89: Your thoughts become your feelings which becomes your behavior
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Hello my beautiful people and welcome back to the moments podcast once again, I have this Random cold like a sore throat. I'm all congested. I really don't know if it's allergies This one doesn't feel like allergies, but then again None of them do so excuse my voice I might have to pause this a couple times and catch my breath, but we're here and also guess what?

I recorded this podcast episode last night and my little recorder died right at the end of the podcast episode. It was like 40 minutes too. I was going on and on. Like I was really, really ripping it and it died right at the end and the whole thing got deleted. So...

That was unfortunate. That's not really what I had planned ideally. And today I'm actually about to go to Mango and we're going to paint the walls and we have like a bunch of fun things planned. But I'm recording first because I want to talk to you guys. I have some things on my mind and I've kind of wanted to do an episode on this for a while and I've definitely touched on it in 10 million other episodes. But one thing that my therapist taught me is

My first ever session with her is that your thoughts become your feelings which becomes your behavior Which becomes your habits which becomes your character which becomes your destiny and there are so many different ways that you can find this quote or this explanation or This theory whatever you want to call it. It's not a theory. I'm calling this a fact. This is a law and

um to me it is technically a theory but anyways my therapist told me this during our first session and it completely changed my life and the way that I viewed the world and the way that I viewed my thoughts and the way that I gained this awareness you know that I am in control and that I have power and I often forget this so I

This podcast episode is just as much a reminder for me as it is for you. And I hope you can take something away from it, something valuable, something to hold on to. And whether you listen to this whole thing or not, your one takeaway, I need you to write this down, make it your lock screen, make it, put it somewhere that you're going to see it. Is it your thoughts become your feelings and becomes your behavior. End of story. It works. It's true. It's real. And it changes the way that you think about everything. Um,

There's so many different things I could start with when it comes to talking about this. But if you want the scientific reason that our thoughts can become our habits or our behavior, is that scientifically, our brain has the capacity to change in response to a consistent stimuli. So if you're constantly feeding your brain something, it is going to like morph to that. Like there's this thing called neuroplasticity where your brain changes based on what you're providing it with.

And I just think that that's a cool way to think about it. I love when I have some science behind all these little theories and quotes and things that, you know, therapists teach me or I read in articles or see in motivational videos. When you give me the science, it sticks a little bit stronger in my brain. And I don't know why that is. Probably because the neuroplasticity. Anyways, this is huge. And before I kind of get into the deep stuff here, not the deep stuff, but you know what I mean.

Before I deep dive into anything, I want you to know that a lot of this stuff is easier said than done and it's easier to apply all of these things to your life when you are in a good headspace because we're a lot more open-minded when we're happy and when we're in a place of joy and bliss and we feel a little bit more peaceful, our brain is more open to things. And that's why I know from personal experience that if you are listening to this, you're

a Worst place mentally where you have a lot going on. You're really overwhelmed. You're really stressed I know that it's harder to take the first steps to feel better. I want you to know that you are still capable of all of these things and Yeah, just know that I'm with you and I hear you if I'm gonna say these things and if you're in a bad place They might piss you off because you're gonna be like Lexi. I have tried that I have tried to change what I think about and it doesn't freaking work and

I know that feeling all too well. If you make me listen to a motivational podcast when I am in a really dark place, it sometimes leads me to feel this anger and it's something that I'm working on and I'm working through. I just don't want you to feel alone if that is something that you're feeling. It's not something I'm proud to feel, but just know.

It's going to take time. Just take away what you can take away and we're going to get through this together and we're going to start thinking positive. Then we're going to start feeling better and then we're going to start behaving better and then boom, we're back on top of the world. And that's not to say we're not going to go under again, but at least for a while we can focus on all the good things.

I kind of made an outline. I made an outline for last week's podcast episode and if you didn't listen to that, I definitely recommend you listening to it. It's one of my favorite episodes that I've done in a while. It just felt pretty legit. I've been having a hard time with the podcast lately just because my brain is being my brain and there's all sorts of things going on in my life. And you know what? I'm thinking positive. I'm going to talk positive because what we speak we become anyways.

