Long distance friendships, high end toilet paper & sleeping in separate rooms than your partner
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Have you ever tried your breast milk? Like, kind of. Is it good? It tastes like really, um, watered down almond milk. Like, what is the shipping on this? Five days? Like, I can't wait five days. I can't either. I will even door dash to the toilet paper. Would you ever sleep in a different room or bed than Harrison? Literally never, would you? No. Welcome back to another episode of Mean Girl Pod.

Are we matching again? You're more orange, I think. Are those orange? Yeah, like a coral color. Yeah, I see. Yeah, it's giving coral. We're kind of on the same wavelength. Yeah, I'm erroring red. Okay. Like if pink is the base, I think I go red. I think you go orange coral. You're matching your water bottle. Did you mean to do that?

I actually did it. That's so funny. I swear. I mean, I would say I have multiple to pick from every day, but this is the only water bottle I own.

I'm dying to know about this Americano like coconut situation. I just, I have to know what's happening and how do they get the brown part on top? Oh yes. But I did want to quick say, um, you'd be proud of me when I was getting my nails done and she asked if I like the color. I did say, let me think about it for a second. Cause I don't know if I like it. I know. I was like, whoa. And then did you change or did you keep it? Nah, I kept it. Okay.

Okay. I need to know the update of the day that one of us goes and we say, I actually don't like that color. Because I, I don't know, I like figured, I don't know, I didn't love it at first, but then I was like, wait, this will be fun in the sun. And I feel like it's bright and different for spring. So I was like, F it. I'm just going to go with it.

Oh, I love the color. It's also different. It's not something that I've seen lately. Yeah, I really like it. But okay, yes. On to the coconut water Americano. So on TikTok, this girl posted this drink. So I was like, obviously, I have to try it. And the place is called Rhythms Zero. It's in West Village. And it's actually by St. Theo's in West Village. Okay.

Oh, great location. Yeah. And what it is, it's a... Bleaker? Oh, sorry. I thought someone said something. It's a coconut Americano. So the bottom part was like sparkling coconut water or their coconut water. I assume it was... Actually, I don't know if it was sparkling. It was just their coconut water they sell. And then on top, it was just an Americano frothed. Okay. And then what?

That was it. And then I just like shook it together and it was so good. I think it just like the way that they do it is they lay the froth on top. So it doesn't like mix in unless you're mixing it. But that's it. It's like a shot of frothy espresso on top of coconut water.

Okay, I saw the mixing, but I couldn't tell if they gave you the Americano in like a plastic, you know, like in yogurt when they put the granola and it's like in a plastic thing. And I didn't know. And then you dumped it. So it just sits on there. Yeah, it just sits on there. And I think it's probably it's not oil and vinegar, but it's similar where like it doesn't just like soak into it. Like I really had to like shake it. And then and then it was do we need to try it at home?

I don't know if I could make it at home because I don't have an espresso machine. Like, cause you need like a true Americano espresso machine to make like that froth. I also have no idea how they frothed it so nicely. Yeah. I wonder how they're doing it. It didn't look really good. I mean, it took a long time to make, like in a sense of making a coffee drink. So it was a process. Yeah.

Was the line long? No, it was just me. I went at like a very weird time on like a Tuesday. So I just walked in and I got it. But like one of the best drinks, like I would... Unfortunately, it's a little inconvenient for me to get to, but it's a place that if it was next to me, I would get like every day. What was the coffee trend last year? Or was it two years ago? You went. I never went. Oh, like the...

The shop, the coffee shop. Are you saying more so? Weren't they making some kind of coffee? It was some spin on coffee, remember? And you went, but I never went. What was it? Last year? Or maybe it was two years ago? Oh my god, that's going to drive me insane. Something like a bottle or... Do you know what I'm talking about? Was it like a milk, like a froth type of drink? Or...

No, it was some like buzzy and everyone was going to try it. Oh, are you talking about the coffee that was in like a glass, like a plastic bottle? Yes. The coffee that destroyed my stomach? Yes, this one. What was that? So that is, it's not think coffee. It's like, it was right by the office. It was like...

something coffee, but all their coffee comes in like these customized like plastic clear containers. Yes, exactly. It was just a regular coffee. It was just like a, I think it was like a chocolate cappuccino, but they gave me regular milk instead of oat milk. Tasted delicious, but oh my God, that like destroyed me. That was like three years ago.

Oh, but I always... You know what I was thinking? I was thinking every time... I was like, oh, every year... Every time of year, this time. This time of year, every year, there's a new coffee trend, but I guess not. No, I feel like there is, and it's usually...

The way that they present the coffee is the trend, I feel like, versus the coffee itself. Because in New York, it's always like these cool cups or this or that, which I guess at this point, since every coffee's been made, that's like all you really have. But then all of a sudden, I saw coconut water in coffee, and I was like, that looks incredible. I think coconut's having a moment because I just got almond butter with coconut infused in it somehow. I didn't order it. It just came to the door, but...

Oh, this is what I wanted to say about your coffee, though. It sounds super hydrating. Even though coffee dehydrates you, does this cancel each other out? So I'm going to be very honest with you. And the rest of the day, I had really bad gas pains. And the only thing I could contribute it to is the coffee. I don't know if it was because I had coffee at like

two in the afternoon and maybe my stomach was just like whoa or because it was like my third cup or because it was a mixture of the coconut and the espresso but I mean it won't stop me from getting it again but like my stomach was very had like the pains throughout the day

Oh, that's so sad to hear. I do think that since it's down, I think that's bleaker, right? Is that where St. Theo's is? Yeah. Then you could, you should go down there for like a Saturday. You and Pete and you could get one, like walk around. That sounds like a fun activity. I know I told him, I was like, can you, what? Who is? Oh, did you know that, J-Dub? Wait, why are they closed?

What? Oh, I need to say in the mic. They're close. Okay, we're just getting from P and Jules that they're closed for the next 30 days. Why? Breaking news. Oh, well, juicy. What's the place called? Let's Google it. Rhythm Zero. Are you guys messing with me right now? I know you think that everyone is because it was April Fool's Day, but I don't think that they... Rhythm Zero, NYC. I was literally just there on Tuesday. Okay, let's see. It's Wednesday. FYI.

yeah not people are tag tagging them it seems business as usual was it on Hallie Kate's TikTok yesterday guys like did she try to go no I think it's an April Fool's joke it was yesterday Hallie Kate Hallie Kate went and tried to try it but there was a sign on the door that said it was closed for 30 days I think that was an April Fool's joke right

It's closed for cleaning and renovations. They're on their story today. They're acting like it's not closed. Okay. This is a topic that I would like to discuss, though. I hate... I used to love April Fool's Day. I hated it this year. I'm... Okay, also, that's so funny if Hallie did go because I just posted that. I just went to a coffee shop that she recommended today. Okay.

