Ask Us Anything Part Two
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Hi, Rammies. Welcome to Write Answers Mostly, a podcast on what you didn't learn in history class, but you really, really wanted to. I'm your host, Claire Donald. And I'm your other host, Tess Paloma. Join us every Monday as we have a cocktail or smoke a joint and we dive into the juiciest stories from history. Our most popular episodes are the Titanic, Jim and Tammy Faye Baker, the Romanoffs, early 2000s, and Salem Witch Trials, so make sure to check those out. And if you want a quicker episode, that's the

That's 30 minutes or less. Check out our Lambie app. And as always, follow us on Instagram and TikTok at Right Answers Mostly. We love hearing from you. Welcome to the fam. XOXO. Tess and Claire. Hey, Rammies.

Guys, we're so hungover. I don't think I've actually ever been this hungover in the studio. I'm so sorry to like bring it here immediately, but I feel like we have to let you know what you're dealing with. We have to get it off our chest. We just, I don't know who we thought we were last night. Sometimes when you like, you know, haven't hung out for a while and you have a little reunion. Yeah. We went out with our friend Allison. Happy birthday, Allison. Happy birthday. 30 flurry thriving. Yeah.

You just sometimes feel like you're 16 again. You do, and you live that way. And it was a nice summer's evening. And here we are today. And it was probably, like, the worst day to be in this situation. We did an ASMR video with our dear editor, Chris. Look out for that. Maybe it's already out. Who knows? Yes. And we recorded another episode right before this. So we are on our, like...

Third hour here. Yes, we're breaking the fourth wall. And you know what? We just hope that that gives... We hope you guys feel kind of bad for us. Really? That's all we're getting at? Tess, please read what you... Tess was supposed to have a dentist appointment this morning, guys. At what time? 8 a.m.? I was supposed to have a dentist appointment at 9 a.m. Okay. And I texted them at 12.50. Also crazy, you can text your dentist's office? It is crazy. I love it. 12.50 a.m. 12.50 a.m. And I say...

Hi, I am so sorry. I have fallen ill and don't want to compromise the office. Is there any availability next week? And she texted me back at 630 and said, let me take a look. Feel better.

She was like, this bitch is out. She's drunk texting me right now. So anyone else drunk text their dentist? Let me know. Yes, please let us know. You really don't drunk text until you drunk text your dentist. Exactly. So I was not an adult this morning. I woke up to Advil and water by my bed that my dear boyfriend was like, you will need this because apparently I was screaming when I got home into his ear.

So he got mad at him for telling you that you were screaming. He was like, you're screaming. I was like, wow, wow, I can't believe it. I can't believe you're even telling me that I'm screaming. Poor thing. So yikes. We've just been saying ouch all morning. But we still are drinking. But sometimes it is the only way. It doesn't feel good. But I don't think anything will feel good. No, nothing. I didn't even have coffee this morning. That might have been a mistake.

But anyway, so these are the girls you're going to get advice from today. We're going to ask or answer all the Ramy questions that we have. Yes, thank you for sending them in. We love you for sending them in. We really do. Shall we just get it going? Yeah, let's just get into it. And we'll do this again, whether you like it or not. Yes, but really let us know. If you really don't like this, let us know. But I guess let's give you something to work with. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay.

Tia Ramey's question number one, rituals to perform on your period. They're like turning this off right now. I've had enough officially. Not today. Do you have any rituals you perform on your period? Never have. I howl at the moon. Oh, you do? No, I'm not very connected to my cycle either. Like I saw something on TikTok that shows the phases of like each day, like what your body is going through. It's like

Day one, you have the most energy. Your skin clears up. Day two, you plummet. You feel a little bit more like it's crazy what we have to go through. And men listening, you don't even fucking know. You don't even fucking know. And like I know that's not your fault, but like also we just want you to feel bad for our skin. And sometimes when you do snap, like saying PMS, like I think people are like, oh, that's just like a – it's a real, real thing. Yeah, I just don't like someone being like your PMS thing. Never say it. But it is a real thing. Yeah. Like –

There'll be times where I'll just start crying and I'm like, what's happening? Like what? If something takes over your body, it's like a possession. It's a monster. A monster. A monster. So I don't really have, when I used to, if I have bad period cramps, um, cannabis will help. And a heating pad. And a heating pad. Yes. Get a heating pad. For sure. So what rituals do you guys perform on your period? Let us know. DM us. Truly.

