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Shane Topp: 男主人公责备女友对岳父过分亲昵,实则可能存在自身问题,过于敏感和占有欲强,忽略了女友可能只是想融入家庭的可能性。 Courtney Miller: 女主人公可能只是想融入男友家庭,并非如男友所想般存在“daddy issues”,男主人公对女友行为的解读过于片面,忽略了其他可能性,例如女友可能只是想让男友与朋友相处,或者单纯害怕骑马等。 Ian Hecox: 女主人公的行为可能源于缺乏父爱,试图与男友的父亲建立联系,男主人公应该尝试理解女友的行为,并进行有效的沟通。 Shane Topp: 男主人公最终承认自己错误,并意识到与女友存在更深层次的问题,他试图通过开玩笑的方式解决问题,但最终导致争吵,这表明他缺乏有效的沟通技巧。 Courtney Miller: 男主人公虽然道歉,但并未真正意识到自身问题,最终导致分手,这表明他缺乏自我反思的能力,以及对女友情感的理解。 Ian Hecox: 男主人公应该更加关注女友的感受,并尝试从她的角度出发思考问题,而不是一味地责备她。

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A man questions his girlfriend's behavior towards his dad, citing instances like her fear of horseback riding and preference for spending time with his dad. The situation escalates into an argument, and he suspects something more is going on between his girlfriend and his father. Ultimately, underlying issues and potential infidelity lead to their breakup.
  • The girlfriend is accused of being clingy with the boyfriend's father.
  • The boyfriend's mom is not around.
  • The girlfriend made the boyfriend's dad's favorite cupcakes.
  • The boyfriend suspects his dad and girlfriend spent a suspicious amount of time together.
  • Underlying relationship issues existed before the trip.
  • The girlfriend breaks up with the boyfriend after the trip.

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- We are back with more absolutely insane Reddit stories. I'm Shane Topp and I am joined today by Ian Hecox and Courtney Miller. Hey, thanks for being here. Yeah. - This is our first time on Reddit stories together. - I know. - That's crazy. - I know, it is. - It's weird. - It is actually fucking bullshit. - I agree. Really quick, I see a lot of comments making fun of my cuffed jeans on this show. I wanna point out, Darren, can we get a shot of Brennan?

And his cuffed jeans, because look at those. Like, you know, Ian's cuffed his cords. He's cuffed his cords. I'm just saying that other people also cuff their jeans. All right, let's get into this. The theme today is breakups and brush-offs.

And I also think there might be a few updates. An update or two per se? Alright, let's get into it. First story, this comes from the subreddit AmIRong. So, similar to Am I the Asshole, but they're not necessarily asking if they're an asshole, just if they're in the wrong. Basically, same premise. Am I wrong for telling my girlfriend to rein in her daddy issues while we're visiting my family? Hmm.

Okay, this is from two days ago as of reading this. - Whoa. - It's recent. Throw away because my cousins know my actual account. My girlfriend, Shay,

who's 27, and I, a man, 26, are on a small vacation to my hometown. She's only ever met my dad and extended family, aunt, uncle, cousins, over the phone, so I thought this would be a great opportunity to introduce everyone properly. But since we've arrived, Shay's behavior towards my dad has been seriously off-putting.

For example, I thought it would be fun if we all went horseback riding. My younger cousins do it as a hobby, so I thought it would be nice to do an activity we'd all like. But Shay wouldn't even get on the horse because she said she was scared. It's been years since I've been on a horse, but they were so calm and honestly not a problem at all. I offered to stay with her while the others enjoyed themselves, but she insisted I go because my dad already offered to stay behind. He doesn't usually go horseback riding either. It was weird that she didn't want me there too, but I left it be.

There have been other instances too, like how she asked my dad to show her around town instead of staying with me and meeting my old friend from high school. It was an impromptu meetup. We literally ran into him while we were looking for somewhere to get lunch with my dad. But it would have been nice if she made the effort to get to know him instead of going with my dad.

The final straw was when we were all at my aunt's house for dinner. Shay made cupcakes, baking is kind of her thing, and she made some chocolate and peanut butter ones specifically because they're my dad's favorite. She made a few different types of cupcakes, but none of the others were my other relatives' favorite flavors.

When we got back to our Airbnb, I confronted her. I know Shay's dad left when she was a teen and they're no contact, so I figured she might be clinging to my dad because it's nice to have a fatherly presence and not something she's used to. I asked her, jokingly, to rein in her daddy issues and to stop being so clingy with my dad. She blew up at me, telling me that she's trying her best to fit in and that I've put no effort in making her feel welcome.

"Neither of us were willing to compromise, "and I ended up sleeping somewhere else for the night. "I need to talk things out with her today, "but before I do, I wanna make sure I'm not in the wrong." - I feel like,

I don't know. I'd almost say he has daddy issues. He's got issues of his girlfriend paying any sort of attention to his dad and finding all these instances where it's like, yeah, yeah, but I'm sure she did stuff for his mom maybe as well. Yeah, I didn't hear much about his mom in this. His mom is not mentioned once. In fact, I

He doesn't I don't even know if he mentions the existence. Yeah, if his mom is in the picture because he mentions aunts and uncles and cousins Yeah, I mean to me this all just kind of like Makes sense to me of like yeah, you want to impress someone's parents you want to get to know someone's parents and and yeah, I mean It is what he's saying. I think there's some validity to that of like yes, she doesn't have a father like I

And his dad might be a really nice guy. But none of it sounded problematic to me. No, I think nothing bad happened for him to need to call out anything. It seemed like he was noticing a pattern and just didn't like the pattern. Where...

But yeah, the first time you're meeting your significant other's parents, some people can feel like it's a really big deal. They want to make a really good impression. Or maybe she had questions about her partner and wanted to talk to him. And yes, of course, she has a past with not having a father in her life.

She's she's like and also I just I think the horse things just unrelated like yeah Like he's like she's obsessed with my dad also. She's just scared of horses like horses are huge, dude Oh, I told him it's like doesn't matter how chill they are they can be jumpy I totally get being scared of horses yeah also like that all aside like maybe she just wanted to fuck his dad Maybe we should just normalize that

Damn it. That crossed my mind. I was like, wow, this is making him cookies and things. Yeah, yeah. I mean, like, the fact that... I mean, it's like... I mean, like, I don't know. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt, but it was really funny that he was like, yeah, I was hanging out with my friends and she went off with my dad so he could show her around town. I'm like, that's...

