Hijacking someones big day (pt. 2), aging & STOP filming your workout classes...
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So I clicked the magazine and it's the girl, Ashley, what's her last name? Ashley Green from Twilight. And I'm like, I knew I knew you.

She was at the lunch. She was across from me at the lunch. I'm like, God, you look familiar. Was it last week? Did I see you in Pilates? In her head, she's probably like, I get this all the time. She's like, this chick. Welcome back to another episode of Mean Girl Pod. We're literal twins today.

I noticed it yesterday. I was like, oh my God, pink. I wonder if that's where I got it from you. But also we're both wearing all black, have our hair slicked back. Oh my gosh. And I think, do you have pink on underneath? No, I have purple. Okay. I kind of have purple. I have berry. Wait, that's so funny. I had a coffee cup too, but I threw it away when I walked in.

I wish I kept it. Oh my God. I wish you kept it too. And we have our headphones. We're literally twins. I saw your Instagram story. I think it was like the other day when you were comparing your baby pictures. I don't know why this reminds me of twins, but it was yours and Harrison's to Tate. And I cannot believe how much Harrison looks like Tate when he was a baby.

I know, but I had so many DMs saying, she's you. And I was like, she's my eyes, but that mouth-to-mouth, like, they are twins. The nose? Identical. And the nose. I know. I was like, she's more him. Like, she looks like me...

Like, okay, when you glance at me and my mom, you say they look alike. Yeah, but I actually have my dad's exact face. Do you know what I mean? Feature for feature. But like, you don't think I look like my dad, but if you really look at us, we look alike. So I think you see like her blondish hair and like you think like she does look like me, but I think her features look like his. No, I completely agree. I like...

I think you, I assumed, I was like, oh, she looks like Alex, blue eyes, blonde hair. But when I saw the baby pictures, like the comparison, I was like, no, if she had darker hair, cause Harrison's is like a little bit of brown. I was like, identical. I know it's wild, isn't it? And I don't know why everyone, like, I, I think a lot of moms when they have babies do this exercise immediately where they get baby pictures and they look and

And I just never did until his sister was here. And she has our baby pictures on her phone because she did a baby shower for us and like did cookies with our baby photos. And I was like, oh, my God, can we look at them? And I don't know why I waited so long to do it, but it was fun to do. Question. Do you find it offensive if someone goes up to you and is like, oh, my God, Tate looks just like Harrison or Tate looks just like her dad?

No, and I get where that comes from because I know people do because it's like, you know, and I think the trend is like, I didn't carry this baby for nine months just to pop out a mini dad. And I get that, but...

But I think it's sweet. Like, no, a lot of people say she's like a Minnie Harrison and it doesn't bother me at all. I like, I think it's fun. Cause the other day, um, one of Pete's friends had a baby and I was like, oh my gosh, she is so cute. She looks just like the dad, like let her know. Like you should tell her that. Cause I thought it'd be a compliment because it's like, oh, your baby looks like one of you. That's so cute. And he's like, no, that's offensive. And I was like, is it? I didn't realize that. Yeah.

Why would that be offensive? I don't know. He's like, I don't want to offend her by telling her her newborn looks like the dad versus her. Like, I don't want her to get upset. Oh, Pete said it was offensive. Yeah, Pete said it. He's like, I don't know if I should say that because it might offend her saying it looks like the dad. Yeah, she didn't say it. He said it. I was like, no way she'd respond. Like, that would be crazy. No, like, I do get that. Um...

But I don't think it's offensive at all because like I do think kids most of the time look like one parent. Oh my God, yeah. And like also changed so much. Like when I was younger, everyone said you look like your dad, you look like your dad. And then as soon as I hit probably like –

I'm 25, probably 26. Cause when I dyed my hair back dark, everyone's like, you look like your mom. And I never got that until I was like 26. But now everyone's like, you're a spitting image of your mom. But I swear to God, when I was like in middle school, everyone was like, you're a spitting image of your dad. So it changes. It changes so much. And like we change. And one thing I was thinking about, I saw this girl that I went to high school with the other day. I didn't see her physically, but I saw, I saw a post of her.

And I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. That... And it's not like she had work done. It's just like her face changed so much. And I think... I think like it's crazy how... I mean, you're an example of someone who... Like you will put these before and after photos up of you. And it's like...

Yes, like you're doing the skincare, but like your face, like I'm just like what your bone structure just changes as we keep growing, which is wild. Remember when we went to your house? This was like years ago when I was looking at like your family pictures and me and Alana were like, this is not the same Alex. Like you had that moment too where it's like, that doesn't look like you.

It's like so wild. And I think like Kristen Cavallari is also an example of it. Like her face to me has totally changed as she's aging and it's like beautiful. Oh, she's aging so well.

It's like really cool to see though, because I used to think like, oh, your prime was your twenties. But now I'm like some of these women, it is like thirties and forties and early fifties. I'm like, you guys look awesome. Yeah. I think I've said this before on the podcast. Like my mom, she's always been so beautiful, but something happened in her thirties with her bone structure where I was like, all right, you, you like peaked in your

upper 30s like she was just getting more beautiful as like 30s 40s hit and I was like okay I can I can handle this I think um I you know how it is like volume loss yes I think for some people it's like also like fat like baby fat loss like in it and so then your bone structure does start to show and it's like a really good thing and it's like you're like whoa snatched yeah I feel like

I don't know. When I look back at pictures in Minnesota versus New York, my face has more, not fat. It's like more, like I felt like I got like more baby fat and like cheeks when I moved to New York. But then now I feel like my face is slimming out again. And it's like so weird how much that changes your face.

Yeah, it's like like I've had stages where I'm like, oh, my face was just rounder. Like, yeah, that's all like just simply like rounder versus like then it's like and it could definitely be a drinking thing because I drink a lot when I move to New York. I mean, it's for sure we are swollen versus not 100%. I like went back and was looking at pregnancy pictures yesterday and I was just like, wow.

Wow, this is round. I feel like you have fully gotten back to like how you were pre-pregnancy though. You look great. I mean that that's really sweet. It's definitely like my body will never be the same but I like love that. Yeah, I mean and it's also probably staying in like this preparation mode if you want like a second kid or a third like it's like ready for more. Ready for more and that I'm still breastfeeding and pumping. It's like it it's

Actually, it's my thorn today. It's like I have to go. I have to pay attention to my health and like go get my blood tested because like my iron must be low because I have been having... Well, I don't think this has to do with iron. Well, the iron part is I'll get up and I get dizzy. Like I'll just... I have to sit down. So that part I think is iron. I think you can have an iron deficiency, A, postpartum, but B, when you're pumping, I think you can really develop an iron deficiency. But these sweet cravings,

They'll hit me like three or four times a day and it's like I'll get a Diet Coke or I'll get like a little thing of cookie dough. And I just know what I'm doing is like I'm spiking the blood sugar and then it's crashing and I really want to level it out for my energy. And so I hate going and getting blood work done, but I know postpartum you're supposed to because a lot of times things are off and I just –

I don't know. It's just like, I don't want to do it and I don't know why I'm not doing it. And so I'm going to go do it. Let's talk about Skims you guys, because the rumors are true. Push-up bras are back and Skims has the best one. You know, Jordan and I

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No, I mean like this is like pulling teeth for me. I'm like, I'm standing up seeing stars and I'm like, okay, I guess I'll go. I think, I don't know one other person besides myself that's a female, besides like my mom, that gets an annual exam. I'm like, I thought we all were supposed to be getting annual exams. We are supposed to, but like, I don't know. So do you get this from your mom, like go to the doctor regularly? Because don't you also like go to the dentist regularly? Yeah, every six months.

