96: Things I’ve learned about friendship
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Hello my beautiful people, welcome back to the Moments Podcast. I am hanging in there by a thread. I will tell you it is by a thread and I know you guys are probably sick of me going through it. You're like, can you give us back happy, joyful Lexi who has all of the secret sauce that makes life perfect and awesome and happy?

I'm doing my best, okay? I'm getting there. I really am. But I'm also just trying to be so real and like take you through every step of whatever it is that I have going on in my life. And right now, it's a lot of things. Life has been heavy, but also so beautiful and amazing. And more than anything, I'm grateful to be alive and to experience this life. And there's a lot of really good things going on. I think that just sometimes...

physically, emotionally, mentally, I can only focus on what's going wrong. And I think that's something that a lot of us struggle with. And I genuinely believe that. Like, I know that we all have different situations and we are all going through something. But I do know that we all have the power to shift the mindset and to focus on a little bit of the better things that we have going on in our life, which is obviously...

So much easier said than done. Like, I have just been... The past few episodes I've had to record have been, like, hard for me to sit down and record, and you guys know that. You have heard my freaking jumble brain disaster of a thought... What? Can I speak? My trains of thought are just going to all different stations. No one's organizing anything up there. You guys have seen that all live, but...

I'm doing my best to focus on what is good and what is working. And this episode has nothing to do with this, but I do want to share this piece of information with you. You too can do the same, okay? Let's focus on what we do have going for us. Let's focus on the good. Let's focus on happy things in our life. And all that being said, I want to talk about friendship in today's episode. I've done a couple different episodes, I think, on friendship before.

I know that one of them was with Lisette. I think we just answered questions about friendship. This topic has been a little bit heavy on my mind lately because of a couple different situations that I've had go on. One of those situations making me realize that I could be a much better friend. I have been a bad friend to more than just one person and

Not in a super serious way. I'm not like stabbing anyone in the back or going behind anyone's back. But I just haven't been able to show up for my friends all too well lately. Because I also haven't really been able to show up for myself. But that's besides the point. I've had those kind of situations come to my vision. What's the expression? Anyways. And the other one, I have watched a friendship kind of...

I don't want to say fall apart because it hasn't done that whatsoever, but I have gained some awareness to a friendship and realized that it might not be one worth watering anymore. And obviously I'm not going to tell you the depths of those stories, but I want to talk about friendship. You know, it made me really think about it. And I think that friendship is one of the most valuable things in the universe on this planet. I think that

To have people that you can be so connected to and that you can laugh with and talk with and cry with and explore with and just experience life with is something so special. And proven scientific fact, I can't give you any of the real research or data, but I can tell you that long-lasting good relationships and friendships will help you live a longer, happier life. And that's just how it goes. Sorry, I'm yawning. I'm a mess. Um...

friendships don't come easy. Friendships aren't always easy and sometimes they are, but you also have to know that you have to put the work into different friendships. And with that being said, the first situation that really made me want to talk about this is me realizing that I haven't been able to show up as a good friend. I am one who believes that

My circle should be small. So I really only let people into my life closely if it's someone that I truly love and I truly want to be there for and someone that I believe will be there for me through every up and down that I go through in my life. And I just kind of sat back and one of my friends called me.

And then he texted me. And of course, I didn't pick up the call. I'm really bad at answering my phone. I'm never alone. Anytime I am alone, I don't want to be on my phone. I also refuse to answer the phone when I'm in a group of people. All kind of besides the point, but goes into the fact of why I didn't pick up this call. So then he texts me. He's like, dude, Lexi, I need to talk to you. And...

We eventually ended up catching up today and all was well. And I was so glad that I got to talk to him and it felt really good to catch up. And it made me realize how much I value those conversations as well. And how important it is to just be there for your friends, even if it's for five minutes to just pick up the phone and check in on one another. And I don't know why that is something that I struggle to do.