These future episodes are going to be a lot more organized, ideally. And I finally figured out how to...

virtually have guests and I have a huge list of people on my phone that I want to have on the podcast like different doctors and life coaches and certified therapists and all sorts of people that I want to talk to and interview and ask questions because as much as I love talking to you guys for 40 minutes I'm sure that you're going to be sick of me soon enough if you're not already and I

I'm still going to do solo episodes where we can just ramble together, but I think it would be really cool to get some other insights and some other perspectives because different perspectives are really valuable. You know, if you listen to the same person's advice for your whole life, you're in a way going to become that person. You're going to think all the things that that person thinks, and there's nothing wrong with that, but it's really, really valuable to hear different opinions and different views and different

Just start to realize the way that different people think and then you can kind of formulate your own thoughts. And like that's why perspective is so valuable. If you only listen to one perspective, you're never going to have the whole truth. You're never going to understand the whole truth of anything. If you take in multiple people's perspective, that's when you get to choose what you want to believe. And that's why, I mean, this is so off topic, but when it comes to politics or like bigger issues in the world, I never want you listening to just one side.

I think it's very valuable to, you know, have your own morals and values and choose a side to stand strong with and believe in. But when it comes to listening to the news and consuming the media, you got to take both sides. And then you can formulate an opinion. If you're only taking in one side, you are going to have a closed mind and you're not getting the whole truth. And your opinions might be not what they actually should be. You know? Anyways, we're moving on. We're going back to our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

Here's the thing. We start with our thoughts, right? We look in the mirror. I'm ugly. We feel like shit about ourselves. We behave that way. We don't take care of ourselves because why would we want to take care of someone who's already ugly, stupid, and a hot mess, right?

Example number one, very simple. We've all been there. We've all felt it. We are all females with a hormone cycle. I know for sure that we have looked in the mirror and said, "I feel like shit." And then we betray ourselves. We are mean and dirty to ourselves. Maybe that's just me that does that, but if I'm feeling gross, for some reason it doesn't motivate me to take care of myself. It does the opposite. And now my best friend, she feels like shit. She's motivated to take care of herself. We're all different, okay?

We've all got different brains that do different things. But if you're like me, moving on. I'm getting too, why am I talking so much? Okay, another example. I look really good today. I feel good. I'm happy. I am on top of the world. I'm ready to go be a social butterfly. I want to meet people. I want to branch out. My personality comes out more when I feel good about myself. So my behavior, my actions become me being

and being happy and starting these conversations that I wouldn't start if I didn't have the thought that I feel beautiful today, right? And I'm stepping out of my comfort zone and all of a sudden I'm doing all of these things that I didn't know that I was even capable of doing, that I never would have done if I looked in the mirror and told myself I was ugly. And these are minor examples and I know that these things are like

Silly to some people like a lot of people aren't so focused on their appearance and that's a beautiful thing And that's a beautiful place to be at in your life, but I'm at a point in my life where Unfortunately the way that I feel about my appearance still affects the way that I act and I don't want it to be like that Of course, it's something I'm working on its thoughts. I'm working on changing You know what I look like has nothing to do with who I am as a person and my personality and

But we're getting there. All of this is a time-consuming thing. It doesn't happen overnight at all. We have so many seeds that have been planted in us. A lot of these thoughts that we have have been planted in us for years, right? We can go back to our childhood when people told us in elementary school, if you were in the gifted program, the honors program, I had people tell me, you're so hardworking, you're so smart for so long.

And that's what I believed about myself for a really long time. Then in college, I went to community college. I didn't get into the school that I wanted to get into. I got a lot less of that. A lot more, you're stupid. You didn't get into FSU, da-da-da-da-da. You didn't get into this university, that one. Your grades were this. You didn't have that diploma. You didn't get your degree. Stupid.

that thought seed planted and it stuck around for a really long time and it's still a seed I'm trying to dig up all the roots from. You have to dig up the roots from these negative thoughts because yeah, you can pick the weed. If you just pick the weed, it's still going to grow back. You have to get in there. You have to get deep. You got to get that shovel, go all the way out to the roots and plant brand new soil. Okay. You have to start from scratch.

when it comes to a lot of these negative thoughts. Let's talk relationship with food. A lot of these thoughts are planted for a really long time. We can go back to the way that our parents had a relationship with food. I know you guys have seen the trends on TikTok, like almond mom, all that stuff.

