10 traits of a high-value woman
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Hello and welcome to the Claim Your Power podcast, the ultimate show for all things self-love, spirituality, and personal growth. I'm your host, Kim Peretz. I'm a three-time author, content creator, avid traveler, entrepreneur, and matcha enthusiast. You are at the right place if you're ready to rediscover the love within, align with your purpose, and unleash your highest potential. It's time to claim your power.

Hello, my beautiful friends, and welcome back to another episode of the podcast. If you're new here, my name is Kim Peretz, and I am the host of this show. And I just wanted to quickly say that I am so, so grateful.

for all of you guys amazing subscribers back home who always leave beautiful ratings who tag me in your stories who subscribe to the show it makes my day and it keeps supporting me and allows me to continue to produce these episodes for you guys every single freaking week

So I am so excited to dive into today's episode because this topic is always requested. You guys request this topic no matter what I talk about. Even if I made a podcast episode on this topic yesterday, you guys are going to ask me for a part two. I know you guys are going to ask me for a part two on this episode. And you guys, you know what? If you want a part two, I will bring you guys a part two for this. But this is a very requested topic.

We are talking about 10 traits of a powerful, high-value woman. You're not less of value if you don't do these things. It's just these traits, when a woman embodies these traits, when you learn to embody these traits, your self-value with yourself goes up.

the way you start perceiving yourself goes up. Because again, you guys know on this side of the podcast, everything that we talk about, everything we do is about the inner work. It's not about perceiving and being perceived a certain way to other people. It's about being perceived from a certain energy towards ourself and radiating that energy outwards.

So I just wanted to preface this episode by saying like if you don't do one of these traits, that doesn't mean you're not a high value woman. I'm doing that in quotation marks. This is just an episode that shows you guys that these are traits to start embodying. These are things to start working on and these are things that when you start embodying these traits in your life and in your relationships, then things around you shift.

Your energy shifts, you become more magnetic, you become more approachable. The people that you used to attract into your life are no longer going to linger and be leeches in your life because you're just not going to be an energetic match to these people anymore. So if you want to be that powerful, knows-her-worth, unfuckawithable woman, then tune in, baby. 10 traits of a high-value woman. Let's do it.

Trait number one is she is the type of woman who is unapologetically herself. So do you want to know what true confidence is? I'm going to tell you. Confidence is not about going into a room and thinking you're the best and thinking you're the wealthiest and the smartest and the most pretty. That's not confidence. Confidence is actually the opposite of comparison. Confidence and comparison do not go hand in hand.

Confidence is about going and walking into a room and owning who you are unapologetically. It's not having to look left and right all the time because you don't need other people's validation to feel good from the inside. It's about being the most you-est version of you.

That is the trait of a high value woman is a woman who is unapologetically herself. And the reason that this is also so, so powerful is in turn, people will start perceiving you as more confident. It just comes with the territory because when you are comfortable enough with yourself to be unapologetically yourself,

then you exude confidence. But if you're someone who struggles with self-confidence a lot, my biggest tip for you in embodying this trait is to work on being unapologetically yourself instead of thinking you have to be the most confident version of yourself. It's actually about finding your own uniqueness, what makes you you, and

and bringing that with you everywhere you go. Because at the end of the day, your energy is your currency. Your energy is your footprint. And that's what makes you you. So it's not about being the prettiest girl in the room. It's not about being the most successful girl in the room. It's about being the woman who is unapologetically herself.

I cannot begin to tell you how many women I know that are so beautiful, so beautiful. Like if you look at them by society's standards, they are just the most beautiful women ever. And you'd look at them and you think, how could they ever feel insecure? And it is because these women have not made peace with who they are from the inside.

They do not feel worthy from the inside. They do not know how to be unapologetically themselves. So it doesn't matter if they are the most beautiful, prettiest person in the room, they don't feel like it. And when they don't feel like it, then other people are going to pick up on that energy too.

So the most powerful trait that we are starting off this episode with is being able to be unapologetically yourself. When I walk into a room, I know that I may not be the prettiest person in the room. I may not be the smartest person in the room. I may not be the tallest person in the room or the person with the most perfect hair or da-da-da or the richest even. But I know who I am.

I know that I'm going to be the most me-est version of me when I'm walking into that room and I'm going to own it. And that is what you have to start doing too. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Stop comparing yourself. When you walk into a room, stop looking left and right. What are they doing? What are they doing? How do they look? What do they think? Stop.

Stay in your lane, girl. Stay in your lane. When you walk into a room, bring in the energy of unapologetically being yourself.