And it doesn't come from any place of like selfishness. It just genuinely comes from a place of like I have so much on my plate and my own cup is so empty that I have not been in a state of mind where I can overflow my love and care into the people that I care about life because of how much I have going on already. And

I don't really know how to explain it, but it just, it all, all this little moment kind of gave me a wake up call that I have so many other friends too that I should be checking in on, that I should be calling, that I should be...

just making sure everyone's okay and doing well and happy and taking care of themselves because what I've learned is that when I do actually do that and I do show up for the people that I love it helps me love myself a little bit more and it's interesting how that works I don't don't have the right words to explain it but I want you to just evaluate and check in on like your friendships and

on your, can I speak freaking words? Literally, no. Guys, I don't know what has happened to me. I need to seriously get something checked out of my brain because I don't know what's been going on. Point is, I need you to check with yourself and make sure that you're being a good friend, okay? Are you being there for the people that I love or that you love?

are you meeting their needs and this is something i've talked about in a different episode um i've always said you know treat people the way that you want to be treated and my best friend's dad once told me no treat people the way that they want to be treated and when it comes to friendships different friends are going to need different things the same way you're going to have different friends for different situations and different times in your life like you are going to have friends who value different things differently for example

I don't need a call. I don't want to be called. I actually am offended if someone calls me as their form of like checking in to like let them know that they love me. I don't know. I don't know. Shoot me a text, okay? Send me a picture that reminds you of me, you know? That's how I feel loved and checked in on by my friends. And I have other friends who...

Who are the opposite. They don't give a crap about a text. It doesn't mean anything to them. Oh, that picture you found from like a few years ago that made you relive this memory of something that you guys did together? That means nothing to some of my friends. What my friends need is a call to hear each other's voice and to just spend some quality time on the phone together whether it's for five minutes or it's for four hours.

I have a lot of friends like that. And in order for me to be a good friend, I have to compromise a little bit, let go of what is hard for me to do, and show up for them if I want friendships to last. And all of us want friendships to last. We really, really, really need friendships, and we need people. And yeah, that's the point, okay? Just be a good friend. The next one I have is, are you actually listening to your friends? Not just...

Giving advice. Let me let me elaborate on this one because this is something I've tried to explain before Sorry, Leia's like licking her foot if you can hear that I apologize. Um

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I'm the kind of person who has two different needs. I sometimes just need to be listened to. Like, I don't want your advice. I just want to rant. Okay, I want you to agree with everything that I'm saying, even if it's completely incorrect, just for a few, then we can evaluate and then maybe I'll be ready for your advice.

But if I'm going through it and I just need to vent, please don't try to tell me that like the grass is going to be greener or that I'm doing something wrong. Like sometimes just, just let it be. This is a huge thing that mean lists that have an issue with like, I,

If you don't know, if for whatever reason you're listening to this and don't know me, like, or you don't know this situation, Lisette is my best friend in the whole entire world. We've been inseparable best friends for 18 years, which is something that I thank God for every single day. But that being said, this girl and I can bicker. That's for sure. So a lot of times I'll be like venting to her about something and she'll hit me with like, oh, I told you so. Like, oh, I told you you shouldn't do that. Or girl, I've been telling you you needed to do this, this and that.

I'm like, right now, dude, let's just not, let's not talk about that, okay? Let's like, let me just go through this. You have to be able to do that for your friends. Because if that's something that you want for you, make sure you're doing it for the people in your life too, okay? Know the difference between when your friends want to be listened to and when they actually want advice or insight on whatever the situation may be, okay?

The next tip on like checking yourself as a friend is making sure that you're letting go of comparison at every capacity, okay? Comparison is the thief of joy.

in every aspect of life, but I do think that comparison is something that destroys a lot of friendships. And especially at the age that we're at, I'm talking teenage years to late 20s, this is when comparison hits the hardest. It's when we're all getting different jobs, we're all going through different stages of our body, we're all like in and out of different relationships, we're experimenting, we're really figuring out who we are to our core.

And you have to recognize that you and your friends are going to have different things that work for you. Like, you're going to have different strengths and different weaknesses. And if you are constantly comparing your strengths to someone else's strengths, you know, you're always going to be wanting more or chasing different things. And...

