to stay stuck. You're not meant to stay stagnant in your life. You are meant to grow. You are different. You're expansive. You are evolving into the greatest technology.

timeline of your life starting right now. 2025, this is your year. It's May. It's spring. Everyone's out. I know everyone feels it. I'm in London right now. The sun is shining. The weather's been amazing. People are just elevated. There's a different energy and frequency in the world right now. If you feel it too, DM me. Tell me if you feel it too. I've been talking to a lot of people, a lot of my friends, and everyone is feeling this buzz. Suddenly it's May and

The world just feels different. It feels lighter. I feel like the first half of the year was a little bit intense. It was a little bit of like wrapping up loose ends, loose ties from 2024, wrapping up all the chaos. And now we're stepping into a new era of abundance and of everything we've ever wanted. On today's episode, I am going to activate you as you're listening. I want to push you further into your destiny and onto your unique path.

because I know that this is your year. This is our year. We're going to elevate. We're going to rise. So let's do it. First things first, I want you to stop grieving the version of you that was in survival mode, where you're struggling to get by, where you feel like everything is so difficult. No, okay? The

The new version of you lives in ease. The new version of you knows that everything is effortless and everything is abundant and life can be easy. Life gets better every single day. Life is abundant. Life is magical. The new version of you embraces that new concept. We don't focus on the difficulties anymore. We don't focus on the past.

And on people who don't see our worth and people who don't see our value. We don't focus on the pain. We focus on healing. We focus on resurrection. We focus on the divine mission, which is getting everything we want out of life and being happy, being abundant, living at the highest possible frequency. We're not grieving the old self anymore because the old self never served us. Your old self never served you. If you were constantly thinking,

fixated on the same guy, the same relationship, the same old toxic patterns, the same toxic work environment, the same people in your life that dragged you down, the same situations that made you feel small. Now's the time to cut the cord and rise. We are rising. From May 2025 on, we are rising. Stop grieving the version of you that was constantly living in fear, lack, and survival mode. You

You weren't born to survive. You were born to conquer. You were born to reign and you were born to be the greatest, most unstoppable, powerful version of you. You are a goddess. You are divine. You're put here to fulfill a mission, which is being the greatest version of you, spreading love, spreading kindness, and getting everything you want out of life. God wants you to win and succeed and

He's just waiting for you to drop the old timeline. Drop the old self. Drop the old narrative that life sucks, that life is hard, that you can't get what you want, that it feels impossible. Drop that old narrative. That narrative is what is blocking you and keeping you stuck from putting you on your most divine path and putting you into your future timeline where everything becomes everything.

effortless and easy. You may have had years of struggle. You may have had years of hardship where you feel like nothing was getting better. Nothing was clicking into place. You felt like you kept pushing, struggling, begging the universe for what you wanted. But your activation starts right now. Your new life starts right now in this very moment. You don't have to relive the past the way that you were living it for the last five years. You don't have to relive your past anymore. That was the past. Let the past

the past be the past. Leave it there. We're rewriting the story. You're rewriting your timeline. You're rewriting your future right now. You're stepping into a brand new portal. You're stepping into your highest timeline. Don't let your negative thoughts creep in anymore. Don't let your thoughts stay wired in the past. That's never gotten you anywhere. When we replay the past, that's where we get stuck. That's where we get blocked from our biggest blessings. The next thing is don't

God is not going to protect this cage that you built around your life that's rooted in fear. Okay? He's not going to let you remain in your own fear, your insecurities, your doubts about the future. He doesn't want you to be in pain. He doesn't want you to struggle the way that you've been struggling. Okay?

He's going to burn it down to free the version of you who is sitting on your highest timeline. Your life, get ready for it to change. Get ready for things to burn away, to fade away, to collapse. That's a good thing. That's a positive thing. If your world feels like it's burning down to the ground right now, look at it as the biggest blessing because you know that you're

Your highest timeline is on its way. Miracles are on their way because you're clearing out all the old garbage. You're making space for the new. You're making space for the brand new self. When I was at the lowest points of my life, it led to the biggest breakthroughs. Let me repeat that. When I was at the lowest points of my life where things burned to the ground, basically overnight, I lost friends. I lost money. I lost everything.

