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丈夫：十年的婚姻让我感到疲惫，我渴望改变，但又害怕伤害妻子。我一直扮演着保护者的角色，却忽略了自己的需求。减肥手术让我重新审视自己，我发现我对妻子的欲望逐渐消失，这让我感到困惑和痛苦。我尝试主动亲近她，但总是感到不自在，仿佛在完成一项任务。我真正的问题是，我为什么不想要？我害怕说出真相，因为我不想破坏家庭的和谐。我需要空间来思考自己，但我又害怕伤害妻子。 妻子：我被丈夫突然提出的离婚要求震惊了。多年来，我们共同经历了许多困难，但我们的关系也逐渐疏远。我渴望与丈夫建立更亲密的联系，但我感到他关闭了很多情感和亲密的部分。我尝试主动亲近他，但他总是反应冷淡。我知道他爱我，但我更渴望被他渴望。我希望他能看到我作为一个女人，而不仅仅是妻子和母亲。我一直在努力维持这段关系，但我感到越来越孤独。我仍然爱着他，但我不知道我们是否还能回到过去。

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A husband unexpectedly announces his desire to end his 10-year marriage, leaving his wife blindsided. The couple seeks counseling with Esther Perel to navigate this crisis, with the husband citing a lack of intimacy and desire for a more fulfilling life.
  • Husband's sudden announcement of wanting a divorce
  • Lack of intimacy as a major factor
  • No prior indication of unhappiness

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This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? After ten years, a husband tells his wife he no longer wishes to be married. A month later, stuck in limbo, they come to Esther. She helps them have an honest conversation about their expectations, desires, and the ways in which their role as parents has left little room for intimacy.      

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