That's kind of weird, but I wouldn't say that's daddy issues. And who fucking cares? Yeah, a lot of people do yearn for a close relationship with a fatherly figure. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. And it's like, yeah, okay, so she might have daddy issues, whatever. Yeah, I think he's kind of picking up on things that aren't really, just genuinely aren't connected, like the horse thing, but also like,

how she didn't, like the dad offered to stay behind and she sounded like she wanted him, her significant other, to enjoy horseback riding with his cousins and she maybe just didn't want to be home alone and so the dad offered to stay there and then I think it's like her first time meeting them,

Life is fleeting. She's trying to get to know this father who is going to be an important role should things continue. Also, the friend, that wasn't like a planned thing. They ran into, he ran into his friend, just happened to run into him. So maybe she thought like, oh, I'll just let you guys hang and I'll go.

It may not be that she's choosing the dad. It may be that these situations are like she's letting him enjoy his family time or times with friends. I can totally relate to that. These instances sound so nitpicked. Sounds so nonchalant. It doesn't seem like a big deal. Sounds like he has the daddy issue. That's what I'm saying. I feel like he's got this weird possessive feeling towards...

his girlfriend and it's like, hey, if she's trying to be a closer part of the family, 'cause most relationships start going that direction, then she should have a close relationship with the parents. - Yep.

So we have some comments here. It's kind of odd that you scheduled horseback riding, but she was scared. Did you check with her before throwing this activity on her? You seem to be upset when she's doing something she wants to do that doesn't involve you. OP responded, I thought it would be a cool surprise because she loves the game Red Dead Redemption, which has a lot of horseback riding in it. I was just trying to be a good boyfriend and organize an activity we would all enjoy, but I got it wrong. There, that's thoughtful.

Hope that someday someone Rinsed me a car that I can drive around Los Angeles and crash into shit. Yeah Yeah, it's like a diamond block or it's like it's like Ian you love Call of Duty. I enlisted you Thank you

- Dude, straight from the bottom of my heart, thank you. - Thank you so much. - This is in regards to OP's mom, who's not mentioned that I saw. OP said, "My aunt and uncle are just as important "and so are my cousins. "My mom isn't around anymore, "so my aunt is the biggest female influence "I have in my life. "Shay knows this, but hasn't put in any thought "to spending more time with her. "Maybe I'm wrong, but I thought bonding with her "would have been more of a prime focus."

- Huh, that doesn't make sense. - 'Cause she's a woman? - Yeah, that seems to be-- - That's weird, I mean if the mom's not in the picture,

I as a partner in hopes of understanding my partner better would want to get to know that parent and if that dad is actually being open and willing to spend that time and talk, that's great. - That clarifies even more of maybe she was doing this because she cares about him. - Yeah. - Maybe she's hoping that she could parent trap their parents. - Yeah. - You know?

Like, she doesn't have a dad. He doesn't have a mom.

Maybe they can be siblings. - Oh, that would be weird, right. - Someone else said, "When she leaves you and you date someone "who makes no effort with your parents altogether, "they'll miss her." Someone else said to that, "Right, been with my husband for seven years, "four of those married, and I still make an effort "to fit into his family and bring his father "and mother food/treats I know they will like "and aren't commonly found where we live. "I live in my husband's home country and I'm from Canada."

Someone else said, "This should be titled, 'I was an asshole to my girlfriend who was being kind and normal to my family.'" We have a comment from OP here.

We always joke around so I thought it would go down better if I tried to keep it light-hearted. I made my point in a serious way too by telling her to stop being clingy and listing out the examples I mentioned in my post. I just thought it wouldn't end in an argument if I made a joke or two. Obviously that didn't work. Someone responded to that saying, "Sorry bud, I think you are the one with the daddy issues. I don't see anything sexual about the way she was acting towards your dad based on what you described."

So you are mad because your girlfriend was too nice to your dad and was trying too hard to fit in and be friendly? Makes absolutely no sense. Yep. Yes, sir. That's right. And we have an update. Oh, no. Keanu, you're so good at hiding that. I was like, this is it, and this is that, and that's the story. I love these types of updates. Okay, I get it. I'm wrong. Yeah.

Even though a lot of you were really harsh in the comments of my last post I appreciate the honesty and think I needed it I read every comment I understand it was wrong of me to joke about a potentially triggering topic around my girlfriend me joking about it was an asshole thing to do and any concerns I had I should have said in a much better way I went back to the Airbnb today, and you'll never guess who was there with my girlfriend. Yes. It was my father He was in the kitchen cleaning up what looked like leftovers from breakfast. He

He said he stopped by a cafe that's at the end of the street and bought us breakfast, but I wasn't there when he arrived. By that point, Shay told him everything about our argument and he wasn't happy. Where was Shay when I arrived back? My dad said she was in the shower/getting ready and that they were going to my aunt's house looking for me. They both presumed that's where I was considering I wasn't at the Airbnb nor I was with my dad.

We talked and I helped him clean up their breakfast. While I did, I saw the receipt in the to-go bag. Considering the cafe he bought the breakfast in is literally five to 10 minutes away and he came straight from there to the Airbnb, it's safe to assume he spent at least two hours, maybe two and a half hours at the Airbnb before I arrived. But sure, that's normal. I didn't bring this up or even question

I've learned my lesson about bringing up stupid and immature concerns. My dad reiterated a lot of things people said in my post, like how Shay didn't want me to miss out on horseback riding, that she wanted to give me time with my friend without being the third wheel, and he said that his favorite cupcake flavor came up while they were walking around town together.

It was an embarrassing conversation, and while we didn't discuss everything I wanted, it's a start. When my dad left, I spoke with Shay and apologized. She was really quiet, and when we talked about it further, she was crying a lot. The only thing she really said is that we have underlying issues from before this vacation, and that this whole ordeal just adds to it. We were supposed to go to a games night at my aunt's tonight, but Shay said she isn't going and that she wants some time to think. I respect that. I don't know if Shay wants me to stay at the Airbnb tonight or not,

"but I'm glad she didn't immediately break up with me "like some of you suggested. "Edit, we broke up. "She's staying at a hotel tonight "and then leaving tomorrow." - Whoa. - That sucks. 'Cause I feel like he learned his lesson but-- - Did he? - No.

It seems that at first he goes he goes I get it I'm wrong and then he's all sarcastic in the middle. I was embarrassed Yeah, but no, I know I shouldn't be questioning things. Yeah. Yeah, I don't think he's really that okay I think he still thinks I'm getting the sense that

And maybe I'm wrong. I'm okay with that, but I'm getting the sense that he's still... Yeah, well I wish the best for the girlfriend and the dad. They sound like they're a good couple. Makes sense to me, I think, like, because the two hours thing, it seemed sus, and him being there with breakfast sounded sus. But I will say, he only brushed on it, which was like, oh, there is some apparently underlying issues before this trip.