Everything. In the moment, yes. Was I panicking? Was it stressful? Was it difficult? But then I turned it around and I said, everything is happening in my divine favor. Everything is happening for my highest good. What I can't see now is going to be one of the biggest blessings. Soon enough, I will realize why it happened the way that it did. It was scary. It was terrifying. I felt pain.

my life slipping through my fingers. But then I made peace with it. I accepted it. I said, you know what, God, I trust you. You know what, universe? I'm giving it to you. I'm surrendering it. I'm putting it in your hands. Let it burn. Let it burn. Let the old baggage fade away. Let the old timelines disappear.

Let everything burn to the ground in ashes to make space for the new version of me. I want to be. I want to level up. I want to grow. I want to evolve. And the only way to get there and reach my highest potential is to not be afraid to let go and let the old life burn to the ground. You're not meant to stay comfortable. That's what it is. You're scared.

Because right now you're comfortable. You're comfortable with your routine, where you live, where you work, who your friends are, who you surround yourself with. It's a comfort bubble. Let's get real here. You're comfortable and that's okay. Sometimes we're meant to stay comfortable. Sometimes we could go three, four, five, ten years doing the same thing, same routine over and over again. And that's okay because we need seasons of life to remain grounded, to remain calm, to remain comfortable.

But if you're feeling called right now to activate and level up and have a major awakening, and if you're feeling called to step further into your destiny and evolve into the greatest version of you right in this very moment, this episode is for you. If this message found you, I don't believe it was a coincidence. You're not meant to play it small and stay comfortable anymore. You've done that already. You've repeated the cycles. You've repeated the patterns. You've repeated your mistakes many times already, okay?

This is the moment where things shift. This is the moment where things change. We're elevating, we're rising, we're activating into our greatest potential. There's no more excuses to stay comfortable. When you break out of your comfort zone, when you have the courage to walk away from the things that aren't serving you, when you have the courage to rise and change your identity and burn down the old self, that's what's going to get rewarded. You

You will be rewarded for taking the leap of faith into your higher self. You will be divinely blessed and rewarded in the long term for taking those risks, for trusting your mission, for trusting your future self, for listening to your intuition and not playing small. There's going to be things in life that are delaying your calling and delaying your future. And don't be surprised if

If it suddenly gets destroyed, God will destroy anything in your path that's not supposed to be there. It's just a matter of time. The key is to let go, trust, surrender, understand that you are built for greatness. And sometimes that's going to look scary. That's going to look intimidating. That's going to look like a lot on your plate. And you're going to question if you can handle it. And that's normal. But if you're listening to this right now, I know that you can handle it. I know that you're capable of leveling up

and letting go of the past, letting go of the things that aren't working in your favor anymore. Even if it takes some time, you will always be put on your highest timeline when you surrender. This is actually so symbolic. This morning, I decided that I wanted to try a detox protocol and I ordered activated charcoal. When I tried to open the bottle, it didn't

It exploded everywhere. It exploded all over my face, in my eyes, up my nose, in my ears, in my eyelashes, everywhere, okay? On the kitchen countertops, on the windows, you name it. This powder was literally everywhere.

Everywhere. It covered my whole body. And the worst part is I had just put on coconut oil. So it was sticking and clinging to my skin. The activated charcoal was clinging to my skin. And I was like, oh my God, I don't know if this is healthy. Like if I'm going to need to go to the hospital. I don't know if it's like absorbing into the skin. I was definitely freaking out a little bit. But there was a part of me that was just so calm at the same time. Even though this powder was everywhere.

everywhere, okay? I need to find a picture I'm going to post on Instagram. Trust me, go follow a date yourself instead on Instagram. You'll get all the tea on there about my activated charcoal experience. There was a part of me that was actually really calm about this entire situation, even though I spent the next three hours mopping, cleaning, showering, doing laundry. It was a mess, but it felt like a divine, symbolic moment.

