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What's up, everybody? Welcome to Almost 30 friggin' podcast. Hello. Welcome to the show. It's your girls, Lindsay and Krista. We're over 30. And it's good. Life is good. Life keeps getting better. Are they zooming in on YouTube? Dude, my...
My weirdo thing is asking everyone how old they think I am. Oh. I wear where we were at. Delilah's on my birthday in LA, which absolutely... And I was...
I'm just looking... Everyone there is really young, like in their early 20s. I didn't really know that. And I was just like looking at them all. I'm like, am I one of you or am I not one of you? You know what I mean? What do you think? I was like, do you think we're like middle-aged bachelor, like divorcees? Did you ask? No, I didn't. I was too... I didn't talk to anybody. Let me just say that. I actually couldn't hear my own voice. I couldn't hear my own voice. I didn't talk to anybody and no one talked to me and...
And then I think that would give it away. Yeah, totally. If I go, how old do you think I am? Because no one when you're 22 is like, how old do you think I am? Because they just got in. 100%. You know, because then you're like, there's something off if you keep asking me this. What are 22-year-olds wearing to the club these days? Slick back, slick back hair, bun, a black tank top, and low-rise jeans.
Oh, so it's cash. Very casual. That's all they were wearing. Very casual tank top low rise jeans. I feel like that wouldn't be let into Delilah back in the day. Nope. Not at all. You know. But then there was obviously some showing out. You know, there was like some. But then, yeah. So there's that or there's like a revolve, you know, like Cirque du Soleil.
tatted and ratted fit. Yeah, totally. You know what I mean? And I'm wearing like a blazer. It's like the rings that show skin. Exactly. Something that would make you like gasp, you know, back in the day. Guys, I'm really excited. So want to get straight to it because we're going to be inviting you to camp. So camp,
is the online virtual event that we've been hosting at Almost 30 for a few years now. So basically when 2020 happened and we all were stuck at home, we could no longer go on tour. We could no longer host retreats. And we wanted to have that experience of feeling connected and community and being able to learn and grow virtually at home in the comfort of your home. So we wanted to bring the retreat experience of being with Almost 30 or the tour stop experience of being with Almost 30 and our guests
to our houses. And what happened was just such a beautiful, beautiful thing to witness people from all over the world, connecting with one another, connecting in community, learning from some of the best teachers, leaders, healers in the business for free, and being able to really grow in a way that they hadn't. And I think for so many of us on our conscious awakening journey or on our spiritual journey, you can feel really alone.
You can feel like you're the only person interested in the topics you're interested in or that there's no one around you in community that feels like you or feels like it has the same essence. And so creating the space for people has just been profound over the years. And I'm so excited to do camp this year to celebrate our book.
And so this year, in addition to coming to camp, you get a copy of our book because you have to pre-order the book to come to camp. But in doing so, you get access to some of the most amazing teachers and leaders that I know, some of our dear friends and some people we look up to. The caliber of speakers that we've had at camp over the years has never ceased to amaze me. It's never...
not blown me away. And the transformation that can happen at a day-long retreat like camp is just profound. So we're excited for you guys to not only get a hand...
to not only get your hands on a copy of our book, because we know that's going to change your life, but also come to this beautiful virtual retreat we're hosting in May. Some of our guests include Shalina Ayana. You might know her as Rising Woman. We have Jillian Turecki. We have Sahil Bloom. We have
spirit daughter. We have Natalie Kuhn. We have Jenna Zoe. And there'll probably be more people that we're announcing. So it's just going to be a stunning mix talking about wealth and money, talking about astrology for the year, talking about human design, talking about relationships and love, talking about movement in the body, talking about spirituality. It is that full
fully packed day of all the things that we like to talk about. And this is so different than just listening to podcasts or watching YouTube or consuming information online. It's like a feeling of something very special happening live where you're talking about it with people from all over the world.
you're sharing in your experience, you're processing in real time, you're activating yourself, you're moving, you're standing up, you're like actually doing some of the practices and exercises that our speakers encourage you to do. And we make sure that we keep it really lively and interesting and exciting. So it's going to feel like a full transformation moment for you that you can actually do at home. Yeah. And we've heard from so many people throughout the years that like they look forward to camp because they get to set aside time
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you know, their meditation mat, like it's for you. And, you know, sometimes I think logistically, it's hard to think about, okay, setting aside time for this. But we've heard from thousands of you that taking the time to do this, being at camp, learning from all of the people,
that we have has changed your life. There's an energy around it that we can't really describe unless you're there. So set the tone for yourself that day, but also invite your friends because I feel like when you can talk about camp afterwards with your girlfriends and
your group, your community. I think it's really, really special too. And think about just investing $30 to not only get our book, but also get very intimate, never before seen content, information, activations, insight from some of these people. It's like actually life-changing. It's so powerful. So we will see you on Sunday, May 18th for camp. Make sure to mark your calendars.
Sunday, May 18th. And the way that you get a ticket to camp is by going to almost30.com slash book, purchasing the book, submitting information and receipts on purchase of the book, and then we will give you access to join us for camp for free. Super easy. Step-by-step on our website, almost30.com slash book. Enjoy this compilation of some of our favorite moments from past camps. Enjoy. Enjoy.
