5 traits that will instantly make you MAGNETIC
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Hello my friends and welcome back to the podcast. Today's episode is so, so good. We are talking about five traits that once you start embodying them in your life will instantly make you magnetic.

When you start embodying these five traits that I'm going to be talking about today, you will notice people be gravitated towards you, people complimenting your energy, people respecting you more, and most importantly, you feeling your best, you feeling like your highest self. But most importantly, before I dive into this amazing episode, I have a really great announcement for you guys.

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Five traits that will instantly make you more magnetic. And I really recommend getting out a journal if you can and taking these notes or writing these notes in your phone so that you can always come back to these traits whenever you feel out of alignment, whenever you feel off, whenever you feel off your A-game, you come back to these traits, you come back to embodying them because that's what really life is about.

No one's magnetic 24-7. We all have moments, but we always remember who do we want to be, how do we want to embody ourself, and then we tap into that energy. The first trait that will instantly make you more magnetic is confidence and having a strong sense of self-worth.

So when I say being confident, I don't mean you feeling like you're better than other people. I don't mean you feeling like you're always 100% the best and you don't have any insecurities or any flaws. It actually means the opposite. Being confident means knowing that you're perfectly imperfect, knowing that you are your spirit, you are your heart, you are your energy, and nobody can take that away from you. And that same goes to self-worth.

Having a strong sense of self-worth is having the inner knowing that other people's ability to recognize your value doesn't determine your worth. You determine your worth and I'm going to give you a really, really good analogy. So there was once a teacher that went up to his class and he held up a $100 bill and he asked the students, how much is this bill worth? And they all looked at him all confused and said $100. Okay.

Then he took that same $100 bill and he crumbled it apart. And then he asked them, how much is this $100 bill worth? And they all looked confused and said $100. And then he took that crumbled bill and threw it on the floor and stepped on it on the floor. And he asked them, how much is this $100 bill worth? And then they all said $100.

Meaning that the way somebody else treats you, the way somebody else behave towards you, the way what other people see in you doesn't take away from your inherent value. Because whatever you do to that $100 bill, unless you actually choose to rip it apart,

apart it's still worth a hundred dollars meaning that unless you let somebody else in your life rip you apart so hard that you've completely forgotten who you are your worth is your worth and nobody can take that away from you and so no matter what other people say no matter what other people do no matter how much other people love or treat you or accept you they can't take away your worth

When you start walking around with this energy of genuinely knowing that you are worthy and valuable, not because of your looks, not because of where you come from, not because of what job you work at, but because of your spirit, because of your energy, because of your soul. And nobody can compete with that. Nobody can take that away from you. And by the way, that's what true confidence is. It's not having to compete with anyone at all. It's recognizing other people's beauty, other people's magnetism, other people's success.

and not seeing that as competition, seeing that as validation for how amazing you truly are because everyone is you pushed out, right? Everyone is mirroring things to you. So if you can recognize other people's success and beauty and magnetism, that means that that energy exists inside of you too. When you walk into a room, this is what you're gonna start doing. You're gonna walk into a room as if the universe sent you.

there as if you are meant to be there. You don't walk into a room trying to let other people's energy influence you. You walk into a room, influence the energy in the room. This is why I always say if somebody else is in a bad mood around you, you don't have to dim yourself down and not be happy and not be your radiant self just because they're miserable. If

Of course, if it's your friend and they're going through a really hard time, you're not going to like, you know, if they're telling you about a breakup, you're not going to look at them in the face as if they're going through that and tell them about your new job promotion. But I'm more talking about if you walk into a room and you see other people being miserable and insecure, you're not going to dim yourself down. You're going to stay confident and rooted in your self-worth because that

is your energy and that's what makes you magnetic and by the way when you have this magnetic energy you will notice insecure people kind of being drawn to you and trying to take that energy away from you that is why I said confidence and self-worth it's because when you have confidence and

other insecure people are going to want to take that away from you. They're going to want to drain that life force. But when you have a strong sense of self-worth, you know, okay, I'm not dealing with these energy vampires. I'm not giving people my energy. I'm only matching up with people who lift me up, not tear me down. Trait number two is having independence and having a life for yourself that you genuinely love.

