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179. Communication, Happiness & Wellbeing: Finding Positive in Negative Emotions

2025/1/21
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Laurie Santos
耶鲁大学心理学教授和幸福科学专家，通过科学研究和教育促进幸福感。
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Matt Abrahams
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Matt Abrahams: 我作为节目的主持人，主要关注的是如何通过有效的沟通技巧来提升幸福感和身心健康。我邀请Laurie Santos教授来探讨这个话题，并从她的专业角度来解释如何平衡积极情绪和消极情绪，以及如何通过改善沟通方式来提升生活质量。 在节目中，我积极地与Laurie Santos教授进行互动，提出问题并引导讨论，例如如何定义幸福，消极情绪的重要性，积极沟通对幸福感的影响，以及如何改善自我对话和处理艰难的对话。我也关注了科技对幸福感的影响，以及如何运用感激之情来加强人际关系。最后，我总结了Laurie Santos教授的观点，并强调了在沟通中倾听、同情和情绪管理的重要性。 Laurie Santos: 作为耶鲁大学心理学教授，我主要研究的是如何通过科学的方法来提升幸福感。我的观点是，幸福包含两个方面：快乐的生活（积极情绪多）和对生活的满意（认为生活过得好）。消极情绪并非坏事，它们是重要的信号，提示我们需要做出改变。 在节目中，我分享了如何平衡积极和消极情绪的方法，包括减少负面情绪和增加正面情绪。我强调了积极沟通的重要性，包括与他人和自身的沟通。改善自我对话的方法包括使用第二或第三人称自言自语，或运用时间距离感。为了更深入的沟通，可以使用“循环理解法”：提问、复述、确认理解。应对艰难对话的策略包括事先进行情绪调节，并设身处地为对方考虑。表达感激之情，要经常且真诚，并说明原因。 我也谈到了科技对幸福感的影响，它既可以促进有效沟通，也可能导致疏离感。最后，我总结了成功的沟通要素：倾听、同情和情绪管理。

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A double definition of happiness — and how to cultivate both parts.

The new year gives us an opportunity to reflect on who we are and who we want to be. As we set resolutions and prepare for evolutions, this special four-part series on communication, happiness, and well-being explores practical ways to enhance our lives through better communication, deeper connections, and more meaningful choices.

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to happiness, but according to Laurie Santos), everyone needs the two key components of contentment and fulfillment — or as she puts it, being happy in your life and happy *with *your life.

“Being happy in your life [means] your life is filled with joy,” explains Santos, a Yale psychology professor and host of The Happiness Lab) podcast. This felt sense of happiness — enjoying where we are, what we do, and who we’re with — is essential, but it’s not the only piece of the puzzle. Being happy with your life, she says, is the belief that “your life is going well. Being happy with your life gets closer to things like fulfillment and purpose.”

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart), Santos joins Matt Abrahams to explore how to cultivate both sides of her happiness equation, from building deeper connections with others to transforming the ways we communicate with ourselves.

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Chapters:

  • (00:00) - Introduction

  • (02:08) - Defining Happiness

  • (03:21) - The Role of Negative Emotions

  • (04:54) - Balancing Negative and Positive Emotions

  • (05:45) - Positive Communication

  • (07:18) - Improving Self-Talk

  • (09:50) - Deepening Conversations

  • (11:04) - Navigating Difficult Conversations

  • (12:39) - The Power of Gratitude

  • (15:15) - Technology and Wellbeing

  • (18:33) - The Final Three Questions

  • (22:35) - Conclusion

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