The Money Expert: “If I Was Broke Today, This Is EXACTLY What I’d Do To Become Debt-Free” | Anthony O’Neal
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on the Lewis Howell show, but I mean, we're at the table. So I'm really excited about that. - We are at the table. You got a new book called "Take Your Seat at the Table: Live an Authentic Life of Abundance, Wellness, and Freedom." - Yes, sir. - Most people are not free today. They are living in a lot of debt. They're living in a lot of stress and a lot of anxiety. And we all know that money problems are one of the main things that cause anxiety, stress, overwhelm, and a lack of freedom for people.

Would you say that people being in debt and not knowing how to get out of debt is one of the biggest things that causes them stress around money? And if so, how do people start to get out of debt when they just feel overwhelmed by it? I think people are in debt because of the lack of knowledge. People perish for the lack of knowledge and wisdom, right? And so I think we have programmed...

in our minds that the way to be successful in life is to have this amazing credit score, is to have all this amazing debt, right? Because we're using other people's money. But then when we wake up, we have this 800 credit score, we have this debt, but then we don't have any freedom. And we don't have freedom because we don't have ownership. So when I step back and I look at my life, if I'm going to take a seat at the head of my table, I'm going to be the one

I have to have a level of ownership and ownership means that particular banks, because we're on the school of greatness, I won't name any banks. But if I'm if I'm with this bank, this bank gives me a personal loan. I have a credit card with this particular bank. I have a car loan with this particular bank. I have student loans over here. Now, all of these institutions now sit at the head of my table and are telling me what to do.

And I'm thinking, well, I was using other people's money so I can build wealth. Well, no, you was using other people's money. And because you're using other people's money, now you're in bondage. So now when you wake up. To those debtors. To those debtors, to those creditors. So think about it. I can't go to my son's basketball game because when I get off of work, I have to go get another job because I have to pay them back.

Interest. Interest. And I'm over oversaturated with how much money I got to get back. So I think with people, the reason why we're so stressed is because we really have to step back and ask ourselves, like, wait a minute, do I have ownership? To this day, I still believe in 100 percent being consumer debt free. Right. Consumer debt free means that, you know, anything outside of my real estate, anything outside of an asset, I'm going to pay cash for it.

Because I want to have ownership to where when I'm blessed to have a family, when I'm blessed to have kids, then I can wake up and decide what I want to do with my life, not what do I have to do because I owe every woman. That's just the bottom line. So debt is one of the big things that holds people back. What do you think is the number one thing that's stopping most people then from becoming debt free? Yeah.

I think it's because they don't want to sit back and be honest and be different. You know, it's easy to blend in with the world because everyone is doing this. Everyone is talking about an 800 credit score. Everyone is saying, you know, even like with me, you know, you're engaged to an amazing woman getting married soon. I'm still single.

right one of the top questions i get when i'm dating is what's your credit score really yes come on hey man people care about that that much what is your credit no way yes lewis women are asking you what's your credit score absolutely come on hey louis i'm gonna be real you my brother i can say this in my community and culture yes and i'm like but the credit score doesn't mean that i'm successful with money

It simply means I'm good at paying back the people who I borrowed from. Right. Because I can have an 800 credit score and not have $800 inside my savings account. Wow. But when I answer that question, I remember the first time a young lady asked me that question, Louis, and I told her the truth. I said, I got 530 because I had just finished paying off all of my debt.

So, you know, when you pay off all your debt, they penalize you for that. Really? Yes. Your credit score drops. They don't reward you because you're debt free. They penalize you. So I'm like, well, I got a five hundred and thirty. She was turned completely off. You could be like, well, I got one hundred grand in the bank still. But I asked a question. Interesting. Right. So the whole night I saw how the mood shifted.

because of my credit score she started looking for an out texting her friends hey come man listen and what the truth of the fact is this was years ago i mean i was in my 20s then i remember her telling her friend that that she was like yeah yeah girl he gotta follow his own credit score he can't he bad with his money and i never responded because i wasn't financially mature then to respond in the correct way uh but as i evolved i said man wow

A credit score does not mean that I'm good with my money. I think a lot of people are stuck because they're trying to have this perfect three-digit score, but you can't pass down the three-digit score. You can't give your son or your daughter and build a legacy with that score. So I'm focused on, okay, how do I take the seat at the head of my table

How do I position my family who's at the side of my table, who's at the opposite side of my table, my wife? What is the best thing I need to do with my finances to make sure that when I am transitioning to heaven, that I can leave them with something? And I can't do that with the score. Really can't do it with score. So for me, it's all about what am I investing? How much debt do I have? How do I eliminate that? What's my insurance policies? And also to what wealth am I leaving behind?

And when I say wealth, it's not just about the finances. It's about what wisdom and knowledge am I leaving behind? And this is something that we do not talk on social media. Influencers don't talk about this. Louis, to this day, I started this about four years ago. Man, every mistake that I make and that I have made, I write it down. And it's in a journal. So when my kids get of age...

