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I don't often think very much. My brain feels empty. No, that's the wrong terminology. My brain has too many things going on that it makes it really hard for me to think and remember things, but I'm leaving for France in less than an hour. We're heading to the airport and I have to do a bunch of things before I go. So this is going to be kind of a quick podcast and I really just want to just catch up with you guys, give you a little life update, tell you what I've been prioritizing in my life and just
Just catch up because I love you guys and I miss you guys. But the whole point I was saying I have too much going on. I'm leaving for France and I forgot that I have to record a podcast episode before I go with all the things going on. I forgot that you guys are my number one priority and my best friends. I'm not going to leave you hanging on a Monday, but I'm going to give you some homework assignments, some tips, some affirmations, some things to focus on.
And then you're going to get on with it and you're going to do it. You have to do it. Okay. If you're my friend, which you're my best friends, do the homework that I'm about to give you. First off, first off update. Here we go. I am a homeowner. I adopted mango and I didn't adopt her. I bought her. I bought a house. It's crazy. And I know I told you guys that you've seen it on Instagram. You've seen it on TikTok and you're going to see it on YouTube soon. Also,
Because I'm back in my YouTube era. I kind of have been having this phase recently or actually for the past I'd say couple weeks or months. I have forgotten how to be an influencer and I hate the terminology influencer But I forget that you know keeping you guys updated with my life and sharing my life and sharing companies that I work with and brands that I love is Essentially my job. I want to share with you guys all the things that I love and I
I get through these certain phases in my life where I'm like, I don't want to post on Instagram. I don't want to post on TikTok. I want to just do it super casually and comfortably. And yes, that's what I still want to do. Like, I'm not going to do things I don't want to do just because I should be doing them. But I want to get back to just keeping you guys more updated on what's going on in my life and sharing this journey with you because...
Again, you're my best friends and I just I want to give you all the updates So we're going back to youtube and i'm going to start posting vlogs again I have footage from so I have so much footage from 2022 And I still want to get to making a 2022 montage. I just don't know When that's going to happen if it's going to happen if it does it does if it doesn't that's life and it doesn't matter We move on 2022 is great and I don't have to share every detail of it for myself to know that
Point being, I have all this footage and I can't wait to edit it, but the one thing I know that I'm going to be consistent with because I have made it a priority for myself and I'm very excited to do it is going to be this house renovation. Like we are going all in on Mango.
So far, the floors have all been taken out because we're putting new floors. And me, Lisette, and my mom ripped down all the kitchen cabinets the other day when we were there. And Leia came with us too, and it was so cute. It was just so special to have my mom and my best friend and my dog, Girl Power, taking down kitchen cabinets.
It was a blessing. And I vlogged the whole thing, so I'm not gonna waste your time talking your ear off about it now because you'll hear all about it in the YouTube video. But if you haven't subscribed to my YouTube, I'm pretty sure it's just Lexi Hidalgo. I'm gonna get back to that. I've been watching YouTube videos lately and I'm like, you know what? I wanna do this again. So that's the game plan. And that's the first update.
And with that update, I want to give you how I've made meaning of this part of my life because my therapist always tells me, and I've told you, and she's told you when she's been on here, 90% of your life is how you make meaning of it. And the most important thing to me
lately has been to take every single thing that I do and find a deeper meaning for it. Like instead of living my life on the surface, I want to live my life more intentionally, more deeply, more gratefully. Is that a word? I don't know. More aware, you know, dig beneath the surface. And with buying this house, I'm
You know, there's a lot of things that I could see on the surface like, oh, it's really stressful and it's really expensive. And financially, this is a really hard thing that I'm doing. And, you know, trying to budget everything else I have going on, trying to set myself up for the future, but also trying to invest and trying to figure out what it costs to get a kitchen redone and floors redone and taking out a loan. Like all of those are really stressful things that I'm trying to navigate. And instead of, you know, thinking so much about that,
The meaning I've been able to find with this house is one, I am so proud of myself for taking a step like this and doing something like this and just learning to be a big girl because
One of the other biggest lessons I've learned from having a house is that you are not taught any of these things like, you know, getting a mortgage or a loan, any of that, working a credit card, building up credit. They don't teach any of that in school unless maybe in different college years if you're studying that. Other than that, you really only learn by experience, which has been cool. And as I learn more, I want to share that with you guys because...