Yeah, I mean, I just would never. I could never. The appointment would pop up. Let's say I did schedule it, perhaps. It would pop up on my calendar and I'd be like, immediately no. Like, I'm not going and doing that. I know it's bad. I'm a defense player on that. I should be offense. You're lucky you have good teeth. I know. I think I would go if I didn't, though. You know what I mean? Did you go regularly as a kid?

Yeah, I do remember. Yeah, definitely. Yeah, I can't imagine your parents being like, nah, you're not going to go to the doctor. Yeah, no, I know my mom was like on it. So yeah, I definitely did. But I don't know now. I'm just like...

Yeah, I don't know. I feel like I go regularly because my dad is someone who is just so like health, health, health. Like he sees like a trend online and he's like, that's the new trend. I'm going to follow it. And I feel like he almost instilled like this fear of health growing up where if I don't go to the doctor, something bad will happen. So I just like feel like I feel like it's like a law. Like I have to go. Like, how could you not go?

It's a really good way to think about it. I am going to start going like, cause I always wanted my parents to go get checks. And so it's like, now that you're, you have this like little thing dependent on you, it's like, okay, time to grow up and do it. So I will do it. And I'm definitely going to get the blood work done though. Like that's the thorn of the week is like the, something is off and I can feel it. So I'm excited to,

to know because when things are working well and like your energy is like the sugar crashes and it's something's going on and it's got to be postpartum so what's your thorn um but yes I'm but just quick thing I'm really glad you're getting your back checked because I don't want you to be anemic or anything I think anemia is a thing postpartum oh anemia can as a female you can get anemia I'm pretty sure at any time of your life because our irons are so messed up by our cycles

Yeah, it's gonna and I got I've ordered some supplements like I'm gonna start paying it. So we're gonna get it back and whack. Not out of whack. We're gonna get out of whack. Don't quote me on this. But someone I think I read somewhere one time that if you are ever craving sweets, you just need to eat protein. So like if you like chocolate protein, it like curbs it. But I don't know.

Well, I do wake up and the first thing I do is have vanilla or chocolate protein shake before the coffee. And like that helps me till about like 10. And then I do, I do try to do protein before the sweets to see, um,

And that does help, but the sweet cravings are getting only worse, so I've got to figure it out. Welcome to my life. You know, remember when we talked about Ballerina Farm like months ago? Yeah. I will say she has the most delicious...

I want to say it's plant-based because I eat it. It is. Or wait. Is it? I think it is. It's the most delicious thing I've ever had in my entire life. Is it not? Whatever it is, it doesn't hurt my stomach. Is it vegan? No. We're getting no's from... Hold on. Let me look. Because it digests very, very well. And it's so good. It's like literally chocolate milk. Let's see. Farmer protein powder.

It's made with, oh, it's made with colostrum. Oh, and it's calf first sourced. It's honestly probably just really pure, which is why it doesn't hurt your stomach. Oh, it's grass fed. It's 100% grass fed whey, which could be a reason. And it also has colostrum in it, which isn't colostrum supposed to be like incredible for you?

Yeah, it's the first thing that babies have when they come out of the womb. It's gluten-free, soy-free, and egg-free. Weird. Yeah, I mean, it likes its... I guess you probably can't have it then because it probably does have dairy. But, oh my God, I wish you could because it is incredible. I think that was a really smart move of her to do a protein powder. Yeah, because when I think of her brand, I was like...

Either ballet or Tradwife But then with protein powder I'm like now you Now I'm a fan of your brand Because I will keep buying this forever It's so good I see a lot of people Like I was just over at a friend's house the other day And she had it out on her counter And I was like And she actually doesn't even have TikTok TikTok

Whoa. I was like, why'd you get this? She was like, oh, one of my friends recommended it to me. And I was like, okay. So people are like liking the protein powder as it's on a standalone basis, which I think is really cool. Wow. Good for her. Or, uh, yeah. Ballerina. Uh, farm. What's her name? Ballerina. First name, last name farm. Ballerina farm. That's her name. Honestly, that is her name. Usernames are important. What? Hannah. Oh yeah, it's ballerina farm. I was thinking about username. Yeah.

for like Instagram and stuff because I was like

I always think it's so fun when people have like their middle name as their username. And I was like, I wonder if I could ever change mine one day. And then I was like, I can't give up Jordan Woodruff because it's just such prime real estate that like we were so. You can't give it up. Like we were so lucky that when we made our Instagram handles and social media was just starting. So like now like the new kids on the block as in like the younger generations have to have like the weirdest usernames. And I'm like, I don't think I can give up my real estate.

Yeah, I think that you should never give it up. I love the way my girl Morgan Stewart did it. She kept Morgan Stewart, and then when she got married, she just changed her bio to her last name. I like that. Yeah, I think so too, because I remember when TikTok first started, we were so new to it. I changed my username every 30 days, but now, never, ever. Oh, never, ever. Yeah, I totally agree. It's like being early on the...

on the cusp is smart because there's so many I wonder how many users there are now but but so many billions for sure has to be let's look I would like to know yeah because people have multiple accounts or like there's like brand accounts like there has to be I think there's over a billion users on TikTok two billion on Instagram oh my god how many TikTok users

1.8 billion on TikTok. Wow, there's more people on Instagram. 2.7 billion on YouTube. Wow, that's a lot. Oh, I thought X was going to have the most just because I feel like there were so many burners, but only 586 million. Wow, interesting. What social media platform has the most users?

Oh, Facebook. Duh. I was like, there's one more I'm forgetting. Oh, how many does Facebook have? Oh, wow. And then YouTube comes in second with 2.5 billion. And then Instagram and WhatsApp each have 2 billion. And then TikTok with 1.8. I would assume it doesn't say, but I would definitely assume that's wild. I mean, there you go.

They call WhatsApp a social media platform? Is that considered? I guess because it's how people interact. Like if you don't live in the United States, I think I would say the majority of people outside the United States text with WhatsApp. Like did Harrison, when he lived in Canada, I wonder if he used WhatsApp or not.

He still uses it for his like Hong Kong friends. Yeah. Like I know my brother uses WhatsApp quite a bit. Um, and like when I was in Australia, when I studied abroad, I only used WhatsApp for like four months. I was there. It's like wild. I guess it's just literally like a text messaging, but yeah, you would need it. Um, and then Snapchat, I just saw 460. Oh, I forgot about Snapchat. I know. I thought about it. I was like, oh yeah, that one. Um,

Okay, that was fun. Did you say your thorn or not? No, I didn't yet. Or was your thorn ballad in a farm? Okay. My thorn is... It's so boring, but it's the weather because it was...