When they're like, I want to say, if I'm blessed to have some right around freshman, sophomore year, I'm giving them my journal. Your mistake journal. My mistake journal. Hey, these are the mistakes that I made while dating. These are the mistakes I've made within my Christianity walk. These are the mistakes I've made with my money. These are the mistakes that I've made in life in general. So they're going to see a letter of what here it is, a letter to them, a mistake that I made, the consequence of that mistake,

What I learned from that mistake and then number four is what did I do to make sure I didn't do this again? I was going to ask you a question about the credit score thing. I thought this was interesting. I mean, maybe I, I don't know. No one's ever asked me like, what's your credit score? But that's, that's interesting. So your fiance has never asked you that question? No, because I have money. Yeah. So it's like,

But I've made money and I've saved my money. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I remember talking in like the first, maybe it's weird, but either the first night I met her or within the first couple days of like hanging out, I was just talking about money more openly. Not like, oh, I have all this money and let me spend it on all these things. But I was just...

speaking about it in a way where it wasn't taboo. I was speaking about it in a way where it was more open. I was just like, oh, you do projects, you're an actor, like, oh, that must be awesome. What are most actors making these days? Not like, what are you making directly, but like, how is the industry, what is it going on? Here's what I'm doing in podcasting, and here's what I was when I started out, broke on my sister's couch. Here's what I've kind of created over the last 15 years. So it was more of an open conversation about it. Yeah.

of where I was to where I am now. Not like, "Oh, open my bank account, here's my money." - Right, right, right. - But I think because I came from that space, I don't know, maybe she's Mexican and they don't, that culture, they don't ask about credit score. I don't know. But I'm interested, when a woman asks someone about their credit score, and say it's an 800 credit score that the guy has, and the woman thinks to themself, "Oh, that's good, he's got a high credit score." What does she learn about the man?

With that high credit score or low credit score. And what does she not know about that man based on a higher or lower credit score? Well, with me being a man, I can't specifically say what every woman will learn and know because I think that's a great question for a woman. So ladies, please answer that question inside the comments. But here's what I perceive, Louis, is that within, you made a good call out that your

fiance soon to be wife is Mexican well within my particular community let's go back a little bit we're taught in our culture that when you graduate high school go to school right keep your credit score good work 40 years while you're working 40 years get a good job I'm not gonna good job get a good home

And so that way, that's the life. You got a good credit score. You got a real good job with benefits. You have a you're a homeowner. That's the American dream within the black community. I was taught to at a younger age. So I think what ladies are looking for, OK, if he has a good credit score, this means that he's he's doing good with his finances within our particular community. I would say within our particular community, I think within the world in general, we're not really taught money lessons.

We're not really taught, hey, do you budget? We're not really taught, do you invest? We're not really taught, are you an entrepreneur? We're taught, hey, as long as you have a good 800 credit score, you can always get financed. And so I think when ladies hear a man has a good credit score, it's like, okay, so we can get a home. We can get a car. We can get this. But for me, I'm like, yeah, but you're not really understanding. What you're simply saying is we can get a lot of debt.

And that's not good. And that's not good. If you're buying consumer stuff. If you're not using it to invest in smart assets or something, yeah. You know what I'm saying? So, I mean, if we're talking about, hey, yes, you need an 800 credit score so we can get into the real estate game, I'm all for that. But if we're talking about we need an 800 credit score so we can buy the latest Mazda Rider, the latest Bentley, okay, wait a minute, we have a problem. I need to have this so I can go get me a credit card so I can get all these reward miles. But the truth of the fact is when I look at all of my millionaire friends,

They're not bragging about their reward miles. They're bragging about the investments that they're buying and that's making them money and that's paying for their liabilities, that's paying for their toys. But when I hear them having this conversation,

And this is what I really get excited about. It's like, wait, man, I just bought a duplex. I just bought, you know, a situation with 24 doors and my 24 doors. Wait, what? Yeah, I finance it, did this and did that. I'm like, OK, cool. Great. And that's one of my philosophies that has changed over the years is that. Wait a minute. If I can use other people's money to get into the real estate game the correct way.

and I'm getting 24 doors and I'm getting inside of the real estate game, I'm buying an asset that will then fund my toys, my wants, and my desires. Say you've always wanted to take a spontaneous trip to the Caribbean. Here's the thing. If you get smart with your money, you can do things like that.

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I make money and I invest a lot. And my real estate, my credit score comes from real estate, which is assets. And I really start having that conversation. I love how, you know, I know we were talking about my book, but your book, you know, make money easy. I think we really do have to make money such an easy conversation. Yes.

and just have it really, really, if it's an easy conversation, then I think we can make it easy. I haven't read your book completely yet, but by the time you come to my show, I will have it read. But it's like, I love the title of your book because I think we make it so difficult.

