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Mark Manson: The Psychological Skills To Master For Fulfilling Relationships, Inner Peace & Abundance

2025/3/26
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Lewis Howes: 我过去难以处理来自工作和生活中的批评，常常将其视为对自身价值的否定。但随着年龄的增长和经验的积累，我逐渐学会将反馈与自身价值区分开来，并从中学习改进。在人际关系中，我也经历了从过度付出到学会设定界限的过程，这让我在人际关系中获得了更多的平和与自由。 在与他人的相处中，我曾经努力取悦所有人，渴望获得所有人的认可。但随着时间的推移，我意识到这种做法并不可持续，也无法让我真正感到快乐。因此，我开始学习设定界限，拒绝一些请求，并专注于与真正重要的人建立深厚的关系。这个过程虽然艰难，但最终让我获得了内心的平静与自由。 在沟通方面，我曾经习惯于直接表达自己的观点，而忽略了对他人感受的考虑。现在，我更加注重倾听和理解他人的观点，即使与他们的观点存在分歧，我也会努力保持尊重和理解。 总的来说，我的人生经历让我深刻地认识到自我认知、界限设定和有效沟通的重要性。这些技能不仅有助于改善人际关系，更能提升自身的生活质量和幸福感。 Mark Manson: 自我认知是情商的基础，但它难以捉摸，需要不断地质疑自身假设和动机来培养。在亲密关系中，我过去很逃避，总找借口离开，但现在我意识到这是不合理的，并努力在新的关系中克服。长久亲密关系的秘诀在于接纳对方，而不是试图改变对方。缺乏自我认知的人会成为潜意识的奴隶，被童年创伤所控制。 可以通过角色扮演和寻求他人反馈来检验自己是否真正具有自我认知。寻求亲近之人的诚实反馈，但要辨别反馈的来源是否可靠。有效的沟通在于区分对他人行为的评价与对他人本身的评价。在与他人的沟通中，要学会区分对他人行为的评价与对他人本身的评价，避免将负面评价与个人价值混淆。 “心想事成”的概念本身没错，但其背后的解释过于玄乎，应以认知偏差来解释。人们倾向于假设他人与自己想法一致，这是一种常见的认知偏差。未来几年，我需要学习的技能是享受当下，而不是被追求成就感的欲望所驱使。 总的来说，在人际关系中，我们需要不断地学习和成长，才能更好地处理各种挑战，获得内心的平静与幸福。

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Bestselling author Mark Manson returns for his fourth appearance on the School of Greatness to reveal why self-awareness might be our most critical psychological skill. From torpedoing his early relationships to building a marriage that thrives on acceptance rather than change, Mark shares the vulnerable journey that transformed his approach to human connection. His refreshing take on emotional development—backed by both science and personal experience—offers a roadmap for breaking free from unconscious patterns that sabotage our happiness. Whether you're struggling with people-pleasing tendencies or finding yourself trapped in toxic relationships, this conversation delivers actionable wisdom that will transform how you communicate, set boundaries, and ultimately find peace in a world that constantly demands more.

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In this episode you will learn:

  • Why self-awareness is the foundation of emotional intelligence and how to develop it when your mind is actively trying to deceive you
  • How to receive critical feedback without taking it personally by separating your identity from your actions
  • The psychological skill of creating boundaries that free you from people-pleasing while maintaining meaningful relationships
  • Why acceptance—not trying to change others—is the secret to long-lasting intimate relationships
  • How to leverage confirmation bias (what some call "manifestation") to achieve your goals in a practical, science-backed way

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