The 18-year age gap in the caller's relationship is a red flag because it suggests a power imbalance, with the older partner potentially taking advantage of the younger one's inexperience and vulnerability. This dynamic can lead to manipulation and control, as evidenced by the caller's lack of introduction to his family and the secretive nature of their relationship.
Jess believes the older man is not serious about the relationship because he has not introduced the caller to his family, does not post about her on social media, and has recently stated he cannot marry her. These actions indicate he is not committed to a long-term, transparent relationship.
Jess advises the caller to leave the relationship because the man is not committed, keeps the relationship a secret, and is likely involved with other young women. Jess emphasizes that the caller deserves better and should focus on her own growth and well-being.
The second caller feels belittled by her partner because he consistently undermines her intelligence and knowledge, often dismissing her opinions and making her feel inferior. This has built up over three years and is affecting her self-esteem and her feelings for him.
Jess suggests the second caller take a break from the relationship to allow her partner to address his own issues, especially since he is in jail and has time to reflect and seek help. This break can also help the caller focus on her own well-being and reassess the relationship.
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