Thoughts on being a better person from an imperfect person
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Hello, my beautiful people, and welcome back to the Moments Podcast. I'm your host, Lexi Hidalgo, and thank you so much for being here. I've been ready to record this episode for the last hour, so I've been getting really excited to record it, honestly, and I think that it's going to be a very good episode. What we're going to be talking about is essentially how to be a better person. Not how to be a better person from somebody who thinks they are the world's greatest human being. Absolutely not. Couldn't be further from it. Point is...

I am also a human who is just constantly making...

an effort to be a better person. I think that's the kind of person that I've tried to be for as long as I could possibly remember. I think that every day we can all be better. The better that we are, the better that the world can be and the kinder that people can be, the happier that we can be, the happier that other people can be. You get the idea, you get the cycle. I want everybody to feel good, do good, and just find a way to enjoy their own lives and be at peace in their head and in their mind and in their heart and in their body and

All of the things. So that's what we're going to talk about today. First off, a little announcement. I'm trying to create a little bit more structure in these episodes, and this is the year of the podcast, so that's why we're doing these announcements in the beginning of the episodes. Yay, I'm excited. But...

The announcement might be bad news to some people, might be good news to other people. Instead of dropping an episode every week from this point moving forward, the new goal is to drop an episode every two weeks. I think that with podcasts, since they are such a large amount of time, you know, each of these episodes are 30 to 40 minutes of...

Hopefully, information and knowledge or advice that is valuable to your life. That's the goal of the Moments Podcast, is to be valuable and not just a waste of your time to listen to. I think that pouring into each episode a little bit more and giving them structure and depth and research and knowledge and a proper outline...

will be a lot better and a lot more beneficial to both me and you. I don't want to waste time recording things that aren't actually helping people and I think that was just a decision that I had to make because I also never want this podcast to feel like it's a chore. It is genuinely my baby. It is my favorite thing in the whole wide world and I want to see it grow and blossom into a million more things and I want to reach people and talk to people and spread a positive message and

It's hard to want to do that when it does feel like a chore. So moral of the story, I'll see you every two weeks with episodes that are full of well thought out messaging and advice that I can share with whoever's willing to listen.

And I hope that you guys love it. And I hope that that's okay. I think that it will be better in the long run than worse. And you know, one week versus two weeks is not that much time. Time flies when you're having fun. You know what they say. So let's just get into the episode.

I wrote down 10 different things, okay? Each of these 10 things are kind of umbrellas, and then within the 10, there will be little mini things, and we're just going to talk through them. By no means are any of these things that I am very good at, but they are things that I am daily working towards. I think that if you are on a mission to be a better person, you're already looking in the right direction. I think that there's a lot of people who are

genuinely not good people and they know it and they're okay with not being good people and they have no problem with being a bad person. If that is you, maybe this isn't the episode for you or maybe it is even more the episode for you. Number one, learning to be self-aware. I think that being a good person, you have to know who you are at your core. You have to be able to

pay attention to the little things. I think that self-awareness is a incredible quality and a very important trait that if you find and come across people who have that, keep those people close because

Self-awareness is so lost by so many people. They just don't have it at all. The things that they say about others, to others, the way that they act around others is so selfish in the sense that they don't think about how what they are saying could make somebody feel, how what they are doing could make somebody feel. And it's so unintentional. It's not like people who lack self-awareness are just these horrible, mean, evil beings.

There are people who don't know that they are maybe in certain situations being mean human beings. Do you know what I mean? The way to become more self-aware, there's a bunch of different ways that you can do it, but one way that I like to do it, and when I first was trying to become more self-aware about the person that I am, is to reflect on different patterns that you have. You know, if you are...

Facing similar behavioral issues, if you're getting really angry at a certain time of month, start to acknowledge that. Start to take note of it. Start to track that pattern. Okay, usually the week before my period, I'm really mean.

people that are close to me in my life and I can't pinpoint why and I don't seem to have control over it and then it makes me feel really guilty. Notice those patterns, okay? Notice how you handle different emotions and big feelings. When you're extremely sad, some people when they're sad they don't just isolate and cry, they like laugh and they just push themselves away from people that they love and they

shake it off and they start pouring into things and overcompensating instead of just allowing themselves to feel their emotions. So acknowledge what kind of person you are in those different situations. Who are you when you're sad? Who are you when you're angry? Who are you when you're irritable? Who are you when you're happy? Because a lot of people, when they're so confident in themselves, they're

have this ability to tear other people down without really realizing it. So the first step in self-awareness is to just pay attention to those patterns, okay? And also...

start to acknowledge the person that you are and the way that you behave when you are facing big emotions or big feelings. And on that same note, pay attention to how people feel when they are around you when you are in those situations. For me, I know that when I'm cranky, when I'm struggling a lot mentally, it's kind of hard for people to be close to me because I'm not a pleasant ball of joy to be around.

