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47. Is Laziness Real?

2021/4/11
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Susan Kemp:提出疑问,懒惰是真实存在还是一种为了自我鞭策而创造的概念? Stephen Dubner:认为人们常说的懒惰可能源于多种未被诊断出的原因,例如睡眠障碍、饮食不均衡、环境因素、社会经济地位等,这些因素都可能导致个体无法集中精力或完成任务。他认为,用“懒惰”来解释这些行为是一种过于简化的说法,忽略了潜在的复杂因素。 Angela Duckworth:认为当我们称某人为懒惰时,实际上是在判断他们的动机和意志力。她承认懒惰是一种真实存在的主观感受,但强调这种感受并不总是事情的真相。她认为,人们常常犯根本性归因错误,倾向于将行为归因于个人的动机,而忽略了情境因素的影响。她还指出,有时人们会将缺乏努力归因于懒惰,但实际上是因为目标本身对个人没有价值。她认为,与其直接感到内疚,不如尝试理解自己不想做某事的原因。她还提出,毅力强的人在他们不关心的事情上也可能表现出懒惰,而这正是毅力的秘诀之一。适度的懒惰可以促使人们打破常规,探索新的可能性,并寻找更有效的方法。 Stephen Dubner:他认为人们常常犯根本性归因错误,倾向于将行为归因于个人的动机,而忽略了情境因素的影响。他提出,有时“狗真的吃了你的作业”并非不可能,这说明情境因素也可能导致个体无法完成任务。他认为,需要考虑情境因素和个人价值观的影响,才能更准确地判断他人的行为。 Angela Duckworth:她认为,人们对他人行为的判断可能存在偏差,需要考虑情境因素和个人价值观的影响。她指出,我们常常低估情境因素对他人行为的影响,并错误地将缺乏努力归因于懒惰。她还认为,当感到懒惰时,应该尝试探究其背后的原因,而不是直接感到内疚。 Angela Duckworth:她认为,在公共场合独自一人时感到不舒服,是因为人们担心被他人认为缺乏朋友或社交关系。孤独感是一种非常负面的情绪,人们倾向于避免这种感受以及被他人认为是孤独的。她还指出,人们常常混淆对独处的偏好和孤独的情绪,许多独自一人的人并不感到孤独。她认为,独自一人也可能带来积极的体验和机会,例如结识新朋友、进行深入的思考等。她还指出,人们往往高估了别人对自己的关注程度,这被称为聚光灯效应。

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The discussion explores whether laziness is a real phenomenon or a societal construct, considering various factors like sleep disorders, socioeconomic conditions, and personal motivations that might influence behavior traditionally labeled as lazy.

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Do you have any mind tricks, please? I'm Angela Duckworth. I'm Stephen Dubner. And you're listening to No Stupid Questions. Today on the show, is laziness a false concept? Sometimes a dog really did eat your homework, okay? Also, why do we feel so uncomfortable spending time alone in public places? Tickets, how many? Just one, please, sir.

Angela, a question from a listener named Susan Kemp. At least that's the name she's using to write to us under. Could be a pseudonym. Might be Angela Duckworth for all we know. Quote, Susan Kemp has this to ask. Do you think laziness is really a thing? She writes, for the last year, I've been debating if laziness is real or just some concept we created in order to, I don't know, Protestant guilt trip ourselves into doing things. I like Susan already.

Say that someone doesn't do their homework. Maybe they have an undiagnosed sleep disorder or are chronically sleep deprived, and that's why they can't focus. Maybe their diet is off, so they're tired. Maybe they're just tired because school starts at 7.30 a.m., and science says that is stupid. Actually, it's not.

I think science says that early school start is bad for some people, but not others. There are different chronotypes. Yes. Well, in general, though, adolescents tend to be later risers. So the science would say that starting school for most high school students at 730 is dumb. OK, so she's right on that. I'm wrong on that.

