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Reclaim Your Power

2024/12/20
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通过播客、社区和书籍帮助人们改变心态和提升生活质量的自我发展专家。
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Rob Dial: 本期节目探讨了人们在做决定时,往往受到恐惧或个人力量的驱使。Rob Dial认为,大多数人的重要决定,甚至日常琐事,都源于恐惧,而非充分发挥个人潜能。他以自身经历为例,阐述了长期以来,许多决定都源于对失败、成功、他人评价以及被拒绝的恐惧。这种恐惧感会让人们裹足不前,停留在舒适区,错失改变人生的机会。他认为,社会系统(例如,添加在食物中的化学物质、让人上瘾的手机和电视、负面新闻)可能故意让我们保持愚钝、生病和迟钝,以限制我们的力量。Rob Dial 鼓励听众反思自己做出的决定,有多少是源于恐惧,有多少是源于力量。他认为,人们可能比自己想象的强大得多,并且正在创造自己的现实。他提出,如果人们相信自己拥有强大的力量,他们的生活将会发生翻天覆地的变化。他建议听众在做决定时,要意识到恐惧的存在,并将其视为舒适区边缘的体现,而不是退缩的理由。相反,应该勇敢地迈出舒适区,从力量而非恐惧的角度做出决定。只有这样,才能充分发挥个人潜能,创造更美好的未来。 Rob Dial: 他详细解释了大脑的杏仁核会产生恐惧,以求生存,但在现代社会中,这已经不再是必要的生存机制,反而会限制个人发展。他列举了多个例子,例如创业、投资个人发展等,说明恐惧是如何阻止人们采取行动,错失机会的。他强调,基于恐惧做出的决定往往会导致后悔,而从力量出发做出的决定,即使伴随着风险,也能带来更充实的人生。他鼓励听众通过自我认知,觉察到恐惧的存在,并将其视为成长的机会,而不是退缩的理由。他建议听众设想一下,如果他们知道自己拥有无限的力量,将会如何行动,并以此为目标,做出更勇敢、更有力量的决定。他相信,如果人们能够持续地从力量而非恐惧的角度做决定,五年后,他们的生活将会发生巨大的改变,实现他们从未想象过的成就。

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Why do most decisions come from fear rather than personal power?

Our brain is wired to prioritize survival, leading us to default to fear-based decisions to stay safe. This instinct, while useful in ancient times, often keeps us in our comfort zones today, preventing growth and the pursuit of our goals.

What are some examples of decisions made from fear?

Common examples include avoiding starting a business due to fear of failure, not investing in personal development out of fear of rejection, or backing out of opportunities despite preparation, like attending a conference.

What is the impact of making decisions from fear?

Fear-based decisions keep us in our comfort zones, limiting growth and potential. They prevent us from taking risks that could lead to significant personal or professional breakthroughs.

How can recognizing fear help in decision-making?

Noticing fear signals the edge of your comfort zone, indicating an opportunity for growth. Instead of retreating, leaning into the fear allows you to expand your boundaries and make decisions from a place of power.

What if humans are more powerful than we realize?

The idea suggests that humans may be far more capable than we believe, potentially even capable of manifesting reality through thought. This concept challenges us to rethink our limitations and embrace our potential.

How would life change if we believed in our own power?

Believing in our power would lead to bolder actions, greater confidence, and a willingness to take risks. Our decisions would shift from fear to empowerment, resulting in a vastly different and more fulfilling life.

What is the role of self-awareness in overcoming fear?

Self-awareness helps identify when fear is influencing decisions. By recognizing fear, we can consciously choose to act from a place of power, leaning into growth rather than retreating into safety.

Why is investing in personal development important?

Investing in oneself offers the highest return on investment. It allows for growth, learning, and the development of skills that can significantly improve one's life and career.

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This chapter explores the fundamental question of whether our decisions stem from fear or personal power. It delves into how fear keeps us in our comfort zones, preventing us from achieving our full potential. The speaker uses examples of missed opportunities due to fear, highlighting the need for self-awareness and decision-making based on personal power.
  • Most decisions are made out of fear or personal power.
  • Decisions based on fear keep us in our comfort zone.
  • Fear prevents us from achieving our full potential.
  • Recognizing fear is the first step to overcoming it.

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another podcast episode. I put out episodes four times a week to help you learn and grow and improve yourself.

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And I want you to understand that almost every important decision that you make and the majority of the small decisions that you make come from either one of two places in your mind. One of them is out of fear or the other one is out of your personal power, like your own internal power. And I've got a thing I want you to think about with me for a second today.