Oh, really? That's so funny. I went to Mamon and I got their salted tahini, salted honeycomb, sorry, salted tahini honeycomb latte because she recommended it. So if she went to a place because she saw my video, that'd be funny. Well, let's see where her viral coffee. I'm walking. Thank you.

Oh, so they did. Okay, they are actually closed. Okay, Priscilla found the comment back from them saying that she said, sorry, Queen, we're still open in Greenpoint. We'll be back in the West Village at the end of April. Oh, wow. I can't believe you went the day before. I mean, that is some pure luck because I literally was just there.

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Before we do our roses and thorns, I would love to jump to the skinny confidentials toilet paper because that I could not tell if that was an April Fool's joke or if that was for real. She doesn't seem like the kind that would joke. So I know it's real now. No, like literally I was talking to Priscilla this morning and her and I were doing our research to validate that that is a very real product.

She her brain like if she did an April Fool's joke I would be flabbergasted because her that's not really her brand right so the toilet paper like it put my brain in a pretzel it's just a product I never thought someone would try to make beautiful if that makes sense.

Right. The pink like tag on it. And so how much is it for? What's the price? Charmin, I think, is like $15.99 for 12. Yeah. So I have it up on Amazon. And okay. So sorry. This is 24 pieces of toilet paper. Ooh, I don't. Six is $7.99. So that would probably. What do you say?

I think, yeah, I think $12 is $15.99 makes sense from Target. Okay. So that's like Charmin, which is, I would say, like the highest and comfiest toilet paper you can get. Mm-hmm. Yeah. And then hers is what for 12 rolls? $33. Okay. And if you subscribe, it's $28. Oh, I love it. I do love it. Now, toilet paper is something that would be good to subscribe to. I do wonder what is the profit margin on that?

I mean, sorry, I'm like looking at her website right now and I'm just like trying to understand. I'm like, it doesn't look comfy.

It would be fun to order it. Like I one time got cheap toilet paper and I immediately regretted it. Like I do love a soft toilet paper. Oh yeah. There's nothing worse than when you go to a hotel and you have like the sandpaper toilet paper where you, you, you have to literally use like almost the whole roll to get somewhat of an absorption. Yeah. That's why I would be very curious to know if,

A, how this felt. I do think like the branding of it's really pretty. I just think with all this stuff coming out, the tampons, where all this toxic stuff, it's all more expensive. So like you are going to have to pick your poison of like what areas matter to you. A thousand percent. And also too,

To me, what? Not to me. I know for a fact that there's so many other cheaper options if you want to go the non-toxic route. Like you could just do baby wipes. There's these other wipes that I forgot the name of them, but they're specific for like going to the bathroom and not using toilet paper. Then you could also just like invest in a duvet or duvet, not duvet, a bidet. Bidet! I was like, this is, that's what it was. I couldn't think of the word, but I knew what you meant. I knew exactly what you meant.

Yeah. Is there a roll in there? Is there a cardboard roll in her toilet paper? Or no. There is, but it's biodegradable, I bet. Yeah. I just like... I have not tried it, but it just... It doesn't look soft on the website. Yeah, I would be really curious to see. I'm also curious to see, now that everyone's placing their orders, to see the social movement that happens behind it of like... I've just never seen it with toilet paper, so...

I'm excited to watch. Yeah, I mean, I would love to try, but I just... I also am just that girl who, if I can't get off Amazon, I'm not going to get it. Oh my God. I know. Same. It's just the reality of it. Unless I walk by it in a store and like...

I can conveniently carry it to the car. In your case, carry it home. It's not happening these days. And also too, like I love Amazon because when I run out of toilet paper, I usually notice that day. So I need to order it and have it be there tomorrow. Like what is the shipping on this? Five days? Like I can't wait five days.

I can't either. I will even door dash the toilet paper just so it arrives that like I'm not ahead of the game on the toilet paper. Yeah. Paper towels. I think this would be cool. Maybe buying one pack and putting it in your guest bathroom as decor. But other than that, like I just will never be. I'll do the aluminum free deodorant because there's a million bajillion options. But other than that, regular tampons for me, regular toilet paper. I can't do it.

The aluminum-free deodorant, I just got my... I have the Lume, which I'm loving. And then I also have the... What was the one you used? You got Megababe? No, I thought there was a state one. Salt and Stone? Salt and Stone. Yes, that one. That's my second favorite. I like Megababe a little more because it lasts longer on me, but the Salt and Stones have such good smells.

Yeah, they smell so good. And I also got their like lotion. They're like hand balm. And I'm like loving that. Yeah, you should try their body wash too. It smells really good. Oh, I have the body wash. I haven't used it yet though. Speaking of going back to April Fool's though, like I... Did you see the Dyson one about the eyebrows? No, what was it? They had like a mini Dyson for your eyebrows. And I was like, this is so cool. Oh my God, I want to buy this. And then all of a sudden I was like, oh wow, this is fake. Is it there? Ah!

I just imagine like you're sitting in these meetings and the social media planner is like, we're going to do an April Fool's joke. And then they like think of a fake product. I don't know. It was just... The money? I don't remember it ever. But I don't ever remember it being the money. What's that? Like to go behind the advertising for a fake product. Yeah, but I don't... Did they do this last year? Like I don't remember this. I don't... I mean, I don't really remember...

much of the past, but I don't remember being this thrown off. I was very thrown off this year, but I just didn't believe anything that happened. Like I found myself not wanting to open my phone because everything just seemed like fake. Yeah, they were like a little too believable. Another one that P and I had to check to make sure it was legit. Did you see that? Frida came out with a breast milk flavored ice cream.

Yes. I, okay. It's funny that you say that you thought they were believable because I wasn't, I was so skeptical yesterday. Like I didn't believe anything. I was like your opposite. But anyways, on the Frida stuff, I saw the ice cream was released last week. So what we thought was it was the best April fool's joke because they started it early and then they were going to announce on April fool's that it was a joke.

But they never did. And then I saw a rep say like, no, it's real. I'm excited about it. But what like, OK, two questions. One, is there breast milk in the ingredients or is it just flavored? So I thought there was breast milk. Initially, I thought there was breast milk in the ingredients, which would make it like good for you. Yeah. So I was excited about that. But it's just breast milk flavored. Have you ever tried your breast milk?

Like kind of, you know, like is it good? If I ever like it tastes like really watered down almond milk. So who wants to who wants to eat breast milk flavored ice cream? Well, I think some people's breast milk. So some people's breast like mine's like really white. Some people's is like yellow and it's a little more like fatty. And I think it probably does taste better. Like some people think it tastes good. I just think like mine is I don't know watered down maybe. Yeah.

When I, I'm for sure going to be that person that tries my breast milk. I would be so curious to what it tastes like. Like, is it like, and how is this different than like, like why don't we have milk flavored ice creams? Oh, like just regular milk. Unless that's no. Cause vanilla. That's not. I was going to say it's vanilla. And then I was like, no, plain, plain milk ice cream.

