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Hello, my beautiful people and welcome back to the moments podcast. I'm your host Lexi Hidalgo, and I'm so happy to have you here. I hope that everybody's new year's resolutions are going well, or if you haven't started them, I hope you're not being too hard on yourself. You're not really applying pressure because realistically, what even is a new year's resolution? Something that we do for maybe five days, maybe five weeks for some of us who go really strong five months.
I personally don't usually last more than five seconds when it comes to New Year's resolutions, but we're trying. I like to view my resolutions less as resolutions and these goals that I have to succeed in. And if I don't, the world is going to end and cave in on me. Though mentally, it does sometimes still feel like that because we're all a little bit too hard on ourselves every once in a while. But not completing a New Year's resolution is not the end of the world. They can be viewed more like...
goals, lifestyle changes, things that you want to do to move you in a direction towards a better you, towards a you that is overall a better person, a you that makes you feel good from the inside out and a you that people are inspired by from the outside in. You know what I mean? But in past moments episodes in these last couple of weeks, I talked about a few different goals, different resolutions you could set, or just kind of
and things and some inspiration if you don't really know where to start when it comes to setting a goal or figuring out what steps you want to take in the next year. I didn't really get into all my super niche little details and goals, and honestly, I probably won't on the episodes or on the podcast unless you guys want me to. Shoot me a DM if you want to see that. But what I want to do in this week's episode is just kind of
Talk about how sometimes less is more and sometimes more is more. More importantly, how less is more and ways that I've watched that happen in my life and ways that focusing less on things has made my life overall better, overall more peaceful. I've been overall more confident, more motivated, sort of, but I don't think that has anything to do with the less or the more that's just, that's ADHD and that's how it goes in my brain. But...
It can be so addicting to just constantly be chasing. I posted an episode last week about things to let go of, things to stop chasing in the new year, but it's so much easier said than done. And it can be so, so, so beyond addicting to just chase every new thing. And that doesn't necessarily just go for everything.
the newest outfit that your friend is wearing or that one influencer is wearing or that one influencer's friend is wearing or the new shoes or the new belt or purse or bag or place that they're shopping or store that's having a sale or
those kinds of things, the material surface things. It's exhausting to chase those because they're literally releasing thousands and thousands of new products and new things that are going to be quote unquote trending tomorrow, like a day. There is no escaping that constant chase. But beyond that, I think we've gotten so deep into that, that idea that we have to keep going and chasing and doing more and more and more that we're starting to feel like we need to chase other people's personas and
and other people's hobbies and just become other people, which is even more consuming and intoxicating than just chasing the next trend. Trying to be everybody all at once and have all of the traits that they have or do all of the things that they do is going to absolutely exhaust you. It's going to tear you down and you are going to lose yourself quicker than, I don't know, quicker than lightning strikes. Horrible analogy. But
When you get so obsessed with being somebody else, and I'm telling you, we do this subconsciously. I'm not sitting here to say, oh, you're obsessed with wanting to just be this one person so you have no idea who you are. It's a slow build. It's a slow thing that happens where we just start seeing...
traits in other people you know that work for them that make them successful that you think make them beautiful and we start applying them to our own life that we just kind of become a collection of other people but not in the beautiful way that is you know passed down through generations or doing something a certain way because your best friend's mom does it and then doing something else a certain way because your brother does it not in that kind of beautiful way but in a who even are you
kind of way. And I think that's the problem with us constantly chasing more and following more people and consuming more media and watching people's different health videos and health advice and do this and do that and change your mindset and watch this podcast and listen to this podcast and read this book. But don't forget to read this book first and this and that it's never ending. And I sit here and I give you a podcast to listen to. And I encourage people to listen to this podcast. Like I'm sure in some way, shape or form, I'm
I'm part of that problem, but it's not the people who are putting out the content. It's us, the consumers. You have control of what you consume and how you consume it. But to back the blame off of you a little bit there, it's not all your fault. These apps are literally made to be addictive. Everybody is obsessed with creating more. And there is an endless amount of things on the internet
And when they're constantly pushed to you, you think that you're constantly meant to be consuming them. And I'm getting a little ahead of myself. In my notes, I wrote down two sentences. I don't know why I just talked about that for four minutes all by itself, but I've just been doing a lot of reflecting and a lot of thinking of how tiring it is to try to do everything and try to be everyone and try to follow every single different person's advice, forgetting that I'm an individual, nothing like the individual's advice that I'm watching.
