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Hello, my beautiful people, and welcome back to the Moments Podcast. Feels like I haven't talked to you guys in a while. I literally say that every week, but today has been quite the day. I was planning on recording, but I was going to record an episode alone, and then this really strange person was like, hey, can I be on the podcast? And her name is Meredith. Not sure if you guys know who she is, but take over. Yeah.
I am here. I am here. And Lexi asked me. I didn't ask her. She asked me, guys. Please. Okay, yeah, no, that is true. I was like, hey, you want to record? She's like, yeah, I mean, okay. And today's been a weird day because we finally got back to my little treehouse to record and I was trying to figure out the microphone because if you guys have been listening for a while, you know that the past few episodes, the audio has been a total disaster and it just has not worked at all.
So I'm using a different microphone that's like connected to the recorder and I don't know what this is gonna sound like but I hope it sounds okay and I promise I'm working on getting all of that audio stuff fixed. It's just really hard when I feel very far away from the real world. But anyways...
This episode is going to be titled This Moment because I've been working really hard on living in the moment because we all can get so caught up on looking towards the future and trying to figure out what the future is supposed to look like or dwelling on like what we didn't do in the past and in the midst of all that you miss the moment itself and then I decided Meredith was going to be a part of this too because both of us
have been working on this. In the moment. In the moment. In this moment. In this moment. On this podcast called The Moments. The Moments podcast. Isn't that just crazy? Meredith and I watched this TikTok video.
We both, did I send it to you or we both saw it? I think Lexi sent it to me, but we were sitting right next to each other on the couch and then she showed it to me after she sent it to me. Okay. You know what sometimes? Details, details. I did do that. Details. And it was a TikTok about how a lot of people are feeling this shift in their life and they feel as though it's shifting from season one to season two. And Meredith and I have felt that pretty heavy.
Tell us when we felt it. When did it happen? Well, when she showed me the TikTok, I was kind of like, dang. Okay, that's kind of true. I feel something's shifting. Something's changing in the air. And then one night, we were riding our little bikes to Foodland. We never ride bikes. We never ride bikes. So this was kind of a big deal. Especially at night. Like, we weren't even going to ride them at night. And we were like, you know what? Let's just do it. And then it was raining, and
And it was really fun. It was getting dark. We were kind of lost. Well, not really, but like, it was a little spooky. And then all of a sudden I looked at Lexi and I was like,
Man, season two just started, like, right now. Yeah. Like, you just felt this, like, energy shift. You literally felt this shift of energy in your body. And we were going, and we were going to get groceries, and, oh my gosh, a kitty just walked into the treehouse. Hello, peaches. Hello, peaches. Hi, baby. Peaches take over the podcast. All right, we have two special guests this week, I guess. Okay, little, there was a cat intermission, but...
The real point during this bike ride that really felt like we were shifting from season one to season two was when we were driving... Not driving. Oh, my gosh. We were biking, and we passed the first house. You guys know, like, the boys, like, Truckee and Jack. They were living in this house. Truckee wasn't even living there. Anyways, our friends were living in this house when we first moved out here, and it was the first place we hung out with them. And...
and we were biking past it, and there was this new group of guys that were just walking back to the house, and we did not talk to them at all, but it just felt like a shift. It was like, oh, okay, like, that chapter closed, and now the next one is opening. Like, the new characters are being... New characters are being unlocked. Unlocked. And we were saying, like, oh, we're going to see someone in Foodland that, like, is going to be a part of season two, and we saw two people that we never see in the grocery store here, and we were like, hold on.
This is weird. And that was really when season two started. But I think that something that should be noted is that season two is a shift that we're all going to feel very soon. And it's just where you kind of change from like,
The same way you've been living things, the same way you've been feeling things, the same way you've been thinking about things and perceiving them, and now you're going to see things completely different, right? Like, how would you explain what season two is? Like, season one was, like, the introduction. It's like, you're getting to know yourself, you're getting to know the people around you, you're getting to know, you know...