Soft serve? What's soft serve? Is soft serve milk? I think soft serve is vanilla in chocolate. Is it? Yeah. There's no milk ice cream? No. Not that... To me, it just seems kind of like a fetish. Like some people have a breast milk fetish, like older people.

And it kind of creeps me out. Like, I feel like it's going to be weird men eating it. Okay, let me ask you this. Is there a world where you would try it? This ice cream? Like, I think I'm the target demo. For sure. Oh, you would try it? Oh. If someone buys it for me, I'm not going to go out and buy it. But if someone would, like, if you, if I saw you and you're like, try this, I'd be like, heck yeah, I will. But I mean, I would try any ice cream flavor you put in front of me. Like, it's ice cream. Yeah.

Yeah, I do think that it's like if I was like at the store getting ice, not the store, the ice cream store and they had it there, I would totally say give me a sample of it. I hope it's good. I just don't know. You should try it. I will. Well, the problem is I don't think it's dairy free. That's a very good. Yeah, I don't know. I don't know if Frida is a dairy free ice cream brand. Oh, is it? I thought it was Frida Mom that was doing it. Oh, I don't think they're I think this is their first ice cream product.

You don't know this because I didn't know who Frida was before, but they're like a mom brand. That makes sense. That would not be info that you should know. I just know it because I buy all the Frida products now. But I don't know who they're doing it in collaboration with, but we got to try it. I'm going to have Harrison for sure try it. Well, now that I know they're a mom brand, this makes so much more sense. I thought that they were just an ice cream brand. But I don't know why they decided to make an ice cream. I guess like...

Maybe our market is just so oversaturated. We have beauty influencers making toilet paper and mom brands making breast milk ice cream.

Yeah, we're like all intertwined in it. I don't know. I was talking about that with Pete yesterday because we've been having a hard time like really getting into movies or TV shows or books. And we're like, is it because we just have seen it all in our generation and nothing stimulates our brain in an entertaining way anymore? Is our show entertaining you? I mean, that is like making me scratch my skin.

Yeah. Yeah. On your note, though, like I do find myself watching old movies. Yes. Like he even brought it up. He was like the 2000 rom-coms or like the early 2000 rom-coms were so good.

Those are the best. And like also the music back then I thought was really good. Like I thought all that was top tier. What I don't know though is if you took like a 15 year old today, maybe a 20 year old and you showed them those movies and then the movies today, like which one, like what was this? What? I know we're going to talk about him. What was the Sidney Sweeney Glenn Powell movie? Anyone but you. Yes. That was actually a good rom-com.

Like that one was good But you know like Movies in that vein And then you showed them My wreck this week Is the ugly truth Okay like I just watched that Great movie And like that's a classic Yeah

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Our rom-coms are more, you know what it might be? I feel like our rom-coms are more PG and cheesy, which makes sense because it's coming from a streaming service. I think Netflix has certain rules they need to abide by where the ugly truth was raunchy or friends with benefits. It's funny and raunchy. It's more fun to watch. I just watched a show called The Life List and it had a good concept, but I was like,

This is so bleh. I can't. I also think there's like two things I just thought of too with this. Of like one, there wasn't as many actors and actresses back then. So like-

We also didn't have access to them. So what's the girl's name? Katherine Heigl. She like didn't have an Instagram account back then. Like we didn't know anything about her. We just saw her on screen, which like I like more because there was like more mystery involved. And then the second thing is I think now because of how much money movies can make, they like make them quicker and they write them faster. So there's not as many like layers to the plot.

Yeah, no, I, I can actually make so much sense and I don't think they cast very well anymore. Yeah, I don't. And there's just so many, there's so many people. Yeah. It's like, they almost just pick like the hottest actress and throw her in a movie versus like trying to figure out what she would be good at. Right. And like if they, if they cast Jennifer Aniston or something, it's like, that's, I don't know. That to me means something, but is that because we grew up with her? I don't know. Yeah. I don't know either. I'm just like,

I'm just like, it takes so much to assimilate my brain these days. And it probably has to do with like the five seconds of entertainment we get on TikTok and like Instagram and stuff, like how our brain is just like zapped with so much. But yeah, I was just like, Pete and I were trying to figure out a TV show to watch and we were like, I don't know, nothing sounds good anymore besides the show that we're watching. Yeah, Good American Family. Okay, what's your take?

Okay, so episode four, I feel like I'm being so gaslit. The whole time, I'm like, is this a prank? Are we being punked? I'm being gaslit right now. From what angle, though? Not by Natalia Grace anymore. Are you saying by the mom and the dad or what? I don't know. I think Natalia Grace is crazy in this show, but I also think the parents are crazy. I'm like, I don't know why.

who I think they're both crazy I just I don't know I the episode four I was like I know Natalia is a bad being a bad girl but like also the parents I'm like what's going on here

Okay, let me ask you this, though. If you were them, would you have locked her in the garage? I don't know. Like, it's so hard to say because, like, Christine thought that her kids, like, they were at risk of being harmed. Like, I can't even imagine that feeling of, like, knowing that you have someone who could harm your kids living in your house. Like, that is terrifying. But also, to lock her.

Who they... But they don't even assume she is a child. That's the thing, too. I think their brain is switching to not seeing her as a child anymore and seeing her as, like, a 20-some-year-old adult. I think that they fully know she's 22. Like, when... I think that when she pushed her against the electrical fence, like, she saw...

how much harm could happen. But I know they keep saying we can't go to the authorities. My only problem is it does seem like because she wants to keep it out of the book, X, Y, Z,

That that's clouding her judgment when it's like you very clearly just need to go to the authorities and like turn this girl in. But I don't know what you do with this girl. She can't go into a home because she's 22. So like no one's going to be like she's not going to be an orphan or so I don't know what you do with her. Yeah, I know that they were planning on bringing her to a psychiatric hospital, I believe, but then they never did. They just put her in an apartment and

But, I mean, once you saw her try to kill the boys by throwing their cars in the middle of the street and then her pushing Christine into the fence, like, that is proof that she does need to be helped in a certain way. Like, that was really scary. I was like, oh, my God. But then it is crazy because you know whenever, like, the cop got there through the garage, she, like, turned – she's smart. So she, like, turns it on. She's like, I didn't do that. Yeah. Yeah.

And it's like, I couldn't understand her motive because part of her wanted money to get the foot surgery, but then when the dad had the opportunity to get a new job, she sabotaged him, which I know had to do with her not wanting the mom and the boys to come back because she literally said she wanted them dead. But it's like, what is your legitimate motive here? I think it's to destroy the family and drain them of any dollar that they have.

I know. For fun. I think she's miserable. And so I think she just does it out of... I think it's her version of like... I think she knows she has dwarfism. So I think she's bitter. I don't know. I don't know. Or she's a full-blown sociopath. Yeah. And when the detective came, that detective was weird. I was like, this seems very...

ethical. Like, I don't think you're like, it just seemed like, well, one, it was very odd that he was stating like Bible verses over like the law to them. But then I was like, this seems a little corrupt how he's like telling them they can just like switch your date of birth. Well, I think, I think, yeah, I think he was going with the Lord. Yeah. I was like, this is weird. And it just seemed, I thought that they were like being pranked and that he was going to be like, psych.