Take everything that you listen to and everything that you see with a grain of salt. Recognize that your life is different than their life. The advice that works for them isn't going to be the advice that works for you. You are your own individual. You need to create your own advice that works for you. Yes, consume. Take in other people's advice. Learn from it. Grow from it. Find something in it that works for you, but don't apply so much pressure to yourself to become better.
that and to use what works for them and make it work for you because that's just not how things go. But here are a few things that I have personally done less of in my life that have helped me feel better about my life, about myself, just better in general. And I will talk about, you know, in which ways in each one, some of these things I haven't successfully done less of and I plan to do less of, but these first few are
firsthand experience I'm giving to you right here. The goal of this little spiel that I just gave is to build up yourself and be an individual and know who that person is and lock that person in before you are so impressionable to other people's ideas, advice, and things. You know, make a you for you before you let everybody else craft who you are. It's important.
But that being said, there's a lot of valuable things that people have to share and there's a lot of beautiful art that people create and I think that we should consume it. But we should consume it knowing ourselves first. That's the most important. Okay, first one, less working out. I spent a really long time in my life trying to
have a perfect body and wanting to be strong and thin and super fit and super tone. And I honestly feel like a lot of that obsession is coming back, not for me personally, but just kind of as a whole. Like there was a little chunk of time where I really felt like people were learning to love their bodies the way that their bodies were and recognizing that every body looks different and curves are beautiful and hot and sexy and no body is meant to look exactly the same.
I felt like we were kind of in that for a little while. And I think in the last year or so, I've seen a lot of the narrative shifting back to pushing a standard that is a lot more unattainable, that is a lot more revolved around being thin or looking a certain way. And it hurts to see because, you know, we make so much progress and we take so many steps forward and then boom,
you're scrolling through social media and you feel like you're back in, I don't know, 2014, 2013, when everybody was obsessed with being tiny. And that's a weird thing to watch happen. But there was a point in my life where I was so obsessed with, I don't know, being looked at by other people and being validated by other people for what my body looked like. And in that,
I found myself so obsessed with working out and paying attention to what I eat. I always had a pretty healthy relationship with food physically, but mentally I never did. I always let myself feel guilty or feel bad about what I was eating or feel bad that I didn't work out or feel bad that I wasn't going to the gym or getting my steps in. And it was just this, this horrible thing in my mind that I couldn't escape.
But I didn't even really know or recognize that I was stuck in it. But I was. And it wasn't until I had a month or so go by where life really just took me by surprise. It threw me for a whirlwind. And I wasn't able to work out for an entire month. And when I tell you I felt the best I've ever felt in my whole entire life, I mean it. Because I stopped obsessing.
And it takes time to get to that point because...
We just get so caught up and it's really hard to break that cycle of being caught up. But when you have yourself so busy in other aspects of your life, when you pour into other aspects of your life, you don't have nearly as much time to focus on what your body looks like or if you worked out that day. And alongside of being less obsessed with the idea of needing to work out every single day and being so obsessed with my body image, I also found that I felt better in my own skin than I had ever felt before.
I probably didn't even look any different, but I felt different because mentally I was happy with who I saw in the mirror because I wasn't constantly obsessed with changing it. I had no choice but to accept it the way that it was. And it's a really empowering feeling. And I think that ever since that kind of happened to me a couple of years ago, there are still times in my life where I really want to care for my body. I want to take care of it. I want to lift weights. I want to feel strong. But
That desire to change everything about what I look like has left. And it's because I did less. So I highly encourage you to do a little bit less working out, a little bit less tracking everything that you do and every step that you take. It's not worth it. Genuinely, life is about so many more things and more.
