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We want to speak out and we want this to stop. Wow, very powerful. I'm Ellie Flynn, an investigative journalist, and this is my journey deep into the adult entertainment industry. I really wanted to be a player boy in my adult. He was like, I'll take you to the top, I'll make you a star. To expose an alleged predator and the rotten industry he works in. It's honestly so much worse than I had anticipated. We're an army in comparison to him.

From novel, listen to The Bunny Trap on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Carefully Reckless, a production of iHeartRadio and The Black Effect. And just like that, we're back with yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl, Jess Hilarious. Look, I don't want y'all to start calling me no Dr. Hilarious or Dr. Jess or nothing, but I really be feeling like I'm helping y'all. And I know I say this every week, but it never gets old to me when I open up my DMs from the Carefully Reckless page and

and you guys are telling me, oh my God, Jess, you've helped me. Oh my God, I did sit down and have a conversation. Oh my God, things are so much better. Now, I only had a few people tell me that their situation is still the same, but that's because they really, really, really are in love and they just want to see it through. And some people want to see it through. And sometimes people have to go through with their journey to see what wasn't good for them. Sometimes it's not even what somebody else telling you what you can do

is the answer. No, no, no, no, no. Sometimes you just have to go through things for yourself, but I love the people that I am able to help. I love hearing that feedback that I was able to help you guys. And I love hearing the other feedback too, that I wasn't able to help. That just means you need some professional help. Okay. Some licensed professional help. Cause I think I'm pretty professional, which I'll think, let me know.

So we're going to jump right in. This is a long story, mind you, but it is a good one. This woman submitted voice notes and I mean her situation is

is just, oh my God, up and down crazy. It's like a ball of confusion that just unravels before our ears. So listen and listen carefully because it's rather long. So this may be the only one I get to cover today, but trust me, this one story is worth it. All right. Hey, Jess, I'm going to try to keep this story short, but I definitely need you to fix

My mess. Okay, so a little back story. I moved to Charlotte five years ago from Baltimore. And I met a guy maybe a year after I moved here. And we had been good up until ten months ago. It all went left out of, really out of nowhere. You know when they say you don't have to go looking for stuff, it just falls in your lap sometimes? So that's what happened. So we were inconsistent, so it was off and on. But

We care for each other. We love each other. He never went a date without telling me how much he loved me. But we never made it official, official. But that definitely was an understanding. We definitely had a situationship. We talked about having kids, all of that.

It just, we was never consistent. Yes, I had talked to other people on the side, but he was my main person. We're both in our late 30s. He wanted more, but in the back of my head, I always felt like there was something he was not always being upfront with me about. Wow.

He's been married before, so he used to say that he's not rushing to anything, but he knew he wanted to get married again, but he wanted to get everything, like a house and all of that stuff first. Before he settled down again, he would like to say because his ex-wife, basically, she took everything and...

And he was, like, living in a car and all of that stuff. So he wanted to have his own before he settled down again. Okay, whatever. I hear you. But he always made me feel like I was that one. Like, when those things happened, because he always kept me in the loop with buying a house, all of that. So he made me feel like I was that one. But...

Again, I always felt something still wasn't right. So let's get to the real story, why I need you to fix my mess. So one night, 10 months ago, I went over his house. And when I got there, I just kept saying something ain't right. And I would just keep asking him like, what you do different in here? I always used to tell him for him to be a single guy,

living on his own. His house definitely didn't just look like a bachelor's bed. It looked like somebody had decorated his house. It had a woman's touch, I'll say, but he used to always tell me I was tripping. Anyway, when I would stay with him, I would spend the night. He would get up and go to work, leave me there. I would get up whenever I was ready to head out to go to work or whatever to go back home. He always left me in his house without any problem.

So this one particular night, it may have been like 11 o'clock or so. He made a comment like, yeah, I got to get up early in the morning around 3 o'clock to be to work by whatever time. And I'm like, okay. But he made the comment to make it seem like he wanted me to leave. Because he said something like, now I want you to have to get up at 3 in the morning. And I'm saying to myself...

