The holidays are stressful financially because of the pressure to buy gifts for many people, the social expectations around gift-giving, and the emotional toll of meeting high expectations. This leads to both financial strain and mental health issues, as 9 in 10 Americans report significant financial stress during the holidays.
Gifting culture amplifies stress because it creates social pressure to buy the 'right' gifts, leading to disappointment if expectations aren't met. This pressure is unique to Christmas and is less prevalent during other holidays like Thanksgiving or New Year's.
Reducing gifting stress can be achieved by focusing on thoughtfulness rather than material value. For example, writing a meaningful poem or prioritizing genuine interactions over expensive gifts can create deeper connections without the financial burden.
Money can buy happiness to an extent, but it often fails to address core issues like health, relationships, and mental well-being. People often assume that more money or nicer things will solve their problems, but this assumption is usually incorrect.
Shifting mindset requires recognizing that money is a tool, not a source of identity or happiness. Experiencing financial success or setbacks can help people understand what truly matters, such as family, health, and meaningful relationships.
Bonuses should be treated as non-essential income, not part of regular compensation. Investing a significant portion of bonuses can help avoid building expectations that lead to disappointment in future years. It's also wise to maintain a financial cushion for unexpected career or economic challenges.
The amount of 'play money' depends on individual financial stability. If someone lacks a financial cushion, they should save the entire bonus. For those with financial security, spending a portion on enjoyable but non-essential items can be rewarding, but only after ensuring long-term financial stability.
Spending well means using money as a tool to enhance life without letting it control your identity or happiness. It involves prioritizing utility over status and focusing on what truly brings joy, such as time with family or meaningful experiences, rather than material possessions.
New Year's resolutions about saving money often fail because they are surface-level goals. True financial improvement requires addressing deeper issues, such as why someone spends too much or feels the need to impress others. Without addressing these root causes, resolutions are unlikely to stick.
The key to better financial habits is understanding the emotional and social drivers behind spending. By identifying why someone overspends—such as seeking social admiration or trying to fill emotional gaps—they can address the root cause rather than relying on short-term resolutions.
Practical ways to prioritize what matters include reflecting on the happiest moments in life, which often don't require money. For example, spending quality time with family, even at home, can be more fulfilling than expensive vacations. Understanding what truly brings joy helps align spending with personal values.
The 'art of spending money' is about understanding the emotional and social aspects of spending rather than following rigid rules. It involves recognizing what truly makes individuals happy, avoiding envy, and focusing on contentment rather than status or material accumulation.
For young professionals, Housel advises balancing saving with enjoying life, especially since future income will likely increase. While saving is important, it's also worth considering that financial constraints at a young age may not be as significant later in life, allowing for more freedom and enjoyment.
Morgan Housel, New York Times bestselling author of “The Psychology of Money,” joins the show to break down why the holidays are such a stressful time financially – and how we can all navigate it. He also discusses how to shift your mindset around money in the new year, make the most of bonuses, and determine what “spending well” really means for you.
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