I'll tell you, I'll be the one to tell you that health is important. Getting your nutrients in is important. Making sure that you live in a body that's going to be healthy for a long period of time. Sorry if you guys heard that. My dog just jumped on the couch and almost didn't make it. Sorry, Leah. It's important to take care of your body because you want to be healthy in the long run. You want to be 70 years old and be able to pick up your grandkids. But I promise you that whether you get 5,000 or 8,000 steps today, you're going to be healthy.
or 12,000 isn't gonna matter. Just fuel your body with the proper care and be a little bit active when you can. But listen to your body, trust the process, and stop being so obsessed with working out every single day all the time. And the next one kind of leans into that.
Have a little bit less obsession with your insecurities. As my life has gone on, you may notice this in yourself too, my insecurities have changed. When I was in elementary school, I had freckles all over my face and
People would say the gnarliest things to me, the nastiest things I could have ever heard. Somebody said one time, and people really think I'm lying when I tell the story, and I tell them I wish that I was this creative. I wish I could have come up with something like this. But someone said that it looks like I diarrhea in the toilet and it splashed on my face. Boys broke up with me because I looked like a cat.
Was truly bullied for having freckles on my face. You could imagine how they became a deep insecurity of mine I constantly tried to cover them up. I Hated the way that they looked therefore I hated the way that I looked would put foundation layers of it just to hide them and It's crazy because now people like tattoo them on their face, but that's the story for a whole different time. I
But eventually I got to a point where I realized that makeup really didn't cover them up. And I got to a point where I had something new to be insecure about. And since I was not putting all of my focus and energy on them, I had this weird way of growing to love them because I learned to love them even before, you know, the world was using them to do makeup because of course I love them now. But at the time I still was getting made fun of for them, but I grew an appreciation for them just because, um,
I wasn't pouring all of my focus on them. The less that you pay attention to things, the better that they get. I was struggling with my skin for a really long time. I was having really, really bad breakouts in, I'd say like August to December of 2023, even more than that, even going into 2024. And my skin has more recently cleared up. But in the moment,
that I was struggling with it, I was staring at my skin nonstop day in day out, just picking it, spreading it and making it worse. I think that just when you spend enough time being insecure about something and stressing out about it, eventually your brain takes control over you and says, it's time to figure something else out. It's time to start thinking about other things. Stop being so obsessed with this. And I'm telling you the second that my brain did that to me about my skin, my skin started to clear up.
I didn't change anything. I didn't change my routine. And previously, I had tried to change everything. I did topical medications. I did no gluten. I did no dairy. I went to the dermatologist. Nothing cut it. But the second that I stopped being so obsessed with fixing it, it fixed itself. It's really interesting how God does that. And why God does that, I don't know. Another thing, I spent so long being insecure about my eyes.
Hated my eyes for some reason the way that they were shaped I think that stemmed back to elementary school when people told me that I looked like a cat and They just made fun of my eyes. Guess what? I love my eyes now I've grown to just appreciate them in the way that they are in the way that I am, you know The last one was I forget what it was now my legs. I hated my legs. I hated them But why?
And I'm telling you, the second that you stop thinking about how much you hate something, you get over it. You get over it and you learn to love it. And another thing, let me just remind you, you were given this body for a reason. This body is so uniquely made just for you. You have come from generations and generations and generations of beautiful humans. You would never look at a picture of your great-great-great-grandma and say, wow, that's so ugly about her. I would hope that you wouldn't do that about a picture about anybody. Nobody's doing that to you. Don't do it to yourself.
You are made just the way that you are, beautifully. And I know that we live in a world that is so obsessed with changing everything about themselves to make other people feel better and to make themselves happier. But you are never going to find that happiness unless you find that happiness in who you are and who you always were. You are naturally beautiful. You are made to be one of a kind. And if you constantly chase happiness,
validation and happiness that stems from how you look on the outside. You'll never feel happy on the inside. And being content with yourself on the inside is more important than anything on the outside ever could be. And that's my spiel on that, okay? The world is going to try to convince you that you have to do things. Trust me, I've been there. I wanted a boob job since I was maybe 12 years old. I still think about it sometimes.
but i will never do it because i know i still won't be content if that's what i'm searching for
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Next one is, well, less clothing, less makeup. Both of these I'm going to do together. Less makeup is just essentially I feel better about myself when I don't heavily apply products because I do feel like when I put too much product on my face, unless it's done by a professional, it just like sinks into my face in the most way.