All those thoughts that your mom or your dad or whoever it was or your friends planted in you when you were younger are going to be there. And the longer that the thoughts have been planted, the deeper the roots are going to be and the harder it's going to be to reset that thought. But that is where you have to start. Okay, even if you're only ripping up one root per day, you're still doing something and you are still slowly but surely changing that mindset. And also understand that

We are so young. We have so much time to completely change these thoughts. And that's why you don't need to put so much pressure on yourself to do it overnight, okay? You don't have to become this ball of light and happy, only happy, think positive, rainbow, butterfly thoughts. You don't have to become that person overnight. You're not going to become that person overnight. And honestly, you might never become that person. But that is okay because...

It's just okay. Like we're always going to be consuming a lot of social media. There's always going to be comparison. And I've kind of trained myself because I used to be someone who believed everything could be sunshine and rainbows. The older I get, the more I realize that life is not always going to be sunshine and rainbows. You are going to lose people. You are going to have unexpected, really scary things happen in your life. And you're not going to have control over that.

and that's going to lead you to sometimes some dark thoughts or some dark places mentally and that is okay you need that phase to feel fulfilled to have a complete life you have to have the dark and scary thoughts but what i'm saying here is we have the power to have more control over them is this making sense i hope it's making sense a lot of the times i talk and i stare at a wall and then i don't remember what i said and

Yeah, let me give you an example of how that thought leads to a feeling, which leads to a behavior. Quick little intermission. I'm telling you guys about something that I know and you know and that we all love. I'm talking about my AG1.

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For a really long time, my thoughts on that were that it was like this evil, dark thing that made me incapable, incompetent. It made me think I could never finish school. I could never sit through a lesson. I could never read a book. I could never record a podcast for that matter. I could never have a stable job because my brain was never satisfied and my brain just spins in 10 million circles all at one time and it can't finish a complete thought.

For a really long time, I made myself really upset about that. Like I was just so evil to me because of that. And that obviously led me to feel really hurt, like really sad, really small, really just made me feel like I could never be anyone or do anything. And it seems to have gotten slightly worse the older I get, which is unfortunate. But at the same time,

I dug down, I got to those roots and I dug them all up. And don't get me wrong, sometimes the weed still grows back a little bit and I still feel angry that I have this brain thing. But for the most part, I dug up the roots and I replanted the plant. And instead of planting a weed, I planted a rosebush, right? And I still get some thorns on this rosebush, but for the most part,

This ADHD is my superpower. It is the reason I have gotten to this point in my life today. It is the reason that social media has been something that I could create into a career. Because when it comes to social media, your brain has to be all over because it's moving really fast and you got to be able to keep up with it or it can't be a career. And I

It's given me this outlet of creativity and it's given me a way to adventure and it has made me feel so excited for every new venture that I face in my life and it's made me want to try every hobby and try new things and it's made me adventurous and spontaneous and I would not be the person that I am today without it. And when I view it like that, it makes me feel happier. It makes me feel proud of myself. It makes me feel unique and one of a kind and

Of course, your brain thing or your whatever it is might not be ADHD. Whatever you struggle with, whether it's your anxiety or your sometimes loops of depression or your OCD or your bipolarness or maybe it's not even a mental illness. Maybe it's just something that you struggle with sometimes. It can be your superpower.

And it is your superpower. You got to dig up the roots and you have to make it your superpower. Replant it and change the way that you feel and then change the way that you behave and then it changes who you are. I'm not saying anyone has to change who they are, but if you're looking to do so, start in the dirt.

Get your hands dirty and dig up the roots, okay? Get the journal out. Write down everything that every negative thought you've ever had about yourself, about that thing. Rip it out of your journal and rip it up. Unless you're a hoarder like me and I can't bring myself to do that, so I just keep it in my journal. But if you're someone who needs like that physical deletion of the thoughts, write it in a journal, rip it up, burn it, shred it, do whatever it is that you want with it, okay? We are starting with our thoughts.