New York City is just playing mean tricks on us because it was rainy for like so the entire week I was in Hawaii it rained so I was fine with that but then when I got we got back it was like absolutely stunning for a couple days like 80 degrees like last Saturday I was in shorts and a tank top sweating my butt off and then same with Sunday same with Monday all of a sudden it was raining

Downpour Tuesday, Wednesday. It's going to rain. It's today, Thursday. It's going to rain. Tomorrow it's going to rain. It's going to rain every day. And not only is it going to rain, it's back to like the 50s. Like I was wearing a jacket yesterday and today and I'm like, New York, why are you doing this to us?

I really, okay, I hate that. I hate to hear that because I think weather does make such a big difference. But so this weekend, I know this will come out, but this weekend when you go to Montauk, what's the weather report? It's going to be 60 and rainy, which makes me sad. So what's your guys' plan while you're there? Well, so the plan mainly was, like,

The way Pete and I travel is we never have an agenda besides dinner reservations. That's just like how we do every trip. So we were just going to drive and explore Montauk, walk around because I love the little city or city, the little town. Yeah.

They have like a really good bakery. They have great coffee. So you're really just going to do that. Go to the beach. Go to the pool. But I guess if it rains... The one nice thing about Montauk is you can drive... Or sorry. The one nice thing about renting a car is we could drive to like East Hampton or West Hampton and explore the little towns because they're all so cute. But...

Yeah, I don't know. I guess if it rains too, like I am also someone who is so okay, like sitting on a deck and reading for the majority of the day. But I guess we're just gonna have to play it by ear. I hope, I hope it doesn't rain, but it's gonna be like 60 degrees, which is crazy. Yeah, that's wild. I hope it doesn't rain too, because if it is 60 degrees, you could do like sweatshirt, porch, read, whatever.

That's a nice vibe. That's a really nice relaxing vibe. Yeah. In Montauk, it's such like a nice walk. Like you can walk for a decent amount of time because it's just like pretty much a long line. So if it's not raining, we can still like walk around the town. So I don't know. But I should have prepared for this because I truly don't know the last. I don't know when we've ever had a nice Memorial weekend.

Really? Like you said that yesterday and I was like, I don't know. Has it never been good? So I usually go to Rhode Island every Memorial weekend and it's like a running joke that like you can come, but my mom and dad are like, it's going to be a bad weekend. It's going to be like, we've, it's never been sunshine. Oh, I guess it's nice to lower the expectations. Yeah. So we'll have to get creative. Did you see Taylor Swift's Rhode Island mansion? There was like a bone. There was like a leg found by it or something.

Like a severed leg? Yeah, or like a bone. A human remains. Like, was Doug up or just like sitting on the front lawn? What? I think Doug up. Recently? Yeah, I was just scrolling and passed it. Taylor Swift house. Human remains. Taylor. Does she still live there? Oh my god, yeah. Human remains found near Taylor Swift's Rhode Island home.

People Magazine. Okay, also, did Taylor Swift have a 4.0 GPA? Yes, Taylor Swift achieved a 4.0 GPA in high school. Such a random thing to, like, pop up. Of course she did. She's perfect. That's so funny. A human leg bone. Her house, her Rhode Island house is so cool.

Oh my God. That whole area, like Watch Hill. People like don't understand how beautiful Rhode Island is. There is just some insane properties there. And it's just like the Watch Hill or the Newport area. It's absolutely stunning. I've always wanted to go to Newport, Rhode Island. Ewan Harrison would love it. It's to me like...

The Hamptons. Like it's another version of the Hamptons, but bigger. It's, I think, just as bougie and nice. There's just a little bit more to do. Yeah, which is honestly cool. Guys, let's talk about O Positive, which is a women's health company. And they are offering a range of symptom targeting supplements that support women at every stage of life from their first period to well beyond their last. We're going to specifically talk about the Euro Vaginal Probiotic.

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Are like thinking of Right and you're like I know this for some reason Yeah Providence I went to this lunch Providence okay I went to this lunch Like two weeks ago And it was like a mom's lunch And I was sitting across from this girl And I'm like I know you from somewhere Like I think I did a Pilates class With you last week So I'm like talking to her And I'm like

do you do Pilates? And I'm like asking all these questions. And she's like, I just moved here. And I'm like, where'd you move from? She's like LA. And I'm like, cool. Like, where do you live here? And then we get this email today and it's like, photos are here. And like, as seen in this magazine. So I clicked the magazine and it's, it's the girl, Ashley, what's her last name? Ashley green from twilight. And I'm like, I knew I knew you. She was at the launch.

She was across from me at the lunch. And I'm like, God, you look familiar. Was it last week that I see you in Pilates? In her head, she's probably like, I get this all the time. She's like, bitch. Yeah, she's like, she's going to leave. She's going to see me on, she's going to hit her in the face. And I'm like, oh my God, that's where it's at. Because she's beautiful. Like, she looks famous. Yes. And I knew that. But then I was like, no, because like, it's not...

I don't mean it in like a way of I'm like where like how do I know you it was like my postpartum brain like doesn't have a lot of room and so I was like really struggling like trying to place her and then I was like I got this email this morning and I was like you've got to be kidding me of course is she is she does she live in Austin well she just moved here from LA a month ago

I mean, that is so funny because that would happen to you. I was asking her personal questions. I was like, we're all moms here. Obviously, it's fine. And then she's like, the photographer was taking so many photos of her. Makes sense. That is hilarious. I would die to know if there was any other huge names like there that you just didn't recognize. Probably. But the problem is these days, you recognize somebody...

Sometimes it's because you just saw a video of theirs, right? Sometimes it's... Sometimes I'm like, no, it's because I saw you at the coffee shop and I was behind you in line. Or sometimes it's because they were on your TV screen, but that was in high school. Like, so you're pulling from all these different parts of your brain. But with social media, it's like it literally could have been a video that I got served yesterday. You know what I mean? Like, it's all the same. Yeah, that is so funny. I would love to have just been sitting next to you being like...

Come on. Well, I texted the girl next to me, Sarah, and I was like, dude, I just placed her when we got the email. And she was like, the whole time I was also trying to place her. And I was like, okay, good. Because like, but it's funny. It's funny. Like Sarah and I's behavior at the lunch was very silly. Like it was very silly towards this girl. And I wonder if I would have known if it was her, if I would have been asking your last questions. Like I was asking her like, well, what street are you on? Like I looked at a house over there. Like what street? And I was like,

You probably wouldn't ask somebody that. I'm like, well, where do your kids go to school? And it's like, I'm asking her just like girl to girl to girl, right? And I think you have a different filter on when you know somebody's like super famous. And so... Oh, a thousand percent. I would be so scared to ask. Like, I wouldn't ask her any personal like where she lives questions. I'd be so scared. But I would have done the exact same thing that you did. But you would ask somebody that if you just thought we were just at a mom's lunch, right? Like...

We're all just trying to like figure out about each other. But that's what's funny about sometimes those influencer lunches are. It's like you could be beside just like, you know, a really sweet mom influencer or you could be beside the girl in Twilight. That is so funny. Do you have a rose? Yeah. So my rose is the organizers are back today. Okay. This time they ordered like a bunch. We're going like through the...

