We're sunsetting PodQuest on 2025-07-28. Thank you for your support!
Export Podcast Subscriptions
cover of episode Mirror Mirror on the Wall

Mirror Mirror on the Wall

2021/10/6
logo of podcast Carefully Reckless

Carefully Reckless

AI Deep Dive AI Chapters Transcript
People
J
Jess Hilarious
S
Shay
Topics
Jess Hilarious:本期节目讨论了身体变形障碍症 (BDD) 的问题,许多人因为社交媒体和社会压力而患上这种疾病。她们并非出于自身意愿而沉迷于整形手术,而是因为对自身容貌的极度不自信和焦虑。节目中,Jess 分享了她对 Claremont 双胞胎的观察,她们的外貌发生了巨大的变化,这让她意识到 BDD 的严重性。Jess 还谈到了许多产后母亲会选择手术来改善身材,这反映了社会对女性外貌的极高要求和她们自身的心理压力。即使她自己做过整形手术,仍然对自己的身材不满意,但她不会再次进行手术,而是尝试通过自然方法改善身材。她认为,许多整形外科医生利用人们的不安全感来赚钱,这是一种不道德的行为。最后,Jess 呼吁大家关注 BDD 患者的心理健康,并鼓励她们寻求帮助。 Shay:Shay 分享了她自身患有 BDD 的经历,她对自己的外貌有很多不满,例如眼袋、嘴唇大小不一等等,并积极寻找各种方法来改善这些“缺陷”。她认为,自己长期接触社交媒体和杂志等媒体,这些媒体塑造了不切实际的美丽标准,加剧了她的焦虑。Shay 还谈到了她因为 BDD 而花费了近 1 万美元进行整形手术,但手术却被取消了,她无法获得退款。Shay 的整形手术被取消是因为她有脑血管意外 (CVA) 的病史,这让她感到焦虑不安,也凸显了 BDD 患者在追求完美身材过程中可能面临的风险。即使知道手术风险,她仍然渴望进行手术,这体现了 BDD 的严重性。Shay 还解释了她为什么不去健身房,而是选择手术来改善身材,因为她有大量的松弛皮肤。最后,Shay 表示,她希望能够得到帮助,摆脱 BDD 的困扰。

Deep Dive

Chapters
Jess and Shay discuss the impact of social media and societal pressures on body image, leading to body dysmorphia disorder (BDD). They share personal experiences and observations about how celebrities and everyday people are affected by this mental health issue.

Shownotes Transcript

Translations:
中文

Most deals are barely worth mentioning. But then there's AT&T's best deal on the new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6 featuring FlexCam with Galaxy AI. You can get in on them when you trade in your eligible smartphone any year, any condition. It's a deal so good, you'll be shouting from

the real talk so grab a ladder and learn how to get that new phone on AT&T AT&T connecting changes everything requires trading of Galaxy S Note and Z series smartphone limited time offer 256 gigabytes for $0 additional fees terms and restrictions apply see att.com slash Samsung or visit an AT&T store for details I'm a good lawyer and I want to win I think I killed GT

She needs someone who's going to fight for her. If we don't follow the right plan, we lose. The hit series Reasonable Doubt, now streaming on Hulu. She was defending herself against a monster. Starring Emma Yatze Coronaldi. I'm the best lawyer you have ever worked with. And Morris Chestnut. I'm not gonna stop. I think I love it, love it. Never underestimate.

The power of attorney. Always bet on Jax. Reasonable Doubt. New episodes Thursdays. Streaming only on Hulu. Gear up for outdoor adventures with the 2024 Nissan Pathfinder. This midsize SUV is designed for epic journeys, offering spacious seating for eight, available

panoramic moonroof and an available intelligent four-wheel drive feature with seven drive modes to take your off-road experience to new heights. Discover the 2024 Nissan Pathfinder at nissanusa.com. Intelligent all-wheel drive cannot prevent collisions or provide enhanced traction in all conditions. Always monitor traffic and weather conditions. Towing capacity varies by configuration. See Nissan Towing Guide and Owner's Manual for additional information. Always secure cargo.

Welcome to Can't Believe Reckless, the production of iHeartRadio and The Black Effect. ♪♪

And just like that, we back on the air. Welcome to yet another episode of Carefully Reckless with your girl, Jess Hilarious. I got my sister in here again. Shay, say what up. Yo, yo, where the hoes at? Again. Like the hoes won't always come to the podcast. Listen, listen, I'm going to do story time today, although my sister is here, because this is a topic that will forever be debatable and discussed amongst us. So grab your tea, your hoes, your hot toddy, your henny, whatever you want, because it's story time.