It's such valuable information that I think we could all get some dumbed down lessons on because I still don't understand it all the way. Point is, besides all that stress, I have the opportunity to be with my mom, my best friend, my dad, my brothers, my boyfriend's going to come start helping too, and all my friends. It's going to be...
such a fun project to renovate this house and to be able to do it together and to pour my heart and soul into what I create and how I design it and go thrifting and paint all the walls by ourselves for the most part we want to do everything on this house by ourselves besides the kitchen because I can't install kitchen cabinets in tile floors by myself but who knows maybe on the next one we will but it's just going to be a really fun DIY process and I every time I've been there I've really done my best to just
soak in how special it is that I get to do this with the people that mean the most to me in my life instead of focus on the fact that I'm lifting heavy ass cabinets and drilling things and dripping sweat because the AC barely works in there as humans we've almost been conditioned to focus on those negatives versus focusing on those positives and how beautiful it is to be able to do that with people that you love and I think that
Obviously, not everyone is in the same boat or in the same situation as me when it comes to that specific thing. But I think a lot of us can relate to having to do things with family or having to do things with people that, I don't know, that you're not necessarily excited for. Just...
In general, the intention and the affirmation and the thing that I want you to think about and the homework, let's combine them all into one, for you to do in your life is to, and I've touched on this so many times before, you guys know I'm a repetitive queen, it's the only way my brain functions, cherish the people that you have around you in your life. Cherish the memories that you get to make with your parents, with your friends, with
everyone around you because time is fleeting. It's going by fast and it gets faster and faster as we get older. And it's so easy to forget this in certain moments. And I was talking about this on a TikTok the other day, how I used to dread family vacations. And now there's something I look forward to so much because I've just gotten so much closer with my family, closer in age, which has just made us become more able to bond over time.
different things and conversate and like build friendships like you can build friendships with your family and if you're not in a stage right now where you're feeling like you're getting along with your siblings or with your parents spend time with them intentionally and work on building that friendship and also know that maybe right now is not the time you're gonna be best friends with your mom or with your dad or with your brother or sister that's okay but know that it's coming and still value the moments that you have with them if there's like one thing I would tell my younger self
I used to butt heads with my little brother, and I don't even want to get emotional thinking about this right now, but I'm on my period, so I might. I used to get so mad at my little brother. I mean, don't get me wrong. He was annoying as heck. He was the trouble child. He was the middle child. I always was closer or fought less with my youngest brother than I did my middle brother, and...
I was so mean to him all the time and he just wanted to be close with his sister and I would be like, I hate you, da-da-da-da-da, not ever super seriously. But still, to even say that, think that I said that breaks my heart and all I want to do in this phase of my life is make up for that. So if you are at that stage, just know that, you know, I always like don't live your life with regrets, but that is one thing that I do regret and I'm grateful for it because I think it's made us closer now, right?
But if you have the opportunity to not be that older sister, to not be the mean older sister or the mean to your parents kid, just because I know we all go through phases like that, try not to. And try to intentionally focus on being kind to the people that are blood, the people that are your family. And again, family's not always blood, but you know what I mean.
and just, just love on people because time goes by fast and all the memories that we get to create in this lifetime. This is another thing I wrote this in my notes. I don't know how it came to my head. I didn't even see it anywhere. I just kind of made it up in my own brain. I think I was about to go to bed and I was like, you know what? People always say, um, it's about the journey and not the destination. And then I started applying that to my life and I started realizing that
Our life, there is no destination. There's nowhere that we're looking forward to getting when it comes to like, we die, right? We die. Simply put, I don't know how to make it sound any better. We die. That's the destination. So every bit of our life is the journey. And we have the power to enjoy the journey. And yes, there's going to be ups and downs, and there's going to be stress, and you're going to be overwhelmed at times, but...
It's up to you to make your own meaning of it. And my way of making meaning of it lately has just been to appreciate, to soak in, to genuinely work on living in the moment. And when I say living in the moment, I don't mean put your phone down and don't take pictures and don't take videos because, first of all, do you know who you're listening to right now? I have 200,000 pictures and videos on my phone. When I say live in the moment, I mean, honestly, take more pictures, take more videos, take
Take nothing moments and make them beautiful and make them bigger and make them something. Take in the fact that you get to wake up in the morning and the sun is out and the sun is in your eyes and it's glistening and it's bringing color back into your face in the morning or when you accidentally slept in and your dog is in bed cuddling you. Those are things that you can make meaning of and hold on to. And when we do that with all the tiny little things in our life,
All of our life just seems a lot lighter and more enjoyable. And I've touched on this before, but the reason I'm saying it so many times is because of the way that it will change your life through and through. It makes a world of a difference because I really just do think back to me being young.