The part of the organizing process where you put like the Lucite box and you put the jewelry in it. And I am very excited about that part. So my Rose is like, I had an internal goal of getting organized and settled by like the middle of June. And I think I'm going to be actually a bit before that. And so...

I'm liking the organizing process so much more. Like I go in my room every night and I just light a candle and I'll like sit in my closet some and I'm just like getting settled is feeling like space in my brain and it's feeling a lot better than I remembered it would. So the organizers are back and I'm really excited about it. That's my rose. Also, you got a new car.

Yes, I got a new car. That's another rose of mine. I finally... Sharing a car was fun. It was great. But now having my own car, it is really... I'm so excited about it. She's so pretty. I love her so much. I stalked her yesterday with like... I cleaned... I was like, I'm going to put leather wipes in here. And I'm being like...

I mean, because I've never gone and bought myself a car. This is a first for me. Yeah. And it's huge. It's funny. Yeah. And it's like, I'm like, oh, that might smell. Don't want that. You know? And I'm like, wow. Since when do you care? But I do. Did you have that car in mind? Or like, did you go in not really knowing what you wanted? Well, I went in...

Kind of knowing ish like I had a top three and then we can walk to a lot of dealerships. So if if it's like three thirty and we're both like done for the day, we'll like walk over and we would just like walk the lots, which was really fun. And we went and we walked the lots a lot.

And so I was like keeping an eye on them and I was just like seeing what they had inventory wise because I didn't want to overcomplicate it and like pick out a car and then them not have it in stock and then we have to like get it from Dallas or Houston or something. So I was like, okay, I'll be, I'll just get the general idea. And then the other thing I didn't want to do was get like a massive car yet because I think I'm going to need a

Like I'll have to go up in size, you know, when I have two or three kids and then they have friends and you're doing like carpool pickup. Like right now I can have like a – I just have like a second row, right? I don't have a third row yet. And so my big thing was like don't jump to a third row yet. Also, how nice is it to have your – like you and Harrison now have your own car and not have to share one anymore. Yeah, it's great. Like –

Cause Austin is, is we're in a very walkable area, but you do need to drive a cup. Like there are some driving instances. So it's nice now just not having to be like, are you using the car? And so it's kind of like run free. Yeah. Or like if he's out or something and you have to like, you just want to like really run to the grocery store. You can just do that. Like that's the freedom is so great.

And it's funny too, like the closet. So New York closet versus like closets here. Right. And like my closet is technically a lot smaller than like my friends that live in, that live out further. Right. Cause like I'm in the city part of Austin. And so, but I'm like so thankful for this closet. Right. Cause like you gain the perspective, like New York to here. And then the other thing is going to the grocery store. Sometimes I'll be in there and I'll get the basket instead of the cart and

Because I'll get the basket to make sure I can carry my groceries because I'm trained to be like, well, if, cause I don't know about you, but I always get the, I always got the basket in New York. So if I could lift it, then I could carry it home. Also in New York, the grocery stores are too small and tight for carts, but in the, in like other places you can actually roll, like roll a cart down the aisle and not be like squished with 10 people. Yeah. Like,

You and I are reversed because we grew up in the Midwest and then we moved to New York. So like we grew up with the big shopping carts going to Target, putting it in the back of the car. And then we got to New York and like you have to adjust your mindset. I was thinking the other day about these kids that grow up in New York and then they go to like college in the Midwest. Like I had a guy that I went to college with. I loved him so much. Zach's story, he's the best, but he didn't have a license. And he grew up in New York City. He never got one when he went to college.

Well, no, he lives back in New York now. I wonder if he got a license. I need to ask him. But whenever we were in college, we drove everywhere. And Zach was always like, I don't have my license because he grew up in the city. That is wild. I never even thought about the licensing, but that probably happens to so many kids because I would assume most... Actually, I don't want to assume because I know a lot of New Yorkers who are born and raised will stay in New York. But being in your 20s and never having a license is wild. Yeah.

Yeah, but like think about it. I guess you guys are going to rent a car this weekend. And I guess some people have cars and they go. But like aside from renting a car, like you wouldn't need a license. Unless you go home, right? And you like take your parents' car. But other than that, like. When people ask me like what I miss the most about. They're like, what do you miss about Minnesota? And I go, targets and big grocery stores. Yeah.

No, I'm not even kidding you. They are. Have you ever been to an H-E-B? H-G-B? H-E-B, like Heb. No, what is that? It is. It's, I did not understand, but it is a very large grocery store here and it's unbelievable. It's unbelievable. Oh, it's probably like Publix in Florida or like Cub Foods in Minnesota. It's just like the big grocery stores where you can get everything and anything.

Yes, every single thing. And they're great. You know, they're like a happy place. I love them. I just like I was at a Target in New York yesterday. And I swear they have like 10 things of each like of inventory of each product. And I'm like, what is this? Like in Minnesota, they would have a whole row of inventory. The targets in New York City are which target were you at? I went to the Upper East Side one even like on 86th.

Yeah, that one's, like, the better of the options. But, like, they do not have the targets. They're not the same. Even the targets in Florida compared to Minnesota. Like, the targets in Florida are good, but Minnesota is the headquarters of targets. So, they have everything that comes first starts in the Minnesota target. So, like, one of our targets that was by my old apartment, which...

I took for granted. I literally lived walking distance from it. It had a liquor store inside of it. It had, it got the mini Ulta inside of it. It's a full grocery store. It's a full Target. Like you could live in that Target if you needed to. Okay. That's wow. I forgot that Minnesota is the headquarters and, and those ones, like we have the whole foods headquarters and like they really make those stores the best. Yeah. Shout out Knollwood, St. Louis park Target.

I would like to go to that, actually. Like, I would, like, if I went there, I would make a, I would, like, block out time to go to the Target. When I went back to Minnesota, oh, God, I don't even know when this was. Maybe over east or east.

One of my best friends still lives in Minnesota and she was like, what do you want to do? And I go, can you just take me to the Nolwood Target? Because we used to be roommates over there. I was like, can you just take me there and we can like walk around and buy some stuff? And she's like, sure. Oh, it's the best. Just like a Target lap. Yes. And we just got like little things. Oh, it's truly, I mean, and then what was I going to say about, oh, so yeah.

I don't know if this is real, but are super targets actually a thing? So super targets used to be a thing back in Minnesota, but then they may... I don't know if this is the same for outside of Minnesota, but they turned every target into a super target in Minnesota. It just meant that if it was a super target, it would have a grocery store in it. But now all the targets in Minnesota have grocery stores in it. So essentially, they're all super targets. Okay, there's one here that I don't think is a super target. Or it's like a super...

No, I actually don't think it's a super target. So super targets must be a thing. Yeah. I mean, they like they specifically when I was growing up had its own name because there were so many targets that were just the store. But then there was only a few super targets that had a grocery store. So like my mom would specify like we're going to super target so we can grocery shop and buy like the necessities. I think targets are the best stores. And I remember when we got one in Northfield, I was like, this is awesome.

They are awesome. And that whenever I see that red dot, I'm always like, I just want to go. I don't even care what I don't need anything, but I want to go there. I think my future home needs to be within like a 10 mile radius of a target. Also, I just won't move there.