Number two, how to pack for a trip without overpacking. There's no way to do it. Next question. I mean, I really try to visualize, like before I open that suitcase, I'm just like, I'm really good at packing, I have to say. That's nice. I haven't checked a bag for...

Years. Well, two years. So here's the thing. I used to always check a bag and then I started dating Corey and he was like, we're not going to do this anymore. You're like, damn it. Literally. I know my family is listening. Like I am that person that's just annoying and has a huge bag. It's so annoying when people are like, well, you stay in for a month. Yeah. You're like, you know, just shut the fuck up. But Tess, tell us your tricks then. I just like to really visualize like...

How, you know, weather's very important. I'm really aware of like the forecast, the hourly forecast. I like to bring a couple of backup options, but I'm just like, you know what? I have a dress for this.

You know, a couple of t-shirts, jeans, pants. I usually bring one to two pair of shoes. I'm not a shoe gal. I only own like six pairs of shoes and I'm like, they're all going. I, it's just my sneakers and Birkenstocks for everything. And you always look great on vacation. So do you plan each outfit for each day? I do. I do.

Yeah, I just don't know if I'm going to be in that mood at that point. It's really hard. It's really hard. And when we go on a girls' trip, we all just end up wearing each other's. Everyone else's clothes. Which is always fun. But again, if you're going for vacation for three days, you need to pack 10 pairs of underwear. You just never know. Underwear is always something. You've learned that the hard way. You do. When you have to turn it inside out. You do. It just doesn't feel good. No, it doesn't. All right. Dear Rammies, number three, favorite part about the podcast. Cute. Cute.

Tess, do you want to take it away? Being with you. I mean, honestly. Same. Getting to like work with your best friend every day is a chef's kiss. Chef's kiss. Truly, there's not really one thing I don't like about this podcast. Same. It's my pride and joy to be able to work on this. I think it's like you, the community, like feeling like we're a part of something. You Rammies are the best. Truly. And just like...

Yeah, getting to explore like with each other. Yeah, and I've learned a lot. It's been so much. So fun. I mean, I still have moments that I think back on and things I've said on episodes and I still cringe. But you know, it's always a journey. It's always a journey. But you guys are here with us. Yeah, we just have so much fun with it. We do. We do. Dear Rammies, if you had to have entirely different career change, what would it be? Interesting segue. Wow, entirely different.

What would it be, Claire? I think, oh, my first instinct is like interior decorating. Yes. Yes. I think that would be really fun. Oh, I can see that. Like in another life, like you are this like New York. Oh, my God. Interior designer. Wow. I think that would be so cool and fun and like getting to set up people, different people's homes. Yeah.

So maybe that. Well, you and Corey both have very good taste. Thank you so much. I'm so lucky that my boyfriend loves interior design as we're trying to furnish our apartment. No, every time I go in, it's truly just like it looks better and better each time. She's very classy and like interesting. Like I think you guys take some risks, which was really nice. Wow. Thank you so much. You're welcome. So maybe that's the world I would live in or construction. Why wasn't that the first thing I thought about?

I think you like to see things like come together. I like to build things, yeah. And it's like a... It's a process. It's like good payoff at the end. Totally. I'm so curious what yours would be. I think it would be something... I think I'd want to be like a therapist. You would thrive in that. I'd like...

Yeah, or like a guidance counselor or something for like that has to do with like young women. So yeah, maybe like a therapist for like young women. I love that. That is so important. Yeah, I just feel like it's really fascinating in general, just the human brain and all of our shit that we... Totally. That we take on and that affects us for our whole lives and... Probably never a dull day either. Never a dull day. And I just think, you know, women...

