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Hello, my beautiful people, and welcome back to an episode of the Moments Podcast. I'm your host, Lexi Hidalgo, and we are back.

We've taken a few weeks off. I feel good. I feel excited. I feel really grateful that today is New Year's. The day that you are listening to this is January 1st. Mind you, the day that I'm recording it is New Year's Eve. And I wanted to give you guys a few, wow, I didn't realize how bad my voice was. I celebrated my birthday party and my birthday, I guess, a couple days ago. And we were singing and dancing and screaming. And yeah, you're just going to have to deal with a little bit of

scratchiness in my voice but that's okay sometimes I love when my voice is lost I don't know why but I want to give you guys 10 maybe 11 if you're lucky New Year's resolutions that are kind of practical some of them are bit more difficult to some people a bit easier to other people but their New Year's resolutions that I try to follow every single year and listen everything I say is

I want you to take it with a grain of salt. I want you to know that it's okay if you don't do these things. The world will not end. I'm going to be harsh. I'm going to be real. And if it hurts you and it feels like a stab in the heart, maybe it's because it hits. Maybe it's because you needed to hear it. Because I find that that's something that often happens to me when people say things to me.

I can get very defensive about them. I'm like, no, I don't need to do that. That's not true. That's not actually going to help. That's not going to change my life. Okay. Maybe it will. Maybe it will. Like maybe it won't and it works for somebody else. But if it makes you defensive, you should probably think about doing it or considering it. On that note, let me just tell you something. I don't have this written as a new year's resolution, but it is something that I want you guys to set as a goal for yourself or a reminder. I want you to know if there is something that you want to do,

You don't need anything crazy to do it. You can make it happen. If you really want to do something, you will do it without all of the necessary tools and accessories and things. This little podcast recorder that I record on cost me $30 on Amazon. I've been using the same one for all three years of doing the Moments podcast, and she's going so strong. I record with a camera that I've had forever. You don't even need to film it.

You could sit down and you could record a podcast on your iPhone voice memos. So if that's your dream, I want you to do it. Obviously, I can't speak much on other dreams and other paths and other crazy careers and dreams and goals and ventures that you have. But what I'm trying to say is maybe you can't run away and move to Hawaii right off the bat, but you can start planning it.

If you want to do it, you will do it. And I need you to remind yourself of that because we just give up on sometimes on things sometimes when it, when it's not all handed to us.

If you want it bad enough, you'll do it. So on that note, we're recording in the car. We've been recording in the car and in the bedroom and in the house for quite some time now because the podcast studio is quite a work in progress. Now, let me tell you, that is a New Year's resolution of mine to get her done. And you guys will see the changes the second that we do. But for now, let's listen. Let's enjoy. These are my New Year's resolutions. These are things that I think could change.

Deeply truly change your life if you give them a chance and you really apply them. You don't have to do them perfectly, but you do have to try, okay? The first one, this one is strong, this one is heavy, this one might not apply to everybody, but for anybody who's willing to listen, I want you to get to know Jesus.

There's a whole lot of reasons that growing your faith is the most beautiful and most empowering and most healing, peaceful thing in the whole entire world. And I'm not a professional. I can't really lead you in any kind of Bible study. But what I can tell you is that going to church and getting to know people that really know the Lord will change your life. It will grow your trust in ways that you can't even comprehend. You know, I struggle really deeply with

With a lot of mental health issues, I have chapters of depression in my life. I have chapters of anxiety in my life. And I don't think that finding Jesus just ripped that all away from me. I don't think it changed the mental wiring of my brain. But I think that getting to know Jesus has given me an uncomparable peace that has just made me feel okay in it. You know, it has made me understand that.

God wouldn't have given me these things if they weren't meant to be mine. He wouldn't have made me struggle with these things if they weren't mine to share with the world, if they weren't given to me to help somebody else, if they weren't a gift in some way, shape or form. And that feeling is the greatest thing that I could have ever imagined and I could have ever dreamed of. That's number one. The next one, take care of your body. It's the only one that you have, you know, and a lot of these might sound really basic, but