I was glad though, like, because I felt like the first two episodes, we couldn't catch a break. Like I was literally in fight or flight mode of what she was going to do. So now I am glad to see we're moving more into like the story of the parents now. And like, they know, they know she's 22. Yeah.

I just at sorry in the first scene I thought just the mom was guilty but you very much so see now the dad he's in on it. I literally cannot stand the dad. I want to shake him. I'm like what are you doing? I know but it's also not neglect of a child if she's 22.

Well, that's the thing. And that's why I get so confused about what we talked about last week, how she had a DNA test a year ago. Now she's not like now she's 21 or 22. So she was really of it like the age she said she was. So that's why I'm so curious to see how this show ends, because it's like, will they wrap it up in a bow or are they going to make us still guess like what's happening with Natalia Grace?

And where is she now? So she did a documentary, like a tell-all that came out. My mom watched it. She said it was weird. She was like, this was just, it just made me more confused because she's watching the show as well. But now she is 21 or 20, 21 or 22. I don't even know what age she is. So she's like living on her own, I would assume.

I'm going to look her up. Have you seen the real her? Yeah. I looked into the documentary, which I want to watch, but I want to finish this show first because I want to see how it ends. Oh, they casted her really well. It's just like, I feel like...

I like get stressed when I watch it. Me too. I was excited, though, to start it today. But I was... It does stress me out, but I'm just glad that they know what we know, which is that she's older. But it does say on Google that she was born in 2003. Wait, that she was born in 2000? Oh, sorry. My brain calculated that as 2023. 2003, so she would be 21, give or take. Yeah. Well, like...

My it's breaking my brain, but I am. I am very happy that it's the show is moving as quickly as it is. But now I'm like, I wonder how it's an eight episode limited series. So I wonder how the next four will go. Like, is it going to be more of the future where they are now? Like what's going to happen? I'm very curious.

I know, because we went back to, what, 2015 this time? Okay, so we got 16, 17, 18. Yeah, okay, so we have four years. Oh, I can't wait to see what happens. I wonder when the divorce is. Also, I was shocked when they were like, Natalia's been with us for two years. I was like, oh my God, I thought it's been like two months. Same. They really like, they went through some chaos for two years. Yeah, like I love a show that is fast-paced and they're like truly expediting it, which...

I love some shows they could have drained this out for like 14 episodes, but they're like boom, boom, boom. These are the facts. Yeah. Which is making every single second of it juicy. Yeah. So now if the show follows the timeline that we saw, they like in the article I read, they drop her off at this apartment. And then they said that they go to Canada. When did she like, right. I know she's having that ghostwriter writer book. I wonder what like,

That catches fire too because she like – Wasn't that the book that she was talking about in the – remember in the first episode she was like giving a speech and she had come out with like a book? I wonder if that's the book. I think that is the book. But didn't they say she wrote two? I don't know. Oh, right. Yeah.

Because remember in episode two how Christine said to the ghostwriter, she was like, have you heard of blah, blah, blah? And she's like, no. And she's like, oh, it's this prestigious school in Canada. So I wonder if Jacob gets accepted. They go to Canada. And then that's like where she launches her career because they like fully like separate from Natalia and fled to a different country.

As they should. I mean, I do think to tell you, she says multiple times, I want to kill you. Yeah. And having your own kids, I mean, you would do anything for your kids. Like just keep them safe after the whole throwing the cars in the street. That would terrify me.

No question. And I'd be so mad. Yeah. Okay. So I can't, I mean, I can't wait for next week. I hope our listeners are watching it with us because it's so good. Yeah. We've been getting DMs of people being like, this show is absolutely wild. Like we don't, everyone's on the same page. They're all very confused. They don't know what to think. It's like crazy. It's like mind twisting. So we're not alone in feeling these feelings.

I'm also glad I'm not on the side of TikTok that like has some of my friends said like they see they get all these like Natalia Grace clips, but I don't because I like keeping it confined to the show. Otherwise, I think it would really like consume me. Oh, wait, actually same. I don't see anything on my TikTok, which is good because I don't want to I don't I want to be very unbiased with the show.

Yeah, same. It's really good though. It's a great show. I'm enjoying it. Yeah. A scare. It is like a true. Christine says she's like she's living a horror in a horror movie and I'm like you literally are. It's a very, very scary. Guys, we have 20% off site wide from Helix mattress and the thing about it is Jordan sleeps on her Helix mattress every night. She actually moved it from one apartment to the other. One of the very few things that went with her because she loves it so much and then we were just talking about this. What's your Apple watch telling you? Yes, so I have my sleep thingy

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My rose is we put Tate in her own room, which was, I thought, going to be really sad. And it is sad. But ultimately, it's like I'm glad that it's over with. That's why it's my rose. And it is nice putting her in there. And she still wakes up in the middle of the night sometimes. So I can go and get her. And that's fun. But we did successfully move her. And she sleeps in her marshmallow jacket now. So that's my rose. Oh, my God. That's a huge step.

Yeah so it's good It's I'm really glad That like we made the step Does she sleep You did you say that She only wakes up like once In the middle of the night I think we're going through A little sleep regression Right now like last night She woke up at 3 545 And then That was it Um Okay But Yeah so that's not horrible Um

But I ideally like she has, there's been nights where she slept, you know, eight, nine hours. So I think we could get back to that. But right now I just think she's hungry. How do you guys pick who goes and gets her between you and Harrison? I've always thought about that. We trade off mainly.

Like, I did last night, so he's like, I'll do tonight, and then I'll probably, like, we just... It just works out, like, randomly last night. He usually does it. But last night, like, I could tell he was exhausted, and, like, he was knocked out and didn't even wake up to her crying. And I, like, woke up with energy, so I was like, I got it. Like, if I can do it, I'll go do it. So...

I went and did it. At first when I saw the own room, I was like, I thought you meant you. I was like, you have your own room? Like, what's going on? Is there something you want to tell us? Who's got their own room? Yeah, just tater tot. Would you, this is totally a random question, but would you ever sleep in a different room or bed than Harrison? Literally never, would you? No. And the reason why I ask is because one of my friends told me that

It's like my friend, but like their friend of a friend of a friend. So very, very long removed. But they're dating and they have their own bedrooms in their apartment. And I told Pete, I go, we will never do that. And he's like, no, we will not. Why? But why would... Why? Apparently they sleep horribly together. So just so they can get a good night's sleep, they prefer to sleep in different rooms and in...

I don't want to be controversial, but in my opinion, I'm like, that sounds like you guys aren't compatible. Right? Isn't that, that's the thing. If you don't, yeah. If like, what's, what's it called? Their aroma. What's your deal about? You always say like smells and the face and all that's like compatible. Oh, um, your pheromones. Yes. What about it?

