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What up, y'all? It's your girl, Jess Hilarious. And oh shit, we back on the air. Welcome back to another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl, Jess Hilarious. I be fixing Macedona. And I was going to think of something different to do for this season.
But I like what I'm doing. And that's just what it is. I really love giving people advice. I love being able to help and hearing people's stories. And, you know, because a lot of it I've been through, a lot of it I've known people who's gone through it and stuff like that. So I love to relate to you guys and to be able to give you advice based off of my experience and what I know and things like that. So just keep on sending your stories. I would love if y'all send voice notes. Like, I mean...
I get that y'all don't want nobody to recognize y'all little dirty-ass voices, but still, like, come on. Y'all can't write half the time. And I'm not trying to scare y'all away. I mean, sorry. But I really, really want y'all to include punctuation, periods, commas, apostrophes, dashes, forward slashes, backward slashes, you know, so it's not a big, long, run-on-ass sentence. Because some of y'all be having really good stories, but if I can't read it, I'm not going to try to use it.
y'all be stressing me the fuck out but i have my producer here in the studio today taylor she's going to read yeah this is the same girl who was like yeah so we in our show it's not her show girl it's mine i just wanted to make that clear because child she be she be she sometimes she get a little buff herself so say hi first taylor and then you can read the first story hey y'all what's up
Go away, yo. Hi, I would like to remain anonymous, but I'm a 24-year-old female dating a 30-year-old. We have been together on and off since I was 18. Recently, we have been back together for a couple months and have been communicating better than ever.
I'm kind of a freaky person sexually, and my man does not seem to be one. So one day I had the idea to ask him to show me the kind of porn he watches. And well, let's say there is a reason you shouldn't ask questions you don't want the answer to.
None of these bitches look anything like me. My initial reaction was hurt, and now I'm left with just confusion and questions, but I feel like I can't bring it up. I understand that all men have many types of women they like. It just made me feel insecure not knowing if he really is attracted to me or if I'm his type. Based off of porn.
What? I think she is digging. I think you're digging a little bit too much. I get it. So you're a freak. He's not. Okay. Well, you're a freak in the sheets and he's not. Okay. How long they been together since they were 18? But she's now what? 24. Oh, 24. Oh, they been together for six years? Mm-hmm.
Oh, so he's been hitting that for six years, basically. I just want to know when she realized that he wasn't freaky because it can't. You've been with him six years. I know that.
You haven't been sexually unsatisfied for six whole fucking years. And when you was 18, you know, when you 18, when y'all first started fucking, like, that's when you're exploring and you're like, okay, all right, cool. You know, you ain't really, like, break out the box, but you been trying out shit. Now that you are 24, I bet there's more you want to try and then you probably got it popping with the toys and stuff. I'm sure you have a toy and all that. But you're going through his, um...
his porn history trying to see if that like if that is any indication that you're not his type I wouldn't really go that far I would sit and have a conversation with him but you don't want him to know you went through his phone and um but when you were going through his phone right and I don't know if it's his laptop because you didn't specify that but if it most no most niggas watch oh wait I thought she said she went through his phone she asked him um what kind of porn he showed her
Oh, and he showed her. Willingly. And so you said you don't want to ask him about it? Like he willingly told you, so willingly ask him. Is it something that I fall off to you? Are you attracted to those type of girls? Because listen, let me tell you something. I've learned this from experience. Men, they say a lot of men will preach that natural shit. Oh, I want my girl to be natural. I like this. I like that. But they will fantasize about...
bitches that went on and laid on the table, like, and had a BBL, and so on and so forth. You get what I'm saying? So, that's possible because my ex-boyfriend will always cheat on me with big, big, big booty bitches, like, strippers, like, who are built...
you know, voluptuously. And they're very curvy and big titties, big asses, wide hips. You know, a lot of them had work done. A lot of them were just, like, naturally put together like that. You get what I'm saying? But I was always on the petite side. Like, you know, I've always had, like, a little bubble butt. You get what I'm saying? Listen, at first, my little hips was like Gina from Martin. Straight up and down. I had a chest like Trey Songz. None. You know what I'm saying? But...
I've always been small. So even when I got my boob job, when I got my fat transfer, which is now called a BBL, you know what I'm saying? I still was relatively small because that's just what it is. I don't want to have the fattest ass in the world or I don't want it to look like I want to go get surgery. And that's why it doesn't. You get what I'm saying? But what he wanted was me, but he still had those things.