Yeah, I think that's a good thing to do because I'm not as close to them as I would like to be. But they are. I do think like at least look up what groceries like I'm really close to some good grocery stores. And so I think that's at least nice. But like the shopping experience of wherever your next home is, is important. Yeah. Yeah.

I feel like when in New York, I always was like grocery store gym because you have to walk everywhere. But in my future life, it'll be Target. Mean Girl is sponsored by BetterHelp. And you guys, one thing we're going to talk about today is men.

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Speaking of gyms, is Equinox now not letting you have phones in? You know how Soho House does no photos? I heard yesterday Equinox is doing the same thing. Oh, I don't know. I don't go to Equinox, but I wouldn't be surprised. I feel like...

Like, no. Oh, in the dressing room. In the dressing room. Which I think is good because I heard a story yesterday from somebody we were at lunch with. And she was saying she was in the dressing room at our hotel gym maybe. And there was, like, girls making content in there. And, like, she wanted to change. Ew. And she was like, sorry, like, do you mind if I change? And they were like, just give us a second. Like, we're almost done. And she was like, okay. Like, that's. She was like, whatever. But.

I do think that that could be a good rule in the dressing rooms of like no no phones no photos thousand percent I always thought that was like a law like every gym I've been to there's always been signs like no phones allowed I truly think that

influencers or anyone because now I see everyone doing this should not be able to film workout classes or in any private area unless they get consent from everyone because I saw this video of this girl and she's not an influencer she's just a regular girl and she was like so I got on TikTok today and I was scrolling and I saw myself working out and

And she was like, that wasn't a pretty sight to see. I guess there was an influence influencer in the class filming. She didn't ask if it was OK. My face and body was just like plastered all over TikTok with like a high viewed video. And she was just like pissed off. And I was like, I respect you being pissed off. Yeah, that's it's really, really, really tough. Like you do.

You know? Like, I'm not perfect at it by any means, but I do always try... I don't film workout classes, right? But, like, I was at lunch the other day, and I was like, you have to really look at who's behind you. Like, you don't want to catch somebody eating or something like that because it's not fair to them. Yeah, I more so mean, like, just vulnerable places like the gym. Like, I mean, like, I...

I make videos and I don't want, I don't want myself in anyone's workout video. Like that's not a time where I'm thinking about my body. The workout is the one place. The workout is the one place. I agree. I think like the restaurants, it's kind of like this day and age. There's a lot going on. But the workout classes, it's, yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, it's tough. The locker room thing shocks me. I can't believe girls were filming and the girl was like, hey, I want to change in like one second. We're almost done. I would have been like, no, you're done now. Like,

I'm going to take my top off. Yeah, let me change. Yeah. Well, now that I'm thinking about it, that Greenwich Equinox had no phone signs in the locker room. And I always remember being paranoid to even take my phone out to look at my text messages because I just didn't want anybody to ever think. Or I remember, I feel like growing up, I always had those signs. And I remember I would want to take those gym selfies and I would be scared to take out my phone. I'd be like, is anyone looking? And snap a picture because I was like, I don't want to get in trouble.

And I think that because like people being naked in there, you know, you shower and you're like you walk around. So I do think like I'm with you. I think that should have been a policy a long time ago. Yeah. The gym I go to there's naked women everywhere. Like you can't get around it. The gym I go to. Yeah. Right. Like

But as there should be. Yeah. Like that's a safe space. Like you're in a private room where women are getting ready and showering and changing. And it's just like, you don't need to make content in a freaking dressing room, but, um, or locker room. But I don't go, I don't know if like, if Equinox has changed that, but yeah, I just assumed it was a, an unwritten law essentially. Yeah. Yeah. I, I agree. Okay. What's your rose?

So my rose was or is that I'm going to Montauk this weekend because you know me. I just loved getting out of the city any chance I get. Dead. My rose is that I'm leaving despite the weather. The drive will be fun. What day are you guys driving? Friday morning. Okay. Okay. So the drive will be fun, and I think beaches are fun even with sweatshirts. Well, and like the Hamptons is just – it's a very –

I don't care what anyone says. Actually, I think a lot of people agree with me. It's a very magical place. Like, it's so beautiful. And, like, you kind of just get to live, like, a fantasy there because, like, everyone is just, like, bougie and beautiful. And you just, like, I don't know. It's fun to, like, act like the rich and famous. And I feel like the Hamptons is that place where everyone is just, like, glamorous and beautiful.

They're beautiful. And it's the Hamptons for the, like the Hamptons became the Hamptons for a reason. And it's, it's one thing that always surprised me about it was it's truly jaw dropping, beautiful. Like you could see those, those fields. Oh my God. You get beach, but you get those rolling, beautiful green fields. It's breathtaking. It's in like, there's nothing I love more than like a little town, uh,

With like a good coffee shop or like a good lunch spot and just walking around in like window shop. And I feel like that's like the Hamptons in a nutshell. Like I think I went to... I think it's East Hampton I went to for the first time last summer. And I love that little town. It's such a great town. That little strip, you could just walk up and down and shop. It's great. Yeah. I just...

I love bougie and the Hamptons are bougie. Yeah, they really are. And I love Southampton too. I don't think I've been to Southampton. I think I've only been to East and Montauk. I think I'm 90% sure it was East. I've definitely not been to West, but I don't think I've been to South either. Is that all of them? And I guess Bridgehampton if you count it. Oh yeah. And isn't Snug Harbor? Sag Harbor. Sag Harbor.

Yeah. There's so many cool little places. Yeah. It's a really good rose. It's going to be a blast. Speaking of rich and famous, did you see all the stuff with Hailey Bieber being on Vogue? Yes. With Justin's comment. Did you see his comment? Yes. Yes.

Okay, I'm going to read it just in case we have anyone who did not see it because he did remove it, by the way, but obviously the whole world has screenshots. Oh, he did. Yeah, now it's just like, I'm pretty sure now it's just emojis, but will you look when I read this what the new caption is?

Yeah, I'd love to. Okay, so Hailey Bieber got on the cover of Vogue and Justin Bieber posted a picture of the cover to Instagram and his original OG caption was, Yo, this reminds me when Hailey and I got into a huge fight. I told Hales that she would never be on the cover of Vogue. Yikes, I know. So mean. For some reason, because I felt so disrespected, I thought I got to get even.

I think as we mature, we realize that we're not helping anything by getting even. We're honestly just prolonging what we really want, which is intimacy and connection. So baby, you already know, but forgive me for saying you would never get a Vogue cover because clearly I was sadly mistaken.

It's like the call does not need to come from inside the house, Justin. Like, what? What do you mean? I'm so sad. Sadly mistaken. You should be gladly mistaken. I'm so sad about this caption. Okay, the new one is the shrug emoji. The guy shrugging the finger point at you. The heart hands and the sad watery face. Like, I'm about to cry. And the most liked comments are...