She continues, maybe they live in a poor socioeconomic situation where there's either a lot of noise at home or not a stable place to work, etc. Maybe their peers don't value education. Even if they opt for video games, isn't that more like dopamines are addictive rather than pure laziness? So I thought I would ask, she writes. Angela, I find this to be an amazingly interesting question. What's the answer? I love Susan Kemp's question. I think that it depends on what you mean by laziness. Yeah.

If she is asking, do I think laziness is really a thing or a Protestant guilt trip? There's no way you're going to say that laziness isn't real. You're the grit lady. Well, when you call somebody lazy, what do you think we really mean? I think it means that we don't think they're eager to put in the work. What we observe is they're not working.

And we are inferring or assuming that they don't want to put in the work. And then she's listing all these other reasons that could account for the same behavior. Maybe they can't put in the work. Maybe circumstances are conspiring against them. There's a judgment that we're passing on someone when we call them lazy that is about their motivation, about the will to do something. Do you think that that's what we mean when we use the word like you lazy bum or whatever we say derogatorily? Yeah.

My gut response is no. I personally think that laziness is a thing because I'm very familiar with it. What do you mean by that? What does lazy mean to you? What I mean by that is there are things...

that I feel I should do. There are even things I would like to do. But right now, at this moment, it's a little easier and a little more satisfying to sit on the couch and turn on the football game. And that feels lazy. Now, I think she makes many, many, many good points about the reasons why, for instance, a high schooler would not be doing well at school. All of her observations were in that rather negative

narrow or specific situation of, let's say, a teenager who doesn't want to do their homework. So maybe we should consider it a little bit more broadly. Besides the teenager not doing homework and me wanting to watch some football, we can...

broaden it. We can broaden beyond that. But first, I want to just honor and acknowledge that feeling that you've had, like you feel lazy. And by the way, I didn't say it wasn't a thing. I just said it depends on what we mean by laziness. Do you want to tell me I'm not lazy? Because I respect you and I'll feel better about myself if you say that's true. Well, I just want to define terms.

I know what you mean to feel lazy. I recently felt lazy on a full Saturday. And I know that sounds like, of course, it's Saturday. But usually on a Saturday, I get a workout in. That's the best day to work because people aren't sending you emails. Exactly. No meetings. I'm just going.

So I, on this particular Saturday, remember lounging around. I picked up the newspaper. Slothful behavior. I opened it to a random section, not the section I thought was going to be the section I would enjoy. I just like opened it, started reading random articles. And then somehow the day passed and I went to

to my bed thinking like, what a lazy day. So I want to honor and acknowledge and say that there's a reality to feeling lazy. You felt it. I felt it. Most people have felt lazy. So it has to be real and a thing in that we feel lazy sometimes.

It's also possibly true that defined as not really willing to put in the work must be true of people sometimes. If I want to say, hey, this math assignment that my daughter didn't do, she was too lazy to do, of course it's possible that she wasn't willing to put in the work. It's possible. But just because it's...

It's a thing. Doesn't mean it's always the thing. Exactly. So, again, I think Susan raises really good points. It's interesting. Her question reminded me of the controversy over this speech that George W. Bush gave to the NAACP.

And he was talking about wanting to increase black students achievement. The phrase he used that became the source of the controversy was the soft bigotry of low expectations. And some people pushed back on that, saying it was a racist understanding of black students. And I think what he was saying was that.

You set a standard and expect people to get to it. And other people were saying, well, there might be some other factors to consider here. And I think that's what Susan is doing here is calling attention to a lot of potential confounding factors that we may lump in as, quote, laziness, but often wouldn't be. Well, yeah. And that speech, which I don't know well, but he didn't talk about laziness in particular, right? No, but I think there were some who thought that laziness

The subtext was, hey, come on, if you just try a little bit harder, you'll do better. The soft bigotry of low expectations. That's why it was called bigotry, not the soft uplift of having high expectations. Right. And whose expectations, by the way? Exactly. So here's something I have read and I do know well.