Seems like he came, he like, because I feel like sometimes people do this where they'll have like a reset of like, it doesn't matter if we were having issues. Now we're going on a family trip and you're meeting my family and this is a new experience and whatever we had going on before, it doesn't matter because it's about this now. And so like, it makes sense that if they were having problems and it doesn't sound like he's very intuitive to her needs and like, and

and stuff, so her having extensive conversations with his dad kinda makes sense. She's like, "I don't know." But who knows, man? - Comments on this one. OP, I think my girl has daddy issues. Also OP, proceeds to project a myriad of daddy issues. Dude, get a grip.

Someone said, "I can see why you are worried about your girlfriend falling for your dad. He seems like a gentleman. It's a pity the apple fell so far from the tree." Someone else said, "This apple is in another freaking orchard." Someone said, "Wow, you are petty and passive aggressive. I suggest losing that before you embark on another relationship." - Yeah, I think he let a good one go.

- It sounds like it. - I mean obviously we only have a snapshot of a very small amount of this relationship, but it sounds like she was very considerate and invested in his family and he was just like, he couldn't get over this one thing. But obviously there's so much more to a relationship than what we know here. - The underlying issues though that she's bringing up makes me wonder if this is a pattern behavior. He's constantly criticizing her for things

Things that are kind of out of her control. Yeah, that's what I feel too It feels like he's kind of picking up on a confirmation bias or his own insecurities and like I

It just, yeah. It sucks. It's also very interesting, and I think it makes even more sense that the dad was there for as long as he was, because the story is true, which I think it is. The dad showed up with breakfast for his son and his son's partner. He's gone, and she's like, oh yeah, he didn't sleep here last night, and they have no idea where he is. That's

Alarming that's a red flag right so it makes sense that the doubt even know where he went he doesn't say yeah He never clarifies where he went did he go to a hotel? Did he did he go to a hotel and then to a? Panera bread oh Call back oh call back is that where I love happens. It's a cheating cheating happens. She happens Panera bread Panera bread we're cheating happens all right

Next story. This comes from relationship advice a couple days ago, also recent. I, 21 year old woman, knitted a blanket for a friend, 22 year old woman, and she sold it without me knowing. Another knitting story. We have learned here on Reddit Stories that when you knit someone something-- Bad things are-- Bad stuff. Throw away because I use my main account for my artwork and knit projects.

I knitted a blanket with a very distinguishable design. It was my friend's favorite anime character and gave it as a gift. This was about a year ago. Today, I went to a classmate's flat to finish an art project we were working on for a class. Confusingly, I see the blanket on his bed. I know this is the blanket I made because I spent like seven months with it and the design is so specific because it's my own pattern. And I still ask him where he got it and he said he bought it off of Facebook Marketplace.

Aww.

So luckily Kiana

Knows knitting very well. A project like OP's is describing can easily take months and creating your own pattern is literally like taking an image down to the pixel level, doing a lot of math, switching yarn, et cetera. This is a labor of love. So this person, like they said, they spent seven months on something. Man. - That's a tough situation. - That's tough. That's one of those gifts where it's like, man, you,

You better know that friend is there forever because that's a lot of pressure if someone does something like that for you and that I wonder how much that how much money that that blanket went for because like it sounds like a very unique very special Facebook marketplace 75 bucks. No I see it as like streetwear. I'm like 450 at least Facebook marketplace typically is like yeah, cuz I think like I think

when you sell something that's like handmade like that, obviously it doesn't compare to mass-produced items. We're so used to having everything like this, I don't know, like a machine made this, and it's probably like 15 bucks or something. But if a person made this by hand, there's probably a better example. Like this, I guess. - A machine definitely made that. - A machine made this,

if a person made this, it would take them hours. It would take them hours and that would be labor that you'd have to pay for. - Right. - Yeah. - But it's like, you know, we're like, if we wanna, like, would anybody pay? I mean, would people want to pay like a hundred bucks for this? - I think they're so popular because they're so cheap and so. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Yeah, I will say like,

I think, 'cause this is a couple, right? They didn't clarify how long? Friends. Friends, okay. So they're friends. I think that OP has a right to feel both things. Like, they can be upset, but also feel bad that this person needed the money for their pet.

'Cause if that's true, that sucks. It's heartbreaking on all sides. And maybe when things are better, perhaps since that's still within their world, they could get the blanket back or something. - Yeah, I mean,

It's one of those things it's so tough and it wouldn't have gone well I think but like the communication of like calling up that friend being like hey like my dog needs emergency surgery I'm desperate. I need this. I'm letting you know like I'm selling your selling that thing you made for me Like I said that conversation would not go well, but yeah, would that be better than oh?

This crazy off chance that she managed to run into the person who bought it off Facebook marketplace Yeah, I mean it does also doesn't take that long to notice like hey that thing is gone that blanket I made you isn't in your apartment anywhere. Yeah. Yeah, that's it's all very Strange. I almost like think like this

Part of me thinks like, and I don't usually, I always assume these are real, but part of me is like, man, you would notice that. If you were good friends with somebody, you would kind of be like, oh, where's that blanket? But also if I was that friend that sold the blanket, I would feel so much shame for

that I would be afraid to tell them. - I would totally be afraid. - Because it's like, yeah, you can't quantify the value of something like that. - Yeah, we don't know the locations of these friends, if they're maybe like hometown, college situation, whatever. They're very young.

It does suck, you know. Let's see here, some comments. I would feel hurt. Your feelings are valid regardless of her reasoning behind why she sold it. This was a thoughtful gift that took you a lot of time and that shouldn't be diminished. If there's any comfort in knowing it went to a good home to someone who is enjoying it and displaying it proudly, I would focus on that. I've had to give away things that are sentimental, but I try to make sure they go to a good second home where they will be appreciated. Maybe she did that in this case.

Someone said, "If the sick dog is true, forgive her if you want, but never knit for her again. If you can't forgive her, it's okay to move on." Someone said, "So I knit and I'm also a pet owner. I think you have the right to be hurt, but if the thing with her dog was a life or death situation, which is what I'm assuming it was if the dog needed emergency surgery, then I can't blame her for selling it. Once you give someone a gift, it's theirs to do with as they please. I'm sure it wasn't an easy decision for your friend to make."

- I think everything everybody said is true. - Yeah, I think all of that is valid. - Yeah, like no assholes here maybe? I mean, there's still like the lack of communication, like of like, hey, like, I don't know, I don't know how close these friends are. - Nobody is an asshole in this situation because she's just saying how she's feeling.

And her feelings are valid here. I think if she went out of her way and said her friend's like the worst person on the planet, I'd be like, now you're maybe a bit of an asshole. Like, this is just a shitty situation. But there is an update. Ooh. The dog's dead. Sorry. Okay. I need to know what character this is. That is...