I don't know. Like, what is it? Like, those cravings just for another bitch? They never settle down and marry them type of bitches that they fantasize about. You know what I'm saying? Like, I don't really know how to put it. You're attracted to one thing. Like, you like to have fun with that. You know what I'm saying? But that's not who you're going to marry at the end of the day. That's not who you want to have your kids. That's why I'm telling you from experience, I wouldn't go off of what he like in his porn site. And then you didn't even describe yourself. I don't know if you're scared or not, but I don't... You know what I'm saying? But...
This man been with you for six years. Don't you think he would have left you if that's what he wants? All the bitches in the porn? They've been on and off. So we don't know why they've been breaking up. I missed all the clues. So they were on and off? They were on and off for six years. She said that they've been communicating better. And then she just went to ask him that.
So if she doesn't feel like she could tell how she really feels, so it's like this kept to herself, I guess. Because she doesn't want to cause an argument. But no, but no, you cannot be scared. You don't want to cause an argument. If y'all supposed to be communicating better, that's a part of communication, being honest about your feelings and how you feel. Because you're going to drive yourself crazy. Like...
You know what I'm saying? Like, you're going to drive yourself crazy. Porn history is not the way to compare yourself to something. Like, it's not. Like, do you see what these women are doing? And then, like, he not really fucking these bitches. This is just to get him stimulated, you know? And that's why I want to know, was he a freak before? You know, if he was never freaky deaky...
then that's just the person he is, you know? And if you're not happy with that, then you need to either try to upgrade that or move on if that's, if sex plays a big part in your relationship for you, you know, to that degree. But,
If he was freaky before and then just calm the fuck down, that's something for you to get to the bottom of. Like, all right, what's up? Why do I feel like you're not as attracted to me anymore sexually? That's literally just the question. You don't even have to take it to the porn, you know, unless you feel like there's a way in the conversation down the line that you can slip that in there. Like, well, you know, you did show me.
your porn history. None of them girls look like me. But I think it's kind of weird that you really want some of them bitches to look like you. Like, that's crazy. Because I would...
Yeah, it's porn. It's for imagination. It's for, you know, I don't know. Yeah, so I think that you should definitely keep that line of communication open and be honest since y'all were on and off for six years. And now that you're 24, which is still young, but you have to know this person inside and out. I mean, six years ain't a little bit of time. So if y'all can grow apart or y'all gonna like strengthen y'all bond and be able to talk about
difficult conversations like this because baby you ain't saying nothing yet because shit gets difficult in relationships you know and especially merges so get iron all these kinks right now and talk to him about it and then update me and let me know a little bit damn all right so no because she talking like she got a little ass shit
Them little butts be mattering. They be throwing it back. He said little butt. Hold up, hold up. I know this shit getting good, but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. All right, so we have another one. I met my current boyfriend in college. We were 18 and good friends.
Even though we had feelings for each other, finally he asked me to be his girlfriend when I was 23 and he was 24. We are now 26 and 27. For the first two years, I constantly caught him talking to girls on social media, taking them out on dates. It's basically pretending he was single, even though we lived together and he came home every night.
I'm always checking his phone, watching him flirt, looking up OnlyFans, etc. On top of that, his best friend is a girl who is extremely gorgeous, and they seem to have so much more in common. I've always felt that maybe she friendzoned him in college, and maybe he settled for me. Even though she has done a lot to try to be my friend too, my pride makes it hard. Fast forward, I let my crazy self get pregnant, and now we have an 8-month-old.
My entire pregnancy and even now, he was great and attentive. But I still occasionally see him flirting online. He's a great father and brought us a beautiful home and now says he wants to marry me. Even though we have talked about the past plenty of times, he says he was immature, selfish, and just plain horny. Sometimes a part of me will always wonder if he is not satisfied and will continue to cheat. By the way, he says social media doesn't count.
Are all men like this? Do I try to keep building my family or do I walk away? Please, please offer advice. I promise I can take it. I've made too many rash decisions in life and now I just want to make the right choice for my son and I. Well, it's about time that you want to make great decisions now because baby, for the first couple years, you have built a case against this man. Why are you sitting back watching him do every fucking thing, commit all these relationship crimes now?
God damn. Like you sat and watched him flirt. You sat and while you sat back and watch this and watch that and watch that never gave him any real consequence. So of course, of course,
Now, I'm not saying he don't love you, but he loved his freedom as well, because look, he'd obviously do what the fuck he want to do. Now, he had to grow up, which I don't know if the baby had a lot to do with that or you sticking around and him seeing like, oh, no, she's stuck with me through all of this. And a lot of shit you probably don't even know because you told me what you do know. But imagine what you don't. You get what I'm saying? And.