This one's so good. Is it too late now to say sorry? That's funny. That's a good one. And then there's the Jonah Hill, like this, this like emoji going on where he's like, uh-uh, not good. And then not him changing the caption has the most likes. But is it too late now to say sorry is so funny. Like, I know there's a lot of questioning of what's happening between their relationship and like,

We never want to assume, but like when you see something public like that, you're like, what the heck? Well, I just don't get why he did it. Like when people are starting to, you know, people have got their eyes on him right now. And then to go and post that, I just, I was so sad for her because I can't imagine anyone

Like okay I also feel for them In the sense of like They have a newborn baby Yeah And so There's a lot of change That comes with that And so I see like It's hard You know So I want to like Give my love to them On one hand Because On all hands Because I see how hard It could be But like I can't imagine The setting of the fight

And I guess she said that she apparently cover a cover of Vogue is obviously a dream of hers. And then for him to say you'll never be on the cover of Vogue is like so mean. So mean. Because when you're Hailey Bieber, that's like I would I would assume that's like me being like.

I want a million followers. Like for me to be like, I want a million followers on TikTok. Like that's how close those dreams are. Like Hailey Bieber is Hailey Bieber in Vogue and like me being a content creator and then Pete being like, you'll never get that many followers. It's like, why would you just like pick the one, you know, like a specific dream? Right? Like I just can't imagine ever having a partner who would say something that mean to you. To say it.

And then for it to happen and then to write that caption like,

Did he run it by anybody? Did she see it and then be like, hey, Justin, could you take it down? Because he just took her moment, which was like really awesome. And then he made it about himself. I didn't even think about that. He definitely did. And I feel like Haley can never catch a break. And I love Haley. I love road. I love Haley. And I feel like she gets ripped down by every accomplished, every accomplished accomplishment she gets. Someone just tries to take it from her.

And you're so right. Justin just did that. Like, I'm not even thinking about her being on Vogue. I'm thinking about his comment. Me too. I haven't even, you know what I've read a couple times is the caption because I've seen some videos on it. I actually hadn't seen the cover till I just went and looked at the caption. Same. I didn't look at the cover until people were freaking out about the caption. And then I just like quick glance at the cover. But I was like zoned in on the caption. The other funny thing is I know this Vogue thing.

I know the Vogue, like being on the cover of Vogue is massive, but it's so funny because I guess this must be her first one. I would have thought she had been on it multiple times. Same. A thousand percent. Let's do this. Let's see who has the most Vogue covers. I mean, I remember when Kim Kardashian got on Vogue and like how big of a deal it was. Like, I think I remember that. I think it's most people's dream.

Lauren Hutton has the most Vogue covers with 40 covers. Who's that? She also holds the record for most American covers with 26. Okay, wait. Within the big four. Okay, this is interesting. Within the big four Vogue, so American, British, French, and Italian Vogue combined, Kate Moss has the most covers with 78. Okay, Kate Moss, I totally believe that.

Wait, now that I think about it, was Kim Kardashian on American Vogue or Italian Vogue? American. Okay. Oh, okay. I see you right here. Yeah. She was on Vogue, I think, a couple times because she did Vogue with Kanye when they were getting married. And then she has a few iconic photo shoots. Okay, wait. So Giselle, Rihanna has 30. Yeah.

Oh. And I guess Bella Hadid, but they're not giving me the actual. So actually Vogue in general with the most Vogue covers worldwide is Kate Moss. Okay. That makes sense. Cause Kate Moss is like one of the most famous models of ever. How many Vogue covers are there? 28 international editions. I mean, it's really, really, really cool. She's so pretty. Yeah. She 78 is a lot. That's insane. Well,

What was I I was gonna say something about Oh Kim K Did you see she graduated law school She did Yes and she had like an at home graduation Which is really cool Oh I love that Kim K is just thriving Yeah

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And Kris Jenner aged backwards. Have you seen her? Everyone's freaking out about. Yes. What? What? Like, so what happens in this scenario is what I'm wondering. Like, I assume we had some work done. Maybe not, Kris. If it's natural, more power to you. But if she had work done, also equal amount of power to you because I think both are great. But did do they go off the grid for like a couple of months and then come back?

Post old photos. I don't know. My theory is that there must be this like one doctor who is like really good at a certain type of work that is like changing people's faces. Like we have Lindsay Lohan, Katy Perry, Kris Jenner, like only a few where they look better because usually when people get a massive work done, especially unfortunately like at Kris's age, just because like that's how aging works. You don't usually look better. No, she looks better. And I'm like, how do you look better?

She looks unbelievable. She looks like Kim. Unbelievable. I was like, whoa. So she could get away with it, though. Like, she could have to heal for three months and do it. Yeah. She could post old photos. And she usually posts what the girls are up to. So, like, she could keep doing that. And, like, you wouldn't really see her face much. And, like, it would work. I mean, she looks. So I don't really think I followed the Katy Perry thing.

Also, her hair, her new hairstyle. I mean, I would like to see her new look with her old hairstyle because I think the new hairstyle very much makes her look younger. But she just looks, she's beautiful. This, yeah, okay. So her face. What all did she do? Which one? Sorry, Chris. Okay, so there was like a ton of TikTok comments of people being like,

I forgot the name of it, but it's like a specific type of facelift. And like this one person, and I just like believe this comment, I don't know why, but they're like, it's a XYZ facelift and like only 1% of doctors know how to do it correctly. And that's what she got. And I was like, I find that to be believable. Yeah.

Totally. And if anyone's going to find that doctor that knows how to do it, it's going to be our girl, Chris. I mean, no question. Exactly. But I was just like, dang, she looked, I didn't know if someone could like, just look better. Like she just, she's aging like fine wine. I mean, she just, I don't, I just went and looked at the photo. It's funny. Like,

Right. Also, also like some, some mouth situation. But that was like Lindsay Lohan too. Like she, I mean, she was beautiful, but then she went through a rough patch and now she is stunning. And I'm like, what the heck? Now her doctor, I thought was the, was the girl in Dubai. And I thought they had done of, I thought we knew that doctor's name. Oh, maybe. Cause isn't she married to a man from Dubai? Yeah.

I believe her husband's from Dubai. Yes. Yes. Getting a yes. Yeah. That's interesting. Yeah. I mean, she looks great. Oh, they should just... You know what? The glow-ups. Right? Also, I had, like, a really good transition, but then we got...

We got on a tangent about other things, but I was going to say, speaking of stealing people's days that Justin did to Haley, we should, we're going to circle back because, so last week Alex and I talked about people stealing other people's big moments, mainly having to do with weddings, like people proposing during other people's weddings. And we had a decent amount of number of people DMing us being like,

oh yeah that happened at mine and that's fine or oh my god I saw that and it was so awkward so we have a few listener submissions of people talking about when other people stole a day and we're gonna read them because they're like very interesting okay um ready for number one yes

Proposal at a wedding. I actually offered my brother to propose to his girlfriend at my wedding. I was married before and got divorced, so it was my second wedding, but I wanted everyone to celebrate happiness. I know I sound crazy, but I genuinely don't care. Do you want to know what changed this one for me? The second marriage? Yes. You know, she's a great person. Could never be me. I like... No.

I don't care if it's my fifth marriage. No one's getting engaged at my wedding. I really get this on the second wedding. And I think what happened was all of her family probably came. So they were all in one place. And...

I do understand that. And I guess too, at least it was the brother. Like I respect a relative more than like a friend. And that's actually a good point. Like if everyone's in one place and maybe family doesn't get together that often and she wants, she's a, she's a good person for being okay with this.