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little mini shops, I call them. So for example, I went to the vacation drop and I found most things I needed for my upcoming little weekend getaway with my family to Florida. I got some bathing suits, coverups, et cetera. They're so freaking darling. I specifically got a cute
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like foundation pieces, which I'm literally shopping right now. I need like my t-shirts. I need my jeans. I need like just things that I'm going to have as staples in my wardrobe. I love going to like the new arrivals because they're getting new things every day, but they make it really easy to shop online, not only because...
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There's Elisa Romeo. So who I think I am, I'm a mom, I'm a therapist, you know, whatever. I love chocolate. I hate zucchini, you know? So my story is about myself. I'm Italian. There's stories around that culturally of like,
how I'm passionate and how I push food on people. Anyone who comes to my house, I'll be a little uncomfortable until you like partake of something. Those are those egoic stories, which also, so it doesn't mean they're not important. Food is love for me. Like food is meaningful. So that's an important part of my value system, but it is still within who I think I am, my ego. Then there's
Who you are as a soul, who you are as an energy, who you are as an eternal being. And that's who, when people talk about authenticity, I see that as that's our most authentic part because that's the part of us that is, it doesn't change. It is the love that you came from and the love that you're going back to and the love that you are behind all those stories underneath the water of the iceberg. Soul is change.
the part of us that is all loving, it's all knowing, and it's always there behind the noise. And even if we think it's not there, soul doesn't care if you believe in it. The same way like the law of gravity doesn't care if you believe in it. So I don't really get caught up on like convincing people or
I'm not interested in converting anyone to soul. It's just the term I use to reference the very real felt experience I've had of her. And I've helped thousands of people also connect to the very real felt experience of themselves as love, as that. So talking to soul is basically talking to love. So
I think one thing as humans we do a lot is we have, we get stuck in beta state in our brain. And so it's like that Einstein idea that you can't solve a problem from the energy level in which it's created. So this insanity of, I have a problem. Well, how can I solve it? Let me sit with my journal and write a pros and cons list. And then we go in circles and circles like this.
but not elevating our energy or our true perspective to a place outside of our narratives and our stories and our ego interpretation. So how do we open to a different energy dimension, a different, a higher elevation so that we can, I call it sometimes going up to the penthouse. Like if you're at a hotel at the beach and there's a building between you and the beach, you're not going to see the beach from the ground floor. But if you go up
to the penthouse and look out, there's the beach. So with our problems and our interpretations of ourselves, we need to first raise our energy so that we can see the whole setup from a different place. In that moment, you really have to be like,
spiritual warrior of like, no, I'm going to fight for love. I'm going to fight through the old epigenetic patterns in my family, the old histories I have of like where my limitations are. And I'm going to really just like hold strong to hearing what, what love wants to tell you. So, so what I want to do is,
Yeah, I'm checking with my soul. So what I do is I go from beta state to theta state and I check in with my soul, Sophia, and I ask her, what's next? Where are we going? I'm just doing an energetic check on everyone and everyone seems to be on board. So just like I can feel everybody's energy attuned to it. Great. So let's start with a little meditation.
I know that was a lot to go from. Here's a whole bunch of info to now we're going to just have a little experience of that part of ourselves. So everybody take a couple breaths, get comfortable in your chair, your body, say hello to yourself because it's just nice to do a check-in. Notice if there's any tension anywhere in your face, your neck, your belly.
If you have any tension or thoughts about, I don't know if I can do this. I don't know if I'm going to do it right. I don't know. Just say hello to it. Acknowledge where that is. And then on your exhale, you can breathe out. I like to do stuff as color. So you can just breathe out any gray energy or any energy of that fear in the body and see it as a color leaving your nostrils. And then the next thing I like to do, because I'm very somatic, is to take a hand and put it on my heart.
And that helps me to just energetically come into my heart and feel that area. And just notice how your heart's doing. It's good to check in on our heart. And how are you feeling? See if you can list three emotional words. Three sometimes is a lot for people, but see if you can do three feeling words of how you're feeling right now. We have the physical words like tired, hungry, sleepy. And then feeling words are tired.
can also be exhausted, hopeful, fearful, encouraged, ambivalent, resistant, excited. So three feeling words of how you're doing right now. Great.
And now I want you to set the intention because all of energy work always comes from intention. And so much happens as soon as we set that intention, even if we think nothing's happening, something happens when we set that intention. So
It doesn't matter what you think is happening. That's the part of the iceberg above the surface. What matters is that energetic intention. So place that intention that you want to meet your soul. You want to have a moment with her or him. I default to her because there's so much spiritual language around him. So I like to just say her, but if your soul feels masculine, feel free to just replace that in your head.
Set that intention to connect to the oldest, wisest, most loving part of yourself. We're sending out a bat signal, an energetic prayer that we want to be in relationship and conscious relationship with that part of ourselves. Think of a time you felt all love and you felt like you were a child of this universe that was on purpose and meant to be here. And you can set the intention of how you want to feel.
