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And just like that, we're back on the air. Welcome back to yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl, Dr. Jess. I'm going to say Dr. Jess because I've just been fixing and fixing and fixing y'all mess. I've been getting some great updates. People are telling me that their situations have been getting easier. I had like a couple people say that it's still the same issue is still the same. That's where you need professional licensed help.
Okay, so I encourage everybody to go get all the help that they need. But if I am able to help you, then you can save your money. Okay, so the first story is from a guy from China. He told me that I can let you guys know that he is one of my fans from China. That makes me feel good. He did not send a voice note, but he decided to write in his story. Here we go. Hi Jess, big fan of Carefully Reckless.
I got married a few months ago. My wife was keeping a big secret from me. I noticed that she had been acting a little different after the proposal party. Okay, proposal party. I know that's right. They do it. They should. They do it different in China. They get lit up in there. I proposed to my wife because she was pregnant and we wanted to get married before the baby arrived. I found out about a disturbing secret three days before the wedding. I wonder what the hell this is.
Oh Lord, what you didn't find out. But I still wanted to go through with everything. Me and my wife have dated since school. Oh wow, that's nice. Her parents loved me so much, her mother was the one who told me about the secret. Oh damn. Come on now. We go through with the wedding. On the wedding day, on the actual wedding day, at the reception, I propose to Toast.
Telling her I love her, how beautiful she looked, and how in love I've been with her since the first day I laid eyes on her. How I'm so excited for her being with child. As everyone toasted and sipped their champagne, I played a video on the projector behind me and my wife. And the video... Oh, shit. The video was of her and my brother having sex in the bed. Oh, wow.
Not sure if you've ever heard anything like this, but it was the most humiliating moment of my life. She was embarrassed. I was embarrassed. And my brother was sitting there embarrassed as well. Everyone spat their drinks on each other. Although her mother told me about this secret, she didn't know that I had planned to show everyone at the wedding.
I posted the video on social media and it went slightly viral. What? This nigga's savage. This nigga's a savage. So now everyone hates me and it's really unfair. What should I do? Apologize to everyone? Divorce my wife? Or move to America? Psych, nah, I ain't say that last part, y'all. Or sit down and have a talk with my brother?
Okay, child, listen. I didn't know y'all was having them type of problems in China. Damn!
Not in no China. That's some Baltimore shit. God damn. That's some USA shit. I ain't just going to put that on my city. That's some USA shit. All right. All right. That just goes to show and prove that people are people everywhere, no matter where you are, no matter your skin color, no matter your nationality or ethnicity, your culture, people going to cheat and people going to have receipts and show them whatever they got to show them at. He just happened to show them at his wedding. Okay. Okay.
I have a couple questions for you though. Why would you still proceed to marry her if you saw the video before you walked down the aisle? You saw the video before your wedding day. You told me that her mother told you. So if her mother sat you down and tell her, did she give you the video or did you like, how the hell did you get the video first of all? Okay. So I'm just confused. Like I said, I have so many questions. Then why?
Are you sure that the baby is even yours? It's so many missing pieces to this puzzle. It was kind of all over the place, but I get the gist. Last question. Why would you play the video at your wedding? And you said it was the most humiliating day of your life. Well, you helped with that, honey. You didn't have to do that. You didn't have to.
Put it on display for your friends, your family, you know, even co-workers or whoever else that you invited to your wedding to see. Of course, that embarrassed her, although I'm sure her embarrassment are the least of your worries at this point. But you, you embarrassed yourself even further. Yes, you should have been at a conversation with your fucking brother as soon as your mother told on your brother, because that's what I'm thinking. I'm thinking your brother...
Might've told mom or mom may have found out and she bought it to you because she knew that you were about to marry this girl and, and, and they love her as your wife. They, you know, they loved her up until then. You know, I don't know if your dad knows, but I can tell this disappointed your mother so much that she sat down with you.
Cause there has to be a frustration. I'm about to, if I'm a, if I'm a mother and my son is about to be married to this woman that has sex with my other son and, and she's saying that she's pregnant by my son who she's about to marry, I'm going to set my son down and do the same thing. So there's no penalty on mom. Are you sure about that? Oh no, wait, her mother. Okay. Yes. All right. You said her mother told you. All right. That's, that's even worse and better.