So when I say independence, I don't mean like the hyper independence, I hate all men mentality boss bitch. I'm talking about emotional independence. I'm talking about knowing that your happiness is your responsibility, knowing that what other people say about you, you don't have to give that your power. It's knowing how to take care of yourself and fill up your own cup and it's

it's creating a life for yourself that you're genuinely in love with, that you're genuinely proud of and you genuinely enjoy, that no matter who walks in and out of that life, they can't take that beautiful life away from you because it's something that you've built for yourself. And by the way, people who lack

that, who lack that emotional independence and who lack their ability to love their own lives. And so they seek out those voids and relationships and friendships and partying and, you know, getting drunk every night and all these things that actually fill up a void inside of them that they're meant to do the inner work on.

Those people, when you finally have your own life, when you enjoy your life, when you go to the gym, when you're meditating, when you're eating healthy, when you're going on hot girl walks, when you're not going to sleep at 2 a.m. every night and you start actually taking care of yourself, certain people in your life that you used to align with, they're going to get triggered by you creating a life for yourself that you love.

Because they don't have that yet. And so they'll start sometimes, like I've had people in my life when I was starting my self-development journey and I was shifting out of an old version of myself and into a new one, I've had certain old people in my life tell me that I don't have any time for them, that I'm a grandma, that I never go out with them anymore, that da-da-da. Basically, when you start shifting your own life, the people in your current reality and environment will either rise with you because they're also doing the inner work or they will fall off.

And so don't let those like little snarky comments of like old people in your life telling you that you've changed or whatever actually make you feel any bad about yourself. Because when somebody sees someone who's so devoted to themselves and can take good care of themselves and they don't do that themselves, that triggers a pain point for them. And so instead of getting triggered yourself, just send those people love and compassion and just keep being you. Keep being your emotionally independent self.

self and again when I say emotionally independent I don't mean like you never complain or you never share things with people in your life I just mean you take responsibility for your life you're not a victim mindset type of person nobody likes to be around victims that's not an attractive trait that's not magnetism that's

someone who's magnetic is someone who takes responsibility for their life, who can have fun, who can be playful, who can be a radiant joy to be around because they're not used to or they're not dependent on other people in their life to make them feel happy. And that's the most magnetic trait. And nowadays, that's really something that I've learned to embody. And this is something that I get told all the time, especially around men that I go out with. Like,

A man will ask me on like a last minute date, guys, I already have plans to get a massage or see my friend or go to yoga. And some of these men love it because they're high value men and they're like, okay, okay, I'm booking dinner reservation a week in advance. And some of these men will, you know, get triggered and be like, oh, you're so busy, da da da, you never make time, da da da. And that's how you weed out the dusties, by the way. I know this episode is not about dating.

But by having a life of your own that you genuinely love and being committed to that life, you also weed out the dusties and the toxic friends because they no longer can keep up with your energy. Trait number three is kindness, openness, and active listening. The other day I had met a new friend and she's like a mutual friend of one of my best friends.

and I was getting to know her and all I could think in my head was like, this girl is magnetic. Like something about her is just glowing. She's radiating. She's so fun and kind. And I was really trying to pinpoint like where in her energy did I feel it? Because when I meet other magnetic women...

I love it and I love to learn from them. And I'm like, okay, this is an amazing quality and amazing trait. How can I apply it to my own life? I see other magnetic women as immense inspiration to me. And so this girl, when I met her, I was like, wow, this woman is just so inspiring to me. Something about her energy and the way she carries herself is magnetic AF.

And so I started to think to myself when I was, you know, planning out this episode about what are magnetic traits. And I realized that one trait that this woman really possessed was the ability to actively listen. Meaning that when I was speaking to her, she was looking me in the eyes. She wasn't on her phone. She wasn't looking around. She wasn't cutting me off. She was open and kind and she listened to me. My question for you is how often do you hear people and how often do you listen to people?

And a really good exercise that I learned in a workshop that I went to is when you're actively listening to a person, try to, when you're listening to them, think back as they're talking on all the things they've said to you. As if you're about to have like an exam that's,

someone's going to ask you what did they just tell you, you're going to actively think back of what they're saying to you. This allows you to actively listen instead of cut them off, instead of add another comment in the middle as they're talking. When someone feels that they're being actively listened to, they feel like their inner child is healing because we all have some sort of childhood trauma where we didn't feel heard enough, whether that was in our home or whether that was in school or with a certain friendship or with a certain mentor or in sports, whatever it

was in your life think back on it we all have this mutual experience of maybe feeling like we weren't fully heard and fully listened to and so now as adults when somebody else can just be there and hold space for us and listen to us that is the most healing thing and that makes you as the other person so magnetic because it's like you don't need to take up their space in order to feel good about yourself you can make and hold space for them and that actually shifts your own energy too

And so I really invite you like let's all practice this. Let's all practice active listening when you're sitting for coffee with a friend and they're telling you a story. How can you be more present with them in that moment? How can you make them feel like you really want to hear what they have to say? That makes you super, super magnetic, whether that's like in your dating life or to your friendships. Being able to actively listen and be open and be present is such an amazing quality to have.