horrendous way possible. And I've learned that less is more when it comes to makeup. I just keep it light. I keep it a little dollop. I do a little skin tint. I do a little blush, maybe a little mascara. Call it a day, you know? But for my makeup gurus, me saying this, you're probably like, girl, stop. A full glam, a full beat. And I eat that up. I wish I knew how to do it. But for me personally, when I use less makeup, I feel a little bit better about myself just because I don't know. I don't know why it is. The next one is less clothing because I'm
When I have less things to choose from, it's a lot easier to put little outfits together and to feel cute and stylish. The next one is sometimes, and I'm still having a hard time working through this one, clearly. I've been talking for 19 minutes about who knows what. Using less words to get your point across. I think that sometimes I like to fluff things up, especially when it comes to confrontation situations.
or like a little bit of an argument, a little bit of a conflict, I'm throwing in word after word that I barely know what they mean. Sometimes it's easier to just get the point across, say what you have to say, and move on. Sometimes it's better to just be concise. Sometimes I believe that less is more when it comes to friendships, and I don't know that this would be a controversial take, but unfortunately on the internet today, almost anything can be taken as a controversial take.
Everybody has a different opinion and that's the beauty of being individuals. Not everybody has to agree with everything but for me, I've always liked to keep my circle small and I think that really could only be because I've had people try to befriend me for the wrong reasons and I think that that's like put a little bit of a dent, a little bit of a trigger, a little bit of a guard up for me when it comes to building friendships.
because I do want to build stronger friendships. That being said, I do like to keep my circle small. And I think that if you have a very big circle, just be aware of the energy that you're keeping surrounded around you. If you have a big circle that is full of love, support, and kindness, keep that going, keep it growing. I am almost envious of that for you because that's truly inspiring and it's truly beautiful.
If you have a big circle around you where you leave the circle feeling a little bit drained, a little bit disappointed, a little bit discouraged or unmotivated or sad about what you want to do and who you want to be, maybe that's a circle you should reevaluate. Maybe you should shrink it a little bit because you should never leave an environment feeling that way if these are people that you want to call your friends. You get me? Moving on.
Less phone. I say this in every single episode ever of the moments podcast. Put the phone down. Stop scrolling. Stop liking. Stop reposting.
Just get off of it. Get off of it. Get off of it. I feel like I'm talking to myself right now. I'm looking at myself in this little video camera that I have and I'm talking to myself. We're addicted. Each and every single one of us is addicted. Give yourself a schedule to follow. When do you get TikTok time? Treat yourself kind of like you're a toddler who only gets a certain amount of screen time. Otherwise, the screen will win. The screen will win and you will unfortunately be sucked in. I like the term create more than you consume.
I think more is more when it comes to creating and capturing. I'll get to that in a second, but less is more when it comes to consuming. I think that especially if you're somebody who has any interest in becoming a creator of any kind, and honestly, if you'd like to hear an episode about that, I would love to do one, just how to get started in creating. Granted, I think TikTok might very much be going away. And if it does, I'm
You guys obviously know where to find me if you're listening to this, but also Instagram, YouTube, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah. When you consume too much, you lose your creativity to want to create because you're
We're blinded by and paralyzed by all the choice, all the options, all the videos, all the people, all the success that we see, all the success that we don't have. We get attacked mentally and you're just drained and you have no desire to create when all you've done is consume other people's work. I know that sometimes we like to think that it's inspiring, but there's a line. There's a point where it is not inspiring anymore and it's only debilitating.
Create more than you consume because you will feel better if you do. Next. Now we're going to go into the few things that I think equal more is more. And by this, I mean, you can never do too much of these things. I think that continuing to do these things at... Sorry if you guys hear me keep moving around. I'm not very good at sitting still and I'm recording this episode on my living room floor. More is more when it comes to experiences.
And I think that actually before I get into more is more things, I think it's just important for you to individually recognize what point you're at in your life. There are certain points in your life where you need more. There are certain points in your life where you need a whole lot less. Okay, if you are feeling overwhelmed,
tired, exhausted, you lack motivation, you don't have any passions, there's no dreams you want to chase, you can't even think about what you want to make for dinner, you probably need less. You probably need less. And if you feel, you know, a lot of the feelings that I was just about to describe for how to know if you need more are kind of similar to the ones of how you know if you need less.