I don't think that means that those people should never be around me, but it's something that I should acknowledge and I should be aware of because that's going to teach me how to properly learn to apologize, how to start to change those behaviors, even if it takes time, you know? Another note of the same wing, you have to kind of notice those patterns, notice how you make people feel, notice who you are, and then accept the flaws that you have. Nobody is perfect, right?

No, no singular person out there is a happy-go-lucky ball of sunshine 24-7. Sometimes we think that we are. Sometimes we only show people that we are. But the reality of it is that you are a human being. You are going to have bad days. You're going to have horrible months. Life is going to hit you like a truck and things aren't going to always be sunshine and rainbows. So...

Accept the person that you are in those moments of darkness. Okay, that doesn't mean allow for your behavior to be absurd. But know that you cannot change who you are or the way that you act or the way that you behave until you've accepted that that's the way that you are. There's an expression like the first step to fixing a problem is admitting you have a problem. Something along those lines. Recognize the person that you are when you're at your worst and

Give her love, give her grace, and then slowly work with her to change those behaviors. But know that it's not going to be perfect. And I think that it's also very important in the process of self-awareness to...

Not be afraid to talk about these things that you feel and that you experience. I think I've learned this a lot in my relationship because previously to being in a long-term relationship and now with a fiance that I'm going to spend the rest of my life with, I was able to just avoid being around people when I wasn't in these good head spaces, when I was in that time in my menstrual cycle where I literally am like a raging crazy person who's just in such a dark place mentally and I'm so overwhelmed. I used to be able to just

Go do my own thing in those moments. But when you have somebody who's your life partner, you have to show them the parts of yourself that you even hide from yourself. Do you know what I mean? So don't expect your partner to just experience these behaviors or these moments or these episodes of sadness that you feel and hate.

not know what to do with them. Be vocal as you're recognizing these patterns. Talk about what's happening inside of you. Talk about these feelings. And in the beginning of Gabe and I dating, when I, let me just tell you, when I kind of have my worst moments of the month are when I'm about to get my period and every little thing just gets on my nerves, not in an irritable way, in a sad way. Like I am immediately, I'm

and overwhelmed and I feel like the walls are caving in on my life. And I just get a little bit irritable to everybody around me. And I would just be like that to Gabe. I would give him that attitude. I would give him that moodiness. And...

When I say I'm like a crazy person, I don't mean I'm actually a crazy person. I'm just a girl with emotions and I don't even want to talk about emotions or feelings in that way. It sometimes just helps set the scene a little bit better, but we're working on being kinder to ourselves. Anyways, I would just be so moody, but it is so much easier for you and your partner to get through those moments when you explain to them like, hey, I

I actually am not, I don't hate you. I'm not trying to be mad at you. I'm just very sad internally and I'm very anxious internally. And the way that that shows up on the surface is through silence and

arguments and irritability, but that's not what it is deep down. And I think that when you can be vulnerable with people and you can tell them what you're really feeling without just trying to block it and let them only see what's on the surface, that person is going to be able to be there for you a little bit differently, a little bit better. They're going to learn about you more. And I think it just makes the ship smooth sailor. When you are honest about what

what it is that you're feeling, you know, so be vulnerable, be vocal. And the last thing in this first one is to just give yourself reminders to be mindful. You know, it's really easy for you to

And me to listen to this podcast or a podcast that reminds you all of these things in different ways that we can be better people. But then we go on with our day and we just lose sight of it because we get so distracted. It's the same thing for me with my Bible, with my faith. I read my Bible in the morning and I close it and I'm ready to go walk in the world and pick up my cross and be obedient and be an incredible person like Jesus forever.

Then, you know, you get one too many red lights and you forget what you even read in your Bible because you get so sucked into the world. And I think that that's why we have to set these moments where we can remind ourselves to come back to center, to evaluate who we're being, why we're acting the way that we're acting, and how to better move forward. The next one. Number two is to be more empathetic.