Sorry, it has nothing to do with being in separate rooms, I guess. But what do you mean? I don't get it. How do you not sleep well together? There's one kick. Right? Can you imagine being like, good night, Harrison. And just walk into a different room and close the door?

Yeah, because like half the time, the conversations you have going to bed are like the best. Like, oh, I forgot to tell you. And like you're laying there. My favorite part of my morning is on the weekends when I wake up to pee and we can just like sit in bed for a second, like relax. Like, yeah, that's just weird to me. I don't know. I was just like, that's weird.

but okay. There's got to be a different way. Like get a California king and like put a barrier or something. I don't know. Can you imagine if there was like your room was so big you just had like two queen beds like on the opposite side of the room? No.

Well, didn't they back in the old days? What was that show? I don't think it was the Royals. What was that? What was the show? The Crown. And they did back in the old days. They had like ladies had their own rooms. They would get dressed in. I hate that. Oh, my God. Who was the first person that was like, let's combine the rooms? I don't know. Because even my grandparents slept in different rooms. I don't think it was like that their whole life. I think it might have had to do with my grandpa snoring. But like as far as I always remember them sleeping in different rooms.

no way that's so fascinating to me yeah not something I could do no same um okay so that was your rose nope that was what's your rose that was yours oh um my rose is that spring kickball starts tonight so oh boy someone was like can we get a kickball update and I was like I signed up for spring kickball league

Wait, whatever happened, though, with your old kickball league? Like, did you win or... We made it to playoffs, but by default, because I think one team just, like, never showed up. And we lost the first round of playoffs. And... Which was fine, because the teams in the playoffs that we played were, like, psycho. I was like, you guys should not be playing fun intramural sports. You should, like, play...

semi-professional kickball. So they were like really into it. Like too into it where it wasn't fun. Like they were questioning the refs, like being rude. And like there was this one team we played and the people on the team were just like really sassy and rude about what was going on. And we were like, we don't even want to be around you guys. Like this is fun for us and you're making this just not enjoyable.

I think if you're going to do intramural sports as an adult, you have to do it through the lens of like, this is fun. Like you can't get worked up about sports games as an adult. I don't think like you got to chill. Right? Like they should have intramural sports and they should like have two leagues. Like one, people who want to have fun and two, people who used to be high school or college athletes who want to live out their glory days.

completely completely agree like this whole yelling at the refs like what I'm like we're playing at a high like a middle school gym right now like chill we have like day jobs literally um but spring league is outside so it's in a different part of New York it's outside um which I'm excited about so that's my rose I'm excited where is it

Um, it's somewhere on the Upper East Side this time. So before we were in Union Square playing in a middle school and now we're playing at a park on the Upper East Side. That'll be awesome. Yeah, I'm pumped. And it's the same team as before. Like that was my true Rose was like the people I met on my league. We all became good friends. So we're all playing with the same people for Spring League.

Okay, that's really, okay, that's exciting. Yeah, so I'm pumped. We'll see how we do. Yeah, I'm excited to hear. I just think like play, I think it just sounds like a movie like playing kickball outside in New York on the Upper East Side. Like that's pretty cool. Did you guys look into playing a pickle? You are starting a pickleball league or any intramural league?

Yeah, we're still looking into it. There's just like not one really set up here, but I do want to do one. I am actually looking into running a 10K on Sunday right now. That's something that's really... I'm sorry. You're looking into running one this Sunday? Well, I would walk a lot of it and my goal would be out of the six miles to run two of them. I love that.

And walk the other four. And I'm thinking like, I keep thinking about it, which is very weird. So I'm like, I just must sign up. Wait, that's really fun. Sorry. I like question it. Cause I was like, that's could be dangerous. All of a sudden just running like six miles. I could not possibly like, I could physically not, but I do. I want to try to like finish it under two hours and like walk and then like run two of the miles. I think that would be fun. I think that's so doable. That'd be a blast. Yeah.

Yeah. So just like a little, some of my friends are doing it. I'm like, yeah, I'll probably sign up. So that's something that's on my horizon. But I love that. My thorn is I've been dermaplaning. Like you, I know you use them too. Like when you're get ready date night, like you, you know, like the ones from like Amazon. Yeah. But I've been dermaplaning like what, like, you know, like the sideburns. Yes, I do. Yeah.

So I guess I've just been like dermaplaning them off and like they're like growing back and it looks very weird in a ponytail. Like there's like these like little like... I'm trying to think what... So I know exactly what you're talking about because I have to be very careful about my sideburns because I have dark hair so they're very prominent. So I'm trying... I keep mine because...

I'm just like terrified but I have to like shave perfectly around them I'm just trying to think what your sideburns look like I just saw you in a ponytail I haven't been meaning to dermaplane them off I haven't been meaning to dermaplane them off but like I think once you start like I don't know do you just keep going but I just saw you in a ponytail um with your slick back and you look it looked so pretty yeah I don't think you like notice it because I've I also like slick them back

Like the little wisps, but like it's going to be like a weird grow out. It's just something I like never noticed until the other day and I was like, oh my gosh. No, it really does suck. Like I remember the first time I shaved my little mustache, I didn't realize it would grow back so much stronger and darker. Like it's so true. Like I feel like if I never would have done that, I wouldn't have to shave as regularly as I do.

I wonder, they always say though, once you shave once, like it does come back, but I do wonder why. I, you know, I've always wondered that because I also wonder why hair like just stops growing like in men's armpit. Like I know that they trim it, but like how does it not just grow the length of your, like your head of hair? Right. Like it just stops. Like your body, the bodies are wild. Or like leg hair on a man. Like how does it know to just stop at a certain length?

Yeah, they like never have to trim it. It's just like done. It's wild. Hair is wild. I bet you could Google or not Google. I bet you could look up a TikTok hack for female sideburns on TikTok and they could tell you what to do.

Yeah, that's very true. I'm just going to let them be at this moment and like slick them back for now. Like it doesn't look bad by any means. It's just like different. It's different. That's how I would describe it. I get it though because once sometimes you get a little too trigger happy with the knife and it starts to cut off more than you realize and then like you notice it. You totally notice it. But that...

