how to know what's meant for you (& letting go what isn't)
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Hello, my beautiful friends, and welcome back to the Claim Your Power podcast, the ultimate show for all things spirituality, self-love, and personal development. I'm your host, Kim Peretz. I'm a two-time author, content creator, yoga teacher, and entrepreneur. You are at the right place if you're ready to tap into your gifts, unleash your potential, and become your higher self. It's time to claim your power.

Hello my beautiful friends and welcome back to another episode of The Pod. If you're new here, my name is Kim and I am your host and I am happy that you're joining me today. However you discover this podcast through YouTube, through Instagram, through TikTok, Spotify, Apple Music, whatever it is, I'm happy that you're here and that the universe brought you to this exact moment.

I want to start off this episode by quickly announcing something. So guys, I'm actually thinking of on my stand store opening a new poll that you guys can submit your questions to me and I can send you guys back video responses like individual advice, answering your life questions because in the past few months...

I have been receiving a flood of Instagram DMs of you guys sending me paragraphs of your stories and your life and what you need advice on. And I really want to quickly say that I love answering your messages. I love reading them. But I'm just one person and I also have my own life. And when I respond to a message, it takes a lot of time and energy for me to do so.

And I really just want to say quickly that I put out a lot, a lot of free content. Like most of my work and most of my content is free. And so I've been receiving a couple of messages recently of some people sending me like long paragraphs of their lives and then getting angry that I haven't responded to them within like a day.

And so I just want to announce that, guys, I'm trying. I try my best to answer. And when I see your messages about the podcast, I take time to answer them. But I have my own life. I have my own, you know, relationships that I'm dealing with. And I can't answer every single message and take the time to answer every single, you know, five paragraphs that I receive.

And so I think what I'm going to do is I'm going to open a poll on my stan account so that if you guys really want my advice and that's something that's really important to you, you guys can send in your questions, send in your paragraphs, and then I'm going to answer it through a video so that it's more individual to you guys. And so if you guys are interested in that, please let me know, like send me a message on Instagram that you guys are interested in that because I will definitely make that happen for you guys if that's something that you guys all want.

But without further ado, let's dive into today's episode. Today we're going to be talking about how to know when somebody in your life, a friend or romantic partner, is meant for you and how to let go of someone who isn't. I want to start off this episode by prefacing that in life, you will never be 100% certain that somebody is meant for you or that somebody is right for you or that that person is perfect for you. That will never be, like you will never have that 100% certainty.

However, there are some telltale signs that I've experienced in my own life that I want to share with you guys that have helped me realize when people are really in alignment for me. Because I have this very strong belief that when the universe wants you to have a relationship with someone, and it doesn't have to just be romantic like a friend

or romantic partner, anyone in your life, a mentor, whatever it is, the universe fights for those two souls to meet up, to be together, to unite, to have that connection. And so I really believe in that, that idea that when you are meant to be with someone, the universe will pave the path for you. It will not be so difficult for you to get to know that person, to run into that person, to create a connection with that person. It will feel natural.

And so the biggest telltale sign I think in life when you know that something is truly meant for you is when it brings ease and peace into your life. If somebody has walked into your life and since their entrance into your life, you've only experienced more chaos, stress, anxiety, discomfort, that is a big sign that that person is not aligned with you. Because when two souls, when two people are in alignment, there's more peace, there's more love, there's more joy, there's more playfulness, there's more ease.

And so look for the ease, look for the path of least resistance when you meet people, when you're trying to make new friends, when you're dating, when you're trying to get to know your colleagues, whatever it is, look for the path of least resistance. Look for the people where you have a natural bond with, a natural connection, where you feel like you can truly express yourself, truly be your authentic self.

You're not feeling all this anxiety or discomfort or stress or overthinking. It feels easy. And I'm not saying that relationships are easy because that's not it. But when you begin a relationship with someone, when you get to know someone from the first hand, it should feel easy. It should flow. It should feel in alignment. And if you feel like you're fighting it, you're trying to control everything, you're trying to resist it, that thing is probably not meant for you. And the universe is constantly sending you sign and roadblocks to show you like,

turn around, that thing is not on your path. I really believe that the universe constantly communicates to us with signs and synchronicities, and it's always showing us their guidance. But the problem is so many of us are not open to receive that guidance, or we're just not seeing it. Like we see signs, we see red flags, we see green flags,

We see when things are in alignment, but we're not really conscious to it. And so I really think it's so important when you try to realize if something is meant for you in your life, try to develop that relationship with God or the universe first or whatever you believe in and ask for guidance. Because when you ask for signs about people in your life, the universe delivers.

And I have to say, like personal stories, there have been many moments in my life with specific people where I have received red flags and I have received signs that that person wasn't aligned for me, but I ignored it and I got deeper and deeper in the rabbit hole. And I think when you're able to be open to the guidance and signs from the beginning and you're able to walk away from people who don't serve you when you see that red flag, when you see that misalignment with someone and you don't dive deep and deep and deep and try to control the situation,

that is when you will attain the greatest sense of peace and you will also be redirected on your path faster. At the end of the day, every single time that you settle for someone that you know isn't meant for you, you're just blocking the people that are actually meant for you to walk into your life.