And the other time, you have to get up or whatever time, you left me here and I would just see myself out. But, you know, I was like, I'm not even going to question it because I'm never going to beg somebody for me to stay. I got my own place. I take my ass home, so that's what I did. But it bothered me so much the next day I'm at work, but I'm thinking about it.

And so I said something to him. I'm like, what's the difference? Why all of a sudden now I need to go home instead of just staying the night, even if you had to get up early? He like, no, babe, you know I love you. I didn't want you to get up and leave then. You know I don't like for you to go home in the middle of the night. You could have stayed. You should have just said something. I would have rather you stay. And I'm like, that's bullshit because...

if you would have rather me stay, you wouldn't even have commented that you had to get up at 3 o'clock in the morning and you didn't want me to have to get up. Or you could have been like, yeah, I got to get up at 3 in the morning, but of course, see your way out whenever you get ready. He's like, wow, that's why we need to communicate. I tell you all the time, speak up. If you feel some type of way, speak up. I wasn't a kid. You could have stayed. You already know you could have stayed. So he does this thing where if I bring something to his attention, if I say something...

He likes to switch it up and then play victim or act like I'm tripping. Like he likes to fuss and talk over me. So he finds a way to switch up the story like he always does and talk about the house and how he going to be ready to settle down and move me in. Like he does that. He'll switch up the story and to try to start saying stuff he think I want to hear. But that shit was still on my mind. So I didn't let it go.

So for some reason, something told me to go to his Instagram. Now, every time he posts something, he has like hundreds of comments under everything he posts. And majority of them are females. And it's like with a bunch of heart emojis and stuff, which I don't, I don't care. I tell him he got his little fans, whatever. But I clicked on this one particular page. So what drew me to this one particular page was...

Yeah.

I asked him one time, like, why do you know so much about nails? And he was like, don't forget, I was married at one time. I did pay for my wife to get her nails and stuff done. And I'm like...

Even if you did pay for your wife to get her nails done, you're just giving her the money. You don't really know. Most men don't know certain terminology for nails. But I'm like, whatever. So I click on this girl's page. It's her business page. And majority of her page is her showing off her work. So I'm scrolling down, scrolling down. And I come across a video she posts of him. It's a birthday video.

And the birthday video, basically, she says on there, like, happy birthday to my day one or something like that. It's real generic. Like, so it doesn't say what they are to each other. But I held that as evidence. So I screenshot that. So then I'm scrolling some more and then I come across another video.

of an exact same video he posted on his page when he got his condo. It's like of the key to say like, welcome home, home sweet home. And under her post, it basically was saying how she just got a new house or whatever, a new condo, and she was moving.

And I'm like, it's mind boggling because mind you, the condo, I've been there. I spent the night there several times. Like I was always there. But remember, I said to you how I always felt like his condo looked like it had a woman's touch.

But that same furniture that he moved into the condo, he had his townhome when I first met him. Mind you, I used to stay at the townhome too. So I'm just confused. So I screenshotted that as well. I'm like, I'm going to just keep holding on to stuff.

So I came up with this whole story. Like, you know, I'm looking for a new person to do my nails because he knew I was like fed up with going to the nail salons here. So I was trying to find for real in real life. I really was trying to find like a black person to support. So I went to him. I was like, yeah, I was recommended to this girl. And I realized y'all know each other. So let me ask you about it. You know, you think I should get my nails done by her?

I was trying to see if he was going to persuade me to go or not to go to her. So he did exactly what I thought he was going to do. He talked mad shit, basically. Like, nah, you know, I wouldn't go to her. She real inconsistent. She like to cancel on people. Like, shit talked to her. And I'm like, okay. Got that in the back of my head, too. Because I knew that's what he was going to do. More and more, this situation just not sitting right with me. So after that...