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And I've been thinking about this. And once again, this is just go with me on this. I'm not saying that this is absolute reality. But as of recently, I've been thinking in my mind, like, it's so weird that in the United States, we have so many known food chemicals that are toxic to humans that keep people fat and overweight and sick and unhealthy. And it's so weird that like we have this. And they've known for over 30 years that there's a problem.

but they haven't changed it. And so I was like, why is that? And I was like, what if, like what if, and go on this journey with me, what if we are so ridiculously powerful and we're

The system that we live in, the society that we live in has been built to actually keep us down and stupid and sick and lethargic in some sort of way. I started thinking about this and like playing with this idea and I was like, well, you know, where else does it show up? Where it's like, okay, so we have, you know, these chemicals that are in food that keep us fat and sick and

and lethargic. We have phones that are designed to keep us addicted to them so that we just sit there and stare at them and we do nothing with our lives. We have TVs that keep us staring at them for hours. We have news that shows us the worst of the worst in life and scares people into being afraid. And all of that

really gets in the way of our brain's processing power. So we're more tired and we're not thinking well and we're not doing what we could. And it's all very like, I guess I could say that the feeling is very like restrictive, almost like being in a straitjacket. It's not like this expansive thing. And so what if you and I and everybody else on this earth, humans, were some of the most powerful beings in the entire universe today?

but we just never realized it. And maybe it's just that we don't realize it, or maybe it is that there is a system that is built to keep us down. I don't know. I started toying with this idea and I was like,

Well, what if we are so powerful, we just don't realize it? And what if you listening to me right now are 10 million times more powerful than you think that you are? And you're constantly creating the reality that you're thinking in your head. So you think it and it immediately comes into reality. What if you are literally projecting reality and it's creating itself every single moment? Now, that's just kind of the idea. I want you to kind of, I wanted to bring that in for you to think about for a second as we go through this, right?

And this is what made me really start to think about this episode. Let's now go back to your decisions and what I was talking about where all of your decisions come from one of two places, either fear or power. So if we talk about our decisions, most of our decisions and mine for years and sometimes still mine today come from a place of fear, come from a place of not thinking that we can do something and being afraid of the future. And if you look back on your entire life and you look at some of the biggest decisions that you've made,

I want you to answer this question and think about this for a second. Are most of your decisions made from fear or have most of your decisions come from personal power? For a long time in my life, like a very long time in my life, they came from a place of fear for like 27 years until I realized that decisions that were made out of fear won't give me the life that I want.

If I'm constantly thinking about what I'm afraid of, if I'm constantly trying to avoid something, if I'm constantly trying to keep myself safe at all points in time, I probably will not get the life that I want. Because decisions made from fear are going to keep me in my comfort zone. And the same for you. Decisions made from fear are going to keep you in your comfort zone.

And so why does our brain immediately go to fear? Well, our brain will automatically go to fear almost every time. And the reason why is because our brain is designed to keep us alive. When you look at your amygdala, which is inside of your brain,

This is where your brain is creating all of these problems and fears to try to keep you safe and to try to keep you alive. Great, 100,000 years ago, but today it's not going to help you because it's going to keep you inside of your comfort zone. So instead of getting the life that you want, you're going to have to basically stay with what you already have because you're going to stay in your comfort zone.

And so you have these fears, you have fear of failure and the fear of success and the fear of other people's opinions and the fear of being rejected and all of these fears that we're projecting into our lives. And because we have these fears, we don't do anything. Because we have these fears, we stay in the exact same place we've always been. And so this is why for everyone listening, it's very, very important for us to be very self-aware. Think about this. How many great decisions have you made in your life that came from just fear?

I don't mean like the fear of death, like not driving fast, any of those types of things. I mean like the decisions where you have the opportunity for your life to be different, your life to change, for you to challenge yourself, to step into a greater version of yourself. But there was some sort of fear, fear of success, fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of other people's opinions. So because of that, you decided to play small.

or you decided just to take the safe route or decided to take the path of least resistance. You decided to stay inside of your comfort zone. You decided to give up on a really big goal. How many of those moments have happened in your lifetime? For most people, it's a lot. You know, like an example would be like, let's say that you want to start a business and you have this great business idea.

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Let's say another example is you have an opportunity to invest in your personal development, to learn, to grow, to get better, but you decided not to because it means like, oh man, I'm going to have to put myself out there. What if people say no to me? What if I get rejected? What if I don't become who I want to be in my mind?

And you don't invest in yourself. In my mind, investing into yourself is absolutely the best ROI you could possibly have. But a lot of people get to the moment where they're like, you know what? I'm going to hire a coach. I'm going to go to a conference. I'm going to do whatever they need to do to learn and grow myself. And then they don't show up. I can't tell you how many times I've run an event and then people literally say to me, I flew into town and I was sitting in the hotel room and I wasn't going to come.

Like in that moment, they've done everything. They bought a ticket, they bought a hotel, they bought a plane ticket, they've come there and there's still a part of them that's like, don't go downstairs. And so how many decisions have you made from a place of fear, from playing it safe? Probably a lot, right? For most of us, it's usually a lot. There's less risk in not putting yourself out. There's less risk in not growing a business and not growing yourself. But in life, if you don't risk anything, you risk everything, right?

