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cover of episode Work on yourself so much until they're not your type anymore

Work on yourself so much until they're not your type anymore

2023/6/11
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Date Yourself Instead
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Lyss: 本期节目的核心观点是，过度关注一段关系会让你迷失自我，忽略自身目标和幸福，陷入焦虑和自我否定。与其过度关注伴侣的感受和关系的走向，不如专注于自我提升，增强自信，直到对方不再符合你的择偶标准。Lyss结合自身经历，分享了她在过去几段感情中，因为过度关注关系而导致身心俱疲，忽略自身成长的经历。她强调，真正的安全感应该源于自我，而不是依赖他人。适度的关系焦虑是正常的，但过度依赖和消耗性焦虑则需要警惕。提升自我，增强自信，才能减少对他人评价的依赖。过去的失败恋情消耗了大量的精力，应该将精力转向自我提升。遇到焦虑时，应该专注于自我关爱和提升，而不是沉溺于负面情绪。设定目标并为之努力能提升自信，并转移对负面情绪的关注。设定目标能帮助克服失恋带来的迷茫和无力感。创建播客让她找到了目标和方向，并重拾自我价值感。养成健康的生活习惯，例如锻炼，能改善身心健康，释放负面情绪。积极的“假设性思维”能帮助克服负面情绪，例如失恋后的焦虑。及时摆脱有害关系能带来积极的改变，积极的自我暗示能帮助你提升自我。

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The episode explores the concept of focusing on self-improvement to the point where one's past relationship preferences no longer align with their evolved self, emphasizing the importance of not losing one's identity in relationships.

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If you're overly consumed by the idea of a person instead of focusing on yourself, this episode is for you. We get so caught up and easily fixated on a new relationship, or a partner that isn't giving us the love we deserve, and it becomes an ultimate form of distraction away from who we are, our goals, and what truly makes us happy. This episode is really just a reminder to work on yourself and your goals, and find the passion that drives you, instead of focusing on someone that isn't showing up for you. Remember, if you loved this episode feel free to dm me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead, and be sure to rate it on Spotify.