Women rock. And I would like to, if I can like tell an 11 year old girl like that, it's going to be okay. I would want to do that. Wow. That is amazing. I'm like going to put a credenza in someone's house and you're going to change the world. Maybe in my next life. Yeah. Or maybe in this life. I never know. It's true. Yeah. Find you a girl who can do both. Truly. All right. Dear Rammies, marry, fuck, kill LA, New York or Nashville.

Jesus. I've actually never been to Nashville, but I feel like I have its, like, I feel like I understand its essence. You know, it's like Southern. But like a city. Urban fun. Oh, wow. And just trees and green. Yeah, I love Nashville. Ooh, I'm like, would I fuck Nashville? I know. I'm like, would I marry Nashville? Ooh. This is crazy. I feel like I would fuck New York for the energy. It'd be a wild ride. That's true. I'd fuck New York too.

marry Nashville and kill LA. I think so too. Even though we've lived here, I've lived here for 10 years now. I do love LA, but it's also really easy just to make fun of. And there's a lot of things about LA like compared to other cities that just suck. Yeah. No kidding. Like no fucking way to get around town. Right. And I don't want to marry New York like at all. I really don't. Um, and I don't want to live there right now, but the energy when you visit. Exactly. And sometimes you just need that wham, bam, thank you, ma'am. That's right. And New York can provide that for you. I agree. So there we go. Nashville.

Looking forward to a good life together. Truly. Dear Rammies, if you could be one age for the rest of your life, what would it be and why?

Oh, okay. So my first answer, I'll go ahead and say it. 17. I just think that's such a cool age. You're not a girl, not yet a woman. Right? And like, there's so much ahead of you. And like, there's so many songs about being 17 because it's a magical age. Oh, I could cry. Same. Like 17 has always been like so special to me. Summer, summer when you're 17. Oh, there's nothing like it. Nothing like it. I can't think about it too much because I'll spiral. Same. Same.

Either that or like 72. Oh, wow. Because you can do whatever the fuck you want. Like retired? Yes. Like eating ice cream all day, every day, which you can do at any age too. But like saying whatever you want and just like chilling. Oh, those are great answers. Thank you. Those are great answers. I'm like torn between like...

Truly being like 10. Oh, yeah. Being like a kid. Being a kid because it's just like... I don't want to go back there. Yeah, I actually could never think I can...

I mean, there's so much. Oh, God. I don't know. I think the innocence and the naivete to have that forever is a special thing. So special. And just that, you know, playfulness and imagination. Corey and I walked by some kids playing the other day and I was like, remember when you could just play for hours and it was so fun? I think he was worried about me because I was like, I've never felt joy like that ever in my adult life. Unless you're like on drugs. Yeah, exactly. Exactly.

That is our playing for hours. But after, like, alcohol is a drug and I feel like shit today. Exactly. It's only lasts so long. That's true. I don't know. I mean, like, I really did like mid-20s too because if you still get that, like, you can be a little irresponsible, but you're also, like, figuring yourself out. You can try a lot of things and be, like, experimentive and...

career and creativity. I truly just think we're going to say this 10 years from now about this age now. So I think we've got to start enjoying it. No, it's true. It's true. I mean, I've really liked my 30s so far. I have to say quite the change in so many things for me when I hit when I turned 30. A beautiful decade, they say. Yeah. Beautiful decade. Wow.

It's my turn? Okay. Right, right? Oh, yeah. Okay. Dear Rammies, if you could have any hobby, regardless of social stigma, what would it be? I'm like, what are the hobbies that this person is thinking of? I'm like, you want to say something? Because, like, I don't know. Ah.

Social stigma. Like, I can't think of a hobby that I would like to do that people will be like, ew, or like, how dare you? Is this like, like if you like to do magic tricks or something? Oh, that, see, that is. It's tough. We were in a bar one time. My friend, our friend, Alice and Allison, and a man came up to us and started doing magic. And Alice just goes, I'm sorry. No.