But now we're going to open up to, it's a relationship. So we want to become in present time in relationship to that energy. You might see an image, a memory, and some people will hear a phrase of how she choose to speak with you right now. And you can ask her what she wants you to know in this moment. What does love want you to know? But with awareness, the first thing that I want you to think about is where am I holding back from honoring what I really think?
Sounds like such a simple question, but you would be surprised. You would be surprised at the amount of people, including myself at times, we don't even ask ourselves the simplest questions. Where am I holding back from honoring what I really think? And we can also dive into the word honor here a little bit. The word honor means personal integrity.
personal integrity. I really invite you again to write that word somewhere, integrity, and to try and attach it to your identity in some kind of way, because it's very, very important. And I would go as far as to say now more than ever, it is very important. So where am I holding back from honoring what I really think?
Where am I holding back from expressing a different view? And my goodness, I'm sure we know this one very well. Expressing a different view today in 2021 is something so many people are so afraid of. Just to say, you know what, actually, I don't agree with that. I feel quite differently. But you still feel afraid to voice a different view.
Just do a little bit of self-reflection just on that. And I don't want you to judge whatever comes up, okay? This is not about ruminating. This is not about making it a thing. Just start to get curious. Where am I holding back from expressing a different view, be it privately or publicly? I really want you to think about that because it falls under awareness, which is the first pillar. What am I truly afraid of?
So based on the information that I have now, I know that, OK, I could be honoring myself in these areas of my life. I have these views that are maybe not the most popular or maybe it just seems as if they're not that popular because no one's fucking talking about them. Right. Once you have collected the data in that area, what are you truly afraid of? What are you truly afraid of?
Are you afraid of being cast out by the community? It's a very big one. It's a very big one. And it's a really human thing. We don't need to pathologize. We don't need to make it a whole show. It's the reality of life. We need connection. We want to feel connected, whether it's with our online community or whether it's with our actual community, be it our lovers, our partners, our family, our friends. What am I truly afraid of? Because only when you know
what it is you're truly afraid of, can you shift something? And we're not even talking about big shifts. You can shift something.
So I can see some things popping up. People are afraid of being misunderstood. People are afraid of coming off as too strong. People are afraid of exile, which is a, it's a very, it's a very visceral feeling to feel like I am going to be exiled from my community for saying how I feel. I can see that someone else said literal safety, which again, it's a very human thing. I completely understand that being afraid of judgment, right?
So based on all of these things, okay, abandonment is a very big one. Abandonment is a very big one. Being a bitch, someone else just said, being perceived as cold or harsh. So just make a list of all of these things. What am I actually afraid of? So there's something that I want to say. I know that I want to start honoring myself. Okay, so what am I truly afraid of? So let's say it's punishment. Let's say it's being exiled. Let's say it's people having the wrong perception.
Are you willing to take the risk? Are you willing to take the risk? And again, we're still in awareness, which is the first pillar. Are you willing to take the risk? Yes or no? Are you? Yes. Absolutely. Yes. Good. Someone else said no. And I really appreciate your honesty because it's you. You're not saying no.
this to make me happy okay this is not about what Africa wants to hear this is about you are you willing to take the risk even if you're really you're shit scared are you willing to take the risk and if you are it's about starting small you don't have to go the whole way it doesn't have to be public you start in here
Okay, you don't even externalize anything yet. And I say that, because I really want you to realize you can remove so much of this pressure from yourself by having the idea that just because you've decided, you know what, I'm going to, I'm going to take the risk to be in personal integrity, I'm going to do it.
It's an inside job. And I know that saying can sound cliche and cheesy. I'm okay with that. But it has to start with your thoughts. You have to start allowing yourself to think differently. That's just the first part. Allow yourself to think a little bit differently. Allow yourself to have those wrong thoughts. Just, it's a challenge. It's just a challenge. You don't have to stick to it. Just say, you know what? I'm just going to allow myself to think differently.
It's a very internal process and it ties in with awareness because we do have this idea that we have to externalize everything. That's why we feel so afraid because we think we have to share our minds. And because of how digital everything is now, we think we have to share it publicly. You don't.
You don't. It really starts with you. You have to allow yourself to have those thoughts. Allow yourself to open those doors in your mind. Allow yourself to feel a little bit dangerous. That is a risk. That is a risk. And you start small. And you say, actually, I don't agree. Try that. Actually, I don't agree. Or to say, I feel differently about this because. Try it. It can be as seemingly simple as that.
And again, this is where we realize there's perceived danger, which is usually in our minds. Of course, sometimes it's very real. I'm not undermining that. Self-censorship can really be a safety net for some people because it allows them to be physically safe, material safety. I understand that. However, we are talking about in here, in here, start small.
you're having a conversation and you say, actually, I don't agree. Or if you don't want to use that very specific language, which I would say you should challenge yourself to do if you feel safe to do that, right? And it's practice. You only have to do something for the first time once. Once. And that is it. And that is it. And say, actually, I feel differently about this because... Or if you... And this is a big one. If you don't have anything to say...
You don't have to agree. I don't know enough to give my opinion about this. It means you don't choose self-censorship. You choose to say, actually, I don't know enough to have a fully formed opinion. I say that all the time. I don't. I don't. And it allows me to not censor myself or to agree with something that I don't believe in. What can someone do once you say, I don't know enough to have an opinion?