You haven't been happy all this time. Yes, you're kudos for him for being super attentive and loving and passionate while you're pregnant. That's the least he could have fucking done after cheating on you up until this time, probably during this time. But he just knew how to clean it up a little bit better while you were pregnant because you needed extra attention. Every woman needs that extra attention from her man when she's with child. You get what I'm saying? Now you gave birth. Y'all have an eight month old baby girl.
Absolutely. You motherfucking right. You know what I mean? Like, I know you can take it. You told me you can take it. You need the advice. Now he's telling me he wants to marry you. And first of all, I don't like what he said. Social media don't count. Excuse me? Why the fuck doesn't it? Social media. Do you realize that social media makes people so much more accessible now than ever before?
Remember, like, yo, you can DM a fucking celebrity and it's a 100% chance that they'll see it. It's not a 100% chance that they'll respond, but they can see it. If you can get to your favorite rapper in a fucking DM and get fucked on a Tuesday night, you know, and ran out on on a fucking Wednesday. I never did that. I just, you know, I know it sounds very personal, but I'm just saying, if you can do that, if you can like jump in somebody fucking DM,
And be responded to and be seen. What the fuck makes him think social media don't matter? It don't count.
Yes, it does. You flirt openly. And when you're flirting and you know you're in a relationship and you're like openly communicating with other women and flirting and shit, you looking for something to come back. Because if somebody asks you, if you flirt a little bit too much, somebody asks you to see them, what the fuck are you going to be like? No, I just do this for fun. Um, no, you're going to meet up with a bitch after some point in time of y'all flirting online. Because don't nobody just flirt for fun.
I ain't gonna lie, I do sometimes. But nobody just flirts for fun besides me. So, no, for real, yo, I'm telling you.
Not precise. For real, because sometimes, you know, I just be like... Everyone flirts. Yeah, everyone flirts. But like... It's a different level. But with men, I don't know. I don't know. Because if you give them... If you give a man a little bit too much attention, he's going to take you up on an offer or he's going to offer you something. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And...
you know, it's just a bunch of different type of women on social media. We got the thirsty bitches, you know, the bitches that set niggas up, the bitches who know that these men not sometimes I'd assume maybe in a relationship and they don't give a fuck. We got, listen, this is the days and times of I'm okay with being a side bitch. It's okay. You know what I'm saying? I've never seen so many women okay with being a side piece.
You know, that means no attachment. The nigga can't tell them what to do too much. They'll, they get, they reap the benefits. Like it's like they promoted these days. Like it's more beneficial to be a side bitch than to be a main bitch. You get what I'm saying? Not calling you a bitch, but I just don't know your name. So that's the thing.
You have a now eight-month-old. It's really, really not too late. I know how you could probably feel like, oh my God, it's too late. I already got a baby by him. I'm supposed to marry him. Don't feel like that either. It's okay. You have a beautiful son. And did she say that he was a good dad? Yeah, he's a great dad. I could see if he was a deadbeat, you know, then it'll be like,
Okay, you know, but it's easier that you guys can co-parent. Or he brought her home, too. Oh, he bought them a home. Okay, you know, take it back. The fuck? Like, if you're not, none of this shit is worth your sanity. If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial, and then we'll be right back.
forcing yourself to be in a relationship when you always got that in the back of your mind that he may be cheating and maybe he didn't grow up, maybe he didn't mature like he told you that he did. If you're going to live like that, I'm telling you, you're going to end up miserable and regretful. You're going to end up hating him. Resentful, like, I hate this. I hate what I've done to myself. Did she say how old she was?
She's 26 now. 26. You know, you got four years until your fourth decade of life, baby. That's when you want your 30s.
Like, but they have. I don't know. I think. What do you think? I think that she's overreacting. I don't want to say overreacting. Excuse me? But listen, because now fast forward, he brought her home like he's a good father and everything else. She is in her mind thinking like, what if he's still doing this? And then there's therapy. Yeah. But they said they talked about the past plenty of times. That's what I'm reading. Like, so y'all talking about it. So, yeah.
I don't, I think that's alive in her head. But then also, social media don't count. No, it's, he's wrong for that. And she said that he still sees, she still sees him flirt online a little bit. But it's nothing like before. Yeah, that's what, that's what I, how I read it. And then the goddamn best friend, this girl done built the case against everyone. I said, the best friend's not even a threat, she said. But she's extremely beautiful. It seems like she's a little insecure. It seems like what? She's a little insecure. Save that, don't try to like hide it.