The reason why I say worse is because damn, she didn't even go to her daughter to tell her daughter that she told you this shit. I would have went to my daughter first. I wouldn't have hit you first. I would have sat down and told you if my daughter didn't have the balls to do it, but she had the balls to sleep with your brother. And the reason why I say that's even better is because you know that the mother is
does not indulge in shit like that. And there is some type of loyalty there to you with her mother. You know what I'm saying? So I would appreciate it, but I think she should have sat down and told her daughter that shit too. And did you ever even tell her that her mother was the one to tell you or whatever? Cause I know she's thinking probably like, well, how the fuck
Did you get this video? And then who in the fuck recorded it? Because that sounded like some shit that she didn't even know was happening while she was having sex with your brother. It sounded like your brother recorded the shit and wanted to keep it for one day. I don't know. What are you and your brother's relationship like? I have so many questions for you and you're so far away. Oh my God.
I do think you need to get a DNA test on the baby. I think you need to sit down and talk to your wife. I do think that you need to tell her exactly how you feel and tell her why you still married her. Because the only reason that I'm thinking you still married her is because you foreseen that.
getting over this y'all getting past this some way somehow I don't know that's the only way that I would still be talking about I do and saying my vows and shit you know what I'm saying I guess that you've never seen best man but I know there's a Chinese version of best man you need to go watch that and you need to see because there's a part where Morris Chestnut can't even look his wife in the eye as they're saying their vows and shit is because he keeps seeing his friend who had sex with her
You know what I'm saying? And he found that out like two days before his wedding and the American, uh, best man, you know? So I, I don't know what you, I'm gonna send you the movie. If you know, send me an address. I'll send you the movie over there. If you never seen it before, but that, Oh, we got, we got YouTube. You look on YouTube or Hulu and all that shit. You know, y'all be creating everything. I know you seen fucking best man somewhere. Y'all created the damn fire stick, but, um, go ahead and watch it, you know? And, and,
But on a more serious note, seriously, babe, I wouldn't have married her. I'm just telling you my thoughts or the wedding would be pushed back. Like I can't find out something that drastic and it'd be my own brother. And then I still walk down the fucking aisle.
I don't know. Your ass might be a little sociopath. How the hell did you even gather that much strength and patience to wait to the fucking reception to do this big presentation that embarrassed you further? Now everybody hates you. I wouldn't give a fuck about nobody hating me though. This shit happened to me. You cheated on me in private. I'm gonna let everybody know in public, period. I get it. Trust me. I get it. That's why I said, I ain't know y'all did that type of shit over there. That's what the fuck we do over here. But I get it.
Check back in with me. I will be here for you and for your wife if she want to talk or whatever, you know, whoever else. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. And I can only imagine how you feel even thinking that your baby couldn't be yours or even because she's still pregnant. And so you don't know. It's so much doubt in your house.
And I don't even know if you're in the house. Just check back in with me. But you need to sit down and have a conversation with her and your brother. Not them together. Just both of them separate. And I would extend an apology to your mother-in-law. I would. Just because although she outed her daughter, you kind of outed her a little bit in a sense. Or in her opinion, as a mom, I'm thinking that her only problem is you went about it the wrong way.
of letting her know like you you put your wife on blast okay so just just extend an apology to her mother because I'm pretty sure you hurt her mother's feelings and then also you have to also think about this I'm gonna say this then I'm gonna move on just think about this factor
If that was a video of them having sex in the bed, they were naked. So you further exposed your wife to people who didn't even know what her body looked like or, you know, to someone sacred to you. Like, you know, you exposed your brother's ding-a-ling, you know what I mean? And then you exposed your wife as well. So...
check back in with me I'm not faulting you I'm not telling you that you shouldn't feel the way that you feel I just think you went about it a little sporadic um it was a that was very very reckless but this is carefully reckless you know so I'm glad that you actually brought this issue to me check in moving on hold up hold up I know this shit getting good but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial if you love me you'll listen
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This woman sends an, okay, this one is a voice recording. Your call has been forwarded to an automatic voice message system. At the tone, please record your message. A year and a half ago, I got engaged to a guy. Let me just start off by saying I'm bisexual first, first and foremost. But I got engaged to a guy. Needless to say, things did not work out. I met someone who,
down here, who is a girl. And we hit it off. Like, I met her at a job. I bartend. So I met her at my job. We've been cool. Like, you know, certain things my ex-fiance didn't do with me, she was willing to do for me. Certain places that he wouldn't take me, she would. Certain activities that, you know, I have talked to her about, she would take me to go do. We just hit it off. We became, like, my best friend. Like, she became my best friend.
