Shit talking your ex, new love languages & the power of perspective
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Okay, I want to hear about these two new love languages. There's one that I didn't like at first and then I'm fine with it.

That's what I really hate. So the doctor should definitely take it back. And I was like, well, no one like gets what they need from Target. Like part of the joy is you go there and you leave and you didn't even know you needed half the stuff. Oh my God, yeah. If I had a bad day, I would literally go to Target and just walk around. Where do we draw the line of like not talking shit about your ex if you're planning on getting back together with them? Because like, is it worth the scrutiny and drama of people weighing in their opinions? It does make juicy entertainment. Welcome back to another episode of Mean Girl Pod.

How's it? What? What? You had the millennial pause kicking. Is that a play on menopause? Millennial pause? What's a millennial pause?

Can you imagine if I was just making fun of you for a minute? So there's something called a millennial pause that they say that millennials do. And it's like when you're on camera and like apparently Gen Z's just like get right into a millennial be like, they'll be like, ready, record. And you're like, so, so it's like you just have this pause.

And I do it all the time. Like if you, when you record your videos, I'm sure you like have to cut the first three to five seconds because you just like stare at the screen. Yes. That's so funny. And so they're making fun of us. Okay. So it's the millennial pause. Sounds like menopause. I couldn't tell like if it was, I think like it's so weird how like two seconds can seem like a lifetime because when you didn't say anything back, I was like, did you freeze? Yeah.

Did she freeze? No, I thought you were making a joke. Okay, that's so funny. The millennial pause is so real. Just like now you're going to notice it everywhere. Like you're going to hear Harrison on the phone or like you're going to be talking to your family or you're going to be talking. You're going to be like, wait, we do too many pauses in this conversation. Speaking of not millennial pauses, what flavor of monster do you have? Okay.

Okay, so I have been itching to open this and try it. So I actually have a new flavor of Monster. I can see and you have a red top or something. What is that? So they just released this flavor and it's the Ultra Vice Guava. It's pink and like this really pretty like minty green. It's Miami Vice colors. Yeah. So I'm going to try it on camera. This is my first time ever trying this flavor. I've been like cotton mouthing it up waiting to open this.

Oh my gosh, yeah, give us an IRL taste test. Cheers. Cheers. Oh, wow. This is actually really good. I shouldn't say actually. What does it taste like? All the flavors are good. I always say that. I always, my added word to everything is actually. Well, yeah, that makes sense though because you have to add some word. You can't just say this is good. So I do think it's fair. It's like, I feel like it's cotton candy. Did you say cotton candy? Yeah.

No, but it's like, I don't really know how to describe it, but it's very sweet and refreshing, which I like right now. Like this is a really good afternoon monster. I'm really, Guava was kind of a scary name for me because sometimes Guava throws me off, but this is good. Like 10 out of 10. Good. I love Guava. Oh, but it's so good. Jealous. I love the can too. It's very pretty.

Yeah, no, it's very good. So everyone definitely try Monster's new flavor, Ultra Vice Guava. And like Alex said, it's their Miami Vice Monster, right? Yeah, it is the Miami Vice one. I remember I got this in the mail too. And what we should do is we should wear our, I mean, I don't know if we're talking about our sweatsuits, but they are the colors of this. So that'd be kind of cool to incorporate. Oh yeah, that would be cute.

When we do our photo shoot, we can take them. Okay. Yay. I'm jealous of your monster. I can't wait. I'm so tired right now. I know. How are you? How is motherhood? It's great. It's like a foggy dream, you know? The funniest part about it is as tired as you are, the days fly by.

Fly by it's the it was the fastest month of my life no question No I am shocked that Tate is a month old I genuinely feel like you gave birth last week I know me too so it's it's fun it's like I'm like oh my gosh I just stare at her like when we do feedings now I'm like no phones allowed because I just stare at her and I'm like I want to bottle up these like little days you know Cute um are you just tired because of like just being a new mother type of thing

Yeah, it's just like it depends on when her last feed is, but she just doesn't sometimes go back to bed after like the 6 or 7 a.m. feed. And so you're up throughout the night feeding and then that. Yeah, I don't know. The three hour blocks just the problem is when you it doesn't matter when you start to feed her.

Or no, it doesn't matter when you end feeding her. It matters when you start feeding her. So if she eats for an hour and a half or something and like she's hungry, then you have like an hour and a half left to feed her. I don't know. It's like weird. The time's weird. Yeah. No, I feel like the feeding is, I actually remember when my friends had babies, the feeding is very, like has to be very specific and it kind of controls your routine.

Yeah, I call it like you're in food jail because you have to... I was thinking about it because we're going to go to the UT Georgia game this weekend. Oh, fun. And I was like, because Harrison has some people in town, and I was like, I can't be away from a pump or her for three hours or else it's actually my thorn of the week. But it wakes you up, like clockwork, like three hours on the dot. You get this like...

Your boobs tingle and it's because it's your milk and it needs to come out. And so I don't know how to explain it. Kind of like when your bladder gets really full, but it's different and you have to like get the milk out or it's like this. It gives you chills. It's like this pinching thing. Did you ever see the movie The Neighbors? No, I haven't even heard of it.

So is it in there? So it's with Seth Rogen, Zac Efron. Like it's an iconic movie. You have to watch it. It's just one of those like. I did see it. Now I saw it. Do you remember? Did you see the part where she has to breastfeed, but like her boobs are so old and she's like, you have to get this milk out of me. Yes.

I completely forgot about that. That's what it is, though. She had like a clogged. I don't know what they're called. Oh, ducked. Yeah. Oh, God. No, it's it's the most wild concept on the planet. The breastfeeding. It's just like, well, can she go to the game then?