There's a research literature on the fundamental attribution error and our tendency to, and I hesitate here only because I don't think we always make this error, but we can sometimes infer that somebody didn't want to do something, didn't want to put in the work, right? You didn't do your homework, didn't care enough to put in the assignment work. But really, there are circumstances that are situational.

and that are not your own motivated behavior that are at the source. So sometimes a dog really did eat your homework, okay? Not often, we should say. Dogs have so many other things to eat. In my experience as a dog owner, I've tried to feed them many things. We should just put homework in front of a dog and see if they ever eat it. If you smear the homework in some liver treats, then I find that the homework is much more readily eaten. Yeah.

Can you imagine smearing your homework in liver treats, hoping your dog will eat it and the dog doesn't eat it? Then you have to bring it in and turn in your liver smelling homework. Plus, it's probably just not good for the dog to be eating any of this. But we digress. Anyway, my point is that we can sometimes...

Er, or often, maybe. Did you say er? Er, like E-R-R. Er, like the old city in Iraq, Babylonia, or wherever? No, er as in to commit an error. Er, oh, we can err. To err is human. Did I mispronounce that? It's a South Jersey alternate pronunciation. Okay, to err. Well, if Susan can make Protestant guilt trip into a verb, I can mispronounce er. But anyway...

My point is we can infer a certain motive for a behavior that we observe and we can be wrong. And then the question would be, what are all the instances in which somebody doesn't put in effort and we may have been wrong, like circumstances beyond their control? Or there's another thing that's not laziness, and that's just not wanting to do it. So I would say of my coffee cup leaving on the counter daughter, like, oh, you're so lazy. And my husband actually, Jason pointed out, he doesn't want laziness.

to put the coffee cup in the sink. She's not too lazy. She just thinks it's dumb. And I'm guessing he points to other examples in her life where she is not lazy at all. He immediately pointed out that my daughter can't be lazy because she works so incredibly hard at things that she does care about, like her academics. She really...

loves what she's studying in college, and she's the opposite of lazy. So I think that we can be wrong about why people do what they do. We can underestimate the effect of situational factors that are invisible to us, but real to that person. And sometimes we infer an unwillingness to put in the work when the goal itself has no value for the person. And that's not laziness. It's something, but it's not laziness. Let me ask you this. Are gritty people ever

ever or often lazy and

I think gritty people could be called lazy or assumed to be lazy about all of the many, many, many, many, many things that that gritty person doesn't care about. But yeah, in fact, I think that's part of the secret of grit is to actually be really lazy about all the things that you're not doing. But I guess one reason not to be, quote, lazy, and I realize we're going to have issues around that definition as long as we talk about this topic, but one reason to not be lazy is...

so that you don't get locked into what could be bad habits. I think of, for instance, you remember the research paper about what happened when there was some kind of partial transit strike, I believe, in the London Tube. There were certain lines that were shut down, and so commuters had to

try different ways of getting places. And 5% of commuters, I think, found a more efficient route. Exactly. There was some optimization to be done there that they never would have done had they stayed locked in their habit, had they not been prodded out. So don't you think that you could argue that if

You're a little bit less lazy. You could expose yourself to more options, a larger choice set. Everything you read, everything you think about, every person you interact with could make you better off. And that alone would be a reason to prod yourself out of laziness.

To get the energy of activation up enough to try something new, learn something. Yeah. Yeah, but let me make the counter argument. I have supervised many students and I have been the student who was so eager beaver, so industrious that in fact I fell into inefficient habits. And I have had students who don't mind putting in the...

extra six hours of work to transcribe the notes from one document into another document by hand. And that can be a route to total inefficiency also. So sometimes laziness can save you from that because it's the lazy student who says, "There's got to be a faster way. Oh, right, copy-paste."