I started doing a little bit more research. I found her TikTok and I find that she is pregnant. She has a sonogram video up of her in the doctor's office. And I told you, him and I talked about having kids. All right, let's just say he told me he wanted to name his next daughter Tanya. Tanya in 2022? Yeah, let's say he said he wanted to name his daughter Tanya if he had a child.

And so I go on her Instagram page and I see she says, Tanya, mommy and daddy cannot wait to meet you. We love you. We just want to say Tanya, but just know the name that he really wanted is not a name that most people would name their child. Like it's a unique name. Let's say it was like Wes, okay, or Blue Ivory. It was a name like that that everybody is not going to say they want to name their child.

So that's what she puts on the post. And as soon as I saw it, my heart dropped because I'm like, what? This girl is pregnant and she never said his name, her name. But I knew by the child's name. Still don't say nothing to him, though. I still don't say nothing to him. I asked him, I say, is there anything you need to share with me? Anything you need to tell me?

He's like, no, babe, you know, I don't got nothing to tell you. I don't have to hide nothing from you. If I had something to tell you, you know, I would tell you I love you and all of that, talking all that stuff, switch up the conversation again. I'm just like, I'm going to hold on to this stuff. So one night I'm searching, you know, I'm looking up baby registries at this point. I did Walmart, Amazon, Target, Burlington. I did all of that shit.

I couldn't find nothing. I'm like, all right, still not going to give up. I know I'm not going crazy. This nigga got this girl pregnant. I'm not stupid. So one random night in the middle of the night, I can't sleep.

I Googled this time, instead of going directly to the websites, I Googled baby registries. And the first thing that popped up was bye-bye baby. And I go straight to the registry and I type her name in. I type his name in. Boom, we'll come up. Her picture, his name, saying the baby was due the next month. Okay? Oh!

And I screenshotted it and I just saw red from there. This is like two o'clock in the morning. So I screenshotted it. I sent him everything that I had been screenshotting from when I first got that feeling that he was lying to me about something. Sent everything to him in the middle of the night. And I was like, I know you was lying. It just didn't sit right with me. Told him everything how I felt.

that morning, once he gets up to see it, he calls me and he's on a thousand, like ready to cuss me out. And he tells me this bullshit ass story that he had to go to court for child support for his other child with his ex. So he paid this girl however much money to put up a fake registry to make it look like he was the father so that he didn't have to pay more money in child support to his ex-wife. And

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Now, within that 10 months, I tried to reach out. He never blocked me. I never blocked him on social media or on my phone. Never blocked him because I knew it wasn't over. I have a thing when even when somebody hurts me, if I really care about them, I end up going back to them, even though I'm the one being hurt, trying to fix it or trying to make it right.

So I reached out to him several times. He straight left me on read, ignored me each and every time until last Thursday that just passed. I missed him these last 10 months. I missed him and I really do care for him. So when he came to see me, I knew it probably wasn't going to be a long time.

visit because again since we've been talking I noticed he only talked to me when he's out the house as soon as he gets home I don't hear from him so that's something new now all of a sudden once he gets home I don't hear from him like Saturday he called me he was outside it was like seven in the morning he was already gone out the house and I'm the first person he calls when he gets outside so I'm noticing all of this I'm noticing all of this in these last couple of days I

I say, I'm not going to bring it up while he's here. I'm just going to chill and enjoy his company right now. He's here for maybe an hour or so. He leaves, and then my mind go to rolling.

So I text him like, it was good seeing you. It's been too long, but I know why you had to leave. I know you had to get back home to your family. Because he kept saying certain things when he was here. Like he wanted to tell me, but he wanted me to bring it up. And I was just like, I'm not bringing it up right now. I don't want to hear the lies because I knew he wasn't going to tell me. But he kept saying certain things like he wants to tell me, but he don't know how I'm going to react. Or he's just not ready, but he was making certain comments.

Saying stuff about babies or what I've been doing the last 10 months, who's been with me the last 10 months, what I've been doing, who's been in my house and all of that stuff. And I was throwing them same questions back at him. And I'm like, I'm sure there's been somebody consistent in your life in the last 10 months.