Back in 2015, there were two girls, their sisters, Claremont twins. Y'all know them as Shannon and Sinead. They starred on the reality series BGC, Bad Girls Club, right? As y'all can see, they look nothing like they used to look. Now, they were beautiful girls to me. I swear. I mean, I, you know, they were beautiful brown skin girls. And I always make fun of them, you know, with just with the mess and all that shit. I mean, because, you know, who wouldn't? But I'm just saying.

They did not look the same. They had excellent bone structure, nice bodies, you know. But something happened to those girls where they just felt like they weren't beautiful, had to be, because they look completely different. I'm talking about in 2015 on Bad Girls Club, if that was the last time y'all ever saw them and they walked down the street today, you would not know that that is Shannon and Sinead Claremont. And that brings me to the topic of today.

body dysmorphia disorder. And I never knew that there was a name for this. My sister just brought this to my attention today, actually, you know, that this is an actual disorder that people have, because I've always said in my mind, not everybody who gets addicted to plastic surgery is doing it because they want to. They're doing it because they feel like they have to. They're doing it because there is something that they see that they don't like every time they look in the mirror.

You know, that's why I wanted to cater to it, the disorder, by doing an episode on it. And my sister actually told me that she actually suffers with

body dysmorphia disorder. I did not know that. Yes. So for those who don't know what body dysmorphia disorder is, I'm going to read this off of Google. It is a mental illness involving obsessive focus on a perceived flaw in appearance. That flaw can just be looking in the mirror and not seeing something.

something that you like. So with me looking in the mirror, of course, you already know that, you know, I lost weight. And even before I gained a whole lot of weight after having three children, I looked at myself and looked at my stomach and just like, oh my gosh, this is not,

What I'm used to. Of course, I had three kids back to back to back. Didn't give my body any rest. So that elasticity is gone. And that is normal for most mothers. If they didn't snap back the way some people did, like, you know, you snap back, you know, you look good still. Thank you.

But, you know, a lot of mothers go straight to surgery now. Nowadays, you know, they go straight to surgery. Like Cardi was even saying she didn't go and have lipo, but she was actually saying it right before she had this baby that she's laying on that table as soon as she had his baby so she can get back to work. A lot of people just don't do it the natural way anymore. They feel like, you know, there has to has to be a surgery right after the

You give birth so you can look good quicker. I mean, honestly, it might be too soon for her. That's what she was saying. It's too soon. But I know women who have done that.

Went got right off the fucking table and went to another room and got on another fucking table. I mean, if your doctors or whomever decide they want to do that, then that's up to them. Honestly, me, I don't think that may be safe because, you know, you just lost blood from having a child, you know, the placenta and all that stuff like that. If you are uncomfortable with how you look and you have body dysmorphia disorder, then that's what it drives you to do.

You know what I mean? Like there are a lot of things that I still am not happy with. Yeah, I had surgery. You know, I got I had a BBL. I had my boobs done. And there are still things that I still feel like, no, I don't have hips. I'm not as wide enough.

in my hip area as I would want to be but am I going to go back and lay on the table no I'm not because I now know there are natural ways that you can make your hips spread you know and then also I don't want to go lay down on the table again and then I get up and one of my hips is bigger than the other one I ain't trying to do that shit like that happens a lot I know what you say you say it's natural ways you can get your hips you know wide I said what fucking

Fucking is not the only way you can spread them goddamn hips out. Yo, remember the people used to say that shit like, you get hit from the back, that'll make your butt bigger. Oh, yeah.

I've been getting hit from the back for a long time and that did not make my butt bigger at all. Like seriously, it don't matter how you do it. Then I heard somebody say, if you do reverse cowgirl, that'll widen your hips. Well, shit, I don't know. Maybe I'm fucking the wrong man because I'm telling you, I don't know. Maybe they talking about a different reverse because I just, sex never did anything to enhance my body. But they say sweet potatoes.

um eating them sweet potatoes yeah potatoes rice sweet potatoes especially that can that goes yeah high in carbs which is still not healthy but i do want my damn hips you know what i'm saying other things i don't like i don't like my feet i can't stand it i i got bunions from dad yo but am i gonna get a bunion surgery no because i need to walk on stage monica had one

Monica had bunion surgery. John Sally, he's a basketball player. Well, he retired. Yeah, he had bunion surgery. He said he was down for like six months. I don't got that kind of time. Better get Desi to roll you out on that stage, Prince.