No, she can't go to the game because that would just be, well, she doesn't have her two month shots yet, which would be like the main reason I don't want her to go. But also it would be so loud. She'd have to wear those like head, those like noise canceling headphones. But I think she's too little for those to fit her. Um,

So I don't know what I'm going to do. Either not go the whole time or like pump. I don't know. I don't know. We'll see. Yeah. How long does that – I know like breastfeeding is a different length for everyone, but like how long are you truly in like that food jail for? A lot of people I've talked to – well, I don't know because that scares me. I guess the thing is like when you wean off of it, your hormones change. So like you would never stop cold turkey. Yeah.

So you do like this weaning method where you like slowly stop so your body can catch up. Because like right now when you're breastfeeding, my body feels like it's in menopause. So like I'll wake up or I'll just start randomly sweating. So like the house is an iceberg. But when you do start to...

wean off of it usually I don't know there's so many different times I've talked to moms that have done it for two years but what I hear is like six months or your milk just naturally stops or you just say like I can't do it anymore and you switcher I would love to see your AC bill because your house was an ice cube when you were pregnant

It is an ice cube. Now, Tate wears three layers. We are just icing. It is so cold in here. But I'm literally sweating. I mean, I can't even imagine how you feel. That would be so unbelievably uncomfortable because I feel like when your hormones make you sweat, it's almost like a different feeling than sweating from outside temperature. It's just like this uncomfortable, like your insides are melting feeling.

That's exactly right. Like it is a different, it is different. It's like in different parts of your body, like sweat, you know, at least when you're outside, you know why. Yeah. I remember when I got off birth control, I like, I ran so much hotter and it's so uncomfortable because your whole body's just like hot and everyone around you is cold. And you're like, turn this, turn it down, turn the air down, please. Cause I'm sweating. Everyone's like, I'm freezing. And I'm like, I don't care.

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the link below in our description down on the app and use our code because you deserve dates as amazing as you are. Yeah, but I'm like, you guys have to freeze because otherwise it will be... Wait, how... Well, first of all, what are your roses and thorns? And then I want to hear like a birth control update because I feel like you've been on it for a little bit now. So have you leveled out? Oh, yeah. For birth control, I think it's been like four months and it's very odd. So I...

have some months where I will literally go to the bathroom and wipe and be like, oh my God, she's here. I didn't feel any PMS symptoms. I didn't feel anything. And then some months I will be so down bad where I'm like, is this even working? And I learned that, well, I kind of lied on an upcoming episode that will be coming out that we recorded when Alex was on maternity leave. I told the world that you release your cycle from

the alternate ovary every other month. So like ovary right will go, then ovary left will go. And I was like, that's how it is. I did some research afterwards and that's a lie. And apparently that can happen as a woman.

but it's not every other month. So I think for me, it's like a few months, my period will come from like a good ovary. And then every like three periods, my like other ovary will release. And it's just like so mean to me. Oh, wow. And so one of your ovaries is just

more crazy than the other one I think so yeah so because I like looked it up and they were like it doesn't alternate every other month but it can alternate like every couple months or some people probably could be every other month we're all different but I'm like that has to be it but I will say the birth control is great because before birth control it was every month I was just like down bad every month so I'm so grateful to be on it wow okay good no I'm glad that it's working um yeah

And I'm glad that you're feeling good. And this is not a science podcast, so it's okay that the ovary... I would have never known the ovary thing. Do you know what, though? I was at the OB the other day, and she was like, okay, you know, like, you're cleared. You can exercise, blah, blah, blah. Then she was like, do you want to get on birth control? And I was like, why would I get on birth control? And she's like, you can actually get pregnant again now. And I was like...

No, because birth control just like I tried it one time. I remember when I was like 22 or something and it just made like it didn't. I tried three different kinds. None of them worked. Okay. It wasn't a good fit. So then I was like, what are the other options? And there's this new thing and it's you insert it like a tampon and it's like a gel and it kills any sperm that goes in you. Like a female condom. Like you insert the spermicide.

I don't know what it is. You just, you like inject it and it's like a gel that goes in there. And you just, do you use it every time you have sex or do you put it in like a month, like monthly and it just like consistently helps you?

I guess every time and you do it like an hour before, I don't know. I just was asking her about it because I was like, that's interesting. I haven't heard of that. And she's like, yeah, it's a new thing. It used to be birth control and condoms. Now we have like a third option. I was like, hmm. I mean, are you ready for a tainted girl to be like, mom, how are babies born? What is a period? Can I shave my legs? I'm just like, no. Oh my gosh. Do you remember the first time you asked your mom to shave your legs? I do. I remember. I remember.

Okay, so I don't know why I was so weird about all of that stuff, but I was so scared to ask my mom to wait. No, there was, I'm getting confused. So one time I wanted to shave my arms because I thought everyone shaved their arms because a girl I was friends with shaved her arms and I was like in elementary school. So I went to the store and

And I got nair and my mom saw me like opening it and she's like, why? What is this for? I was like, I'm going to shave my arms. And she's like, no, no, no, no, no. Don't do that. Like, we don't do that. You're going to regret it because it's going to grow back so thick. But then with me shaving my legs, I remember my mom like forced me and I was so sad because I don't know if it was like a weird about growing up, but she was like, it's time. Like you have to shave your legs.

That's so funny. I felt like I had grown up too and like I wasn't mom's little girl anymore whenever it was the first time to shave the legs too. And like I remember friends in my class, I think I was in fifth grade, maybe fifth or sixth grade. They started shaving their legs and I just remember being like, mom, it's time. Like I need to shave my legs. Yeah, I think I was probably in like seventh grade when I started shaving my legs, maybe eighth. I don't remember, but I was...

I think I was a little older. It's such a thing. Oh, wow. I forgot about that. Yeah. And I remember the first time, too, where it was like, you have to wear a bra. Yeah. I was like, what? And then you have to, like, ask your mom to get on birth control. I don't know if you ever did that, like, when you got it on, got on birth control. But I remember it would be like, Mom, can I go on birth control? My period's inconsistent and it's really heavy and uncomfortable. Yeah.