No. The worst thing. We were once saying if you saw any Bumble match with a, what's the worst profession? And it would be part-time magician. Magician. That's tough. It's tough all around. Sorry to you magicians out there. Yeah, but guys, just know. God, I don't know. I mean, I'm like, what are my hobbies now? This is a dark episode. I can't think of one of like social stigma. I'm so sorry to this question. Same. I do wish I had something that I...

like went out and did like you going horseback riding like I wish like when my boyfriend's like I'm gonna go like shoot some hoops yeah I wish I had something like that but I just don't really we can go kick the ball around I hate soccer I'm sorry guys it has never been kind to me gotten two concussions from someone just hitting me when I wasn't even playing like on this

Sitting down and a soccer ball just came to my head. Yeah, we won't do that to you. But it's never too late to start. That's true. Maybe we could play wall. Wall ball? Ball. Sure. All we need is a ball and a wall. I love wall ball. Me too. So maybe that. Kids get competitive. They really do. Like scary. Little fuckers. Deer ram. Oh, I like this one. Is it deer rammy or deer rammies? Great question. Well, I guess we're plural. That's true.

Dear Rammies, thoughts on what you share with your significant other versus what you share with your girlfriends? Great question. Great question. Tess, you want to take it away? No. I don't. I think that it is...

Okay, there's a phrase that I think of when I hear this question and it's don't go to the hardware store for apples. And like what that means is like don't go someplace where you're not going to get what you need from there. Like you can't find that there. And I think that like every relationship fills us in different ways. And like you don't have to have one person that you have to go to for everything. You have to share everything with. That's a great analogy. Thank you. Do you feel like...

I didn't make it up. I mean, yes, I did. Yes, you did. Do you feel like there's sort of, um, God, my brain. I know. Do you feel like there's certain things like that you like, oh my God, what is wrong with me? That you like your gut is like, like if something happens, like you kind of save some things like you're like first instinct to tell Corey something about like,

Just anything? Yeah, versus girlfriends. Like, are there things that you save for both parties in a way that you've noticed your, like, habits? Hmm. Like, obviously, like, pop culture stuff. Like... Yeah, yeah. You know? Or actually, well, my boyfriend really likes... I think there is, like, some things...

And it's different because I think there's some like intimate things that I feel like it's easier to share with my girlfriends. And there's things that I feel like I only want to share with my partner. Yeah, it's so true. But I just think that this one, like it doesn't have to be so black and white. Like I don't think that you have to tell your significant other everything. I don't think you have to tell your girlfriends everything. Yes. I think you, as you get older too, like that's something I've realized of...

Like you don't have to, if you're hit on, you don't have to go home and be like, guess who hit on me at the grocery store. Exactly. Unless it's like a funny story. But like there's just some things that it's like. But you could tell your girlfriends that. Exactly. And like, yeah, there's really intimate things that you share with your significant other that like you keep that in the vault for your own relationship. That's really special that you don't tell other people. So like. Exactly. But Lord knows, I mean, I'm very close to my girlfriends. Same. And I can't imagine not being.

telling you guys really anything. I know. That's why Corey always is like, I'm going to tell you something you can't go tell your friends. They do have to tell us this. And I will honor it. But sometimes it's a good reminder. Yeah, no kidding. Exactly. It's hard. Wow.

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For me, JonBenet. Same, because I feel like I already know. Yeah. I already know Khloe Kardashian's real father. We already know that, so that's not necessary. Yes. JonBenet, I mean, like, I just have to know. I have to know. I have to know now. Oh, but we'll never know. We'll never know. I just, I don't think we'll ever know. There's that tweet that's like, what's the first thing you'd ask when you get to heaven? I've been to kill JonBenet. And it's like, I, yeah. Same. What else would you really want to know at first?

I can't think of anything besides the other question. Yeah. But yeah, JonBenet for sure. What about you guys? Let us know. Yeah. We'll post these on our stories too. Hold on. Did your computer die? Oh no, I thought it did. Okay. We're good. We're good. We're good. Oh boy. My heart. Okay. All right. Dear Rammies, if you could physically revisit one piece of history from an episode, what would it be? Wow. Like where you'd like, you'd be there during that time. I think so.