Shut up. Rolling to the stage. This is just hilarious. You make it a chair like Roland Ray. I was going to say, because you know Ray hate me, bitch. Ray would be like, yeah, how does it feel? Talking with that motherfucking tongue. We're all off topic. I know, we're off topic. Let's get back on it. Okay, so what are some other

things you don't like about yourself because I I really didn't know that you had suffered from this disorder I really didn't I know some other celebrities that have but we gonna get into that what don't you like about yourself I look in the mirror and I see that I have bags under my eyes I literally go back and I look at my pictures from being a toddler I looked at my kindergarten school pictures I'm just like damn I had bags under my eyes then so it's not like

I'm tired or whatever like that but it's just like I look at it and I'm just like damn I'm getting older so it's just like the older I get which I'm only 35 and it's not really old but I look at myself and I'm like damn I need some fillers right under my eyes so you know I go and I start looking up fillers and stuff like that and I'm just like oh do I really want to do this to myself right yes because I feel like it will make me happy but will it really make me happy right I don't know

I look in the mirror. I have full lips already. All your fucking life you've had full lips. I'm not walking around with like thin mints. But then I'm just like, oh man, my lips aren't the same size. So it's just like, like how your lips, your lips are full. You have full lips. But I feel like your lips are equally the same size top and bottom lip. And then I look at my lips and I'm like, damn, should I get the top lip plumped up a little bit? And it's just like, I look at the invasive side

where they actually stick the needle in your lip and then they also have like this hydro something kind of non-invasive filler where they, I don't know what the fuck they do. They just put something on your lip and like shock it to make it swollen or something like that. So you are really doing research on different things to perfect your face. I really,

And this is the thing. Do you think it has something to do with nowadays knowing that just seeing how everybody else can fix shit about them or because like you weren't even thinking about this shit until like more recently? Like I would say what? Like how long have you had this disorder? You feel like what? Years? A couple of years? At least two years, like going on two years. OK, so is it what you see? Because that can be a form of you being conditioned to think you have to

make yourself look pretty to keep up with what you see? So I feel like it may be a combination of just looking at the internet. Right. Right. You know, looking at, looking at the magazines and stuff like that. It's just like,

You still be looking at magazines? Yeah. Damn, Lord. Why I'm in the market. Damn. Okay, but you don't ever buy them. You do that. Like, you'll look at them while you're in the line. I will buy them every once in a while. Like, if I see a magazine with Brandy on it, I'm buying it. That's just you. Yeah. I'm just like, ooh, Brandy, let me get this. Or, you know...

The last magazine I actually purchased was with Meghan Markle and Harry O'Hare. Oh, Harry O'Hare. Okay. So I wanted to, you know, I was just like, hmm, I want to know what this is about. And the line was moving fast, so I was like, shit, I'm going to just buy it. Just going to have to buy it, yeah. Yeah, because I really wanted to read it. So is what you see in the magazines and online and shit like that. And that's exactly what I feel like it is because...

yo you've been like in God's eyes and in other that's why bitches hated on you when you were younger you had the perfect body you had full lips you had like nobody I don't know I don't really feel like nobody was paying attention to the shit that you can consider a flaw right now back in the day because everybody had flaws it's like nobody was really focusing on perfecting themselves everybody seeing each other just for who the fuck they were you know what I'm saying and and of

Of course, I'm not saying there were no bullying, there was no ugly people back in the day, but people weren't so conscious about being perfect. And I really feel like surgery is so much more affordable today than it used to be. And it's way more popular. You got installments you can make on your surgeries and all that type of shit, down payments and all. You can actually pay off your titties.

you know what I'm saying in installments and shit like that so I feel like that's also people's drive this disorder is like kind of fueled because you have options they're giving you options now you can fix this I just seen something online where you can make yourself taller there is a plastic surgery that they do something to your bones where like they extend them where you can have where the

seen that? Yo, that was on Shade Room. It was on Shade Room. I could not believe it. Where I first saw that was on site. Shout out to Rah Ali. I love her on blog page. But I first seen it on site, I believe. But yes, that you can be made taller. So these short niggas ready to go crazy. I know Tory Lanez ready to go crazy with that shit. Oh my God.