So one night, we had a few, and we kind of talked about some things and how we felt about each other. I was the first one to say something to her. I felt like, you know, I didn't want it to confuse us as a friendship, but I also felt like I needed to tell her that I liked her. But again, like I said, I also told her I'm still trying to work through my feelings and
with my ex. She said that she just, she wanted to strictly just be friends, just be friends. I took that because I just wanted to be in her life at some capacity. That's it. Because she is such, such a good person. Fast forward, we still hung out. We still were with each other almost every single day.
Still went on just like many, many activities. Some people call it dates, but I guess. I mean, she was my friend and that's what she was. So I don't want to say it was a date. I work in a bar, like I said. I was at work one day. I met another female who was in the bar and she seemed really, really cool. Now, mind you, my first friend, she wanted to strictly be friends. And I was okay with that. That was cool. So...
The second girl, I thought her vibe was cool. She knew about where I was from, everything else. I gave her my number. My first friend found out and she got really, really upset, like pissed. She called me the next morning and was like, oh, like, I just feel like, you know, we're, yeah, we're just friends, but like,
You know, like I just you're just giving yourself access to people who you don't know and you don't know these people. And my thing was like, I didn't know you either. And you still got my number and we still vibed out. And I feel like maybe that's just for me to decide at the end of the day. So we stopped talking for a little bit and then she popped up at my job and she was just like, I'm sorry, I miss my friend, blah, blah, blah.
We went on this back and forth after this for weeks. It was like she would just, oh, like, I don't know if I trust you now and all this stuff. And how do I know that you're not? How do I know that you're not giving yourself to other people and all this other stuff? But my thing is you wanted to be friends. I don't see what the issue is. I really don't. Recently, I just had a birthday. I hadn't talked to her again for two weeks. We were on this big old fight. She popped up at my birthday party.
made like a grand gesture of gifts and everything else. And like, it was, it was, I appreciated it because she was my friend, but I'm just so confused. I'm so confused. Yesterday, she asked me out to dinner and I just don't know where I should go. I just need, I need another woman's opinion on this. Like, am I wrong for just feeling like I kind of want to just like separate myself from her?
Am I wrong? And I'm only asking because there are certain things that she has done in the past that it's kind of just like the pot calling the kettle black when it comes to me giving out my number. I've seen her entertain other females. I haven't said it. I've never said anything because we're friends. You know what I mean? Like I watch her with other women.
And it doesn't bother me. Like, yeah, my feelings are still here for her. Yeah, they're still there. But like I said, I just don't want I don't want my feelings for her and the feelings I just recently had for my fiance. I don't want it to just mix and mingle. I want I want to try and separate these feelings. So that's why I'm asking, like, am I wrong for separating myself? Am I wrong?
Because I do love her. I love her to death. And I do. And I want her around. But I don't know. I don't know. Okay, honey. Well, I love and appreciate that you are putting me in your business. She sounds very toxic. She does. I'm sorry. I don't.
I'm trying to figure this shit out with her because, okay, going back to the beginning, she told you that you guys were hitting it off, whatever, whatever, getting to know each other. And she told you that she wanted to be nothing more than just friends. All right. So when you say that to somebody, that's ultimately what you mean. You know, you're telling them that you don't want a relationship. You respected it. You were like, okay, fine. That's it. Right.
So then you meet someone else. You work at a bar. You're not from there. You moved from Pittsburgh to South Carolina. I understand that. And that's where you met her. Yeah, you met her. You didn't know her. You meet new people. I didn't move down here for you, bitch. I moved down here with my fiance. Shit didn't work out with him. I met you. We hit it off. It sounds to me like she a little fucking pimp, honestly. And I'm just keeping that shit real.
