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182. Stop Chasing Time and Start Owning It: Communication, Happiness & Wellbeing

2025/1/30
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Think Fast, Talk Smart: Communication Techniques
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Cassie Holmes
通过研究和实践，帮助人们更有效地利用时间，提高幸福感的专家。
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Matt Abrahams
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Cassie Holmes: 我认为幸福与时间的关联不在于花费多少时间,而在于如何利用时间。明确你的目标(why)至关重要,它能帮助你筛选事情,决定做什么和不做什么。通过时间追踪,你可以识别哪些活动能带来最大的满足感,并相应地调整你的时间分配。此外,人际关系对幸福感至关重要,与他人相处时,保持专注和存在感,能提升沟通质量和人际关系。在面对压力时,保持积极的心态,并利用研究中提到的方法,保证有时间去做那些让我快乐的事情,这能有效缓解压力。 我个人的目标是创造和传播关于提升幸福感的知识。在日常生活中,我会利用时间追踪的方法,来识别哪些活动能带来最大的满足感,并相应地调整我的时间分配。例如,我会将我不喜欢做的事情集中在一起处理,减少负面情绪的影响。同时,我也会保护那些能带来快乐和满足感的时间,例如与家人相处的时间。 在与他人沟通时,我会注重保持专注和存在感,认真倾听,并真诚地表达我的想法。通过这些方式,我努力维护良好的人际关系,并从中获得幸福感。 Matt Abrahams: 我在平衡必须做的事情、想做的事情和更想做的事情方面存在困难,因此需要时间管理策略。通过Cassie Holmes的建议,我学习了时间追踪和任务整合的方法,这帮助我更好地管理时间,并减少了负面情绪。此外,我也认识到人际关系对幸福感的重要性,并努力在日常生活中保持与他人的良好沟通。 我将时间追踪应用于我的日常生活中,这让我对自己的时间分配有了更清晰的认识。我发现自己花费大量时间在电子邮件上,这让我感到压力很大。通过整合处理邮件,并根据我的目标来优先处理邮件,我减少了这种压力。同时,我也会将一些不太愉快的工作集中处理,避免负面情绪蔓延到一天中其他时间。 在人际关系方面,我会努力保持与他人的良好沟通,并珍惜与家人朋友相处的时光。我会努力在与他人相处时保持专注和存在感,认真倾听,并真诚地表达我的想法。

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This chapter explores the concept of purpose and how clarifying your purpose can help you filter incoming requests and allocate your time effectively. Cassie Holmes, a professor at UCLA, emphasizes the importance of identifying your 'why' to make decisions about where to invest your time and energy.
  • Identifying your purpose involves understanding what truly drives you and your ultimate goals.
  • Use the 'five whys' exercise to reveal your personal drivers.
  • Use your purpose as a filter to decide which requests to accept or decline.

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Clarify your purpose — and stop wasting time.

The new year gives us an opportunity to reflect on who we are and who we want to be. As we set resolutions and prepare for evolutions, this special four-part series on communication, happiness, and well-being explores practical ways to enhance our lives through better communication, deeper connections, and more meaningful choices.

As Cassie Holmes) knows, how we spend our time has a big impact on our happiness and well-being. For her, that means focusing on the things not just immediately in front of us, but those that most closely align with our purpose.

"When I say purpose, what I mean is what really drives you," explains Holmes, a professor at UCLA Anderson School of Management and author of Happier Hour: How to Beat Distraction, Expand Your Time, and Focus on What Matters Most). Living a happier and more fulfilled life, she says, rests on using purpose to drive our decisions. “Once you clarify for yourself: what is your purpose? What is your why? Then you can use that as a filter [for] where you should be spending your time.”

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart,) Holmes and host Matt Abrahams explore practical strategies for being more purposeful with our time. From email management to relationship building, Holmes shares research-backed approaches for achieving greater happiness through intentional choices.

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Chapters:

  • (00:00) - Introduction

  • (03:31) - Defining Purpose

  • (05:54) - Time Management Strategies

  • (08:26) - Time Tracking for Insight

  • (12:49) - Consolidating Tasks

  • (14:41) - Presence and Happiness

  • (16:44) - The Final Three Questions

  • (21:17) - Conclusion

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