You know? Just get some platforms like Prince. Just please get the platforms. But yeah, you can get surgery, new kneecaps. Bitches is getting new chins out here. That's why I don't know why Natalie didn't do that yet. That's another thing I was looking. So they have... I've been looking about my nose. Because I don't like how my nose hooks at the end. They have another procedure where you don't have to get cut. It's some kind of like...

like some kind of like rod or string or something like that. And they put it in your nose and they, they lift it. They lift it. And it, it just literally like it,

I think it's just done under local anesthetics. It's not, you ain't got to get your shit all cut up. Because now they're finding new ways. Like, you know, like surgery, this shit works just like technology. I see, like, you see how we used to have iPods. Now there's no iPods. It's just Apple Music on your phone. Like, it evolves with time. So, like, now they have non-invasive technology.

and shit like that. Like, everything is evolving pretty soon. You just going to go on a machine. Don't you know the TSA machines where you go stand in and your surgery, they going to have something, turn around, and you going to be a new person.

You'll be a new person you'll be able to get out. So having this disorder has cost me a lot of money. It has cost me a lot of money. I actually was supposed to have surgery back in August. Right now I'm supposed to be healing from a mommy makeover.

But I spent damn near $10,000 for this plastic surgery company. Can I mention the name? Absolutely. You can mention the name. I don't go there. So yeah. Oh, fucking well. They called me two weeks before my surgery and they canceled my surgery and they told me I can't get a refund.

I spent damn near $10,000 and I kind of fought myself. I try not to fault myself because I'm just like, if I didn't have this, this order, I wouldn't have never been so quick to kick out the money and to be paying, you know, paying on this because I feel like I have to look a certain way. Right. And,

I have my friends they tell me all the time they like you know are you really gonna be happy after you get this done and I'm just like probably not because like I said I've been looking at so like my nose I'm not trying to get my shit cut in half like Patti LaBelle did like I just wanted damn you're straight put out there I mean you know she did that okay go away my bad no it's cool shit Patti

We love you though. You are the queen. Absolutely. We love you. And shit, you ain't like it, you got it fixed. Right. That is what it is. Right. You know, I'm sitting here talking about getting my shit lifted with fucking strings. Yeah. But you say, yeah, I ain't gonna get my shit cut in half like Patty. But yeah, so for everybody out there who didn't know, yeah, Patty's shit is cut in half. So that's something y'all can say to her on a meet and greet. I ain't know that you had your shit cut in half. She'll be like, what? But go ahead. Yeah.

Lord have mercy. So I don't think that I'll be happy. I really don't know because I feel like no matter how I look at myself in the mirror, I'm always going to find something wrong. Yeah. Like I don't like the peak.

I have a peak. I have a peak too. But it's just like, it's little things. And it's just like... You about to get peak surgery? I don't know. Hairline forward surgery. To bring the rest of it up because the peak will make you look bald head as fuck. Yes. Yeah, the peak. I don't know. I cut my peak off before. And that shit look dumb as fuck. Dumb as a bitch. The ponytails look crazy, didn't they, when you cut the peak? It was looking real dumb. But, you know, it's really...

it's really sad and I feel like these plastic surgery companies harp on people like myself seeing the desperation and

just knowing like oh you know we could possibly get over on this person and I know I'm not the only one that they've got over Absolutely not. Did they ever explain to you why they didn't do your surgery? What did they say? So they called and they said that I have history of CVA CVA can also be

be noticed as a stroke, but they're two different things. CVA stands for cerebral vascular accident. Okay. But stroke is stroke and CVA is CVA. But if they're related, they go hand in hand. I mean, yeah. I feel like if, if they're going to put something, they need to put stroke slash CVA. Just like lupus and cancer. You know what I'm saying? They have their own

You know, they're like their own separate entities of diseases, but they are still hand in hand. You know what I mean? So like, I feel like, you know, lupus is a type of cancer, although, you know, it's still identified as just lupus. But you had a stroke. If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back.

Here's a little secret. Most smartphone deals aren't that exciting. To be honest, they're barely worth mentioning. But then there's AT&T and their best deals. Those are quite exciting. They're the kind of deals that are worth talking about, like their deal on the Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6.

With this amazing deal, you can trade in your eligible smartphone any year, any condition for a new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6. It's so good, in fact, it'll have you shouting from the rooftops. So get yourself down to street level and learn how to snag the new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6 on AT&T. And maybe grab a ladder on the way home.