This is another thing that's so much easier said than done. But like in friendships, you have to continuously be rooting for the other person. Even if you feel like what this person is doing is stepping into your zone or your area or something that you're insecure about or something that you're passionate about. You have to cheer each other on. It is the only way to have a truly healthy friendship relationship possible.

connection with anyone comparison will ruin everything and I will take that to my grave and I emphasize it so much because it is something that we all so heavily struggle with me being one of those people like I freaking compare everyone I compare what people are doing how they're doing it how it's better than how I'm doing it how they're wearing outfits better than I am how I

their house looks like and I'm comparing it to one what I'm seeing on social media to like why we all have different things and we all have different strengths weaknesses passions dreams like we're all on our own path and I do not need to spend my time on my path

peeking into other people's gardens and like looking at where they're going and where they're headed. Like just stay on your path, look at your own garden and continue to water your own garden. And when you do that, it gets a lot easier to let go of the comparison. And just if you're noticing any problems in any of your friendships, whether they're like true friendships or new friendships, make sure you're not comparing yourself because it causes a lot of

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You don't want a one-sided friendship. Okay, it just hurts both parties in the end. You need to be there. And when I say be there, I don't just mean like being there for them. I mean pay attention to the little things about them. Okay, pay attention to their order at Starbucks. And honestly when I say a lot of these things, these all also apply to relationships. And I don't know for some reason I think if I was listening to this, I'd be like my friend isn't my boyfriend. Like I don't owe them that much of my time and energy. This is true.

But I'm talking here like real friendships that you want to last a lifetime. These are important things and you should give them the time of day. And yes, you're going to go through different waves and chapters of your life where you're going to have more time to pour into more friends or let me fix my words. You're going to be pouring your energy into different friends and different friend groups. I mean, let's take for example...

when Lissette went to college and I was a senior in high school. That was our first time being apart. And it was a beautiful thing because it gave us an opportunity to grow friendships outside of each other, which was really scary. Like I got really, really, really jealous at first when Lissette was making new friends. And I just had this constant fear that

That I was going to be replaced or that like one day she just wasn't going to love me anymore and like all these other people were going to become her best friend and that was something I had to work through at the time. Didn't recognize it then. Actually, yes, I did. I was always a little jealous girl. I'm still jealous, but we're working on it. Anyways, I had to recognize my own worth and understand that like I... See, how do I get so off topic? Two things. Let me finish the topic that I was on first.

This was a time where we had more time to pour into different friendships and that was beautiful and special. And of course we always end up back to one another because that friendship is so deep rooted and real. Like we have been nothing but ourselves in that friendship and that is why it is so strong. And that's like another thing to touch on when it comes to just friendship in general, I guess not being a good friend.

Make sure, and I touched on this last week too, but be who you are to your core. When you're building new friendships, obviously it's a little bit awkward and new in the beginning and you can't really be fully comfortable or show every part of yourself at the start. But don't be afraid to. If friendships are going to last and they're going to be real, people need to see the good, bad, ugly, and weird side of you. And if it comes out and this is something that a person runs from or they don't like it or they shit on it,

That tells you everything you need to know. Okay, don't change who you are for this person, for this friendship to last. Change this friendship so that you can last and that you can be true to yourself.

friendships are also so important because if you have the right people around you they are always going to lift you up and they're always going to make you feel loved and special and cared about and perfect just the way that you are but I'll get into that kind of on the next section of this I want to keep talking about how we can check in on ourselves and make sure that we are doing our part in being a good friend because it goes both ways okay I could sit here and talk to you about

how much I've been done dirty in friendships and how many people have hurt me and treated me like shit and I haven't felt like cared for by a friend. I could do that all day long. I've had plenty of situations.

But the real question is, like, how many of those was I part of the problem? We often like to blame other people and blame situations. But, you know, we can check ourselves. I have been a part of the problem in a lot of my friendships that haven't worked out or that have just drifted or fallen apart. And thankfully, I haven't had any friendships really, like, crash and burn. But I've still drifted from people and had small falling outs that have sometimes even just been unspoken and unspeakable.