And it's still true. And it allows you to build that confidence, the confidence to not know, the confidence to not know. How about that? The confidence to not know. So that is the awareness pillar that I want you to think about. OK, when you're deciding whether you want to speak about something or you don't or you're feeling you're feeling quite conflicted, really think about the awareness piece.
What am I not honoring? What am I actually afraid of? And is this an actual threat or a perceived threat? The second thing that I want to talk about, and this is one of my favorite ones, okay? If you're familiar with me and my work, you will know that I bang on about this quite a bit, and it's for good reason.
The next pillar of self that I want to talk about is responsibility. Ah, isn't that one of the most erotic words you have heard? Responsibility, self-responsibility specifically. Okay. Someone said, yes, hot stuff. Yeah. See, and when I say responsibility, what I'm talking about, someone said, no, we're going to go there. Okay. Responsibility. Okay.
When I talk about it, I'm talking about, and again, I'm going to pose some questions because I don't want to tell you what to do. I just want you to filter this through your own self-awareness so you can come to a conclusion. If something is not useful in anything that I say, you don't have to take it. Okay. You just lovingly leave it to the side for someone else. But when I talk about responsibility, I want you to think, what are my values? What are my values? What are my
And something that I find when I work with clients or when I talk to people is that a lot of us aren't able to actually say these are my values. However, intuitively, we know them because when your values get crossed, which usually tie in with boundaries, you feel that internal ouch. Right. And I'm sure you know what I mean. Everyone knows what the internal ouch is.
But it's really important that you are able to articulate your boundaries, especially when your boundaries and your values, especially when it comes to moving out of self-censorship and moving into self-expression. It's really important. So I can give you a few of mine. So my biggest one is integrity.
So I am willing to be in integrity, even if it's so uncomfortable. I'm willing. It's a commitment that I have to make. It's a commitment that allows me to live a fuller life and not a fuller life in the kind of surface level, vague way, but a life that feels really full, a life where I don't have to deprive myself of connections with people. Okay. So integrity is very, very important to me and transparency is,
is really important to me and truth is very important to me. And I also know that my truth is not the ultimate truth, which is why I have to be willing to listen to people that I don't agree with, which is why I have to be willing to accept that people won't agree with me. But how can I know any of these things if I'm censoring myself? So I really want you to think about what your values are.
Right. You don't have to say them all right now, but it's just something that I invite you to think about going forward.
Okay, y'all, you are invited to Camp Almost 30. It is our favorite event of the year. We created Camp Almost 30 during 2020 when we could not be together and it has just been the most beautiful experience to come together virtually in a really special way every single year, bringing you some of the world's
most sought after and respected teachers, leaders, and healers. This year's speakers are going to blow your mind. On May 18th, we are hosting camp and we'll be joined by Jillian Turecki. She's the author of It Begins With You, author Sahil Bloom, Jill Winterstein, spiritual teacher and astrologer, also Shalina Ayana.
You might know her as Rising Woman, Natalie Kuhn. She's a speaker and teacher. Jenna Zoe, human design expert. Zadi Simone and more. I am so excited for you all. Camp is unlike any other event. And the way that you get into camp is you buy.
our new book. So just pre-order our new book, Almost 30, A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond right now, and you will get your ticket to camp and other great bonuses. So go to almost30.com slash camp right now, pre-order your book and secure your spot at camp. So the first step in limitless living is get curious.
get curious about yourself. And when I say get curious about yourself, I really mean at both the micro and macro level. We want to get granular about what our foundation was and be as honest with ourselves as possible about the deepest truth of it so that we can transcend it. So we think in terms of the culturally created self versus the authentic self.
And let's dive into a little bit what each of those terms actually means. So the culturally created self, that's the version of us that has been shaped by society. That's the version of us that has been shaped by our family systems. And as with everything, there's duality. There's the yin and the yang, the light and the dark, the dark and the light. There are always going to be opposites and reversals for the things that we experience.
But when we get a chance to really look at them through eyes that are not in judgment of our experience, that are just curious about our experience, we have the opportunity to not just transcend the experience and move forward, but we have the opportunity to actually turn all of those experiences into the fuel that will guide and unleash the fullness of our dharma.
Dharma in Sanskrit is loosely translated as purpose, but it also means deepest truth, the deepest truth of your life that is available to you. So as we come into that curiosity, we just begin to investigate. And when I say investigate, it really is separating yourself from the judgment of the experience or how you wished it would have played out and really looking at it with, hmm, how did that happen?
Why did that happen? What is the deeper meaning of that? What is the connection to my lineage, to perhaps my ancestry? What are the things that I'm picking up in this tapestry, the smaller weavings, and really looking at them with a sharp discerning eye and not an eye of why has this happened to me, which is valid because so many things happen to us without our direct consent, starting from the moment we arrive here.
But when we come into that space, if we can switch the lens into that curiosity, there's so much room for freedom and there's so much room to step into the mastery of who you are. So the culturally created self versus the authentic self, a great way to experience those two is in a moment that you might feel charged coming up asking what part of me is reacting to this?