AT&T. Connecting changes everything. Requires trading of Galaxy S, Note, or Z series smartphone. Limited time offer. 256 gigabytes for $0. Additional fees, terms, and restrictions apply. See att.com slash Samsung or visit an AT&T store for details.

Hibernation season is over and it's time to get some sun outside. Gather your crew and hit the road in a spacious 2024 Nissan Pathfinder, your gateway to larger-than-life adventures. With spacious seating for eight and available panoramic moonroof, everyone can enjoy the journey and soak in the scenery of the great outdoors. Plus, with an available towing capacity of up

to 6,000 pounds and an available intelligent four-wheel drive feature with seven drive modes, you can take your favorite toys while adventuring on new terrains. Seize the thrill and start exploring with the 2024 Nissan Pathfinder today. Head over to NissanUSA.com to learn more.

Intelligent all-wheel drive cannot prevent collisions or provide enhanced traction in all conditions. Always monitor traffic and weather conditions. Towing capacity varies by configuration. See Nissan Towing Guide and Owner's Manual for additional information. Always secure cargo. Seeing our communities grow and thrive is something we care deeply about here at Black Tech Green Money.

State Farm Insurance also cares about the growth of black communities. They're actively investing in programs and initiatives that help provide financial literacy, give early career advice, and grow black-owned businesses, thus leading to generational wealth, which helps protect the future of our communities. We want to build a future that we all can be proud of.

State Farm understands that representation alone doesn't equate to authenticity. It also requires active sponsorship of programs like the AXO, a year-long program that recognizes and rewards high school students for their academic and cultural achievements, along with funding programs like Project Ready, a National Urban League program committed to educational achievement of black and brown youth that has awarded over $11 million in scholarship offers to date.

State Farm believes that being better neighbors creates better communities and can have a long lasting impact. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. So in the beginning, in 2016, they noticed it as a stroke. Yeah. After I went to the neurologist and they did tests and stuff like that, they said, OK, we can't per se classify this as a stroke. So we're going to classify it as CVA. So they changed it from stroke to CVA. OK. Yeah.

So on my paperwork, it doesn't say stroke. It says CVA. So what me aesthetics told me, they said, oh, you know, you can get the surgery, but you just can't get it done here because we're clinic based. Our doctors don't feel comfortable performing it on you. So I'm just like, okay. So now I ain't gonna lie. My anxiety has been high. It's been bothering the hell out of me because it's just like,

I want my money. Right. And it's just like, and you're supposed to get your money back. Right. And it's just like, I want my money. So I can go somewhere else. So I can get this shit fixed. Mm.

That I don't like about myself. So it's not even just the, oh, I just want my money back and I'm going to sit on it. No, I'm definitely going to go somewhere else. Because you had an agenda from the jump. Right. That's why you even gave them your money. Exactly. That's why you gave them your money. I do understand. So basically, bitch, you got the CVA shit. That's why they didn't want to perform it. Yeah. So what they did wrong was not give you your money back because you are entitled to a fucking refund. Exactly. Because they canceled you. Mm-hmm.

Okay. So yeah, me aesthetics. Yeah. Yeah. Y'all gonna have some big lawsuits on your motherfucking hands because carefully reckless reaches all.

It reaches a lot of people. Yes. And I don't, you know, I got lawyers listening to my shit. I got a lot of people listening to my shit. Y'all better get my sister back cut 10,000. But do you feel that you will go somewhere else and you will have the same fucking problem? Not non-refund. I'm talking about where they can't do it because of CBA. That's obviously serious. My doctor medically cleared me.

To have the surgery. To have the surgery. Because your CVA, a.k.a. you know, stroke, what they told you was a stroke, before was back in 2016. 2013. 2013. Yes. Okay. So my doctor, so I even said to me, and I'm just like, hey, my doctor cleared me. And they just like, we see that the doctor cleared you because I had to, I had to, um,

I had to get the medical clearance forms filled out by my doctor. Absolutely. So my doctor said, okay, it's okay for you to do this. I haven't had any issues since 2013. Right. But to a plastic surgeon, you know, who's not all about the money. Well, in this case, I don't fucking know because they ain't give a back to you. They definitely all about the money. Yeah, but they would have still just did this shit. You feel me? Like, I guess they're more about your... They're about your health and their money as well. No, they're not about... But just being about your health. They're not about...