Essentially, this means allow yourself to put yourself in other people's shoes a little bit better. And I think that ways that you can do this is to be a more active listener. I think that being an active listener goes a very long way. And most of the time when we aren't being active listeners, it's not on purpose. It's another one of those subconscious behaviors that we have because we live in a very...

I don't want to say a selfish world, but the world has kind of taught us to be selfish. The world has kind of taught us that we have to be fast, quick, loud. We have to reply. We have to defend ourselves. We have to stand up. We have to always just be power hungry. That's totally the wrong term, but just you get what I mean. So oftentimes when we're listening to people talk, we're not actually listening to them and we're rather waiting for our turn to speak. Now you can try to sit here and say that you've never done this before.

But that would be a lie because like I said, it's often subconscious and having self-awareness is important. So accept that maybe you've done this, maybe you do this and try to make an effort towards it every single day. Be a good listener because think about how much you value in your life when you're going through something and you just want to talk to somebody and you're

you talk to them and you know that they are 100% there in the conversation, wanting to help you, wanting to understand your side of the story or whatever it may be. Versus when you're trying to talk to somebody about something that's very important to you, maybe something that's weighing on you, or maybe something that you're really excited or proud about. And the person that you're talking to simply isn't paying attention. You know that there may be in their own world. And a lot of times this is out of people's control. You can't blame other people for this, but

Be the person who is the better listener, who can make people feel safe and excited to talk to you and just be there for people. You know what I mean? And the last thing on this box is to understand that you have not lived other people's circumstances. This is so beyond important. It's really easy to maybe look at somebody's struggles and

from an outsider perspective who has lived none of their struggles and be like, well, if I had to do that, it wouldn't be that bad. I would just do this, this, this, and that, and I'd be fine. Or that person's being dramatic or it's, they don't have to like, look at it like that. If you haven't lived what that other person is living. And even if you have, you haven't lived it exactly the way that they have. Allow people to feel what they need to feel.

Allow people to experience what they need to experience. Know that just because you don't think it would be a big deal to you if you had to go through that, it doesn't mean it's not a big deal to them. And it doesn't mean you can make somebody feel like their feelings aren't validated. Because think about how it feels or how it would feel if somebody did that to you. I think that

The biggest way to know how to be a better person is to simply treat people how you want to be treated. And this is a really fun little sidebar, but my best friend's dad...

One time said, don't treat people the way that you want to be treated. Treat people the way that they want to be treated because every single person is different and how one person feels loved or heard or understood is completely different than how another person might feel that. And I just think that's pretty cool because it is interesting. You know, think about the person that it is that you're interacting with.

If you know them well, think about how they feel the most loved or seen and be that person. Treat them the way that they want to be treated. And then if you don't know how people want to be treated, treat them how you want to be treated. But that was such a sidebar. I just want you to not judge other people's hurt because hurt people hurt people. Don't judge somebody's circumstances if you haven't lived them.

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Moving on from that one. The third one, very cliche, but so deeply important. Be kind to everybody. Everybody. I don't care if they look different than you, if they act different than you, if maybe they make you cringe or they're annoying or you they were mean in high school or they were mean in middle school or they were just like too popular for you or they did things that you don't do. I don't care what it is.

Be kind to everybody. This is something that I think every single individual needs to work on. We all have been in rooms where we've talked down about people and again, you can't say that you've never done that in your life. I applaud you if you haven't, but I also think you're maybe not telling the truth to yourself if you say that. I have made a really big conscious effort in my life in the last few years to leave a room if somebody's being talked down about for no particular reason.

Because I experienced it a lot when I was living somewhere else right after college. And it just made me sick to my stomach. I mean, I had never really been around that in middle school or high school where you just were around people who talk bad about people for no apparent reason. Take and think about little things when it comes to being kind to everybody. I say this one all the time. Wave to people. Smile at people. Be the stranger that makes somebody's day.

It goes such a long way. It is genuinely a ripple effect. It's not cliche. It's not stupid. It's not cheesy. If you make somebody else's day by doing something so small, like smiling at them, like telling them their hair looks beautiful or their outfit is cute, you are going to light up their day and they are going to take that, hopefully, and go spread it to somebody else. Or even if they don't take it and spread it to somebody else, you might have turned their day around in a way that you can't comprehend.

Okay, one thing I like to think about, imagine some lady just got a haircut and her husband didn't compliment it and she was feeling really upset that her husband didn't notice that she got this haircut. You're at the grocery store, you're behind her in line, you notice how cute her hair looks and you tell her that her hair looks amazing. You just changed everything for her. And I know that you might not think it will, but again, put yourself in that person's shoes. That would light up your day, wouldn't it?