Is it my highest self, the version of myself that is connected to my wholeness, my worthiness in every moment? Or is it the culturally created version of me that is in comparative mode? I am experiencing my life based on how it measures up to other lives or how it measures up to other experiences or how it measures up to the stories that I've told myself or the way that I've experienced myself.
So that little investigation creates such a tremendous amount of opportunity for expansion. We'll get to that a little more deeply in step four. But as we sit in that beautiful space, that curiosity, what you're really looking to invoke, and it may feel good to write this down so you can remember, even the lens of joyful curiosity can be a great use of kind of that diving in and that investigation.
But you're really looking to excavate, which is kind of carve out and bring forward, and also investigate every thought and every belief. Sometimes we get scared to investigate our beliefs because we think it is disloyal, either to our family system, either to different versions of ourselves that we've been, or society as a whole. Or we get nervous about, well, what will I believe if I don't believe that?
How will I connect if that is not my centerpiece? But what's really important is so many of our beliefs were just placed upon us and used as tools at various levels of our development. But when we get to investigate them and really look and say, does this still feel true? Does this feel nourishing? Does this feel like the loving way to live?
And we get to refine for ourselves and choose. And sometimes it will be, yeah, I'm going to carry forth that tradition. That feels really good. Or, yeah, I actually really got a great foundation of that knowing, of that belief, of that understanding of faith or psychology. And sometimes it's, wow, that really limited me.
Being told to think in this way, being told to believe in this way, viewing life through maybe good and bad, viewing life through punishment and reward. I don't think that fits who I want to be in this moment.
And so we just get to be in choice. What we're really looking to do in the step one of living this limitless life is get curious so that we can always stand in choice and be able in each moment to decide for ourselves where we want to go, who we want to be, what we want to do. So that's step one, limitless living. Step two is start noticing the themes and the patterns in your life.
You know, I know now so many of us are getting deeply connected to some of the deeper work and something that is shared really powerfully and beautifully on the Almost 30 podcast are so many different tools, a multitude, a variety of ways to explore yourself spiritually, ways to explore what your life purpose and meaning is.
So getting things done like your birth chart or your Enneagram or your human design or all of the tools where you can really investigate what is my unique blueprint, that can be really powerful. What can also be really powerful is taking time to just jot down the memories that have stuck with you. You can do this in a journal. You can do this in a voice note. Does
Does not have to be Dear Diary style. It can also be quick bullet points as they come to you. Again, always experiencing them through the lens of non-judgment and through the lens of curiosity. But start investigating yourself.
That same skill set that you might put towards Instagram for the person that you're dating or the person that you're not talking to anymore. Let's apply that same finely tuned, beautiful investigative ability to our actual souls and our spirits. Let's get granular. Let's get our notebooks out. Let's create that book of self and keep track of our feelings. Keep track of how we want to feel, how we want to be, and also feel.
Notice and honor all the versions of ourselves that we were before this one because those pieces are worthy too. So noticing the themes and patterns means keep notes on yourself. Even the notes that you feel like you might be embarrassed of in the future. Maybe you're having a day where you're really angry, really upset, but you don't want to note it down because you don't want to be perceived as an angry or upset person or you don't want someone to find it and maybe think ill of you.
Those are all limiting thoughts. When we want to live a limitless life, our first concern is how we feel and how we can expand and love ourselves at the deepest level possible. So that also means being willing, being willing to witness ourselves in those moments that society told us we shouldn't express and shouldn't feel. So noticing the themes and the patterns, keep notes on yourself, keep a notebook of you. Number two,
What are the myths and the archetypes that play in your life? And this, don't think too hard about this because you can kind of savor this and expand into this long after this session. But I highly recommend starting to look into archetypes as tools for your spiritual ascension and your personal growth. Looking at myths.
You know, the way that we experience myths when we were younger was most likely through mythology, either Roman or Greek or Egyptian or all the stories, so many myths available to us. But they were really meant to be tools to invoke a deeper understanding at the greater story being told in our lives and how to notice the themes and how to actually rise to the occasion of our lives in powerful ways.
So as we take notes on ourselves, and sometimes that means really jotting down our most traumatic experiences, being willing to really look at what was the bigger story being told and, hmm, was this experience in the generation before me? Was that experience in the generation before them? Is there some commonality happening? Is there a pattern that I can notice?
Because when we start to make those connections, those dot, dot, dot, and draw the lines, that's when we find our freedom. That's when we can trust our power. That's when we can be our full selves.
So don't be scared to look at the shadows. Don't be nervous to write down the true feeling of what's going on in your life or what went on in your childhood, your adulthood, now, how you experienced your parents. Really notice those things without judgment, just curiosity so that you can transcend them and free yourself.
And so that you can also see the grace that is always available to us, that is always woven into the fibers of any challenge we may be experiencing. There is always grace available. But if we don't witness ourselves, if we don't observe ourselves, if we don't document ourselves, that also means we're not able to really point out the whispers from God, the whispers from spirit.
It means we also are not going to be privy to what were the blessings, what were the miracles that happened or that were available to me? Where was my growth? So as you track your shadows, you also get to track your light and your growth. So that is number two for living without limits. So far we've done get curious without judgment. Then we've moved into start noticing the themes and the patterns. And now for the third one, nourish yourself.