Who, like, you want to surround yourself with, who you don't want to surround yourself with. Everything is, like, you're thinking it, but then season two, it's actually becoming the reality. So, like, you're taking the steps that you wanted to do in season one, and you're putting them into action in season two. Yes. Yes. And you're literally, like, I think season two is once you feel like you've really started growing up. Yeah. Like, season one is a lot of your childhood and, like, what it was like growing up.
when you're in high school and college and like you make new friends and you meet new people but then through the end of season one you kind of start to realize what friends you actually want to keep close to you and you kind of just said that but like the energy that you actually need to surround yourself with and then in season two that is the only energy that you choose to keep around you so
So, if you're finding yourself in season one and you're ready to shift to season two, honestly, I don't know if you can control that because it's going to happen when it's going to happen and you're going to feel it. But I have a feeling season two is happening for a lot of us since most of us listening are all kind of the same age-ish, right? Yeah. Season two, a universal experience because everyone we've talked to about it is like, yeah, I totally saw that TikTok and same. Yeah.
So I don't know. And on the note of season two starting, I was making this little outline for Mara and I to use when we record this episode. And I wrote down a couple things that you could journal about if you do feel yourself kind of starting to shift into season two, or if you...
are looking forward to it. But I wrote down, like, the journal prompt is, who are you in season two? So, like, write about the version of yourself that you are in this era. Like, who do you want to be? How do you want to be perceived? And obviously, you don't have control over how people perceive you, but you do have control over how you perceive the world. And when you perceive the world in a good light, the world will then see you in a good light.
So, I don't know, just write down what the best version of yourself looks like and what she does and what she wears and what her style's like and who she hangs out with and what she does with her free time and her hobby. Okay, you guys get the point. And then I also wrote down, who are the characters in season two? Like, who do you want to come with you from season one to season two and who do you think needs to stay in season one? This is a heavy one because nobody really wants to, like, think about who they don't want in their life anymore, but I do think there's a lot of us that have a lot of
situations where we're realizing that we're not growing from it anymore and it's time to just like leave it in the past you know yeah so then also I the last one I wrote down was like what's the location like where do you want to be this season you you you have like an increased budget on on I mean that's just what the TikTok said anyways where do you want to be write about it that's all I got do you have any journal ideas for season two um
I also think you should reflect on season one because there's definitely so much that we all learned in season one. Yeah. I feel like writing about, like, the things that have been on your heart in season one that, like, you, like, they always stuck around and you kept coming back to them. Like, write those things down so then you can see it and then think, like, okay, like, these have obviously been on my heart for a while, so, like, what can I do to, like...
take action. And there's a reason that they've been on your heart for a while. And honestly, this is something else I wanted to talk about in this podcast is that I watched on Sunday, Meredith and I watched her home church on her computer while we were sitting in the kitchen and it was like the coolest thing ever. And it talks so much about that. Like when something's put on your heart, you have to, well, I'm really bad at, today I can't put anything into this. My brain is not working. But Meredith, do you want to try? Like when,
So there's different stages, basically. So it's like perceiving things is kind of like the first stage. So it's like the things that you hear or you do and then they kind of stick around and they stay in your mind and your heart for a while. Those are things that God has placed on your heart for a reason. You might not know it right now, but they're there.
for a purpose. And then like the promise, it's just like after that and it's that God wouldn't put something on your heart that he wouldn't fulfill and that he wouldn't like have you like... Like he wouldn't put it on you if he didn't think you could achieve it. Yeah, yeah. Because you are. Yeah. It's on your heart for a reason and that's your purpose and that's your passion and you have to continue to chase that and work towards that because it's what you're...
It's what you're capable of. Yeah. And if you believe in yourself, that's just like kind of the number one step because God believes in you too. And you're going to make it happen. But it was just really cool. And it definitely got me back in touch with, I don't know, I don't talk about Christianity on here too much. And I'm not really going to get too much into it right now. But I will say that church was awesome. And last night I was saying this prayer and I pray often, but I like was really deep.
in thinking about what I wanted to say and what I wanted to talk about and how I wanted to connect with God in this moment. And this seriously feels so weird for me to talk about, but it was at like 3 a.m. literally last night. And right when I was writing it down in my notes, right when I wrote like, amen, I heard sirens and I,
When my grandpa passed, he used to be a firefighter, so anytime we hear sirens now, we're like, oh, Poppy's watching over us. And at 3 a.m., right as I typed amen, I heard the sirens. And I was like, okay, that's a really cool sign, and that definitely means something. And I don't know, if you've just been looking for a sign to, like, get back into it and get back in touch with God, like, this is your sign to do it if you want to take it. That's on you. You guys know how I feel about religion. I think worship whatever you want, but that's just my take. Anyways, yeah.