So don't underestimate the power of doing the little things and just being a little bubbly stranger that smiles at everybody, okay? Who cares? It's a wonderful way to be. The next thing, give without expecting anything in return. I put this under the be kind to everybody thing because I think a lot of times we...

do give and hope that something will be returned, will be like, "Okay, well, since I blessed this person, karma is gonna bless me. God's gonna bless me with something else." Don't think like that. It's not as... It's honestly not as fulfilling to give and want something back. You will notice that your life feels a lot better and you feel a lot happier when you give without wanting something back, when the giving is what you're getting back. Do you know what I mean? I hope that made sense.

Moving on. Speaking of, volunteer. Give back to the community. I think that this is a huge thing that really has made me feel like a much better person on the inside out. I think I spent a lot of time constantly chasing what I wanted, okay? Whether that be money, success, reach, growth. It was always me, me, me. That never meant I was just being some horrible person, but I didn't have the desire to just

Go outreach physically. And the second that I did, I started volunteering at the animal shelter. It just makes you want to do more. Doing one little bit of good in the world will make you want to change the world. Seriously. So go find something that you enjoy and go do it. Okay? Maybe that's going to a food bank. Maybe that's going to the animal shelter. Maybe that's going to a daycare. A...

nursing home. There's so many different places you could be a part of something that's bigger than you, that isn't about you, that you can also have a passion for and share in whatever way that you want.

But it's just a way to do good in the world. And I think that it feels really good. And I think that it will just help you in every single way. And there's a reason that I say this in almost every episode now, because I can feel the difference in myself when I'm out volunteering versus when I'm not. It's really easy to get caught up in what you want or what you're chasing or what you're pursuing. But when you take a step back from that, you just kind of see life differently. And I really do mean that. The next one.

goes along with this. Show deep gratitude and practice appreciation. When you are exploding and so full of appreciation for the life that you have and gratitude for the things that you get to experience and the breath that's in your lungs, you don't have time or space or room in your mind to be envious of what other people have and you don't.

appreciation and envy when you have appreciation at its fullest it's hard for them to exist at the same time I noticed this in my own life when I am not prioritizing being grateful or I'm subconsciously just not being grateful for what I have it's so easy to watch an Instagram story or a TikTok video and wish that I was doing what somebody else was doing or had what somebody else had or

Who knows what? It's so easy for me to just not acknowledge the gift that is my life, no matter what my life is, no matter how small, no matter how big it is, if I'm just constantly consuming other people's. But when you take the time to reflect on your life, when you take the time to genuinely notice yourself,

The little things that you have that are such a gift from God, the breath that you breathe, the sun in the outside, the place to go get an education, the place to work and pay money and be able to pay your bills and have a family and have friendships and have everything, have the important things.

When you pay attention to those little things, everything about the way that you see the world changes. That doesn't mean you're not going to fall into these moments of envy and jealousy. And the thing is, when you go from, you start with having envy towards other people. Envy turns into judgment and judgment turns into just negativity towards people for no reason. You know, one quote that I really, really, really love, and I've always loved this, and I want to do an episode one day just about it.

is that if you cannot clap for others, which means if you can't be happy for other people, for having what maybe you want one day, it's never going to be your turn to get it. When you live a life chasing something just because you're jealous of it or because you're envious of it or because you want it for the wrong reasons or you want it because somebody else has it, you won't get to it. And even if you do, you won't be fulfilled in it because it didn't come from you. It didn't come from God. It didn't come from the good places of your heart.

It came from darkness and anything that we build from darkness is not going to be strong enough to stand on its own. So teach yourself to be happy for other people, to be less jealous of other people by teaching yourself to appreciate the things that you do have.

I can assure you there are always going to be people who have it better than you, who have it bigger than you, who are doing all the things that you maybe thought you wanted or the things that you thought you dreamed of or traveling the world every single day and have a million gazillion dollars to do anything with and have 50 million cars or who knows what it is that they have that you want. Somebody is always going to have more than you have.

And if you're always chasing more, it will never, ever, ever, ever be enough for you. That's the truth. We've seen it happen. We've learned that countless times before. Appreciate what you do have. Love the life that you do have, the life that God gave you for a reason. And it will help you with envy, with jealousy, with this anger towards people that you don't need to have. You don't need to have that weighing on you.