And he like, oh, that's what you believe? And I'm like, I know for sure. And he like, oh, how you know? What makes you think you know? Like, he was saying stuff and he started saying random stuff about babies. And I'm like, just go ahead and tell me. So when he leaves, I send a message. And in that message, again, I'm just like thanking him for coming. And then I said to him, I know that baby is yours. And when you're really ready to have that conversation, let's have it. I said, I think it will make

whatever this is a little bit better we need to have an understanding I say it because I'm not even going to lie it stung at first when I found out but everything happens for a reason I'm okay with it now but that still does not deny the love that I have for you but I would just respect you more if you just came out and told me

So that's what my text message said to him. I was like, I'm going to still love you at the end of the day now. Does that mean our relationship is going to stay the same? No, because I can't say when I hear, yes, that is my baby, how I'm going to feel. I know how I want to feel. I know how I want to just move on.

I don't know. I know already. I know the answer, but I need him to tell me. So he calls me after I sent a text message. And it's like, he's on the thousand again. So you want me to call you or you want me to read this message while I'm driving? I can't read this message while I'm driving. And I'm high. And then, like, he come off real crazy. I'm like, what? What is he talking about? Like...

What you trying to say in this message? If you wanted to ruin my Sunday, you could have just said all that. What I need to come over your house for? I need to come over there? If you had something to say, you should have said it while I was there. Oh, yo, you should have said it on Friday when we had this conversation, when we was talking about it. Now you want to ruin my Sunday? You want to ruin my, like, call? And I'm just like...

I'm sorry. Why are you yelling? Why are you fussing? Nothing in my message was negative. I ain't read it. You talking about I got family at home. I'm like, what you mean? If you didn't read the message, you wouldn't have known that I said that in the message. He like, no, you said it when I was there too. Now, why would I have somebody at home waiting on me and I'm here? I'm like, just like any other cheating nigga. What you mean?

Like, cut that shit out. So he like, we should have been had this conversation. I said, well, you kept saying more conversation needed to be had. I said, you kept hitting around and stuff, but you just didn't want to come out and tell me. I said, I just wanted you to know. And I'm calm still. I'm so calm talking to him. I'm like, I just wanted you to know, like, I know that baby is yours.

I seen the picture she posted. Like, the baby got the same initials as you. First and middle and last name. It's all you. Same initials. And it's the same exact name that you told me you wanted to name our child. So cut it out. He like, man, that's what you want to go with? That's what you want to go with? I'm like, that's what I know. I got my answer. I got what I needed. Because the way you responding to me right now is telling me everything I need to know.

because if it wasn't your child, you'll be like, for real, babe, like, that's not my child. Like, for real. But

every time he goes in this defense mode and just start talking over me and fussing and making it like I'm the problem. And I'm just like, at this point, I don't know what to do. Like, I know what to do. I know what I need to do. He like, if you want to move on, just move on. Just say that if you need closure, just tell me you need closure. You keep coming at me with this bull crap. Just tell me you need closure. I'm like, what I need is the truth, but I have the truth.

I don't need the truth. I just want him to really come out and say it, but he's not going to do that.

But

But for some reason, I still want him in my space, even though I know the nigga is lying and had a baby on me. Now, I don't even know how long he was knowing this girl, but I know he talked about he wanted to have a child with me. And then this girl ends up pregnant. Just help me, Jess. Thanks. Girl, first of all, that was long as shit. All right. And you made me mad so many goddamn times that I had to write notes, right?

I had to write notes while I was listening to your story. First of all, you from Baltimore. Bitch, what you doing? What the fuck is you doing? Just from me to you. And me and you got the same name. And I ain't talking about my first name. Me and you got the same name. Bitch, what the fuck is you doing? Going down there and taking that shit from a Charlotte nigga? You could have stayed home and took that shit from one of these niggas. The fuck? You're pissing me off. For real. Because you too old for this shit.