But we often need to go back to the basics. If we get so caught up in these tiny details and these teeny tiny little near's resolutions that are so easy to get lost in or so easy to forget, we forget all about the basics too. But the basics are the what is the most important. You need to lay the foundation before you have anything else. So this is us laying the foundation. So when I say take care of your body,

i want you to know that this looks different for every single person but what i'm talking about here are the basic necessities okay drink your water follow a skincare routine recognize that you're gonna age you're gonna grow up you're gonna get older take care of yourself while you do it okay pay attention to what you eat i'm not saying don't enjoy life don't eat what you want i am i am a proud believer of having a good relationship with food and enjoying everything in moderation but also know

that this body is your only body. When you get old, when you're 50, 60, 70, you want to be able to go walk around the park and lift your grandchildren up and take the groceries out of the car and drive. And in order to be that way when you're that age is to take care of yourself now. Walk now. Be active now. Learn to go swim. Find a source of activity that you enjoy. It doesn't have to be

going to the gym and lifting weights because that's what everybody does for New Year's or that's how everybody gets fit and strong. It's not about having the biggest muscles in the room. It's about having a body that is functional, that is healthy, that can continue to prosper and grow old gracefully. That's what I mean when I say take care of your body because it's the only one that you have. Just think about that. Okay, next one. Gonna sound harsh, but I mean everything that I say in it.

And it won't apply to everybody. Limit your drug usage. Okay? That sounds harsh, correct? I want you to recognize there's a lot of things that are drugs that we don't often call drugs. Okay? Alcohol is a drug. Sugar is a drug. Weed is a drug, obviously. But

When I say drugs, I mean limit things that alter your brain, that alter the way that you act. Now, when I talk about limiting alcohol, it gets a little bit of a harsh response, okay? A lot of people get really defensive about it. When I say these things, it's not because I'm judging anybody who drinks alcohol. I drink alcohol. I drink a lot of alcohol. It's not the devil, okay?

But alcohol is scientifically a drug that provides no value to our life other than in the moment. And even then, the further you separate yourself from it, the more you realize that even in the moment, it doesn't provide anything good. It doesn't make you a better person. It doesn't make you a kinder person. It just changes you, you know? And I think that when we constantly alter our brain and our brain chemistry and change who we are,

we get really confused on who we actually are. It gets a lot easier to be a socially anxious person. It takes away our confidence. It makes us just not want to go be in public and be around people if we're not drinking because we get so addicted to who we are when we have a buzz, when we're more confident and lighthearted and goofy and silly that we want to constantly be that.

And it doesn't guide you towards an addiction to alcohol, but it guides you through these mental issues that you can't see. Okay, so if possible, I really highly encourage everybody to take a step back from any kind of drug, but alcohol especially. Do dry January, dry February. Take a couple of months off. See how your body feels. See what you learn. I feel...

very deeply and very strongly about this one because I stopped drinking on the 4th of July. I had a horrible hangover. I'll do a whole episode on it if I haven't already and decided I wanted to do six months sober. It was so difficult and I was never somebody who I would say had an alcohol problem, but I think that even participating in drinking every weekend, if you're around friends who are constantly drinking or going out every weekend, I think that is a problem. I don't think that's healthy and

That's where everybody's walls go up, everybody's guards go up, everybody's defenses go up, but we're young, we're dumb, it's supposed to be like that. Okay, maybe. Does it make it good for you? And I was always around friends and friend groups that did kind of go out every weekend, and I was around alcohol a lot, and

I was somebody who always gave into peer pressure. And if people around me were drinking, I was going to be drinking too. And if my best friend wanted me to have a shot, I was going to have a shot. Do you get what I'm saying? It was very difficult for me to commit to doing this.

I also have really bad social anxiety. So when I would have to go out and be in these situations, because I did, I didn't just ghost myself and go isolate and never go out. I still forced myself to go out and go be social, but challenged myself not to drink. And in the beginning, it was the hardest thing ever. It's grown to be so easy. I'm so much more confident. I'm so much more carefree. I'm so much less judgmental of myself.

Because I know myself more and it's a very interesting thing to experience. And I'll talk about it more in another episode. I'm not going to talk about it too much right now, but if you can limit your alcohol usage and see how you feel, because I think that it's really going to change everything about your brain wiring and how you act and how you feel and yada, yada, yada.

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Vitamin D comes from the sun. Go sit outside. If you're stuck in a scroll, you're stuck on your phone. For all I care, bring your phone outside, but put your forehead towards the sunshine. Let it cook you. Let your body feel it. Let nature consume you. Okay? I love being outdoors because I think it feels good. I think it makes my brain feel good. But I think something that it does for my mindset that a lot of us take for granted or just don't

put into perspective is, and this one sounds very cheesy to a lot of people, but I want you to try it.

Go outside, okay? Look at the ants, look at the birds, look at the wind in the trees and the leaves, look at the little dew drops on the grass, look at the weeds that turn into flowers that grow from the grass. Granted, I live in a warm place most of the year, but anywhere, go outside and look at the snow. Watch the tree branches fall, watch them crack and get brittle, and watch the little animals that hide in the snow or flurry or I don't know, okay? I can't give proper examples because I don't live there.