I think you just need to think about it. If you have a billion and one things going on in your life, you probably need less. If you feel like you have nothing going on in your life, if there's no activities that make you excited, if there's nothing that makes you look forward to waking up in the morning, you might need more. I think that
This is different to every single individual. And maybe I need to dedicate a whole podcast episode to how you know if you need less or how you know if you need more. But I think that would be almost a little bit pointless because I think that what you need to do as a listener of this is sit down, do a journal entry and figure out if you have too many things going on and not enough. Do you want more? Do you want more things to fill up your schedule? Do you want more connections to build? Do you want more work to do?
Or are you tired of doing so many things and you just want to let your body rest? The answer is going to be individual to you. And there's a spectrum, you know? Sometimes you need more of one thing and less of another thing. And that's the beautiful thing about being able to create your own individual life is that you can do more of one thing and less of another thing. But you need to be the one to evaluate what that may look like. I might need to do less...
creating a videos and more going outside. And if you have a desire to become a content creator, who knows? Maybe yours is to be outside less and create more. Each and every one of our lives is different. Don't let my needs dictate what you think your needs are.
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you feel through this life, the more that you will learn through this life and the more that you will grow up and the more that you will mature and you will learn lessons and you will meet incredible people and I think that the more you experience, the beautiful. I think that laughing, more is more. There's no such thing as too much laughter. Laugh until you literally can't breathe. With the right people, that is the greatest thing that you could ever do.
There's always things to learn, always room to grow. Always. It's always a good idea to stimulate your brain. I know that the listeners of this podcast range from all the way down at, I don't know, 11, 12, 13 to 30, 31, 32 and 33.
I know that in the last couple of years of my life, I've had to really prioritize learning if I want to learn because we get to a point in our lives where we're stagnant and we can stay right there. Nobody's going to judge you. Nobody's going to be upset with you. You're not probably going to be super fulfilled if you're not learning, if you're not stimulating your brain, if you're not kind of chasing something is the opposite of what I want to say, but just desiring something.
Growth in one aspect of your life or another the next one I know such thing is too much quality time with the right people that also includes yourself Quality time with you is so so so so so so did I say so? Important you are the one that you have forever in this lifetime I don't care how close you are with your best friend or with your boyfriend or with your parents You are the only one that you have for the entirety of your lifetime on this earth potentially
So be able to spend time with yourself, get to know yourself, have a good time with her. Don't spend all the time you have alone just scrolling. Journal, write, go on a play date with just you. I never think you can have too many photographs. Maybe that's concerning of me to say or ironic of me to say as an influencer, of course, you know, you can never take too many pictures, but it's so true. Document every moment of your life because one day there will be a point where you'll want to look back on it and to have a photo of it
speaks more than a thousand words. The next one is experimenting, trying new things. I think that if you haven't found your thing yet, just keep trying. Why not? Why not? The world is your oyster. Take the time you need to figure out what you like or what you love and just know that you don't have to love every single thing that you do. What fun would that be? You're an individual. Your likes are going to be different than somebody else's likes, so just keep trying things until you figure out what yours is.
The next one, music. You can never, ever, ever listen to enough music. I love music. I love listening to new music and playing new playlists and adding songs to my playlist and listening to worship music, whatever it may be. But those are just kind of my random things that I wrote down. And I'm sure there's a whole lot more. And I hope that it was something valuable to you. And I hope that
You spend time figuring out whether you need less, whether you need more, what you need less of, what you need more of. But most importantly, just go put your phone down and think for a little bit without me rambling your ear off.
do it all for you. I love you so much. You guys could find me on all the other platforms as of right now at Lexidalgo. And if you like to journal, I have a guided journal called the moments journal, and it's a journal for really anybody. Even if you've never journaled in your life, it's a great way for you to just understand yourself a little bit more to your core and be able to look back on your life one day. So yeah, I'll put all that stuff in the description. Love you guys so much. I'll talk to you next Wednesday. Bye.
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