moment. It happened right before I got to the studio. And it was all in the perfect divine timing because I had enough time to clean all of that up and then come into the studio and record. And the whole episode is about activation. The whole episode is about activating to your highest timeline. Here I was in my kitchen the very same day I had this episode planned, covered,

covered in activated charcoal. Okay, when I tell you covered, you'll see the picture when I post it on my Instagram story. It was absolutely diabolical. Okay, I just couldn't do anything but laugh. It was full surrender mode at that point. I was like, I have, I'm in shock, but I have no choice but to laugh. I'm alone in this apartment covered in charcoal from head to toe. I looked like I had just

sat in a fireplace. I was Cinderella. I was, I look like Cinderella. Okay. So call me Cinderella. I just found it to be so symbolic. Charcoal is a symbol of refinement and transformation. In the Bible, fire and coals are used to purify or refine.

Charcoal is the after effect of an intense fire. It represents the residue after the burning away of the old self. I'm taking this experience of me being covered in charcoal as a symbolic transformation moment where I've detoxed the old self. I've purified my old self. May 1st, okay, it's May 1st right now. It's a new beginning. It's a new start.

It's a cleanse. It's symbolic of me stepping into the new self. I kind of slipped up a couple times recently talking to some ex-situations. There was a few instances where I...

I kinda did that. I had a moment and there was a piece of me that felt like I had let myself down. Anytime I make a mistake, this is me being completely fully transparent. Anytime I make a mistake, I go back to my past. I repeat past patterns. I feel a sense of guilt because I preach so heavily on standing true to your worth and your boundaries. A lot of it comes from trying to teach myself. When I speak, I'm almost channeling a message

to myself as well as to you guys but it's almost like I have to remind myself to do the same things because I'm learning I'm growing I'm still human and I make mistakes too it wasn't anything serious or anything you know that threw me off course necessarily but even just having that energy be entertained in the first place or having that cord still attached to me it did make me feel like I was going a little bit backwards or doing something wrong and I said today

Because I had a situation where, you know, really, really put things into perspective for me of how I needed to just snap out of it and move forward and get my shit back together. I said to my friend this morning, I'm stripping the old self away. I deserve to evolve. I deserve to get to the next level of my life. I need to burn away the old self. And then the charcoal exploded. So in my mind...

I'm looking at it as a very symbolic moment in time. I'll never forget this moment. May 1st was the day charcoal exploded all over me. But also, it's the day where I really burned away the old self. I burned away the old timelines and the past versions of me that

would even look backwards at all. It's easy to look backwards when you're healed too, because when you're healed and you're coming from a place of feeling so good and confident, people are going to come back into your life by default. People from your past are going to show up because you're doing so well. You're healed. You're vibrating so high. You're in alignment. People are going to show up and it's going to be the ultimate test for you to say, I can't, I can't go back there. In the

In the moment, I was like, it's not a big deal, cup of coffee. It's not a big deal to reconnect with people because I feel great. I feel fine. Everything's good. Everything's amazing. That's good to be in that state where you feel like you've forgiven your past people. You're healed. You're happy. You're vibrating high. Great. But it doesn't always mean you should be going back and entertaining people from your past, regardless of how you feel, because those people don't necessarily deserve to be a part of your new timeline. Or maybe it's just not meant to be because you're

You've changed. They've changed. And it's just it's not a right fit anymore because you're going in a totally different direction and they're just not supposed to be a part of your life anymore. So I had a few of those realizations recently going through this huge purification process is teaching me so much about the power of activating to the next level, the power of changing.

choosing. It has to be a choice when you choose that. Things start to change. Things start to shift because you're making the active choice to upgrade. You have to make the choice, the conscious choice and say, you know what? This is it. I'm ready to upgrade. I'm done with my past. I'm ready to leave the old self behind. I'm ready to sacrifice the old self. When you make the choice to sacrifice the old self, bless.