And so maybe there is no rule about when laziness is good or bad. But I do think that introspecting about why it is that you don't want to do something on a Saturday or why somebody else doesn't want to move the coffee cup four feet to the sink is always useful. When I thought about that Saturday and I said to my husband, oh, my God, I haven't had a lazy Saturday.

bout that lasted, you know, a full 12 hours. In memory, what is going on? He said, I think you're exhausted and pointed out to me that I hadn't been sleeping well. So that's actually useful. I think the Protestant guilt trip thing is interesting because I think it is better to understand why you don't want to do something than to immediately just feel guilty about it.

So that all makes sense. And I think there's a lot of argument or a lot of ammunition even to Susan's challenging of the people that we tend to call lazy, especially when they're people who are not in our circle, who are not in our generation or not in our cohort in some way. I understand that it can be too broad a complaint. That said,

If I happen to feel on a given day what I would call lazy, like there are things again that I need to do, I want to do, I want to do something for someone else that would mean a lot to them, but I can't really motivate myself to do it.

Do you have any mind tricks, please? I think that in the circumstances when you think everyone will be better off if you do the thing that you don't really feel like doing, the way to get this to work is

is not to use ought and should. It's actually to turn it into a want. If you can make it somehow enjoyable, say, for example, you don't really want to write thank you notes, but you feel like you ought to. Doubling the ought isn't as good as just making it somehow more pleasurable. And how do you do that? Well, you could play music. You could make somebody in your family do them with you. You could add secret codes that are vulgar codes.

backhanded compliments. There are all kinds of things you could do to make your thank you note. But actually, my own daughters, who I always tried to get them to write thank you notes, and I used a lot of ought and should, it was actually not that that made them get down to it. They actually find it more fun to what I find incredibly inefficient, but hand make the thank you notes. Oh, that's nice. Takes four times as long, but actually it makes it more into a want because that's enjoyable to them.

That's awesome. Our solution to that was to allow thank you emails. I think that's legit. I think even a thank you text. Well, that's the most you're ever going to get from anyone in my family. I'm just saying. I will take it with great appreciation because something beats nothing by an infinite amount.

Something beats nothing by an infinite amount. Did you make that up? Yeah. Do you like it? That's a great quote. I hope I'm not plagiarizing it off to someone, but I think I made it up. It's really wonderful. I want one more quote from you today to end this episode about laziness. Okay. So here's a couple of quotes about laziness that I thought you might enjoy. Kobe Bryant apparently once said, one never really knows if anybody has ever said anything because quotes are so amorphous and ephemeral.

But Kobe Bryant apparently once said, I can't relate to lazy people. We don't speak the same language. I don't understand you. I

I don't want to understand you. Helena Rubinstein, the cosmetics entrepreneur, reportedly once said, "There are no ugly women, only lazy ones." I don't think she'd say that today. So what will Angela Duckworth's most enduring quote about laziness be? Oh my gosh.

I'm not going to do it for you, Stephen. You know why? You're too lazy to make up a quote about laziness. You know, it's much easier to have like a pithy little quote. That's kind of non-introspective. You know, Ben Franklin, laziness makes every work difficult. Okay, great. But I am asking people, when you feel lazy, ask why. But that's not a pithy quote. It's like a fortune cookie. I think that's pretty pithy. It's also a question. I find the best quotes are questions where...

When you feel lazy. Wait, what was it again? See, it's not that pithy. When you feel lazy, ask why. Oh, it wasn't a question either. Maybe if I can figure out a word that starts with L, like when you feel lazy, ask, and then if it started with an L. Ask not what your lazy can do for you. No, that won't work. Ask not what your country can do for you, but why.

why you're still on the couch. Ask not what your couch can do for you. All right, we'll work on it. I mean, you know, unless we're too lazy. Still to come on No Stupid Questions, Stephen and Angela contrast the feeling of being lonely with the experience of being alone. Maybe we need like a hat that says, I'm alone, but not lonely. I'm alone.

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Angela, a lot of people are uncomfortable being alone in public. They feel the world is looking at them and kind of judging them to be a loser for being alone. And this seems especially prominent among adolescents, although not just them. So what do you think?

