1163: Dr. Becky Kennedy | Parenting with Connection over Correction
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As parents, how do we raise our kids to be resilient against life's inevitable hardships? Good Inside) author Dr. Becky Kennedy shares her insights here!

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What We Discuss with Dr. Becky Kennedy:

• Boundaries are what parents tell kids they will do — not what kids must do. "If you're not off the couch by the time I get there, I'll pick you up" works better than threats or punishments that require kid compliance.
• Optimizing for happiness in childhood creates fragility in adulthood. Kids who avoid hard feelings never learn they can handle disappointment, jealousy, or failure — leaving them with a narrow range of emotions they feel capable managing.
• Parents have two jobs: setting boundaries and validating emotions. These aren't opposites — they work together. Set the limit, then acknowledge their feelings: "You really wish you could keep jumping on the couch."
• "Do nothing" is often the best parenting strategy. It's mindful restraint — choosing not to react in the moment when kids are upset. This prevents escalation and models emotional regulation better than immediate correction.
• Build confidence by letting kids struggle through puzzles, conflicts, and challenges. Tell them: "The best feeling is when you think you can't do something, then watch yourself make progress." Struggle builds capability.
• And much more...

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