But go make yourself feel small. Okay. It's really important for us to sometimes take a zoom out. I kind of like imagine myself that I'm a drone and I zoom out and I realize how big the world really is and how none of this stuff matters. A lot of this stuff doesn't matter and it won't matter in a week. It won't matter in a year. It definitely won't matter in 10 years. Okay. When we, when we make ourselves small and we zoom out and see the big picture, you just realize that

that there's more to life than whatever you're worried about in your head right now. That's important. And I think that going outside really, really helps you recognize that. Okay? The next one, she's common sense. You're going to hate it. Grain of salt, grain of salt. Stop your scrolling. You are addicted to your phone. I'm addicted to my phone. Everybody in this world is addicted to our phones and it's none of our faults. Okay?

It's the big people's fault. It's the corporations that feed off of our addiction to make money. It's disgusting. It's not because of you. These apps are created to make you feel addicted, which is why it takes so much work to not be addicted to them. But put it down, okay?

focus on it this year. Not only because it's addicting, but because comparison is gonna kill you. It doesn't matter what you do. It doesn't matter who you are. We're all on different walks of life. We're all in different chapters of life. The more you consume other people's lives, the more you're gonna think that you were made for a different chapter of life or a different path of life, a different walk of life. But the less time you spend consuming other people's walks of lives, life, the more you'll be able to appreciate your own. That's not to say I don't think social media is beautiful. I'm an influencer for Pete's sake.

I love to share my life. I love to show you the beautiful things in my life. And I love to consume the beautiful things in other people's lives. It's not their faults. Their life is making me go crazy. But in moderation, moderation is key. Okay. Let Instagram, let TikTok, let Pinterest, let these be sources of inspiration for you. The second that they go from inspiration to judgment, to self-doubt, put it down.

Get off the phone and get the heck outside. That's what I'm talking about. Okay. Again, a lot of these are basic. A lot of these are common sense, but we're setting the foundation. We're covering the basics before we do anything else. The next one, detach. Okay. Detach from things that you are hanging onto by the tiniest threat. Things that are no longer serving any purpose to you. These things look different in everybody's life.

Maybe that's a career that is literally killing you or a friendship that is draining every bit of energy from you, a relationship that is hurting you, a horrible situation that you are just holding onto from years and years and years ago. Let it go. Some things you have to detach from because the second that you detach from them, the lighter that you will feel. And I think that detaching from things is so hard for a lot of us, for all of us.

Because we feel like these scenarios, these friendships, these relationships, they define us. We feel that we wouldn't be us if it weren't for them. But listen to me. You have so much more life to live. You have so many more things to do, so many more scenarios to create, friendships to make, relationships to grow. Don't hang on to the ones that are dragging you down. Okay? Seriously. Do the work in those friendships and those relationships first. You know, make sure you're not the reason that they're dragging you down.

okay check yourself evaluate who you are how do you act what kind of friend are you what kind of girlfriend partner boyfriend whoever's listening to this like what kind of partner are you what kind of person are you do you burn bridges do you blame other people just think about those things okay remember that you're not perfect but if you've evaluated all of these you've done everything that you can to make these better you've been the best person that you can be let them go

sometimes you have to separate from people you have to drift from people for both of you to heal and for both of you to become the people that you're meant to be so detach from it easier said than done of course but try work on it the heart of the best things in life are not the easiest things in life it's tough out here but you have to you have to fight you have to try you have to keep going okay next this one's very important i wrote it in all caps go give back okay

Go get involved in your community. God gave us all a freaking gift, a gift that can change the world, a gift that looks different in every single person. But go give back because when you give back, it's another way of realizing the world is bigger than you. There's more to this life than making it perfect for you. Okay. But also giving back, it changes people's lives and it not only changes people's lives, it changes your life.

The love that you gain, the way that you grow, the different perspective that you gain when you go get involved in your community and you volunteer, however that may be, whether it's picking up trash on the beach. I love doing things like that. I think that helping the environment is incredibly amazing. But I think to receive the full effects of what I'm talking about here is go do something with something living. Okay? Of course, the earth is living, but...

with people, with animals, mostly with people. Go build a community outside of your circle that you have, okay? Go volunteer at a daycare. Go volunteer at a senior citizen home, a nursing home, a hospice place, a animal shelter. There are so many different things that you can do. Think about what interests you, okay? And then think about how you could help other people with that interest.