Yeah. No, mine, my cramps were so bad that I was like, I'll try it. But it just, oh gosh, I just hated it. Yeah, I know. I just would cry every day. No, yeah. Mine was wild. It was just like very heavy. But like I also was like prompting her to bring me to the doctor so I could like ask the doctor because I knew her response would be like birth control because that's always the response. Yeah.

Right, I know they're so quick to like do it. Okay, what are your roses and thorns? Oh, yes. So my roses, I went to Ann Juliet. Yes, and what did you think? It was so good. Oh my gosh. And I know you saw it last, almost like a year ago, right? Or like kind of a year ago?

Like seven months ago, I guess. Yeah, but happiest play on the planet. Oh my God, it was so good. The singing was so good. The dancing. Did you hear that Charli D'Amelio is going to be in the play?

I did, which is incredible. Like great get for them. I know I was so bummed though, because I'm missing her by two weeks. So she'll be on at the end of October. But going in, I was like, oh, who cares? Like, you probably won't even notice she like, because she's a dancer. So you might not even know like who she is dancing. But the cast is so small where I'm like, oh my god, you're gonna know exactly who she is.

Oh, yeah. It'll be so sold out. Like, I mean, it already was. I feel like it was hard to get tickets, but that's such a good move for them to put her in it. And she'll be great. Yeah, it was so good. So really enjoyed that. And then my my thorn. Honestly, like I've had a really good week, but my neck is just so messed up, which I

I mean, I'm mainly just making it my thorn because if anyone has like a really good pillow rack, can you can you put me on it? Because my neck is literally killing me. I wonder what it is. There's nothing worse than neck pain. But you think it's your pillow? You think it's the way you're sleeping?

It must be. So when I was in Florida, my parents have like the best pillow in the world, but I can't find it anywhere. And my mom got it with like their Tempur-Pedic mattress they got years ago, but the pillow is not Tempur-Pedic brand. So she like doesn't know where to find it either. So I think what happens, I slept with that for like a week and I loved it. And then I'm back to just like a crappy pillow and my neck is just like, what are you doing? So...

Yeah that could be it They could definitely be it Oh dang well I'm sorry that's the worst What's your rose you only said your thorn Oh my rose is like I'm starting to be social And so I'm like getting to meet people In Austin and I'm like really loving that And I feel like it

like the social part of me was something I suppressed in the whole year of 2024 because I just didn't feel like it. But now like going back and doing things has been really fun. So that's my rose. Let's talk about BetterHelp because this show is sponsored by BetterHelp. And one thing that Jordan and I have been since the

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Visit betterhelp.com slash mean girl today to get 10% off your first month. That's betterhelp.com slash mean girl. Oh, I love that. I feel like Austin has such a great community of like younger people, like people in their upper 20s, lower 30s.

And like it almost seems like a transplant city. So everyone is looking to make friends and really, really open to like bringing new people in. So I feel like it's just like a really fun place to be like a transplant in. It kind of feels like a dream. Like it totally is. And the other thing is our neighbors two doors down have a baby two weeks younger than Tate. And she's also a girl and they're like our age. And so we're going to do Halloween with them. And yeah,

They're just like our whole neighborhood is just like young parents. And so that's been really fun because I've never like fit in that category. And now it's like we're all in the same stage of life. So I'm excited about that. I was just going to ask if you have any new mom friends.

That's so fun. We like, yeah, we're going to do Halloween with them. And then I do, I have like some mom friends and you kind of, you know how friendships go, right? You kind of like see, okay, here's, here it is. And then you like water some of the friendships. And so that's kind of the phase I'm in now is like, there's cause there's like some entrepreneur girls that I like. There's some mom friends that I like. I like everyone I've met so far. It's just like,

You kind of have to say where where do I put my focus, you know, and then I think like plan accordingly with friends. I love that. I feel like I feel like mom friends will be such a fun era to be in because you'll like you'll relate to these people so much and you can ask each other questions and get support. It's just I feel like going to be very fun. Oh, yeah. Yeah, I'm excited about it. So that's my rose. I love that. Um, do you know that tonight's the supermoon?

I saw that you put that in there and would that be why the moon was so full last night or does that have nothing to do with it? Yeah, so it's a super moon and also...

Oh, gosh. Maybe a harvest moon combined, but it's going to be, like, very big and kind of yellow tonight. Ooh, cool. So, October 17th. So, when this episode comes out, it'll be past, but you're supposed to... It's supposed to be, like, the strongest moon in 2024 because, like, we're ending an eclipse season, so you're supposed to manifest because we're leaving...

Like the planets are shifting. So we're leaving one shift and going into a new shift, but it's the, it's the strongest full moon of 2024. Okay. That's exciting. I've been loving looking at the moon, like for some reason since fall came. So I'll probably go outside and watch that. Oh, I love that. And I, I'm just so jealous. Like you have a yard. And I also feel like from your deck, you'll be able to see the moon so nicely over the city. Oh, it sounds so lovely. I,

Yeah, and it's kind of cold here, so I'll just be in my sweatpants outside. It'll be nice. It'll be very fall. That sounds so nice. Also, I have another question for you, like a funny one that I saw on TikTok, because I feel like you and I will have similar answers. But they were talking about, are you and your partner a...

Why pay for it if you can do it yourself person or a why do it yourself if you can pay for it person? So I wanted to see what you and Harrison are because Pete and I are the opposite Harrison and I are the second one read it to me again So it's either why pay for it if you can do it yourself or why do it yourself if you can pay for it? Why do it yourself if you can pay for it? What are you? That's me

yeah like if time is money why are we doing it it's so funny because like I Pete is for sure like why pay for it if you can do it yourself and like my older roommate was also that way so like whenever we would get things put together I'd be like I'm gonna order a task grab and she'd be like no I'll just do it myself so I'll be like okay I'll pay you to do it for me um oh I remember you would do that I remember you used to pay her to put together stuff for you

But it's funny because my mom was a why pay for it if you can do it yourself. And my dad is more of a why do it yourself if you can pay for it. What? I know. So it's mainly like he doesn't want to do it, so he just makes my mom do it type of thing. But he also doesn't want to pay for it. Okay.