The only way to live a truly, truly limitless life is to set yourself as the number one priority, which is not the same thing as selfish. And I'm pretty sure as listeners of the Almost 30 podcast, you guys are all very familiar with how important self-care is and how it doesn't relate to selfishness. Something we explored on my episode of the show was not leaning into martyrdom because that's what society has passed down to us as the role of women.
really creating that path by stepping into our lives as the designers and the divine co-creators of our experience along with God, along with spirit. So coming into space and nourishment means making a priority that you spend time with you. And it doesn't just mean, okay, I'm going to work out. Okay, I'm going to do my meditation. It means spending time with yourself for your spiritual development, but with ease in it.
So when we are really taking care of ourselves at the deepest level possible, we are unable to unlock our sacred creativity at a high level. Our sacred creativity, which resides within our sacral chakra, and for women that is represented as our womb space,
Not just birth forth life, literally, you know, not just childbearing, but that is the seat of your power that births your heart's deepest desires, that births your most sacred, sacred and impactful levels of your own creativity. And everyone watching here is a profoundly creative person.
Whether you've recognized that within yourself or not, that might be yet to be seen, but that is what the deepest truth is. Every person watching this is incredibly powerful and has the ability to magnetize, has the ability to manifest, has the ability to create large vision for the world and for yourself. So when we come into that space of accessing our sacred creativity, we
Through nourishment, through showing up for us, through being willing to just be still and quiet and not control everything. Stillness and quiet is self-care. Then we can access some of our deeper layers. Another step in that, in that self-nourishment is really find a way to carve out a sacred space.
can look however pleases you. That can mean that this sacred space can be a corner, it can be a windowsill, it can be an entire room, it can be a nook, it can be a drawer.
But it's a place that feels tender for you. It's a place that feels nourishing for you. It's a place where you can be gentle with yourself and keep treasured items, keep spiritual items, whether that is crystals, perhaps a Bible or a family heirloom, something of your ancestry, perhaps their intention candles or so many varieties of things, spiritual books, incense,
some coals and some copal resin. Now I'm saying what my favorite things in my sacred space are. But when we come into that sacred space, we're adding our energetic seasoning and we're really able to open a portal within our homes, a portal within ourselves where we can always return to that deepest level. And it takes intention. It takes thoughtfulness and it takes daily decisive action to be on this path
to be on a path of the seeker, to be on a path of accessing your dharma, accessing the higher version of you. It means your active participation. And so if you're noticing that you do have a self-care practice or a spiritual practice or secret ritual that you like to lean into, it can feel really, really nourishing to constantly be checking back. Does this still feel good? Is there something else I'd like to do?
If it ever feels restless or constricting, it's just an opportunity to investigate new ways to show up for you. It doesn't have to be all the perfect postures in yoga. It can also mean maybe I just spend some time with oil and I stretch my body as I am massaging myself and just being with me in silence and noticing my breath. Maybe it's painting. Maybe it's taking a walk.
But meditation as a foundation is incredibly, incredibly important and powerful. That stillness and that silence, you cannot meet yourself at the deepest level. You cannot access the highest level of your life if you don't create the spaciousness to do so. And that spaciousness means being still, being silent and allowing things to come.
Not just outpouring what you think is the best vision. Not just trying to control all the outcomes. You are amazing. However, the real deeper parts of who you are and what you can be in this world, you're not able to fathom. You can't fathom yet. You haven't been it yet. So that's why you have to create the space and the allowance and the receptivity to bring forward, to invoke.
We want a path of grace and ease, which means not always trying to do, it's receive, it's allow. It's come into that space of radiance and majesty and deep belief that life is showing up for you at an impactful high level, that you are an empowered designer and co-creator of this experience and can bring forward what is necessary to get to the deepest level of your dharma possible.
So that was step three, nourish yourself. And step four is work your process. The fourth step in being able to live a truly limitless life, which means a life where you don't have that ceiling, a life where you don't have a lid. There's not a point that you can go and then go no farther. Limitless life means expansive. It means abundant. It means taking up space.
And to really do that, you have to work your process, but you have to work it in real time, minute by minute. It's not enough to be hoarding all these tools and buying all the spiritual books and taking the courses.
If you are only remembering what you should have done as you're in the shower replaying conversations or at the end of your day, you are utilizing these tools. You are here in this moment to have things that you can actively rely upon, to have things that you can actively connect to in each moment. These tools are important not just to shed our past.
And not just to be in a place of healing the wounds that we've experienced, but your daily process is incredibly important for the minute by minute refining that is necessary for living a big life, for living an abundant life and a life without minutes, excuse me, a life without limits. And so when we're in that space and we're working our process in real time, that can look like I'm at the traffic light and I'm getting really upset.
And instead of just allowing that upsetness for whatever is happening, maybe it's someone that cut me off. Maybe it's me frustrated with the way that I use my time. Taking a moment in that exact second to show up for you in real time by taking a breath and then investigating what am I really upset about? What is the deeper experience?