I don't know. Okay. What am I saying? The world may never freaking know. I had to take a deep breath there. Little pause. Come back to my senses. Get back on track with my brain. Sometimes when I'm talking, I'm not thinking about a single word that I'm saying and that's why nothing I'm saying makes any sense or I just go on 20 million different tangents. Gotta love ADHD. It's crazy how that works. Um,

back to the point of being a good friend okay and knowing it's a 50 50 street a 50 50 friendship in a two-way street that's what I'm looking for make time for your friends okay my friend was explaining this to me today um he is so good at lecturing me let me tell you like he will always put me in my place when I'm not showing up as a friend and I really do appreciate that it might drive me insane but I know that he's right and I want to take all the things he shares with me share them with you

If something is valuable enough to you, if someone is important enough to you, you will make time for them and they will be a priority to you. And when you want these long-lasting friendships to really be around in the long haul, you have to make time for your friends. Again, it can be a five-minute call. It can be a five-minute check-in. It can be a text. Whatever way that they feel the most cared for and reminded that you love them, show up in that way for them. Okay, and I don't say all this to be like,

Or to tell you to be some kind of crazy people pleasing friend. I don't recommend that at all. That can be really draining and that is too much. And there's going to be times where it's harder for you to show up as a friend. And that's okay. Fill your own cup first. That's what I'm working on doing right now.

But when you are in the right headspace, just make sure you're thinking of how you can show up for the people that mean the most to you, okay? The same way that you want to be loved and reminded, be that person for the other people that you love, okay? This doesn't just go with friendships. Again, this ties into relationships and family for sure, okay? When you're capable, I want you showing up for them. Now, let's move on to...

I guess we could say how you know when a friendship isn't worth watering anymore. When something was never real, I guess. Like not to be super deep and dramatic, but there are certain friendships that you think could be something stronger and they just don't grow into that. And that's completely okay. Like people just aren't compatible sometimes. And I think I noticed this a lot in my life, like in the influencer world.

There's a lot of people who online I believe I could have these really cool friendships with and then like over time they just kind of don't seem to really work out the way that I envisioned or not fall apart. That's such a terrible word because it's not really what I'm talking about, but

The same way that I apply this situation to my influencer world of people can be applied to different people in your sorority, in your new high school club, on your sports team, in your book club, in your class. Like,

You can't fall in love with the idea of what a friendship could look like with someone. The only way you really know if you're going to be compatible with someone long term is through getting to know them and through time and with time. And sometimes it happens the other way around. Like, let's look at Meredith and I. I met Meredith, um,

Another insight in case you don't know Meredith is one of my best friends in the whole entire world One of the friends who I genuinely like want to see win and wants to see me win and like just so supportive of one another on such a Real level that you can feel it in your heart and soul and you would take a bullet for this person That's Meredith to me and I never intended on meeting Meredith I met Meredith through another friend someone that I had met online like through social media and I

Meredith and I first met, I don't know, I don't think we planned on having such a strong friendship like this, but we did. And it happened unexpectedly. And that is something I also want to throw into this podcast episode. You are going to meet so many more people that you are going to love in this lifetime. And I don't want you wasting your time on people who don't value you or deem you as worthy when there's so much more out there for you. Like,

You never know who you're going to meet. And Meredith is a prime example of that. Like I wrote a guided journal and she's in my dedication. And I only met her three years ago, two years ago now. And I just know that she's going to be someone that I'm going to value and cherish and have as a best friend for the rest of my life. And you never know when that's going to come. So if you're looking for any bit of hope or you haven't found like any true real friendship yet,

don't blame yourself number one number two know that it's coming and know that the right person will gravitate to you at the right time okay but also with that being said take into account all of the ways that you can show up as a friend it's like i just keep repeating a two-way street okay if you want to find good friendships in your life you have to be a good friend and again sometimes easier said than done let's get back to knowing what a

Pay attention to which of your friends reach out to you when you're kind of going through it. Even if you don't, this is like a deep level. Even if you're not physically posting like what you have going on or what you're going through or how your mental health is, pay attention to the friends that notice something is off before you've told them something is off.

This is important, okay? This is something definitely to take note of. It's not make or break in friendships to me because I'm very good at hiding my emotions. But anyone who can show up for me and know that something is off before I've even said anything, this is like something my mom has the superpower to do, that is someone you want to keep around. And that is someone you want to cherish and love forever and ever and ever because it is hard to come by. The next thing is just do you feel wanted?