He doesn't want to pay for it or do it. That's what my dad is. Right. But I think growing up, seeing my mom being a why do it or sorry, why pay for it if you can do it yourself made me resent that because I was like, I don't want to do all the work all the time. So now I'm fully if I can pay for it, I'm not doing it. I think that.

Okay. So I've been like looking in, cause this like applies very largely, I think to motherhood, it applies to like a lot of areas of life, but I just have been looking at it kind of like looking at what help people have. And, um,

It's so funny because I think people directly correlate that question to like how much money is in your bank account. It's like it has nothing to do with that. I think it boils down to like how you decide to spend money. Like some people love to buy things. Some people like to say no. I don't. There's this guy I'm thinking of specifically who talks about the slop like I don't want a lot of stuff but like I will like I will build the army around me to make me more productive. And I think but then there's those people that are like all

Also, they always say, you know, how is Warren Buffett a billionaire? It's because he still drives, you know, he would do it himself type thing. And so I think it's like so funny because it has nothing to do with like numbers in the bank. It's just like how you optimize. Oh, yeah. And also like what you value. Like I value time more than anything in this world. So if I don't have to do it.

I'll just pay for it. But yeah, I totally agree. It does not matter how much money you have. And I feel like you and I are both like, we'd rather pay for an experience versus like an item. Totally. But it's funny though, because as much as I am that person, I always wanted to date the opposite of me. Like have a partner who will do it. So it's kind of hypocritical. Well, that worked out. But I'm lucky. But sometimes Pete and I will argue because he's like, we're not going to pay for that. And I'm like,

But like, let's be real. We both know if we don't, it's just going to sit here for a month and then get done. So I'll just pay for it now and then it'll be done tomorrow.

I've never regretted spending money on having something done. Like I can't think of a time where somebody came and did something, hanging a TV, anything like that. I was like, damn, I wish I could have that money back. But I do look at like, I'm looking at clothes right now and I'm like, didn't need that. You know, it's so funny. Like I have regretted purchases, but never tasks done. I literally...

Like, I get my credit card bill every month and I'm just like, how do I spend so much money? Where, like, what am I doing? I'm not doing anything. Nothing to show for it. I'm like, what happened? I'll, like, literally not be traveling for the whole month of October. I'm like, how is my credit card bill more expensive than it was the month before? It's like, sometimes I think, like, I think Amex is, like, actually out to get me and I think they're lying to me sometimes. I know they're not, but...

There's so many times where I've seen my bill and been like, they're fraud. And I'll go look at the charges and I'll be like, no way. I did every single one of those. Oh my God. I just like, it's the biggest stressor in my life. I'm just like, oh, how did that get so high? And if I didn't spend that much, I would have way more money to save. Weird. Weird.

Yeah, like if I didn't go out to dinner any of those times, you could have X, Y, Z. Like, oh, wow. When you put it that way. I know. I noticed too, I like to just, so there's a Wegmans or Wagmans right by the recording studio. And every week I go there after we record and I just like wander around and buy a ton of stuff. And I'm like, I think that's my problem. I just wander in stores and pick and next thing you know, you're spending $100, $200 buying random things at the grocery store.

Yeah. You know, that reminds me. Do you know, like growing up in the Midwest, you obviously like went to Target and did like Target walks. Didn't you like where you lap Target? All the time. Yeah. Okay. So like when at the end of my pregnancy, what I would do is I would go to Sonic and I would get like a big soda and then I would go to Target and I would just like lap the aisles. And I like, I forgot how much I loved doing that. So yeah.

Right when she was born, we needed like a couple things from Target. And I was like, let's just go like lap the aisles. And Harrison was like, absolutely not. Like, why would we lap the aisles? Like, why wouldn't we just go get like exactly what we need? And I was like, well, no one like gets what they need from Target. Like part of the joy is you go there and you leave and you didn't even know you needed half the stuff.

And so we went yesterday and I was like seeing, you know, I was doing my target lap and then I noticed like he had disappeared. He was also doing his target lapping. And I was like, is this not the best place like on the planet? And you don't really get that in New York, but I forgotten about my whole high school was spent just walking the target aisles. Oh my God. Yeah. If I had a bad day, I would literally go to target and just walk around.

Like this chick in front of me, the chick in front of me checking out only had a lamp. She like went to Target for a lamp and only bought a lamp. And I was like, no, no, no, no, no. Like I have foil vitamins, M&Ms. Like you got, you got all this random stuff that wasn't on your list. And like, that's the point of Target. And it's not, that's not the point of Walmart. And that's not the point of TJ Maxx, like any other spot you can, it's only the point of Target.

No, literally when I was in Tampa, the first thing I looked up was how close I was to a target because I miss it so much.

The joy of like the red dot. I'm just like, yes. When I was in Minnesota, I brought Pete to like a true super target that has a liquor store in it. Because there's only like one around me in Minnesota. And he would like, I was like, Pete, this is what a target is made of. This is the true target. Like liquor store, grocery store. There's a mini Ulta in it. Like this is target. Wow. Wow.

That's a good target. The mini ultas are powerful. Yeah. It was pretty cool. I was like, this is what I need in my life. Yes.

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That's what I really hate. So the doctor should definitely take it back.