You don't need to go on your phone and watch people and just be mad at them for experiencing their life and enjoying their own life. And I say that because I've done it. I've been there. I've sat on my phone and scrolled and just been angry at people for being happy because I wasn't happy and fulfilled enough in my own life. So learn to be happy for others. Learn to appreciate what you have. And it's going to make you a better person from the inside out because you're not going to go down the path of darkness. You're going to stay in the light, you know?

And to follow that one up, number six, I have make sure you're doing what you love. It's hard to be envious when you are chasing your own dreams. And this is very true. I think that when you figure out what you want, maybe you've always wanted to be a content creator. I use this example because I was once this person. I didn't wake up one day and have a successful podcast or a TikTok or an Instagram that reached

an incredible community of people. That didn't happen overnight. It took a lot of...

Stepping out of my comfort zone, stepping into scary things, embarrassing myself in front of, well, I say embarrassing, but nothing's embarrassing unless you make it embarrassing. But for me at the time, posting vulnerable moments or having vulnerable conversations or even talking about things like this isn't easy to do before you've established any base or foundation. You just kind of feel like an idiot when you do it because that's what I felt like.

But I never stopped myself from doing it. And I want everybody to know that just because you don't have the foundation yet, you don't have the base yet, you haven't grown yet, it doesn't mean you can't just do it and start with what you have. You don't have to have fancy cameras. You don't have to...

have all these different gidgets and gadgets and know how to edit perfectly or be perfect at all whatsoever. But if you have a heart that wants to chase something, you already have more of a start than most people do. And you need to pursue it. Because the more that you chase what you love, I'm not saying you have to go make it a career. I'm not saying that you have to spend eight hours a day doing a new hobby. I'm not saying that you have to

People have jobs. People have work. You can't just expect people to turn their life off their responsibilities and paying their bills to just go pursue something. I applaud the people who do that. But start where you can. Start with waking up 30 minutes earlier to, I don't know, read a video on how to start creating content or practice edit a video or practice filming something or...

Whatever it is, maybe it's making a new recipe, maybe it's making a breakfast, or it's learning to knit, or learning to shoot film. Again, the world is your freaking oyster. It can be anything. Give yourself 30 minutes. Wake up 30 minutes extra. Stay up 30 minutes late. Do it during your lunch break. Find five minutes to just start and do a little bit of something that you love. Because God will guide the rest. He will give you more time if it's something that you're meant to pursue. Or you will feel in your heart that maybe it's

Time to find a way to create more time for this passion. Okay. But when you're doing what you love, you're not going to be mad at other people for doing what they love. And it's going to make you a better person.

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taught that we have to be constantly going and things have to happen quickly and if they don't have success right away they're not worth trying or pursuing. I mean think about how much creatives are pushed down or not taken care of in the beginning stages of what they're doing because they haven't made it overnight.

It's hard and you have to have patience with anything in your life, any dark seasons, any dark times in your relationship, dark times in your faith, dark times in your career, in your financial status.

In grieving, in family issues, whatever it may be, there's going to be darkness. And you're going to have to learn to embrace that darkness without letting it make you a dark person. And that's what I mean by practicing patience. Learn to be okay with the unknown. Learn to recognize that everything happens for a reason. But sometimes when you don't know the reason, it's because you're still in the happening. You have to be able to acknowledge that and not let it change you.

the hope that's in your heart and the way that you let that radiate off of you. Don't let darkness make you dark. And also just have patience with others. I think that that makes you a better person. I think that recognizing that a lot of people who hurt you, who hurt other people, who you just feel angry towards because of the way that maybe they talk about other people, the way they treat other people, learn to recognize that those people themselves are hurt. Learn to have

Empathy for them, or sympathy, whatever the freaking word is, I'll never get it right. Learn to pray for them, and recognize that it takes work to have patience with people. It is an everyday challenge. For me, certainly, I get really angry when people are just so mean and horrible, and when people in positions of power can talk so negatively about massive groups of people.

You can try to tell people that they don't deserve what other people deserve. I feel anger towards that, especially in the political climate of the world right now. And this has nothing to do with politics, really. It goes even to the smaller scale of just watching somebody that you know talk horrible about the other person that you know and like not being able to get them to understand that you can't do that. You can't talk that way about people. You get me?

So work on it every day. Work on having peace, finding peace, enough peace within yourself that you can let that peace just hopefully radiate onto somebody else. Don't give in to anger and arguing. Just learn to sometimes be the bigger person because it's exhausting. It's exhausting to try to change somebody who's at no point willing or ready to change. The next one, be accountable and learn to apologize. This kind of goes with the one I just said.