Yeah, I literally don't know how to talk about religion, but maybe we'll dive deeper into that another day. You're doing great. Thank you. Thank you. And honestly, I owe a lot of that to Meredith because she told me her church was awesome. She told me her pastor was great. And I was like, okay, like, we'll see. And then I was watching and I was listening and I was like, oh my gosh, he thinks like I do. Like, because he just, it just connected in my brain.
And a lot of times I'll go to church and I'll be like, okay, this isn't connecting any pieces for me, but he just made it feel so comforting and so relatable. And I think that that was probably the coolest part. And type your church up real quick. He talks with you, not at you, and makes it just...
I don't know. I follow him really well, too, because he kind of jumps around, and that's what I think. Yeah, exactly. But it's the Fenton Freedom Center, if you guys want to look it up on Facebook. You guys definitely should. They have live streams of church. That's what I do sometimes when I'm out here, but it's amazing. The best place. Yeah, and honestly, I've gone to church here a couple times, and I think I've mentioned this before on the podcast, but
I also go to meditation when I'm here on Sundays, so I normally kind of decide between the two, and I lean a little bit more towards meditation, but then we couldn't make it to church. I wasn't going to make it to meditation on Sunday, and Mera was like, oh, let's just watch, and I was like, okay, and then we ended up getting hooked. That's so, like, rare, because I've never really, like, been like, you know what, let's just watch it instead. Yeah, even when we've skipped church in the past, or not necessarily me, because I am so...
all over the place with it, but you won't normally watch it. But it was random, and then we did. The message was so good. It was so fitting for what we've been feeling. And obviously we can't go too far into detail on every emotion that we've been feeling, but I think a lot of us can relate to the fact that we just need comfort in knowing that we're where we are when we need to be there. And I think that's why this all kind of ties back into this moment and being present because everything that's happened in the past few days of my life has just kept bringing me back
to this realization that I am right where I'm supposed to be and I need to just keep following my heart and trusting my gut and just trusting God on this one, you know, and letting him take me through everything that I'm going through. I feel...
Like, I'm rambling, but also there's just so many pieces that connect. And then ever since church, we've met these new friends who are also, like, super Christian. And I don't know. This is kind of a lot about religion for me to talk about. But, Meredith, tell them about our friends. Our friends are the best. Not to brag, guys, but...
I don't even know how he honestly met them. I think that I met, I'm like, can I name drop in here? Yeah, we can name drop. I think, well, I know. I met Mitchell at a youth group at our church here in Hawaii. And I remember, like, he was, like, friends with some of our friends. And I went up to him and I, like, we introduced ourselves. And then as soon as I, like, introduced myself to him, I was like,
Like, okay, this guy, like, he's going to be around for a while. I don't know what, but, like, I know we're going to be besties. And here we are. Besties. Besties for the resties. Yeah, and I hadn't met him. So, you guys, I was home for a while, but I came back, and I had been seeing them post about this kid named Mitchell. I'm like, who is this kid Mitchell with this mullet? I was like, obviously, if he's friends with my friends, I'm sure he's great. And then I met him literally when I got back, like, a week ago, and –
He's just already made such an impact on my life. And I think... Like, I can easily say that him and his brother Riley have become literally some of our best friends. Shout out to the brothers. Shout out to the bros. But have also brought me so much closer to God. And that's just so cool. And again, it's so weird to say, but it's really awesome to be just...
like feeling connected again and the book I'm reading right now is called a stranger in a lifeboat and it's by Mitch album and I've read a couple of his other books first time I read five people you meet in heaven I didn't love it and then I read the next person you meet in heaven and it became like my favorite book series and Meredith read the first one I told her she has to read the second one
But she felt the same way about the first one. She's like, eh, I just don't know. And I'm like, read the second one. So tell me when you're going to read it. I'm going to read the second one, guys. She's going to read it and then she's going to see. But anyways, this book, I got it a long time ago and I haven't touched it. It's just been sitting around. I'm like, oh, this is the next book I'm going to read. And I haven't been reading. And randomly last night I was like, I am going to actually read it now. And...