Yeah and I think it's cute I like this I like this wording of it too I offered he didn't ask She offered and I like to think I like to think he said no no no And she kept offering offering offering and then he said Okay That's exactly how it played out in my head too Yeah I'm like he obviously kept declining And then she obviously kept making a case for it They're best friends and it's actually Really sweet oh I love that that's so Funny um I think that's the Only positive one

So we'll read the second one. So the second one says, wedding announcement date combo. I'm listening to your pod right now about weddings and stealing someone's day. My cousin was always like a sister to me and we were super close, but she was one of those... Here, I need to put my computer close to me because I'm quite literally blind.

My cousin was always like a sister to me, and we were super close, but she's one of those people to steal your special day. I found out after my wedding that she told my sister and a lot of my friends, I can't wait to not be here. I'm over this. Which, thankfully, I never heard on my day, but still, how shitty. She has zero ability to be happy for someone. I think she's because...

She has zero ability to be happy for someone. Oh, because she's so mad it's not her day. She was even engaged at the same time, so it's not like she was competing with me. Or she wasn't even engaged at the same time, so it's not like she was competing with me. Fast forward, she got married, and not only did she not include me as a bridesmaid or anything, I drove eight hours to be there at five weeks pregnant and woke up on her wedding day, oh, with a miscarriage. Wow. I was forced to tell my parents what was going on.

When we had not told a soul yet, and I still went to her wedding that day. We haven't spoken since. Moral of the story, I was willing to sacrifice so much for her, and she never even knew. No one did but my mom, dad, sister, and husband, but she stole my day. People suck. Oh, that one is so sad. Also, one, that it's her cousin, and two, that she told the bride's sister that she didn't want to be here. Why would you ever say that?

Yeah. I mean, like, that's not... That's just... This is just a really, really, really sad one for the girl that wrote in. And I'm sad that she stole her day. But I do think, like... I think, like, that's just a negative person. Like, inherently. You know what I mean? Like, that's... There's, like, a tinge of jealousy sounding. And, like, the rest of it is just, like... That's just bad energy. Completely agree. I completely agree. But it's... But that's really sad. But...

Better to see somebody's true colors and then not. I mean, I get it right there. You were willing to sacrifice so much for her and she even knew, but, and she never even knew like, oh, brutal. I mean like the moral, she said moral of the story. People suck. Also like it sucks that you had to learn the hard way, but it sounds nice that you got her out of your life. Yeah. Better to learn. Totally agree.

Okay, number three, listening to the pod about the proposals at weddings. I used to be a wedding planner and watched these proposals happen far too often. Oh, I love a wedding planner writing in.

That sounded bad. The bride and groom were typically in on it. However, the most awkward one was a Monday wedding during the dancing towards the end of the evening. A couple that was not very close to the bride and groom asked his girlfriend to marry him in front of everyone. Pretty sure the guy had way too much to drink and the girl was not expecting it and looked like she wanted to say no. It was awkward for everybody in the room. Oh, God.

My gosh. I would be so mad as the bride and also as the girl who was proposed to because she probably was like, where is this coming from? This is not the time or place. And like you can't undo it. No. Like you can't just like text everyone that was at the dinner and like apologize. Like it's somebody's wedding day. That is horrible.

Yeah. No. I mean, I would love to be a wedding planner, like fly on the wall seeing these things happen, but I'd be so pissed. Like, because one, I mean, that's your wedding day too. Like if you're the girl, you're really in a, in between a rock and a hard spot because you have to like, I wonder, I wonder if the couple getting married was his friend or her friend. Do you know what I mean? Like I've,

I don't know. That's a good, cause that like definitely changes things. Like who's this guy? Is he more of the bride or the groom side? Yeah. Is he the bride or the groom side? And like, is he a guest of somebody who's really close with him? Or like, is it his friend that's getting married? Like, so, oh gosh, I don't know. But that is, I cannot believe this wedding planner said though, it happens far too often. Right. I know. I like, and after seeing these messages be sent to us, I'm like, it's common.

That's so wild. Oh my gosh. Okay, number four. This is a baby shower one. At my baby shower for my first child, my sister-in-law announced she was pregnant, then proudly told everyone she probably took the spotlight from our day. Can you imagine like someone doing that and then like being, they're also like aware that they did that and are okay with it? Like, I just, I always think,

I'm reading this book right now. And yesterday's chapter, he says, keep repeating to yourself, it's not about you. And it's like, show up with that energy, right? To like, show up with energy of like, don't walk in the room and like, who's here to see me? But like, who are you there to see? Yeah. Like, who can you go say hi to? And like, offer, like... And I just...

If you have to wonder, don't do it. Right. Like err on the side of humility and like this is just not that. Oh, man. Well, also to like there are some people who physically cannot handle the attention not being on them and cannot handle a day being about somebody else. And like that's that's sick. That's how people's minds work.

Yeah. I mean, this one's so simple. You just announce it the next day. You literally wait less than 24 hours. You can wait 12 and just do it. And then she goes, probably took your day. Whoops. It's like, yeah, there's the door sis. I mean like, yeah, you did take her day. That's so sad. Yeah. Okay. One more. Oh, this one's sad. Okay. Sorry.

Okay, one more. My mom was a disaster on my wedding day. She was a crying mess, complained about the hair and makeup schedule, made not one but two divorce jokes. The first one was while my dad and I were waiting to walk out.

The coordinator had her line up to walk down the aisle and she didn't like my alone time with my dad. The second one was at the altar. I had her stand up with us. We practiced the line we do several times the night before and the day of. She accidentally messed it up

and said something along the lines of, "We couldn't get things right the first time either." Oh my gosh, in regarding to her divorce from my dad. Then during his speech, she was hammered, stood in the middle of the dance floor with what I describe as a praise Jesus arm gestures as my dad was delivering the toast.

Everyone else was seated. Two days later, my aunt tagged me in pictures from the wedding. I get a nasty message from my stepdad talking about nice pictures. You know your mom was there too, right? Because posted those pictures and intentionally left her out. I did no such thing.

Sad. It wasn't, but wild turn of events at the end. Yeah.

No, I think the mom felt awkward because she had been divorced. That's why you make jokes about it. And she was projecting that onto her daughter's wedding day. 100%. I think that, like, speeches at weddings should be banished because...

Let me tell you, I've never, maybe I've been to one, but none that I can remember where I'm like, that was such a lovely speech. Every wedding I've been to, I'm like, oh my God. And it's usually like the dad or the mom hammered making these speeches. And I'm just like, oh my God, this is so awkward. They're really drunk. This has been going on for 30 minutes. Like they need to, the mic needs to be taken away.

Really? I've heard some really good ones. Yes. Like there was a few weddings I've been to and it's probably because I, I, and I only can remember this past year. Um, and there was one where the, the one, the mic was so bad. The guy wasn't drunk. The mic was just so poor and he talked for like 30 minutes and everyone was like, what is he even saying? And then this other one I went to, um, they were just hammered and like, it was so awkward.