And that is how we're going to start with our thoughts, okay? You are capable and you are powerful and you have all these superhuman things. And when it comes to our thoughts too, it's important to recognize that you are not them. You are someone, you are a soul who has thoughts. And I like to separate myself from them because it makes me feel more in control of them. If I tell myself I am my thoughts, I feel a lot more attached to them.

But you have the power, and I know it sounds difficult, to just let a thought come and go. Like you can go for a walk and you're going to notice that a lot of the negative thoughts are very repetitive, which is also interesting because not for everyone. My brain scan taught me that. Like a lot of my thoughts are so repetitive because of the way that my brain functions. So if you're someone who has those repetitive thoughts,

You have the power to just let them come and go. I want you to visualize them as a leaf. My yoga teacher taught me this a long time ago. You've probably heard me say it. Visualize them as a leaf floating down a river. Okay, they come down the stream. You see it for a while. And then boom, it continues on.

And a leaf that looks similar might float by. Let it float by. Don't let it linger. Don't let it get stuck behind a rock and just sit there. Okay, it can flow. It can pass. And eventually, if you let it pass enough times, you're going to run out of seeing the same leaf. You're going to find a new leaf. All right? And you can, you can, I don't know. Where am I going with this? Just know that you are not your thoughts.

You are a soul having thoughts. And it's easier to change thoughts when you separate yourself from them. And since we're still talking thoughts here, I want you to delete a few of these words. Not delete them because they're still going to happen. You're still going to have them. But this is another thing my therapist told me back in our first session. There are words you do not need in your thought process. Because here, I'm a huge believer in manifesting and manifesting.

I call that different things. I also call that, like, you become what you think. You are what you think. You speak things into existence. I know manifesting, when it comes to different religions, it can be very frowned upon. Like, when I'm Christian and I talk about manifesting, I get a lot of hate for it. And there's nothing wrong with that. We all got different takes on religion, and I'm down for that. But if you are someone who doesn't view manifesting as something

something good or if you think it's something evil, whatever it is, put different words into it. Like everything that you think is something that you're praying for, like you are attracting what you think, there's different ways you can put it. However way you slice it is the same pizza, it's still reality. What you think, you become. So I don't want you thinking words like hate or can't or should, like I should be doing this, I should be doing that,

I don't want you comparing. I don't want you saying impossible. I don't want you saying never. I want you changing these things. Okay, not I should be doing this instead. And this is the biggest one for me. And I'm really like speaking to myself when I say this should is like the word that I think holds me back in a lot of different senses.

because there's so many different factors in my life and so many different things going on, I almost always, no matter how productive I'm being or what I'm doing, am like, well, I should be doing this. I should be doing that. I've been working on teaching myself that I just got to take it one thing at a time, okay? I am exactly where I'm supposed to be doing what I'm supposed to be doing. And when I get that should thought, I have been powering, like really, really digging into the dirt and digging up the roots of

And reminding myself that whatever chapter it is, whatever I am prioritizing at this moment in my life has a purpose. And we've touched on this a lot in the past few episodes, especially let's talk relationship here. I had the hardest time in the beginning. I kept telling myself that.

I should be focusing on myself. I should be focusing on my career. Why do I need a boyfriend? I don't want a boyfriend right now. Um, first of all, yes, you do, Lexi. You are madly in love with the most loving, caring, amazing person ever. And I would just get in my head because I believed that I was, I should have been doing more. And I had to dig up the roots and tell myself, no, I'm not going to do that.

I'm learning about love. I am learning that I am capable of loving someone romantically and I am capable of being loved. That was something that I never thought I would find. Like I didn't think that I could be loved in a romantic sense like that until now. And I just had to teach myself that. And I had to do it by starting with my thoughts and deleting the word "should."

Deleting the word impossible. You have to really deep dive, evaluate, and break down what you are thinking because it is what you become. Next time you're noticing your thoughts, and I always say this 24-7,

Everything starts with awareness. It all comes down to awareness. You can't change your thoughts if you're not even paying attention to them. And a lot of people don't pay attention to their thoughts whatsoever. And I think that this is a really big thing I want to change in the world. I think everybody should be aware of their thoughts because...