15, 16, 17, 18. I don't know whatever age you are listening to this one. You're probably a lot wiser than I am or I was at the time. But like I just look back on that version of me and thinking about my senior year of high school. I was so ready to get out to graduate. Those are moments that I wish I soaked in a little bit more because
I don't know they're gone now and they passed and I think my brother's graduation really made that hit for me because I just realized like did I really soak in my senior year the way that I should have I don't know just got me thinking about a lot of things sorry I'm a little bit sniffly perfect timing right you know about to go to France why wouldn't I get a cold universe said let me just keep you on the edge of your seat but I feel okay and it's gonna be fine and I'm gonna feel better and don't worry it's not COVID I already checked
So that's my guess, my first life update reminder thing that I wanted to share with you, thing that's been important to me. I also, if you listen to the podcast episode on decluttering, I have started to do that. And let me tell you, that crap made a difference. I cleaned out my fridge, a few of my closets, my really, really messy closet. It has felt amazing. And today on the flight, I'm going to go through my phone and try to delete all these pictures and videos and also edit all these videos. We'll see what I actually get to.
But I'm setting goals. And I have just felt lighter because of that too. Like when you declutter your life physically, it declutters a lot mentally. So I guess this is just a reminder. If you haven't listened to that podcast episode and your life has felt, your mind has felt like there's a lot going on, give it a listen because it's been making a difference. I've been taking those strides that I said I was going to. And now that I'm thinking about it, this podcast episode, I guess I really think the main message is just going to be soak up time with your family and make it, make it
What am I saying? Where's my words? Come on, words. Come to me. Come to me. The next update I want to give you is that I'm going to France. And this was the most, I can't say the most last minute trip because I'm Lexi and everything that I do is last minute, but kind of out of nowhere, shocked, like not something I planned for 2023 at all. It wasn't a vision in my head.
And let me just give you the backstory on that because I've tried to put it in a TikTok and I can't fit it in the right amount of time. So you guys are getting all the tea. So my boyfriend, still have a boyfriend, still going strong, almost three months, you guys. He is on a Europe trip right now with all his guy friends. They planned this trip out six months, even longer, a really long time ago. And...
i don't know we see each other all the time so this was going to be a long stretch of us being apart i've gone on a few trips while we've been together but he's gone for like two weeks or something even longer
And he is such a lover and he's clingy. So the wrong word, because we're both just obsessed with each other and we want to be together all the time. Anyways, he's like, come to Europe, come to Europe. And I'm like, I would love to go to Europe, but I'm not going to be the girlfriend to go on the boys trip. It's just not happening. And he's like, okay, well, what if you just meet me in Paris and just come for one of our stops? And I thought about it.
At first I said, no, no, I'm not doing that either. I'm not flying to Europe just to go to Paris. And then I was like, you know what? I could solo trip it. I could go do a few different things and then meet him in Paris. And then I was thinking about it and I was like, okay, full family trip. Maybe I could take the fams of France for my dad's birthday because it's in a couple of days. And then I was like, no, I really cannot afford that. It's just not something in the books right now. It was too last minute. And then...
I was like, oh, my brother just graduated. I want to do something with them for their graduation. Why don't I take my little brothers to the south of France and we'll take the train to Paris? And it was all just kind of a very broad idea. We did not think it was actually going to happen. Because I will admit, and you guys know this, I say I'm going to do a lot of things and I don't always end up doing them because of how I am as a human being. That's just how it goes.
But somehow this one stuck and it went from just me and my brothers to we have family friends that we've our parents have been best friends since high school. It's actually really wholesome and it's really what I wish for in my future. We still hang out with them. Our parents are all still best friends and they all had kids at the same time. We all lived in the same neighborhood growing up. So I have essentially a lot of siblings. I'm taking two of our other siblings.
basically Kendall and Bryson, who are family friends. My brain's starting to stop working. I think I'm getting a little bit stressed. So I'm going to end this soon, but I still want to update you. I'm taking them and we're going to the south of France for a week and then we're going to take the train and we're going to Paris for two days just so I can kiss my boyfriend under the Eiffel Tower. How random and last minute is that? It's crazy. And I guess my lesson...