That dermaplaning is so good. Do you use anything on your face before like an oil or anything? No, I don't at all. I like wash it dry clean and that's it. What about you? So I do the same thing. But the other day I just saw that you're supposed to be using or not supposed to, but it helps if you use like a face oil. So I'm going to try that when I dermaplane because sometimes after I dermaplane, my face gets a little sensitive. So I'm going to see if the oil helps.

same i'm like bright red but i do think that that's a good i like that because i feel like i did something but maybe it's a little too irritated and then your makeup goes on like butter afterwards i love it oh i washed my makeup brushes last time last night like and i haven't done that in a while wait so i just do it every month no way yes i literally just did it for the first time and i don't know i couldn't tell you the last time i washed them

It's going to, the makeup is going to go on so nice. Also like we've got to do that more. I need to like, we should be probably be doing that weekly. Yeah, I know. I almost think I need to order new brushes. Cause like it was pretty caked in there, but I think I got it out, but I love it. Just feel cleansed after I've washed them.

um there's this spray at sephora that you're supposed like you will help clean your brushes after every use that i'm thinking i need to get it's like it's this is it's just a sephora branded spray you like spray your brush and then wipe it on a paper towel and it's supposed to help keep them clean but um i just haven't gotten around to checking it out

I do. I would like to know if that works, you know, like everyday maintenance. Yeah, the Sephora of sales starts 4-4, which will be over by the time this episode comes out. But I'm tempted to fill up my shopping cart. What? That sounded like an ad. It sounded like, I'm tempted to fill up my shopping cart. Do it. Fill it up. I've been like, I've been fed.

um sephora sales on tiktok and it's like everything i would buy on the sephora sale and i'm like i want to buy all that now yeah i would also buy all of that from the sephora sale that's funny but you love their sale i love sephora um okay so my thorn so my our topic today is friendship adult friendship dynamics but my thorn is that two of my close friends are moving out of new york

Where are they moving to? So one is moving to North Carolina. Yeah, North Carolina. And the other is moving back home to Georgia.

Okay, and when are they leaving and why are they leaving? One is... It's like between July and December. So they like... We still have a while, but one is moving back for grad school, which is super exciting, like very pumped for her. And the other is moving back just for like to be closer to family, change of scenery. So both very good reasons. And I'm like very excited for both of them. And I have them for another six months. But it's... You just like...

I don't know. It's weird to think about when your friends start to leave. Like, I don't know. I usually am the friend that leaves. I never have friends leave me, if that makes sense. It does make sense. That's a really good way to put it. You're usually the one that leaves. How does it make you feel? So I will be very honest. Having Pete helps a ton because he is like my stability mentor.

in life. Like, he helps ground me and, like, knowing I have him helps a ton. But it's really sad because I'm not really in a place of my life where I, like, want to make new friends or, like, I don't know. I'm just, like, I'm good with the friends I have. Unfortunately, all my friends are spread out in the country, which doesn't help. But it's

I'm not really looking to make new friends, especially in New York, because I don't see myself here forever. But it's but like it sucks because like these are my people that I like leaned on, like they were my friends that I would.

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long distance friendships are like easier to maintain than IRL friendships. Like you've seen that meme that says we'll hang out in London. What's that one? It's like, I'll see you in three months at here. Actually, I have it on my phone. I'll just pull it up. It's there's so many, but it's like an adult friend. Oops. An adult friend. Seriously. Sorry. One second. My TikTok is making me

Okay, adult friendships be like, I miss you. Let's hang out in Paris in June. Yes. Which is so true because it's like, like Madeline, it's like, oh, I'll see you in four months at your wedding. Can't wait. But do you feel like your friendships suffer though because you're long distance or do you feel like it's like fine because you're always texting and calling? Honestly, I feel like I'm closer with my long distance friends because one, whenever we make time to see each other, it's more meaningful and...

There's more intention behind it. Like when I see them for three days, it's like us time where sometimes my friendships here, it's like you just hang out to hang out. There's not really any intention behind it. And you almost take them for granted versus your long distance friends. What about you? No, I think that that's the same. Like I, I also think a lot about this. Like, I don't know that our mom's age, like, do they have a lot of long distance friends? Yeah. Yeah.

We're just natural with our phone. Like it takes us zero seconds to like whip out a text. Like we're always communicating via DM, via text message. You know, like we're always talking. They always joke like you have seven platforms that you're talking to your one friend on. And it's like that to me feels so easy to keep in contact with as opposed to like going to dinner. Yeah, it's interesting because one of my Bumble friends, when I went to Miami to visit her,

I see her literally once a year and I still consider her one of my closest friends. It's just, it was just so weird. I consider her a closer friend than some of the friends I see on a regular basis in New York.

And I think part of the reason why that could be is like, if you're not there with her, then you guys don't have the same friends. And if you don't have the same friends, you remove gossip. Have you noticed that? Like gossip's not a pillar of the conversation because like you got to talk about other things because like you're not in the same friend group really. That's actually such a valid point because when we spent time with her in Miami, we didn't want to waste our time just like throwing around gossip. Like we had so much to catch up on. It was more intentional conversation, more like

like digging into like how our lives have been and like what's new how's it going and like we had really good deep intentional conversations versus the friends you see on a regular basis like sometimes it is just filled with gossip yeah because like you're going to the same places and you're seeing the same people and the the other thing I think about like with your long distance friends right like when you go and visit or if I go visit a friend and then they have other friends and

How like there you like are your friends PR agent. Does that make sense? Like you're in charge of describing your friends to your other friends when you're going to meet them for the first time? Yes, you said that the other day you were like you're your significant others and your friends PR agent. And I was like, that is the most true thing I've heard in so long.

Yeah, like, especially with the significant other. You know, because people can... Like, I'm not for... If somebody's, like, just bashing their significant other, like, to me, I didn't even hear what you said about your significant other. I just heard that you were, like, bashing them. Right? And then that person holds...

that bad knowledge over the good knowledge so that's all they think of that person because like as humans we always remember the bad over the good so like if I hadn't met Harrison and let's say like the first thing you said about him was a complaint I would always remember that complaint and just think he was a bad person because I don't see him enough to form my own opinion and

That was the first thing I heard. Versus like you just being positive about him. No question. And like, I think you pick... Like you have to pick your...

Well, it's funny, actually. I know we were going to talk about the Chapel Roan thing. Yeah. And I didn't see what she said, but it was something about like a lot of her friends don't have a good experience with motherhood. And I saw this video talking about a girl saying like her takeaway from the Chapel Roan conversation was pick your friends who you complain to. Right.

Like, so these girls were like complaining to her about motherhood where it's like, that's not really your target demographic. Like, because Chapel doesn't know what to do with that because she doesn't have kids. And so now her like view on motherhood is skewed. Um,

Where I feel like it's the same thing when it comes to like you talking about your sniff together, you talking about your friends. Like if I was always bashing a certain friend to you, you wouldn't like them. So it's like, I do think there's a time and a place we're all human. We're like, you, you are just like, I got to talk about this. But a, you pick your person and be like, you only get so many a year.

Yeah, I also that's like such valid points. And I also think, too, with adult friendships and long distance friendships, since you don't see them as regularly as you did in college and high school, you really got to pick your battles about what you complain to them about. Because like so, for example, like the bachelorette party I went to almost a year ago at this point.

I was going into a situation where I didn't know any of the girls, but I'd only really heard negative things about the girls. So I went in thinking all these girls like going in thinking like negative things about all the girls because I'd only heard complaints. But like if I was seeing this friend every single day and she was able to talk positively about these people, I wouldn't have thought that. But since like we're long distance friends, we only talk every once in a while. I only heard the bad and like then then I assumed those friends were bad.