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You've seen it. So you already know what it was. Because most of the time when we feel something in our stomach, we feel something and we know it's called woman intuition. You know that. We're right most of the time. I'm not going to say women are always right. But very seldom are we not. You are right in your mind. You seem to have a lot of sense, but you ignore that shit a lot. Ever heard of like mind over matter?

You need to do mind over heart sometimes. That's what us women need to realize we need to do. Mind over heart. You love with your heart. You think with your mind. But you need both. But you need your mind more than your motherfucking heart. Because your heart going to have you somewhere. Girl, going crazy. All right? Now bringing it back to that one particular night.

When he told you that three o'clock in the morning bullshit and you got up and left and you waited till the next day to say something. Now he was right about one thing. Communicate, communicate. He ain't shit. All right. But he was not lying about that. Communicate. Because honestly, if you would have said that shit when he told you, I don't want you to have to get up three o'clock in the morning. You should have said that shit right there. Well, I never had to get up three o'clock in the morning. You always leave me here. What's the problem now? Do you want me to leave?

Or what, are you expecting somebody else? Or, you know, whatever. Regardless of his fucking response.

As long as his ass wouldn't have swung on you, ain't shit to lose. You can get mad in my face all day, huff and puff, blow this motherfucking house down, nigga. But I'm asking you a question. Why would you say this to me when you let me let myself off any other time? You done left me in your house. You said you've been to the condo, you've been to the townhouse and all of that. You were supposed to say something right then and there, but you leaving time for it to simmer, you saying something the next day gave him a chance to fucking lie to you. He

He lied to you. He was able to lie because he could have said anything at that point because the moment is now past. It's over. And he did exactly what he was supposed to do. Oh, no, babe, why didn't you say nothing then? You know, I would never want you to leave. You know, it's moving shit over for you.

Communicate in real time. You know, that's what I'm learning in my relationship now. I have to communicate things in real time. You don't let a person make you mad and then you wait days and days or even hours and hours to say something. Say something right then and there. Now, not about every little thing, but you have to communicate in real time. You can't just let shit go on because niggas can't read minds. Men cannot read your mind.

All right. We can read. There's a lot more than they can read out. And honestly, men don't want to read our minds because they have the time. They already can kind of feel what we're thinking. And they scared of that shit, that confrontation. So communicate. Now, you said he likes to flip the script. He likes to cut you off when you talk. He likes to yell over you and play the victim and make you feel bad. And then you end up feeling bad and all of that shit.

Girl, that's manipulative. That's narcissism. You're dealing with a manipulative narcissist here. Grade A. Now, you smart. You seem to have some nice investigation skills, Tom, about the evidence that you see from the girl's page. You figured out she was a nail tech. That's good. Your snooping game is A1, all right? But I knew before you finished that shit, because I'd have been fixing mess for months now, that that damn condo is either hers or theirs. It ain't just his.

And you were there probably when our ass and his ass wasn't getting along. Cause just like y'all been on and off, they probably been on and off too, but just much longer. He seems to notice Gary probably been fucking with that girl since he had his wife. Right after he had his wife, talking about he was living in his fucking car. Okay, Tyler Paris, the fuck?

Get up on your motherfucking own two feet. So it seems like he still likes for women to take care of him because he's still he living with the nail tech bitch. Oh, I'm sorry. His baby mother slash girlfriend. Probably soon to be another fucking wife because she's taking care of him. That fucking townhouse he had you sitting up in probably wasn't his either. We have to realize patterns and act accordingly, not keep going on and on with it, girl.

Keep playing along and shit. Because if you ask me, you waited too damn long to say anything to him. You call yourself building a case like he was going to give a fuck. Girl, he didn't give a fuck. After you found out that he was dealing with the nail tech, you even made it your business. You put so much energy into investigating when you already knew what the hell was going on. You even asked him.

Show them his own girlfriend. Cause that's what the fuck she was. And X, Oh, should I go to her to get my nails done? You playing games with your damn self.