There is one do everything that you can with your family Especially if you are at a point in your life where you are all in the same place Especially if you're under the same roof, whatever it is if you're all in the same place soak up every second you get with your family because Eventually, you know We all grow up and a lot of us move to different places your brothers or your sisters can move far far away and you're gonna see them far less less often so
Say yes to every opportunity. Spend as much time with them as you can because you don't want to look back and wish that you spent more time with them. I can promise you you're not going to look back and wish that you spent less time with the people that mean the most to you in your life.
And my other thing is just essentially to say yes and to do things last minute and to spend the money. And obviously, this is a really big trip. This isn't something I'm just trying to be like, yeah, spend a few extra bucks and fly to Europe. Like, this put a dent in the bank account and...
At first, I was kind of giving myself a hard time about it because I really do want to save my money and set myself up for the future, set my kids up for the future, yada, yada, yada. Kind of the same thing with the house. But also, it's like if I can do this now, money – what is money if you don't spend it? And what is money if you spend it on things that are not valuable? I will always –
say yes to spending money on experiences. And this is like, I mean, experience is even down to going to the bowling alley or the movie theater or go on mini golfing. Like those are all things that I will happily spend my money on instead of, you know, going to the club. I guess that's different. It's still an experience, but yeah,
Or buying alcohol or buying nicotine, like whatever it is, just evaluating or close. Is this something that I'm going to hold on to? Is this a memory that I'm going to hold on to for the rest of my life? Or is this spending money on something that's not going to matter to me in a week or a year or five years? And just evaluating where you're spending and what you're doing and how you want to spend your money and what you want your life to look like.
my point with that one is this whole update is that life is really short and it's just been hitting me like a truck lately that life is very short and I think that the reason that I hit so hard for me and I always will continue to be the spontaneous you know impulsive spending kind of person that I am is because when I lost my grandpa in 2021 I didn't see that coming he was 71 and he was
happy and alive and he went into the hospital for something minor and he never left and I didn't properly get to spend the end of his life with him in a way that I would have liked to and it just gave me the wake-up call like losing someone that you love unexpectedly really puts life into perspective. We might not be here tomorrow so I never want you to leave a conversation, leave a fight, um
Still go what's the what's that phrase always like end the fight clear the air Don't burn bridges say I love you every time you leave the people you love like every time Lissette leaves my house I say love you every time my parents leave my house I say love you because you never know and I don't I don't say this all in this scary way of like Oh, we could die tomorrow. You better make life worth it. It's more like yeah, you could die tomorrow. So you better Live up your life. Those were the exact same things that I said, but they had different meanings in my head um
Just say yes. Do things that you're going to hold on to. Make memories. And memories don't have to be crazy going really far away. And in this case it is, so it's kind of a bad example. I make memories. Like at Kobe's graduation party, did I record a podcast and talk about this? I really can't remember. My brain's all over. I don't think so.
Kofi had his graduation party a couple weekends ago, and we stayed up until 3 in the morning at my parents' house, my dad and mom and all their friends included, dancing on the tables, just playing music on our sound system. I mean, like, despacito. We're listening to all different kinds. We're scream singing Zac Brown band songs. And that is a memory that I'm going to hold on to for the rest of my life.
And I didn't have to go anywhere. I didn't have to spend any money. You can make memories from exactly where you are with the people who are currently in your life. There's no need to chase these huge things or chase these crazy relationships that you need to build because I promise you they're already all around you. You just have to open your eyes a little bit more and soak it in. And again, coming back to what I started with, make meaning of every single thing that you do. And that's kind of what I want to leave you at.
Can't think of much else to say. And I'm starting to realize I need to leave basically right now if I'm going to get to the airport on time. So I'm going to leave you at that. And when I come back to this podcast, when I get back from France, I'm going to have so much to share with you. And I'm going to tell you all about it, give you all the recommendations. And just, I want you guys to know that I love you from the bottom of my heart. I say it over and over again because...
Like, I mean, you can think about this podcast episode that I just said. Always say I love you to the people that mean the most to you. And you guys are those people for me. So I love you. And I'm so proud of you. And I'm so happy for you. And I want you to know that exactly where you are is exactly where you're supposed to be. And you are enough. And you don't need to keep chasing. You deserve to find peace in the chaos. And you deserve to enjoy this part of your life and every part that is to come. We don't want to spend our lives...
always chasing the next part or worrying about the next part. Just be here and be now and take it in and say I love you. Okay, we'll talk soon. I don't know if you guys can hear Leia snoring in the background, but she's been sleeping next to me the whole podcast. I love you guys. I'll talk to you soon.