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Before we get into this episode, y'all, let me tell you. So we had the first ever Black Effect Podcast Festival. And y'all know me and Charlamagne hosted it. Well, technically me. Charlamagne was reading the cards like he was hooked on Phonic, y'all. And I was so nervous because that was my first time ever doing that shit, right? You know, and I ain't too... I'm not, you know, I'm transparent enough to let y'all know that I was very nervous. But when I got there and like...

Just to see how the crowd embraced me. Yo, it was amazing. I had so much fun. We had Portia Williams, Robin Dixon, Gisele Bryant, Michelle Williams, Mandy and Weezy. What the fuck? Listen, listen, y'all. I got the footage, some footage coming. Make sure you visit the Carefully Reckless page. The girls from Horrible Decisions

They had my ass up there walking them like dogs, mandied and licked my damn shoe. They some freaky hoes, okay? They some freaky bitches. I'm going to have to go on horrible decisions. I'm going to have to. It may be a good decision for me to go on horrible decisions. I ain't going to lie.

I like them girls, man. Tam Bam and AJ, it was so many black creators up in the house. Shout out to Black Effect, y'all. That is not the only festival we coming back doing this shit yearly. And yes, your girl, Jessalarius, will be hosting next year too. I mean, they don't know yet, but y'all got to put y'all bidding. Y'all got to let them know. Jessalarius needs to host every Black Effect podcast festival.

And just like that, we're back on the air. Mic check, one, two, one, two. A real bitch spent the block. What is you gonna do? You gonna listen, ain't you? You gonna listen, because we're back with Just Fix My Mess. Another Catholic Reckless episode coming to you right now. We're gonna jump straight in. In this episode, we got people writing me. God damn it. Y'all don't want to send in y'all voices. Now listen, like last season, I said, I'm gonna keep on saying it.

I will read. Yes, I will read. It ain't like I don't want to. I will read as long as y'all sound smart enough. As long as y'all writing this shit smart, okay? Because I don't want to sound illiterate when I'm trying to help y'all fix y'all mess. Shit. A lot of y'all need to get hooked on motherfucking phonics before y'all try to send me some goddamn mess. All these long, run-on essay sentences. How's somebody going to write me a whole fucking... Oh, this shit is juicy, but it ain't. Not one punctuation mark in this motherfucker. Jesus. All right.

Hey Jess, I've been dealing with this situation where my family has been treating my as a toddler.

Okay, she must admit herself. My family has been treating me as a toddler and I honestly can't stand it. I may only be 18. Oh yeah, she was definitely talking about herself. I may only be 18, but I don't even get treated like an 18 year old. Keep in mind, I'm not even the youngest child and there are many kids born after me. My family keeps talking about marriage and my ex's mom is convinced that I could possibly be pregnant. Mm.

But I'm going through college and I would like to form my life in a way where if I were to get pregnant, it would be at a time where I could give my child everything or she needs as a mother and be different. Girl.

I don't want to give up on my family, and I really value you and your opinion, but how do I get my family to stop treating me like I'm still in eighth grade and trust me enough to make decisions for myself that require simple common sense? I've prayed about it, but I feel like I need another woman's perspective. I may not be grown, but I deserve my credit where it's due. I'm not still messing with my ex. I have value. I know that's right, Boogie.

I have moved on, but I'm going to have to break up with his mom at this point. Ooh, okay. So you're still close with his mom. Okay. First of all, I love that you reached out to me being as young as you are. I know y'all can have a lot of pride. Oh my God. And y'all don't want nobody in y'all business. Although y'all put it all over Instagram and shit. I'm not putting you with them. I'm just saying y'all because you is one of them. All right.

But I absolutely love how you are mature enough to reach out to me on this platform and that you don't mind sharing your story because there are other teenagers that I'm pretty sure feel this way and get treated like a baby. And, you know, they actually want to grow up. I have one of my friends, her daughter is deaf.

And she will not let this little girl grow up. She will not the girl that my baby girl to moved out. Well, that's her baby girl too, but she's my baby girl too. She has moved out of her mom's house and everything, you know, and the mom just still comes over our house. And this is one of my friends. So,

I try to talk to her all the time. Like, yo, let, let that girl grow up. Let her grow up. She, she has a job. She's making her own money. She got her, her own car. She's working. She's not in college, but she is an entrepreneur. She has her own business. And these are all qualities that her mom instilled in her, but she's just not ready to see her grow up. Also,

I'm going to give you this advice coming from a mother to someone that's not a mother yet. I have an 11 year old. Okay. And I know it's going to be hard for me to just see him leave the nest.

Um, he's my only child and you know, I'm a boy mom and he is a mama's boy. You know what I'm saying? And, um, it's hard. It's hard. My dad babied me until I was, until I got pregnant with my son. That's when I officially was not a baby in my dad's eyes anymore. And that was at 20 years old. I got pregnant at 20. You know, my dad did not want me to move out. My dad actually got upset with my mom because she let me move out.