You were like, yeah, that's like such a real life example. Like you assume they're bad, A, and then B, you get there and like you see the bride being all buddy-buddy with them, but you're like, wait, I'm confused because like she was just talking about them. And I think that that is like, that is such an exhausting dynamic. So exhausting. Like I, like,

70% of the reason why I have a therapist is so I have someone to complain to because I when I was in high school I remember and granted this is high school but I remember I would complain about my boyfriends to my friends all the time and they would like hate my boyfriends even though the one was a jerk but the other one wasn't bad but since I only complained about him they just assumed that he was a bad person and

And then it sucks because then they always have that like that like taste in their mouth that, oh, she's just dating a loser. Where now I like refuse to talk poorly about the people that I'm closest with, even if like I'm really bothered by them unless it's my therapist. Because I don't want my friends to ever have a bad taste in their mouth for the people I care about or like hold that over my head unintentionally.

Right. Because I think when people do just like dump on their significant other or on like a friend or something, they're not thinking about the taste they're putting in the other person's mouth. So like if you think, okay, how do you perceive Pete? Wonderful, trustworthy, kind.

fun, all of these like good qualities, right? Like Pete is for you. Don't you grade him like an a plus plus plus plus for sure every day of the year. But then, you know, Pete forgot to throw the trash out or something. And you're just like so annoyed and you go tell Sally that, well,

Even though you think Pete is an A+++, you just gave Sally like a D review. So like now she just knows a D and it's like you didn't do your job there. Yeah, especially if she's a long distance friend who like doesn't see Pete on a regular basis and she can't form her own opinion about him.

Yeah, exactly. And like, I always say to my friends, I'm like, you can, if you're, I had one the other day and she was like, I got to say something about my partner. And like, I'm just saying it to you. And I was like, this isn't affecting their reputation with me because like, a, I have known them for 10 years. I love them. I know how they are. It's okay to have a bad moment with them. And you can tell me, cause I can hold space for that. Yeah. And it doesn't affect, it doesn't affect the way I think about them. But if I was like some random friends, she made a one-off comment to, um,

I'd be like, well, he's kind of the worst. Yeah, that's so true. You really do have to pick the right people to complain to. And you also just have to pick your battles about how you speak about the people you love to other people you love. Yeah, and I also think too, just not even...

The amount of time that I like spend talking about other people is like so much smaller now than it used to be when I was like in my early 20s. And that is such a nice thing. Yeah. And like that's also too like the older I get, I don't – I just like don't have room for wanting to make new friendships because sometimes friends like –

I don't know. I don't know if it's just like being in New York or what it is, but like I don't want friends to just like gossip with. Like I have my core group of friends that like are near and dear and we have like deep conversations and I love that. Like I don't want to go through like the beginning stages of friends when it is just like small talk and gossiping like that sounds so exhausting.

Sounds so exhausting. And I think like the nice part about it is like we have Pete and Harrison who like also just they're not they don't want to gossip. Yeah. They you know, and it's like those are the main people we talk to. And it's like it just it's such a different mindset than it was back in the early stages of the 20s. And it's like very refreshing to be out of that. Yeah. So answer your question. I actually like. Oh, sorry. What? Well, I have another question, but go ahead. Oh, no. Ask me because I was going to like wrap it up.

So if you don't want to make new friends, what are you going to do with your time? That's a great question. So I, and I feel like too with age, this comes like just the older you are, you spend less time with friends. Like that's just part of being an adult. Also like friends start to have families and partners and kids, like their times are busy. I would really like to find just things that I can do on my own. And like, granted, I found a few, like I love reading and walking and, um,

doing like other things but I just would love to find a place where it's a Saturday and like I don't need a person to fill my time what's like an example of that though I mean I guess I get like if I like to knit or crochet or like make music or I guess for us it's like making videos like I love spending my time making videos but that's also like work so sometimes I don't want to do that

But I see. Okay. Or like, okay. So, so would you ever knit or crochet? I don't, maybe. I don't want to say never. I just feel like I don't have the attention span to like, I'd rather just read a book. Yeah, I get that.

Needlepoint or pottery. I mean, I always have this outstanding desire to go, like, sling pottery. But that's not something you would do every Saturday. Yeah, I don't know. I feel like, too, I just love... I actually, like, really love having long-distance friends because I love planning, like, meaningful times to spend time together, like, going on trips or visiting them versus just, like, come over and sit on my couch and we can watch TV. Like, I'm over that, like...

phase of just like sitting on the couch and shooting the shit for no reason I don't know totally no I 100% hear you on that and I think too like I used to always hear people that were older than me be like you'll grow out of that phase and I was always like no I won't right like I'm too I'm social like I'm never gonna grow out of that I it does come with age it's truly wild I

Literally, I used to think that too. I'd be like, no, I'm always going to want to sit on the couch and watch TV with my friends. And now I'm like, no, no, no, I need peace and quiet. I would rather just be alone and do it.

Yeah, aging is, like, wild. Like, I preferred last night to spend my night, like, organizing. What? Literally, like, cleaning makeup brushes, organizing. Like, oh, my God, you feel great afterwards. Yeah, it's like that's – and that just naturally came with age, I guess. It's such a – wow, you truly do evolve. Yeah. So, yeah, I think long-distance friendships are fun. And, like, for me, I think I can maintain –

My long distance friendship is better because I'm more intentional and I actually talk to them probably more regularly. Like I feel like I text my long distance friends every day. Yeah. And I think the ones that are near you in terms of proximity, like you just assume you'll see them. So you don't sit there and text them. I love just like just throwing out some text to like the long distance ones that I wouldn't send to somebody that like lives near me. Right. Or like a FaceTime here or there. Yeah. It's weird. It's very weird. Yeah. Should we do our listener question?

Yeah, let's do it. I like this one this week. Okay. I've been listening to your pod for a year now, and as an only child, you guys truly make...

You truly feel like the older sisters I've never had. I have a good friend of four years who has always been somewhat self-centered. I got engaged in December and asked her to be my bridesmaid. For the past three months, she has somehow managed to shift every wedding planning conversation towards her own wedding, even though she wasn't even engaged at the time. A month ago, she told me she was planning to have her wedding the day before mine. I reminded her that my wedding date is September 21st, and she said she's had hers a month earlier instead.

Sorry, and she said she'd have hers a month earlier instead, but she acted upset about my wedding date She just got engaged last week and has already started copying aspects of my wedding like bridesmaids dresses The coffee cart for cocktail hour and even my registry I went running dress shopping with her yesterday and she bought a dress that looks almost exactly like mine I got mine three months ago and had sent her photos of it. I'm feeling sad and frustrated help um so

I have kind of like a different outlook on this for the girl to like think about this situation. I'm trying to think like how I can word it. It's like, this is stuff I've like had to work on this in therapy before. But my therapist once said she was like, if you have a hard time with like comparison or someone taking something from you that are like copying you, she was like, you should think about in a sense like,

This person must admire you so much and want to be you so badly. Like, how sad is it that they... Let me rephrase that. I'm, like, trying to think out what she said to me, but it, like, helps me a ton. Like, okay. Yeah.