Yeah, go ahead. That's just so funny. So, yeah. So we all know like the love languages are physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation and acts of service. But there's now two new love languages that have come out, which is shared experiences and emotional security. So shared experiences would be like examples would be like going out to dinners together and sharing that experience, going to concerts, sharing that experience and then emotional security would

I don't really understand exactly how that's different than words of affirmation, but I guess it's just someone making you feel very secure through different ways in your relationship. I guess words of affirmation could just be like, I love you. You're so beautiful. And like emotional security would be more so like, I'll never leave you. I guess that would be.

I really like did I did not like I experienced I thought was good because I do think a lot of people want shared experiences not acts of service like I see that I see the difference there but this emotional this emotional what do they call it safety or support how's it worded emotional security

emotional security to me is like crazy to be a love language. I think because like we all do to a certain extent want emotional security, but like for that to be the only way you receive love felt a little, um, like,

overcorrecting on like a past experience or something. It felt, it didn't feel like true to the person. It felt like we were overcorrecting for like, like a breakup or something that had happened previously in life. It almost seems like too, it's overcorrecting for a trauma that someone had because I just pulled it up and

It says emotional security, feeling emotionally seen and taken care of. And it compares it to words of affirmation because I was like, that sounds like words of affirmation. So it says, okay, so different than seeking validation, affirmation, or praise like those who resonate with the one original love language, words of affirmation, those who resonate with the love language of emotional security need to feel like when they take their walls down, their partner will listen to them and respect their true emotions. Okay.

So the signs of this would be like you're not afraid to ask deep questions. You ask a lot of questions to get to the root cause of situations or feelings. Friends call you to talk to you through issues or feelings because you feel safe with you. Yeah, I agree with you. It's like a little funky to me. It's just like the other love languages I felt like were how they were like ways you like to be loved. And this one to me felt like ways I needed to

Understand your ex-boyfriend or something You know what I'm saying It is the trauma It's like your past life not your true self Yeah It's almost like A personality trait You find in someone Than How you could receive It's almost like A not exactly healthy way to validate Receiving love from someone I don't know it's a little weird for me

Yeah, like that's what it is. It's like when you fall in love with somebody. The other love languages seem like exciting and it's how you're in love. But this one feels like how you cope with a problem. Yeah. Because how do you receive love and then how do you give love? Well, I think I receive it by words of affirmation slash. Okay, there's acts of service, but then isn't there one about giving gifts? Yes.

Yeah, so that's like this essentially the same thing. It could be, so acts of service could be giving gifts or it could be maybe getting you a coffee or doing the laundry or picking Tate up, running your errands. So you, something with Tate, like doing things for Tate. Okay, I think I'm, I think I receive it with acts of service. And then the way I give it,

is like acts of service, but sometimes words of affirmation like depending. What about you? So the older I've gotten, I've noticed my love languages have really changed. They used to be mainly words of affirmation.

and quality time but now I am noticing I am I never wanted to be an acts of service person because I kind of was like I'm not that girl who like needs things to feel and receive love but I definitely am like I'm noticing in my relationship with Pete I am so appreciative and feel so loved when he does things around the house and

And the way I show him love I notice is also through acts of service like I'll do the laundry or I'll clean up or like anything that helps his day out. So I would say like I'm acts of service and words of affirmation and then the way I give love is through acts of service.

Okay. It is, you know, it's so fascinating to think about it. It's like the way you give is like reading the way people want to receive love. So like if we naturally give love by acts of service, but you have a friend that's like, I want quality time with you. I don't care if you bring me a present. I want to have dinner with you instead. Um,

Or like I want a hug, like they're the physical touch or something like that. It's so funny that we'll still – sometimes people like will still shove down your throat their way of giving love. But it's like that's not the way they receive it at all. So like the older I get, the more I feel like I step back and I'm like less about how I want to give it, more about how they receive it and then like adjusting your ways. Oh, a thousand percent because like I –

Like I said, I usually do acts of service to show people I love them. But Pete, I know, is a words of affirmation and physical touch. So I have to like learn to be more affectionate with my words and more like touchy to show him love because it's like not usually how I give love.

Yeah, like you could be saying things to him, but all he wanted was you to hold his hand. And it's like the minute you hold his hand, you solved everything. But we spend so much time doing what we want. It's like that's not what they wanted. I just, it's such a funny lesson because it's like half the time holding the hands easier than going and buying a present. Yeah, like he's like, I don't want you to do my laundry. He's like, I just want you to hold me and tell me I'm pretty. And I'm like, I don't want you to hold me and tell me I'm pretty. I just want you to do the laundry. Yeah.

Right. And it's like we're going in this cycle and it's just like, it'd be simple if we just wrote down, I receive love by the, do these three things. And half the time too, I feel like we sit there with people and we're like, read my mind. And it's just like, it'd be so much easier if it was just, hi, if you just give me a hug, I'll be happy. Right. Oh my gosh. Also, I completely forgot we were going to talk about this today. So this is like an abrupt transition, but the, um,

Can we talk about the, like, Aspen-Ovard? Like, in kind of like, can you, like, don't talk shit about your ex-boyfriend if you're going to get back together with them whole thing? Because that is just, like, trending on the internet right now. Did they both get back together with their exes? So...

The way I kind of have understood the situation is, so Kennedy Urich, she is notorious, and this isn't bashing her because she's like very open about it and like it's very funny. She's like notorious for dating someone, breaking up with them, airing their dirty laundry out on the internet, and like kind of bashing her ex and then getting back together with the ex. Like,

She's known for it. She's done it with a few guys. And she's so funny about it on the internet. She'll be like, yeah, that's me. I don't care. They know what they're getting into. And she just did that with her last ex. She broke up with him and then went on a live. Totally like...

airing out their dirty laundry explaining why they broke up and then um I don't know maybe like a week ago she did this trend where she's like sitting on his lap and showing like they're talking again and then Aspen Ovard who I didn't even know existed until a few days ago and now I'm like obsessed with her she did the same trend where she was she's like going through a divorce but um she was

made a tiktok where she's like i'm pulling a ken yurk and she was sitting on her ex-husband or like her current i don't know if they're officially divorced or not she was sitting on his lap and people were like what what do you mean are you guys back together or not oh i didn't realize that what was happening with the mom was it his mom

So the thing that I love about Aspen is like, so she's been on the internet for like 10, 15 years. And she's been known as like the good girl, the girl next door. She's never been messy. And all of a sudden she's like entering this messy era and people are like, we love this for you. It's about time you spoke your truth. Wow.