Blessings start coming into your life. Miracles start happening. Things start speeding up. Your manifestations start coming into fruition. Everything starts to speed up because you are being put on your highest path. And God knows that. And he sees that. And he wants you to win. He wants you to elevate. He wants you to upgrade. He's always going to support you up leveling. Always. There was a man who, and I've said that, I've said this in other episodes as well. People are portals. People can actually,

activate you. The beauty about going back to the past or entertaining an ex or entertaining someone that's just not right for you at all or someone that triggers you, the beauty of it is that you could use it to your advantage to upgrade, to activate yourself even more. I've done this before with a lot of people that weren't right for me. I used it as fuel long term to elevate myself. My ex, four years, people say, oh, you wasted so much time. No, I upgraded over

with that relationship. Yes, it cost me a lot of energy, a lot of pain, a lot of tears. There was a lot of heartbreak involved. But in the midst of that heartbreak, I rose. I rose. I elevated. I used it as momentum to make my life better long term. That's what you got to do.

Whenever you're going through something hard, difficult, triggering, frustrating, you got to use it to activate yourself and push yourself further along. Use it as fuel. Don't let it bring you down. It's better to get angry. It's better to get fired up. It's better to get heated about something than get depressed and sad and close yourself off. Let it fire you up. Let it fuel you. If you haven't listened to how to use your pain as motivation,

Light the Fire Within episode. Go listen to that as well. It really ties in perfectly to this episode today. The next point I want to make is about sacrifice. To get to the highest timeline, to get to your new self, sometimes it comes with sacrifice. And the biggest sacrifice I had to make recently was sacrificing the counterfeit. The counterfeit. Now, what does this mean? I had to offer up

a situation, a man that I thought could have been someone in my life that I met pretty recently that checked literally every box that I wanted in a person. I thought he was someone that could have been a part of my future and he flaked out. He was inconsistent. He started showing up weirdly. It made me feel weird.

It felt very mediocre. It felt bare minimum. And I was like, you know what? In the past, I may have questioned it and been like, maybe this, that. And this time I said, you know what? I'm sacrificing the counterfeit version of what I want because I know exactly what I want. I want a man that is God sent, that shows up properly, that's consistent, that's steadfast, that's grounded in his energy, that's in his divine masculine, that is

loves me. The second he sees me, he knows that this is someone I want to take seriously. There's no room for mistakes. There's no room for inconsistency. There's no room to fuck this up. That's the type of man I'm looking for. So if I know that and I'm clear and set on what I need, I'm not going to tolerate even an ounce of this. It doesn't matter the situation. It doesn't matter about anyone else's feelings because if I know what I want, that's what I want.

And God knows what I deserve. And I know that I deserve what I want. I had to make the sacrifice in my mind and my energy field to say, I'm sacrificing the counterfeit version because this man checked every box on the surface. He did everything that I ever wrote down in my notes. He did. I was like, this is the type of guy I could see myself with. But then he started showing up differently. And I said, actually, nope, this isn't going to work for me. I'm not going to try to figure this out.

No. If it's really meant to be, fine. But I'm not here to figure out someone's puzzle pieces and try to figure out why they're not texting me, why they're not making the plans. No, absolutely not. I've come too far in my life to try to figure someone else's shit out. That's not how this works anymore. So I said to God, I'm making the sacrifice of this counterfeit person. I thought this was the real deal. But if it's not, I say a prayer, let it go. God,

Remove this person. The removal prayer works like a charm every time. Remove this person if they're not supposed to be a part of my life, if they don't have the best intentions. And that's it. I know that my person isn't going to make me question anything. This is a part of activating, up-leveling, choosing to upgrade. You're making a sacrifice of your old self.