the health they just about not wanting a death on their behalf okay it's not it's not even about me it's just they don't want their name I got you their reputation yeah well now they already had people anyway well yeah well why the fuck you gonna go down there miss CVA

I'm not happy with my health I was pressed I was pressed and then that right there goes for the body dysmorphia disorder it's a disorder in my mind I'm sitting there like oh I don't care I could possibly die on this table but I don't care what if I don't die I can have the body of my dreams or what I want you're right that's a disorder it's really a disorder just knowing that I could possibly die and don't even give a fuck it's really a mental illness

Right. So it's like, I'm putting my life on the line for something that I could be sitting there wearing in my casket. Right. Like, oh yeah. Yeah, she was snatched up in that casket. Right. And you're not even here to hear that shit. No, I'm going to be on top like, yeah, girl, you look good in that casket, shorty. And you're going to be in heaven and all angels are going to be walking past you like, you did that shit for nothing. Because you're not going to go up there with that body. God going, you're going to be up in heaven with high emotions. Give her an extra large robe.

Because she shouldn't have bought that shit. I'm fucking done. Bitch, moving on. All right, so listen. I feel like there are a lot of people that you can look at in the media, famous people that we see every day that has body dysmorphia disorder, like Lil' Kim. Nobody can possibly, possibly,

possibly think that she wanted to look like that, that she wanted to go through all those changes and look like that. Blac Chyna, nobody can actually really sit here and say, not even her, you know, but that she is okay with looking the way that she was looking. She's looking better and better now. But all the shit that she had to go through, like Khloe Kardashian, nobody is going to sit here and tell me that this girl looks in the mirror without makeup

And be like, this is my goal. This is what I wanted to look like. This is what I wanted. No, it's a disorder. You'll find something wrong with yourself just because like, like you just said, I never even heard you complain about your lips. Now you feel like your lips ain't right. The bags under your eyes, like now, you know, all your peak.

bitch, all the shit that you grew up with and you were just as beautiful as can be. Like, you know what I'm saying? It's like, but you've developed this disorder in the last two years. I don't even think it's a disorder and we can go get diagnosed together. And I think it's a condition because of what we're seeing, you know? So I'm a touch on something else. Like, I feel like,

my entire life since I've, you know, since I've like started to sprout with just having a body and anything since being a teenager, I feel like I have always been looked at for my body. Yeah. I felt like guys have only come at me and just talked to me and just looked at me for my body. Yeah. Wide hips, small waist, big ass. I feel like that was my way of gaining or getting anybody's attention. And then I look at myself and I'm like, damn, it's falling apart.

But that's what happens when you get older. And you have three children. But it's just like, I feel like, damn, like I need to get that old thing back because maybe that's why I don't have anybody or that's why I'm single or I feel like, you know,

you know, people are looking at me like, oh, she is, you know, she, you know, she got a fupa or, you know, like, I feel like, like I got high waist jeans on today and it's just like, this shit is sitting in my lap, like looking at you. But you know what? Hey, yo, not the fupa is looking at me. Yo, I'm fucking done with you. I've become a fanny pack.

junkie yeah just to hide your food just to hide that and it's just like yeah I'm not I am not going to be happy with myself until I get it cut off and then like I said I don't know how far I'm going to go I don't want to when I look at the Claremont twins when I look at little Kim I don't want to look like them yeah but it's just like but you still want to fix things yeah I want to fix things but

I don't know how far I will go. Yeah. Like one of my home girls just like, you know, she said to me, she was like, you give me little Kim vibes. Like, I don't like it. She's like, are you going to be happy with yourself after you actually get this procedure done? I'm just like, you really truly couldn't give her an answer. I'm like, I don't know. I really don't know. I was just like, I want to be happy, but am I really going to be happy? And,

And I feel like I feel like I feel like I'm not. OK, so I feel like God works in mysterious ways and I feel like that's why you haven't gotten your money back yet. And honestly, I don't feel like you're not going to ever get it back. I definitely feel like it's not going to come back unless I sue. No, but yeah, and it's fine whether you sue or not. I feel like you're going to get it back. It's just that right now you're not in the headspace.