The book literally talks about like God and trusting and believing and I was like this is actually crazy and it literally says in the book like North Shore and we are living currently on the North Shore of Oahu and I'm like that's really random and just so many other little words in the book that just connect way too heavily to my life right now. I'm like okay God was waiting for me to read this at the right time and he handed it to me now and I'm reading it now.
And it's trippy. I'm on page 100, so I'll keep you updated on it. But it's really good so far. And if you need a book recommendation, there you go. But. No, so many signs. So many signs. So many things are aligning. Like, it's just, it's literally just proof that, like, everything happens for a reason.
Everything happens for a reason. And if you guys, never forget it. You know how I always say that thing, like, everything happens for a reason, and if you don't know what the reason is right now, it's because you're in the happening. That came from Meredith. When did you even first tell me that? I don't know. I really don't know. I think I was, like, trying to, like, comfort you or something, and, like, I can't comfort people.
people. Like, I'm really bad at, like, advice. No, Meredith says she can't comfort people, but she has actually been, like, the person that comforts me the most. Maybe not in, like, the classic, like, no, it's gonna be okay kind of way. Like, she just makes me laugh, and I don't know. That's what I try and do. I try and make it funny, and then when, like, I can't make it funny, I'm like, well, you know, everything happens for a reason. Yeah. And it's like, oh.
Oh, okay. You and Lissa both comfort me in the same way, and I think that's why I love it so much, because, like, I don't really want to be coddled. Like, if I'm going through it, like, I know everything happens for a reason. I know I'm going to be okay. Like, you don't have to make me feel like I'm some sad... Yeah, yeah. Like a pity party. Yeah, I'm like, just make me laugh, okay? I'm going to get over this, but...
Anyways, that's that on that. Meredith says some really wise stuff sometimes, and she just pulls it out of her butthole, I swear. Like, one time, I go, oh, I'm having deja vu. She goes, that means you're on the right path. And I was like, oh my god, like, where'd you hear that? Like, I love that. She's like, I don't know, I just made it up. I'm like, alright, girl. No, I heard that somewhere, though. That when you have deja vu, it means, like, you're on the right path. And I was like, you know what? That's kind of comforting. So I'm gonna take that as it is, and I'm gonna, like... And now, every time I have deja vu, it's literally what I think of. So, thank you, Meredith.
And if it's wrong, then don't come at me. No, no, no. It's not wrong. I don't think it is. I don't know what it is, but...
Anyways, I want to talk about our friends more because after I decided we were going to record together, I posted on my Instagram story a little question box, like what should I talk about with Meredith? And in one of the boxes, it was like, how do you meet new friends and how do you know that you should become friends with someone? And the way I feel about this is that the right people are going to be brought into your life in the right time. And I've always believed that.
But this past week, it's just been so right in front of my face that, like, I literally couldn't miss it if I tried. I had no intentions of meeting this kid Mitchell or his brother Riley. Like, would not have known who these people are. And they were literally placed right in front of my face in my house. And I'm like, okay, these people are going to be in my life for a while. Like, they're funny. We cook meals together. We laugh.
Like, we're literally children when we hang out with them. No, it's so fun. It is so fun. No, it's really crazy, though, because if they... Like, the timing is unbelievable that, like, they just so happen to, like...
come into our life and like we have mutual friends with them too so it's like I don't know how we didn't meet before like the timing's just too good it's way too good and they've like been absolutely amazing they've spoke so much like truth and like light into our lives that it's like no they literally speak facts no they do every conversation that we have I'm I'm taking something away from it or I'm understanding something deeper and I think that that is a true sign that
Those are the kind of people you need to have more of in your life when you can learn from them and evolve from them and grow and just feel like genuine happiness. And like a friendship shouldn't feel so heavy. Friendship should be easy. It should be simple. It should be flowing. And don't get me wrong. This is still a new friendship. I know that friendship takes work, but it's just an energy that you can feel. Yeah. No, they have such good energy. They do. And I saw it. Guys, if you're listening.
boys are you listening they're probably not they're still literally not we'll hear from them maybe like a few years from now and they'll be like oh we just listened to the podcast yeah y'all are weirdos why did you say all that stuff guys we don't know each other that well come on no the thing is we literally don't but we've literally spent probably the four last okay glitching the last four days together so if you're thinking a lot about people in that time frame it's really fun too because we'll just be sitting there and I'll like it'll be silent and someone will go so like what's your guys's favorite color
Yep. And then, like, we get really deep into it. Or we'll talk, like, have you ever been in love? Like, what's your biggest red flag? Like, what do you look for in a lover? Like, just the coolest stuff because since we don't know each other so well, it's just so fun to learn while we're playing country music and cooking dinner or...
down the road. They're, like, comfort friends. It's been really wholesome. Like, you don't have to put up a mask. You just get to, like, show up as you are and they just love you. And it's so awesome. And I think that those are the friends that are really just going to be handed to you and placed right in front of your face because...