I, as someone who really enjoys being alone and thinks it can be really good for you, in moderation at least, I'm curious, do you have any advice for people to feel better about being alone in public? So you mean like at a restaurant, for example, right? Restaurant, museum, movie, pre-pandemic. Movie in a

movie in a weird way is sort of easier because you're sitting in the dark most of the time. Yeah, while you're there, but maybe just that moment when they're like, tickets, how many? And you say one. Just one, please, sir. But maybe restaurant is the most prominent example. I think restaurant is the canonical, you know, like table for one, please. Isn't there some Saturday Night Live sketch where they noisily take away the other setting and

There's this spotlight on you. I mean, I think that the reason why the restaurant scene where you're eating by yourself and you feel like everybody's looking at you is so emotional to think about is that people in a restaurant are with their friends or their family. And the implication would be that you don't have friends or people who care about you. I think that's the trigger that it's really hitting. Do you agree with that? I think that's exactly right. And I think that there's two layers of this.

Loneliness is one of the most negative emotions. And for me personally, I think of all of the negative emotions you could feel like terror,

I think loneliness is the worst for me. So I can certainly appreciate why people wouldn't want to experience loneliness and they don't want to be perceived as being alone. You don't want to be judged as somebody who doesn't have connections to other people, but you also don't experience it. So it's a double whammy of badness. I'm curious for you why loneliness

Loneliness is the worst emotion. Was it driven by experiences of it? I mean, nobody likes being lonely, but why do I really, really, really want to avoid it? You know, I'm not sure. I do remember the discovery of it, though. So my husband, Jason, was in the habit of going to see his best friend who lives in Toronto, and he would go every Thanksgiving, pretty much right after dinner was cleared, and he would spend the next week

two or three days of this long weekend with his friend in Canada. And I guess partly it's because I don't know if they celebrate Thanksgiving there. Maybe they don't. It just seemed like a particularly clever time to go. But in retrospect, of course, it was the worst time to go. And there's this one Thanksgiving where our kids were young, but like

old enough to really look forward to playing with their cousins. And so I was on a train platform. I had just dropped them off at their grandmother's house with the cousins that they were looking forward to seeing being there. You were going to a casino or something? Where are you going? Well, no, here's the thing. I went home

went home. It was cold. It was dark and train was late. And then the train finally came and turns out I was on the opposite side of the platform. So I had to like cross over and wait again. And I was really, really feeling sorry for myself. And I think it was that night that I discovered that like, wow, I really hate being lonely.

We can all think of plenty of times that we don't want to be with other people, but Thanksgiving or even traveling to a place of great beauty, there's something really, really sad about not being able to share. Do you feel the same way that there's nothing worse than feeling lonely? I guess I mostly do. I do think that loneliness is a little bit misunderstood generally. We've talked about it on Freakonomics Radio a bit and

I think that it's become a bigger blanket than maybe it should be. You mean people are using the term lonely when they mean something else?

Well, I think there's a bit of a confusion between preferences and emotions. And a lot of people who are alone are not lonely. And a lot of people who are with other people can still be lonely. For instance, a lot more people live alone now than they used to, including young people. And that's been used as an indicator or a signal by some people that look how fractured and lonely our society is that people want to live alone. Whereas in fact,

If you've ever lived with a bunch of siblings in a room or a bunch of roommates, you could imagine that living alone is actually an amazing opportunity. And in fact, people who live alone tend to participate a lot with people outside their home and doing things in a way that people who maybe live with other people don't do. So I think there's conflation going on with the choice to spend time alone and

I spend almost all of my days pretty close to alone working and I love it. But then I love, love, love getting home to my family. All of one or the other would not work for me. So I see what you're saying. I do feel that loneliness is an almost crippling emotion when you have it. It really feels like you are alone in the world.

