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776. He Won’t Commit? Here’s the HARSH Truth About Avoidant Men with Mark Groves

2025/6/24
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Mark Groves: 我认为我们常常沉迷于未来,而忽略了当下。我们有时会出于安全感而非真心去追求某些事物。神经系统需要确定性,但实际上我们是在绕过不确定性。我们有权做出选择,但女性更注重维护关系,因为她们的价值与关系息息相关。我们无意识地与那些以熟悉的方式伤害我们的人建立关系,而那些能触动我们依恋模式的朋友对我们最有益。如果我能早点诚实面对自己,就不会发生那次感恩节晚餐的背叛。我们必须在最早知道真相的时候就说出来。如果我所参与的任何行为或关系让我不再相信自己是神圣的,那么它就不适合我。我过去常常表现得好像我可以永远选择这段关系,但实际上我并不想。你无法在制造焦虑的环境中解决你的焦虑。我们常常把自己的依恋模式或关系方式看作是一种缺陷。每个需要告诉伴侣真相的女性都需要告诉他们。我过去常常用性来治疗断联。如果我不能清醒地做某事,我就不应该做。我不得不离开Instagram,因为这是一种灵魂的呼唤。我开始看到Instagram如何像自恋虐待一样反映人际关系。我不再对Instagram负有义务。只有将自己的价值与别人的评价区分开来,才能进行有效的沟通。我们必须拥有卓越的关系,我们需要治愈自己和技术,并回归地球和自然,我们需要创建与技术的界限。 Krista: 我认为现在的网络霸凌比以前更糟糕。我决定不再把对话截图发给朋友们,除了必要时发给你。很多我认识的女性都在看TikTok和Reels上的恋爱内容,但那些人实际上并没有按照他们所说的建议生活。如果我想寻求恋爱建议,你应该和你的治疗师谈谈,给他们提供所有的背景信息,这样你才能得到更全面的个人化建议。我直到最近才意识到自己有点回避型依恋。男人更喜欢回避型女性,因为她们给人一种高自我价值的印象。我过去常常想成为那个确定的人,因为我认为这等于好。你总是在训练别人如何对待你。我需要麻痹自己才能参与其中。我真的开始感受到人们的能量印记。 Lindsay: 我不从网上的人那里获取恋爱建议,因为他们不了解我。我直到最近才意识到自己有点回避型依恋。我觉得和那些有点“辣”或有摩擦的男人在一起更安全。我知道会有一个人出现,我会毫不犹豫地完全投入。我需要麻痹自己才能参与其中。

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In this episode, renowned relationship coach Mark Groves gets real about dating, attachment styles, and what it takes to create lasting, conscious love. If you’re ready to manifest healthy love, break codependency cycles, and feel seen, this one is a must-listen! 

Ahead, learn how past wounds shape who we attract + why being spiritually connected is a superpower in deciding if someone is “your person.” Plus, discover what it truly means to have high standards, strong boundaries, and deep self-love in an era of casual connections.

Mark dishes out actionable tips for bossing up in all your relationships, especially the one with yourself. From navigating modern romance to owning your deepest emotional truths, this episode will teach you how to step into your most empowered, magnetic energy in both dating + life.

We also talk about:

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Understanding anxious and avoidant attachment styles in relationships

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How to trust your intuition while still discerning red flags versus self-sabotage

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The role of nervous system regulation in love, dating, and breakups

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Letting go of people-pleasing and reclaiming your authentic truth

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The spiritual and energetic impacts of casual sex

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“Nice guy” syndrome, boundaries, and why women crave emotional honesty

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Healing the father wound and mother wound for deeper connection

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Social media anxiety, digital burnout, and redefining self-worth outside the algorithm

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Personal stories of betrayal, forgiveness, and learning to honor your body’s wisdom

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Tips for manifesting aligned partnership and recognizing when it’s not your person

Resources

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Website: markgroves.com) + createthelove.com)

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Instagram: @createthelove)

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Podcast: The Mark Groves Podcast)

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Substack: Humaning with Mark Groves)

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Youtube: @markgroves)

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