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Martha Higareda Howes: Opening Up About Our Journey To Marriage (Our Step-By-Step Process + A Huge SURPRISE!)

2025/6/23

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Lewis Howes: 我认为爱不仅仅是一个词，而是一种行动，体现在我们的行为中。如果我们一直想改变伴侣的某件事，那是因为我们没有完全接受他们。要么接受伴侣，要么就不要在一起。我们努力加强和加深我们的基础，因为我们知道生活会给每个人带来逆境和挑战。我们的目标是在面对挑战时保持团结，而不是互相指责。我们分享我们从约会到结婚的经验，以及对我们有效的方法。我提出在关系初期进行夫妻治疗，以确保我们能共同成长。我对我们关系的投资使你更接受和爱我。我的目标是为我们创造一个基础，以便我们能继续享受生活。 Martha Higareda Howes: 婚后我们更加团结，成为一个家庭。我们进行婚姻准备是为了建立坚实的基础。即使不是天主教徒，参加这个婚姻预备课程也很有益。婚姻预备课程由结婚至少40年的夫妇提供，他们分享了自己的见解。一对夫妇结婚15年后几乎离婚，后来通过婚姻预备课程重获幸福。为了保持关系的安全感，女性可能会变得控制欲强。这位妻子试图控制丈夫的一切，导致他感到无法做任何事。这位妻子想掌控一切，但同时也想感到女性化。我们都希望被接受，而不是被改变。行动比言语更重要，行为要与言语一致。我不会因为你不完美而打击你。我认为你是一个礼物，即使你有时会让我恼火。我接受你的方式，就像上帝爱你和接受你一样。

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This chapter details the couple's year-long preparation for marriage, encompassing workshops, therapy sessions, and crucial conversations that solidified their bond before their wedding. They emphasize building a strong foundation to withstand life's challenges.

Year-long marriage preparation program
Workshops, therapy, and difficult conversations
Building an unshakeable foundation

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Most couples rush into marriage without building the foundation that actually matters, but Martha Higareda Howes, accomplished actress and my wife, shows us what intentional relationship preparation looks like. We dive deep into our year-long marriage preparation journey, revealing the workshops, therapy sessions, and difficult conversations that created unshakeable unity before we even said "I do." Martha vulnerably shares how she learned to break free from controlling patterns rooted in childhood safety mechanisms, while I open up about requiring acceptance over perfection from a partner. The most powerful moment comes when Martha demonstrates true partnership by choosing our marriage agreements over family pressure during our wedding day crisis, proving that real love means protecting the relationship you're building together. Anyone dating seriously, engaged, or married will walk away with a blueprint for creating the kind of relationship that thrives under pressure rather than crumbles.

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In this episode you will learn:

How to break free from controlling relationship patterns that stem from childhood safety mechanisms
The marriage preparation program framework that creates unshakeable foundations before your wedding day
Why accepting your partner completely is more powerful than trying to change them
How to navigate family boundaries when creating your new marriage unit
The conflict resolution method that prevents resentment from building over time

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