The old things you used to tolerate, the old timeline where you may have given this person another chance. You may have said, oh, maybe I'm being too harsh. Maybe they're just busy. Maybe they're this. Maybe they're working. No. If you know what you want and you're clear on what you know you deserve, even something that's a little bit off will be a bigger deal to you because you'll just know that you deserve better. And

And that's it. There's no arguing with that. Your future self, you know how amazing you are. If someone's making you feel off or uncomfortable or questioning your value, goodbye. It's a sacrifice. You're sacrificing the old mentality. You're sacrificing the old self. And you're giving up the counterfeit version of what you want. You're not half-assing dating. You're not half-assing love. Because love is pure respect. Something I...

have come to realize more than ever is that true love, true unconditional love is not only extremely consistent and just there and you'll just know that it's there, it'll make you feel so seen. That person will just read your soul and you won't even have to really decipher anything or unpack anything because they just know your soul. I believe that my husband can read my soul. He can read my soul. He can just read

me enough to know how to treat me and show up exactly the way that I deserve without me having to push or force or convince or try. And that's what I want. Some people might be listening to this and saying, oh, well, you know, my partner, they're a good partner, but we had to work on our relationship a lot in order to get to where we are today. That's okay, too. That might have been your path and your journey with that person. There's nothing wrong with

having struggle in relationships and then working together to heal and build and grow together. There's literally nothing wrong with that because we're human. But I just think for me personally, what I'm looking for is that soulmate divine love because I've done so much work on my own, right? And I'm in my 30s and I feel like at this point, the man that I'm supposed to be with, it's not going to be a struggle. It's not going to be a struggle.

Because I'm choosing that timeline where I'm saying, you know, the person I meet is going to make my life easier. He's going to make my life easier. Yes, of course, there are always going to be little bumps in relationships and roadblocks and difficulties and things that are tests. But at the same time, I'm not here to struggle in love anymore. I'm not here to try to figure someone out anymore. I've done that for the last 15 years of my life.

I don't need to do that anymore. So with this situation, with this man that was the counterfeit version of my husband, of course, so I believe at this point in time, I know anything can change at any time. But in this very moment, as I'm recording this, this is kind of what I'm experiencing. And I was like, God, I'm really annoyed. I'm really annoyed because I felt like I got my hopes up again. I'm really annoyed. But

If you want me to get annoyed, that's okay too. Because maybe now I'm really ready. The next person I meet, if I'm interested, I'm point blank saying, hey, I'm dating very intentionally right now. This is what I need. This is what I'm looking for. If you're not on the same page, I don't want to waste either of our times. Like, I can't. It's either you get on my level and we're on the same page and you're dating to have

have a serious relationship into marriage or it's not happening. And I think in the past, I was afraid to speak my truth. I didn't want to seem like I was too much or I was coming off too aggressively. I didn't want to express my needs because I was afraid maybe I'd scare that person away too soon. But at this point, I'm realizing more and more as I activate, as I elevate, as I grow and mature as a woman, there is literally nothing wrong with communicating

commanding what you know you deserve. The right person will not be afraid of it. They're not going to run just because you have standards and you need them to be met because they're going to want to meet them. Bottom line, point blank, they're going to want to meet them. So now the next person that I entertain that comes into my life that finds me attractive, I find them attractive, point blank. Hey, I'm dating for marriage. If you're not on the same page, let's

let's not do this let's not go there but i wish you the best i wish you the best of luck no hard feelings but let's not waste either of our let's not waste either of our times you're just stating what you need stating what you want and being confident in what you want there's actually everything to gain from it because the more clear you are with what you're asking for the more you get to weed out who's not right for you and the closer you get to finding that person who

who could meet what you desire don't be afraid to sacrifice your old status your old name your old identity the old you doesn't exist anymore in this new activation after this episode the old you's gone dead and gone buried burned away okay don't be afraid to sacrifice the person that

doubted themselves, was insecure, afraid to speak her truth, afraid to hustle and get what she wanted. The new you is fearless, unstoppable, confident in her word and her abilities and ready to do whatever it takes to get to the next level. That's what the new you is all about. The new you doesn't chase down energy, doesn't chase down people, doesn't force situations. The new you is someone who radiates goalposts,

golden aura and who is magnetic in their frequency. You are so magnetic. You are so powerful. When you realize that and you understand that concept and you embody it, you'll realize that life doesn't have to be so difficult and stressful and a constant struggle. The new timeline is one of ease, is one of abundance, is