That's why I made the title. We make it so hard because it is hard if we're not educated. Facts. And it feels scary and overwhelming if we don't have the information, the education like you're talking about. Yeah. And I think debt feels daunting for a lot of people. It does. And if you were broke today and if you were in debt, let's say, let's say you made a bunch of challenging financial decisions. Yeah.

You made all, you know, your mistake journal is filled up to the brim. Yeah. And you're broke and in a lot of debt. Yep. What is the exact process you would take then from going from broken in debt to creating a financially free life? Oh, I get excited about this. All right. Very first things I'm stepping back. And before I even look at my debt,

I'm talking, okay, where do I want to be within the next 12 months? After 12 months, next three years, five years. So you're thinking game plan first. I'm getting the vision for the next five years of my life, right? So if I say, hey, listen, I want to be in California living in my dream home, debt free. Like whatever that vision is, I'm casting that vision. Below that vision, I'm writing down the why.

You know, one of my good friends, Pastor Darius Daniels, mentioned something. He said, man, if your why doesn't make you cry, then the price of commitment for the next five years is going to make you cry. Let's go. And it's going to make you quit. And so for me, once I write down the vision, I'm going to write down a why. Why do I want to accomplish this vision? So if I'm drowning in debt,

And I know I want to be out of debt. I'm going to be in my home. Why do I want the home? I don't want the home just because it's nice sitting on the beach. I want the home probably because, you know what, man, growing up, me and my kid, me and my siblings had to share a room. Right. You know what? We never were a homeowner. Maybe I'm the first homeowner in my family. So I'm I'm getting a deep enough why that when it gets hard, when I feel like giving up, it's going to make me cry and make me push through.

So I'm doing that. So that's number two. Then number three, I'm looking at I'm pulling credit card. I'm pulling the last three months of my bank statements and I'm getting on a very detailed budget. I'm writing out everything and I call this a zero base budget. But for me, I know a lot of people get turned off by the word of budgeting. So I call it what's the vision now I have for my life? What's the vision for my money?

So if I'm saying, okay, cool, I want to be debt free, but I got to go look at my credit report. I got to pull Equifax, TransUnit, Experian. I got to pull the last three months of my bank statements. And this is something I do on a regular. Louis, I'll get five highlighters, different colors, and I'll go do a highlight. Okay, food is one color. And I want to see how much money over the last three to six months have I spent on food. Wow. And if I'm saying, okay, dang, I was talking about Barber. He spent two grand on food in one month. Wow. Just eating out.

my two grand i remember it's just you what are you eating for two thousand dollars wow and twin i'm like i know it's expensive out here in the streets but it's not that expensive somebody two grand in one month okay we need to cut that off by like three-fourths you need to be down to 500 including groceries and eating out boom when it's just you so like i'm highlighting everything and i'm assessing making sure that i know exactly where my money is going because here's the truth

You cannot manage your money if you're not measuring it. You can't really understand what you're doing and where you're going if you're not tracking what it's doing. And for the majority of the people who are watching this show,

I won't say the majority. With the school of greatness, we're going to say a majority of y'all should be winning. For those of us who are watching this show, a lot of us are probably saying, dang, I just got paid last week, but I don't know where the money went. And it's because you're not managing it well because you're not measuring where your money is.

So that's number three. I'm going to list out everything and watch this before I put it on the budget. I'm going to write it out. Yo, I owe this bank this. I owe that bank this. I'm going to list out all the debt. Out of all the debt, I'm going to list out all of my monthly expenses. Then I'm going to take that information and I'm going to put it on this budget. And here's the truth. We're going to be honest. It is going to frustrate you. Yeah. It is going to make you feel bad.

depressed a little bit, you're going to feel discouraged a little bit because what's going to happen is you're going to see you have more debt than you have income. That's going to be my number four. Once I see that I have all this debt, I'm going to measure, okay, what is the income strategy that I need to come up with that is going to create margin to help me pay off my debt? And I tell everyone that's going to be a job. And except for getting a second job,

Listen, man, the content creation space, I just think right now is a healthy place to get into. Because I think a lot of us have a lot up here that people were paid to have. And so like for example, I had a school teacher come to me and she was like, man, Anthony, I'm in $238,000 in debt. Oh. 140 of them are, is her student loans because she has her doctorate student loans.

then two of them are cars, her and her husband, then the other's just credit cards and stuff from here. I said, okay, all right, let's write it down. And so as I was talking with her, I said, listen, she said, I'm going to get another job working at Walmart part-time. I said, I think that's not a good use of your time. I said, why not? You're a school teacher. Why not go home? You're making good money over here.

Why not go home and create maybe a course or an academy that helps get kids ready for the SAT? She was like, what do you mean? I said, why not use the skills that you're giving to the job, to the school system, and build a side business that now parents can buy to help them get ready for the SAT? She was like, Anthony, I never thought about that.