You already knew what he was going to do. And of course he was going to say, oh no, she has problems and no, no, she don't do good and she do no call, no shows and she's not the most professional. He wanted to keep y'all apart as long as he could. Not even to save your feelings, but to save hers because he got way more to lose with her than with you because you ain't going no damn where. That's your problem. Still, after I try to fix your mess, you still ain't going to go no damn where. That's my problem with you.

And the way you talk about, oh, we've been on and off, on and off. It's no real foundation. It was never any real foundation or any loyalty there.

It was never any of that. So how did you expect for this man to have kids with you, to marry you? You know, listen, I'm going to tell you something, honey. I know you didn't heard your mom or your grandmother or some older woman in your life tell you these men will tell you what the fuck you want to hear to get what they want. I've been hearing that shit since I was eight years old. My aunts telling my cousins, my mother telling my aunts, my, you know, my grandmother telling my mother, my like, seriously.

It's true. So when you finally bring this shit up to him, you send him all the screenshots from all your investigation, you gathered all your evidence and you show him and he calls you on 10.

made up a whole motherfucking lie about how his ex-wife was going to use something with alimony or something. So he had to pay this nail tech girl to put up a fake registry for a real fucking baby. So now you have a man lying on his unborn child. So he really don't give a fuck. He really is socio for real. And if you don't know what socio is, that's the person with no motherfucking feelings. They just lie. They just do shit and don't feel anything. Going around hurt people and they don't feel shit.

That's why when you hung up that damn phone after telling him you knew that the baby was his and you found out he fucking with the nail tech and all of that shit, he didn't call your ass back. Matter of fact, he didn't talk to your ass for 10 months and you came back to him. You bothering him. You're the damn problem. You in your own way.

You too good for this shit. What you doing? You don't know your damn worth. What is wrong with you? You said he ignored you over that course of 10 months. He ignored you over those 10 months. You kept reaching out, reaching out for what?

What do you want? I would feel the same way if I was him. What do you want? Cat's out the bag. He don't need to lie to you. I don't know why the hell he ever even tried to lie to you. He don't need to. Obviously, you staying. You'll be fine with the truth or a damn lie. So he just lying for fun because you ain't going nowhere. In fact, you're begging him for time and you know he got a family. So now you're in the wrong because just because you will accept that shit does not mean somebody else will.

You putting yourself through this shit. You never gave that man no real consequences. So you gave him a lot of power over you. And then to hear you say that you told him 10 months later after he came to see you, you didn't want to say nothing because you just wanted to enjoy the time. How the hell can you enjoy anything with him? Like this is just unrelatable and this is just disgusting. This is crazy. Tell me all you want is the truth. You know the truth. Why do you need confirmation from him? Right?

Why? And listen, you think that little 10 months was a break? You tried to move on. You think you tried to move on. You never did because you said it yourself. You never blocked him on social media. You never deleted his number. You never did. He never blocked you. He didn't need to. It didn't fucking matter. He don't care. He don't give a fuck because you're going to be there no matter what.

And that's not good. Had this man walking all over you and shit. And you begging him to be back with you. He had a fucking baby on you lying, having you in everybody else's house. But his own, because he don't have none. Now he got a baby and you just need for him to say it's his. Girl, get your fucking life together. Seriously. Don't even check back in with me because you still going to be there. You're a damn fool. I'm sorry the Bible say don't call people fools. You're a damn nut.

And just like that, we're going to end this episode. That shit pissed me off. This girl from fucking Baltimore. You crazy as a girl. Tune in each and every Wednesday, y'all. I'm going to get the hell up out of here. Oh my God. This shit got me so pissed off. Tune in also to Reckless Discussions tonight. And she done made me mad this morning. And y'all going to see on this episode of Reckless Discussions, London going to make my ass mad tonight. I'm tired of these women, y'all. Y'all tune in every Wednesday to everything I got going on. And in my deepest pan, boys, peace. Shit.

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