Just B Dating: Do Not Let Anyone Put Out Your Light
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Kay hasn't heard from her sister in seven years. "I have a proposal for you. Come up here and document my project. All you need to do is record everything like you always do." "What was that?" "That was live audio of a woman's nightmare." Can Kay trust her sister, or is history repeating itself? "There's nothing dangerous about what you're doing." "They're just dreams."

Dream Sequence is a new horror thriller from Blumhouse Television, iHeartRadio, and Realm. Listen to Dream Sequence on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Meet the real woman behind the tabloid headlines in a personal podcast that delves into the life of the notorious Tori Spelling as she takes us through the ups and downs of her sometimes glamorous, sometimes chaotic life in marriage.

I just filed for divorce. Whoa. I said the words that I've said like in my head for like 16 years. Wild. Listen to Miss Spelling on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Angie Martinez, and on my podcast, I like to talk to everyone from Hall of Fame athletes to iconic musicians about getting real on some of the complications and challenges of real life.

I had the best dad and I had the best memories and the greatest experience. And that's all I want for my kids as long as they can have that. Listen to Angie Martinez IRL on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Let's talk about energy match in a relationship. Now, one would say opposites attract. So why does someone have to be a good energy match? You can be the opposite to someone, but there's an energy match.

And there is some crossover. Being an exact polar opposite might not work. I know a friend who met a guy in the club scene and they used to go out to clubs a lot. And it's not really who he was. It was kind of only who he wanted to be when he got laid. And she thought she was marrying someone fun. And she was marrying a dud and a stick in the mud and a drag on the ticket. And it's been a challenge. And you end up going to other places and with your own friends to do things. But it's nice to do something with your own partner.

And I've experienced this where it's not been an energy match and it's something not discussed as much as other things. Height, weight, where do they live? Where are they from? Are they Italian? What, you know, all these things. Are they kind? Are they funny? All these things are important and they're discussed, but energy match is not discussed enough.

And it's critical. It's literally critical. There was a person I saw on social media talking about attraction, talking about desire, talking about commitment. Do you want to commit? But ultimately talking about compatibility was a dating expert. Like that's an energy match. Are you compatible with the person? Do you feel like you want to go out at night and this person falls asleep at nine o'clock and you're dragging them? Then you feel, it feels boring. Like nothing feels worse than when someone gets to a restaurant and you know that they immediately want to leave.

It's like a drag. It's just an energy thing. Nothing feels worse than when you're always creating the fun. You are the life. You are the light and they extinguish the light. It wears on you. It makes you depressed and...

It's not a good match or someone doesn't like the cold. They don't like skiing. You love skiing. It's part of your life. Mountains. Someone only, you know, someone only wants to sit their ass on a beach. They're kind of lazy. They're not adventurous. Like these things, they add up energetically. You need a good energy match and it's undeniable. It doesn't mean you don't have fun with the other person or connect with the other person or you could have great sexual chemistry.

but it might not be a good energy match. And if you're not a good energy match, it could affect the sexual chemistry because nothing's worse than being a person who has the light and the darkness extinguishes your light. Okay. Alive. Now that doesn't mean I'm in a good mood all the time. It doesn't mean I'm cheery. I have the light. I am alive. Okay. You know it. If you're alive, I am alive.

And when I am in, I have ended relationships because my light is being extinguished and I've tried so hard. I want to be in the relationship and I have a hard time getting out. But when you really realize your light, the very inner you, the light bulb inside of you is being extinguished. It starts to kill you slowly and you are just sort of a little bit dead.

And negativity will pull you down way more strongly than your positivity will pull a negative person up. A positive person can't make a depressed or negative person positive. And it's extremely debilitating. And it's been really challenging in certain relationships. And it's a really big girl decision, big boy decision that you have to make. So do not let anyone put out your light.

Meet the real woman behind the tabloid headlines in a personal podcast that delves into the life of the notorious Tori Spelling as she takes us through the ups and downs of her sometimes glamorous, sometimes chaotic life and marriage. I don't think he knew how big it would be, how big the life I was given and live is.

I think he was like, oh, yeah, things come and go. But with me, it never came and went. Is she Donna Martin or a down-and-out divorcee? Is she living in Beverly Hills or a trailer park? In a town where the lines are blurred, Tori is finally going to clear the air in the podcast Misspelling. When a woman has nothing to lose, she has everything to gain. I just filed for divorce. Whoa. I said the words.

That I've said like in my head for like 16 years. Wild. Listen to Misspelling on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I've been thinking about you. I want you back in my life. It's too late for that. I have a proposal for you. Come up here and document my project. All you need to do is record everything like you always do. One session, 24 hours. BPM 110, 120, 120.

She's terrified. Should we wake her up? Absolutely not. What was that? You didn't figure it out? I think I need to hear you say it. That was live audio of a woman's nightmare. This machine is approved and everything? You're allowed to be doing this? We passed the review board a year ago. We're not hurting people. There's nothing dangerous about what you're doing. They're just dreams. Dream Sequence is a new horror thriller from Blumhouse Television, iHeartRadio, and Realm.

Listen to Dream Sequence on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Cheaters and Backstabbers. I'm Shadi Diaz. And I'm Kate Robards. And we are New York City stand-up comedians and best friends. And we love a good cheating and backstabbing story.

So this is a series where our guests reveal their most shocking cheating stories. Join us as we learn how to avoid getting our hearts broken or our backs slashed. Listen to Cheaters and Backstabbers on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Another thing I want to discuss is money and relationships and young girls who want to marry someone rich. I hear it all the time. And mothers who say...