to do that I feel like you need to to get over some things before you get it back and just go give it to another doctor for them to tell you the same thing or for them to do it and then you get up and you not even like the shit that they did I know this but explain to the listeners why you won't get in the gym why can't you just lose your stomach because that's all you fucking have is a stomach so and then and people people on the outside looking and people see me on social media and they're like you don't need it you don't need it you know you're being lazy trying to take the

easy way out there are waist trainers gyms like yeah what what is your response to that so with that I tell people all the time you don't see what's under my clothes right what's under my clothes is loose skin my elasticity is 100% gone it's at least like seven pounds of skin that I literally tuck inside of my clothes got you I wear a lot of leggings and stuff like that with a control top

or the band that makes, that basically smooths it out and makes it, you know, it gives off a flatter appearance or more flattering appearance. You know, where people look at me and like, oh, you know, what are you getting that for? You're like, look, you don't know what's up under here until I show somebody. And then when I show people, they like, oh my gosh, I didn't know that was under there. Yeah, because it's not for you to know that it's under there. But I just want to wear a two-piece. I got you. I want to wear a bikini and I want, I don't want,

my skin hanging over. I don't want to have to tuck my skin inside of a bikini. I just want to wear a two-piece. That's my ultimate goal. I literally...

I purchased I don't know if you um if you ever heard of someone say you know they buy something knowing that they can't fit it yeah and they'll say like this is my goal outfit or something like that yeah to be able to fit this I literally I bought a bikini it's a Baltimore Ravens bikini I'm a Ravens fan of course you're a hater and I bought this bikini two years ago because I said I'm gonna I'm gonna get in this one day right I'm gonna get in this

I actually can fit it, but then it's just the skin is in the way. It's in the way. And I have it and it's still my gold bikini. This is what I want to, I just want to look right in it. I don't like how my arms hang.

I can easily go in the gym. I can work that out. You know, I've had trainers tell me different exercises that I can do to work that out. But then at the end of it all, I'm just like, Cardi, do I really want to work it out? I need to because I ain't got no fucking money to be getting my shit cut off. But people have surgeries where they actually get the bottom of their arm, the hanky part, they get it cut off. They literally have cosmetic procedures for any and everything. And I feel like

I kind of feel like it's fucked up in a way because these surgeons are really like taking people's money. Capitalizing off of your insecurities. Yep. Off of people probably having the same thing. This BDD. You know, I'm all for getting your money. Like, go ahead, get your money, do your thing. But it's just like at the same time, like, damn.

Like these motherfuckers are really out here getting rich off of people hating themselves and hating the way that they look when they look in the mirror. I don't, I don't like myself when I look at a mirror, I literally can be going to the market and I will change my,

clothes about three times just to go to the damn market and I'm literally just going to the market because I don't like how my body looks in something and to me that goes to when they say just because they make it in your size doesn't mean that you need it that you can wear it that you need it yeah because I see shit on people and I'm like

Why the fuck would you even wear that? Do you have that on? And then I look at myself and I'm just like, damn, I wonder if anybody else is looking at me like, why the fuck would she wear that? Right. But in actuality, I don't need me looking bad. But in my mind, I'm just like, this has to change. I can't look like this. I can't live like this. The body dysmorphia disorder is so bad with me. I literally have dreams about plastic surgery sometimes. And you know, the craziest thing about that

People will look at my sister and be like, that's the body I want. Somebody will show your picture to a doctor and be like, that's the body I want. I'm telling you, because you still have a small waist and you still have your hips, your ass. Like people have asked her for years.

Did she get her ass done? And like just certain shit, like people ask you, you know what I'm saying? And you've never had one lick of surgery like ever. And people ask, but that is the body that people are trying to, that bitches pay for that. Like you got thick thighs, thick legs, all I want is,

It's thick legs. Like, that's all I want. And then you have people with thick legs that all they want is this. So it's like what you see is not what everybody else see, but it don't matter what everybody see. It matters about how you feel about yourself. I just really, really want you to get some help with that. I did not know that you had BDD. I didn't even know that it was a disorder. You know, I learned something new every day. I didn't know either until my psychiatrist talked to me about it. Right. It's not a cure for it.

There's no medication. Of course not. It's just therapy. Surgery. Yeah, it's, I mean, but like we touched on before, will surgery...