Trait number four is having an abundance mindset and not being afraid to walk away if your standards in a certain relationship aren't. Yep, that's who you think it is. The Grimmest Mug. The Hello Kitty Keychain. Barbie herself.

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That's ChumbaCasino.com. Sponsored by Chumba Casino. No purchase necessary. VGW Group. Voidware prohibited by law. 18 plus. Terms and conditions apply. Men, that is truly the most magnetic thing that you can do. And when I say being able to walk away, I mean it. I mean not just threatening someone in your life. Oh, if you cheat on me one more time, if you treat me like this one more time, I'm not talking to you.

It's actually owning up your standards through your actions. Someone who has standards doesn't have to voice to the whole world that they have standards. They have to embody those standards. And having an abundance mindset is very magnetic because it's telling yourself there is plenty to go around.

There are plenty of friends that will be true to me. If this one friend is not treating me well, okay, I'm going to let this person go so that I can allow new people to enter. There are plenty of men in the world. If this one man isn't holding up his standards, if this one man isn't treating me the way I want to be treated, then I'm going to walk away from this man because there's plenty of men in the world. If I don't get this job, that's fine because there are plenty of other opportunities in the world. Having an abundance mindset will change your, first of all, your whole mindset, but also your energy.

because you will no longer be needy. You will no longer be desperate and you will no longer stay in environments and situations that aren't lifting you up, up, up.

So firstly, something that I really started embodying this year that changed my life is having this true trait within me of I know how I like to be treated. I know what my standards are. I know what makes me happy and what makes me feel safe and fills my cup. And so if someone isn't living up to that, not in a sense of like toxicity, not in like an ego or a test,

I'm just not going to give them any of my energy because I want to put my energy on where I do want to feel good, on who I do want to be, on what I do want to experience because I know my energy is my currency. So if you want to be a more magnetic person, you have to start embodying this trait of being able to walk away from what isn't serving you. I honestly think something that I've learned through my whole spiritual journey because it very much started out in like the love and light era, everything's beautiful, da-da-da,

And, you know, as you go deeper into your self-development, as you do shadow work, as you realize more about yourself and your life experience, you realize that life has a shadow and you have to have certain tough skin and you have to have boundaries in order to survive out here on earth. Otherwise, people will take your light for granted. You give your light away to the people who recognize it, not the people who are going to overshadow it.

And another really important component to this is when you feel that your standards aren't being met or you feel like you're not getting the treatment that you desire, then you don't dim yourself down and stay in those situations in order to hope that that person will change, in order to hope that something will shift. Most importantly, I think it comes down to this idea of knowing yourself

that you will never settle for any aspect of your life. You will never settle for anything less than you deserve. And most importantly, I also think it's about being able to set those standards and set those boundaries in a very kind and gentle way without actually letting other people impact your energy and your peace.

So for instance, let me give you like a really basic example. Let's say you're the type of woman who wants a divine, secure, masculine guy who's a protector, who's a provider, who sees you as his queen and you bring other things to the relationship like the nurturing, the feminine energy, da da da. And let's say you're talking to this guy on Instagram, whatever, and he's like, let me pick you up in an hour. Let's go get coffee.

If you know that that's not the type of date that you want, if you know that you like when a man goes after you and initiate plans ahead of time to respect your schedule, then you're going to say no to that date in a kind way that sets that boundary, it sets that standard and allow the other person to respond differently or to show you that they're not actually meant for you. So for instance, this literally happened to me like a couple months ago. This guy that I had met was messaging me and he sent me a message of like, when are we hanging or like when are we chilling? Haha.

And I opened that message and I just laughed because I was like, oh, this boy is in for something. He's asking this for the wrong girl. So I just responded back and I was like, what did you have in mind? And so I don't, you know, lower my standards or lower my boundaries at that moment and be like, oh, let's chill on this day. Let's do this. They're done like plan and initiate everything for just the man that I just met.