You just need to be acknowledged. That is a terrible feeling. That said, I think that because we know that's a terrible feeling,

We're maybe quick to ascribe it to others when they're not feeling that. Like if you see someone dining solo in a restaurant, you might think like, oh, they're so lonely. How horrible. And they might not feel any of those things. Exactly. But because it's such a common response, I think it makes people unwilling to be alone. And I would say, as with anything in life, when there are costs, there can be benefits, too. So, you know,

I don't choose to travel alone. I don't think I've ever really just gotten on a plane or a train by myself to just go somewhere. But I've done a ton of traveling by myself because of work. And I don't necessarily look forward to it. But I will say this, over the years, I've had a lot of experiences and conversations I never would have had, whether it's just eating alone in a restaurant in some foreign city or just going exploring. So there is that up

I do know that there's research showing that striking up a conversation with a stranger, people mispredict how enjoyable that will be. The research suggests that when you do that, you're really happy, actually, on average, or you're glad you did it. But when you ask people, hypothetically, do they think they're going to be better off at the end of an airplane ride if they've talked to the person? People don't think that. They mispredict. Right. There are benefits to talking.

on your own to exploring the world alone, to putting yourself in situations that you wouldn't if you're with your prefabricated conversation partners. And so I think that there's a real underappreciation of navigating the world alone sometimes. But I feel what presses against that is this perception that if we see someone who is alone, we make them feel bad about it. So maybe there's, you know, a mechanism. Maybe we need like a hat that says, I'm alone, but not lonely. Yeah.

So when we are out in public and we are fine, one of the great general truths about how we're perceived by others is that we tend to overestimate how much anybody really cares at all anyway. This is the spotlight effect? The spotlight effect, exactly. We assume everybody's looking at us, but no, they're looking at something which is more interesting to them, which is themselves. And they're worrying about how other people are perceiving them. I think that is a general thing.

truth about social cognition? When I first read about the spotlight effect years ago, I thought, oh, that is such a great thing to think about when I'm alone.

Because you think people are paying attention to me. The fact is that nobody gives a crap about you. So, yeah, that helped me. But I also just wonder if there are coping mechanisms. Like, should people who are eating alone in a restaurant and want to signal to the world that they are happy, should they fake laugh uproariously every few minutes to just show what a great time they're having? Yeah.

Should they slap their knee? Well, the most obvious advice to give, given the spotlight effect, is just to not worry about it at all, right? Just do whatever you want to do because nobody cares. But I'll tell you one thing not to do, which is don't talk on your cell phone when other people are around and you are not with anyone else physically. Why not?

One reason is that, and this insight goes back more than a decade to a study that was so clever. There are people who are either listening to a stage conversation on a mobile phone and you can only hear the half and you can't hear what the other person is saying or the full conversation. And the question is, which is more annoying? You could argue, not knowing how the data come out, that

hearing the full conversation is twice as annoying because you have two things that you are being distracted by. But it's the other way around, right? It is. And better scientists than me, certainly on this topic, like Dan Gilbert, have speculated that the reason why half a conversation is twice as bad or any way worse than the full conversation is that we are constantly trying to figure out

what was the other half, you can't just habituate to it. And it doesn't become white noise the way if you're sitting in a coffee shop and kind of tune out everything. It's more distracting because you're having to fill in the other side. And you never quite know what's going to happen. You thought the conversation was going one way, but it's going another. So you can never really habituate to it. So you're saying that if you're sitting alone, occupying yourself by talking on the phone, people are going to judge them even more harshly? Well, don't you feel bad? Like, have you ever been scolded for being on a cell phone?

I get very easily annoyed by other people's cell phone conversations for exactly the reason that you just discussed, which is that your brain can't help but try to fill in. In fact, I used to do, well, I shouldn't say what I used to do. You should absolutely say what you used to do. Look, it's very immature, silly. Somebody else did this later professionally and made videos of it that were very funny, and I'm sure can still be found, which is you sit next to them with your phone,

And you pretend that you're on the other side of their conversation. Oh, God. So there's a stranger that said, well, did you remember to defrost the meat? And I would say like, well, I took the meat out like half an hour ago, but it's still a little bit hard. You did not. I did. Yeah. Really? That is bold. You know, I got this from my mom when she saw people doing things that she thought were, you know. You take it upon yourself to police them. Listen, the vast majority of the time.

