getting over the "ick," advice session
anything goes with emma chamberlain
Deep Dive
Why might someone struggle to develop feelings for dates they meet?
It could be due to being in the wrong state of mind, not being ready after a recent breakup, or going through personal challenges that make it difficult to connect. It's also normal to go on many dates without clicking with anyone, as compatibility is unpredictable.
How can someone determine if their lack of connection with dates is due to their state of mind?
Reflect on whether you have the energy and capacity to give yourself and your attention to someone. If you realize you're not in a healthy state of mind to date, it might be better to wait until you're healed and ready.
What is the significance of choosing to love someone in a romantic relationship?
Choosing to love means being aware that there will be challenging days when it's hard to love your partner, especially if you're going through personal struggles. It involves rising above these challenges and continuing to wish happiness for your partner, even when it's difficult.
How long should someone wait for a proposal if they've been in a relationship for seven years?
After seven years, it's reasonable to have a conversation with your partner about your expectations for marriage. If you're confident the relationship is positive, discuss your desire to get married and see if your partner is on the same page. If not, it might be time to reassess the relationship.
Why might someone feel 'icked' when someone likes them back?
This could be an unhealthy pattern where you're only attracted to people who don't fully reciprocate your feelings. It's important to break this cycle by dating people who like you back, as this can lead to more fulfilling and positive relationships.
How can someone overcome intimacy issues?
Finding a trustworthy partner who you're not intimidated by can help create a safe space to face your fears. Additionally, educating yourself about intimacy and understanding your own needs can build confidence. Talking to a therapist about deeper issues can also be beneficial.
What is the best way to handle being rejected in dating?
Accept that you might not be right for that person and use the rejection as an opportunity to look inward and improve. Believe that there is someone out there who will not reject you, and keep searching for that person.
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