Be yourself. And I always say this also, like for instance, if you're going on a first date, ask yourself, what part of yourself are you not bringing? If you have a certain relationship or friendship, you're going on a first date or anything that has to do with you portraying yourself and being yourself, I want you to ask yourself, what part of myself am I not bringing right now? And how can I bring it? For instance, if you're someone who's very spiritual like me,

for a long time when I would go out on a date or I would meet a friend for the first time, I wouldn't talk about my spiritual side at all. At all. But the problem with that was is I wasn't bringing a huge component of who I am. I wasn't being unapologetically myself. And so what ended up being is I was attracting people who were 50% themselves too because I was showing up as 50% of myself.

But if you're 100% unapologetically yourself, even if it feels uncomfortable at first, it's universal law that with time you will start attracting people who are also unapologetically themselves, who are also 100% sure and confident about you. Trait number two of a high value woman is a woman who never gives up her standards, her values, or her life for anyone.

This one's going to make some of you guys uncomfortable because I know, I know some of you guys have been crossing oceans for men who have not even gone in the water for you.

Stop abandoning your standards in order to cure or self-gratify the fact that you feel temporarily lonely. But a lot of what women do is when we feel temporary moments of loneliness, we look for external quick fixes in men who don't actually possess the qualities that we desire.

And what that ends up doing is causing us to go down a spiral and a loop and a cycle. And he said this and he cheated on me and he doesn't want to buy me flowers and he doesn't treat me like this and la, la, la, la. And it all started because in the first place, a part of you knew, but you decided to abandon your standards or abandon your life for this man that you just met.

A high value woman never abandons her standards for anyone or her life. For instance, if you have plans to go to the gym or to travel or to start that new hobby or to go to that retreat or to meet a friend for coffee, then you stick to those plans.

Why? Because you value your life and you realize that when a man walks into your life, it's not in order to fill a void. It's in order to share a life with you that you already love. And if you abandon all of the things that you love about your life for a man that you just met or even a man that you've been seeing for a couple of months, A, you lose the spark because you've just given everything up for this man.

And so you've got no motivation going in your life. You've got no purpose. He becomes your purpose. He becomes your pedestal. He becomes your target in life. And that strips you of your feminine energy. Because as women, we are meant to thrive. We are meant to constantly grow and evolve. And even if you are with a partner for four or five years, you never abandon your life for them.

You stick to your hobbies. You stick to your habits. You stick to your routine because that also is what allows you and your partner to thrive because you're both growing together. A relationship will always fall apart once one or the two people stop growing. This is something that's happened to me a couple of years ago when I was dating one of my exes

I had given up a lot of what I was loving because I was so caught up in the relationship. The relationship became my life. He became my life. And so I had given up so many things that I loved and so many things that I loved doing and so many habits. And this didn't even have to do with him. It wasn't him telling me to give up these things. It was me giving up these things.

Because I didn't value myself enough to continue to commit to myself even when I was in a loving relationship with somebody else.

So I'm just here to remind you that in order to feel your most powerful self, you will never abandon your standards or your life for anyone. Anyone, anyone, anyone, anyone. Trait number three of a high value woman is a woman who is radically in love with herself. She knows, you know, because you are that high value woman, that you are your own soulmate.

It is your job to fall madly in love with yourself. When you are madly in love with yourself, you will also start attracting people into your life who feel the same amazing feelings about you. But the problem is a lot of women go into relationships seeking love when the love that they seek is actually love for themselves.

is love that they lack from inside themselves. Because I promise you that the universe will never ever ever let you feel comfortable in a place that you are not meant to settle. Meaning that if you have parts of yourself that still lack self-love, if you are still going around life not loving yourself, not accepting yourself, not having any relationship with yourself,

then everything around you is going to start reflecting that to you and making you uncomfortable until you take that initial step, change the energy, change the response, and create something different for yourself. So that's trait number three of a high-value woman. It's a woman who is radically in love with herself.

Now, that doesn't mean perfectionism. It just means a woman who realizes that at the end of the day, like you are your own soulmate. Even if you're madly in love, you're married, five children, cows, cats, dogs, horses, you name it.

Even if you have all of that and you have an amazing relationship, you are your own soulmate. You came to this earth to get to know yourself on a deep level and therefore have it reflected outwards. But never ever forget that. That at first, you will always be your own soulmate. You will be the first person that you've ever been with, the last person that you've ever been with, the person that you wake up with, the person that you go to sleep with. It's you.

Trait number four of a high value woman is a woman who never ever begs. She doesn't chase, she attracts. There's a Bible quote that says, I believe it's like, he who finds a wife. I'm not religious, but I do have to say that that quote hits right in the spot of what I'm trying to talk about.

He who finds a wife.

Now, what I'm about to talk about is for people who want that masculine, feminine energy, men and women. So if you're someone with other sexual preferences, I'm just going to give that example right now with a man and a woman because that's the type of relationship dynamic that I know and that I'm familiar with. But please take what I take and apply it into your own relationship dynamic if you have a different preference.