She hasn't said why her and her husband are going through divorce, but they are. And then apparently the husband's mother posted on her Instagram story and was like, Mama Bear's about to come out. Let me know if you want to know the truth. And Aspen was like, oh, hell no. So she posted a TikTok like riding her ex-husband. And she was like...

She was like, you might be mama bear, but I'm mother. And she made a TikTok where she was like, I don't care if my girls see this one day. They're going to say that they're proud and their mother ate and got back at grandma. So it's just been like very funny to watch. Do they have kids? Yeah, I think they have three.

Julie, do they have three? She's nodding. Yeah. But it's just been like so wild to see. But I think like the funniest thing or not funny thing, the most interesting part of this is like, where do we draw the line of like not talking shit about your ex if you're planning on getting back together with them? Because like, is it worth the scrutiny and drama of people weighing in their opinions? Like,

I feel like you and I have never been someone who has bashed their exes on the internet, nor will I ever be type of thing in either of you. And I just like, I prefer my life that way. Yeah, that's really funny. It's funny too because...

I guess it depends like what the problem is that you're saying, depending on, you know, and then, and then I wonder when you make it, do you think there's a chance you'll get back together or in your head? Are you thinking like no shot? I don't know. I always think it's funny. You know, they say careful what you tell your friends. If you are going to maybe get back together, cause they'll never forget. And it's like the internet's like a bunch of friends, but it doesn't, it does make juicy entertainment. Oh, so juicy entertainment. But then I was thinking about it in my own life and like,

In high school, I was definitely that girl who would like shit on her ex hardcore. And then I'd get back together with them. And my friends would be like, but we hate him because he treated you like crap. And I felt like it just like destroyed the relationship. And then the older I got, I kind of learned to like keep my mouth shut and not talk about him as much. And then I felt like it helped the relationship kind of stay healthier. Yeah. And I do think like, you know,

Oh gosh I don't know it depends like yeah I'm always from the school of thought of like don't say anything because no one's perfect right and there's like always two sides to every story and you know it's like these a lot of times when I think it comes to this internet stuff it's like these guys don't like have a platform so they're like hands are tied yeah what are they gonna do go make a tick tock and so it is it is like gosh I don't know it's interesting but it's funny.

The mom-mother thing is hilarious. Oh my God. I literally was like, I'm obsessed with you now because this is like the funniest content I've ever seen. I also love when like good girls go bad type of content where she was like so peaceful and PC and now she's just kind of like going crazy. I'm like, I love this.

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Yeah, I didn't know that she had the kiddos. Okay, so she was sitting on the ex-husband's lap or they're going through the divorce, maybe not an ex yet, but they're officially over still. That's a thing.

So we don't know. We don't know exactly what's happened. Like, that's where people are getting really confused all of a sudden because we're like, so are you guys together or are you not together? Because like, she'll make a TikTok being like, no. And then she'll make a TikTok of riding her husband and we're like, wait, what? What's happening? Oh, juicy. Okay. Okay, so we have to stay tuned to see what happens. Yeah. It's just... Oh, I like it. Okay. I guess it's kind of even like the Hallie situation that happened a long time ago. It's like...

It makes for such great content to talk about, like, air your ex out online. But then when you get back together, you get all this backlash of, like, weren't you just shitting on them? Didn't we hate him? Yeah. I thought we hated him. Are we changing the narrative? Well, I love him. Yeah. What I like about Ken, though, is that she owns it. Like, that's good to be like this. I yop did it. Sorry. Because it's like in real life, people do do that, of course. Oh, my God. Yeah. I'm just like.

I've tried the older I've gotten to not do it as much because I have friends who will do that. And I'm like, like one of my friends, she used to see this guy and she just talked so much shit on him every single time they broke up and then they would get back together. And I was like, but like, it's at the point where I actually hate him and I don't want to be around him anymore. And she's like, he's not that bad. I'm like, I've only heard the bad things about him. So I like don't want to be around him. Right. Exactly. And then like, as a friend, you only know what you're told. And so it's like our job is,

In that scenario, I feel like to filter that through when you go through a breakup, maybe. I don't know. Yeah. You definitely should talk, like definitely like talk to your friends about your problems. But I feel like you need to have a little bit of a filter to some degree. If like anywhere in the back of your mind thinks you might get back together with them because your friends only, even if they hear the good, they're only going to remember the bad. And then that's what they're going to hold on to if you get back together with them. And they're always going to be like seeing if he slips type of thing.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's so true. Okay, and now can we talk about, can you explain to me the Mendez Brothers documentary? Because I didn't see that. Oh, yeah. So did you watch the Netflix show? Yes, and I didn't research anything ahead of time. I just saw that it was like the number one show. So I was like, fine, I'll watch this. And then I was like, whoa. Oh my God, I'm obsessed with the Mendez Brothers and the trial. I didn't know anything about them. I like knew of them because it's a very famous show.

murder. Like they were like, it's like, it's one of those murders. It's like OJ Simpson thing. You just like, you get, you learn about it throughout life. But I didn't know much about them or like what happened. So I watched the Netflix show and then I watched the documentary and the documentary was good, but I felt like they left out a lot of newer evidence that has come out. I don't think that they did the brothers justice like they should have. I was hoping since the documentary was so new that they would bring everything to light that's happened. But

And maybe they like made it a lot like a longer time ago and it can't like I don't know exactly when it was made but since it came out after the Netflix show and I feel like the Netflix show brought so much light to this case and brought up so much new evidence and is like giving the Menendez brothers another chance to kind of like speak their truth and really share their story. I just feel like the documentary was just kind of like a story that

about everything we already knew but it didn't share anything new like I wouldn't recommend it if you saw the show okay because it's just like repetitive it's very repetitive and it gives the facts obviously like the show was dramatized to some degree in some areas so it makes it more factual but like they didn't bring new information to us like they could have so I was just like oh I kind of like felt myself like scrolling on my phone more so than on the show I was like

I like didn't even go on my phone during it. I guess that's good if they're very similar means the show did a good job making it real. I think the show was incredible. Like that acting insane. The story was, I feel like well told. It was just, I mean, that was, that's one of my favorite shows I've seen in 2024. Yeah.