Sometimes you're going to be right and you're going to still have to walk away and be the bigger person. Okay, but a lot of times you're literally wrong. You're wrong a lot. You're the one who causes the issues a lot. I hate to tell you, but it's the truth for all of us. You have to know that sometimes you're going to be wrong, that you're an imperfect person who is going to sometimes spark things that you don't mean to. But you don't have to be stubborn.

And apologizing goes a lot further than trying to just defend yourself. It's also a lot less exhausting and it's a lot more peaceful and life is so much better when you just admit that you're wrong sometimes and you take the big step and you say, I'm sorry. And you explain why you're sorry and you hope for forgiveness and then you actually learn from your mistake and you'd be better the next time.

And know that, you know, the next time might not be perfect again. You might be wrong again. You might start something again. Don't be stubborn. Constantly work on changing and being better. You must. Next, surround yourself with good people. We're on the last two. And by good people, I don't mean just like great friends. That too, of course. But surround yourself by people that you look at and you think to yourself, wow, that's a really good person.

They're really positive. They're really motivating. They're inspiring to be around. They speak highly about others. They are proud of people for pursuing their dreams. They have this like different kind of peace in their heart.

Be around those people. Okay, I think it's really hard to remove yourself from people who are just these Debbie Downer negative Nellies. But I hate to be the one to break this to you. If you surround yourself with people who talk crap about people for fun, who are mean to others, who are extremely unkind to themselves, who don't care about other people's feelings, and who are

confidently an unkind person or proud to be unkind, that is the person that you are going to become. If you're surrounded by five people who smoke cigarettes, you're going to be the sixth person to do it. This isn't something I'm pulling out of my butt. This is something that is true. What you surround yourself is what you become. So make an effort to surround yourself with good people and recognize that unfortunately there are certain people you're going to have to take time, take space, take distance from.

If they are making you a more unkind person or they are making you uncomfortable by how they speak about others, that is not somebody that you want to be surrounded with. You have to let them, in their own time, come to the understanding that they want to change, but you don't need to become a bad person in the process of it. I also have come to the realization that those kind of people tend to also tear you down.

in small subtle ways that you might not recognize. They maybe secretly don't support you or they're secretly tearing you down and they do it in these like little comments that you don't really feel but if you really sit with them and you really think about them you're like dang that was actually really unsupportive and it really hurt my feelings. So don't be around those kind of people. Moving on I think that you become a better person when you

leave those people alone. The last one is learn how to be humble and not just humble in the sense that if you have a million dollars, act like you have 10. That's not what I mean. I mean, let yourself be humiliated and ways that this can look like are being the one to apologize. Even when you like so badly don't want to, and you want to be stubborn and you're trying to defend yourself, apologize even when it's hard and when it's embarrassing.

Being vulnerable is in its own way humiliating because you have to just go really deep sometimes with people that you barely know or people who maybe themselves don't go deep. So you getting deep makes them feel uncomfortable in a good and safe way. I don't know. It's a hard thing to do. But don't hide behind some kind of facade. Don't try to force yourself to

to be extremely happy, extremely confident, extremely well put together, if that's not the point that you're at. Trying to keep up the facade of being that person will only make it harder for you to get to a point where you can actually be that person. You get to being that person by being real and being authentic and talking about your moments of vulnerability and allowing yourself to accept what's not working in you right now.

Because like I said in the beginning of this, you cannot change something if you haven't yet accepted it. So keep it as real as you possibly can in everything that you do in your life. Be honest with yourself, be honest with others, and just see how far it can take you and how it can change everything. I think that a really big step in becoming a better person is just

changing your mindset. And I think that taking these actions and thinking about these things is a huge step in the right direction. And I think that it's really cool to see that when you are a better person, you feel better about yourself. And when you, when you are in a dark place, you're not always the best person. And I think that that's why these two things go together. I think that working on yourself and working on who you are and how you treat people, they work as one and they make a positive impact. And I

That's my episode on hopefully how to be a better person from somebody who's daily trying to become a better person. I love you guys so much. Each and every one of you guys are my whole life. My whole life. I will maybe see you next week, but maybe in two weeks. I'll put in the description whatever the final answer is going to be. But I am so grateful for you guys. Leave a comment on this episode. Leave a rating. Whatever you guys want to hear me talk about, I would be happy to talk about. Ask your deep questions.

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