Yes, it's awesome to introduce yourself to people and to meet new people. And if you feel pulled to do that, I think that that is 1000% something you should do. It's good to meet everyone and to know people. But the people who are meant to be your true friends will just naturally stick around longer. You'll hang out often. It won't be...
Like, I don't even know how we started hanging out with him every single day, but it just happened. Every day we're, like, FaceTiming, like, oh, what are you doing today? I'm like, oh, well, I guess we're all hanging out. And... No, Mitchell was like, yesterday we had breakfast together, and then he said something about lunch, and I was like, well, when did you have lunch? Like, I was, like, offended that, like, we weren't at lunch with him. Meanwhile, he didn't. Like, we all had lunch together. It was just like, he went to surf for an hour, but...
I don't know. I also think that it's been really comforting for both Meredith and I because we've both been in this kind of weird state where we know that we love it here more than anything. Like, we have the most incredible people around us, the most beautiful environment. It's literally Hawaii. There's nothing to complain about, but we've both been feeling this...
Again, back to the season two thing, this shift to where it's like, okay, we're ready for the next chapter. We've been out here for such a long time, and there's so much more we want to do and see and be and focus on and prioritize. And some of that can just be hard to do when you're in the same place, especially when it's so far away. And then, not sure exactly where I was going with that, but we just kind of started hanging out with them, and it's letting us leave here on a really good note of,
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Okay, so also in the question box, moving on from the friends thing, someone was like, are you guys sad you're not going to be living together anymore? And I honestly got a little bit emotional because I didn't even really think or process or realize that once we leave this time, like, the goal is, yes, that we're going to come back in the winter, but...
We're not going to be roommates anymore. It's season two. I'm like, I still want to be roommates. Nah, we're roommates. Yeah, at some point... We have so many fun things coming up. I am moving into the duplex when I get home, which I think is another reason I'm just so ready to get home. There's so much I want to do there. But I...
I told Meredith she has to come stay with me for a while because I have two bedrooms. And she basically, I was like, just move in. Just come to Florida. Just come to Florida. And I said, okay. And then we also decided we were going to plan a trip to go to a Justin Bieber concert in May in Nashville. So if you guys are going to that, let me know. We haven't planned that at all. It's all up in the air. It's all up in the air. Justin, if you're listening, we would love to.
Nice tickets. Yeah. VIP, backstage, let us know. Justin, I know you love the podcast. Justin, I know you're an avid listener. You listen every Monday morning. But what else are we doing this summer, Meredith? Hmm. We might be going on a little trip. We might be going on a little trip with my family. Family trip with the Hedogos.
It's going to be so epic. I'm actually so excited. I'm trying to convince Mara's parents to come too. I think that they might. They might do it. They might. They're always down for a good family trip. Yeah, so we'll see how that goes. I also want Mara to come to Costa Rica with me. Which I'll probably do that too. Yep, she's probably going to do that. So you're probably going to be hearing a lot more of us. So just because we won't be roommates anymore, that doesn't mean that we won't hang out way too often. Anyways, the next thing that was put in the little question box was...
How do you know where you fit in? And this one I've been feeling a lot too. And I think that's probably why I wrote it down from the question box. But again, back to our awesome friends. Clearly, I'm very grateful for them. But you know where you fit in when you can be yourself and you can laugh and you can embarrass yourself and you can be annoying and you can do weird dance moves and no one really thinks twice about it. You never feel judged. You never feel, I don't know. Meredith, how do you know when you fit in?
I'm like, I don't know. No. Like, we've never been. We don't fit in. Honestly, I think everyone fits in everywhere. Like, it's just a matter of who you feel, like, the most comfortable around. And, like, you don't have to hide, like, who you are and, like, how you act. And... You won't feel as anxious. You won't feel as stressed. Because that's something I feel a lot. Like, I know I'm in the wrong crowd of people when I have a hard time being myself or even figuring out what myself is.
