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[REVISIT] oops i have a crush, advice session
anything goes with emma chamberlain
Deep Dive
Why is having a crush described as both fun and a nightmare?
Having a crush is fun because it’s all-consuming and distracting, providing an escape from everyday life. However, it’s also a nightmare because it creates uncertainty about whether the feelings are reciprocated, leading to constant fantasizing and emotional purgatory.
What is the speaker’s advice for figuring out if someone likes you back?
The speaker advises against reading into micro-behaviors or signs, as they can be misleading. Instead, they recommend finding out for sure by asking the person directly or through their friends, as assumptions based on evidence can be inaccurate.
How does the speaker suggest letting go of a crush?
The speaker suggests creating distance from the person, being patient with yourself, and finding someone new to have a crush on. They emphasize that letting go takes time and that acceptance is key to moving on.
What is the speaker’s opinion on casual hookups and catching feelings?
The speaker believes that casual hookups are challenging for people who view sex as sacred or meaningful. They recommend hooking up with someone you don’t like much to avoid catching feelings, but acknowledge that this can feel icky or unfulfilling.
Why does the speaker prefer being in a relationship over having a crush?
The speaker prefers being in a relationship because it provides security and eliminates the uncertainty and emotional purgatory of having a crush. They enjoy the stability and deeper connection that comes with a committed relationship.
What is the speaker’s advice on flirting?
The speaker advises against following generic flirting advice and instead encourages being authentic and comfortable around the person you’re interested in. They believe that natural flirting emerges when you’re relaxed and true to yourself.
How does the speaker describe the societal pressure around casual sex?
The speaker notes that casual sex is often praised in modern culture, especially among Gen Z, but acknowledges that not everyone thrives in that environment. They emphasize that it’s okay to view sex as sacred and prefer it within committed relationships.
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