Because she's going to hear you anyway. She seems a little insecure. Yeah. Because her even talking about the friend, like, she's really gorgeous. How come they're not together? You know what I mean? Yeah. Like, she made up a whole scenario in her head. They're not crazy questions to ask. It's a whole scenario in her head. Like, she may have curved him and put him in a friend zone in college. And then, you know what I'm saying? She's never done the wrong thing. Yeah. Because that does happen. However, that may not be their case.
Hmm. So what do you think she should do? You think she should... I mean, and he also told her he wants to marry her. He's ready to marry her. Exactly. So I don't know. Yeah. Maybe he wants to settle down and stop cheating now. That's why I said one of two things. He either knows that she ain't gonna ever leave him because of all the shit that he's done in the past and you haven't left him then because y'all ain't on and off again. Y'all been on the whole time. Or...
He did really grow up. Like, yo, shorty stuck with me through this shit. And I don't want the games no more. She gave me my first child. I want to marry her. I want a family. I'm done playing. Like, that could be the case. I mean, I still stand on what I said. If she going to sit there and be like, it's in the back of my mind, it's in the back of my mind.
insecure or not, she can't go through with no marriage or nothing because she won't end up resenting him. And he even admitted saying that he was immature, he was selfish, and he was horny. Like, he's... I was just horny as fuck. It sounds like y'all have had talks about it and he's sorry about it. A bunch of times, yeah. Yeah, so... It is one of those things where it's like, do you want to deal with it or...
And I don't know. I'm not even telling you to like let go of the past. I'm just saying. Yeah. It's one of those like you got to. I mean, you could. You could. You could let go of the past. You know what I'm saying? At some point, you have to. You can't keep living with it. Yeah, but I'm saying it's not because I feel like if I was in that situation. Don't forget, but forgive it if you're going to stay. Yeah.
But I know myself, so I will leave. And then what she, yeah, that's what I'm saying. And then what she mean flirting? What's flirting to you? Like, what is flirting to you? Because flirting can mean a bunch of different things. Like liking just the pictures. Liking pictures of big booty bitches. You know, you just had a baby eight months ago, so you probably got a little kangaroo pouch. And you know, I'm not saying you do.
I'm just saying, you know. She goes through the phone, so she don't know maybe the, because to me, liking pictures isn't a big deal to me. Yeah. But, like, in the DMs, if he's, like, actively. Yeah, or leaving comments, even. Like, heart eye emoji and shit, or heart emojis. Like, I don't know.
It's not necessarily. Yeah, it's not. But either way, I think you should update me and let me know what's going on because I don't, I'm not going to say insane.
I feel sorry for you. Cause I don't, you're not in the worst predicament ever. Like girl, I be fixing people's mess. Who niggas punching them in the eye. So, you know what? Girl, no people. People get fucking punched girl for going through niggas phones. And he just sat there and just let you go through it. You know, so you're not in the worst predicament.
You're not in the worst predicament. However, I think you need to confront yourself at the end of the day and, you know, get to the bottom of whether it is an insecurity that has developed over time with you being with him and you can't let go of the past and shit because that's where therapy comes in. Like, you got to confront that yourself.
rather than going through his phone because like this seems like a routine like she go through his phone all the time they constantly bringing up the past and they'll talk about it she'll probably get over it for a few but every time you leave the house she wondering where you going every time you're on social media she you know oh my gosh i wonder if he's looking at pictures of such and such or in his dms if you are anxious that's also the thing
Yeah, because he get, you know, do you want to be married? Do you want to be with him? Does a part of you feel like, you know, I can get past this shit? You know what I'm saying? Because if so, I just got to do that work. That's it. Like I told the first girl who sent me the story, her story, relationships are not easy. And listen, y'all, marriage is not easy either. Obviously, marriage is even harder than a relationship. So iron out your kinks.
Right now. Before you get there. Because being a wife, that's a whole duty. That is a full-time job. Now, a lot of people get caught up in what the wedding going to be like. But after all the people go home and talk about y'all and how better your wedding could have been. Bitch, y'all married now. So, prepare for the marriage and not the fucking wedding. You get what I'm saying?
But if nobody ever told y'all two ladies who sent me stories, I love y'all or they love y'all. Just know I do. And thank you for being vulnerable enough to expose your stories to me so I can give you guys advice as best as I can. And say thank you to my girl, Taylor. I know y'all, I can't hear y'all, but say thank you, Taylor. Thank y'all. No, I told them to say thank you to you. Never mind, we're going to try it again next week. It's all right. All right, y'all. I'll see y'all next week.
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