Call your local places. Google where you can volunteer. There's so many things. And I really want you to do that this year because it will change your life and it will change the world. If one more person volunteers every single day and keeps up with it, the world is going to change. We're all going to be better people. And I know you don't feel like it will, but it can.

Be the change you wish to see in the world. And recognize that the second you stop making every single thing about you, you see the world a whole lot differently. You know, I think that New Year's resolutions are so much about me, this, do that, do this, I'm going to be the best version of me. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I want to be the best version of me. Heck yeah, I do. I want to evolve, I want to grow, I want to be better. But I think the first step in doing that is simply realizing that it's actually not all about you. There's bigger things in the world than you.

And I think I even wrote this one down. I think that when we stop making everything about us, it takes away a lot of the pressure of constantly needing to be better and constantly needing to do more because you realize that you are not the most important thing that needs to be done.

You realize that you are good enough just where you're at. You're doing amazing things. You're already a great, incredible version of yourself. And you can go pour that version of yourself into more areas of the world, into more people in the world. If you exist and you are kind, you are already impacting the world in ways that you can't even understand or grasp or imagine. You're already doing great. You don't need to constantly be doing better. You just need to go spread your love and spread your light because the world needs you.

The world needs you.

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Whether you're in school, keep doing your school. That's awesome. If you're not, pick up a new hobby. Try something new. Start a new side hustle. Okay? Learn new language. Alert your brain. Start your brain. Work your brain.

we got to keep this thing alive and healthy in the same way that our body is important our brain is most important and a way that we keep it healthy and alive and active is by continuing to turn it on continuing to have to use it don't get comfortable challenge yourself okay if you have a question get on the internet find a reliable source and read about that topic and go share the knowledge that you have with somebody else who might be curious about it always be learning something new or trying something new never

Never get comfortable and never just sit still. Well, sit still. Your body needs rest, of course. But why get comfortable when you could just keep trying new things? It's so empowering to step out of your comfort zone. The next one. This is my last one. Okay, I'm going to cut it here. Get a journal and start a scrapbook.

This life goes by way too dang fast for you not to reflect on every emotion that you feel in this upcoming year and for you to go through this whole year without documenting any of it. I know we like to believe that our memories are strong and that we don't need pictures and yada, yada, yada, live in the moment. Yes, to an extent.

But capture it. Remember it. Seriously. 20 years down the line, you're not going to remember that one Christmas party that you went to if you don't take a single picture while you're there. Get your camera out. Whip your phone out. Get a scrapbook. Write about memories and capture life. Treasure life. Enjoy life because we only have one. You know, I'm so sick of people going about life getting made fun of for wanting to document everything, wanting to capture everything, wanting to always take a video of something.

I've never once regretted having those things. Ever, ever, ever, ever, ever. Document your life, okay? Document memories that you make with your family. That's another one that I meant to talk about and I must have skipped over it, but hug your family. If your family's around, give them the love that they deserve, okay? I don't care how difficult they are. Family is forever, but it's not forever. One day, we won't have our parents, our grandparents, our siblings to talk to, to be around, okay?

And we hear all these things. We hear all these things from older people in our lives, from, you know, grandparents. And we don't listen to them. But listen to them. They've lived a whole lot of life for us to listen to. And I used to ignore all of it. Dang, like three years ago, I ignored all of it. I think it wasn't until this year that I learned to appreciate the little things in life. And it goes a long, long, long, long, long way. And people will give you a hard time for it.

People will give you a hard time for wanting to go watch the wind and the leaves blow or wanting to just listen to a voicemail from your grandparents or wanting to call them or wanting to document the meal that you made or the dinner that you're having with your partner or wanting to take a Polaroid picture before you go on a first date. Like, let people make fun of you because you will never regret the things that you have and the appreciation that you've gained for the world. There is nothing that can top gratitude and appreciation

and love for exactly where you're at, because this is where you're meant to be. You might as well enjoy it. God wouldn't put you here if you weren't meant to be here. I love you guys. I'm so grateful for you. And I can't believe we've been doing this podcast together for so long and I can't wait to grow it and evolve. And I hope that you keep listening and you keep tuning in. And I hope we keep learning to love our lives together and just appreciate it all because God is good and the world is big and we are part of a big change.

I love you so, so, so, so, so much. May this year be the most beautiful and blessed of them all. And I'll talk to you next Wednesday. Thanks for listening to the Moments Podcast. Don't forget, you could find me on TikTok, on Instagram, at Lexa Dalgo. I'll be here every week. Bye now.

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