I give him an opportunity to step up into his masculine and if he does that's great and that's great that I could see that trait in him and if he doesn't then I know right away that it's not meant for me and I can keep having that abundance mindset and put my energy elsewhere and you can apply this concept to like every aspect of your life to your opportunities to different friends to different people that you meet it's really important to maintain that abundance mindset knowing that your standards exist in order to protect you from low quality experiences and

You're not afraid to walk away from situations or environments of people that don't make you feel good. Even if you've known them for five years, even if they say they're your best friend, even if da-da-da, you know that if at some point your energy shifts, at some point you don't feel like you're being lifted up, at some point you feel like you're being drained, then you can walk away or lower the amount of time you spend with that person and put a distance so that you can protect your peace. And that's what makes you magnetic.

It's because when you start protecting your peace and actually, you know, choosing yourself, then that makes people question how valuable you truly are. People should always be like 10% uncomfortable around you. And let me tell you what that means. This is something that my cousin has always told me. And at first I didn't understand this concept, but as I got older and I've had more experience in life and with people, then I realized how crucial this is.

So people, anyone in your life should always be 10% uncomfortable with you. When I say that, I don't mean that like you're a bitch or that you, they can't trust you or dah, dah, dah. I mean that people, you give them your love, you give them your generosity, you're an amazing friend, but people should always not feel too comfortable enough to betray you, to walk all over you, to not respect your boundaries. And that means that if somehow they do, then that's when the 10% mama bear comes out of like you protecting yourself, you protecting your energy.

So everyone in my life, I think, most people in my life, and if there's a few people that aren't, I'm still, you know, working on and weeding it out. Most people in my life have very deep respect for me and who I am. And this respect is love. And I have that same exact respect and love for them.

But people know in my life that what I have to offer them, the generosity, the love that I give them is not something they can get everywhere. Especially my friends. I have the most amazing friends, by the way. Like I have amazing women that give me the exact same treatment. So I'm super, super grateful that I've attracted these type of women into my life.

But all the girls in my life know that I'm an amazing friend. I know my value as a friend. I know how much I give to people. I know how generous I am, how thoughtful I am. But they also know that I have standards, meaning that I only spend my time with women that lift me up, that are honest, that are loyal, that I can trust, that truly empower me and inspire me. And so if these type of women were to ever, you know, not treat me right, they were ever to disrespect me, if I were to tell them something private and I would hear that they were talking about it and betraying me, they know

that 10% of uncomfortable with me exists and they know that I would cut them off and cut them loose so fast because I don't have energy for that. I'm in a different place in my life where I only want peace. I only want people that make me feel good around me. And so this is what I mean. You don't do it out of like fear or spite. You just do it out of self-respect. People should have so much respect for you that 10% of them, they're a little bit feeling uncomfortable to ever betray you or ever walk all over you because you value yourself.

that much. And that is truly what makes you magnetic is having that high amount of abundance mindset, that high amount of self-value and standards that people know that your energy is precious because you see and you value your energy that much that you know that it's magnetic too. And last one, trait number five is having the ability to stay authentic and true to yourself. The most magnetic version of yourself is your highest truest self.

It's not the version of yourself that dresses a certain way, like how other people tell you, that talks in a certain voice, that does certain things. The most magnetic trait of your life and the most magnetic version of you will always be the one that you feel the most comfortable in, that you feel like your most highest self in. So I think it's really important. Honestly, I really recommend that you guys take out a journal at some point throughout your day and you make a list of all

Who is the highest version of you and what type of traits do they possess? What type of beliefs, what type of thoughts and how can you start embodying those traits now? Where are you keeping yourself small? Where are you keeping yourself quiet? What parts of yourself are you not showing up in? For instance, do you have any certain relationships that you feel like you have to hinder certain parts of yourself and not fully embrace them?

Is there any part or an aspect of your life that you feel like you can't truly be yourself? Where are those moments and how can you show up as your true self regardless? Authenticity breeds magnetism. When people see someone that's authentic, that's someone that's happy, that's someone that feels comfortable in their own skin and their own energy and that's

truly magnetic. So those are the five traits to instantly become magnetic. I hope you guys love this episode. Let me know if you want a part two and make sure to sign up for the self-love concept live masterclass on March 3rd because it's something that you don't want to miss. Beautiful souls, thank you so much for joining me in today's episode. As always, I will talk to you next week. Bye!