If you're not paying attention to your thoughts, you're acting blindly. You're feeling blindly. Like you have no understanding of what you're feeling deep down and why you're feeling it. So tap into your thoughts. They will tell you a lot of things. And like this is another way you can separate yourself from them. Call them like they, you know, like that's what I say. Like my thoughts, what am I saying?

Sometimes my brain just starts going and it's great because, you know, if I wasn't recording a podcast, all these thoughts would eventually like link up and make sense. But they're not doing that right now. I don't think. Okay. Where was I? Freaking A. You know what? It's my superpower. It's my superpower. It's my superpower. Okay. Be aware of your thoughts. We have 5,000 to 60,000 thoughts every single day.

you're not going to notice all of them. I still don't notice all of them and I've been practicing this for a really long time, at least since my first therapy session, which was in September of 2021. And don't get me wrong, I still lose it sometimes. There are days that go by that I don't pay attention to my thoughts at all or I pay attention to them and I let them stay evil and negative. Let's take, for example, the day after I drink, um,

Really don't have productive days after it and this is something i'm really trying to work on like i'm really figuring out How do I change my thoughts to change my feelings to change my behavior on the day after that? I drink don't even open my phone to post an instagram story, which sounds stupid because it is stupid That's a very easy task for me to do. It shouldn't be a task It shouldn't be something that has to go on the to-do list But for some reason my brain after I drink it just can't do things at all um

See, look at me using words like can't. I gotta let that go. Like, that's what I'm really trying to work on. But I can't fix that problem. I can't fix those days. I can't make them go away until I figure out how to change the thought processes that I have. And as of right now, those are the days that I'm not really paying attention to my thoughts because I don't want to. Because I know that they need to be changed. And you're going to notice...

that you are going to avoid the negative thoughts because we are so comfortable with them. We've gotten so used to feeling like shit sometimes that we don't even want to change the negative thoughts. So we just look over them, we brush over them time and time again until we get to a breaking point. And I don't want you to have to get to a breaking point. So the next time you are in a dark place and you want to just keep letting the thoughts happen on their own, no, okay?

Get in touch with yourself. Dig deep, okay? Make yourself a version of yourself that you would be proud of, that you love. And all that being said, I want to emphasize here, I think that every version of yourself is someone to cherish and someone to be proud of because she is serving you with something. She is either serving you, if you are in a dark place, with lessons that, like the grass does get greener and it will get greener and you wouldn't be able to understand that if you didn't have the dark time.

So cherish her and love her if she is fighting right now with everything in her. That's okay. You don't need to be the best version of yourself 24-7. Because if you were, then in that case, you wouldn't be the best version of yourself. Okay? Just be happy with where you are. But start shifting things slowly. Dig up the roots slowly. Okay? I want you...

to be at a point with yourself where you're constantly evolving yourself but not because you hate who you are but because you love who you are. I want you to want to evolve, to be better, but not because you're bad. Is what I'm saying making sense? It's like, I want, it's kind of the way that a parent, this is at least how I view it, wants to see their child thrive. And maybe this is because this is what I had in my childhood,

Want or my parents would push me constantly to be better to do better to do more But it's not because I wasn't doing enough. It's not because I wasn't good enough for them or I wasn't meeting enough achievements or having enough successes It's because they knew my potential and they knew I could do more and they were so proud of me already that they just kept fueling me with that and

Back when I was younger, I viewed that as... I constantly was in my head that I wasn't enough for them and that they weren't proud of me. And honestly, looking back, they probably could have told me a few more times that I was doing enough and that they were proud of me. But how are they supposed to know? You know, I never communicated that. That's another little random rant I'd like to go on. You can't expect what you don't clearly communicate. And a lot of people aren't aware of other people's feelings or emotions or they're just not as...

in general. So sometimes you got to tell people.

Like my best friend, I have to tell her a lot of the time, like, dude, make me feel like your best friend. Okay, make me feel like you love me. I know that you do. But I'm someone who needs a word of affirmation. I need that reassurance. And same thing with my boyfriend. He's very good at it. So I haven't had to remind him yet. But if we do get to a point, I'm gonna have to be like, dude, you gotta tell me you love me. You gotta tell me I'm beautiful. And you gotta tell me why you're with me. Otherwise, I'm gonna spiral and I'm gonna think that you hate me.

