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Esther Calling - I Need Her to See Me

2022/6/23
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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

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女嘉宾:我的童年充满了创伤和暴力,我的母亲作为政治活动家,在公众场合表现强势,但在家庭中却是一个酗酒者,对我实施过暴力。这些经历导致我患上了复杂性PTSD,并且难以在其他关系中设定界限,表达愤怒,常常成为‘受气包’。我和母亲的关系循环往复,我不断原谅她,但她从不承认自己的错误。我希望能够改善与母亲的关系,并停止将童年创伤转移到其他关系中。 Esther Perel:你的经历是创伤记忆的有效体现,你将权威人物与可能伤害你的人联系起来。你的反应是合理的,但你需要学会区分过去和现在,并自我安慰。在工作中犯错时,你的身体反应体现了童年创伤的影响,让你感觉像要挨打一样。你同时存在于两种时间维度中,一种是当下,一种是过去创伤的重现。建议你直接告诉母亲她的行为是虐待和残忍的,并尝试写信给她,表达你的感受。良好的关系需要双方都能理解彼此的经历和叙述。知足和拥有诉求并不矛盾。

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A young woman seeks advice on how to rebuild her relationship with her mother and prevent transferring the trauma from their relationship to other areas of her life.

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In this latest episode of Esther Calling, we meet a young woman looking for advice on how to stand up for herself in a fraught and traumatic relationship with her mother. She worries the trauma and violence she experienced in upbringing is dictating how she responds to authority figures elsewhere in her life.

The transcript for this episode is available at https://www.estherperel.com/podcasts/wswb-esther-calling-i-need-her-to-see-me) .

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