What else is, like, so incredible is when there's, like... That's obviously a real-world event, and then they make a show about it, and then you got Kim K Instagramming that the Menendez brothers should be released. It's like, whoa. Like, it got real, real fast when she did that. Yeah, and Cooper, who plays Eric Menendez, he actually has gone and visited both of the brothers with Kim Kardashian and has, like, heard their story. So I feel like it's just bringing...

so much more light to the situation and also I think too it's helping like

I don't know the exact word that says, but like we always know that like sexual assault has happened with women. But back then, if it was happening with a man, a lot of people just dismissed it. So I feel like it's allowing male victims to be able to speak their truth. And it's showing that like sexual assault can happen with anyone. So I feel like it's been very educational and also help inform people like this can happen to every single type of person. Yeah, it's so fascinating too to like,

you know, the story, like the overarching headline that was told about them and then actually like watching the documentary and seeing all the...

Kind of like the behind the curtain, what really happened, it really like tugged at your heartstrings. Like I felt a lot during the show. Like I was like, whoa, I felt like I was being pulled in so many different directions. Oh my God, same. That show was so emotional. Like I felt there was times where I was like sick to my stomach watching it because of the things that they portrayed and like went through. I was just like, this is insane. Yeah.

Because it feels like a TV show that's fictional, but then you realize, no, this is a true story, even though there's actors playing their parts. And that's what always... And then they're still alive today, and it's still a pro... It's just this... It really does... It does make you stop and think and feel. And do you know what else did that to me? What? Is the Liam Payne thing, where he... Because he's like my age, you know? And he's that like...

He's such a superstar figure. And then you just read, you're just scrolling Instagram and you just read this headline and it just like, it, it puts the dates out and it's like 2024 and it's like he, he passed away. It's so sad. Oh, it's heartbreaking. And also too, he was such a large part of our like teenage years being part of one direction. Like it's almost like we grew up with him.

I was shocked when I saw that come out in the news, which was when we're recording this, it was yesterday. But when this episode comes out, it'll be like a few days from now or a few days ago. And I was like speechless. Yeah, you think it's fake or you think you're just like, it's just a photo of him. And then you're like, wait, what? And it's just that things can change in the drop of a hat. It's very chilling, I guess. Yeah, I know. It's very sad. Yeah.

Yeah, super sad. One quick thing I wanted to quick talk to you about since I guess the supermoon will have already passed, but I still think people can utilize it. Have you heard of the Heather Graham method of manifesting your future partner?

I Googled it, but no, tell me about it. So I don't really love that. We're giving Heather Graham credit because I did this before I knew anything about this, but so Heather Graham went on a, she's a famous actress. She's hilarious. She went on a podcast and explain that she,

She wrote down every single thing she wanted in her future husband, like very, very specifically. And then she threw it in the ocean and then apparently met him very soon after. So she like blew up and was like, they have their grand method of manifesting your future partner. But I did that before I met Pete. I remember I wrote like very, very descriptive things about what I wanted in my future partner. Like so, so...

descriptive about their characteristics, the way they look, where they live, like what they do for a job, like so detailed. And then I remember like folding up and throwing it away. And I met Pete, I think like within a month after I did that. It was so weird. It's like I truly visualized meeting this person and I created them in their brain and then Pete appeared. It was just wild. That is so wild. It's the power of like

It's with anything. That's why I love journaling is like if you just write something down and get it outside of yourself and like into the universe, it can start to work. It's magic, which is a powerful thing. Yeah, it's like the power of believing in things that you deserve.

And then it comes through. Yeah, like focusing. Yeah, yeah. On it. Like being like, this can exist, right? And then you just put it out there. It's like, yeah, it can exist. And it's like teaching your brain that you truly want something. Whenever my single friends are kind of complaining about being single, I'm like, but do you genuinely deep down want to be in a relationship ever?

see yourself in a relationship visualize yourself in a relationship and a lot of times you're like yeah I think and I'm like see that's that's why you aren't in one because like you need to like believe it in your core that you are ready for this and then like those things will come for you like your subconscious is so strong it's crazy it really is and I think believing is a really big part of it like if we were signed up to run a marathon and we like thought maybe we could do it versus like

we knew we could do it, then that it's, it's our next subject probably is the power of perspective. Cause I love that video that you put, you dropped in there, but like thinking you could do it versus like thinking maybe you'll meet somebody and being like, no, I will meet somebody. And like, this is who I want it to be. Or like, I can run this marathon. I do think that mental shift is really powerful. It really is. Our mind can really change so much and you bring up the power of perspective and

I feel like that's kind of what changed me as a person when I lived in Minnesota to New York because in this what we're talking about is there's this video of this girl saying like the way you perceive things or like the power of your perspective will change your whole outlook and she's like

I'm 30 years old and single and one perspective can be, I'm so lonely. I'm 30 years old and I'm single. Like what a sad life I have. Then you can shift your perspective and you can be like, oh my gosh, I'm only 30 years old. I have used my whole 20s to really figure out what I want in a person. I haven't settled. So now when I meet my future person, like this will be my person. Watch how crazy perspective is. So