If that makes sense. Like I forget how I even act normally. And then there's certain people I'm around where I'm like, oh, this is me. Like this is the version of myself that I know and love. Like why isn't she coming out around certain people? And I'm like, oh, that's because we just talked about this. Yeah. I'm like, that's because I put up this guard and I'm like, wait a second. Maybe these aren't really my people. And maybe this isn't the energy that I should be surrounding myself with. Yeah. I always thought I was like fake because I was like acting different around like certain friends. And then I came to realize I was like,
When I feel the best is when I'm around the people that I fit in with and that really love me for me. And then when I feel like I'm being closed off or quiet, it's usually when I'm around people that, I don't know, they don't hype me up. Yeah, they don't hype me up. Not even hyping up, but just an energy thing. They don't match the energy. Yeah. Always surround yourself with people that match your energy. And if they're not matching your energy...
Just step away. Distance yourself. Drift yourself away a little bit because you deserve... You can love them from afar. Yes. You totally can love people from afar and you can still have a friendship, a strong friendship without being together 24-7. And I think that's something that a lot of people don't realize is that sometimes it's healthier for certain friendships to be from afar, to have more distance, to... Yeah, you guys get what I'm saying.
Moving on to the next question box. All right. Another little selection from the question box is how do you balance work and life? And I think this is a very hard one that I'm still navigating, and I've talked about it in so many episodes. I always feel like I've figured out how to do it, but somehow I never really do. But I think that's because it's just going to be an ever-changing process.
thing to figure out because sometimes I want to prioritize work and sometimes I want to prioritize life and I think I'm excited to go home to prioritize work and I'm giving myself this last week that I have here to prioritize life and memories and I don't know. It's been really cool for me to understand lately that the more life I experience, the more creative passion and ideas that I have for work, if that makes sense.
So, when it comes to balancing work and life, make sure you're living your life because that's what's going to inspire you to do your best work and find your real passion and all that stuff. Yeah, you need the things that excite you. You need, like, the little, like... The little pushes. The little moments in life. The little moments podcast. The little moments podcast in your life that, like, excites you and makes you, like, sparks the creative side of you and gives you a little something more to, like...
work for and, like, dream for than just work. Like, work is really important too, but life... What's the point of working if you don't know what you're working for? Yeah. Or what you're working towards? And if you really do figure out what your passion is or your purpose is, it won't really feel that much like work. Yeah. It's fun to dream. It's fun to create. And, like, sometimes...
You just need to do that. You need to have life. Let life be life. Period. If you're going to take away anything from this episode, let life be... Okay. Live, love, laugh, life. Lexi. Guys, the sun is going down right now, and I just keep getting distracted because I just keep looking at it, and it looks so beautiful. I wish you guys could see, but oh wait. I think you can because I think this is on YouTube, and...
I don't know if you're watching on YouTube, but if you are, hello. This is actually very confusing because the mic is like here, but the camera's over there. I forgot that that was... Me too. But, anyways, moving on. Also, you know, it's really weird to think that Meredith and I recorded an episode together, but tell me that doesn't feel like it was years ago. No, it really does. It feels like so long ago. So much has shifted.
That was, we were deep in season one. Actually, season one was kind of wrapping up when we were finishing it. I would say the end of season one, like the last few episodes of season one were those first few months that we were back in Hawaii. Yeah.
I felt it. No. I felt it. And then it all just clicked for me. The official last day of season one was when Sophie left. Yeah. Guys, I wish we could have had Sophie on the podcast. Who's Sophie? Please tell them. Sophie is my literal sister. We were pen pals in eighth grade. It's our biggest story. We tell it to everyone. It's a party trick. No, it's a party trick. And she was my foreign exchange student for two weeks. I was like her host family. And she visited me...
A couple times in like 2015, 2016, 2017, I think. And then COVID hit and I hadn't seen her in like four or five years. Holy crap. Yeah. Wow. And we just kept in touch the whole time. And then she came out here in November for a month. And then she surprised my family out here and they got to stay with me and do the whole little Hawaii experience with us. Yes. It was...