Or do you feel like a burden to this person? And it's just such a hard pill to swallow when you really take a step back and like take a bird's eye view of all of your friendships and relationships and you see who doesn't give a shit about you and who is keeping you around as a friend just because like one, it feels like the right thing to do or really it just sucks to find out that neither of you really want each other in your life anymore. Like or at least that's what it feels like. And

It's a weird freaking thing, okay? Let me tell you, but not feeling wanted in a friendship hits like a truck. And I think that that's one thing that has hit for me recently, which is part of the reason I wanted to do this episode. Because I just recently had a situation where I took a step back and I looked at a friendship from an outside perspective. And...

It came to my attention that it was not necessarily one-sided. It just, this person doesn't actually really want me as a friend. And then I was like, okay, well, do I even want this friendship if it's not going both ways? You know, if I'm the one putting in all the work and trying to save it, is it worth saving?

Probably not. You know, like I just felt like I was a burden to this person and I felt like bringing up an issue that we had in this friendship just came as an annoyance to them. And that says everything I need to know. And that kind of touches on my next topic. Like when you try to communicate with someone, a friend, about something that's been bothering you or has been on your mind, how do they react to it? Okay, is this someone who...

wants to be better? Is this someone who wants to fix the friendship? Or is this someone who makes you feel stupid for bringing it up? There's nothing that hits me harder than that. And that's the situation I just went through. I tried to bring up like something that made me feel some kind of way. And I was immediately hit with, I don't even want to say attitude, just like

I didn't do anything wrong. I didn't do this, that, da-da-da-da-da. Or like a fake apology. Get out of my face with that. Like honestly, it just, it makes me so upset and that sadness turns into anger that like I have just, I don't know. If you try to talk to someone about what you're feeling and they shut it down immediately, that is someone that you need to take your space from and you need to distance from and it is not worth it because you deserve better.

End of story on that one. Like, that's a really big one, okay? Friendship, it has to be... You both have to want to fix things. And I think this also goes in relationships, like, romantically and family relationships. If you don't both want to fix things, it needs either more time or it needs to be something that you just let go. Sucks to think about, but sometimes it's all for the better. And some things are just...

I've touched on this too. Some friendships, some relationships are just healthier from a distance, especially at the age we're at. Like I noticed that a lot of my female friendships, most of my really, really healthy ones are the ones that are from a distance because I think it can be harder to, well, not my true real friendships. I'm talking more acquaintance level here. A lot of my, how do I rank friendship? I'm trying to figure this out because I

I have friends who aren't acquaintances, but they're not like my Lissette and Meredith's. They're my people that I love a lot. And, you know, I would do things for, but I wouldn't, you know, sit there and take a bullet for them. Actually, I kind of would do that for anyone, unfortunately. But you know what I mean? The people I'm not as close with, but I still love. Where was I even going with? What did I just say? Give me a second.

Okay, so I paused the recording to really sit down and figure out what the heck I was saying that led me into the topic that I was just talking about and I can't remember for the life of me. Guys, if you actually have any insight on what could be going on in my brain, please tell me. I used to be able to ramble on the same train of thought for a very long time and not get distracted. Something has shifted. Something has happened. I think that I need to meditate. Back to the point. Friendship, okay?

You deserve to be loved and you should love others. And a lot of friendships are hard to walk away from. Let's think like someone that you've had in your life since you were a childhood or since it was your childhood, like a childhood best friend. You are going to go in different life paths than a lot of the people that you grew up with. And

One thing I want you to know is that, one, these friendships can last and they will last. My mom is still best friends with some of her childhood friends. And she tells me all the time that friendships take work the same way that marriage takes work and relationships with family take work. Those are just, you know, those are two things that are locked in. So we're more willing to put the work into them.

But I strongly believe that friendship is just as valuable as marriage, as a relationship with your parents. Like, my best friends mean everything to me. Like, if you were to ask me who is one person that I could not live without, it's my best friend. It's Lissette. No questions, no ifs, ands, buts about it. She's the one who I might have to do... I just... I can't survive without her, basically. I love her. Like a sister. More than a sister. Anyways...