And when you get into the groove of working your process in real time, minute by minute refinements, minute by minute mastery, what happens is those moments become less and less. So where you might have been investigating something and it might have really kind of sat you down for the weekend to work through, you're now moving through in 30 seconds, 60 seconds. You're moving through it in an afternoon because you've been showing up actively in each moment, constantly moving away to breathe.
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requires containment as a sacred space. Okay, so what does that mean, Mark? Because that's a bunch of boobily-googly existential bullshit. Stay with me. It's like the idea that liberation can come through limitation and discipline, right? So the container, let's think about it in the space of a caterpillar. Caterpillar's walking around doing his thing. I think they eat leaves and shit, right?
There's some pretty crazy looking caterpillars. The caterpillar at that moment doesn't know like, shit, I got this potential. I could fly like these fuckers up in the air. I could do that kind of shit.
But they're not thinking that. They're not like, oh, I wish I had wings and could fly and it could be considered beautiful. I walk on the ground here and people just step on my shit. And then they're mad that I got my gooey guts on their fucking shoe because these assholes don't look down when they're walking because they're looking at their fucking phone. And so they just walk all over life with no fucking any attention. That's a whole other subject again. So Caterpillar is walking around, maybe wishes he has wings because us assholes stand on him.
But he's walking around and he's like, I eat leaves and that's my job. All of a sudden, something happens. Maybe he has an awareness. Maybe the universe is like, yo, get into this container, the cocoon.
And the cocoon, like, you got to think about this. They're in the cocoon. They have never, they have no consciousness of what the fuck is happening. Could you imagine walking through that? Like all of a sudden you're like, well, I guess I'm just going to sit here and spin some webs around my shit and start decomposing. Like they're basically like, I'm going to die.
right? And this is not really any different than any time you're invited into your own expansion. So they're sitting there, fucking shit is melting. Like, let's be honest, what's going on in the goddamn cocoon is like their fucking arms are changing, their body's changing. They actually don't know that they're becoming a butterfly. Remember this, they have no fucking clue, but evolution does and the universe does, right? And they emerge and they are this
still beautiful, just different beautiful, right? Because most of us equate a butterfly as beautiful, but it's all beautiful. And they are all of a sudden flying and they're like, holy fuck, wow, I didn't know this was possible, right? And then maybe they look down at caterpillars and they're like, yo, man, you have no idea, right? Like you have no idea. And when we've stepped to a different ability, right, to have boundaries, to use our voice, which, you know,
Don't shame yourself for not having them. Like you learn not to have them. Your voice might've led you to get hurt when you were young, right? Like to actually hear it is why you speak. You don't speak now in order for people to affirm what you say. The affirmation comes through the expression. You're affirming what you fucking said. You know, it's like when you share a boundary with someone, they're like, I don't like that boundary. And you're like, well, I guess it's gone then. Like they didn't like the boundary. Oh, even though they've been walking all over my ass for the last year.
So you're like, oh, okay, well, I'm going to lay this boundary down. If they don't like it, that's okay. That's not a sign the boundary is bad. That actually might be a good indicator the boundary is awesome. So the other point that I just want to make before I get back into containment is that when you start to speak and shake systems and not just systems but also yourself, you are becoming the butterfly.
you just don't know it. And you might be like, they didn't like it. That's the cocoon, man. That's the caterpillar. Like my arm's gone. What the fuck do I do? I needed that fucking arm, but you don't know what's emerging. Now, the other thing that's going on that is a really interesting process is if I'm using my voice for the first time in order to express, because I will no longer tolerate whatever the circumstances are. And there's a lot of those right now. It's like,
I'm starting to belong to myself. If I needed other people to agree with me in order for me to be loved, then that means that my belonging and my worth came from their reaction to my expression. But when I'm starting to express from a place of truth, I'm starting to actually build a foundation and a space that says, I belong to me. I am the source of my worth. I determine how I feel about me. Now, there's two things that are born from that.
One, grief and likely rage that you've never given that to yourself. That's healthy and that's normal. Channel that energy into more expansion. Use that. Don't hate the fuckers who taught you it, right? Because you're just being taught it. If you hate the fuckers who taught you it, then you're not going to pay attention, right? You're going to reject the lesson. But the more you grow into it and the more you expand, the more you'll be grateful for the lesson.
And the second thing that occurs, which I'm not really sure now because I kind of forget because I was speaking too much, it happens. If there was a word Olympics, I think I'd win for verbosity, not always quality. Yes, the second thing that happens, and I might have already said it, is that you become, oh man, you become so secure in your own body because of one of the most beautiful things that you might have always been seeking.
And it is that you recognize that you have your own back. That is honestly one of the most beautiful things in the world is to know that you have your own back, that you have got you always. Just like feel that, man, because what that does, and Bethany used that word, that makes you sovereign. That makes you sovereign. I don't need you to complete me. I'm fucking complete.
I don't need you to love me, so I love me. I love me. But we can share a love in a container that we create together. So let's think about that container. One, you don't always get to choose that you enter the container. The universe is going to kick your ass into the container. It's going to take a cosmic two by four, smash you across the fucking head and say, you better wake the fuck up.
up and pay attention and listen and learn how to use your voice. This is what happens when you don't have boundaries. Bam. And then you're like, I better learn some boundaries. Or you're like, I better get fucked up and drink and listen to, I don't know, Drake or whoever you might listen to. Smash it with some shitty Chardonnay.