And then Sophie was here for like a while. She was here for like a month. Yeah. And anyways, Sophie's like the best ever. So if you're listening to this, we miss you so much. But she had to leave the other day, so that was a little sad. It was very sad. She lives in Denmark. I don't know if I dropped that fact. I don't know if you did. Anyways, Mary and I, I go, I'm coming too, even though I didn't even quite get the invite. I'm just hopping on a train. We're going to Denmark at some point. Period. Package deal. You guys live in Denmark. Teach us how to speak Danish.
I was going to say something in Danish, but I don't think... Say it. I... Go. The only thing that I know... Say your mom. Din moi. Din moi. Din moi. Din moi. That means your mom in Danish. That means your mom.
Meredith and I can't stop saying your mom and Deez Nuts. Meredith is the one who started Deez Nuts. Deezanula. That's Deez Nuts in Danish. Deezanula. Okay. There you guys go. We're learning a new language. Okay. Next one on the question box. And then we're going to go because I think that Mary and I are just a little bit delusional and keep getting unfocused. Yes. But this was one that I loved in the question box because it was just so relatable for the both of us. Being okay with being single. Um.
I think I just love being single. I think there's so much beauty in only having to be responsible for yourself and how you feel and falling in love with yourself before falling in love with someone else because I think when it comes to relationships, what a lot of people do will just fill a void. They're missing the love for themselves and then when someone else can provide that for them, they're like, oh, okay, this is real, this is love, this is what I need when the reality of it is that you just need to
learn to love yourself and then you'll be very content with where you are. I'm kind of on the other side of the spectrum for this one. I mean, I agree with everything that you said. That is, those are all really great points. Those are really great points, but here's how I feel. But, um, being single, hmm,
So, fun fact, I am a pro at watching all of my friends get into relationships or like talking stages or whatever you want to call it these days. But I'm just the pro at being the third wheel, whatever. And so being okay with being single is a really big struggle, I feel like, lately. If you guys want to know. She's like, I'm not really going to spill it all out.
I start crying. It is tough because you want to, like, you want to be loved and you want to, like, feel, like, that reciprocated back towards you instead of just being, like, a simp all the time because, like, guilty. That's another conversation we've had in the past four days. I think we've talked about being simps or, like, who's a simp and who's not multiple times. Yeah, and it's always me the simp.
marriage is definitely a sin I'm just a hopeless romantic I just think that I'm gonna turn around like and then I'm gonna look him in the eyes and I'm gonna be like that's my husband because maybe you will and that's what I'm banking on so like my point of being okay with being single is that I know that God has my perfect person laid out for me
Like, I know that it'll come at the time. And it'll be seamless. And it'll be seamless. Because I think of all the other, like, guys or whatever that I, you know, thought I liked. And if I would have actually been in a relationship with any of them during those periods of my life, it would have been a disaster. Yeah. Because I was not...
secure with myself at all. Yeah, that's one of the realizations I've also come to understand. I think the older that I'm getting, the more I'm realizing, okay, like I'm old now. Like I'm not just dating to really have fun. Like if I'm going to date someone, it has to be someone that I could potentially see a solid future with. And I'll get myself in all these little complicated little talking situations and then I'll really sit back and think like, this isn't the person I would spend the rest of my life with. Like,
I think there's someone out there who's going to check off all the boxes that just kind of align with, like, not necessarily what I want to do, but, like, how I want to be in a relationship. And I don't know. I think that being okay with being single is just being patient and, in the meantime, making sure that you're loving yourself and you're not just looking for someone to fill you with love instead of you loving you. Yeah. If that makes sense. Your person's going to come when you least expect it and when you're, like, when you're...
110% like confident in yourself and like secure with who you are and like what you want and if you're like wishy-washy you know if you even love yourself like how are you how's someone else gonna yeah and then also it's hard to find yourself in a relationship if you are still figuring out like who you are so it's gonna come to you once you've reached that best version of yourself that truest version of yourself and it's gonna be great it's gonna be awesome and anyways in the meantime just single all the single ladies put your hand up
There's nothing wrong with being single, girl. No, there's really not. I am honestly... I love being single, and I think that we all should love it because it just gives us so much more time to figure ourselves out, to meet new people. You don't have to deal with drama. You don't have to worry about making guy friends or... Relationship seems like a lot of work. I don't have enough emotional capacity for a lot of work right now, I'll say. So...