I'm 30 years old. I'm single. I live at home. I just spent the last year like running around trying to figure out stuff and I'm back at home. My job is hard. All my friends are getting married and engaged and I'm not. Life just everyday feels the same somehow sometimes. And sometimes I'm like what the heck am I doing? Or

I am 30 years old you guys and I live at home because I just spent the last year traveling around and doing whatever I wanted meeting so many people having so much flexibility and now I get to live at home and try and save to buy my own place and spend this quality time with my family that I'll never have again and I haven't met my person yet which is so cool because I still get to fall in love for the first time with someone new and

I will just love this person and they'll be so great for me because I've just chose not to settle and that's so exciting and my job is hard but it's rewarding and I'm so lucky to have like a remote job that's flexible and work with amazing people and I believe in what we're doing and I get to go to beautiful walks every day because I have a healthy body and I have an amazing community where I live that I'm working really hard to build and that's pretty cool don't you think? Love you guys, bye!

And I feel like in Minnesota, I was that first perspective. And then when I moved to New York, I changed my perspective. And it genuinely changes your life. Yeah. And I love the way she did it. Like she just said it. She's like, you know, I'm 30 years old. I live at home with my parents. And then she's like, or I'm 30 years old. And like, just, she just like swat. It's like the same sentence, different tone.

And I was like, wow, it's the way we talk to ourselves too. You know, like internally inside of our head, what we say to ourselves, like the tone we say it in, it affects the way we think of ourselves. Yeah, the power of positivity. It's crazy.

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Complicated backstory, but my boyfriend and I have been together for over three years and are now seniors in college. We both started college at the same university. We're both athletes. I transferred after sophomore year, so we did a year of long distance and barely saw each other because of our athletic schedules. We planned on continuing long distance for the rest of college, but he had a coaching opportunity and his agent recommended that he transfer.

Everything worked out and while he didn't end up at the exact same school as me, he's now in the same city for athletic reasons, not necessarily to follow me, but it worked out. After a year of long distance, it's been really nice to spend more time together this past month since we started senior year. However, my roommates have been acting a little weird about me spending more time with him. I've been staying at his place twice a week and this past weekend I spent the whole weekend with him there.

I am having my most fun year of my life, honestly, but I can't help feeling a little bothered that my roommates seem sad about me spending more time with him. Last year, I was with them 24-7 for the most part because I was doing long distance and didn't have a boyfriend nearby. I don't feel like spending time with him this year is wrong, but I can't help but worry about what they think and if I'm upsetting them. How should I handle the situation? Should I let it go or not worry about what they think or should I let the guilt stick with me and try to spend more time with my roommates?

It's one of my favorite listener questions yet because it's such a real thing. I feel like every single person... No, every single girl has gone through this. Yes, and...

I don't know what you're going to say, but this is what I'm going to say because every single girl has gone through this. And most of us went through this in college. It's such a narrow minded mindset for them to give you the cold shoulder for spending time with him. When like you might not marry this guy. Okay. Um,

I don't, because she said she's having the most fun year of her life. Do I want her to keep doing what makes her happy? Like, do I think you should be a girl's girl and, you know, not miss out on that, those times and memories with them? Of course. But what I believe most is that you must like do what makes you happy and have fun with. And if that's spending time with him, spend time with him. Like your roommates are probably sitting around being like, now she's too cool for us or something. And it's like, girls, come on. Like, that's a very, um,

narrow sort of selfish like mindset I feel like I literally could not agree with you more like the sentence where she said I'm having the most fun year of my life like do what makes you happy this is your life do what you want to do and don't live a life for other people

Like don't hang out with your friends because you feel like you should. Hang only hang out with your friends if you want to. Like at the end of the day, you have to wake up and be like, do what? What do I want to do? Do I want to hang out with my boyfriend or my friends? And do what you want to do. It's as simple as that. I feel like we spend so much of our life doing things for other people and living a life for other people. It's like stop that and just literally do what you want to do.

And the, and here's the thing too, like the only reason you would be hanging out with the girls more is because they guilted you into it. So you wouldn't really even want to be there. And the best friends in life, the real, real, real best friends in life say, Hey, how can we hang out with you and the guy? Do we go to the sporting event? Uh, can we like get, can we like have a pregame for it? Like they'll fit, they'll, they'll naturally want to be with you and

Like if it's actually about you as a person and them loving you, they'll find a way to incorporate that. But if it's about their egos getting hurt and them thinking you're spending too much time with the boy, will they start to give you the cold shoulder? Especially in college. It's like everyone hangs out with everyone, like girls and guys, and everyone just goes to parties. So it's like, yeah, be like, hey, I miss you. How about you and Brad come with us to XYZ party tonight? Or we all pregame together beforehand, then meet up or something.

This is a tale as old as time. Like, okay, insert any fraternity here. I don't know, Delt. So like if you're dating a Delt and then your friend, your roommates are like, she's with him all the time.

Or you could text her and be like, hey, we're coming to Delt tonight. Like, we're coming over. We're hanging out with you and the guys. Like, we want to meet some people over there. Just like, just instead of being like, well, she's now with him all the time. And let's give her the cold shoulder. No, be the bigger, like, not the bigger person. Both of you be big people and just be like, hey, we want to come hang out because we miss you and we love you. Yeah. Because that's real love. So immature. And like, unfortunately, girl, you're going to experience this.

in every phase of life but like you will meet true friends who just let you live the life you want to live and they will always be around so yeah and just adjust accordingly yeah just keep doing you yeah

Yeah, totally agree. Yeah, she should, she gets, the permission is granted. You get to hang out with your boyfriend whenever you want. Yes. Okay, well, we got to let you go release the milk from the boobs. Thank you. Oh, very happy about that. Thank you. So we love you guys so much and we will see you next Monday. Bye guys. We love you. Bye.

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