If you don't risk anything in your life, you risk your entire life. And I want you to think about this. How many world-changing moments do you think come from a place of fear where the world completely changed in some sort of way? How many people do you look up to that you can say they owe it all to their decisions that came from a place of fear? Probably none. How many great inventions or great companies came from a place of fear? Probably none.

So what should we be focused on in making our decisions is not from coming from a place of fear, but coming from a place of power. What if you are actually one of the most powerful beings on this planet and you just haven't realized it yet? And you, maybe there isn't anybody else that's trying to keep you down. Maybe you, because you are afraid of how powerful you could be, have been keeping yourself down. Like think about this for a second. If you had a genie pop out of a bottle

And it was sitting in front of you and it said, you are one of the most powerful beings on the planet. And you looked at the genie and the genie's telling you all this and you're like, oh, I actually believe this. And you somehow in your mind finally believe that you're one of the most powerful beings in the universe. And you finally believe that. I mean, like not thought it, not like thought it'd be a cool idea. That sounds pretty neat. But like you believe it to your bones, right?

How would your life be different? How would your life change if you went into every single moment knowing I'm one of the most powerful beings in this entire fucking universe? How would your life be different? How would you think different? How would you act differently? You would be night and day different from where you currently are, right? So why don't you just start thinking that? So really start to think about that.

How would you be different if you really, truly knew that you were one of the most powerful beings? What would you do? How could you start stepping into who you could be? Imagine that for a second. If you knew without a doubt that you were one of the most powerful beings in this planet, and if you knew without a doubt that you were going to create anything that you wanted to create, how would you be different? You can finally step into who you could be. You can finally step into who you should be, who you're put here to be.

Is there a risk in putting yourself out there? Yes, of course. Absolutely. But what could your life be in the future if you started thinking this way? Because once again, will there be risk? Absolutely. But like I said earlier, if you don't risk anything, you risk everything.

And so everything is going to require you from this moment forward to consciously take a step back, realize that you might be thinking from a place of fear and try to make a decision from a place of power. If you're sitting there and you think to yourself, am I operating from a place of fear? Then you say, well, what would it look like? What would my decision be if I was operating from a place of power? If I knew 100% that I could not fail at this, what action would I take right now?

And then try to start making those decisions. Try to start thinking that way. You will look back having massive regret if you get to the end of your life and the majority of your life is decisions that were made out of fear. Because when you notice the fear, it's a good thing just so you know.

Noticing a fear is a good thing because it is the physical manifestation in your body of your comfort zone. It's your body going, hey, we've got to the edge of our comfort zone. So you're knowing, okay, this is good. We're at the edge of our comfort zone. Most of us, when we feel fear, we back off though. That's just something that we've trained ourselves to do over time. It's a pattern that we have. But what if from this moment forward, you notice the fear because once again, that is a good thing. And instead of backing away, you just train yourself just to lean in a little bit more.

lean in just a little bit more. Noticing the fear is a good thing. Listening to the fear is a bad thing. And so what's really important about this is number one, it's really good to become self-aware and to notice when we start to have our fears pop up. It's good to become self-aware. So we want to start becoming more self-aware because we can't change anything that we're not aware of. And then the second thing

It's like I said, it's showing you the edge of your comfort zone. And so you don't want to back away. You want to lean in. So the thought is like, okay, I'm feeling fear. This isn't a bad thing. What is this? This is my body, my brain showing me the edge of my comfort zone. Now, if I want to grow, if I want to be better, should I back away or should I lean in? You know what? I'm going to lean in just a little bit. I could make a choice out of fear.

but I also couldn't make a choice out of power. If I knew 100% that there was absolutely no way I was going to fail at this, what would my decision be right now? What would my action be right now? And then you follow through with that. If you start thinking like this, if you start acting like this, if you continue to make decisions from a place of power, your life is going to be completely different.

in a few years. And five years from today, you're going to have a different life, completely different than you ever thought. And it's going to be way better than you can even imagine at this point. But if you sit there and you continue to make your decisions out of fear, you might get to the end of your life and have massive regrets. And the last thing that I want you to do is get to end your life and wish that you could have done more. You could have achieved more, that there was more potential that you had that you could have brought to the world. The best thing that you could do

is to go, you know what? I'm going to make sure that the moments that I'm here on this earth, I am going to bring out as much potential as I possibly can. Is it going to be hard? Yes. Are there going to be moments where I'm full of fear? Yes. Am I going to be scared shitless at certain times? Yes. But if I just

consciously remind myself over and over and over again to make decisions out of power, to remind myself that, hey, I might actually be one of the most powerful beings in the universe because, hey, you know that genie that came out of the bottle? It told me I'm one of the most powerful beings in the universe. And you start thinking that way and brainwashing yourself into actually starting to believe in yourself. You think that way and you fast forward in five years,

90 difference in what your life can be from what it is in this moment right now. And so when you find yourself in those moments of decision, don't make decisions out of fear, make decisions out of your own personal power. So that's all I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on Instagram stories. Tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. The only way this podcast grows is from you guys sharing it.

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