So she went home and she started dreaming with her husband. Well, she came back to me. Not only did she come up with the business that is going to help kids with the SAT, but she also came up with the business that helps school students in school to be a teacher to help them graduate in college. A year later.

Her side business is paying her more than what the school teacher is doing because she took her wisdom and her knowledge and turned it into a side business. So not only is she creating more income, now she's able to use the tax benefits that the wealthy are using. And I said, OK, are you going to quit your job? She was like, no, because my side business is funding this thing. I honestly love teaching students. So what happened? Husband quit his job.

He runs the business. Wow. He does all of the marketing. He does all of the stuff. And this is what I love. It puts them back at the head of their table. Yes. Because now it's like, wait, we're now controlling our life. Now she went from having to be a school teacher to wanting to be a school teacher. She went from having to work to, you know what?

I love what I do. Yes. And that's the freedom that you have when you're at the seat at the head of your table is that you get to decide what you want to do in a direction or wherever you want to go. What would you say is the number one piece of financial advice you're seeing online that people should ignore? You know, there is a, there's a lot.

You know, it's not just one. I'm like, man, there's so many Lewis and I could say. But I think the number one financial advice that I would say and I talk about this inside of the book that I would ignore is that everyone has to be an entrepreneur. Ignore that. Ignore that. Yeah, because that's not the case.

I think everyone should have an entrepreneurial mindset, but not everyone should be entrepreneurial. Because if you want to be, when they say be an entrepreneurship, what they're talking about is they're selling you. Hey man, I could work on the beach. Hey man, I'm flying in the private jets. Hey man, you know, I'm able to go buy this G wagon and ride off a hundred percent of it because it's over 6,000 pounds. They're lying to you. I've been doing this for four years. I mean, you don't have several conversations offline.

this entrepreneurial world is not for everybody and it's frustrating and i have not to this day worked on the beach because you weren't you worked in a career before and now you're you're an entrepreneur now yes and if i'm being honest in the corporate america space in the corporate space man i'm working harder today than i was then of course right so i am i'm not flying on private jets

And just not working for a month or two. That's not happening. And so I think some of the worst advice is looking at these enforcers and they're selling you on, hey, I can coach you to be your own boss and you'll be working at the beach. And that's something that can't happen. Because have I gone on vacation and worked? Absolutely. But what I am saying is out of 365 days a year, these people say you only got to work 20 of them. That's a lie.

And so I think for me, it's really we got to start teaching how to how to have the entrepreneurial mindset, right?

But not everyone is called to be an entrepreneur because I think I need a real good assistant if I'm going to be effective. And I think people are made, as a Christian, I do believe people are made to be the number two, the number three, the number four, to be the team player. Because an effective business cannot run without effective team members. And you can be just as wealthy, you can be just as successful if you are living the authentic life of yourself. I think one of the greatest mistakes

that I see in people, especially this younger generation, they want to rush to be their own boss, but they haven't really done anything to learn how to be an effective boss. And I'm so grateful that God put me through the seasons of serving in the church world, serving in a corporate America space, because I would not be successful today if I didn't learn up on any different people. And I think for me, I think that is one of the dumbest mistakes that I've seen people make. And I think another mistake

I saw online and it was so frustrating to me. It's take your student loans and go buy real estate with it. I was like, go borrow money. Take out a parent plus loan. Oh man. Have them sign on it. Have them sign on it to go buy real estate. And the real estate was just a down payment on all it's,

It's not the whole house. I got to pay double interest now? High interest on the student loan? High interest on this? I'm like, wait a minute. So there's so many different things, man, that I didn't really adjust to. But I think one of the things I learned for you, man, I got to give you credit for it. I think it was like a year and a half ago. Because I'm always watching your shows and always growing from you, your advice, and the people you had on. And man, because of you,

I have an interchangeable seat at my table. I have an interchangeable seat between my therapist and my emotional coach. And you talked about that like a year and a half, I want to say. And what I learned was that my emotions, I was making financial decisions based upon my emotions. When my emotions shouldn't be making decisions, I should be managing my emotions. But my emotions should not be managing me.

And I've made bad financial decisions because of how I felt off of my emotions. And if I'm being honest and vulnerable, I've lost out on great relationships and friendships because I didn't manage my emotions. And I'm like, whoa, so when I heard you say that, like, bro, I got convicted. I was like, look at Louis over here preaching. I was like, Louis, does he know he a private? So I really stepped back and started looking for emotional coaches because I realized, like, man,

If I'm being honest, I lose to this day. I still meet with I still meet with him. And to this day, it is still a struggle for me to control and manage my emotions. Because when you have that feeling, you got to be like, no, this is my emotions. I cannot make a decision in this state. Yeah. And I've made decisions in that state that has cost me a lot of money that has.