- That's important to me. - Yeah, I wanna know the anime. - Yeah, but she never mentions, yeah, 'cause if she mentions what character, it's gonna be too obvious to identify her. - True. - I think it's Light from Deadly-- - Yeah, okay.

I think it's Light from Death Note. "Thank you all for the overwhelming response. I don't have the time to respond to each and every one of you, but please know I have read almost all of them and I appreciate the time you guys took to share your thoughts. To those asking, she did briefly mention to me that her dog went into surgery months ago. Obviously she did not mention the cost or if she was strapped for cash. She just told me that everything thankfully went well.

However, I will also not question the validity of this as I assume veterinary surgeries can cost a fortune. She is my friend and I choose to believe she did act out of desperation because she loves her dog and I can't imagine her using him almost dying as a coverup. If she did, then that is now between her and her maker, I suppose.

It was all still fresh yesterday, but after I've gotten the time to sleep, I have a much clearer mind. Some of you think I had no empathy for her, which is honestly crazy. I initially thought she had profited from my work and just took the cash, but when we talked and she explained the situation, I obviously felt sorry that it had come to that, and I couldn't expect her to react in any other way. However, pardon me, I guess, for being human and trying to process how I also felt."

At the time, I also couldn't help but think the blanket that I worked so hard on had no value to her so much so that it was easy for her to let go, first amongst other things that she had probably kept. But many of you have helped me look at this in another perspective and made me realize that she did see value in it somehow to know it would be worth enough to save her dog.

All right.

Alright, yeah, that's a pretty good ending. I was expecting a really bad turn. Yeah, that it was like, okay good It's an interesting I feel like an interesting topic is like how much effort to put into gifts for people sometimes because That's a lot of pressure too. If it's someone's like hey, I put seven months of hard work into this I'd be like, okay. Holy shit. I have to keep this forever Yeah, and I would say

I love, like that's kind of one of my love languages is like getting stuff for other people. And you're sometimes just not always gonna get the response that you want. And that's kind of for you to kind of have to process and deal with. And like honestly this sounds like the, not the best case 'cause it sucks that it was happening with a dog, but it's like if there was ever a reason to sell a gift, you know.

My argument has always been the best gifts, consumables. Like some sort of food, drink, candles. Candles, incredible gift because that way if it's gone, you don't know if they used it or if they gave it away. You just never know. What's more pressure? Someone spending a ton of money on a gift or spending a ton of time on a gift?

If it's and it's it's relative to how much money they have right like it's not like if you have a millionaire friend is Relatively expensive to the person yeah like holy shit like if the gift sucks I feel a pressure Because I've received gifts that it was like whoa this is really nice Not something I would wear but

- Yeah. - Okay, thank you. And I keep it and I still have it somewhere. - I enjoy getting gifts for people but I do know that, and there's sometimes I'm like, oh this is the perfect gift for this person. But I also in my head, I get in my head of like, I don't want them to feel pressured that they now have to get me a gift. And it starts this weird, I'm like, it's not supposed to be transactional. It's supposed to be a gift. It's supposed to be, hey I'm giving you this thing and then I don't care about the response.

there's a weird trade-off for a lot of people with gifts and that's a lot of politics. - That's true. - Next story. This comes from True Off My Chest. "My fiance is reconsidering our marriage "after visiting my home country." Interesting.

To start... Did they visit America? To start, I come from a small island in the Caribbean, part of the US. I moved to the US five years ago just after graduating university and landed a job here. Since day one, my fiance has been romanticizing what it is to live in a tropical paradise that is my country. I love my country and I was raised there, but it's not even close to a paradise. Of course it has its charms, but not close to that level.

Well, we were planning our honeymoon and she wants to stay there for two weeks and travel around the island. I'm not fond of that idea because I have seen it all and she wants to visit unsafe areas around the island. Her main point of attraction is a place that is in a huge musical video, but it's not a safe place for tourists.

So I said fine. Let's just do a quick visit before our wedding so we can see what what's going on She immediately accepted and one month later. We traveled to my home country. She wasn't impressed, but I kept my mouth shut We arrived at the place and I already know today is a hot day to be there I try to convince her but she insists on going in the locals are eyeing us and my mind is screaming We should not be here not even three feet in and two guys confronted us she started talking and her broken Spanish and

Sorry, babe. Just made things worse. I tried to calm down the situation and we left soon after. I kept my mouth shut even though I just wanted to tell her, "I told you so," because this was stupid from the start. On our way back home, she didn't say a thing even after I tried to open the conversation. Well today, one week after we arrived, she left her ring at the nightstand with a note telling me she needs some time. I fear this might be the end of it all. She never does this kind of thing.

- Is this Puerto Rico? - Hold on, really quick. The top comment is, "She built her future based on Despacito?" - Yeah, yeah. - No! - For real, for real. - No! - Yeah, he was like, "It's part of the US, it's like Caribbean island." I was like, "This is Puerto Rico." Then it was like, she saw it in a music video, I was like, "Fuck!" - Dude, she tried saying the lyrics to Despacito to the locals to make good.

- Oh no, that's like what? - Or Bad Bunny. It's either Despacito or Bad Bunny. - What fantasy world are you living in? - And someone responded to that saying, "Hold up, this was in Puerto Rico. "She bypassed all the beaches, the mountains, "Old San Juan, the food, Culebra and-- - Vieques. - Vieques and other islands, the food, "and dumped him over the location of that video? "Nah, man, OP needs to block her on everything "from now to eternity. "She only loved the idea of him having an exotic boyfriend."

- Oh! - You know what, I also just want to point out, like, what an awful pitch for a honeymoon. It's like, hey, for our honeymoon, let's go to your hometown.

- She was romanticizing. - This place I grew up in, I don't wanna go back, and he's saying I don't wanna go back. - Yeah, I mean, on a lot of those, everyone has these romantic ideas of Caribbean islands, vacations, but there's so much poverty in most of those areas, and a lot of times, people are relegated to the resorts where it's intentionally kept nice because the locals are kept out of there.

Also music videos like is not real. I know it's like bro. Those are there's lights. There's there's Color editing it is not what you think it is I also think it's really messed up that like he literally was born there and she just was not valuing his insight like like No, she didn't trust him, which is no no no despacito knows

Daddy Yankee would not do me wrong. You know, though, it brings up a good point, which is like, you know, is social media travel culture kind of creating false expectations for certain countries? Because as you've pointed out, and I've heard this from other people too, and also just reading about it, of like, yeah, a lot of those islands, we think of like the tourist parts of it, which are pretty much like, you know, the...

Yeah, it's this glamorized small sections. And we think that's the whole place. And it's not true. And I feel like social media always gives a false idea of anything. Yeah, Bali. Bali's a big one. Really? Like, it's... I mean, I guess I shouldn't generalize. But...