And my parents couldn't have known that I needed to hear that back then because I didn't even know that I needed to hear that. And that's the power of slowly learning more and more about me. Now I know the older I get, the more I'm going to know what I need and I'm going to know what I'm looking for in a relationship or in a friendship or in a relationship with myself. Am I making sense? I'm going to have to cut this off soon because I can't seem to shut up. I could make this podcast episode 40 minutes right now, not 40 minutes.

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A value that you could take away from this. And I'm really excited about the future of this podcast. I have been training my brain and thinking out loud and writing it down that I'm ready to take the next step. I'm ready to grow up and be an adult and fully go head on towards the things that scare me.

I think, sorry if you guys hear Leia in the background. I did a journal entry yesterday and journaling has been tough for me. I just haven't really had the energy to whip out my journal. But yesterday I did. And I wrote in there, I feel like I'm having this relapse of caring what other people think about me and not doing things because of fearing how I'm going to be perceived or doing things to please people.

I don't know when I relapsed into that, but I think I'm going to let it go and I'm going to run towards this thing that I... English, Lexi. Run towards the things that I fear because I know that I have endless potential and I want to do so many beautiful things with this podcast. And I still want to film a documentary one day and...

The only way for me to do that, and this is going to sound so silly, I have been scared to get in front of the camera. Like the only time I can make TikToks is if I'm by myself.

And I know it sounds stupid, but the reality is if I want to film a documentary one day, I need to work on talking to strangers and asking strangers to be on camera and be in videos. And I need to get comfortable in front of the camera again, just like vlogging and all these little things I'm sharing with you because they might not relate directly to your life.

But in some way, shape or form, I'm sure they do start small. Okay, I'm going to work on talking to more strangers in public so that one day I have the confidence to film a documentary around the world. And you might be like, Lexi, those two things are so different and they don't align. But trust me, they do. And those are the connections I want you to be making in your life.

I'm going to face the things that I'm fearing head on. I'm going to start small and I want you to do the same. And I want you to start telling yourself that you can do the things that you want to do. Okay? And besides that point,

I want you to know that where you are is where you're meant to be, okay? And if your thoughts are telling you, "I'm not where I'm supposed to be. I'm supposed to be doing this, this, and that," no. Find something to appreciate. Find something to value. Figure out what the lesson is and soak it all in, okay? Because you're on this path for a reason with a purpose, and I want you to be confident in that. Confident in that. And I'm working on doing the same thing for myself. And I love who I am.

And I know that I have potential and i'm going to keep feeding her positive thoughts and digging up the roots so that I feel better That I act better because the nicer I am to myself mentally The nicer I am to myself physically and the more I want to get out there and change the world and do all the things I just I had the realization last night that like I want to be a dreamer again. I got comfortable I think and

There's nothing wrong with that. Like I love the stage of my life that I'm in, but I want to keep dreaming. I want to know that I'm going to do the big things and I'm going to do the crazy things and I'm going to start them all. Even if I don't finish them, at least I started them. And yeah,

Yeah. Also little movie recommendation. I watched the cutest little documentary. It's called the biggest little farm. It's so cute. And it made me want to get a beehive and chicken coop. And I want to buy land and I want to start a farm. I don't want to have Airbnb property on it. Guys, I want to do so many things.

And I know I'm not going to do them all, but I know that I'm going to be put on a path to do the most important ones and the ones that I'm meant to do. I'm going to stop. I'm going to shut up, okay? I'm just having a moment right now. I don't want to keep talking about it because I want you to feel empowered in your own life. And now I'm really going to shut up. Last thing I have to say, your thoughts become your feelings becomes your behavior.

Soak that in, write that down on your body, on your paper, make it your lock screen and start thinking positive and start thinking happy thoughts and separate yourself from them, okay? You are a powerhouse and you're gonna change the world and you have a purpose and I value you and you are my best friend and you don't even know it. And I know I'm saying that to a lot of people and I mean it so individually to each and every single one of you. I love you, okay? Let's do big things and I will talk to you soon.

I'll see you next Monday.