But if you are someone who enjoys being in their feminine energy, he who finds a wife, he must go out and find you. Therefore, it is not your job to chase, but rather be open to receive.

It is not your job to beg and resist and control, but rather live your life and be the amazing woman that you've always been and that you've always meant to be and let the person come to you and let the man come to you. Because I promise you, it's in their veins, it's in their blood, it's in their nature. They love it. They love to chase things.

They are hunters and gatherers in their DNA. This is biologically what they're meant to do. They get the adrenaline by feeling like they won you over. And if you're the one chasing the guy constantly, you're also going to tire yourself out. You're going to notice. You're going to feel tired. You're going to feel like you're always the one making the effort.

And if you're someone who prefers being in their feminine energy, that's going to start feeling uncomfortable for you. The egg does not swim to the sperm. Chasing and running after someone is how the crown falls off, sis. Stop chasing men. Period. I don't want to hear, oh, but, but he's shy, but maybe he doesn't know how he feels about me, but he just broke up. So he's confused. So maybe I should take the first little lap. No.

that's not a man then you're dealing with a little boy you're dealing with I don't know what but why you're such a like an amazing woman I know the women that listen to this are also women who are committed to their self-growth and their healing and their development it's like what are you doing with a man who doesn't even know how to pursue that's like bare minimum that's literally bare minimum

That shouldn't even be a standard. Like him knowing how to pursue you and take action and show you he's interested, if he's not doing that, that should just give you the ick. If you have to chase a guy and beg for a guy and do everything for a guy, that should just give you an ick. So if you have to chase a guy and do everything for a guy and beg him and da-da-da, the truth is either he's not in his divine masculine energy and he doesn't want to be,

Or he's just not that interested. Either way, it's not worth your energy. Just continue to move forward with your life and invest your energy into people and men that are invested in you. Men should give you feelings of security when they're starting out. Do not chase attract.

And if you struggle with the attract component, I really recommend you listen to some of my confidence episodes or any episodes that I filmed on like goddess energy and how to be hot and unbothered because those are also great episodes that are really supportive in that. Again, if the guy that you're interested in requires you to beg and chase him, then again, he's either in his wounded masculinity or

And he'll never step up, by the way. He'll never step up. Because if you come into an energy with the masculine energy, then you're going to straight away put him in his feminine energy.

Or he's just not interested. Either way, move on, keep going forward with your life. And that leads me to number five, treat number five. And that is that a powerful woman, a high value woman that knows her worth is a woman who knows that rejection and redirection and that there is enough to go around.

She doesn't have a scarcity mindset when it comes to dating and it comes to the people around her. She has an abundance mindset, meaning she knows that when something doesn't work out with someone, it's because something better is coming. She knows that she didn't get rejected. She got redirected. Some might call her the Lulu. I call her high value.

Trait number six of a high value woman is a woman who knows how to take care of her hygiene, of herself, of her appearance. Okay, guys? Yes, of course, your soul is what makes you beautiful. Period. There's no denying that. That's not even up for debate. However, we live in a physical world. And if you don't take care of your body, of your hygiene, your vessel, your body,

Your body is what houses your soul. So the way that you take care of your body through your hygiene, through the habits that you have for yourself, through the food that you feed yourself is incredibly impactful because that also impacts your spirit and your soul.

And this is why I believe that a really important component of embodying that high value woman energy is taking good care of your body and your hygiene and your appearance. It's doing the things that make you feel good because also when you look good, you start to feel good. You start to feel more confident. You start to feel more embodied. It just comes with the territory.

So I really suggest finding a perfume that you love, a signature perfume. Go to Sephora, try different samples or an essential oil. Sometimes I love to use different essential oils that are also amazing like Rolands. But find a scent that you love.

And stick to it. Wear it. Wear outfits that make you feel confident, that align with the higher version of yourself, that align with the identity and the avatar that you want to be, with the woman that you want to become. Take care of yourself. Brush your teeth. Floss. Wear deodorant. Do your skincare. Feed your body with foods that make it feel good.

Move your body, work out, take care of yourself. These are really, really important things that you should never put on the back burner because the way that you take care of yourself on the outside, again, that's what houses your inside too. Trait number seven of a high value woman is a woman who is extremely uninterested in dimming down other women because she knows she stands in her own light.

High value women do not spend all their time and energy talking about other people. They spend their time and energy talking about ideas and experiences and dreams and goals. High value women do not need to dim down other women to, you know, talk shit about

to bring down another woman because she stands in her own light. And she also knows that when she brings down another woman, you're going to also bring yourself down. Two birds with one stone. You can't bring somebody else down without ever it coming back to you because that's just how the universe works. It's like a parachute. You put something out, it comes back to you.