So I'm going to think about this in, like, a different lens. And I feel like the girl who wrote this listener question should think about it like, yes, it does suck that you have a friend copying you. But also, like, this girl must admire and look up to you so much where she wants to copy you. And, like, she doesn't feel comfortable and confident. Like, when she thinks of you, she thinks that you have it all. So she wants everything you have. And, like, yeah, that sucks that this is happening to you. But...

You should be very grateful that you are so comfortable and confident in yourself where you can make your own decisions, where you have a friend that like sees you and wants to be you so bad. Like you should just be like, I don't really know how to put that into words, but like that mindset shift of like viewing it more so as like, she's not copying you out of ill intent. She's copying you because she's like truly looks up and wants everything you have. Like, I don't know. It's hard for me to put into words, but it's like a mindset shift that like,

Helps ease these situations Yeah it's like It's admiration They always say copying is the highest form of flattery Which like I like the lens you're putting it through She does look up to you Yeah Which I do see how on your wedding day Would be so frustrating Yeah

But like, there's nothing you can really do about it besides just be like, at least you know what you want. She doesn't. And she just is kind of following what you do. Yeah. Like, I don't want to belittle the listeners feelings because I would be livid. Like, I would be so pissed. Like, I would have to go to therapy five days a week to get over this. But at the end of the day, like this girl, when she thinks of her dream wedding, she's like,

Oh, but you know the best way to do a wedding. You have the best taste in dresses. You have the best wedding date in mind. Like, she's just, like, essentially, like, obsessed with you or wants your life or, like, wants your perfect wedding date because that's what she – like, I don't know. It's just – like, it sucks, but – Okay, the other thing, though, that I am thinking of is this. When you're engaged, your world revolves around you. There's also a chance where, like, she didn't even notice. Yeah.

Because when you're engaged, you think you're the only person on the planet. Not everyone, not everyone, but you can be like, cause it's such a big deal. Like you're planning a wedding. And so she could be doing that where like, there is no, I don't think there's any ill intent behind it in general. I don't think she means it mean the other thing is though, start protecting yourself. Like don't show her your dress. Yeah. Don't learn the lesson twice.

Like don't show her, just put her like, put her where you can manage her. Like have her be a bridesmaid, have her be a part of your big day. If she says, I want this date, just say, that's my date. Pick a different date. Come on girl. So she picks the month before if she's annoyed about that, that's fine. She can be annoyed about it. Don't show your dress. Don't show your bridesmaids dresses. Don't tell her you have a coffee cart and just say, I want my, my wedding to be a surprise for everybody. And like, that's how you can protect your peace. Like

because you're learning the same lesson over and over again. You keep telling her stuff, she keeps copying it. Stop telling her. I love that. And that will also help too from her not taking away from your day. Like this is your wedding day. Like don't hold resentment and anger throughout the process. Like you should look back and be like, that was a great fun process instead of like, ah, XYZ copied me the entire time. I hated it.

And go back and change your coffee cart now. Yeah. And don't report it to the people. Just swap it out. Surprise. Yeah. And I mean, at the end of the day, like you get to choose who your friends are. So after the wedding, if this keeps happening and you don't like it, you can always end the friendship.

Yeah. And if she's a great friend, but she is copying you one, I don't think she means it mean, but to stop telling her exactly control, you can control your part. You can't control what she does. Yes, exactly. We've talked, we talked about that maybe last week or two weeks ago, learning to just be able to control like what you can, which is yourself. Yeah. And so don't tell her like, and it's not, you're not telling her not to be mean. You're just, you're protecting yourself. Yes. I love that.

You said it better because for some reason I just couldn't get my thought into a sentence. No, it was good. It was good. It is a high form of flattery. Should we quick do our recs? Yes. What's a BBL? So remember how I told you about my BBL facial and Moxie facial? Yes. So I'm getting my last of the three today. So the BBL facial is the one that helps with rosacea and discoloration.

I saw somebody else get a BBL, yes. Yes. I thought it was a butt lift, though. No, it is. It's a Brazilian butt lift that's a BBL. Oh.

I'm done. Can you imagine? I'm going to get a Brazilian butt lift. I was like, what? Oh, so it's also the name of a facial. Yes. So the BBL facial is for rosacea and discoloration. And then the Moxie facial is for like texture, fine lines, wrinkles, pores, blackheads, hyperpigmentation. Or no, hyperpigmentation would be for BBL. But I'm getting them. They're both laser facials. And I...

have been this is my third of the three my third treatment and I get them done at the same time since they're lasers and I'm pumped because it's my last one so I should be should be good to go okay that's amazing very exciting that it's here and I still like I think for you if you ever were to invest in a laser facial you should really look into the moxie like I made a video about it and like people were raving about the moxie facial

I would like to do it. I need to do some kind of a facial. I'm having like a little hormone breakout. So I'll do my, I'll do the hydro facial, but I do need to do like something else. Yeah. You should see if your girl does it. Um, it's a little bit of downtime, but like not to the point where you're, you can't move. You just have like, it looks like you got bad sunburn and you just can't wear makeup for three to five days. Yeah, that's fine. That's I'm always okay with that. I'm actually going tomorrow. So I'll see what she can do. Yeah. Yeah. Do it. And it's, it's like a medical grade when I did ask, uh,

Like every every med spa should have it. And it's like one of the it's the best laser on the market or one of the best lasers on the market.

Okay I'll ask her I'll actually look online And see if they have it Okay Cool My rec is Okay so It's this vegan It's called Amino And it's vegan eyebrow dye And I've just been like Using it And using it on my eyelashes And it's like $9.99 You can get it on Amazon Or you can get it at Target And it is The best Like it's not the best There are so many good ones But I do I have been loving it Do you use it every day?

No, I use it like once every, I just use it on, what's today, Wednesday? I think I used it on Sunday, but I use it like once every two, three weeks. What? Did you dye your eyebrows? I dyed my eyebrows on Sunday. No way. I'm not kidding you. Oh my God. That's so funny. It's in the air. Why do you like your dye though?

It doesn't sting my eyes. And like some of the other ones I've used will make my eyes like water or they'll make it sting. Also, you control the color by the amount of powder you put in. So I like that aspect of it. Interesting. So I just use men's beard dye. I don't do my eyelashes, obviously, because I have eyelash extensions. So I can't like I wouldn't recommend putting beard dye on your eyes. But I use it for my eyebrows and I love it. It's like the only thing that lasts.

Oh, that's nice. Yeah, I bet beard dye would last. That's like perfect to use too. Yeah. Okay, cool. That's so funny. Makeup brushes, eyebrow dye. I love it. That's funny. Pinkish nails. Okay, guys. Well, we love you. Yes, we love you guys so much. And you know the drill. Listener questions. Am I the asshole? Watch Good American Family, the whole shebang. And we'll see you next time.

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