She didn't fight me on it. Look, that's enough about my father, child, because I can go all day on being a daddy's girl and just, you know, growing up like that. Back to you. Now, you're not going to like this, boo, but you are only 18. No, you're not legally grown. You are a young lady, but you're not a, I can't even say you're not a woman. I want to say it. You're not a woman yet, babe. You're not, not just yet. I would say 21.

21, you got another three years until you can go buy some drinks. You got another three years until you can even get in a goddamn club, girl. You got three years, three years until your parents are going to say that G word, grown. Okay. And I want to say this, hey, at least you still got your parents.

A lot of 18-year-olds are out here having to fend for themselves and are wishing to have parents that could still treat them like a baby. I love the fact that you're being nurtured. It's a lot of shit going on out in this world. Sex trafficking. Young women and children are being targeted by older men.

You know what I'm saying? In and out the country. Both. It used to be outside the country more. But what social media has done, which can sometimes be a gift and a curse, that social media, it has opened up our eyes to see what is more publicized now. And that is crime. A lot of fucking crime. You got to be careful. These men are preying on y'all young girls online.

on these dating apps and on social media and they're watching what y'all post, y'all revealing y'all body parts and shit. Like not saying you, but I'm saying y'all because you are 18. So you're a part of the, you know, the younger generation, you know, the millennials, I'd say. But I want you to be more grateful for that than upset about it because there will be one day that you look back and you're going to be like,

It wasn't so bad. It wasn't so bad. They've done well with you to this point. You know, they have done well with you. You seem to be a great young lady. And I'm going to give that credit to your parents, you know, and then just you growing up, figuring out who you are. You know, you got three more years for that. Well, you got the rest of your life for that. But you got three more years until you'll be on your own for everything, with everything. So I don't have...

advice on how you can be groaner or show that you are so grown that you don't need them to be on your back all the time. No, I say, I love it. I say, I love it. And if you value me and my opinion, then you would love what I just said to you.

Okay, baby girl. Now, what's all this about this ex-mama who think that you are pregnant and all of that shit? What the hell's going on with that? I need to see what's going on. And then that also tells me if the mom thinks that you're pregnant, then you two are having sex is what that means. And that also prompts me to ask you, is that why you think you so damn grown?

And that they shouldn't baby you all the time because you out here having sex. Is that why? Does that have anything to do with it? And then that must have come from her son, your ex-boyfriend, if she thinks that unless you didn't gave her some type of little inkling to think that you're pregnant, she ain't going to thank you pregnant for no reason, Pooh. So you need to figure that out. And I need to know if you are as well.

Because that also is going to be a reason, that also could be a reason why you don't want nobody to baby you because you got a little baby in you and you better not. Okay? You got college and some good things and some businesses to run and some shit to do before you need to sit down and have a baby. Okay? And I know I'm not the only one that has told you this. Okay? Actually, that ex's mom need to be telling you this. I don't know if she's one of them that's trying to be your fucking friend or what, you know, and...

Trying to be so cool with your little ass that she don't want to tell you that this is wrong and look at the bigger picture. I want to also know how old her ass is. And did y'all have sex in her house? Uh-huh.

Because it don't seem like you could be having sex in your house, not with your parents being all over your back, which is a good thing, in my opinion. So check back in with me. I love you. I love you. I love you. This is not me coming down hard on you. This is not me trying to sound like everybody else. This is just the truth and cold, hard facts. Be careful out here. Do not try to grow up too fast. Be careful. Be careful for as long as you can. Hold up. Hold up. I know this shit getting good, but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen.

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Hey Jess, my bestie of over a decade became friends with this girl that really hurt me and bullied me for years. This girl, let's call her Shayla, has even snaked my best friend, let's call her Mira, as well. Mira and I had a falling out and recently picked up where we left off and she told me that her sisters is friends with Shayla, but she is not.

Mira posted on her IG both of them going out to eat. I texted her a long paragraph telling her that I love her, but I cannot continue to be friends with someone that is friends with Shayla. Mira texted back ensuring me that she has no problem cutting her off for me because she is loyal to me. I said, okay, cool. She started making me feel weird and made it seem like I forced her to cut her off and I did not.

All I said was I do not want to be associated with someone that is comfortable being friends with someone that hurt me. And she's the one that decided to cut her off and keep me as her friend. Mira doesn't have me on Snapchat anymore since we fell out last time, but I still remember her Snap name. I had a weird feeling one day. I looked up her name and saw that she posted up

Damn.

I've never had real friends before because I used to be the type of person to be friends with anyone. Now that I'm 27, I'm finally figuring out what type of people I want in my circle.

and be that as it may, you are right, okay? No, you are not wrong in this situation, baby girl. First of all, thank you for sending in your story. You're 27. Yes, you're still young, you know? You're not a teenager, but you are a young woman. And I think this is the good time. What better time? It's a perfect time to be growing in to the woman that you want to become, you know? Because you got three more years until 30, and they say, you know, and based off of my own experience,

Around that time, at 27, 28, 29, 30, I started losing friends. I started losing, you know, I was what they call a hopeless romantic in relationships and friendships as well. I would give anybody a chance to be my friend. Backstab me, do this, do that. And, you know, fuck around with people who I, you know, I've been in your situation before around that same age. And so you're doing everything that you can do possibly right now.