So a high value woman masters that energy and knows that when she allows other women to shine and feel confident and she compliments other women and she's the type of woman who makes other girls feel seen and heard and beautiful and valued.

then she in turn also raises her own energy and raises her own magnetism. Trait number eight of a high value woman is a woman who is in her receptive energy. She knows that she just has to open her arms up

and allow life to bless her. She knows how to receive compliments. She knows how to receive gifts. She knows how to receive help. It's okay. You can still be an independent boss bitch woman while also being in your feminine energy and being able to receive.

Just because you're receiving help from someone doesn't mean you're not capable. Just because you're receiving compliments from someone doesn't mean the other person is any less than. So you got to start shifting your mindset around the energy of receiving because I truly noticed that

The most high value women around me in my life are women who know how to receive. They know how to receive help. They know how to receive support. They know how to receive compliments and gifts and blessings. They don't constantly put it off. When they get a compliment, they don't constantly parachute it back or block it off. When someone offers them help, they don't look at them twice and tell them, oh, I can do it all on my own. Yeah, I can do it on my own, but do I want to, you know, carry a bunch of heavy water bottles or heavy grocery bags? Not really.

Can I look at the instructions and build a desk with screws and whatever, hammers and whatever else you need to use? Yes, I can. Do I want to? If a nice man came and offered to help me, you best know I'm going to be like, yeah, baby. I'd love to receive some help. Not because I'm not capable, but because...

I can receive support and energy knowing that that doesn't take anything away from me. Trait number nine of a high value woman is a woman who's not afraid to walk away. She's not afraid to lose people. Girls, you gotta stop being afraid to lose everyone all the time because frankly, you've been losing yourself.

If you're constantly afraid of losing everyone and constantly then perceiving you this way and you accidentally saying the wrong thing and that hurts their feelings or you, you know, not voicing what makes you feel comfortable or what your value is or your standard and you're just like out here people pleasing the world and their mothers, then you're going to lose yourself. You're going to make sure you don't lose anyone in your life except yourself. But I'm going to tell you something. Sometimes it's okay to lose certain people in your life.

Sometimes it's okay to walk away. It's actually a very powerful thing. People will start to respect you and your time and your energy a lot more if you're not someone who easily deals with BS. If you're someone who can be easily fooled. Let me tell you something. Nice girls do not win. Nice girls, this is like with a hand on your heart because I used to be the nice girl. I used to be nice girl. Nice girls get disrespected sometimes.

They get cheated on. They're undervalued, are just constantly walked all over, and they don't get what they want. Be the black cat. The black cat is the person who can walk away from someone, who can stand their ground, who can speak their truth in their voice while doing it elegantly with self-respect and love in their hearts. Nice girls just do not win. There's like a whole book on this. It's called Why Men Love Bitches.

Why men love bitches and it talks about the idea of being a doormat and a dream girl and being a nice girl is being a doormat. Now I'm not saying be a bitch to people or be unkind or disrespect people, not at all. I'm saying be the type of girl who's not afraid to walk away from people, who's not afraid to be like, you know what?

That doesn't work with me. You know what? That's not enough for me. You know what? This communication style or this behavior is just not cutting it for me. So I'm going to walk away and I'm going to choose myself even if it means I have to lose people, even if it means a certain disappointment because at least I didn't lose myself. Stop losing yourself constantly over people who frankly probably don't care if they lose you.

If you're someone who's always been a nice grown-up people pleaser, you have such a big heart. I know it because I was one of those women. I have been, you know, learning constantly throughout my life in the past years and I really believe that your big heart should be reserved for people who truly deserve it. And then when you open your heart and you give the gifts that you have to offer, it's the people who are really going to, you know, take it and cherish it.

Nice girls do not win. Nice girls do not get what they want. The women who get what they want in life and the women who feel the best in their relationships with other people and with themselves are the women who are not afraid to walk away. They're not afraid to lose. And lastly, trait number 10 of a high value woman is a woman who is radically committed to her growth,

to her education, and to her evolvement. She does not stop growing. She's getting that degree. She's getting that certification. She's reading that book.

She's starting that initiative. She continues growing. Doesn't matter who's with her, who's not with her, who's got her back, who doesn't. She is committed to her growth, her physical growth, her spiritual growth, her mental growth. Because she is constantly choosing to work on the things that no one can take away from her.

And that is why that is the last treat, is to continue growing. Listen to those podcasts. Take those courses. Get those degrees. Go to those retreats or those seminars. Put yourself in those rooms that allow you to grow. It's so, so, so important and will allow you to become the woman that you've always wanted to be.

So I hope you guys love this episode. Let me know if you guys want a part two. I love you guys so much. I'm sending you all a big hug and I'll see you guys next week. Beautiful souls, thank you so much for joining me in today's episode. As always, I will talk to you next week. Bye.

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