Yeah, yeah, we all have like this false sense, and it's not like look everywhere is dangerous We're not saying like go if you go to an island. It's like scary and there's crime. There's crime everywhere. There's violence everywhere No, but they're not exactly Advertising every aspect of a right like I just have to be smart about it like it's not it's not like a fantasy Island like there's there's poverty there's right and I think

I think the social media aspect is true, but I think this person, I think she's just not on, like, she's on another planet. Oh, yeah. Like, the fact that she...

Was like ignoring OPS like hey, this is not a good idea Okay, fine walking up to this area and locals are immediately having a problem with it and her being like no no no I'm like trying to I know is like so you really have like no regard for Like what reality might be outside of what she's serving. She has no respect for her fiance

Yeah, like this is where he's from and she's like no I'll handle this. Yeah, it's giving Valentina It's giving I want my fantasy. This is not serving my fantasy. Like I don't know. Yeah, the comment with the exotic boyfriend is is Wild but probably not inaccurate

Yeah, someone else said, "Sounds like she was fetishizing you and your home country. Either way, it's not your fault. You did what you were supposed to do." Someone else responded to that saying, "Absolutely, she was fetishizing him and also clearly has no clue that life in the Caribbean is nothing like an all-inclusive resort."

Someone else said, "Let her go. "It looks like she was in love with the romanticized idea "of having the potential to live on a tropical island or so. "Then her idea busted. "If she was really loving you, this experience "would not affect the personal relationship with you." There's a tweet here. "Proof that Instagram influencers have ruined everything. "My hopes and dreams were shattered when I found out "the water at the gates of heaven is actually "just a piece of glass under an iPhone." Yeah.

So I've heard some like sketch stuff about but I mean like whatever man. Well, I think the thing is this Don't trust what you see on Instagram. Yeah, people people fake all sorts of shit Not only are people touching up their faces and their bodies. They're touching up the environment. Yeah, they're making shit up

Not what it is and the reality is like what we're talking about is when we ever we think of something as a paradise like no It's a country a country includes everything. Yeah, every country in the world includes something of everything. There's no such thing as a paradise That's otherwise everyone would be living there. Yeah, like let's go there No, it does exist. It's called, Tallahassee, Florida Okay

There's an update. Very quick. Oh, okay. She called off the engagement. I don't know what to do. Probably just drink while I play some Halo with the boys before trying myself to sleep. See ya. Yeah, no, that's a happy ending for that guy. Happy ending for that guy. Slayer. This episode is brought to you by Factor.

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the place where all the worst ones go. Apparently, I have heard that these people should break up, is what I'm hearing. - Okay. - I'll be the judge of that. - That's usually the consensus on all of these. - Usually. Am I the asshole for asking my wife to think about the long-term implications of her birth plan?

Throwaway because my friends know my mane. I know dudes get ripped in here for posting their opinions about birth, but I think this is an important opportunity for my wife and I'm posting because I believe the situation is nuanced and she's not hearing me out.

This is a 34 year old man. My wife Beth, 28, is 33 weeks pregnant. We're both very ready for this baby to come. My mom is super hands on with my entire family. My two brothers' wives are very close with her, but Beth has just never really clicked the way the other two did. I'd be lying if I said it didn't bother me that my wife seems disinterested in getting closer with my mom and my sister-in-laws.

For all five of the births of my sister-in-laws, my mom's three births, they were all unmedicated. It is clearly a point of pride for all of them at having done it naturally. My mom said she chose to do it because she didn't want me and my brothers born doped up and she wanted to experience the full spectrum of becoming a mother.

Beth, on the other hand, is very fearful of birth and has talked to our doctor about being medicated. I didn't love the idea of the mother of my child being loopy and out of it at such a critical moment, but those concerns fell on deaf ears when I raised them. I felt very excluded during the discussion around pain management and neither Beth nor our doctor were receptive to my ideas.

My mom was asking me about our birth plan the other day, and I don't know why I did this, but I just sort of panicked and told her that Beth was going for it the all-natural way, like she and my sister-in-laws have. To say my mom freaked out with happiness is an understatement. She was thrilled that Beth was open to experiencing the full range of motherhood, and this might sound crazy, but I think if Beth shared this rite of passage with my mom and sister-in-laws, they might finally gel."

I told Beth about my slip-up to see if she'd be open to changing her mind, given how this could serve as a critical bonding experience for them to share. And she lost her mind, yelling about how she wasn't going to compete with my mom and sister-in-laws during her birth. She emphasized that it was her birth again and again, which I don't think is fair because it will be an experience we both go through. Fuck off! I was just...

Trying to get her to see that there was an opportunity for her to create some sisterhood with the with the women of my family I wasn't dictating or even pressuring her. I just thought she would want to know how happy it made my mom She told me she didn't give a fuck about sisterhood, which was very intense because Beth does not swear. I wasn't

It's almost like this is important to her. I wasn't trying to upset her. I just think she would be wise to see the potential long-term implications of not having this shared experience with my mom and sister-in-laws. But Beth has been furious to the point of not speaking to me for several days, and I'm starting to wonder if I'm in the wrong, even if I was trying to help. Am I the asshole?

- You know, it's almost like, you know, maybe having the child would be something that they could bond over. Not the pain of having one. - Yeah. - I don't understand like why he thinks that like the pain is necessary for mom. - Well his pussy's getting ripped open too. - I know. The poor guy, he has to suffer so much. - Babe, listen, Beth, sit down.

- Don't swear. - Please don't swear. I know that you're going through a lot, but I want you to know my emotional pussy is getting-- - Getting ripped, just kidding. My emotional pussy is just getting caked. - My emotional pussy. - He's like, "I'm doing it the natural way." - Remember, we are pregnant. - You know what's interesting though? Something I just want to point out, this isn't the first time in Reddit stories that a family has a tradition that is just kind of

Confusing for me. I mean, yeah, it's so odd that it's a family tradition being put on in-laws who are not connected to this family outside of their relationship with yeah with someone in the family so it's it's like the the wife test one right you remember that where it's like well, this is a tradition my family has like well cool, I'm not technically like

That's their tradition, that's fine. - And when it gets down to the nitty gritty bodily autonomy, my guy, like her body, her pregnancy, her birth, and I also am a little hung up on the mom

is fixated on the idea of this baby being loopy when they're born and like, oh my God, that's such a big deal. That baby's not gonna remember that. - Also, what even is natural birth?

Like, are you going out to the fucking woods to like push this thing out and you're going to rip the umbilical cord off with your teeth? Does the mom have like some fucking degree? Does she know that like giving the mother drugs is going to drug the baby? No, he points out that the doctor is clearly on his wife's side. And he's like, this frigging dumb doctor is not receptive either. Well, also like emotions are not facts.