Point is, good friendships are important. And if someone makes you feel like you are shit or like you are incapable or you are small or you are ugly or they make you insecure or

One, ask yourself if this is something you can communicate with them and if it's something that they're not even aware that they're doing, which is another very big thing in friendships, especially female friendships at this age. A lot of times when friendships get a little bit messy or fights arise or whatever's going on,

Check in with the other person's mental health, okay? It could just be an easy, easy fix of like, are we comparing ourselves to each other? Are we projecting onto each other? And if we both want to, how can we fix this, okay? Don't run away from something that is good just because one thing is messy. Give it a chance. I'm saying you walk away from it when only one person wants to fix it. And...

Just know that some things aren't gonna last forever. It's gonna suck sometimes. Like this situation that I'm in right now is so heavy on my mind and I don't know why really. It's just like I can kind of see something falling apart and I don't really want it to but it's one of those things where it's out of my control. I have said what I needed to say. I have voiced my thoughts and my feelings and if this person wants to save, not even save this friendship, but like

Be there. I'm my stomach just growled. I wonder if you guys could hear that But like does this person want to be my friend? It's going to be really telling to find out if they reach out to me like I am the one who last reached out and or is this just gonna kind of like fizzle out which sucks to think about and like I really don't want that to be the case like I love this person and I love the friendship that we've built but I

I was really hurt and sometimes when you're really hurt all it takes to fix things is like a genuine apology. Something that I've learned to do recently is know when I'm wrong or at least try to understand when I'm wrong and genuinely apologize to this person. I mean the friend I was talking about who texted me was like hey I need you to be there for me. You haven't been there for me. I finally picked up the phone and we finally called and I was just like I'm so sorry. I

I'm not going to try to justify anything. I just have had a lot going on and I can't even keep my own cup full. But that's no excuse. Like, I love you and I apologize and let's fix this and work on it together. That's the energy I want when it comes to friendships. And moving forward, I've always been one to say that I like a small circle. But I really want to hold true to that because there's enough going on in all of our lives that we only have so much time.

And I don't think that we should be wasting time on people who don't want to take time to take care of us or be there for us or just, I don't know. Y'all get what I'm saying? Are you picking up what I'm putting down? Because I really think that you are and I hope you are. And I know that this might have been an all over episode, but I do think there's some valuable meat in here and some things to think about. So I want your homework to be

Check in on how you're treating other people and check in on how other people are treating you because you deserve to be loved, cherished, and you deserve

Should also be doing the same for other people. Guys, I have something new to share with you, but I am really excited. Like, I feel so honored that I get to be telling you guys about this as an ad for this week's episode. I am someone who loves to learn, and I am always saying that, and I miss going to school, even though, you know, I'm the one who dropped out. I love learning. I just love learning about all different kinds of topics because I'm a squirrel brain, and my passions and my interests changed all the time. So here's Masterclass. Masterclass is something...

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Those are the bullet points. And I just... Guys, I love you. And I really know that I bring this up a lot too. Every time that you sit here and you listen to me talk and ramble, I'm just so appreciative because with all these different chapters going on in my life, I just feel like I don't have any strengths lately. And I've just been very unkind to myself and comparing myself. And when I do that, it makes me feel...

Like I can't do shit. Like I am just a weak ball of crap who is making no difference and doing nothing and saying the same shit on repeat because I'm not like taking the time to sit down and learn the way that I want to or I don't know. I just, I just, I'm human. We're human. And if you have any feelings similar to that, please, if you're going to take any advice from me,

Treat yourself with compassion. And I'm saying this like I'm talking to myself. You have to be nice to you. You have to stop comparing yourself to what you see online or what you see around you. You...

have a certain set of strengths and beautiful things that you are going to do and you have a purpose and even if you haven't found it yet or you haven't figured out how to work it properly there's still so much time to figure it out and there doesn't need to be so much pressure on figuring it out just keep showing up a little bit more every single day and that's all you can do give it your best do your best okay

I love you and I will talk to you guys next Monday. And I also really want to plan on recording another friendship episode with Lissette. Oh, just an episode with Lissette because we see the world so differently. So ask questions you want to ask us both and we'll answer them very differently. It's kind of a really fun game. And I love you. I really, really, really, really do. Thank you for everything. Let's keep creating awesome things together. I love spending this moment with you. Okay, goodbye.