I probably lost out on an amazing woman because of that. I probably lost business relationships and even friendships because of that. But I think I hear this often within the world. And man, if you're feeling bad, man, just go to the mall and just do some window shopping. That's your emotions talking.

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When we're feeling a certain kind of way, that's your emotions talking. And so I would encourage people, man, to get that interchangeable seat between the therapist and emotional coach and they work together. My therapist helps me understand the practical reason of why I made the decision. My emotional coach is helping me understand why I'm feeling the way that I'm feeling and how to control that. Yeah, it's interesting. I mean, I can definitely relate to that. And

And for me, I've learned that regulating the emotions, like allowing yourself to feel it but not act on them necessarily until you regulate and understand them, gives you more sense of freedom, gives you more sense of power and peace in the decision. And it doesn't mean you're always going to feel good. Yeah.

And you're going to have to go through uncomfortable situations, but when you can learn to regulate them, you can have more peace in the decision you make after you feel the emotions. And one of the challenges, you know, some people spend their money on things when they feel overwhelmed or excited or stressed.

Yeah, I was more of an emotional eater where it was like I would just go eat food. I didn't need things. I wasn't like, let me go buy the shiny thing to feel good or window shop or go on Amazon. That was never my thing. But it was like, let me get the ice cream. Let me get the pizza to comfort me. So whatever your advice is of comfort. Yeah. Luckily, I wasn't a spender on things to go into debt.

which takes years to get out of, right? - Is this my water? - Yeah. But I was a spender of food that created physical debt, right? It created physical weight that I then had to carry with me constantly. So whatever the weight is you're carrying, or whatever the thing that you're spending to,

add more weight into your financial pocket or to your physical bucket, whatever it might be, or your weight might be like, oh, I'm going to go sleep with a bunch of women because I want to just feel good because I don't feel good right now. You're picking up that relational baggage, whatever it might be, or spiritual baggage from being in all those relationships. It's just learning how to regulate it better and

so we can have more abundance, wellness, and freedom like you talk about in your book, Take Your Seat at the Table. And I think that's a big challenge for people. When you talk about, you know,

If you're in debt $100,000, $100,000, $200,000 from student loans and other two cars, it might seem daunting. You talked about this, okay, get clear on a 12-month, 3-year, 5-year vision and understand why you want that vision in these 12 months, 3 years, and 5 years. Some people might say, oh, man, I have to cut all of my fun out of my life for the next 5 years. I have to live so below my means and cut all –

All the food I go on out, all the fun, all the activities and trips, I have to cut it all out because of the financial baggage and debt that I'm in in order to, in five, seven years, be debt-free. And that seems exhausting. Most people don't have the discipline emotionally, mentally, or financially to go so below their means when they've gone into debt for years and they've created an identity of debt and spending. How does someone wrap their head around that

complete death of an identity on who they have been to say, oh, in order to be debt free, I want to take five years of my life to be, you know, so below my means, cut out everything. And then I can finally be free. This is a school of greatness. I would ask them, how are you feeling right now? Probably trapped, probably stressed, anxious, avoidant. They probably don't even know how much debt they're in because they don't want to keep looking at it because it doesn't feel good.

It's like when you gain weight, you don't want to jump on the scale because you're like, I don't want to look at that. But I got to say this respectfully, I don't have to jump on the scale to know that I'm in a bad situation. I need to change my life. The scale is going to confirm what I already know. Yes. And I think what I when I hear people say that, oh, man, I got to do all this. I said, cool, don't do that.

Live this for the rest of your life then. Live the life scared to look at your checking account. Live the life for the rest of your life scared to go to the mailbox. I was there, bro. I was there to where I would drive by the mailbox knowing that the mail is probably packed because I knew there were bills in there that I didn't want to see. But I still knew the bills were there. But the thing was going to the mailbox was just confirmation of what I already knew.

And man, I'm telling you, the heaviness of, I know my money is not, I felt the heaviness of, I know I'm not free. I can't live this free life because I know it. And I was just scared to, to face reality of, I have to change. And so,

Here's here's what I teach, you know, within within my world, you know, at the table with Anthony O'Neill and even with this book is that if you can give me 18 or 24 months, we can change your life. I can't change it. I'm not the hero. You are the hero. I'm going to guide you through the process. But if you do not change anything, you're going to sacrifice the rest of your life.

living in misery, living with no freedom, with no ownership, because you're fearful to be uncomfortable for 12 to 24 months. And so if I'm uncomfortable a little bit for 12 to 24 months to get the rest of my life, to live a life of abundance, wellness, and freedom, I'm taking 12 to 24 months. Because what I'm doing is I've got adjusted. Oh, that's so good right there. I've got adjusted to being uncomfortable.