I think I would have to be on the dance floor at CUF 54. I knew you were going to say that. I'm thinking back on our episodes, though. I think I would go to...

Are you going to say Titanic? No, but oh, Jesus. I know, but it's like if I get to have first class dinner on the Titanic, do I have to stay for the sinking ship? Oh, OK. So if is this like you have to experience all of it? That's a great question. Let's say no. Let's have fun with this. OK, because I don't want to drown. OK, then Titanic first class or to go to a party down in third class like Rose does. Yes, that's where the real because apparently that was just the best. That's the real party.

Is there any others? Or Woodstock. I think I would really just like want to be like high dancing. Yes. With the fireflies. Yeah, with the fireflies. I've been so high in my life. Holy shit. Yeah, that would be great. I'm trying to think if there's any others like...

I don't really want to hang out with the Romanoff. I honestly would want to go to one of the old Playboy parties, too. Yeah, that'd be cool. I mean, I'm sure I would be horrified by what I saw, but same. And probably what would happen to us, but yeah. Yes, great picks. Wow, we have some fun places to go. Check out our old episodes. Please do. I was like, Salem in the 1600s. Man, with my mouth, I would not even survive a moment. We would be gone. Gone in a second. In a second.

But if we were witches. Exactly. Then we could poof on out. A little karma. That's right. Oh, we skipped one. We did? That was my bad. I'll do it real quick. Number 10. Would you rather be a Jenner or a Kardashian? That's hard. A Jenner. Yeah. I think, you know, I have my own relationship with the Kardashians. It's not like I hate them, but they also have a pretty bad name. Yeah, no kidding. You know what I mean? Like,

They're complicated, but I just think I'd rather be a Jenner. Well, I would like the height that comes with the Jenners. Yep. Yeah. Sure. Sure. Sure. It's our last one. It is our last one. Dear Rammies, I'm moving to a new place soon, and I know you've had that experience before. What is your advice for making friends in new places? How to make friends in a new town? How'd you do it, Claire? How the hell did you do it?

I will just say, first off, give yourself time to adjust to the new place. Don't expect to love it right away, even if it's someplace you've already known. And I'm saying time is in like two years at least. And I think that you have to go do things that you don't want to go do. Like you have to go to hangouts that you don't want to go hang out at or like

outdoor functions that maybe you're like, oh, this just seems like socially exhausting. Yep. And you're going to have like different groups of friends in the beginning. And like, that doesn't mean that they're going to be like your friends in this town, but you just have to try. Yeah. Just like dating. You have to put yourself out there and know that it might not be forever, but like to test the waters. Exactly. And just try to enjoy and explore. Yep.

And we're going to be your friends no matter where you go. Exactly. So you have us in your pocket. Oh, yeah, you always do. Yeah, we're always here for you. Someone texted us the other day and they said that they were sort of like in a new city and they were lonely and...

They said that they listened to the... So in Texas? Mm-hmm. We'll talk after. Yeah. That's so sweet. That's so sweet. It's true, though. It was Genevieve. Oh, Genevieve, we love you. Oh, and she was filming on set. Oh, right. Yes, yes. I remember. That's just the best. It's the best. And this is a community. And also, guys, you can reach out to each other. Yes.

Literally. I started a Facebook page and then I stopped because it was just, nothing was happening over there. Facebook is dead. Yeah, but if you join our Patreon, there's that Patreon Ramy community. Yes, and we'll be having Zoom hangouts every month so you can meet people on there. Exactly. Different cities, different countries. Exactly. Shout out to our Canadians. We love you. We love you guys. Canadian Ramy's, you know who you are. You do? Yeah.

Well, I had a great time. I did too. That was a fun episode. Hopefully you guys enjoyed that. If anything came to mind for next time, send in questions. Please send in. We love doing this. Yes, we always do. And we love you. Have a good rest of your Monday, you little cutie pies. We'll see you later.