Yeah, we're all young. There's no need for us to rush into a relationship. It's going to come when it's ready to come, and it's going to feel right. And it'll be magical. Magical, easy, and that's that. Anyways, the next thing that we're going to talk about is someone asked if we play pranks on each other. I just thought we'd answer that plain and simple. Really?
I don't even know. No. No, I wouldn't say we play pranks, but we definitely mess with each other. As of lately. It's not even, like, pranks. It's just, like, I'll, like, smack Lexi with a shirt or something. Yeah. As of lately, me and Meredith fight. Or, like, pour water. Yeah. No, the other day... They sound like very lame pranks, but, like... They're not lame pranks in the moment, okay? Guys, if you have any good pranks, DM them to me and I'll do them. No, no, no, no, no, no. Actually, that would be kind of funny. I need ideas. Please, guys. This is a good idea. Okay, DM pranks to Mare and...
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Anyways, we're rambling, we're rambling, but I do want to answer one more thing. Okay. Okay, the last thing that we're going to talk about before we close off this little episode is, well, first of all, Merit's going to tell you her favorite comfort movies because she made me watch one of them, and it was the best thing that we ever did, so she can say, I told you so, and now she can tell you. I told you so. I'm very passionate about my comfort movies.
The Justin Bieber. I get really close to the mic. I'm like, the Justin Bieber movie? We're never saying ever. Pitch Perfect, Mean Girls. Okay, and mine are The Notebook. And I'm honestly not very good at movies. But yeah, last one we're answering, and I actually mean it this time, is how to keep a friendship strong. And I'm going to keep it simple. Just love your friends. Make them feel loved. And just, yeah. It doesn't even have to be deeper than that.
you just gotta pour into your friends. You never know what they need on the days, like, if they're having a bad day. And, like, just making them feel seen and heard and loved and, like, that their feelings are valid is so key. Yeah, like, when Meredith has a headache, you just let her drink your whole water bottle. Yeah.
Even if you wanted some water. Even if I had a headache. Even if she had a... Anyways, no. Just be nice to your friends, okay? You wouldn't want to see your friends... You don't want your friends to be mean to you, okay? Treat your friends how you want to be treated. I was just going to say that. My mom always says that. Took the words right out of my mouth. Mothers always tell you to treat others how you would want to be treated, and that's honestly key. It's a very key quote. So if you're going to take away anything from this, treat people the way that you want to be treated.
It's like the most basic quote where like if you take anything out of this, like take this Pinterest quote. So has everything happened for a reason, but that one like stuck. True. Okay, fine. I'll let you have your moment. Okay, okay, okay. I feel like we can do this forever. We could. This is kind of fun. Me and Meredith would just ramble on and on and on. Oh, also a different variation of that is that you have to treat yourself the way that you want others to treat you because if you're constantly hating on yourself and you're treating yourself badly and you're making fun of yourself and you're being unkind,
People are going to see that that's how you treat yourself, and you're basically opening a door for them to treat you the exact same way. So not only do you need to treat other people with kindness and love and compassion, but you have to treat yourself with kindness and love and compassion. And I'm going to end on that note. Any wise words? Wow, that was actually really good. Isn't that a good one? Wow, yeah. Anyways, I don't like that. I'm speechless, guys. But Meredith's going to say her goodbyes now.
Bye, guys. That was so weak. It's been really great. I start crying. I was like, all right, finally, this is over. Guys, I miss you already. No. Don't kick me off the podcast. No. Meredith is welcome on the podcast any time she wants to be on the podcast, which will probably be more often than not, especially if we're hanging out all summer. But...
Yeah, I don't really know what this podcast was or what we even talked about, but I hope there was something that you were able to take away from it. We're living in the moment. We're answering questions in the moment. We were in this moment. In this moment. In this moment. Right here, right now. Period. In the treehouse. In the treehouse. Watch the sunset. And Peaches is in here. Listening to... You need to give your moment podcasters a name. Like the momenters. No. I don't think I want to... I don't want to do the whole name thing. They're just my friends.
You guys are my friends, and I love you, and I'm grateful for you, and I will talk to you next Monday. And don't forget to do all the downloading, the liking, rating, if you want to do it. If not, it's okay. We'll figure it out. But I love you. Have a good day. Okay, bye. Enjoy this moment. Bye. Bye.