I've made this messy life of mine and I'm like, man, I deserve a home. But because my lifestyle right now, I've only warrant an apartment. But I can get a house. But I cannot. No, no, no. You know what, Anthony? I'm going to change 2025. I'm going to get on a plan. I'm going to be realistic with it. You know what? It's going to probably take me to the end of 2026 to get out of debt.

But here's the thing. 2026 comes two years flies by quick. It flies by crazy quick. It seems like forever. But when you're there, it's like, man, what happened the last two years? Just the first month of this year just flew by. I've been I've been out on my own for four years. You cannot ask me like it doesn't feel like four years now because we wake up every single day and we started over. OK, but wait. But before you know it, two years have gone by.

And I ask people to imagine themselves. Yes, I'm going to be honest with you. I'm not going to sit here and sell you a bunch of, you know, no, no, listen, you're right. You're in $150,000 in debt. I know you feel that stress. How do we, what is a system and what is a process to get out of that? I had this method that I teach is called Error.

And I teach people how to earn their freedom, how to earn a different level of finances. And the E stands for, listen, you got to evaluate where you currently are in life and with your finances. As we talked about earlier, like, hey, pull your credit report, pull how much debt that you have. But watch this. Debt is not just on paper, but do you owe family and friends money? Right.

Right. If you told him, hey, I'm a pay you back. Get all of that on a sheet of paper and evaluate where you are. The A stands for now you got arranged division. We talked about the vision. OK, now now that we know how much we are, what is the vision? Where are we going? Right. And our sense for render the strategy. This is where people fail at.

We do not get a proven strategy on how to make money easy. We don't get a proven strategy on how to get out of debt. We don't get a strategy on how do we change our life within the 12 to 24 months. What we'll do is, okay, I know I got some debt. I know I want to be debt free. Let me go on TikTok. That's not a strategy to go on TikTok.

That's not a strategy to go on YouTube and just follow your favorite YouTuber. You got to get with someone who has done it, who has the fruit of their labor, who has put together a proven strategy that you can follow and you may have to adjust for yourself. But here's the key where I think a lot of people fell at. And that is the end. They don't act. So the end is now act.

So you can get the vision. You know where you are with all your money. You know that you need to change. You got a proven system and a proven strategy, a proven book that will work. But now you don't want to do nothing.

Because it's been easy to sit there and just swipe the credit card. It's been easy to sit there and just go spend all this money. And you've gotten so used to this, I call it a horrible life. Because a horrible life has just become so normal to you. To where you can't even imagine what it feels like to be debt free. And you've got the money, man. We both are living this life, man. It feels so good to wake up, Lewis. And you know what? I think I'm going to go there.

Man, you don't get dressed. We don't go to Mexico. Right. You know what I'm saying? It just feels good to know that I can do that. It feels good to know that when I got the call, when you texted me, hey, let's do the show. I was like, all right, bet. I fly out there, couple weeks, boom. I didn't have to worry about, okay, wait, I'm going to do this money. It's like, it feels good to know that on the first of the month, I pay my mortgage payments and I pay my utility bills.

That's it. And all the rest of the money comes in and it feels good that I can give to my local church. I can give to this area. And it feels good that when I do meet my wife, I can look at her and say, you know what, man? You know, I feel like going to Ghana today. Let's go to Ghana next week. What are the kids doing?

They're out of school. Take them with us. It feels good to do that. But if I don't evaluate where I am in life and with my finances, if I don't arrange the vision of where I see myself and my family going, and if I don't render a strategy, and I think that's key, you got to find a strategy that works. Because if you don't find the strategy, you're going to be stressed, continue stressed about the situation that you're in. And you got to act. Because if you don't act, now it's just a dream. Yeah.

I love that earn principle. What's the biggest financial mistake you made in the last year? In the last year? That's a good question. He's asking the money guy. Within the last year, money mistake. Oh, that's a good one. How do I say this the right way, Lewis?

I wanted a, I've been saving up to, if you know anything about me, man, I'm very big on landscaping. Yeah. I see you put up the pool and the whole thing. Yeah. Yeah. So I'm very big on landscaping. And so I saved for a couple of years to do the pool and to do a golf. I think the biggest mistake that I made is I had the opportunity to do a golf thing. I interviewed a particular person who quoted me. I would say about 15,000 to do the pool.

And to be honest, he was a white guy. Black guy comes in and quotes me 7,500. Says that he's never done it before, but he says he can do it. Well, as I chose him because I wanted to support a minority owned company and he was half the price. Right. But he's never done it before. No.

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This guy has done it and does it well. Yeah, and he knows his worth. He knows his worth. For his experience and his product. He told me it would take me two weeks. He told me I'll have it done in three days. Oh, my gosh. The guy for $7,500 said three days? Yeah.

Louis. Oh, man. So I'm like in my head, oh, it's a black guy. I'm a supporter of black-owned company. And to the day I die, I'm always going to figure out how can I support and support my community right where I can. You're thinking also, I'm going to be swimming in six days. Exactly. I've not been waiting a month. Exactly. So I'm like, okay, cool. I do it, man. Disaster. I could send you pictures. Oh, man.