So start noticing the signs and start noticing the way that you feel around certain people in your life because your feelings and your intuition are the biggest telltale sign if something is meant for you. When something is in true alignment for you, when someone is truly meant for you in your life, they will bring feelings of ease, calm, self-love, confidence, acceptance. If they're bringing out anxiety, discomfort, overthinking,

uncertainty, any of those frequencies, just know that first of all, that person is probably not meant for you. And also that is the telltale sign from the universe that you are not in alignment with your source. You are not in alignment with the love that's within you. And obviously like we all have those moments. I definitely have had my fair share of experiences where I have felt anxious or uncertain or just uncomfortable around certain people. And I stayed in those relationships because I didn't know any better.

And walking away from people who don't serve you is the biggest act of self-love that you can ever do to yourself. It is the biggest gift and biggest amount of self-respect that you have. When you are able to walk away from people who you know aren't right for you and you know who don't serve you, that is the greatest act of self-love. And something that I've learned about my own life that I really believe in

I don't necessarily believe that the universe tests us, but I believe that the universe gives us opportunities for growth. And I think when we are asking for something from the universe, when we're trying to attract that best friend or that dream relationship or that dream business partner, whatever it is, when we're trying to attract a certain relationship into our life,

The universe will show us our patterns and the part of ourselves that still need healing before they introduce that person into our lives. And so a way that I see it manifest for a lot of people and that also manifested a lot in my life

is the universe would consistently send me the wrong types of like men, for instance, that were very close to something that I wanted, but they weren't exactly it. And so they would send me men that would inflict the same emotional response in me time and time again until I broke the pattern and until I decided to respond differently. And when you respond differently to a trigger or a pattern in your life, that's when you create a new path for yourself.

And so realize that if you keep meeting the same types of people in your life and just different fonts and the same experience and the same pattern keeps coming and coming up again, that trigger is coming up for a reason. It's a gift. It's an opportunity for growth from the universe. And if you're able to look at that trigger from a different point of view this time and you're able to respond to it differently, you will

you will quantum leap. I swear to God, you will be able to manifest that thing that you really want because you're telling the universe, okay, I'm no longer settling. I no longer want to have this experience. I'm choosing a new reality and a new experience for myself. When you attain this inner peace and when you attain this understanding that the universe is never going against you, it's always doing things for you. And when you get triggered in your relationships and when you experience the same patterns and patterns, like for instance, if you're a woman,

and you keep telling yourself, "Oh, I keep attracting all these shit men that don't care about me, that are emotionally unavailable, da-da-da," ask yourself, what part of yourself is still settling in those relationships? Because, for instance, for me, of course, there was a phase in my life where I would constantly attract emotionally unavailable men and honestly, I thank God that that was a pattern in my life because it woke me up to who I want to be and the type of man that I do want to be with. But nowadays, if I met an emotionally unavailable man,

I would just not even look at him twice and I wouldn't even overthink it and I wouldn't try to prove myself or validate myself to him because I know that that's not the type of man that I want to be with. So I'm not even going to try and change him or make him better or build him up. I'm just going to go towards the thing that I truly want.

because if you build if you look at someone just for their potential and you don't look at them for what they're showing you and their true actions you're living in an imaginary world and I know I'm all about being Delulu but don't be Delulu that way because people only change for themselves they do not change for you and if you enter your relationships or your friendships with the mentality of I'm going to change this person I'm going to build them up I'm going to make them better you know what's going to happen you're going to change them you're going to build them up you're going to make

and then they're gonna leave you because you pour all your energy into them, but you poured nothing into yourself. When God or the universe consistently sends you the same type of experience or person that you don't want, realize that you are this close

so close to what you actually want to call in. And that is like a test from the universe, not in a malicious mean sense. It's just a test to see how much you're able to grow and how much you respect yourself. Where's your sense of self-worth? When you have a strong sense of self-worth, you will no longer settle for half-assed relationships or for 50-50 or for friendships that don't empower you. You will no longer settle. And when you no longer settle, that is when you're able to walk away from something that

that you know you desperately want, but you know that that's not quite it, when you're able to have enough courage to walk away, that is when the universe blesses you. When the universe sees that you do not need that thing, when you are not dependent on that thing, and that you have a big sense of self-worth and self-respect, that you're able to walk away from something or someone that you know isn't right for you,

that is when the universe blesses you. That is when the universe sends you exactly what you want, exactly what you've been craving, exactly what you've been dreaming of. But you have to have enough courage to walk away and to say no. Because when you say no to something that isn't right for you, you're then opening up the door to saying yes to what is. And I really want to touch base on another part of this topic. That is, when we realize that something isn't meant for us, what a lot of us tend to do is we try to understand the why.