This story is him saying I lied to my mom about what my partner is doing and then tried to convince my partner to go along with the lie That's not just like going on like it's putting your body through a very significantly more painful experience or like even there could be an even more insidious

intention here where he told the mom she was gonna do it naturally so that they can both gang up on her and be like, you're gonna be natural, right? It's gonna be natural, right? It's such a strange, he keeps saying feeling the full range of motherhood. It's just a lot of weird An epidural or whatever you need in a pregnancy does not

invalidate the experience at all. Like you are still very much a mother if you have a C-section, if you get the epidural, like if you have a surrogate, that is still your baby. Obviously pregnancy situation is different with a surrogate, but like you're a mother no matter what. Like that is your baby. She could have lied and said, yeah, all natural, babe. I'm going to be all natural. And then she had the epidural. Like what's the good in that poor communication? It's, I don't know. I feel like I hear people talk a lot about like,

motherhood and parenting and they're just refer to like that first like the the birth and the first couple years of raising a baby of being a parent I'm like being a parent's a lifetime thing like whether you're gonna be a good mom or dad is that's that's that

Child's whole life into adulthood and how you are a parent throughout their entire life is determining. Yeah, so that's the full range of motherhood Yeah, yeah to say like oh you have to have pain during you have to like go through this like traumatic like horrible pain in order to like bond with

other women on motherhood it's just that's so straight like oh yeah so much there's so much before and after the actual like event exactly like women have to deal with i feel like and this is probably a little bit of a spicy take where like i feel like people put so much on the pregnancy and having a baby and then then like postpartum depression is really tough and it's like

It's like we put too much pressure on women in a lot of those situations and yeah It's not just having a baby you are raising a human that is a blip in the situation and also I'm pretty sure it's there's a scientific fact of like women tend to forget like the physical pain like their body does not remember how painful it was to give birth because

because when a species is reproducing, they don't want your body to remember the pain because they want you to keep reproducing. - What I will also say is like, I think this also falls in line with a lot of people, kind of this whole thought where we forget that we're in a modern society where we've like kind of

like childbirth is super dangerous and it's I think they have this thought of like yeah it's like you go about it naturally and everything's gonna work out because that's nature it's like no naturally women fucking died a lot in childbirth historically this mom is fixated on the idea of all of this it's like I wish I was born in another time it's like well if you were born another time you might have died before you were one years old so yeah well a Krispy Kreme donut would have killed you like that's that's the reality hearing Despacito would have blown your mind open uh

So I think we know how the comments are gonna go here. You're the asshole. Your complete and utter selfishness is so overwhelming that I had to take a break while reading this post. You and your wife will be experiencing this birth differently because you'll be sitting on your judgmental ass while your wife's body is forever transformed. You are a full partner in parenting, but regardless of what mommy told you, the hours you spend laboring aren't even close to the full range of motherhood, so take a seat.

OP responded, "I appreciate that we will have very different roles and experiences of the birth. All I meant was I'm seeing the holistic experience as something we create together because we made this child together and will love this child together. Certainly we have different roles in the process. She's more the quarterback and I'm more the coach." So I know she-- - You cummed, bro! You cummed. - So I know-- - That's what you did.

Yeah, you're more like the recruiter. You were the recruiter. You got this firm, and then that's it. She did everything else. So I know she's the one working while I'm the one strategizing. Oh, God.

Oh, God. Ew. Holy shit. Stop. There's already enough, like, objectification in football. Like, these guys are just stats and numbers that are being subjected to concussions all the time. You're not the fucking coach of your wife. For football fans, he's the Urban Meyer of dad coaches. Um...

Someone's gonna get it. He's a really shitty coach. Okay. You're the asshole. This is akin to her saying you should go through major surgery without any anesthesia. She is giving birth, not you. You are not equal partners in this. You are a spectator while she is doing all of the work. So you get zero say in how she chooses to do it. At this point, you should consider yourself lucky if she allows you to be in the hospital room at all.

OP responded, by the way that earlier one negative minus 690 690 down votes. The OP's reply. OP responded to this comment. I don't think that's an accurate analogy. Women have been giving birth for thousands of years unmedicated. Pain management for surgery accounts for something unnatural occurring, i.e. cutting open a chest cavity.

I know she's the one doing the work. I just feel like we are better off approaching as a team effort, so we should be aligned. 3,121 downvotes. That's some of the most downvotes I think I've ever seen. Women were burned at the stake because we thought they were witches. They should be able to handle pain. I'm not a historian. I think...

I think a historian would say that is actually incorrect. Yeah, for thousands of years they were finding ways to probably... Yeah, they probably gave women brandy. They did all sorts of... Dude, they were doing way worse stuff. They would stick their thumb in the whiskey bottle and put the thumb in the baby's mouth. Shit was different then. I think this is...

And I'm not, I also don't agree with the take, like, we shouldn't let stupid people reproduce. But, like, this is what happens when, like, when stupid people say shit online, that it's just, like, you just...

You literally have no idea what a traditional birth is and the dangers that come with it. You have this, like we said already, the romanticized idea of a natural birth. It's also very clear that his kids are going to fucking hate him. I know it already. He's like, I'm going to prom too. I'm going to prom just as much as you are, son. Ha ha ha.

Someone else said, "You're the asshole. "Birth mortality is high enough. "Why do you want to risk making your wife a statistic?" OP responded, "I would never. "I would do anything in the world to make sure "she and my soon-to-be son are well. "That's why I started this convo with her to begin with."

206 downvotes. So OP was responding a lot. We have a bunch of responses. No context. Let's just... We get the idea of what's probably happening. I have done extensive reading on natural ways to control pain and ensure the baby makes it out with minimal damage to my wife. So I don't think it's fair to suggest I have no value to bring to the experience. Jesus. 1,330 downvotes. That's a...

somehow very chosen, with minimal damage done to my wife. - I rolled a D20 on birth. - I studied many ways to ensure zero pain. - How do you do minimal damage during childbirth? - I'm just picturing like it's a diagram of like a baby in the womb and he's got like lines with like X's. - Yeah, he's doing the coach, he's doing the playbook. - So this is the muscle you shit. - Like you will never know. And one thing I'll say really quick is like, he's like, I never wanna make my wife a statistic.

He is by making her take part in a tradition because of the idea of it simply because of these previous people who have done it too. Yeah. Like it is all ego here. It is so much ego. It's control too. He's super controlling and shitty. Um, uh,

Another one. I know this is all from him. I know death is dangerous, but it's the physical aspect of the birth That's dangerous not the experience of the pain. I'm confused why you're equating pain with danger One thousand nine hundred nineteen down votes. She is the patient but so is my child doesn't that at least give me a 50% say 50%

This guy is wild. The baby has more say than you do. I have definitely done the homework. I feel like I could deliver this baby myself at this point. Oh, God. Okay. Okay. All right, I'm like, is this a troll? Is this a troll at this point? No, I think he's just showing his ass more and more. No, I think he's just actually, I think he's getting madder and he's just like. He's letting the mask slip. Here's the last one.