And I was so hurt because the money mistake, it wasn't selecting an African-American company. It was selecting a company that doesn't know what to do. And because I went with that route, I had to call the guy back. The other guy. I called the other guy back. He wouldn't touch it. Really? No, because he said, man, you already have someone else in costume, even warmer.

So I had to find another company that could come in and do it right. And thankfully, because they were fans and they knew of me, they came in. And so to do my whole situation cost me about $22,000. When it could have been only about $14,000. And it took more time, more energy, more stress. Man, listen. And it was just, it was a, I felt real bad at myself. Because facts on the table was, you've never done it before.

you told me that he was a contractor he did landscaping but he's never done that particular thing before and i was like okay i'm gonna give you a shot and the biggest money lesson that i've learned is yes support minority-owned companies but make sure that they are qualified to do the job sure sure and that was a huge money to say because i ended up wasting another seven eight thousand dollars oh man and that just wasn't good stewardship of my head curious about

Two part question. What is your definition of abundance and what is blocking you and most people from abundance? Oh, man, so good. My definition of abundance and I break it down a little bit shorter, but I give a real, real, real good definition inside of the book. Abundance for me is just that, man, I have so much that is an overflow that it's not just for me.

that there's an overflow of life, of love, of resources, of money. If this was the water, it has to be some other things out here to catch it.

So when I feel as that, from my spiritual perspective, when God is pouring into me, it's overflowing into my kids. It's overflowing into my community. It's overflowing into my wife. It's overflowing into my family, into my friends. And to me, that's abundance. When I have so much that I can't keep it all, that I gotta give it to everybody. And so I think what's blocking people from that

Is that we're not positioning ourselves to receive abundance. How do we position ourselves to receive abundance? That's easy. That's an easy question that I think that's not an easy question, but that's an easy conversation. I think a lot of people will want a deep answer for it. Just wake up and say, I'm ready. Just wake up and say, you know what? I'm changing my life today.

And I'm going to position myself to where I can do it. But if you're drowning in debt, if you don't have an emotional coach, a therapist that can get your mind fixed, you're never going to receive abundant. I was sitting down with, and this particular couple, Louis, made me cry emotionally on the inside. Because the guy said, yeah, man, no. He said, when I get my paycheck, I got to go buy a suit.

I got to go buy something. He's in his 60s. And it was like, man, yeah, growing up, it was like, man, it was just so tight that, you know, I couldn't enjoy my money. So now when I get my money, as long as I got a roof over my head, clothes on my back, shoes on my feet, food at my table, I'm going to enjoy having my money. I don't need this. I don't need it. We don't need it. I'm like, yeah, you don't have an abundance mindset. You just have a very shallow mindset. That meant every check, you got to spend it on material things.

And I understand that because of the season that he grew up in was that, man, we couldn't really enjoy him. Like he had to give his money to his parents growing up to help them live, to help the family survive. Now that he has his money, he's like, yo, I have to buy something for me. And I'm like, yeah, man, I can teach you how to invest. Let your investments buy real nice things for you. But for his mindset was, I don't need all of that.

And I don't, I don't need to, he literally said this, my kids ain't getting none of my money because I worked for it. And I'm like, yeah, that's the end abundance mindset. My kids will reap the fruit of my hard work. My community will reap the fruit of my family. My nephews, my niece will reap the fruit of me sitting at the head of my table. And I got in the abundance position, not just abundance, but keep in mind,

authentic is super important because when you are authentic to who you are, it opens up way more doors. And I think a lot of people are fearful to be authentically them. And for a while, I was fearful to be the authentic Anthony O'Neill because I allowed, and shut me up, this is your show, but I allow social media to tell me how to think and how to talk.

I allowed friends and peers to tell me what I should wear, what I should do. I allowed previous bosses and companies to tell me what I should read and how I should talk and how I should present.

It wasn't until I said, OK, I'm going to be the authentic version of me. And if you can't handle me, then you're just not welcome at my table. Doesn't mean you're a bad person. Doesn't mean you're a bad company. Doesn't mean you're a bad organization. Doesn't mean you're a bad girlfriend or a bad boyfriend. It just simply means that, no, in order for me to fulfill and really feel that level of freedom, I got to be the authentic Anthony O'Neal.

So for me the authentic Anthony Neil talks like this things like this Acts like this man. I you you listen to me in my show and y'all probably heard really? My grammar is not the perfect thing, but man I used to be like, okay with any talk like this and do them but I've learned No, not everyone's gonna like me. So everyone's not gonna like me. Why am I trying to please everyone? There's so much freedom

And there's so many, you can do so much more with your resources, get the job that you really desire, get the career that you really want to get, and even build the business that you really want to build when you are your authentic self. And the truth of the fact is, Louis, I've made more money being the authentic me than when I wasn't the authentic me. I made good money, but I didn't make this much money. Powerful. Speaking of authentic money, and we might have time for one or two more questions, then we got to get to the airport. Yeah.