I'm not saying she don't love you. I'm not saying y'all don't have a connection. All I'm saying is it sounds as if
She doesn't want to be with you, but she doesn't want you to be with anybody else. She doesn't want to see you with anybody else. You've already started building whatever this is. A situation ship is what I call it. You've already started building that with her, but you weren't the only one that she was building that with because the only reason why she would say after y'all getting to know each other and she just
throws a speed bump in there. Like, look, all I want is just to be friends. I don't want to take it any further. She was probably working on something with someone else waiting for them to get their shit together. She was probably already involved with someone. Like I always tell everybody, like I always tell people, nobody just talks to no one. Somebody like if I go outside and meet a guy right now, you know, and I have a boyfriend, but if I didn't and I went to go try to date someone, you know,
They gonna have people on their phone that they're talking to. Nobody is just talking to no one. You know, I don't care. People can people. Some of y'all listeners gonna be like, oh, no, I don't talk to nobody. I don't talk to nobody. No, it's somebody. I ain't saying you got to be having sex with somebody. I'm not saying you got to be intimate with somebody. I'm not saying that you have to be going on dates with someone physically, but you are talking to somebody.
Whether it's just a hi, what you're doing, or when I'm gonna come and see you, or there is somebody, everybody got somebody that they talking to, one or more people. That's just how it goes. That's how it is.
And a lot of people these days date with the notion that it won't last. So they like to have shit in the back pocket. They like to have more than one option. They like to have options. You know, people date with options, which is not good for anybody. That shit is not good. Shit is actually, it's disloyalty at its best. Like it doesn't build loyalty at all. It doesn't build faithfulness at all. So, um,
That's what it sounds like, though. It sounds like to me that that you are making the right decision. You just need for someone to confirm it for you. Yes, you're doing the right thing. You should sever ties with her. I think you should just distance yourself. You love her to death. Yes, you want her around and all that. But she seems like a very toxic person and she seems like she's not even ready to be in a relationship. She doesn't want one. She clearly told you that. So you only have to do.
what's best for you and date around until you find what you want. You know, don't hold yourself hostage to her while she's out here playing fucking games because that's what she's doing. Talking about
how little manipulating ass talking about oh you don't know these people you don't know these people yeah what the fuck you my protector and savior i didn't know your ass and i seen you getting numbers and you weren't about me getting somebody now i work at a bar bitch i get bitches drunk and then they want me what do you expect that's it shit that's all it's in a nutshell
But you check back in with me. Yes, I do think that you need to have a conversation with her. Everything, like the first key of everything, all these stories that you guys have given me from week to week, is communication. Nobody really knows how to communicate their feelings. And it's easier to talk to somebody else about it who don't know either of you or who actually only knows you. But then that's when you get biased opinions when you talk to people who know you and who, you know, only want to see the best for you. And that's not always bad. But...
You guys need to know how to talk to the people that are that you're in these relationships with that you're going through these obstacles with learn how to talk. You know what I'm saying? I think you should talk to her and tell her exactly why you are distancing yourself because she do shit like pop up at your job and shit. She do. I'm pretty sure she know where you live. Y'all were actually getting to know each other and actually on your way to a relationship, but then she stopped it. So, um,
Be careful. Definitely. You know, she's not like a crazy little pimp, you know, but communicate that with her. Keep that line of communication open just to communicate that and then close that shit off. Okay. You don't want nothing else to do with that until she come correct. She ain't got to come at all. That's it.
And just like that, I'm going to end this episode. This has been great. Honey, we done had an Asian man put his goddamn wife on a teleprompter at the wedding, cheating on him with his brother. We got a pimping stud named Slickback trying to control this bartender's life. My name is a pimp named Slickback. We don't have time for this shit. We have to get ourselves together as a people. Whether you Asian, black or white, it don't matter. We got to get this shit together.
So I'm just letting all y'all know right now. Keep sending in your stories. I'm going to keep trying to help you. Tune in each and every Wednesday, 7 a.m. to Carefully Reckless and Reckless Discussions airs tonight at 7 p.m. only on YouTube. And then my deepest pan, boys. Peace.
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