A timeline where you become so radiant and magnetic that things start flowing to you effortlessly. Money starts coming to you effortlessly. People start coming to you effortlessly. Love, money, everything you've ever wanted starts flowing towards you. You're not chasing, you're not forcing, you're not pushing. You're receiving, you're in full receiving mode for your biggest blessings. That's the new paradigm. That's the new timeline. I was on the phone with my mom.

earlier today after I had updated her about this situation, this guy, she was like, oh, he's an asshole. I'm like, you know what? No, I don't even wish to speak badly of anyone. I don't know their situation. I don't know their story. You know, from their perspective, maybe they did absolutely nothing wrong. They don't even know what they did. The

The whole thing is just remembering who you are and what you deserve. It's not about bashing anyone else's character. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what anyone else did to you. It matters how you hold your frequency and how you rise to not even let those people affect you in that way that you have to talk badly about them. Talking badly about people rarely gets you anywhere. It rarely gets you what you want. There's no point in it long term. It's just going to end up

up poisoning you the power of your words and the power of what you're speaking is really really important so i'm working on now this concept of even if someone wrongs me even if someone betrays me hurts me lies to me i'm not going to the level of stooping low vibrationally to talk badly of them instead i'm going to rise even higher from what they did and speak love

onto them and wish them well because I know that long term, it's their loss anyway. They lost an amazing person. They missed out on a great opportunity to get to know me. So I feel bad for them. I'm like, oh, you know what?

There's no point in talking badly about your character because I feel sorry that you're not going to have the opportunity to know how special I am. And if you can't see that, that's your loss. And I wish you well. I really wish you the best. You have to kill off the version of you that isn't.

hates on people just because they don't want to be with you. That's low vibrational. In your head, you should know that it's a blessing in disguise that they walked away and you're going to meet someone so much better that deserves you, that worships you, that makes your life easier. You know that there's a million other people in this world that would

feel honored to know you and feel blessed to know you. You know that there's someone else out there that's going to value you so deeply that you're gonna forget about this person that doesn't value you. So there's no point in talking badly about them or talking ill of them. I've recognized this in myself as I've healed

I've started to talk highly of the people that I dated, even if they've wronged me. And I used to talk badly about them on the podcast. I used to, you know, have these episodes where I'd be like, oh, this guy, I'm done, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Listen, it's good to vent and it's healthy to vent sometimes. But at the end of the day, the best feeling and the most high vibe feeling is when you're so in love with yourself and you know your worth that everything

their actions and them leaving you or them choosing a different relationship or whatever it may be, it makes you more activated because you're like, you know what? Thank you. Thank you for clearing space for someone better. Thank you for clearing space for a new opportunity to arise. Thank you for clearing the space for a new person to come into my life that's going to worship me the way that you never could. That's going to see me the way that you never could. That's

Maybe I was settling. When you bless that person and you say, as hard as it may be because you're hurting, right? But when you get to the point of being able to bless them when they walk away, that's how you know you've completely leveled up and matured and transformed and healed. Because you're thinking from abundance and you're thinking from abundance.

Divine love. You're thinking from the frequency of divine love. You're not thinking from lack anymore. Identify the frequencies that are dragging you down and burn them away. Complaining all the time, gossiping, over explaining yourself. You got to burn these identities away. Burn the timelines away that aren't serving you anymore. What are you doing right now that could be taking away from life?

activating into the highest version of you? Are you constantly complaining about your current situations? Are you constantly talking badly about other people? Are you constantly gossiping? Are you constantly calling people and saying, oh, this person is that blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. That's all low vibe. That's all low frequency. That's dragging your energy down. That's getting you nowhere. You're not going to be able to activate to the highest version of you if you're staying stuck on the past timelines. If you're staying stuck in

complaints, low vibe energy, jealousy, bitterness, resentment, pain, all that needs to go with the old timelines. We're not living out those frequencies anymore. So identify the frequencies that may be keeping you stuck. And I want you to make the conscious decision to let them go. Tell yourself, I'm stepping into a new timeline where I radiate divine love. I'm radiating a new frequency of divine love, of abundance, of joy,