To set standards for yourself. That's good. You are figuring out who you are, like you said. And everybody can't come with you. People outgrow people. I just got finished telling a friend this the other day.

Yes, people do outgrow each other. That goes for relationships. That goes for family members. That goes for friendships. Everybody's not going to be on your level, whether you're higher or lower, whether you're the one taking forever to evolve or whether they're the ones that's taking forever to evolve. Everybody can't stay glued together because people have to go separate ways to grow. And then you come back, you can revisit a friendship, but sometimes it's not meant

for you guys to stay as close or to be as close as you guys once were.

Sometimes you have to be friends from a distance. You don't have to be, but that could be that home girl that you call every now and then to check on. And it's like no bad blood, no harm done, no harm, no foul, no love lost. You know, you could be that home girl that she calls every now and then. I'm just calling to check on you. See where you are in your life. If you need anything, love you, girl. Talk to you soon. It could be that. It doesn't have to be a beef, but it doesn't necessarily have to be a best friendship either. Also, in her defense, in Mira's defense,

I can understand if she's the type of female that feels like this. She hurt you. She didn't hurt me. We were all friends at one point. And this girl hurt you. She didn't hurt me. I can tell her about herself all goddamn day. I can tell her my opinion on how she did you as my friend and how she did our friend that was fucked up, that was wrong.

Maybe she realized that it was wrong, but you didn't want to be Shayla's friend anymore because of how badly she treated you as a friend once before.

bullied you and all that. She could have grown out of that, but you don't want, you don't have no words for her because you can't forgive that. And be that as it may, maybe you can't forgive that. But if Mira and Shayla were friends before, they could still have a friendship and Mira could still be loyal to you. As long as Shayla don't talk shit about you to Mira,

I think they good. You know, I think I think that's how Mira feels. And I think Mira just was caught in a situation where she didn't want you to be mad at her because you obviously are one of her good friends. And she's obviously one of your good friends, too, you know, or was one of your good friends. You know, she just was caught in the middle and she didn't want to choose. So she was sneaking going to hang with Shayla. Her and Shayla could have a bond.

They could do something for each other. She could be a good, that confidant for Shayla. Shayla could be that for her, you know? You know, I think that you kind of made it about her being friends with Shayla instead of making it about the loyalty and the friendship and the bond that you and Mira made. Because nothing can break that. Not even a bitch that don't like you, not even a bitch you don't like is supposed to be able to come in between you and your good friend.

You know, and do you feel that they talk shit about you? Do you feel Shayla still, you know, talks about you to Mira? Do you feel like they sit up and kiki about you and shit like that? If that's the case, then no, you're not wrong in this situation. And then you just need to leave both of them alone. You know, you need to leave Mira alone. But y'all don't have to be. Y'all could just be long distance homegirls, you know, homegirls from a distance, associates, if you will, you know.

But check back in. Let me know. Let me know. I am all for you growing into the woman that you want to become. And I'm all for you setting these standards because at some point in our lives, we all have to do that. Okay. I love you, girl. Check back in with me. If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back.

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And the last story, moving on. This is a quick one. Hey, Jess, I'm just going to get straight into it. I need you to fix my mess. I've been dealing with this guy for six years. Damn, you just been dealing with him for six years? What the fuck?

And we made it official two years ago. I just found out that he was married. So now I literally don't know what to do. After six years of knowing him and growing to be in love with him, two years of being official, it's just hard to walk away. Well, bitch, throw on some skates and roll the fuck on out. What the hell is going on?

What you mean you found out he was married? So you've been a mistress. You've unknowingly been a mistress for six years and you didn't know? How the fuck you ain't know what the fuck his wife is? What the fuck? What is she, a deaf mute? How the fuck you that live in Antarctica? How the fuck you don't know? Oh my God. I need to talk to him now. How the fuck you done hide? You done hid somebody for six years?

You hid two women for six years unless the wife knew about you. How the hell did he hide the wife from you for six years and hid you from the wife for six years? What the fuck? Girl, just leave. I don't have no advice for that other than leave, girl. Fucking leave. Leave, leave, leave, leave, leave. I got so many questions. Did you meet the wife yet? How did you find out about the wife? Does he live with her? What the hell is happening? How old are you? Shit.

How old is he? Where y'all live? What y'all be doing? God damn. Girl, you done got my fucking blood. Did he, oh my God. Does he have kids with the wife? Do y'all have children? What's, girl, you gonna send me four sentences and say help me? What the fuck? And just like that, we come to the end of another. Girl, I gotta get out of here. I gotta get out of here. This shit just, tune in next week. I hope this bitch come back with something. Shit. Next week, y'all, next week. I'm outta here. Peace.

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