I'm not a doctor but at this point I've read enough and watched enough YouTube videos that I could deliver this child myself I did not make this suggestion without doing my homework on the pain mitigation techniques of meditation breathing aromatherapy massage and Affirmations I have a variety of pain management techniques that do not require medication that just about 3,000 down votes That's holy shit. Look guys. I

I'm telling you and I keep telling my wife. I have learned ways to make sure my pussy does not hurt She just will not listen to me. Bro, just breathe. It doesn't mine never hurts This is this is the worst guy

I would agree with that. It's up there. He's up there. It's definitely leaderboard, for sure. Yeah, this is up there. It got worse. The mask slipped as he started rapid-fire replying to people. He showed his ass. This guy's 34. That's true. He's set in his ways. Do you know how many pictures of the diagram of the vagina he probably looked at before he had sex for the first time? And he's like, I will know where the clitoris is.

Moving on from that guy, please. Am I the asshole for breaking up with my boyfriend over the Barbie movie?

We know it had to happen out there I literally don't know what to do right now, and I feel so helpless turning to reddit for advice validation But three days ago my boyfriend, and I went to go see the Barbie movie I've been really excited as I'm a huge Greta Gerwig fan and my boyfriend likes Ryan Reynolds, okay? I think that's a typo. I don't think that they actually think Ryan Reynolds is in them. I think she say Ryan Gosling Yeah, okay, but it is a funny thought yeah

Mid-movie and you're just like, I'm just Ken. Great. Where's Deadpool? Yeah. Ken. Great.

Other than him being in the movie, my boyfriend didn't know anything else about it. I, on the other hand, was aware of its feminist themes and was secretly hoping my boyfriend would get the message. Over the duration of the movie, I could tell he was getting more and more uncomfortable/upset, and I was getting really sad, both from the movie and his reaction. And I knew we would end up having a conversation about it afterwards. He didn't talk to me until we got in the car. He then told me that he was really offended by the movie and said that it was the kind of thing I should have watched with my girlfriends and not him.

Yeah, dude! Yeah, dude! I feel like, I feel like,

Why wasn't that the line for you? Shit, this is red pill if he's saying that you know this guy is red-pilled so hard, okay? Maybe it was a long time coming, but this was the straw that broke the camel's back I was tired of having to always deal with his attitude and disrespect and was also maybe on this girl power high So I told him it was over the complicated part is this he lives in

"lived with me. "He has been in between serving jobs "and since he was my freaking boyfriend, "I let him move in with me six months ago. "Living with him is a whole other story, "but I couldn't take it anymore "and I had him leave my apartment the next day. "I stayed at my friend's house while he packed up his stuff. "He said he understood and that he didn't wanna live "with me another second anyways.

I assumed he had a place to go, but apparently he didn't. His brother called me a few hours ago saying he's MIA. His friends are blowing up my phone saying the same thing. I feel like this is all my fault. No one has heard from him in 24 hours. I did think it was weird when I came home and all the food in the fridge was gone. All the batteries in our electronics drawers were gone. He took my phone charger and half the blankets. I know now he did not in fact have anywhere to go or a car. He had been using mine since his engine busted last month.

The worst part is we still have his location and it's saying he is two states away. I don't know how he got there. I can't believe this is all because of a freaking Barbie movie. Okay, there's something really funny about, like, he does what, like, every, like...

What like children do were like I'm running away from home. No, he's being but he's like, oh is that what Ken does? Yeah, so unfortunately has not seen the Barbie. I haven't seen at this point in my defense I also haven't seen Oppenheimer. Okay. Yeah polar polar opposite. Also. I don't watch that bitch shit He's literally being Ken he's having a Ken moment and

That's that's very clear to me. I would be like scared. Yeah him or her For her I'm scared for her. I'm also scared for him. He just seems off the rails I feel like he's like he's like doing is like going out to the woods kind of thing like that nature yeah, I mean taking batteries is like that's I'm sorry, but that's weird and

People like to remember we've heard stories of people who like sell batteries for quick cash Maybe maybe he got a bus ticket or a train ticket. I know my interpretation is he probably got on a bus and he's just like going he's just he's doing the Incredible Hulk thing and

He's just like hitchhiking down the road. He's on a journey. He's all emotion. He is truly doing the Ken thing. Some comments here. Ryan Reynolds isn't in Barbie. Someone said, you can break up for any reason you want to, and he is a big boy who can take care of himself.

Someone said,

Yeah, the update. I broke up with my boyfriend over the Barbie movie. Yeah, it wasn't over the Barbie movie. It sounds like this guy was a lot of problems. I don't know. He seems like a pretty well-rounded guy. Yeah, he seems pretty chill.

Hi everyone, I know everyone says this but I really didn't expect this to blow up. I'm a little embarrassed but in light of everything I've learned over the past 24 hours, I'm once again oversharing on Reddit. Before anything else, I wrote that post in a frenzy of panic and guilt. With a clearer head, I can recognize that yes, we broke up because we were incompatible and I was at my limit, not because of a movie.

Some people were saying I maybe needed the Barbie movie more than he did since I was clearly dating a bigot and to that I agree. I was convinced I loved him but I think I just didn't really understand my value/feel deserving of someone better. I've learned my lesson and as a woman of color will never let myself be treated like that again. My biggest regret is that my loved ones had to endure him as well. Well, I've been cheated on before but I usually find out and then we break up.

Ooh.

His brother has been keeping me semi-updated on the missing Ken situation. I haven't really been asking any questions other than how he and his family are doing. They're not mad at me as they are aware of the situation. His brother even thanked me for taking care of him for as long as I did. He texted me this morning around nine saying we don't need to worry anymore because he's at their cousin's house in Colorado Springs. Then around 12 in the afternoon, I got multiple calls from a friend of his saying that he heard from my ex.

This friend sucks so much I'm not even gonna get into it. I supremely regret giving him my number. He was obviously under the influence of some sort, not to judge, but literally 12:00 p.m. at this point, and he's telling me stuff like he is literally so much happier now that you let him go and that he just felt bad for me and that I was charity work.

And then he said, "Now he can be with his man for real. His name, getting some real pussy now." Literally, pause. I asked him to clarify and he gave me that "Oh shit, laughing guy" thing they do when they say something they weren't supposed to. Then he said, "Fuck me," and hung up.