being healed. I'm stepping into the identity of a woman that is fully healed, that is empowered, that's confident in her mission, that knows that if someone walks away from me, there's always someone better that's going to treat me the right way. How can you rewrite the story in your head to elevate yourself, to live more positively, to live in a frequency of love instead of fear, instead of operating at these lower vibrational timelines where you're like, oh my God, life

life sucks, life is so hard, life is such a struggle. Burn the old frequencies away. Those aren't helping you. What you speak of, you attract more of. What you embody as a frequency is what you get out of the universe and out of life. If you're embodying the frequency of fear, of lack, of scarcity, that's what you're going to attract into your life. So identify the frequencies that aren't serving you anymore and choose to

to burn them away. The other thing I want you to do is strip away anything that is externally validating you. So if it's approval from other people, if it's money, if it's validation, praise from other people on social media, if it's how many people are watching your story, if it's a guy that's wanting to text you back or not, identify what's making you feel externally

confident and let that go too. You can get your confidence and your self-love and feeling good. You could get all of these good emotions from within. When you operate from within and you operate from the internal and not seeking external,

That's when things start to get good. You are embodying Christ consciousness. You are embodying the energy of God within yourself. You're not seeking energy from outside of yourself, from external things. You're operating from within. You're using your own divine intelligence to feel good, to vibrate high. You don't need external things to make you feel good. When you operate from within and you feel good from within, you have full control.

control and power over your life because suddenly no one's opinions matters. No one's perception of you matters. No one's text to you matters. If someone chooses you or not, that doesn't matter because you love yourself so much that regardless of what happens, you know it's a part of your divine plan and you know everything is always working in your highest good and your highest favor. Even if you can't see it in the current moment, you trust in the higher plan. You trust in God's plan for you. You know that everything

whatever's happening to you is all for good reason. And you don't need anything external to make you feel a certain way. The other thing is stop praying for a new timeline and a new experience out of life or a new person or your husband, and you're still entertaining your past. That's just not how it works. Okay. You can't be praying for your new timeline while living in your past self-still, operating as your past self-still. You need to embody the new timeline.

timeline now and act and operate from that new timeline from that new self in order to get what you want. Okay, you can't keep playing it small and playing it safe and stay in your comfort bubble and expect great change to happen. You have to take action and open yourself up to the new timeline. You have to burn the old self and be

willing to do new things and try new things and put yourself in new environments and meet new people and open your energy field up to new things in order to get what you want. You can't stay stuck in the past and expect to open the new portal to your future. A part of me kind of when I was entertaining some of my ex situations, there was a piece of me that was like, I'm kind of scared to do this because I feel like it's

subconsciously going to hold me back in some ways from my future. It doesn't always have to be that way, but I truly am the biggest believer in slamming the door on something entirely in order to access your new self. That's how energy usually works. So that thought alone makes it easier for me to release the old timelines and the old versions of me because I'm like, I need the new timeline. I need to be my future self. I need to level up and grow and create new experiences. I want to be better. The

The past, all those things that happened with that person or my ex, whatever, that really never served me. I was never truly happy. Maybe you have this illusion of, oh, if we try one more time, things would be different. Things would change. But if I'm really getting honest with myself and if you're really getting honest with yourself, is it really what you want or is it just comfortable? And you're settling because it's comfortable. It's familiar. And you think maybe like, oh, I'll never find anyone better. But really, is it really what you want? Were you really, truly happy? Were

Were you really truly happy or is it just familiar? Ask yourself that. The next thing is no one is coming to save you, okay? You could listen to every single episode on this podcast and at the end of the day, you're

I'm still not here to save you. I'm here maybe to motivate you, to inspire you, to activate you. But you have to save yourself. You have to initiate yourself into your divine new life. No one's coming to save you and rescue you. You save yourself. You have to declare it. You have to walk in the new frequency. You have to understand that

This is on you to make the decision, to make the jump, to make the leap. You have to activate yourself. It comes from within. It's a divine decision for you to elevate. You have to make the conscious choice. And when you really commit to it and you really do make that choice, that's when things shift. I could sit here forever and encourage you, push you, motivate you. But this is up to you at the end of the day. You have to say to yourself, I'm ready now. I'm ready to receive all the blessings life has to offer. I