Why isn't that person meant for me? Why didn't it work out with that person? But I'm telling you that asking yourself those questions is taking you down a rabbit hole that you will never get out of. Because part of being human and part of this life experience is that we don't know everything.

We don't know the answers to everything. And all we can do in those moments is trust that the universe has our back and that every rejection was a redirection and that it didn't work out because something better is coming. And so instead of trying to get so caught up in the why, why didn't work out, get caught up in the gratitude of,

Thank you, God, that this didn't work out. Thank you, universe, that you prevented this relationship from happening or from this friendship from forming because now I know that that thing isn't meant for me and I know that whatever truly is will come into my life in divine timing and will bring ease and peace into my reality.

And when you finally have this realization that that person in your life is no longer meant for you, the greatest thing that you can do for yourself is let them go with a sense of gratitude. Is thank them for the lessons that they have taught you and for the things that they have awakened within you and let them go. Stop trying to get so caught up in what they're doing and what's meant for them and who they're seeing and what friends they're making and what they're living their life and start living your life.

Start being present in your life. Because if you're so caught up in whatever is not meant for you, you're not letting what's meant for you to come into your life. You're so caught up in the why, and the why, and the why, and the why, that you're not allowing the how to happen. And the universe wants to bless you. The universe has so much good for you in your life. But sometimes what we don't realize is we're blocking that good from coming in because we try to grasp so often

tight to people that aren't meant for us. And what we really need to do in those moments is just release the fist and let them go and realize that if that person is meant for you, they will come back into your life. But if they aren't, they were never yours to begin with and you have to let them go. And the, wow.

Every single time that you surrender in life, life gets easier and happier and filled with so much more love and joy. Every time that you hold on or resist someone coming out of your life or try to control every situation in your life, that is when you create the most discomfort and uncertainty in your life. When you're able to have this inner peace of I surrender, I let go, I trust you universe, that creates

whoever you remove from my life, you remove them from a reason and now you're gonna welcome all the true people into your life and you're able to grow and evolve because realize that when people are no longer meant for you and they walk out of your life, that's a sign that you evolved.

That means that maybe your energies aren't aligned anymore because you evolved. You've grown as a person. So kudos to you and be happy for yourself that you've evolved. And also realize that it's not perfect and when people walk out of your life, you don't need to be happy all the time. You're allowed to grieve. You're allowed to grieve friendships ending. You're allowed to grieve relationships ending. But you never abandon yourself for anyone.

You never forget who you are and you never forget how much the universe loves you and how much the universe has your back. No matter how painful the situation is, no matter how much you felt like you've lost in the moment and you want to enter this victim mindset, you cannot allow yourself to forget that the universe has your back.

The universe has your back and anyone who has left your life has left your life for a reason. And I promise you, maybe it doesn't make sense right now, but you will know when something is meant for you. You will know when that person is meant for you because they will bring you so much joy and ease into your life. And if you're miserable, 90% of the time you're in that relationship or in that friendship,

let that person go and set yourself free because it is so much better to be alone or to let that person go than to be in relationships that bring out so much misery within yourself. Allow yourself to release people. When you enter the state of unattachment to the point where you are so committed to yourself and so committed to your well-being and your happiness that you are okay when people walk out of your life because you realize that they're walking out with a reason, don't

that is the greatest gift you can give yourself. And when I say be okay, I'm not saying that you should be happy when somebody walks out of your life. You're allowed to grieve it again. You're allowed to be sad. You're allowed to be upset that you've lost that friendship or that person is no longer your romantic partner.

But you never, ever, I've said this already on this episode, but you never abandon yourself for anyone. You never forget who you are and you never, ever, ever stoop so low and forget who you are to the point where you're willing to lose yourself for somebody else. And if you find yourself a lot of the time caught in the why again or in jealousy or in comparison to why didn't work out with that person and they worked out with somebody else or why didn't I get this opportunity and da-da-da, the greatest mindset and mentality that I can give to you is

you do not compete because what's meant for you will never pass you by and you don't want what isn't meant for you. You don't want something that is meant for somebody else. You want your own destiny and I promise you that your destiny and what's meant for you is so great and so amazing and it's exactly what you want. That is why you should never settle in any area of your life and you should always strive for your dreams. You should always strive for your desires because your desires exist for a reason. It's because they seek you as much as you seek

them. You have to fully trust that the universe knows what it has to put you through in order to get you to what's actually meant for you. The most beautiful thing about being able to let go of what isn't meant for you is that you are finally creating space for the new and exciting thing to come into your life. And how amazing is that? So I want to end this episode by reading you guys a really beautiful quote.

Timing is everything. If it's meant to happen, it will. At the right time, at the right place, for the right reasons. When something is truly meant for you, you won't have to force it or manipulate it or rush it. Flow, not force. Beautiful souls, thank you so much for joining me in today's episode. Feel free to leave a review or DM me any topic suggestions. I hope you feel inspired to claim your power today.

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