But I'm saying excessive surgery is like cure. Excessive is like never. I mean, but... Never going to be happy, but that is what y'all feel like y'all have to do. So that would be, in hindsight, the cure. You know what I'm saying? But you'll just be curing yourself forever. Forever. In y'all mind, that's just what that is. And be sitting there looking crazy as shit at the end of it all. Exactly. Even with you knowing that, you still...

feel like you need it I still feel like I need it like just knowing even just looking at these celebrities looking at the Claremont twins looking at Lil Kim I still I'm looking at them like oh they look crazy as shit like oh man they were really beautiful and then I'm just like damn I feel them though with the same issue I'm in the same boat it's like I have the same mentality and I'm just like

In my mind, I'm like, damn, I don't want to look like them. But I just want to be a better me. And to other people, it's nothing wrong with me. But what I see is... But to you, it don't matter. Yeah, it don't matter what nobody else thinks. Because that's all you're going to see at the end of the day when you look, or throughout the day, the top of the day, whatever, when you look in the mirror. Another thing before we go...

I want to say it is a disorder. And I know that it is real because these girls and these guys, we're not, guys are not exempt from this shit. Guys are getting surgery too. And the thing is they get all the surgery done, all the surgery done for an image, right? And in their mind, you know, because they want to look better and look pretty and everything, but they also want to keep up with what they see as well. They get all this shit done. And then they do that just to take pictures and still edit the fuck out of their pictures. Right?

That is a disorder for sure. Perfect makeup, perfect body now. You made up, you done up, and you still edit the shit out of your pictures. You see a piece of fat, gotta Photoshop it. If I knew how to Photoshop, I wouldn't have bunions and no picture. You can erase them. Well, if you teach me, I'll do that. But the thing is, you know what I'm saying? Don't worry about them damn bunions, girl. Oh my God, yo. The bunions are...

The bayas and the coins, they got to go. But I ain't laying down to get surgery. I need to walk. I need to walk it like I talk it. And look, on that note, I'm going to go get my sister some help.

As much as I can, I'm going to try to get my fucking $10,000 back because me aesthetics, we coming for you, bitch. And like, I don't like that. I don't like that shit. Of course, I would rather them take her money to do our surgery and she fucking die. But I would rather also see her get her hard earned fucking money back, honestly. And I love you. I love you too. And it's crazy. I'm like a little saddened by the fact that I know that you have that shit now or whatever. But.

Listen, it's good to keep encouraging your family, your friends, although it may go on one end or the other, they would appreciate it. You don't know what they'll hear and what will stick in their minds. So just continue to love on those who you feel have these issues. Like my sister's friend, she's telling her, I don't like the hair that's talking shit. I don't like the hair that you have this issue and shit like that. Keep talking to them like that. You never know one day they may wake up from this fucking bad dream, come up out of this disorder or this condition that they have.

And just like that, we're going to end it. Make sure you tune in next week to Carefully Reckless and in my deepest pan, boys. Peace. Peace out, y'all. And pray for those who have this as order, please.

Carefully Reckless is a production of iHeartRadio and The Black Effect. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. I'm a good lawyer and I want to win. I'm a savage. I think I killed GT.

She needs someone who's going to fight for her. If we don't follow the right plan, we lose. The hit series Reasonable Doubt, now streaming on Hulu. She was defending herself against a monster. Starring Emma Yatze-Coronalde. I'm the best lawyer you have ever worked with. And Morris Chestnut. I'm not gonna stop.

I think I love it, love it. Never underestimate the power of attorney. Always bet on tax. Reasonable Doubt. New episodes Thursdays. Streaming only on Hulu. Gear up for outdoor adventures with the 2024 Nissan Pathfinder. This midsize SUV is designed for epic journeys. Offering spacious seating for eight, available panoramic moonroof,

and an available intelligent four-wheel drive feature with seven drive modes to take your off-road experience to new heights. Discover the 2024 Nissan Pathfinder at NissanUSA.com. Intelligent all-wheel drive cannot prevent collisions or provide enhanced traction in all conditions. Always monitor traffic and weather conditions. Towing capacity varies by configuration. See Nissan Towing Guide and Owner's Manual for additional information. Always secure cargo.

Most deals are barely worth mentioning. But then there's AT&T's best deal on the new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6 featuring FlexCam with Galaxy AI. You can get in on them when you're trading your eligible smartphone any year, any condition. It's a deal so good, you'll be shouting from

the real talk so grab a ladder and learn how to get that new phone on AT&T AT&T connecting changes everything requires trading of Galaxy S Note and Z series smartphone limited time offer 256 gigabytes for zero dollars additional fees terms and restrictions apply see att.com slash Samsung or visit an AT&T store for details