It's so bad when they get too drunk. I, I, but I, I have been to some weddings recently where the speeches were honestly, some of them were, they were phenomenal. Oh, that's good. Was it the parents or the bridesmaids or the maid of honor groomsmen? There were both, both. But the one I went to recently, um, in Aspen, some of the, the, the father's speeches were phenomenal. And then the,

The groomsmen. I mean, there was just some where you're just like laughing out loud. I'm like, these people are great public speakers. Oh, yeah. I like hope that I'm never someone's like traditional maid of honor because...

I'm not good at public speaking when I have to read. You're like, I don't want to do it. I'm like, I can't read. I also, I also think that the part where she says was my mom's behavior, a bad omen. I think so. I don't think so at all. I think that it's like we talked about last week. Nobody can take anything away from you except for you. And like,

So that I don't think the bad omen is a thing. I think that that's just a card you were dealt. But I don't think it was like an omen. No, I completely agree. But yeah, these were sad. I was like shocked by getting these responses and especially people being like, oh, yeah, this proposal happened at this wedding. Yeah, that happened at that wedding. And I'm like, what the heck is going through people's heads? Yeah. Like, oh, it's really sad.

Oh damn it makes me sad I can't I actually can't wait those are good though those are good submissions um I'm really sorry I do see a lot of parent at wedding I could see how that or like the mother wearing a white or the mother-in-law wearing white I do see that stuff happen sometimes it's crazy oh my god I can't even imagine um should we quick do our recs

Yes, let's do them. What's yours? Okay, so first I have to ask, have you started Secret Lives of Mormon Wives season two? Yes, I've started it. Have you? Not yet, but I've heard it's like very dramatic. Is it good? It's really, really, really good. I just, it's tough because I follow these girls and they're already posting like where they're at now.

So like I have one spoiler, which I'm like, oh, I really, really didn't want that spoiler. But I'm not even going to tell you because maybe you don't know it yet. But I am a bit bummed. But I am watching it just because I like love I like love watching them and seeing what's going on. Yeah. The thing that blows my mind the most is like who likes who what day. It's like last season. These girls are best friends. Now some of them hate each other. I'm like, what's going on?

Yeah it's like It's fascinating to follow I do just I don't love Reality TV And I love this show Same I love it I don't like reality TV either But it's the only reality show That I really enjoyed Well and I think The thing about it is They do a really good job Of

It's the first kind of like reverse of like if somebody goes on some reality show and then from there they learn social media where this is the reverse. Like these girls are good at social. Yeah. They had created a mini reality show so they know how to keep it alive whenever their season's not airing. And I'm like really enjoying the full circle picture. That's a really good point. And then I have another question. Have you ever heard of the show Nine Perfect Strangers? No. So...

season one it's with Nicole Kidman of course but um season one came out in 2021 and I thought it was a limited series then it was going to be done all of a sudden they're announcing that season two came out and I'm like wait a second which I'm excited because I really like season one but I was like I thought this was a limited series and also like why are you guys coming out this show three years later yeah or four years later sorry that's

So is it so have you watched it? No I'm going to um it just came out yesterday. Are you up to date on our friends and neighbors? Yes I am and I freaking love that show. I'm one episode behind don't tell me don't tell me I'm one I'm like one week behind but I'm excited to watch it um. Okay but I my actual rec this week those are just two questions I had for you um is the show overcompensated? I don't know if you've seen any advertisements for that show?

No. It's with Benito Skinner. I think that's his name. He's a comedian. He's also pretty famous on TikTok. But he wrote and produced this show. And it's essentially about a guy who grew up in the Midwest who is closeted, goes to college, and he's just trying to figure out how to come out because he doesn't feel like anyone around him would accept him if they knew he was gay. But it was...

so funny I was laughing out loud every episode I finished it in like two days um and I just thought the cast had like such great chemistry and it was so funny that I I'm looking this up I would like to see this it's very light-hearted like the way I just said that it sounds like it'd be a serious show but it's it's not it's like very funny like that like

That like very Gen Z. Gen Z. Sense of humor. And it has like. The craziest cameos. Like. What's her face. From Friday Night Lights. Bonnie. Or Connie. Bonnie.

Britain. She's in it. The guy from Desperate Housewives. I forgot his name. He's the dad. That's funny. But then you have like Kaya Gerber randomly in it. You have Charlie XCX make a cameo. Megan Fox makes a cameo. You have the guy from White Lotus season two in it. It's just like a random assortment of people, but they all just mix so well together. Okay. I like when people do the random cameos. It's hilarious. Like I was laughing out loud.

Okay I would like to try that That sounds like A really good one And they're easy They're like 30 minutes 30 minute episodes Those are the best I could just put those on While I'm like Doing something Okay my rec is So remember the guy Arthur C. Brooks That I talked about Who wrote the book With Oprah Yes So

So I was listening to something that his and her show had on and they were like, we interviewed Arthur C. Brooks. And so I was like, okay, I want to listen. I guess it's not out yet. So then I found he has a podcast himself called The Art of Happiness. And like all this guy does, he's not telling you how to be happier. Okay. That's because he's like, you basically can't do that. And the reason he studies happiness is because like he himself, he's like, I have really sad days.

And so he's dedicated his life to like the study, like how your neurons fire in your brain. And so he's got his own podcast called the art of happiness where he basically breaks down everything that he studies. And they're just like, if this is for you of, of not how this is the best I can explain it, not, not just automatically be joyful, but the reason why,

So is it more scientific or...

It's like a blend. It's a blend. I can read you like some of the, it's, it's basically a blend. I would recommend though, doing it this way. Read the book with that him and Oprah did is the first step I would do. Okay. Because that'll, that'll even tell you if you like him. Okay. Because he's a little, he's like a little, not textbooky. Preachy? Not preachy.

Like a little, a little science-y is the word. Yeah. And all of his episodes are old. Like he hasn't recorded an episode in a long time, but like it's all everything that he has in there I thought was really good. So just a little tidbit, but I recommend, I recommend starting with the book. Okay. Perfect. I'm still waiting for the day you bring a fiction book or a nonfiction book. Somebody, somebody recommended a nonfiction book to me the other day and I thought maybe, but still no. Do you remember the name?

No I'm trying to think of what it was But I just thought I could possibly read that But like I probably won't I would love I would just love to see you read another one Well I tried I tried one What was that one I tried? People we meet on vacation Yeah I just like It was okay It was like I didn't hate it But I'm just like I can't It's not like I'm dying to pick it up Yeah

No I get that And if you aren't dying to pick up a book It's really hard to read a book physically It's so hard to read it So it's like I'm not doing it right now I'm also loving this Bob Goff book Becoming Love It's really good Oh I know I mentioned it last week But like it's really good Oh I love that Okay amazing Well those are some good recs To get you through the Memorial Weekend Or actually Memorial Weekend will be done By the time this episode comes out

But into summer, now that we've had Memorial Weekend, you could read these books. Yes. And let me know next week if you start overcompensated. I want to hear your thoughts. Yeah, I will. I...

I need to get a TV downstairs in the kitchen where I can see it and then I'll do that. Okay, perfect. It's a whole story. Okay, well, we love you guys so much and we hope you had and are currently having a great Memorial weekend, I guess because it's Monday. Yeah, it's good to start the summer. It's really exciting. It is and we will see you next time.

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