That will not heal it because the two by four is coming back. And you know what? It's not even a two by four anymore. It's a fucking dump truck. And you don't want the existential dump truck. I've had it. It fucking sucks. It hurts. Who here in the chat has had an existential dump truck on your fucking head?
Right. Me, me. Yes, yes, yes. Did you get nudges before that moment that there was a dump truck coming for your fucking head? Did you get a two by before before that? Did you get actually a little intuitive hit that said, hey, maybe I should.
But then you went to some other shit. I don't want to insult them, but some other fucking person. And you're like, hey, what do you think about this? Should I have this conversation? Should I do this? And they said, nah, stay small because I'm small over here. And your big life scares me. So your big love scares me. So I'm just going to tell you to stay small, too, because I need you to be a reflection of my limiting beliefs and my smallness. So stay fucking small. Shut the fuck up. And then what happens?
Right. Dump truck comes for your ass and you might actually be like, why did I go to them? That's the most important thing is that you learn to become the authority over your own life. Right. Like if you're always asking other people for advice, eventually you need someone who says, I'm not fucking telling you, like make up your own goddamn mind. What answer do you hope I give you? Do you hope it's the one that validates your smallness? Because I'm not fucking giving you that. Never. You already know the fucking answer. You already know what you need to do.
You going out and chasing the answer, you're just looking for some other answer than what you know, just so you can continue to stay in an ambivalent state and not actually step towards your expansion. So you might not get to choose to enter the container. You can also choose to. Now, the first time, usually you don't get to choose and you have to enter it. That's important. You have to accept the invitation. And if you don't accept the invitation, it's coming for you. And what you're afraid of that's in it.
is actually just more of you. Do you see that? What you're afraid is in the invitation is just you. It's just beautiful. There's probably grief. There's probably sadness. There's probably unattuned or unattended to parts of yourself. But you know, Francis Weller, one of my favorite teachers,
He says that the soul likes to dwell in the darkness. Isn't that so true? And we've like been taught that it's all about find the light, love and light, all that kind of stuff. No offense if you sign off on that with emails. Great choice. But you think about that. It's like we've coded that unless you're happy all the fucking time, there's something wrong with you. You actually need to go get a drug from your doctor if you're sad or depressed. Well, what happens if your environment's depressing?
What happens if the future is anxious? What happens if there's nothing wrong with you, but there's actually something right with you, right? And I'm not shaming if you take that. There's certainly a place for it. But I'm like, what happens if you were taught that it was all about the good? And I'm saying there's actually so much wisdom in grief. There's so much wisdom in it. And I don't have many minutes left. So let me just rattle off what I make sure I need to say.
You have to accept the invitation. If you want your relationship, okay. If you want your relationship and your life to be a place where you learn and grow and become, then you have to treat it as sacred as it is. You have to treat it as sacred. You are sacred. If you don't treat yourself with reverence and sacredness, you will want to get fucking smashed. You'll want to do drugs. And as Gabor says,
The wrong question is why the addiction? The right question is why the pain? And so ultimately, you have to get sober from everything that pulls you away from who you actually are. Everything that distracts you from unattended parts of yourself. Love does that. Love is the ultimate container. It is always a container. Your partners might change.
But the experience of love is liberating. Love demands that you tell the truth, always. Love demands that you tell the truth. If you do not tell the truth, you are not in reverence with love. You're not in integrity with it. So you think about this. We have been taught that a relationship is successful if it lasts 75 years. It doesn't matter if you hate your partner. As long as you stay together, good fucking work, right?
So if you've been taught that being together or being in a relationship is the ultimate indicator of your success, then would you ever have conversations that might break them up? Would you ever leave them? If the relationship requires that you wear a mask, and your partner does too, because if you're wearing one, so are they,
then it's not actually dedicated to the truth. It's committed till death do us part, but I'd say what death? Your mortal death or the death of the part of you that entered the relationship and thought that you needed to wear masks. So when you tell the truth, as Glennon Doyle says, there is no such thing as one-way liberation.
When you are liberated, they are too. They just might not know it yet. Like when someone broke up with you and you were devastated, remember, if the relationship's not for them, it's not for you. And so you get to see every invitation in your life, every single fuck up, every single two by four, every single dump truck as an invitation to the container to transform who you are and become everything. And that is honoring your life. That is liberation. That is expansion. That is change.
permission to evolve. That was a compilation of some of the most powerful moments from our speakers at camp to give you a taste to wet your whistle for our beautiful day happening Sunday, May 18th for our beautiful online virtual event. That is camp that is going to be so special. It's going to be the biggest and best one yet celebrating so many things in your life and so many things in ours, including our book with some of the most amazing speakers
speakers in the game. Sahil Bloom, Shalina Ayanna, Jenna Zoe, Spirit Daughter, Jillian Winterstein, Jillian Turecki, Natalie Kuhn, to name a few. We might be adding more as we go and we cannot wait to see you there. All right, y'all. Thank you so, so much for being with us throughout the years, almost 30. We will see you on the next one. We'll see you soon. Bye.
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