The potentially craziest part that's been getting to me is that he is definitely at his cousin's house, his brother confirmed. I think I'm going crazy because I've seen his cousin on his Insta feed before and she's literally stunning. He said she's his second cousin and I don't really know how related they are.

If this is real, I can't even comprehend what this means. Maybe it's not real, I don't know, but I think it's the perfect ending to this story. I'm not gonna update anymore after this because I feel like I'm already gonna regret this update, but final notes, he must have taken all this stuff from the house out of spite. I found out he took the batteries from the remotes and my hair blow dryer too.

I don't know how he got to his cousin's house I didn't ask or what happened to my Dyson air wrap But maybe his cousin slash girlfriend is using it now in the spirit of Barbie She can have it I guess and yes I know I said Ryan Reynolds when it was Ryan Gosling like that one comment said facial blindness is real. That's all Wow I mean Yeah, he just I guess he just needed to find somebody that he had more in common with like DNA DNA. Yeah, holy crap

Wow that isn't I don't think that's an epic Ken moment because Ken would not fuck his cousin This guy's worse than Ken top comment did not see this coming. What a conundrum Spelled with a K. Oh funny someone else said what in the Alabama? Yeah Someone said so he's a bigot thief and potentially a cousin fucker. Mm-hmm. You didn't die

You dodged a cannonball. A Ken-in-ball. Someone said, girl, you better file a police report over that Dyson. Those things are $600. Yeah. He's definitely not blow-drying his nards with it, I'll tell you that. It's some good callbacks. Wow, that's a lot, bro. Yeah, I truly think it's actually an insult to Ken to compare this guy to Ken. Yeah. Ken is naive, but he's not...

But he's got a good heart. He's not evil on this level. I think it's great that a movie can show people's true colors and kind of like... Oh, the Barbie movie is absolutely... The Barbie test. It's a great litmus test for... Yeah, it truly is. We're not a fan of the wife test.

- But we are kind of the-- - I think the Barbie test is valid. I think if you're dating, if you are a woman dating a man and you question whether he's a good guy or not, whether it could work, go see the Barbie movie or watch it at home together and be like-- - What'd you think? - Yeah. - I mean there's a lot of, I feel like there's a lot of stuff now where like if you see somebody get triggered by some media and like, you know, use the W word, you're like,

Yeah, it's got to be a challenge for women to avoid, like, the red pill stuff. I mean, at least it gets right out there in the front, you know? It sucks. Easily spot a red flag. Yeah, I don't know why people are, like, I, when I was really young, had a boyfriend that, like, gave, like, Marika vibes. And I was just like, yeah, it's just like, oh, I guess that's just, like, his thing.

And like women sometimes feel like they have to just accept their partners beliefs because of whatever reason it's like no if you like We need some critical thinking we need some few steps ahead thinking of like do you want to spend the rest of your life hearing that? Well her mistake was I mean she was she was going to this movie thinking like oh, maybe this will kind of change him He is who he is That's not gonna change if he's saying bitch shit. I

That is 100% who that guy is and you do accept that. I do believe people change, but in a relationship you cannot expect that to happen. And you certainly can't do it to someone. And change can take a long ass time. Look, maybe 30 years from now this guy might be different. He might go, yeah, I was a horrible person when I was young.

We don't know that and you can't bank on that you need to move on and thankfully she has moved Way the hell on yeah, maybe when him and his cousin have kids or nieces and nephews or whatever you call them Would little women have been a better Greta Gerwig movie for her to send him to or that would have been what he would have she would have figured it out quicker probably all right

Last story. This one's a little lighter than these previous ones. Today I fucked up by accepting an invitation to a concert. This morning a cute girl invited me to a concert saying, "My brother and I have an extra ticket to this concert tonight. I have hung out with them a few times and I've been meaning to ask her out, so I was totally on board. That being said, I don't like the band or even the genre of music, but it was worth it to hang out with her for several hours."

*gasp*

And I didn't find this out until I was too late to bail without being an asshole. No. TLDR spent 12 hours going to a concert of a band I don't like for a girl because she pawned her ticket off on me so she was free to go on a date. Her brother was chill though. Edit. For those asking, the brother and I are both straight. Sorry to disappoint. It was a country concert. Jelly roll.

Jelly roll jelly roll sounds like it'd be like country rap. Yeah, I the only look this is light this is yeah shit happens if if if the phrasing is what she said of my brother and I have an extra ticket to this concert tonight then Soon he was going with with her and him. Yeah. Yeah that that that sucks for him But she also probably doesn't know that he's into her

- I mean, the way she queued it up sounded dishonest. 'Cause Angela sometimes has extra tickets to stuff, but she's very clear, like, "Hey, these are my friends or whoever's tickets. "Do you want them to take somebody else?" You gotta be clear on those plans. - That's true. - I don't think there's anything wrong with,

not being a fan of the music and wanting to go to something because you're interested in this person's interests and you are interested in them. I don't think that's dishonest to an alarming degree. That's what sounds like she was way more dishonest. So...

Someone said, "No way, that's rude. "As soon as I found out, I would have left the car." Opie responded, "I should mention that the brother is chill, "but doesn't have many friends, and he wasn't complicit. "He thought I knew I was taking her ticket, "so I didn't want to bail on him at the last minute."

Someone else said did you have to pay for the ticket? He said luckily no it only cost me my Saturday Someone said is the brother single? Totally thought it was going to turn out that it was the brother that had a crush on him and then someone else said who is to say that that still isn't the case and

I think OP's kind of a chill dude. Like, he seems like a nice guy. He's hanging out with this girl and her brother. I'm like, I kind of love that. Yeah. That's too bad. I mean, especially to get, like, to get switcherooed and then also find out that she did that to go on a date with somebody else. Yeah. That's pretty rough. That's pretty devastating. Yeah. Crash and burn. Rough. It hurts.

Wonder if jelly roll has a song about that. Yeah, maybe he heard a song that he really resonated that was called like oh when you when your lady lies to you and sends you to the concert that with your with her brother Yeah, when you're saying your brother do a concert with the guy that you like when you're giving birth unmedicated When you're fucking your cunt

Cousin, it's Colorado. When you don't want to watch that bitch shit, Barbie. Barbie. When you cover a football in your own shed and you throw it at kids on the other side. That's a good thing. That's quite a callback. Thanks for being here.

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Before you watched the Barbie movie. Yeah, but I didn't pay for that. If we review Barbie on the We Watch, then I, yeah, because Smosh would pay for it. It's too good to criticize. Like, I'm not going to pirate, I'm not going to steal money out of Greta Gerwig's pocket. That wouldn't be very feminist of me. Let us know what other subreddits and themes you'd like us to cover on this show, and we will see you next Saturday for more unhinged bullshit.

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