It's just as easy to marry a rich man as a poor man, okay? It is. It is to just get down the aisle. You know what's not easy? My life coach said to me that, said you need to be with someone who is something or is going to be something. So you could meet a poor person that is going to be something. You can just tell they have that hunger, etc.,

But he said this to me because he felt that if I was in a relationship with someone who lacked the light, meaning they lack passion, they lack drive, they lack determination, it will never work. Because I need to be with someone who is something because they've done it or they're going to be something because they're going to do it. And that's critical.

And that's not really, someone could have money who lacks drive and determination. Maybe it's been handed to them. You know, maybe they got lucky. There are a million ways. But if they lack drive and determination and you're a person who's alive and you have drive and determination, it could be a bad energy match. So when mothers tell their daughters, it's just as easy to marry someone rich as poor. Let me discuss that dynamic. You marry for money, you pay the rest of your life. You marry someone...

because they're wealthy or even as a big part because they're wealthy without the rest. That's just the frosting. What's going to happen...

to a woman, it's going to reduce your ambition, reduce your motivation because you know you're taken care of. You're on the program. You have a sponsor. So you don't need to work as hard. And when you're young and it's like a good gimmick and everyone thinks it's so great, oh my God, you're so cute. You always look perfect. You have the bag. You're lunching as a verb. You're shopping as a verb and everybody wants your life and you have a big ring and you had a great wedding and everybody's jealous and they all want your life because that's what you're portraying. That's what the housewives was made of.

and built on. Fronting and stunting, it's more important for other people to think I have money or a good life than for me to actually have it. People could be in foreclosure and broke and websites are writing they're worth 35 to $50 million. It is absolutely untrue. These shows are about fronting and stunting. And girls who marry for money want to front and stunt or they have to front and stunt because it's going to make them feel better. And what happens is you end up medicating and the men end up with the power

sooner or later, no matter how it goes, men know every dollar. And if he or she makes the gold, they make the rules. And it comes in many different forms. One form is that you marry someone with money and it's kind of their program. Ultimately, where you're going to live, what you're going to do, where you're going to go on vacation, the life you guys are going to live will ultimately be

He or she who makes the goal makes the rules. And it can be subtle, but it builds up.

It's going to be, you don't have your own money. You don't know where the finances are and you're medicating with stuff too. If you really don't have your own purpose and your own job, and then your kids grow up, leave school and you're an empty nester, there's no fucking way that just being married to someone rich is going to fulfill you. There's no way you could. I've heard talk to too many people. Okay. You're medicating with stuff. Then what happens is you medicate with bags, you medicate with watches, you medicate with jewelry. And I've done it. I've done it because when we're young, we're

We want the easy way out in a way. It's like you just want to meet someone. They're going to save you. They're going to take care of you. The mom is right. It's just as easy to marry a rich man or a poor man, but do it once you have your own thing. You can marry someone rich. You can marry someone poor. You can marry someone old. You can marry someone young. Do it when you have your own skill set, your own money, your own nest egg. Then you can make clear decisions. You have the cake. Then you can get the frosting. You cannot frost nothing. You have to have the cake. You cannot make a life out of a lifestyle.

You can make a lifestyle out of a life. You can marry someone that you love and you have your own life and your own freedom, but you could trust and believe if you marry someone for money, you're going to pay the rest of your life. You're going to be medicating with stuff.

And the medication is to mask the real symptoms, which are boredom. You're not sexually stimulated. You're not intellectually stimulated. You're not emotionally stimulated. You don't respect the partner. You're turned off, whatever it is. You're going to feel trapped. If you are in a situation and you don't have any money and no access to making money, you're going to feel trapped.

And slowly but surely, it's going to be death by a thousand paper cuts. You're going to be doing what the other person wants to do, whether subtly or outwardly. And they make the fucking rules. One day they're going to be having sex, cheating on you. You feel like a bigger loser. You're going to be complaining. You were there when they made it. All these things are not cliches. They're true. All these things are true. All these things are why 60% end up in divorce. So...

Just remember he or she who makes the gold makes the rules. And if you marry for money, you will pay for the rest of your life. And listen to this. I made money. I have money. I can buy myself flowers. I can buy myself bags. I have been in relationships and had so many luxury items bought for me with me. And it was medicating. I was medicating because I wasn't happy.

And it was something to do to fill a void. And it's a quick hit. That's the honest truth. And then I've wanted to purge it all because I don't need it. It's medicating. Just trust me and you know what I'm talking about. Stuff. It's more stuff because it makes you avoid what's really going on. True happy people probably don't need any stuff. They don't want any stuff. They're not flexing. They're not trying to make everybody else think they have such a great life. They're just living. And...

And I don't think the moms are right who say, because it may be easy in the short term, maybe easy in the short term, but it won't be easy in the long term. Kay hasn't heard from her sister in seven years. I have a proposal for you. Come up here and document my project. All you need to do is record everything like you always do. What was that? That was live audio of a woman's nightmare. Can Kay trust her sister or is history repeating itself? There's nothing dangerous about what you're doing. They're just dreams.

I just filed for divorce. Whoa.

I said the words that I've said like in my head for like 16 years. Wild. Listen to Miss Spelling on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Cheaters and Backstabbers. I'm Shadi Diaz. And I'm Kate Robards. And we are New York City stand-up comedians and best friends. And we love a good cheating and backstabbing story. Welcome.

So this is a series where our guests reveal their most shocking cheating stories. Join us as we learn how to avoid getting our hearts broken or our backs slashed. Listen to Cheaters and Backstabbers on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.