I'm done dealing with the past. I'm shutting all of those doors. I'm done. I've had enough. It's really funny too, because often when we get really fired up and angry and we've snapped and we've had enough, that's when things start to shift. Why? Because energetically, we really are done. And when we mean it, the universe knows, God knows. When we really close that energetic door of the past,

God knows. And then he'll give you what you want. He knows that you're really done. But he also knows when the door is half closed. He also knows when the door is three quarters closed. He knows when the door is 95% closed. He knows. So you're not accessing the new timeline fully. You're not getting the manifestations. You're not accessing your future self and your husband and your dream life and dream relationship. You're not able to access that fully because you're not fully being honest with yourself and your energy. Is every door closed so you could open up the new one? Is it?

Or is there a little piece of you that's like, eh, maybe I'll, you know, dip my toe into the future, but I'm not fully there yet. Be honest with yourself. The other thing I love to do is embodying the frequency of the person. I want to become every morning when I wake up first thing. I start speaking like the person I want to be. I start moving like the person I want to be. I speak of miracles like everything's already happened. Oh yeah, I'm receiving a check for this. This brand deal closed. I'm moving here. I'm doing this.

Just start commanding, commanding your new self. Command it. Speak it into existence now. It's now. It's not 10 years from now. It's not six months from now. It's not 10 years from now. It's now. It's all happening right now. You have to speak it into existence now. Command it. Embody it. And identify as the person that you wish to become now. You don't wait for the proof. You are the proof now. You're not...

trying to be someone, you are that person now. When you choose to be that person now energetically, things start shifting. I kind of said this already, but I want to reiterate it because it's the most important part of this episode. Stop negotiating with your old timeline, your old self, your old choices, your old decisions. Stop negotiating with that person and what you used to do. There's none of that anymore. There's

If you need to convince yourself into doing something, if you're trying to give people second, third chances, if you're kind of on the fence about things, it's a no. Just cut it all out. Cut the garbage. Cut all the baggage, all the things that you feel even might be draining you slightly, even if it's the littlest thing. There's no room for it anymore. There's no tolerance. We're cutting all of that out. We are making space for a brand new reality.

version of us. There's no negotiating. There's no, oh, maybe this, like maybe, you know, this person can stay in my life, but I'll only hang out with them a few times a week. Oh, like, it's not that big of a deal. It's kind of annoying, but like, maybe I'll get to it later. There's no like maybe energy. Do you know what I mean? There's no negotiating with something that feels mediocre. We're not doing mediocre. We're not doing

just all right. We're not doing just okay things. We're only accepting of the best. We're only deserving of the best. We're only allowing the best into our timelines now. We're only allowing the most elite, beautiful, abundant, radiant people and energy into our timelines now. We're only accepting the most divine love now. That's it. No negotiation. There's no room for maybes or what-ifs or confused energy or stagnant energy. There's no room for it anymore.

Because that's actually what's keeping you stuck. That's actually really, really blocking you from your biggest blessings and your biggest destiny because you're communicating now to God in the universe. Oh, I'm only worthy of a maybe. I'm only worthy of a casual, confusing situation. If you were operating at your highest frequency, all of that would fall off.

So let it fall off. Let it die. Let it burn. Let the old self burn away. Stop negotiating. You don't beg for blessings. You step into alignment now. You command full abundance and alignment now. You are operating at your highest timeline now. You are burying any illusions, any confusion, any heavy weight, any baggage from the past.

You are burying all of that now. You rise. You are a new woman now. You are embodying a new frequency of abundance, of being a true divine goddess. Embrace your power. Activate yourself now. It begins now. It all starts within you. I am so proud of you and I cannot wait to see you rise.

Rise. With that being said, that concludes today's episode of Date Yourself Instead. Thank you so much for listening. As always, I appreciate you. I value you. I love you. I adore you. All the messages, all the comments on Spotify. If you haven't already, be sure to rate the podcast on Spotify and Apple. It really does help the show grow.

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