I'm curious your thoughts or beliefs around the spiritual path to being able to steward money and your beliefs around or what you've been taught around what you think God or the universe wants us to become in order to be good stewards of money so we can receive an abundance and overflow of it. Amen. You know, I think that money answers all things, right? And so for me, when I think of the spiritual connection of stewardship,

stewardship has been on my heart a lot lately. And I'm really excited about this word stewardship, because I'll tell you the truth now that I really want to get back into serving in a local church and becoming a stewardship pastor, because I think within the body of Christ, we've kind of taken the word of stewardship that it only means money.

but that's not the case. Stewardship means I steward, I manage what God has given. So stewardship is not just money stewardship. If you're going to be successful money, you got to be a good stewards in other areas as well. You know, stewardship means I manage what's not mine. So the time that I have on this earth as a Christian, it's not my time. It's God's time. Uh,

Are these clothes that I have on? These are not my clothes. They're God's clothes. I'm stewarding that. Watch this. The wife that I have that I will get, that's not my, that's my wife, but it's his daughter. I'm called to steward her and protect her. The kids that I have, it's not mine. It's from a biblical perspective. I'm just stewarding them for 21 years. Wow. Wow.

It is my responsibility to raise them and train them in a way that they should go to fulfill the assignment on their life. So I think if we're going to be good stewards with money so we can receive abundance, we have to understand that everything that we have in life is not ours. Wow. And it's just called for us to steward. So the time that I have with you, I didn't do a whole bunch of podcasts on this book because I was like,

I think that's bad stewardship for me to go over there. But it's good stewardship for me to come to Lewis Howes because that's my brother. I know we're going to have an intellectual conversation. That's good. Leave here, go over here and do that. But it's like now in this season of my life, I'm stewarding every hour of my day. Because I want to make sure that I'm not wasting that time on something that doesn't get me closer to the assignment that I need to fulfill. And so if we're going to be good with money, if we're going to receive all the abundance,

We cannot solely focus on the money. We got to focus on everything that God is giving us in our life and be good stewards over every single thing. One of the prayers I'm really praying for right now is like God, and I'm practicing it. God, when I'm blessed to have a family.

God, let me steward that family well. Well, Anthony, how are you going to do that? And I told you this before, before the show, I was like, man, I lost out on a good woman because I didn't make her a priority. I wasn't being intentional. I didn't steward that season well with her. So now what I'm doing is, man, I don't work on Fridays. I'm positioning myself to win that. When that comes, I can steward that relationship well. And I believe that if we can steward that well, right. And get the right partner, right.

Man, like you, I mean, your wife is amazing and I've seen her work. I mean, y'all just gonna make more money together because of the true partnership. Right. So the Lewis house we see today, this time next year, it's going to be a different Lewis house because now you're married. You have a true partnership. Y'all are stewarding that well. And I just believe God is just going to bless it. And so that's, that's my thought. So that's beautiful, man. And when your next book comes out around money, we'll have to do a whole thing about how

Engage couples should be how they should merge spiritually and financially their asset together So that'll be the next conversation. We gotta do it But for now I want people to get a copy of your book take your seat at the table live an authentic life of abundance wellness and freedom By Anthony O'Neill also on social media YouTube Anthony O'Neill make sure to check out his channel his show and all the good things

Any final thing on your heart or mind that you would like to finish before we got to jump you out of here? Hey, man. Listen, number one, thank you so much, Lewis, for always opening the door for me to come on, man. It's always an honor. And y'all, I got to say this. I know we're promoting my book, but I would be remiss to not encourage you all to preorder my brother's book, Make Money Easy. Come over my show. We'll dive deep into it at the table because I can't wait to have this conversation. But I would definitely like to end with this.

that if you're going to take a seat at the head of your table in 2025 there's a key thing that you got to do that i believe that a lot of people skip over we tell everyone to mind your business my head get out of my business just mind your business but i think the key thing for 2025 is 2025 is you have to mind your business because our mind is your number one business

And so I want to encourage people that if you don't take a seat at the head of your table, the only way you can honestly build a successful future is to grow your number one asset, which is your mind. Read the right books. Get my book. Take a seat at the table. Get Lewis new book. Make money easy. Get other folks. Listen to podcasts. It's going to grow your mind because what we put in here goes into our heart. What comes into our heart is going to naturally flow out of our hearts.

And when that naturally flows out, it's going to be good stuff flowing out that is going to produce abundance, wellness, and freedom. But if we're always filling ourself up with what the Shave Room says, what this says, what gossip, bloggers, then we're just going to pour that out and we're not going to see our life progressing forward. And so if you want to take a seat at the head of your table,

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