Their first response is obviously, who's this jerk? And their second response is, oh, yeah, no wonder. I'm sitting here yelling into a public place. So what about you? Are you uncomfortable eating? Let's say it's on campus. You know, you're a big shot. You are a professor. People know who you are. But on this day, for some reason, you find yourself needing to eat in a public place alone. How do you feel about it and what do you do about it?

Oh, gosh. It has literally never happened to me. It's interesting how well you do at avoiding it, though.

If I were eating alone, I mean, it does happen to me not on campus because I would just go pick something up and go back to my desk. But if I were seen eating alone, would it make me feel bad without kind of an alibi, as it were? Like if you're traveling, you're like, well, of course I'm alone. If I had a full meal in a restaurant that people recognized who I was, I probably would feel like people would be wondering, like, why is she eating alone? And then that would make me feel a little bit uncomfortable. Yeah. And now that you've put yourself in that

No, I would not.

I wouldn't make a phone call. What would I do? I think you would never go to a restaurant alone ever is what you would do. You would never put yourself in this position. I think that's why I'm so at a loss. I think the spotlight of attention that we think is on us, beyond just like realizing it's not, I would try to put the spotlight of my attention on something else. Oh, you'd look at all the other people eating alone and say, what a bunch of losers they are. Yes.

You know, beyond that one thing I said, which is like, get over it, right? Like, nobody cares. I mean, I think that is my best advice. No Stupid Questions is part of the Freakonomics Radio Network, which also includes Freakonomics Radio, People I Mostly Admire, and Sadeer Breaks the Internet. This episode was produced by me, Rebecca Lee Douglas. And now here's a fact check of today's conversations.

Angela thinks she came up with the quote, "'Something beats nothing' by an infinite amount," but she wasn't entirely sure. She does get credit for that specific wording, but she may have been subconsciously influenced by Little Richard's 1967 song, "'A Little Bit of Something' beats a whole lot of nothing.'"

Or perhaps she heard Gene Knight's song, A Little Bit of Something, Parentheses, is better than A Whole Lot of Nothing. That came out on her 1971 album, Mr. Big Stuff.

Later, Angela references a Saturday Night Live sketch where a lone diner sits pathetically while a waiter removes the other setting. There's no such scene that I could locate. There are, however, many other famous sketches about dining alone. Mitchell and Webb have a video where David Mitchell desperately tries to convince the other people in the restaurant that he does, in fact, have friends.

There's also the Food Dudes commercial parody from season 45 of Saturday Night Live, which advertises three mannequins, or food dudes, to create the illusion that you're eating with other people.

And then there's the famous pizza order sketch from Key and Peele, where one man ordering several pizzas gets into trouble when he pretends he's sharing the large order with an entire party. Angela also wonders if Canadians celebrate Thanksgiving. They do, but Canadian Thanksgiving falls on the second Monday of October, while Americans celebrate a month and a half later, on the fourth Thursday of November.

Actually, Canadian Thanksgiving became a national affair in 1859, four years earlier than American Thanksgiving, which became a holiday when Abraham Lincoln set the president for celebration after the Battle of Gettysburg.

Finally, Stephen says that a comedian shared his particular affinity for filling in loud strangers' cell phone conversations. That comic is Gregory Benson. He shares his videos on YouTube under the handle of his production company, Mediocre Films.

Benson refers to this particular prank as cell phone crashing. His videos have millions of views and include cell phone crashing in the airport, on the beach, at Disneyland, and many additional locations. We'll link to a couple of our favorites in the show notes. That's it for the Fact Check.

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